Important things to consider before making it official.

Dating with purpose, intention, and thought prevents a huge amount of unnecessary heartbreak. These are 4 important things to consider before entering into any relationship!

[@emwilss]

Certainly you can consider these things before dating at ALL, but I talk about what I think is most important to consider before dating (period) in my chapter on dating in my book!

[@giselleevans4476]

I love that you mention a healthy place doesn't mean a problem-free place!

[@SF-op5ix]

I love the one earring look 😂💖

[@violetm8655]

Am I using them to fill some void in my life? Am I starting this relationship because I am lonely? Why do I want to enter into this relationship? Am I in a mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy place to date?

[@quinoasongs2507]

Let's face it. When you enter into a relationship, you will either eventually get married, or you will break up. Break-ups suck and are painful. Yes, we can't totally avoid it, but hopefully these will prevent them to a degree. And yes, that is why you take some time off to grieve after a break-up. Thanks Emily

[@pianowiz1025]

Good video. I’m interested though...you gave a lot of reasons why you shouldn’t enter into a relationship. What are some reasons why you SHOULD enter into a relationship? Keep up the good work 😀

[@MinaLobo]

Yes, some great points to ponder here about the why nots, but would like to see more about the why you shoulds, as it were. :-)

[@katiesanders96]

The main reason is to see if this person could possibly be your life partner. 🥰

[@dckog8282]

It’s be awesome if your husband had some advice for us guys haha. Everything you said was true for both sides of the relationship, really amazing advice!

[@joannaobrien4329]

Just sayin'... I LOVE your new hair!!

[@Sarahnotsayruh]

Will you elaborate more on the loneliness part? I know a lot of people who are lonely because they are single and would like to get married and start a family because they feel drawn to the vocation of marriage. I think dating with standards when your life is in order except for feeling lonely is ok. We are not meant to live alone. I think she's saying don't date someone you know is not good for you in order to avoid the loneliness. Dating someone who is a good match seems like a great way to battle loneliness to me 🤷

[@apriljoy5754]

Already liking the video before watching all of it😃😃😍😍

[@mariadelagarza0928]

💛you Emily!! God bless you and your beautiful family!!! Divorced for 5 years. Praying for a God fearing husband. Getting impatient! I feel like I have a big X over me.. like it has NOT worked out with no one. I’m 37! Please pray for me.

[@tatumelisabeth5748]

Thank you for this. This really put words to why I’m hesitating about entering a relationship right now. My spirit knew to wait, but this really helped articulate why! And is helping me be more aware of my heart. Thank you!

[@megasurfer32]

your hair and necklace are both poppin'!! I want to say Emily you've been one of the biggest blessings I've received in 2018. Your videos have helped me date with a wayyyy higher standards and I so appreciate that! Last year I definitely did get into some problematic relationships because I was lonely and was filling my void of lack of self love, but I was able to work through that and am now dating someone who pushes me to be a better person spiritually, financially, and charecterize, and who I support as well

[@Brendaiarizaga]

Wow Emily, this video could have not come at a more perfect time! Thanks so much! 💕

[@thesportsanalyst4625]

Being in a limbo of being single but having a very close female friend who id like to be in a relationship but it’s not a good time for her right now is causing me a lot of anxiety and depression. There is hope things work out down the road but I need to focus on building on building friendship. Please pray for my anxiety and depression

[@gwendolyno.3330]

Hang in there friend. Praying for you. God does not want us to be anxious! I know that doesn't mean it will just go away. But, " pray and don't worry" as best you can. Jesus loves you!

[@angiedaniel1146]

Oh my goodness. Your videos always come at the exact time I need them. Thank you for being such a great spiritual leader for women!! 💛

[@emwilss]

Well praise be! Thank you Angie!

[@estherl3902]

How do you always have perfect timing?! I needed this rn... thank you sister 💗

[@memyselfandaspergers1331]

Thank you for sharing this. I think it is important for everybody to know this.

[@rachaelbee22]

i really needed to hear this! thank you for making this video! ❤️

[@emilymyers571]

That is an oof. I just had to admit to a guy that I couldn't start a relationship with him because I was trying to fill a void and I was lonely.

[@fionadonlon1372]

This was such a great video Emily (as usual)!! I totally agree with you and can relate especially being in high school

[@HomeboundVagabond]

I LOVE this video! That you so much for it Emily!

[@ioanamadalina6109]

Thank you so much! Thanks to God I am not in a relationship at the moment. You just give me the answer and is because I feel lonely and afraid that I will die a old persone that no one will remember. I am not yet ready or I am not yet at that stage where I can give fully. I am affraid to give because previously I gave everything and receive nothing back...

