Embarrassment (How to Handle Being Embarrassed)

This Ask Teal Episode on Embarrassment outlines what being embarrassed is about on a deep level. Teal Swan explains the difference between embarrassment and shame. When you are embarrassed you are simply trying to hide something from others about yourself. When you are in shame, you are also rejecting this thing you are trying to hide from others within yourself. This video on embarrassment will help you understand and transform your embarrassment.
Video References
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How to Overcome Shame: 20:19
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I don't know who you are. But you've seriously changed my entire life. I lost my fiancé a month ago and I didn't know how to process it or how to effectively use it as a lesson to grow from. After listening to you twice a day I'm already becoming a better man for myself and others around me. Thank you!

[@pocketfulofposey]

I get embarrassed when I am vulnerable with someone and they don't take it well. Then I feel embarrassed, like I opened up to someone I should not have.

[@queendom9491]

Me too

[@JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness]

“We feel embarrassed when others are perceiving is in a manner we do not want to be perceived as” That’s so true.

[@hazelstelzner5385]

Ironically, I feel embarrassed about the day I met Teal because I said something dumb out of nerves then my daughter told her that I was her biggest fan and I was like “oh great, now she’ll think I’m some stalker or something ” and spent the rest of the night beating up on myself that this person I admire thinks that I’m a weirdo rather than appreciating the interaction. Our thoughts can cause us so much unnecessary unhappiness sometimes lol 🤭😳😅

[@tracik1277]

Hazel Stelzner Ha! I know how you feel! I did exactly the same thing meeting someone else and my son was with me did similar. I too kept beating myself up about it. Annoying isn’t it?

[@moonpleiades99]

I know how you feel, I am infamous for making a complete ass of myself in front of people I have a crush on or highly admire. It’s like the awkward dork in me suddenly takes over, and my right mind and wits are completely thrown out the window. I hate that. It’s like d’oh.

[@ridarza]

Not thoughts, beliefs do!! 😬😬 thoughts happen bcs they make sure u stay on point bcs u have this belief u have to be a certain way

[@z-woohoo5745]

I think it’s adorable to get flustered like that however be careful when becoming the biggest fan of a spiritual teacher. A student yes but a fan ? I made the same mistake and it is a weird balance. I feel healthier by loving the message but just being a student of the messenger.

[@davespotlesscleaning3897]

You will make the biggest change in your life once you'll put your own opinion about yourself above Teal's opinion, all the best

[@S3l43r1]

I sent a question on Instagram about social anxiety to Teal. And here's the answer 😍 syncronicity bishhh

[@TheAnniso]

Usually I confirm with the things that Teal says but you can also be embarrassed about yourself to yourself. For example when you realise that you let others treat you like shit for a long time and then you feel sorry that you let other people do that. You feel embarrassed that you let that happen to yourself. You didn't protect yourself. I feel this at the moment.

[@GodsElph]

I struggle with shame. Still breaking free. Thank you for your wisdom. 🙏

[@GodsElph]

Grew up in a family of Jehovah's witnesses

[@stever507]

@@GodsElph my condolences but just know that it wasn't your fault.

[@GodsElph]

@@stever507 thank you for your empathy :) I'm growing up. Just learning to step into my power. I know what I'm supposed to do

[@HP-yx1ny]

I can never explain why I feel the way I feel, and you put them into words. Thank you!

[@lovegod923]

Exactly girl exactly how I feel

[@floratink]

I am glad that you mentioned the differences between not only embarrassment and shame but also social anxiety. I am quite awkward when it comes to social situations. There have been times where I felt "embarrassed" getting praised at work for doing a good job while every one of my co-workers had their eyes on me. Thank you for reaching out to us, Teal. You are truly amazing.💗

[@IbarraAlejandro]

Me at school l feel really bad and poor about myself. Heart is pounding I'm so ashamed :/ and scared they notice

[@dantesinporno]

I'm in my early 30s and never had the courage ask someone out much less go on a date or form a romantic relationship as an adult. I've convinced myself that, from a societal perspective, this single fact would disqualify me as both an adult and a man. If my co workers or any other sizeable group of people I have to interact with found out about this, I would probably have a nervous breakdown, immediately quit my job and move to another state due to the shame associated.

