reddit's unpopular opinions

[@Renee-Soleil]

26:54 currently homeless and in a shelter with my kid. I've noticed that when people use the term unhoused they just take the whole situation less seriously than when you say you're homeless. The word homeless still has shock value and really hits the point that it's a serious emergency. "Unhoused" just makes you sound like a hippie who chooses to live out of your van

[@Horizontal_Sonic]

I really hope you and your kid can get out of that situation. Best of luck!

[@grizzlydino]

I like how Reddit “unpopular” opinions are either always a opinion that is universally agreed that It pisses you off while some just actually piss you off cause of how stupid they are

[@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees]

so*

[@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees]

so universally agreed

[@siennaamos1916]

thats.. how opinions work? you either agree or disagree and just because some of these you agree with doesnt me they arnt unpopular

[@robhanson9501]

​@@siennaamos1916 There's no middle ground though. It's either "Oh yeah obviously," or "Are you stupid?".

[@MayHugger]

⁠@@siennaamos1916They aren’t unpopular if most people agree with it.

[@strawberrymilk1186]

Explanation is not excuse. He’s correct. Here’s an example; “He’s autistic, that’s why he didn’t understand it was wrong.” Explanation for his behaviour, not excuse.

[@SketchUT]

YES. THIS. THIS TIMES A THOUSAND. the day people don’t take my explanations as excuses and say something about responsibility or whatever is the day my depression gets cured. and screw it, all my other (mostly uncurable) disorders too, cuz it ain’t gonna happen

[@strawberrymilk1186]

@ It’s tough being nd in this world!

[@violet7773]

I was banned from a subreddit for a comment and when I tried to ask which rule I'd actually broken, the mod told me I was using my autism as an "excuse" and refused to tell me what I'd actually done wrong lol It ended up alright though, I was spending too much time scrolling on reddit and that stupid interaction finally motivated me to delete the app

[@GregorianMG]

​@@violet7773Reddit is quite an echo chamber, so I'm glad you removed it lol

[@cowmann3555]

couldnt that also be used as an excuse in a given context?

[@Malowith]

Pizza guy fundamentally doesn't understand how food works? It's like saying "if you don't like your burgers plain, you don't actually like burgers". What the hell are you talking about? The basis of cooking is putting different ingredients together to create a new experience. Mans hasn't seen Ratatouille.

[@darrienjones8917]

My unpopular opinion is that the reason the world is such a terrible place is because not enough people have seen Ratatouille

[@RevanReborn3950BBY]

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[@diamondmx3076]

If you don't like your burger raw, you don't like burger, you just like the taste of the grill. /jk.

[@privpi]

It's the same shit with dark chocolate snobs. "You don't like chocolate, you like sugar/milk" Fuck you, I don't like bitter shit, we are evolutionary inclined to dislike bitterness. Just because you don't that's not my problem.

[@diamondmx3076]

@privpi also no duh people like sugar and milk. That's basically what our bodies are designed to crave. :D

[@davidpumpkinsjr.5108]

I agree with the idea that there is a difference between an explanation and an excuse. Once my jerk boss lashed out at me for explaining why I made a mistake at work. When I called him out and said "I owed you an explanation and an apology; I came to you with both and you threw them back in my face." To my surprise, he actually apologized for his attitude.

[@dhanurvishnu3035]

Wow

[@leaderlamby]

I agree with the one about dogs. Too many people think pets are trophies or accessories and all you have to do is give it food or water and youre entitled to do whatever you want with it and all that. Different pets have different needs. Dogs, in this case. They need **good food**, toys (depending on how active it is), they have individual boundaries you need to respect, you need to be prepared to walk it and exercise it, you need to take them to the vet on a regular basis, sometimes they need emergency visits, etc. You dont just buy a pet, you provide for it, consistently, and that's expensive. Don't get a dog - or any animal - just because you think they're cute.