[@elainamaus6766]

The videos you make are always perfect timing for me👏🏻😂

[@kyriek0811]

Thank you for this Emily!!

[@kelsigambill2366]

Really really really needed this. Thank you!!!!!!!

[@alicjalau6408]

Funny you uptdate this video right now, when I'm thinking about whether God wants me to enter a relationship with a certain someone :) Lots of love, Emily!

[@Maricela_Cristina_]

Great information! Thank you Emily!

[@juliettabrito3066]

Good things to consider or reconsider when one is already dating. Again, very helpful video! We love you @e-m-w-i-l-s-s! Also, loving the new haircut! :)

[@elizabethpierre3185]

LOVE your hair!! thanks for the video 💗

[@emwilss]

Hey thanks sistah :)

[@brunaanfruns8970]

Always sooo halpfull Emily! Love you so muchhhh! Huuugs from Barcelona ☺❤

[@cathy2142]

I hear this. I was sincerely dating my husband to see if he would be a good husband and father to my future children. I wanted to get to know his choices, opinions, faith, kindness, how he treated the waiter even. I was analyzing his behavior and how he treated me BUT I was not expecting or dreaming of him to be prince charming. I wanted to get to know HIM! I also wanted to see if he was GOOD ENOUGH to be with me! ha ha! for real though I'm a catch and I have made him a wonderful doting wife and he has been a very affectionate and helpful husband and nurturing father. We are a good match but again I believe it is OK to stay single forever too.

[@katielinder771]

Needed this!!

[@izzycohen9]

I love this video. It took my husband 6 month after meeting to become officially boyfriend/girlfriend. My ex was abusive, his ex didn't honor him and his wishes and longing to get closer to God. We took the time to make sure we were good for each other.

[@jessicacarpenetti6479]

All awesome advice! Zero of my previous relationships began intentionally so I'm asking God to help me consider these things for next time. I always end up liking someone because I feel like they are the "solution" to my problem. I think it comes from low self-esteem... I have that every man is a potential soulmate thing 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@aimeeregalado554]

I laughed at the last part haha. Great insights! Very helpful 👌❤️ thanks Ems!

[@jackietolentino4635]

It’s funny how God works but I’m thankful He used you to remind me reasons why one dates. This guy and I are “talking” but haven’t made it official. I’ve prayed about our future “status” a lot and some of these questions have definitely made me think. Thank you so much Emily! I want to date with intention not just “willy nilly” 😊

[@SF-op5ix]

Love all your vids!

[@madeleineeliason7929]

This is so helpful. Thank you.

[@emwilss]

You are welcome Madeleine! What a beautiful name you have!

[@xocarolineox5657]

I love your hair! Also I love your talks!

[@emwilss]

Hey thanks girl!

[@klarahagarova1940]

Emily, you´re a heart.

[@BeccahJoy]

BEST!!!!

[@ruvimboashleymuwodza5087]

Nice hair Emily..love it

[@akasbaakop3md502]

Thank you Sis

[@Shootinforthestars1]

This is so awesome ! I thought it wouldn’t be something I would relate to , but turned out it was! ❤️

[@thegarrettfamily2018]

I waited a month after starting to get to know my husband till we became officially bf, and gf

[@katiesanders96]

Hard to do, yes! But good for our emotional and spiritual health. I’ll keep these tips in mind when the next opportunity for a relationship comes. Your videos are always highlights of my week. 🌹 Quick question: if you have chronic health issues, should you not enter into a relationship because of them? BTW, that’s so funny about your earring-I didn’t even notice you were missing one until you pointed it out! 😂

[@meggyg8089]

I also didn't notice her earring until she pointed out. In response to your question though, I think it's fine as long as both people are aware of the health issues and how it could affect the relationship. A couple of years after I met my bf, he's had chronic health issues. It hasn't always been easy being the one to take care of him. I love him though, and I guess it's good practice for loving someone in sickness and in health :)

[@micaelaandros4102]

emily , kinda sad you won’t be at stubenville lone star this year 😭

[@pola2216]

Firstly you have to find somebody who could possibly be your future boyfriend 😂😂

[@hannahshea5297]

Yes yes yes👏🏻👏🏻

[@actuallyashley4216]

This is really interesting and enjoyed it. Do you believe people can be the same way with wanting to have kids? For selfish reasons?

[@butterflyqueen9260]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Trina9852]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@keegansarnecki9089]

what would you suggest for people that don’t get completely over the last person until they find a better person?

[@lollipoplizardprince]

Hi Emily I really love your videos!! I was wondering if you have a P.O. Box where your subscribers can send you gifts or letters?

[@willajones4905]

You only have one earring in Emily! One must have fallen out! :)