[@marinanabutovskiy0325]

OMG! I have been involved in a situation where embarrassment is an issue and been thinking about it for days.Universe is answering me through you. Thank you.

[@sofieisback]

Same here

[@belovedchild9812]

This is interesting. I’m a biological woman and I present in a masculine way, but I identify as female. I feel most comfortable going into the bathrooms designated for women. I’ve always felt embarrassed going into the restroom because I almost always received negative attention and disapproval. I made the decision a few months ago to own how I look and to know that I belong in that bathroom. Since then I have had zero uncomfortable or negative interactions in public restrooms. I simply don’t care anymore how people will respond. I was afraid of social consequences before. Now I’m not worried about it.

[@MoneyMagnet2222]

This is amazing info for sensitive artists 💝

[@lovegod923]

Yay so true like me and you

[@annanicole7166]

Thought you might enjoy this vibration. I've been following you since 2013. I can't really afford the premium content or seminars but I have to tell you, you truly are a catalyst. That was a completely accurate term/description. You have changed the way I see things on so many subjects. You literally are responsible for a movement. I totally get you. Your connection to infinite intelligence is unfettered and constant. Yet you are young and beautiful and you want the world to see you. You're a modern day prophet. I guess other people expect you to live like a monk. They cant understand that you are a walking, conscious channeler/interpreter of energy and nonphysical 24 hours a day and still be a sensuous girl with pizazz and as much love for the cameras as the cameras have for you? No big deal! Your insights are life changing and I celebrate your personality. Teal, your brand has grown so much since I came across you and it will not stop. So proud of you!💗💗kzbin.info/www/bejne/fICzkIOGltuigqM

[@annavigstrand]

I struggle really hard with both shame and embarrassment. Thank you so much for the video Teal, it was very helpful

[@Gomez561]

This vid came at right time for me! I‘be been living at home with my loving MOTHER for a year now and it’s definitely embarrassing. Especially after living on my own and running my own business for over 6 years... I did that all b/c I wanted to be independent and the truth is, I needed clients and had to rely on partnering with consultants... so, we can’t REALLY be 100% independent. I was dependent when I lived alone and after business temporarily went south, I’m dependent living with my MOM! Haha!!! And I’m LUCKY AF to have her and have some protection as I make my business 1,000% BETTER ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼 Mommas boy signing out!🤣

[@digitos000]

Man, that could happen to every body, you're a man of bussines, and this things some times happen, just keep trying and learn from your mistakens, you're trying to do something, and that's the reason of your fail. If you wasn't trying you couldn't fail. so feel pride of your experience and keep working. Good luck to the next and keep learning.

[@oliver_siegel]

I feel shame and embarrassed about feeling shame and embarrasment. I find it embarrassing and shameful that I need to watch this video to understand myself and the world better. I ought to know this naturally. Others will look at me like "haha look at this weirdo watching weird videos because he doesn't know how life works". I am ashamed that I'm not naturally a man who's already mastered these issues. I'm ashamed of not being good enough. Also I've been holding on to those feelings for probably 20 years now. Phew!

[@ameliamitchell2642]

I feel embarrassed after a drunk night out D:

[@hereisalfi]

Beautifully explained Teal 💕 Thank you 💕

[@syana8882]

Brilliant as usual. I've never heard it explained like this before. I will definitely think about it differently the next time I get embarrassed. I really wish you would hurry up and get a tv show. More folks need to see your content! Thanks gorgeous!

