Top First Date Tips for Women (From a Guy!)

First dates can be AWKWARD! Here's some of our best combined tips for women to have a great first date!
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[@violetm8655]

Just writing notes, don't mind me 1. Be yourself. Be real. the right man for you will like all of you. 2. Prepare thoughtful questions 3. Job vs hobbies. "What do you do outside of work?" 4. Eat whatever you want during a dinner date. 5. Don't talk negatively about yourself. 6. Don't wear too much makeup. You can wear makeup, but don't go overboard. Let him see you for you. Be natural. 7. Offer to help pay. Thank him if he pays. Do what you feel comfortable with. 8. End the date at the date. Don't draw it out.

[@emwilss]

Very helpful! Thanks Violet! Love your name by the way!

[@InquisPrinciple]

Every guy wants a girl the way Emily looks at Danïel. And every girl wants a guy the way Danïel looks at Emily. They are just so great!

[@emwilss]

That is very kind of you to say. Thank you.

[@Anna-ak798]

I was thinking the exact same! The way they look at each other 😍 you can literally see the sparks ✨

[@SarahBecks713]

My boyfriend and I went for breakfast for our first date. We were interns at the same theatre, and we had really busy schedules especially in the evening, so breakfast made the most sense. I think it was a great choice for a first date. We had a set amount of time to have the date before we went into work, so in case it didn’t go well, it wouldn’t go on forever. And also, breakfast isn’t super expensive (unless you go somewhere really fancy) so I didn’t feel bad letting him pay for everything (which he offered pretty much right off the bat). I would HIGHLY recommend doing breakfast dates if you haven’t tried it already. They’re still some of my favorite kinds of dates to go on. And now it’s me and my boyfriend’s special thing ☺️

[@megalopolis2015]

That is really sweet. For me, however, that would require me being more of a morning person. I don't know how I could swing that. :0)

[@withsisu2324]

I totally agree!! I went on a breakfast first date and it eased my nerves a lot knowing that if it didn't go well I could use the fact that I have to go work soon as a valid excuse. My best friend also went on a breakfast first date and she's married to him now!

[@emwilss]

Breakfast is a GREAT option!

[@GinnyandEric]

Yall are a great example of holiness while still being natural and yourselves on camera :)

[@emwilss]

You are very sweet to say this. Thank you :)

[@claire9721]

I like how they flirt with each other even as a married couple. It's so cute! I smiled like an idiot the whole time watching!

[@jasminehernandez4449]

Such a good video Emily!! I love the chemistry between you and Danïel. ❤️

[@emwilss]

Thanks Jasmine :)

[@sarahphillips295]

Awesomeness. I love you guys together. Why is paying such a hot button subject? My *OPINION* on the first date whoever did the asking *SHOULD* do the paying. It's rude to ask someone out and expect them to pay. Never assume this is how it's going to go down though. I never leave home not prepared to pay for myself and I always offer to do so. On a first date if he says no, that's fine. But to me, at least putting money down says "I'm an independent woman looking for your companionship. I want to get to know you as a person. I can and will pay for myself. I am not out with you to get a free meal." Any subsequent dates I believe in either taking turns or going Dutch. We're in an equal society now. Dating is expensive. There's no reason men should have to absorb all the cost.

[@addie-eileenpaige6460]

I always go on a date or even out with a friend, I go with every intention of paying for myself. If he says he'll pay, I ask, "Are you sure?" and if he says, "Yes," I thank him.

[@carolineurena8509]

Awwww Daniel saving up money for the dates is so cute!! 😍😍😍 #goals

[@emwilss]

Right? I agree :)

[@magdaforwomen2]

I love the way Daniel supports you! ☁

[@emwilss]

Alli - you said it. He supports me so much and I am so grateful. Thanks for noticing :)

[@abbigailbaum6915]

I've laughed so hard I've forgotten what I was initially laughing at because I started laughing at my own laugh

[@emwilss]

Been. There.

[@katiee5903]

I loved this video sooooo much.... could you please do a first date tips for online dating and meeting for coffee and in person for the first time. That would be wonderful!

[@emwilss]

Ooh good suggestion! That's a tough one! I have some friends who have done a lot of online dating and I'll ask them what they think!

