answering parenting q's with my husband! (sex life, diet, challenges)

[@oceana3070]

Props to you guys for outright acknowledging the privilege you enjoy as influencers/ have earned as business owners who work for themselves. Too often I see YTers just plain complaining about how hard their lives are (and especially parenting) without realising just how privileged they are, or respecting that a majority of their viewers are doing it infinitely harder in all aspects of life. Thanks for that! 🙏

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

you are welcome. We both often talk about just how lucky we have it and are so grateful that we can spend so much time together with Bowie. Its probably what I am most grateful for at the moment xxx

[@alyssamartinez1725]

i find it hilarious that alex makes a stank face for almost every question. he's like "you imbeciles with your stupid questions." hahahha

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

hahahaahahaha

[@clairai]

You guys are an absolute breath of fresh air🤍 Ellie does even the most challenging things with such grace and elegance. Wonderful job, Bowie's parents👏💖

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

Thank you so much!

[@kikipereira4601]

I laugh every time I see your husband in the videos….he’s hilarious.

[@Gigielizabeth95]

It's honestly amazing how down to earth you both are, like you both just seem like absolute legends. I feel like the reason I love watching your channel so much is because it's like catching up with a friend We love an unproblematic wholesome queen 🙌🏼

[@ashleychavez2634]

This was great! It’s so refreshing to see a couple in love with healthy communication who just naturally work together. It gives me and I’m sure many other viewers hope that there are good guys out there who are caring and funny and make truly great partners.

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

aww thank you for your really nice comment !! xx

[@kd570]

I love how honest you are Ellie about scrolling through social media. We all do that but not every influencer can confess that. Also, I always see the goofy side of Alex in your vlogs but he's so different when he actually sits down and talk ☺️

[@ariafrost7292]

This is so good to hear this from you two. (plant based question). I was vegan for 8 years then opened up to the option of more plant based helped my diet and my mind and lifestyle. I became mentally upset about the restrictiveness of the vegan diet. My husband is am omnivore and respects my food choices. He also loves when I cook him tofu or spiced rice, or curries :). I love your video on this. I sighed a sigh of relieve when you answered that specific question. You two are even more awesome 😊❤️😊😊😊 I love these videos so much. Pls do more ❤️❤️❤️

[@gailwebb498]

Love u guys! Don’t worry bout having a“ parenting style” your such loving tentative parents, that’s all that matters and Bowie is clearly a happy chappie! It’s all about what works for your values and lifestyle! I felt very unconfident with my first child was shy and vulnerable, lots off advice and criticism from others along the way often feeling I wasn’t doing the right thing! I managed to raise two amazing compassionate caring and inspired boys now 20 and 15 yrs! I realized there are no rules in parenting and it’s unique to your family dinamic and lots of ❤️. You guys are doin great🙌🏻

[@elliemaree1995]

It’s the lip gloss application by Alex for me 😂🧡 great video, such a wholehearted beautiful family x

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

hahahaha I didn't even notice he did that ;)

[@tamsinhumphreys541]

Love seeing Alex in the video! The poo reference of "nugs" and "logs" 😂😂

[@kristenbrett8103]

As a new mom I love these videos! More of these please! I found you through a pregnancy video and have been following since.

[@CaliMtnMama]

I really enjoyed you reading and answering these in real time together. It was very accurate to have different responses thinking that they do or don't or are or aren't doing certain things (comparing themselves to others etc). I feel like this probably spurred some really great conversation for them off camera. Just real husband/wife shit. Good job yall.

[@IsabelleMoegelin]

You guys truly seem like some absolute genuine People! Enjoyed this Video alot. Thanks for all the insights 🥰

[@ameliabeaney6905]

the VB beanie makes this video that much better - love you guys!

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

hahaha ;)

[@melleh9174]

Alex actually cracks me up, what a legend. So nice to listen to real, unfiltered answers. Thanks guys, loved the vid.