[@CityThatCannotBeCaptured]

VERY true about not perceiving that anyone could have empathy. Have NEVER EVEN CONSIDERED THIS A POSSIBILITY. WOW. I had a sadistic mother who tortured me as a baby and abused and encouraged others to abuse me ALL HER LIFE.

[@Blackmoonsoulx]

I have to admit that I have been struggling embarrassment for walking in front of my neighbours because I thought that they were too intimidating, but I have realised that they are actually vulnerable and They just give those deadly glances because they want to hide some parts of them with this badass attitude. Now I'm more open when I walk in front of them. I feel like if I were in a movie where I discovered the true selves behind their masks. I'm still on my process, but so far I feel better. Thank you, Teal!

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

Sh sh shame. I felt shame when my boss found out something about me i did not want her to know. Now she does and its the past i am past a need of being accepted. It is no longer important if someone likes me or not i accept both. I have peace. What is important is thst i forgive and am kind to me and tell myself i have great worth.

[@depressedessendonfan5702]

if you make everybody else worthless, you'll never be ashamed of anything.

[@Lotus-Subliminals-Shorts]

Well .. I guess that's one way of approaching things! 😉

[@Stormy177]

I can say without embarrassment that I could listen to you for hours - your voice has a relaxing (soothing?) quality to it.

[@mckennahendrickson3709]

I wasn’t expecting to be read like this before work. Thank you for the insight 🥴

[@bernardbujard9944]

Thank-you for clarifying the difference between embarrassment and shame.

[@ourevilone]

can you do a video specifically on being ostracized.

[@Anangelfromabove]

I’ve felt embarrassed up to now which I am 24 about my own existence because of my trauma in childhood. For some reason I processed my mom constantly making fun of me for singing and playing piano, for having panic attacks, for crying, for reading spiritus texts… you name it… in a very odd and unique way. Mostly she and my older sister made fun of me and I became so velcroed to the outer environment perceiving every person as a threat and became so self conscious it made me so awkward to just walk in front of people. It was and is still hard to overcome. Nobody knows this pain until you deal with it. I am so glad this is my path because I’m far more consicous than them and intend to heal more of our family line.

[@AllovertheplaceNala]

Oh my god oh my god oh my god! YES! Been waiting so long for a video about embarrassment ! I haven’t watched it yet. Had to pause already in the commercial to say THANK YOU TEAL ! ❤️ 🙏🏼😵

[@Funwinxpixee]

I really needed a video about this right now

[@hummingbirdjourney2971]

Desperation of task is one way to solve this. Once one realized people only care about themselves there is nothing to be worried. Thank you this video is cool : )

[@lovelightshining9335]

Thank you Teal Swan. Your healing millions with your lifes work. How honored we all are that you care so much for us that you shine your light on us all. Eternal blessings, Infinite light.

[@ImKar333]

Thank you a million times Teal for this Video 💖 how you unwind complex stuff and put it out with so much clarity and simplicity is astonishing. Thank you so much for this, I have been struggling with it for years, and now I see the light because of you. ✨

[@jenniferg4297]

My embarrassing incident occurred 19years ago and I still unable to free from it, I try to act I don't care , people gossip and talk about it even more , so how , it seem hopeless, I became an outcast, please help

[@edu.33]

hey jennifer im moved by your comment do you want to talk with me?

[@Blackmoonsoulx]

Jennifer. I send you a lot of positive energies!!! I know you are strong!

[@arialovetarot]

These video topics always on POINT. For years , I’m always trying desperately to AVOID embarrassment. Thanks Teal.

[@leoninenoble]

Oh I feel this (;-_-)

[@EmyajNosdrahcirEniacSovereign]

Very much so to all of this. Despite that any embarrassment is past tense or not, Everyone else has done the same things in some way or another. Furthermore that those who are the most moved about another ones embarrassments, are they themselves the most embarrassed about something or another.