[@jadenmontesdeoca7065]

Emily: Sing it in a high note! Danïel: Eh I don’t know about that.. 😂😂

[@emwilss]

One of my favorite parts of the video too :)

[@jemimabiddinger3911]

Your chemistry as a couple is over the charts adorable!! 😍 thank you for this video! 🙌🏻

[@emwilss]

Thank you Jemima! I'm so grateful you're here!

[@maryschell966]

I LOVE this Daniêl & Emily!! Very good information! I'm 18 & I've never been in a relationship before, but I love hearing all your tips & advice. Y'all are such an inspiration of a strong Catholic couple!! God bless

[@emwilss]

Well thank you Mary! Thanks for being here!

[@addie-eileenpaige6460]

Yay, Danïel's back!!!! I need date tips … for when I go on a date.

[@ellinorvandentop]

Zion in the background is the cutest!

[@emwilss]

I agree :) I can't believe he's already old enough to just play and entertain himself! It's crazy!

[@CiciSu]

Love your video! Being a single, this video is very helpful❤️ Ps: I have never been on a date

[@livingunashamed4869]

Yeah as a guy I'm always paying end of story. Just a masculine thing to me.

[@claremclaughlin2225]

Such perfect timing! I'm going on a first date tomorrow 🤗🙌🏻

[@pandapanda2743]

Clare McLaughlin good luck!

[@claremclaughlin2225]

panda panda thank you! I think it went well 🙂

[@emwilss]

I hope you had a nice time!

[@karlijns172]

Love videos of you and Daniël together!

[@emwilss]

Thank you! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@amyj3692]

Thought I'd gone deaf at the start of the video when she smiled, waved but didn't say hi

[@emwilss]

HAHA!

[@jacquelyn204]

Emily you are so thoughtful and intentional with your videos! Thanks for your channel!

[@emwilss]

This comment really means a lot to me. Thank you so much :)

[@madisynsmith2379]

On a side note, your hair looks so healthy Emily!!!! It looks gorgeous and so shiny and non-frizzy 😂❤️

[@Empanda9]

Love this idea!!

[@emwilss]

SUBSCRIBE here for notification when the guys video goes up! : bit.ly/2rx7crK (Hint: It's this week! 3 videos in a week - WOO!) What are some other topics you'd like to see us cover together?

[@Samantha.Jolene]

Thank you. This is a video I never knew I needed.

[@emmanatoli6332]

I love this! A video of the both of you is so much fun to watch and such great advice!

[@emwilss]

Thank you Emma! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@SunshineBloom777]

You two are so great together!!

[@diana-alexandrai.5809]

》very true with makeup! The moderation never disoriented! Makeup often go more on splatter side than to harmonize facial features. Happy for you 2 ✨ 🤗 💖

[@ALastingBeauty]

AWE. That is so sweet how he saved up for dates! These were such great tips. I appreciatte all the wisdom you both share. As a single young adult, I don't think I can hear too many tips on dating haha.

[@emwilss]

Well thank you for watching!!

[@ruth5227]

The head-butt at the end was hilarious!! LOL! I love you two! Such great advice👍🏻❤️

[@emwilss]

Hehhe I thought so too. Thanks for watching!

[@An19941]

Thank you! I need this for the future

[@mariemi3595]

thaankksss, perfect timing!!!! love it .

[@drss997]

Hi guys, I love this...my hubby and I are Christian and recently got pregnant...can you both do a talk together on Christian parenting, raising a child to have faith and parenting in general such as gender roles, balancing work and parenthood, sleepless nights... Thank you 🙏🏾

[@emwilss]

So many good topic ideas! Congrats on your pregnancy!

[@laurentheheiress98]

So nice that Daniel doesn't want to "go Dutch" on dates LOL

[@emwilss]

Hehe I agree!

[@dwightschrute4560]

I was on a date fairly recently where a girl immediately offered to pay for herself. I wasn't used to that and automatically assumed the date was going bad.

[@weeklyalexa257]

So she decided to go Dutch like Emily mentioned in the video lol

[@megalopolis2015]

It only goes bad if she doesn't call again--or you don't.

