Embracing Singleness as a Gift With Jen and Tara-Leigh Cobble

[@ondreatorrence4322]

Singleness is hard. But it has its pros . Just like marriage would be hard and have its pros. I always ask God to keep me content because this season is good, too, and I don't want to miss that.

[@ccd5942]

I love Tara!!! God Bless you Tara you are definitely be used by God! She is a lovely woman ❤! Gods light shines through ! ❤❤

[@robyngillum8577]

I was single for 37 years and have not yet learned to love marriage or be content in marriage. Singleness is complete and full in Christ, even if it is your desire to get married.

[@buysmartwholesaler]

Being single for too long can often times be from a sneaky little habit creeping in & living in subtle selfishness or being scared definitely takes much diligent effort to improve & overcome; (perhaps even narcissistic in some ways) Marriage demands MASSIVE selfless sacrifice, compromise & humility-same as raising a child (YES, adoption for those that can’t birth? What’s more of a beautiful blessing & gift to save a young life, love it, lead it & nurture it into the next generation) Bottom line: All these things are a CHOICE; That we ALL can make-because we’ve ALL been given the most important GIFT of Free Will. I believe we’re all called to be Truth Tellers and Truth Seekers -which demands tremendous courage…that we can choose to acknowledge, accept & embrace.

[@robyngillum8577]

@@buysmartwholesaler It was not my choice to be single though. Men might choose to be single, but as a woman, I had no control over who was pursuing me. I had to wait until a man of God came to me. I tried dating, or “putting myself out there”, and as someone in their mid-30’s, the pool of men were few. I did not know that I wasn’t in the right church either. I was alone in a church that I had been serving in for 12 years. Hardly anyone was single.

[@sandyzalecki1145]

I've been a widow for 7 years now. I have no intensions of every getting married again unless the Lord wants me to again. He'll show me. God gave me a great husband, but He also took him for a specific reason. I can't imagine having another husband because they won't be my soul mate. Jesus in now my husband and He's the best.

[@Jenncor11]

I would hang out with families when I was single. It was fun

[@AmazingGrace911]

Love being single in the kingdom 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@robiecarmichael9958]

Our son is 43. Has dated and had a few relationships. But in the end he never felt that whoever he was with was meant to be his life’s partner. We have told him and his sister before her death if you feel that the person you are with is the one, and you are the one for them then go for it. Marriage is hard, make no mistake about it. If it’s meant to be it will happen.

[@GalaxyFluke]

In 36 female never married and same experience. Unfortunately I have a time clock that scares me but my God is bigger.

[@highlightsvideopro]

Same with me. Why would I or someone else force something that only God can create, do and hold together?

[@LindsayJurie]

Such an encouraging message!❤

[@pikawarp2792]

Singleness sucks, but so does a bad relationship

[@hollyjames7951]

Cannot give this enough thumbs up!

[@mytreasuredcreations]

Wow! Jen knows her scripture by heart! ❤️

[@nicolewright8833]

It’s such a complex topic that stirs up deep and intense emotions! It’s abundantly clear that the increase in the number of single Christians is a result of the degradation of civilized nations. This has happened not just in the US but also all of Europe, East Asia, and other Christian-influenced nations. I think it’s wrong to glorify singleness and press Christians to deny the loneliness that comes from not having a spouse and children and community. For most, prolonged singleness is very painful and can cause severe depression. We need to recognize this as the devastating fallout that it is and help integrate people into the body of Christ, whatever their life situation.

[@akferren1]

I’ve been married and I actually hated it.. prefer and long for singleness.. I feel much more at peace when I’m single

[@HamiltonRowan-r6z]

I'm not married because I don't want to be. I enjoy the freedom I have living by myself. Only God tells me what I should do. I have no distractions concerning the things of the Lord.

[@brad2548]

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 I'm content in Jesus. Wonderful interview.

[@HamiltonRowan-r6z]

Single again due to an unbiblical divorce. I am now unable to remarry, although I have accepted my situation. It's painful, but I could be in a much worse place.

[@flowerpower3618]

Change always takes time to get used to. You’ll get there. Don’t forget you’ve been through trauma and give yourself to heal through the Lord.

[@jessehl]

It is better to be a little lonely than to be a whole lot of miserable,because if you marry the wrong person you will wish you had stayed single

[@rkirkpatrick01]

One of the first things God says in the Bible is, It is not good for man to be alone. So what did he do so man would not be alone? He created the gift of singleness? No, he created a woman. Paul says the woman was created for (because) man. Exceptions? Sure. But what you're talking about has become the rule. Feminism is a problem in the church.

[@TheWorldtoSee]

Let me know what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 says. Singleness and Marriage can both be part of God’s plan.

[@rkirkpatrick01]

@@TheWorldtoSee read it again. Singleness is not a gift it's a concession NOT a command. A concession is less than desirable by nature. It is better to marry than burn with passion, and it falls under a command to marry. It's unfair to these women.

[@rkirkpatrick01]

@@TheWorldtoSee I couldn't find this the other day when I was responding from work , but I ran across it tonight. Paul's conversation was made in light of a "present distress". 1 Corinthians 7:26 I think that in view of the present distress it is good for a person to remain as he is. We aren't in a time of such distress, sisters (and brothers) so creation conditions apply. Woman, was made In the beginning to be a companion and a helper in union with a man. "What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate." I think women in the church are suffering from the false teachings called the Gift of Singleness.