[@emilia1758]

I blush all the time for no reason, it's so freaking annoying

[@billwhite5011]

Teal, you have hit the nail on the head again. You are a genius! You mentioned practicing self-empathy. My experience with some major snafus was to finally see that I belong to the human race. ie, Everyone makes some really embarrassing mistakes. once in high school. A girl dropped a drink in the hallway. I knew she was embarrassed. I went straight to the bathroom and got some paper towels, came back and helped her clean it up. I’m proud of myself for that act of kindness to clean up with her so she didn’t feel like a spectacle all by herself. I’m sure she remembered and appreciated that for a long time. When she signed my yearbook, it was the first thing she mentioned, and said she will never forget it. wow.

[@stac1savage]

Just learn to laugh at yourself! (See #4 @16:15) I’ve been through some horrendous and hauntingly embarrassing things. But I think now, that when the memory comes up- having the humility to be able to laugh at it seems to be a bigger lesson in itself and allows me to let go of it some, and grow stronger because of it. It allows one to find humor and lightness in the mannerisms that caused such embarrassment and allows the opportunity to make peace or self-correct in the future. Thanks Teal, friend! 💙💚

[@lindaalbertini4582]

Holy shit, Teal, this is just the message I needed right now; talk about perfect timing! I can choose societal consequences in favor of something greater. Thank you.

[@thecoolestgingerkid]

Also reading Teal’s book The Anatomy of Loneliness will help hugely!!!!

[@HanhNguyen-vj1pb]

Alexandra thanks for recommending it. I am hesitating to read it.

[@khalidaz4550]

teal make a video about social anxiety thank you !

[@me-ik5ez]

same

[@youtubeuser6725]

Ooof I can tell this video will HUGELY help me with social anxiety. I'm always scared of feeling embarrassed or "cringe" and it's my biggest obstacle to forming friendships and relationships. I'll be back to this many times!

[@horizon5677]

What do you think about Asexuality? And all of the spectrum

[@klaasNL]

I know this all too well. In my youth I had a small incontinence problem until my 18th. I never dared to tell anyone that I was leaking quickly, even with parents. I just lived from day to day. I was always trying to hide everything from it. That way it spoils part of your youth. Seems like a small problem for others but it is a huge problem at schools for children. It has a huge impact.

[@FlatEnough]

I like the way you open by defining the relevant terms. Not many do this.

[@kirky9347]

That color looks beautiful on Teal!

[@ashleen7370]

When I was younger I naturally gravitated towards boy clothes (I'm a girl), when I started puberty I became really really embarrassed and shameful by what I wore and now I feel embarrassed by anything I wear that I like, to the point where I refuse to meet up with people because I hate the social consequence of them even having an opinion on my clothes. Finally, someone has been able to put my feelings in words and I can work towards understanding them. Thank you

[@IbarraAlejandro]

Ashleen Me too, I understand you you're not alone. This is the problem... Now l struggle with shame and l avoid people always and when they look at me I get nervous and l worry too much about how l look.. I don't even know how to dress myself anymore cause l like men's clothes. But l can't wear it cause of my parents and society, l was forced to wear girls clothes and dresses. No choice. I'm so ashamed of myself l cry and l suffer from social anxiety. I feel so bad..... What other think of me...

[@GGGGGG-xd8ru]

Katie Walker Me too! I’m a woman who likes boxing, lifting weights, wearing men’s clothes and I have a short haircut. People don’t accept me, and it makes me feel horrible.

[@ievaomer]

My embarrassment situation just saved my peace. so it's so greater than approval. Thank you.

[@mooglewhale]

i have a horrible problem with blushing, i do it even when i am not embarrassed, its like a habit and i am then ashamed of being so embarrassed, i have never found any relief from it!

[@beautifulL52]

I completely understand what you mean but my embarrassment is so deeply rutting in my subconscious that It effects my life every day... I am embarrassed because im the smelly kid people dont want o hang around, my anxiety of social disapproval is so strong it goes in a loop. I dont want to be perceived as smelly, I get anxious about it, I end up smelling lol..... how the hell am I supposed to see the good in this?? … I think ill just ask my doc for anti-anxiety pills... ha ha ha...……….. oh dear...…

[@leoninenoble]

I've done soooo many embarrassing and cringey things when I was younger...ugh.