[@palmettoboykin658]

I love this!!! Helped so much❤️❤️

[@allyfoltz9175]

It's so fun to see you guys laugh together! You have such an amazing dynamic and its so refreshing. :)

[@emwilss]

Thanks so much Ally! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@Merina2222]

I'm nearly 24 and have never dated in my life - I want to enter the online dating scene, but the idea terrifies me, so this video was huge help in getting me to calm down and make some helpful notes! Thank you for taking the time to give us all such thoughtful and constructive advice. Would you be able to do a video about how to approach online dating as a Catholic who wants to live out chastity?

[@emwilss]

Hi Scarlett! Did you watch my video on my channel about online dating?

[@killerkitty0069]

Y’all are sooo cute!!! I loved the video it was very helpful!!😊

[@micaelarodriguez9452]

They look so in love!! 💖

[@yuliyalyube]

Love this video!!

[@rebekahkersey4286]

6:24 "Slow down girl!" 😂😂😂

[@emwilss]

😆

[@matthewsawczyn6592]

The Dating Project is a pretty great doc on this!

[@fionadonlon1372]

I love videos of you and Daniel together!! Please do more😁

[@emwilss]

Thank you! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@felicityr8363]

I think it's interesting how a lot of these tips seem to be geared toward a first date for people who haven't gotten to know each other previously - personally, I wouldn't even consider going on a date with someone I wasn't friends with first! But still good suggestions :)

[@jackiegarcia9828]

this helped so much, love you two so much!

[@emwilss]

Hey thanks Jackie!

[@carleanner.348]

I love videos with the both of you!!!! I smiled this whole video!

[@emwilss]

I am so glad! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@maryteresestavres4072]

I love when danïel is involved in the videos!!!!

[@emwilss]

Thank you! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@Powerpuffin1]

Awesome video! I'm a Dutch girl who's marrying an American guy soon, so I love seeing you and Daniël in videos together :) (so no more first dates for me haha) What are some challenges you've faced in your international marriage? I really love your channel!

[@mariecassandra1566]

Maaike MLAK hey you can always have your first date as a married couple 😘

[@emwilss]

I am so grateful you are here! That is a very good question - we will put that on the list of videos for us to make! When is your wedding?

[@t.j.armendariz354]

Anybody having flashbacks of people who wear so much makeup it looks like they are wearing a face painted on porcelain? Also, call me old fashioned, but I am of the opinion that the guy should pick the girl up (from her house, where she is staying, etc.) and take her back there at the end of the date, ring the bell (don’t text her that the is there), and walk her back to the door (obviously this doesn’t work in some circumstances, but apply reason). Possibly just me as a guy but...

[@emilyspears8911]

I loved this one! Y'all are so cute!

[@TheSavedWoman]

Love you guys! Helpful tips

[@thetechyitalian5360]

Super pumped for the guys video!!!! :D

[@emwilss]

Hope you watched and enjoyed it!

[@tiffanyw3064]

It's been a while since I watched you videos.Just before the virus hit I met a man on FB and we have been talking and things are starting to change because we are getting more into sharing hopes and dreams. We have started to talk more about God and Marriage, I'm glad I have a man come into my life who wants God active in his life. I remember your video on saving yourself for marriage. I had a lady I work with tell me if I don't have sex before marriage a man won't marry me, I will not have sex before marriage and this man know that, the way he talks to me I feel marriage is less than a year down the road. This is really significant for me, I'm 64 and a trans woman, hey he's a great man

[@milagroscapomasi8525]

I loved this video! Daniel should appear here more often! 💜

[@emwilss]

Thank you! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@betsyhill2014]

Y’all are so cute! Great video!

[@megalopolis2015]

Great tips, as always. This was very sweet to watch, even though you nearly killed Daniel. :0) Loved hearing Zion, too. Much love to you all.

[@mariaczaguo9149]

You guys are so adorable!!!!

[@josephnardone1250]

You guys have great chemistry.