[@SwampVVitch]

Exactly. I think that's why there are so many people with the opinion that cats are jerks. They see them as cute accessories and not independent creatures with their own individual personalities and then they demand tricks and affection regardless of how the cat feels and cats are like no, I have boundaries, but people see that as asshole behavior. Just buy a plastic plant. No nurturing, all aesthetic, no individual necessity aside from an occasional dusting.

[@leaderlamby]

@SwampVVitch We have 4 cats, we provide for them and everything, but some people here don't respect their boundaries, because too many people forget or ignore that animals *have* boundaries. I see my stepdad pick them up all the time and they're always squirming and he just keeps holding them. And a lot of the time, my older sister picks up her favourite cat while he's sleeping and carries him to her room. Like- let animals come to you. Give them affection on their own terms, don't force it. Like I said, they're being provided for otherwise, but you still need to respect an animal's boundaries if you want them to love and trust you.

[@Renee-Soleil]

In my stbxhusband's country, dogs are lucky to get attention at all. They sleep outside, are fed table scraps or eat from the garbage, and still expected to work to be kept. There are no such thing as dog groomers there I was laughed at when I asked lol. They don't get toys or vet visits unless they are visibly ill. I'm glad the larger cities there started a vaccination program against rabies which will really help in the long run. But there are a lot of countries that have a long way to go with animal rights. In a lot of places animals aren't even seen as living sentient beings, just tools to be exploited.

[@eirinym]

The stories about people getting pets and then just ditching them a shelter or abandoning them outright is so heartbreaking whenever I hear it. When that one came up I was like that person is absolutely right... it's so insane to me people are that heartless that they want something, not a companion and a member of the family. They get them and then just hate the responsibility so they give up because they're legally not punished for it. A friend of mine a long time ago had a father who had a dog that he kept in a cage constantly in an apartment. It was a German shepherd. I visited there with him one time and I immediately wanted to let the dog out and my friend told me unfortunately we couldn't...

[@trishapellis]

Forget pets, there's plenty of people who think that way about their children.

[@AGREY-p1s]

20:33 it’s dumb. People order toppings not because they like the toppings more than the pizza, but because they like the toppings WITH the pizza. The taste of the toppings mix with the taste of the pizza to make a whole new, and better taste, ultimately making them enjoy pizza more. Saying people who use toppings “don’t like pizza” is like saying people who dip their cookies in milk don’t actually like cookies, but instead like the milk they put on it, instead of the milk adding to the cookie.

[@violet7773]

If you put sauce on your pasta, then you don't actually like pasta /j

[@calcutt4]

if you like roast chicken but not raw chicken then you actually like the heat from your oven and not chicken

[@rodolfo3794]

I’ll semi hear him out here because for me a lot of toppings do just overpower the taste of pizza and it ends up more like I’m just eating that. For example, I can’t eat pizza with ham on it because I end up mainly tasting the ham. I did feel like he sounded very elitist about it though, and his approach was a bit condescending

[@deadchannel9892]

​@@calcutt4thats exactly what this comment reminded me about lmao

[@DoodlesWords]

I don't like cheese pizza because I don't like AMERICAN cheese pizza where they put 5x as much cheese and it's a huge wad in my mouth and my stomach hurts afterward. Toppings add much more flavor and variety to the experience, which makes the stomach ache at least worth it.

[@justenoughforacoffee]

While I see where the guy saying 25 should be where we're considered adults, I'm going to take the stance from someone who did every single thing he could to get out of my abusive home as fast as possible because it was literally life or death. Quite often, unfortunately, CPS prefers to keep kids with parents even if parents are any form of abusive other than leaving visible marks physical. I know from personal experience because the ONLY reason I was taken from my home at 17 was because I got kicked out. Because I told my step father that I would not stop reporting him (because of a specific type of abuse I will not disclose here). It was a last ditch effort to get out of that house because I wouldn't have been able to get out otherwise. I didn't think I could survive otherwise. 18 is a shining light for kids that were in situations like I was. Being seen as a legal adult earlier can mean a safer life for some people because it can be an escape from a horrible situation you're forced into by law. Some people aren't NEARLY mature enough for adulthood at 18, yes, but neither are some 30 year olds, or some 50 year olds. And the brain NEVER ACTUALLY STOPS DEVELOPING. The study only looks at subjects UP TO 25. Our brains are always changing, developing, growing. But hey, it may be because I'm 22 that I'm saying this. But I trust the judgement of my sister (who is 19) over my mother (who is 42) for example. Because my sister is in college for a medical degree. My mother refuses to pay rent to my grandmother because she would rather gamble and chase guys. IIRC she also never bothered to get her high school degree.