[@HaleyTaylor88]

So open and honest and I appreciate that. I also love your take on food allergies with your baby and introducing him to all the food allergies so you either know if he is or isn’t allergic or to prevent any allergies towards those certain foods! I’m 8 months pregnant right now and this whole video was very comforting to me! 🙏🏻🤍

[@verasoulandcore]

Loved this one. I feel like we go to see your personalities. You both seem so nice. My family loved watching , we had some giggles. So relatable. ☺️👍🏽

[@Emily-zo9nj]

I’m Canadian, my husband is Australian - I get the humour - he’s super dry and sarcastic. It doesn’t translate so well here but I love it 😂.

[@zoestrapp4359]

Not a mum or mum to be, but absolutely loved this video. You are both such down to earth people and are potentially where i may be in 5 years so still found it interesting. Alex is also so funny and a legend of a person. Ellie you are a beautiful person and love all of your 'wholesome' content.

[@rachelleforbes8815]

“Go to the florist instead of Coles, have a go you dogs.” 😂😂😂 dead

[@tarrynrod8451]

Alex I think you are a legend! I love your humor - you are both awesome humans! Thank you for sharing Ellie! ❤️

[@aedwards5529]

alex is so relaxed i love it

[@LeBonBaker]

OMG haha Alex is sooo funny! His responses are so good 😂 Elsa you are gorgeous as always 🌈

[@hariettesoellner7535]

Lol, my husband is the same, very dry and blunt, so many people think he is rude (also very German) I’m super emotional and he is not at all and loves a good joke 💙

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

hahaha yess he is definitely dry and blunt! but also has this soft and sensitive side - when he wants to show it ;)

[@jessicashumack8428]

Alex is hilarious and just cannot stay still 😂

[@cm-in4il]

loved this! i look up to you so much in so many ways, juggling work and mum and wife life! i am 19 and i feel like i am catching up with an older sister and getting advice (: and youre such a cute couple and so down to earth x greetings from germany

[@evir440]

Wow you guys seem to enjoy parenthood so much! My boy is only 1 month older than Bowie, goes 4 days a week to a daycare and I still find it too much to take care of him on the remaining days. I miss my freedom, silence, lazy or spontanous days...

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

yess definitely the spontaneous days!! and spontaneous lunches or dinners out

[@tashh8974]

I have a two year old son and I’m currently struggling with comparing his development with other kids. He’s 2 and barely says words and doesn’t walk, doesn’t use cutlery and has extreme social anxiety and frustration issues to the point where I can’t take him anywhere without a total meltdown (all of which are being treated by his physical therapist, occupational therapist and on the waitlist for speech pathologist and a paediatrician) so it’s just a matter of trusting the process no matter how long it may take, and now I’m in lockdown his appointments are on hold. I still feel like I have this toddler who is more like a baby and still requires so much of me and my attention that I feel like I’m drowning a little bit. I was the first out of a cluster of girls I went to high school that had a baby, they went on to have babies and some a year after I had mine, seeing all of there babies walking and talking and the mums seemingly doing all this cool stuff with there days and I just feel so consumed with helping my baby deal and work through his developmental delays. I really enjoy your vlogs and who you are as GENUINE parents being vulnerable on the internet.

[@taraquigley4545]

I have a 13 month old and love that you compare yourself to other mums especially homes and cleanliness I find I compare my home to YOURS all the time I think it always looks immaculate and think how does she do that 😂. just funny how and what you perceive. But your both gorgeous and Bowie just melts my heart. C

[@Joanhunte7752]

Great Video & so honest about how both your life's may have changed a little differently since the birth of Bowie. You guy's are simply awsome & so down to earth. Love it..❤

[@angeln2631]

I am new here....really love the look of your book, need to buy it! Love your recipes, so good! You are right you should have done this video on your own. He he!

[@mikaeladixon4722]

Hi Elsa! I absolutely love your channel & watching your vlogs. I work in NICU in New Zealand and a doctor I worked with recommended these books for a friend of mine who is going to be a new parent. Both are by Emily Oster and can be bought of book depository! They are called “ expecting better “ which may be less relevant now that Bowie is actually past that newborn phase and then “ crib sheet “. I love seeing little Bowie grow over your socials! He is the cutest little man 💓

[@hollirawson7618]

So nice to have Alex on for a change! Loved this blog! I can’t believe Bowie is 1!! P.S. loooooved the cake 😉💛🙌🏽

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

Yay! Thank you!