[@rkirkpatrick01]

@@TheWorldtoSee BTW the gift in this text is self-control, not singleness. Read it in context. Paul elsewhere counts self-control among the fruits of the spirit.

[@TheWorldtoSee]

⁠@@rkirkpatrick01 I am a 33 year old Christ follower. I would LOVE to be married, but I have not found a man with similar faith to me that I want to spend the next 50 years with. I watch my friends get married and have kids and I wonder if that will ever happen for me. But I also have friends who want to conceive and they can’t. God says, “Be fruitful and multiple” and if a woman (or man) can’t conceive children, is something wrong with them because it’s God’s design for them to have children? We live in a fallen world. I wouldn’t call my singleness a gift, BUT to make sweeping statements that marriage is for everyone is not correct. Look at Jesus. Look at Paul. To say it’s God’s will for everyone to get married, have kids, etc. just isn’t the case and makes it worse for the people it doesn’t happen for.

[@djbis]

And here I am, praying that God will introduce me to a woman who is a follower of Christ, blessed with beauty and wisdom like miss TLC. ❤

[@edrickpeterson33_]

I love ksbj

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

I'm of two minds about the whole "singleness is a gift" trope. It's either a massive cope or an equally huge insult. Has anyone ever told a starving person "your hunger is a gift!"? Has anyone ever told a mother "your child's cancer is a gift?" It's a "gift" when your parents get divorced? I don't know where this idea came from. I don't know why it persists. It has the appearance of wisdom but the effect of poison.

[@Jenjursnap]

It came from Scripture. The Bible says it is better to be single. Singles are much more free to devote themselves fully to God. It’s really not a fair comparison at all to liken singleness to those horribly negative circumstances you mentioned (hunger, cancer, divorce).

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

@@Jenjursnap in context, please. You and I both know there was more to it than a simple superlative. Why don't you finish off your message by undermining my pain -- oh, wait, there it is. Like clockwork.

[@Jenjursnap]

@@josephbrandenburg4373 No undermining intended whatsoever! I’m single too, but deeply desire to be married. I’m learning to seek God and ask for His help to see the blessings of singleness. Many days it’s a struggle, but I surrender daily and pray for a soft heart and open mind toward His will in this season. There is also so much joy in singleness if we look for it! Comparing singleness to awful things will continually paint singleness as awful in our minds. For you, for me, and for all the singles out there, I pray God grants us a fresh perspective and contentment in our situation.

[@kaylan2083]

100%. Totally agree with you. Singleness is not a gift nor is it described that way anywhere in scripture. Paul does not say we are gifted or special or it's a prize to be single. He says your life will have less trouble and you'll be able to focus more on God if you're single. Big difference. Being married means you have other things to focus on too, like spouse and children. But those are inherently good things to focus on and we're commanded to be fruitful and multiply in Genesis. So marriage is the rule and singleness should be the exception. Christians should stop gaslighting single people and calling their affliction a gift. Some people really struggle and desire to be married and pious Christians will say "oh no it's a gift!" 🙄 I am married but even I can see that it's a hard thing people go through when they desire marriage, just like fertility. Would we say to a couple who is struggling to conceive "your infertility is a gift!!"

[@Shelf_Improvement]

Suffering is a kind of gift because it brings us closer to God. I don't want to share what I've been through on a public forum, but it's a lot. Not all gifts are pretty and fun and fulfilling.

[@bobpasek6173]

Do these ladies date or is Mr right just supposed to show up some how

[@flowerpower3618]

I doubt they are on dating apps. They are most likely waiting upon the Lord.

[@mystromix]

Maybe her standards are too high? Idk

[@danaw2232]

Nah, nobody wants to be the spouse that you settled for. I didn't want to be my husband's "settle for" choice. Neither did he. Seek the Lord, when the right person comes, you can't miss them. However, waiting on God is hard, it also matured me. I'm thankful for that

[@carolscott7117]

I certainly hope tht Tara Leigh never gets to the point where she feels she has to "settle". She is a beautiful, talented, Godly woman who deserves the best choice for her.

[@garymurch]

@@carolscott7117 Besides, "He's where the Joy Is!"

[@CheetahSnowLeopard]

Hey, everyone knows you’ve arrived in life when you’re married. 🙄

[@buysmartwholesaler]

Being single for too long can often times be from a sneaky little habit creeping in & living in subtle selfishness or being scared definitely takes much diligent effort to improve & overcome; (perhaps even narcissistic in some ways) Marriage demands MASSIVE selfless sacrifice (sound familiar?), compromise & humility-same as raising a child (YES, adoption for those that can’t birth? What’s more of a beautiful blessing & gift to save a young life, love it, lead it & nurture it into the next generation-of followers!) Bottom line: All these things are a CHOICE; That we ALL can make-because we’ve ALL been given one of the most important GIFTs of Free Will. I believe we’re all called to be Truth Tellers and Truth Seekers -which demands tremendous courage…that we can choose to acknowledge, accept & embrace.