[@rachel6239]

Yeah, this was my thought too. And even if no parents were abusive, I dont think *anyone* wants to be under their parents control until 25. I sure don't want to wait until 25 to move out and have my own life

[@AIHumanEquality]

The context also ignores the fact adult is a social term not a scientific one. There is no biological definition of an adult directly.

[@Krikenemp18]

I thought of this context too. But that comment was very vague about what impact that change should have. I've had the thought myself that I didn't feel "adult" until about 25. I don't think we should change what age things are legally allowed as an adult, but I do think that expectations could be shifted back to the 25 range, or at least not put the same expectations on everyone. Everyone grows up at different rates based on life experiences. Being expected to have everything in your adult life figured out by 18-20 just isn't realistic now and imo never was, even if some people have been forced to do so by circumstance.

[@duekansickalsiawsoxksiay1940]

We should want kids to be adults as soon as they can.

[@gregc9344]

Sounds like the laws are poorly thought out where you are, here legal adult is also 18 but kids can be removed from a household on their own recommendation as young as 14.

[@Vanilla_Neko]

they shouldnt ban the recline feature, we should just put pressure on airlines to bring back appropriate leg spacing so that people can recline without bothering those behind them

[@Krikenemp18]

They sacrificed comfort to cram in as many seats as physically possible to maximize profit. It's the same old capitalist song and dance.

[@DarkFlameVee]

Airlines should go a step ahead and have removable airplane seats for people that only medical bound to a wheelchair and have straps to lock in the wheelchair in place in the airplane, of course they won't have them near the exit

[@comradewindowsill4253]

have you ever flown far enough that you need to sleep on the plane? like, 8, 10, 13 hours of flying? guarantee your tune will be changed, that's hellish enough when you're able to recline, when all of your weight is on your spine instead of the seat you will walk off that plane limping, if at all.

[@wmdkitty]

No, just remove the recline feature. If you really, actually _need_ to sleep, your brain and body will do it, regardless of position.

[@NankitaBR]

​@@wmdkitty Have you ever tried being in a 10 hours flight without being able to recline? With your weight only on your spine through the whole flight? That can literally cause permanente spine damage to some people, it's inhumane. Try it and tell me you can walk off without a back pain.

[@MrBucketHat236]

I think the problem with unpopular opinions is not the concept itself, but the fact that people use it as a way to argue with others indirectly. Some don't just say their opinion. They call out others and their way of doing it. The pizza guy, for example. He didn't just say that he preferred cheese pizza. He openly attacked others who liked toppings, saying they didn't know real pizza. They act as if they're right and we're wrong, like we're supposed to change our ways for them. Their opinions aren't usually unpopular. It's the way they put it that makes it unpopular

[@UnOriginal102]

Please note that the 25 year brain thing is only because the oldest person they had was 25 meaning that your brain probably never actually stops developing as it is needed to create memories and stuff like that

[@equinox4901]

Yeah, many people reach maturity far before then. I mean, throughout history there have been tweens and teens who led armies of fully grown men. I think raising the legal age of childhood would take away independence from people who don't need that.

[@orchdork775]

Wait really?? They need to do more studies on this specific topic to correct that belief if it's not based on legit information.

[@NotesFromTheVoid]

Oh good someone else said it.

[@BRUH-fe9kl]

I remember reading a NIH article about the brain "rewriting" itself up to the age 24-25 Which is probably a decade old now,(and debunked) that research likely also influences common though

[@jawadalam5014]

@@BRUH-fe9kl that makes sense as thats around the paleolithic lifespan, thats usually also why the human body slowly deteriorates as humans did not evolve to live as long as we do now

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I fully completely 100% support the explanations are not excuses guy. It's important for human communication and cohesion to understand why people do what they do.