[@selinamrz3600]

Love you two together and totally love the humor of Alex! Lots of love from Germany :)

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@annaandres446]

Very lovely video!! Thanks for sharing this with us Ellie and Alex !!

[@amandalee2772]

Loved Alex in this one!!!

[@AveryRobitaille]

LOVE. Literally going to go back and rewatch all your videos in the future when I'm prepping to have/have a baby!

[@diana.balona]

Alex you a Star! 😁 you both are the coolest parents 🤩

[@maddisonaus6488]

You can offer breastmilk in a bbox cup as an alternative for bottles from about 4-5 months and it eliminates the risk of bottle preference. You can also give expressed milk in an open cup from a newborn, it’s cup feeding

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

yes we tried that, its as though as soon as he tasted milk in something other than the Boobie he refused haha

[@maddisonaus6488]

Parenting resources: No Drama Discipline and The Whole Brain Child (both by Dan Siegal) are evidence based parenting that acknowledge child development.

[@nurhafizah6336]

You are one of my inspiration. If I become a parent one day, I would love to follow your tips :)

[@laurenemilyw]

I love his dry humour. I know what you mean by people taking it the wrong way. I'm dating an Englishman and their humour is super dry as well and I use to take offense to things he said, but it totally get it now. Being Canadian, we tend to say sorry a lot...and eh...it's just cultural differences. But it's what makes this world beyond beautiful. You guys are amazing 🙂 I also have to say, I think every couple that is thinking about kids or is on the fence, this is a great video to watch 👌

[@desiraekiefer1637]

The Danish Way Of Parenting - By Jessica Alexander. Such an amazing book and so helpful

[@malihaasad6838]

The book how to talk so little kids will listen and listen so kids will talk is so good and helpful! And also “no bad kids” by Janet Lansbury

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

that book sounds really interesting!! x

[@CaseyWiggin]

You guys are doing a wonderful job - well done!

[@reneepeniamina2562]

the awakened family - dr shefali sooooo good

[@kiarahartmann8346]

Yeah Alex has the same sense of humour as me, I find him hilarious 😂

[@gnilanen]

LOVED this and LOVE Alex

[@fivedownunder]

I swear by Supernanny! My two children are very well behaved. It is hard at the beginning but worth it 🤣🥰

[@kiahreid6399]

Loved this video! What size jumper are you wearing in this one? I don’t know what size to get if I’m wanting it a bit oversized - are they already oversized or do you recommend sizing up? Xx

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

I'm wearing size small, I would say its pretty true to size. Like I would get the large if I wanted it nice and oversized with bike shorts etc. xx

[@elishabernardi9609]

Loved this! So honest 💙

[@josecita1982]

I appreciate how honest your answers seemed to be and how open you are with your public even though you don’t have to be if you didn’t want to. I did get Alex’s humor the first time.. you kind of sense it through your regular blogs here and there but I can also understand how for some it may have come across a bit aggressive ? (Although i dont think he is that at all of course - just for some his style might have seemed but not to me personally). Do you know how soon would you ideally like baby no 2? Or will you just go with the flow ? Lol

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

kinda go with the flow, but ideally wait another year before baby 2 :) xx

[@rach.n.x]

I love the VB beanie!! 😂😂

[@luckysevens83]

Alex is sassy and I’m here for it 😂

[@DearPlanetBe]

Great real q&a. Alex is so hyper 😂

[@kerricappy4890]

Actually I think my husband felt a bit envious when I was pregnant that he was missing all the feelings like kicks and movements. It's kind of all about the Mum and the baby and you can't get much closer to your baby than having him inside you. Then when their born your their food source so they miss out on that too.

[@egiovannoni]

Outfit details please? You look so cute and cosy! I love your style x

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

aw thank you!! sweater is our brand: thewholesome.store/collections/winter-21/products/strawberry-milk-chunky-sweater and the jeans are by A Brand xx

[@rubygreer-barry6231]

Janet Landsbury - No bad kids (podcast), she's incredible

[@daniellepretorius3726]

lol love Alex's dry humour!