[@kayleen6834]

Love you both! Follow-up question. Is it a "date" if the guy doesn't explicitly ask you on a date? Ex: he asks you if you would like to 'hangout/meet up' for an activity (ex: hiking), offers to pick you up, but doesn't make it explicit it's actually a date. Example Situation: You thought this was a "church friends/brother and sister hangout". You have a great time, and for some reason, you can't get him off your mind....you don't know why. You connected in a conversation talking about Christ and life while hiking. Then by God's encounter or the Holy Spirit, you run into each other again at church a week later during an evening scripture event. He sat next to you coming in late & after the sermon/event, he asks if you want to grab lunch together at a place you mentioned recently opened up in town that you love. He offers to pick you up again and at the restaurant, offers to pay for it, too, when you try to. You accept his sweet chivalry because you consider him your big brother in a way. YET this second encounter was super awkward. Like very awkward because you weren't really yourself - something happened earlier that day and it just kind of threw you off and you both run into a mutual friend there across the restaurant. He mentions he has to end a bit early to head to work after you being awkward - when the day before, he said he didn't have to work, but wanted to come in to help with something. You never really hang out again on a one-on-one setting and you get confused if it might - perhaps in his mind - it initially was a date or just a hangout/friend time.

[@MeganGrantham]

Emily can you pleeeeease make a podcast? I would love it so much!

[@pookiehontas6414]

Such good advice! You both are great!

[@emwilss]

Thank you!! :)

[@anneblakely]

Oh my gosh 😭 this is adorable

[@tonyvu7246]

You two are great together! One of the best videos so far. Funny, entertaining, relevant to both sexes

[@emwilss]

Thanks Tony!

[@945daddy]

Y’all are the cutest!

[@liaf6789]

Going Dutch means 50/50 because Dutch doors 🚪 are cut in half (the top can open while the bottom can stay closed) 😂😊

[@grengeg7373]

He speaks for all guys! Order what you want!

[@kateribuerkle1246]

Thank you so much for this video! My brother saw me watching it and we both couldn't stop laughing...

[@emwilss]

That makes me so happy! Thanks for telling me that Kateri!

[@ayeshat6868]

This was such a nice, fun and informative video!... Just hoping I'll get the opportunity to put it all to practice soon :P

[@tolbiny36]

Ditto :P

[@emwilss]

Thank you!

[@nyashathandi]

Definitely one of the couples I love🌸

[@emwilss]

Well we appreciate that very much :)

[@zolinach]

But if you don't lick your fingers you miss out on all that sauce 😢😢 I'm licking them! Lol

[@megalopolis2015]

I'd stay away from some messy foods on the first date, 'cause I'd be messy, and I'd say so. :0)

[@emwilss]

Hehehehe

[@colleenlongua9752]

Please do more videos together. This was really helpful

[@emwilss]

Thank you! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@LadyK007]

If I’m going dutch, I gotta get on an airplane. I appreciate when men pay, and I’m not offering the first few dates, nor am I afraid he will expect something. I always say thank you though! 😀

[@emwilss]

That thank you is very important!

[@saraab67856]

"...and then you're married" HAHAHA. He gives the fresh air to this topic!

[@emwilss]

I am so glad you thought so! Thank you! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@joyteam2646]

Thanks for this video!

[@emwilss]

You are welcome for this video!

[@vanessahall46]

Love watching the two of you❤️

[@emwilss]

Hey thanks! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@mollykate1922]

Hey Emily! I tried emailing you about something that i’m struggling with but i got the email about We Are The Brave, but I don’t have a facebook. Great vid!!!! I will be sharing with my friends!💕

[@katie12rose]

Haha you guys are funny & loved the tips!! 💕

[@emwilss]

Thank you Katie!!

[@lettiebug3410]

This video was awesome 😄 love you guys!

[@emwilss]

Thanks so much for watching!! :)

[@veronicasuarez1033]

You guys are so cute! great video!

[@pplucker9486]

A wonderful tip I’ve heard from an etiquette expert was the person who suggested the get together or date should pay (although it’s wonderful to offer.) so if he asks you out to dinner, he would pay even though you should still offer, and if you say “hey let’s go bowling tomorrow” you would pay.

[@emwilss]

That's a good tip! It would be weird to ask someone on a date and expect them to pay, I think!

[@liene93]

Love hearing things from guys perspective, because there are so many from lady's perspective out there already :)

[@emwilss]

Thank you very much Liene! Let us know if there are any other topics you'd like us to cover!

[@angelinaloreta4190]

I'm actually going on my first date this weekend !!!!! Thank you so much

[@tolbiny36]

Best of luck! Have fun!

[@withsisu2324]

Good luck!! Come back and let us know how it goes! 😀

[@lucieddins7405]

Best of luck, Angelina! I hope it goes well!