[@jolteon345]

The key is to present it as an explanation. If you're talking hypothetically about what some stranger did, it's all hypothetical anyway so there isn't an "excuse" within there. Meanwhile, if you're trying to explain yourself, you can't say something like "Looking back, I made these 5 observations about the event that unfolded and they led to me getting in an accident" because then you're appearing like someone who is attempting to frame excuses as observations or an explanation. Own up to your actions and you'll appear genuine.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

@@jolteon345 I agree, you have to be careful about how you explain what you're intending with your explanation.

[@ZenoSsj4Hero]

This!

[@wrightcember]

my parents use “explanations are excuses” to be verbally and mentally abusive, so i am all for making the distinction well known

[@marir.s3620]

As someone told me: A reason is not an excuse.

[@wendyjohnson7763]

26:48 the reason a lot of people are using “unhoused” is because when you say “homeless” many many many people immediately think dirty, gross, drug addict, worthless, burden. Yes there are emotions with it but those emotions are negative toward the people and not toward the systemic problem that is homelessness. People use “homelessness” as a way to say “oh it’s that person’s fault their homeless” or “well they chose that life.” In reality 1. No one in a sane mental space and safe physical/financial space would /choose/ to be homeless. No one. 2. Saying “unhoused” makes people think ‘why aren’t they housed?’ ‘Who isn’t housing them?’ Because it’s not a personal problem to the people on the street, it’s a society issue. I work in a downtown city library and we might as well be a day shelter? Why? Because there’s no where else for them to go. A lot of these people are trying to get back on their feet but we have created a society that doesn’t care about them at all. It actively thinks they’re not worth the effort it would take. So we don’t have the resources bc people don’t want to deal with it. /we/ aren’t housing them. It’s on /us/ not them.

[@HoneyBatzzz]

beautifully said!

[@DarkFlameVee]

It’s not on ‘us’ to housed the homeless, it should be on the homeless to want to be housed. If you want to house the homeless, than open your doors to them and let’s see how long that would last

[@undyingUmbrage413]

​@@DarkFlameVee Every homeless person wants to be housed. It's not easy getting jobs though, when you don't have access to clean clothes or a shower. It's not easy getting a loan for a house when you don't have good credit, or you're already in debt. A lot of people on the streets are severely mentally ill and/or disabled and actively CAN'T get a job (and no, being mentally ill doesn't mean they "deserve it"). Most homeless people would be able to improve their situation, get jobs, and be productive members of society if they had access to shelter. That's outright proven by countries that have eliminated their homeless problems entirely BY housing the homeless.

[@UserAccount-ThisOne]

@@DarkFlameVee yes and no, it should not be on us to house the homeless, it should be the governments job to rehabilitate them into well functioning citizens... sure, there are homeless people who are to blame for their homelessness, but just because those types of homeless people exist doesnt mean that all homeless people are to blame for their homelessness. there are thousands upon thousands of homeless people who would be happy to work for society and potentially do amazing things, but once youre homeless, getting out of homelessness is a sysiphian task that takes a LOT of luck, so more often than not homeless people just stay homeless because its simply too freaking difficult to get out of homelessness, and it doesnt help that the housing market is going through a greed crisis right now while its extremely EXTREMELY difficult to find a place to rent that doesnt have a billion things wrong with it... overall, i dont get why people decide to blame people for being homeless when there are tons of different factors that play into it(mental health problems/disorders, financial issues, being abandoned as a child, and possibly even awful family members can all be reasons).