[@morganwells3838]

Ellie can you please do a video about why you chose a plant based diet, and the facts behind it all from your study? Would love to know the evidence behind it. Thanks.

[@belllllla4995]

Agree!

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

ohh yes ok that sounds like a good topic!! I would recommend checking out Simon Hill's new book 'the proof is in the plants'.

[@morganwells3838]

@@ElsasWholesomeLife oh ok thanks I’ll have a read! It’s always a good push when you know the reasons and purpose for this way of eating. Thanks I absolutely love you guys x

[@ashsra2970]

I'm vegan and I gave my son all the allergens too and I'm glad I did because he pinches food from his grandparents who arent vegan and things at birthday parties that arent vegan.

[@kayleighbrownjohn8842]

Random question but does anyone know where elle’s glass is from that she is holding in the first clip?

[@coconut922]

alex made a quiet cayote hand in the intro lol, shout out to the movie Soul

[@beckymoe9194]

So I’m happy to see that your husband dose not analyze every thing like it’s science. Just seems like he goes withe flow.

[@tarikasharma4660]

Highly recommend "Raising Boys in the 21st Century" by Steve Biddulph - really helped me understand what boys go through and how to approach it... if that makes sense. I found it really helpful and recommend it to all my friends! :)

[@zuzihutchinson5006]

How big gap are you planning to have between Bowie and your second baby?

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

maybe 2.5-3 yr but i don’t want to put too much emphasis and stress on ourselves to conceive by a certain timeframe 🤍

[@zuzihutchinson5006]

@@ElsasWholesomeLife that's a good gap. My all 3 are 22 months apart and it's a lot of work but they are good mates.

[@priscillaperry3248]

I highly recommend listening to the book “The Whole Brain Child”

[@alainajane23]

All three of my girls stopped taking a bottle around 6 months. One never took it very well before that, but the other two were very used to having the bottle sometimes and still quit taking it. Go easy on yourself because it’s not uncommon for them to do that.

[@katjabeardsell311]

Alex is such an aussie bloke its so funny

[@annekevanzyl7539]

Alex is so funny!

[@annevangelista3305]

Lovely couple

[@inama4137]

He IS a clown :) but he really fucking loves you so much. It’s obvious. (the lipgloss scene, to die for)

[@joevile6781]

I'm here for Alex 😎

[@beckymoe9194]

He’s good

[@indicolina]

I breastfed twins and I'm sure I spent 16 hours a day with my boobs out in the first few months. Charli Chair is the most amazing invention. I never had it when I had my twins, I wish I did. It is amazing.

💗💗💗💗💗

[@ashleami]

Well this debunks Sex/Life on Netflix haha

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

hahaha currently watching this! 🙈

[@שקדזהבי]

love you both beautifull coaple

[@ashsra2970]

Unconditional parenting by Alfie kohn

[@greentree730]

I think Alex needed to talk more, but she kept jumping in or cutting him off. Sometimes women can worry the guy will not have anything to say and jump in to cover. But they usually do have a valid point if allowed to speak...

[@nadjac3975]

check out themellowmama on instagram and janet lansbury (unruffled podcast) - amazing regarding parenting infos..

[@caldowful]

Would love love love if you looked at "us as the viewers" whilst talking to us instead of possibly the screen of yourself :-) It would make us feel more connected to you by you looking straight at us.

[@rachelprentice5562]

Dr Graham Green Toodlerdom

[@melanieee6]

biglittlefeelings on instagram. super helpful with toddlerhood

[@jujubees]

You seem lovely but the only thing refraining me from subscribing is the fact that you associate with Sarah's Day who is such a bad influence and a con artist.

[@marycaruso3846]

Do not like your husband period......I think he’s a jerk and you could do way better. I prefer not to see him so I stopped watching.

[@DearPlanetBe]

That is just mean. You may think that but why post this? It hurts someone :-) so it has no benefits posting this..

[@ElsasWholesomeLife]

that’s your loss because you obviously cannot see that he is a beautiful human 🤍

[@elenimccallum912]

Straight up. Just dont post hate, have you not seen what happens around the world because of online hate. For fuck sake girl keep it to yourself. Alex is a lovely human it's clear, but if you don't agree keep it to yourself!