[@SenemYucel19]

Thank you, Teal and Team! 🧡🧡🧡

[@slightlyabveaverage4059]

Teal why does it seem like no soul wants to be on the other side? We all want to incarnate so bad, is it impossible to have a learning or bonding experience on the "other side" do we wipe our memories just to enjoy being in the unknown? Is God, are we essentially bored af over there. I had imagined what you create there happens instantly, does that make it boring to total consciousness. Is it truly impossible for us gods to learn anything about ourselves without incarnation. Am I real

[@moralebooster8437]

THIS VIDEO SPOKE TO MY SOUL. So helpful, thank you Teal!

[@moralebooster8437]

Hey, it's me from the future. We've come a long way baby

[@jungmergs6594]

Thank you Teal, this message has come with divine timing. I believe that I will break free from my embarrassment and shame very soon

[@Crystyna03]

I felt embarrassed for a long time because I am in a relationship with a guy 5 years younger. I'm 27, he's 22. Even thought I broke up with a guy my age to be with him, I still felt the need to hide it. I thought people would think that I can't do better so I go after younger ones. It's a bad place to be in.

[@user-ey9fm5my3s]

I was in a relationship with a guy who looked ugly. I hid it as well and I don't care anymore because me being with an unpleasant looking guy does not harm anyone , so there is no real reason to hide it and anyone who has a problem with that they have no valid reason to come laugh at me or at him or anything just because his looks ain't nice. It is literally nobody's problem .

[@thecoolestgingerkid]

These videos are seriously amazing, thank you

[@johnstark5275]

Excellent.

[@Freefall66]

this are the dark side of embarrassment and shame . I don 't think u have to hunt them down. Mostly they are like good friends and often lifesavers. So better positive attitude there.

[@AriesMoonTarot]

Hi I’m here after boundaries video and how to feel video........ I noticed that, when I was allowing myself to feel, truly feel. A lot that came up was embarrassment, like that is a feeling I suppose I had been repressing? ... I think I’m embarrassed to show love sometimes too.... this is interesting.

[@Pakmilkyway]

How to deal embarrassment caused by paranoia????

[@Pakmilkyway]

@brightmindedjedi but how to cope???? Actually had experienced paranoia and Delusion and did Mistakes now feeling embarrassed and paranoia shot to sky sometime

[@vincentssoul2369]

This like missing puzzle key to my social anxiety and procrastination , thank you Teal 💗

[@lena1122]

OMG!! fantastic video! This comes up right on time!! Thank you 😊

[@samric2000]

Thanks alot ❤ Teal Swan is so wise

[@joseperlera3718]

¡Gracias por tus enseñanzas Teal!

[@iamjerrygoins]

nice vid #inspiration 🙌

[@PeachySiniy]

Thank you, Teal ❤

[@rjmamula]

I always think back to the Nickelodeon show CLARISSA EXPLAINS IT ALL where the Melissa Joan Hart character says “embarrassment, my least favorite emotion.”

[@SarahBreskmanCosmeHypnosis]

Thank you Teal! ❤️❤️

[@kristinmackenzie3807]

Thank you! ☮

[@curiosity_saved_the_cat]

That was empowering, good one!

[@elaadamek1353]

Thank you

[@arianac8524]

thank you for making this content available for those who are seeking it. it's changed my life... the information is so helpful. I've learned so much and I keep learning. It's incredible.