[@wendyjohnson7763]

@@DarkFlameVee Us as in the community as a whole. Do you actually think that the people who are in abusive situations that are so bad they would rather be homeless actually /want/ to be homeless? Do you think the people who are mentally ill with no access to any kind of health care /want/ to be homeless? Do you think that the people who got laid off, or the people who got into one accident and had to pay thousands of dollars they don’t have to get better, or the people who were kicked out by their families for being different in any way actually /want/ to be out in the cold, in the rain, in the heat trying to survive? It’s not about “opening your doors,” not everyone can or should do that. It’s about having resources that people can use so they don’t fucking die. I live on the Gulf Coast and it hardly ever gets below freezing. Like maybe twice a year. We had 12 people die of cold exposure because there weren’t shelters available for them. It’s absurd. I hope that you never have to go through what these people do, but if you do, I hope people treat you like you’re treating them.

[@ButchPleaseImFabulous]

Counter: I have been unhoused, and I prefer that term. I was not on the street but twice in my life I had to couch surf because I didn’t have my own house/home. To me homeless is used to dehumanize, and unhoused makes me feel less dehumanized. Just wanted to give my perspective since I’m certainly not a person who believes they could never be in that situation. The first time was after leaving my abusive parents at 17, the second was when my house burned down. I’m personally okay with people using either but I feel less dehumanized by unhoused than homeless.

[@cewla3348]

homeless describes all possible types of improper housing - literally "no place to call home". Unhoused means you don't have a place that you could call home, but if you have abusive roommates on an abusive lease? You're homeless.

[@frankm.2850]

I think they're two separate things. You were unhoused. Putting you and the drug addict in a cardboard box in the same category doesn't make sense

[@RevanReborn3950BBY]

@@frankm.2850you immediately calling the person a drug addict is perfectly showcasing the dehumanizing of homeless people.

[@tomithebunny]

I think some people who hang around non-assholes can really forget that a LOT of people are assholes, and that quite a lot of people have a ton of NEGATIVE associations with "the homeless" and already use that term to dehumanize. I think it's easy for people to be out of touch with how a ton of very cruel people talk about "the homeless," and the important point that those cruel people tend to say that as the full noun, too, not "homeless people." I think people would understand the usage of the term unhoused more if they were more active in actual housing first operations and such too, cuz ofc the vocabulary feels detached if you're not on the same page as the people actively enacting things like laws and housing grants and doing a fuckton of paperwork

[@BoloH.]

I'm getting all kinds of weird reactions after saying I'm homeless, and it doesn't seem to even help much clarifying that I'm temporarily between apartments due to a fire above my unit. They're already thinking that that a homeless guy burned down his neighbour's flat.

[@diamondmx3076]

For the work from home thing, it's inexcusable that we've gone so long calling it an 8 hour work day when most people in the US have a 1 hour commute each way that's required for their job. We're all getting 2 hours of unpaid work time every day. We're all getting a day where you spend almost all your time working or trying to keep up with chores, and never have any time to live. People are stressed and depressed and exhausted. Getting 2 hours of your life back isn't just a 25% pay rise, it's nearly doubling your personal time not doing maintenance tasks like cooking, eating and sleeping. This shouldn't just be for white collar workers either, everyone needs to reclaim time to live instead of just survive.

[@wendyjohnson7763]

18:52 not every movie has to be “art.” Not every movie has to be Oscar worthy. People want to say that super hero movies are pointless bc they’re not going to be nominated but they’re still enjoyed by millions. Not every movie has to be “good” for you to enjoy it. IMO it sounds like this guy’s likes have changed and should stop watching movies at night.

[@krbthewitch]

If anything I'm of the opinion that the Oscars are part of the problem. Prestige and the idea that movies are the ultimate version of media make movies worse, less fun, and down the line will only continue to degrade the medium.