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Good luck!

[@emwilss]

I hope you had a nice time!!

[@NatalieDiamond]

Be yourself is probably number one because There’s nothing like someone falling in love with who YOU really are💕

[@emwilss]

A-MEN to that!!

[@daduknight9566]

Good video! 👌🏻👌🏻

[@haroldmcboingboing888]

Can we get instructions on how to be a gentleman when taking a girl on a first date. As in opening the car door for her getting in and out

[@emwilss]

Hope you watched the video for guys!

[@ednaa4382]

I love you BOTH!!!

[@veronica.theswamphag]

Aww love you guys, I feel like you're my KZbin parents if that makes sense ❤

[@madzialena1206]

I love this video!

[@emwilss]

Thank you for watching!

[@JessicaPinkstone]

FUN TIPS! My husband took me on so many romantic picnics when we were dating 💕 I just uploaded a vid of our first date!!

[@meghanashleysokolowski4394]

OMG LOVE.

[@Eatyoveggiesfoo]

I’m all for offering to pay I think it’s a good idea. But I’m afraid that if he says sure ..I’m going to overthink it and question if he truly likes me. Since all my life I heard and believed the guy should always pay. Thoughts? I’m afraid of being hurt if he lets me pay lol. Does that make sense?

[@ctn4646]

If a guy calls it a hang out, is it really a date? Is there a difference?

[@crystallight6488]

How can you say it nicely though? Like when he asks “Do you want to go to ____?” But you don’t want to because like you said, end the date there. So, how do I not sound mean about it? 😅

[@paula9197]

Great video you guys! I have a question for everyone in general - How long should you wait to date someone before deciding to continue dating them or moving on? My context is, I've gotten to know this guy who comes across as nice, friendly, a good listener, smart, hardworking...etc (i.e. on paper, he makes good husband material). It's been about 5-6 dates and while I'm comfortable with him and can easily talk to him, I just don't feel anything for him other than he makes a good friend. He has already told me he feels a connection...but can I make myself fall in love over time if I continue to date him, or is this fruitless and I should not waste each other's time by continuing anything...

[@greenmonkey1528]

Paula K in my opinion it would be very very hard & that’s why many women end up talking themselves into sticking it out and seeing if they will maybe develop feelings because we don’t want to hurt someone especially not when he has been so great and you like him (as friends). It’s really just not fair to let him believe you feel the same and let him be excited about the relationship. He deserves someone who is genuinely happy and excited romantically about him. Personally I would rather be single than date a guy who I was really smitten with but he just liked me as a friend & wasn’t really attracted to me or felt romantically for me but continued to date me anyway. I would be heartbroken when I found out (and those things always come out) but most of all I’d feel so so embarrassed and kinda betrayed bc I thought that person was being honest after that many dates. I recently had to break it off with a guy after our first date & it was so much harder than I ever imagined it could be bc he was so nice & literally everything on paper I could’ve handpicked but there just wasn’t that spark for me and it was even harder bc I had dug myself into a hole by accepting a second date at the end of the first one I just couldn’t bring myself to say no but I was surprised to see he responded very kindly and understanding and said he’d like to stay friends (which kinda made me feel even worse) but you can do it girl! It’s hard but it’s worth it you know treat others how you want to be treated good luck with everything 💖✨😊

[@megalopolis2015]

@@greenmonkey1528 Perfect advice.

[@paula9197]

@@greenmonkey1528 Thank you for your reply!! It's exactly what I'm thinking, especially since we all want to find someone who we are excited about and are interested in and that they also feel the same way about us. Ultimately, I think staying in this situation would make me pretty miserable in the long term and would also be hugely unfair and dishonest to him. I really appreciate your input!! 💚

[@paula9197]

@@horrificpleasantry9474 Very valid points and I agree. Thank you for responding!

[@jae4687]

I’m going to the movies tomorrow with my crush

[@lizrock3998]

Get you a guy who looks at you the way Daniël looks at Emily💗💗

[@emwilss]

💁🏼 I agree!

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

Great video! What was your full time job, Emily?

[@emwilss]

I was a teacher!

[@Chydova]

Any tips for your older single sisters (30+) in Christ that seriously have no guys in plain site?