[@menushihapuarachchige7503]

Conscious choose being myself ❤is the day I got liberty

[@FabledKnell]

Thanks for this episode, Teal. It really spoke to me and helped me to connect some of the ideas you laid out in the Anatomy of Loneliness. I've struggled somewhat to understand what it feels like, or how to know if I've integrated or even acknowledged some parts of myself. The idea of consciously choosing the societal consequences really flipped a switch for me. Thank you! Also, love the colour of your shirt against the background wall colour. Totally beautiful. :)

[@barbaramarrabell4499]

Hugs yes you videos are helping me so much ty ❣️

[@ELMKTF]

Thank you Teal ❤

[@parmindersinghraj7424]

really a nice and informative video, many thanks for your efforts!

[@fredericmoresmau4303]

Nooooooo y should i be embarrassed, mathematician than apparently good at nothing and good for nothing. Made kaputt by people doing half what you can... just cuz it works and using technology to pinpoint everything you do in advance

[@fredericmoresmau4303]

I m not embarrassed to be less good at sth i started at 20yr age and get demolished by people doing that for 30 years..... thats to be expected would be shameful the other way round

[@itswhatyoumakeit6950]

If you really knew how little others really think of and about us, we could stop feeling these so strongly, it's a bit egotistical to think these people sit there and laugh and snicker in their head for all time, lol, I don't know, just how I kinda am working my way around so I can get back out in the world. I've been a hermit or recluse. Finally breaking through over the last year or so.

[@sebastianwrites]

Think it is better to not describe people as alcoholics, as we are labelling that person, and people are not the 'label.' Not being pedantic, it makes sense, and allows a person a far greater chance of recovery, because they don't see the alcoholism as part of them!

[@giacutie]

Amazing ❤❤❤

[@rubychannelingmusic6001]

Thank you so much Teal, this helped a lot 🌟🙏🕊❤🍀 Love You

[@johnambrosio19]

Another great insightful video! 👍

[@laoisemeehan]

I feel embarrassed a child of a very famous man replied to my tweet that I have a low iq. I want to delete twitter now. But it was actually good for me. I forgot how ashamed I am.

[@obayibrahim4149]

You are the best

[@ACTHEMOGUL]

❤❤❤❤💪💪💪this is true. Choosing the goodness and righteousness omggg how to be afraid omggg who says things like this thank you for posting this😊

[@aricln6147]

I'm glad you exist. Your videos helped me a lot on my awakening journey.

[@lylangel]

Hell yeahhhhh be yo beautiful authentic self, geeks freaks and weirdos! (terms of endearment💚)

[@amandajean4931]

Thank you sweet heart ♥

[@blue_sky_bright_sun7599]

This is just incredible. What clarity ahhh! I don’t know how you do it, but thank you. 10:58 what to do to overcome embarrassment.

[@LifesGuideToExcellence]

Interesting topic, I've never heard anyone talk about this before

[@caitlincurry9213]

I want to be liked and accepted and yet I do not get embarrassed. I have taken this as a good thing as I have read this is an ego expression but I can see how I am not accepted by society and that groups of other people have a hard time understanding me or liking me. I do not endear myself to others by being embarrassed to the point where I have faked embarrassment to be liked. I have no idea why, I also have no "disgust" as like the character in Inside Out. I don't think many things are gross, and I have a hard time discerning what behaviors will have social consequences. I wonder why I don't have this, I feel like a part of my brain is broken. Usually I have good survival skills but this is not an area where I can fit in naturally. I can see how embarrassment is like a rudder for social survival and I do not have it. I had very neglectful parents, I wonder if this is why.?

[@jenniferg4297]

I try to act normal but the public want my embarrassment to be known, so what to do

[@naileaolivas2788]

There was a guy that tripped over a sidewalk at ASU and he dropped his fries and I felt so bad I asked him if he was ok? And he said yeah got up and left.

[@Sariso9]

Just in time

[@valeriew4833]

Lol embarrassing things happen to me a lot. It's ironic and hilarious at times. Other times it's a shameful judging from within. But I just tell myself it's ok.

[@alex-ander-13]

Thank you so much! 💛

[@clarissad9918]

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