[@-_Nifi_-]

Yeah I agree movies don’t have to be good, but for the love of mac n cheese if you’re adapting a book like the wild robot at least try to adhere to the plot- THE PACING WAS WAY OFF AND THE CHARACTERS WERE COMPLETELY CHANGED- The problem isn’t that movies are bad, the problem is that all movies are directed at 5 year olds who can’t focus unless 50 things are happening at once (5 years old either physically or mentally)

[@nevtheskid4579]

11:00 So I study extremism and terrorism academically, and a lot of that study involves knowing how and why people become radicalized into becoming terrorists. In particular, I focus on alt-right and neo-Nazi extremism, so my study naturally focuses on the process of alt-right radicalization. It tends to be a very sad story, usually involves some form of abuse followed by isolation and heavy reliance on parasocial connection, then getting sucked into a rabbit hole of Nazism. Eventually, they either end up affiliated with a group like the Oath Keepers, Proud Boys, The Base, or Atomwaffen, or they end up perpetrating a lone wolf attack. Talking about any part of that process except the end of it is taboo, especially in leftist circles, and I do also have a theory on why that is. Talking about the process that leads to someone becoming a Nazi terrorist ends up exposing a lot of parallels between the alt-right and far left radicalization pipelines. But that's beside the point. The point is that discussing the process that leads someone to do something unthinkable is incredibly important. It grants insight on how our actions can be determined and teaches us that even that Meal Team Six LARPer carrying a Nazi flag with Nacho Cheese Dorito dust still crusting his neckbeard was sad and lonely once. Makes you think about how it's a damn shame that communities like the alt-right, violent extreme left, and others equally despicable are the places that welcomed these lost, lonely children instead of their parents, their peers, their village that should have done its job to raise them. And that's uncomfortable. We don't want to think that for everything the worst people who ever lived did, there was an explanation. Their actions were determined by some sad story in their lives that they'd never tell, and we as a society don't want to hear. Their stories don't excuse their actions, but they do explain them. To truly understand history in order to prevent repeating it, we need to hear those explanations, even when they're uncomfortable. I wish more people saw that.

[@Krikenemp18]

What's the term for how the more extreme the two ends of a position become, the more alike they grow? I haven't even studied this topic academically and it's very easy to see that both political extremes are mirrors of each other. That's why I don't like to associate with either one. The silver lining is that I've been hearing more talk of how that feeling of abandonment is what's leading people to these outcomes, so there's hope of seeing some improvement, if not much, as awareness rises and hopefully so does compassion.

[@wmdkitty]

LOL what? No. Those pathetic losers aren't victims of anything but their own delusions. They CHOOSE to go down those rabbit-holes, and CHOOSE to be dangerous and violent.

[@nevtheskid4579]

@@Krikenemp18 I don't know of a specific term for that, but I would steal a term that is used in a different context: parallelism, or the state of being parallel or mirrored. I would define parallelism in the context of extremism as "the principle that diametrically opposed groups will become increasingly aligned in methodology as they become more ideologically extreme." Will likely write a paper on the subject, now I think about it. Cheers for making me think.

[@Mets2015WorldSeries]

@@Krikenemp18horseshoe theory I believe

[@aralornwolf3140]

"Talking about any part of that process except the end of it is taboo, especially in leftist circles, and I do also have a theory on why that is. Talking about the process that leads to someone becoming a Nazi terrorist ends up exposing a lot of parallels between the alt-right and far left radicalization pipelines." Are you conflating "Leftist" with Liberal? Because many leftists understand how it happens... but too many liberals refuse to make the societal changes which will prevent their existence.

[@ThePurpleOwlGod]

Pizza started as a peasant food, meant to use up a bunch of leftovers and ingredient foods.

[@lethallightning2]

For the remote work full-time thing, I disagree wholeheartedly. I'm autistic and I have social issues. Social ineptitude is literally in my blood. Who cares if I'm comfortable in MY home doing work? No one should care.

[@snakesnail6664]

I hate it when people say "just recline your seat!" when you complain about airline seats reclining. When I went on a plane on my own when i was younger, I had to sit at the back of the plane, where the seats can't recline. I couldn't do anything when the people in front of me crushed me, I just had to suffer for several hours until the flight was over. While under most circumstances you could, but there are ones where you can't, and it annoys me that no one seems to know that, or just doesn't mention it.

[@saxman112]

I agree I mean, nowadays the fact that if you want some kind of semblance of more reasonable leg room is by going with some kind of premium economy seating is just ridiculous Airlines need to stop cramming as many seats as they can into planes and instead make it so you have more proper spacing for decent leg room and all without having to pay an arm and a leg just for the privilege of better leg room and recline

[@Monoprismatic]

Hate hearing this 25 years of age thing trotted out again, all based on the same single flawed study. And always used as a way to dunk on minors and young adults for "not being mature enough, developed enough". There are millions of Americans over the age of 50 who are frankly less matured and developed than your average 18-21 year old these days. Edit: I'm 41, in case you think this is "young person griping"

[@tomithebunny]

It always seems to me as a not so subtle way to try and reverse some pretty important rights. I myself am almost 30, but I can't hear "legal adulthood should start later than 18" without catching the undercurrent of "so 18 year olds don't deserve to vote!!!"

[@daniiii888]

@@tomithebunny is voting tied to being an adult (by definition)? If so that doesn’t make any sense…

[@-_Nifi_-]

@@daniiii888yeah unfortunately. I’m like 13 and hypothetically if i was r**ped I couldn’t get an abortion (ergo I’d have to raise the kid or die trying to birth them) but then again I can’t vote either. Like clearly they think I’m old enough to raise a person who could be able to change things in the future but I can’t vote for someone who can change things now

[@jakef5043]

Input on the barber thing: Generally speaking, hair services are done off a menu for basic things like a simple cut or trim. If you want colour, extensions, or anything else "premium", there's an hourly rate generally along with product costs.

[@potatoman305]

I feel that the guy is talking about how a regular cut costs 25-35 dollars nowadays.

[@bararobberbaron859]

@@potatoman305 Sure, but then he compares it to electricians and well, I sure as hell can't get one I'd trust for $30 an hour, all the pricing has raised.

[@fruitmonarch6501]

I didn't like maths because I had dyscalculia and my brain couldn't process numbers and equations past a certain point. I had sessions with a specialist who had me play with cards and math-based boardgames for a while, and she didn't want to label me with anything because I could do basic additions and "had concept of numbers.". Fortunately my math professor caught on, knew I couldn't keep up and let it slide because all my other grades were stellar.

[@kiwid3628]

Ayyyy dyscalculia gang! I didn't find out I had it until around 9th or 10th grade because for a while in elementary school I was great at math but after a certain point I just started floundering. My math teacher noticed that I got really bad test anxiety whenever we had math exams and asked me if that happened with any other subjects and I went "huh. No actually". It was kinda relieving to know "I'm not stupid, I just have a learning disability" lol

[@taykeir1682]

I had a similar experience with dyslexia. I love reading, even when I was a kid and as a result my spelling was not awful and I had a better vocabulary than most of my classmates, my teacher and parents knew I was dyslexic so the school had me do a test. It came back that I was borderline so the school decided it was better not to label me dyslexic. Finally got myself tested again in college and definitely dyslexic, apparently it doesn't just affect spelling. I thought I had dyscalculia too but the specialist said it's actually my dyslexia that makes be bad at maths.

[@101Asa]

Finally I know what I have! XD

[@shaggytheshigi]

8:08 i feel this same way but towards kids as well. So may people have kids because they think their cute but once the responsibility and expenses start to pile up they start to either neglect their kid, resent them ,or both. It gets particularly bad when their child goes from a kid to a teen, they're no longer small and adorable and thus no longer desirable. People often feel the same way when a puppy becomes adolescent but at least people can take their dogs to a shelter where there is a chance for them to be taken by a family that will love and appreciate them more. You can't do the same to kids.

[@Krikenemp18]

I feel this even more than the pets one. So many people grow up traumatized because their parents didn't want them and/or didn't care for them properly; too many people who are not fit to be parents are having kids. I watched it happen to a good friend of mine who didn't begin healing from it until his 30s. Part of it is lack of good sex education, which is constantly getting eroded by religious extremists.

[@iclynnx]

This is part of why I will never have a child. I don't think I'll ever be able to care for one, even if I ever wanted to. I've never wished to have children, and that's good. I thought of this yesterday, maybe, that if I ever got pregnant, I'd abort, and if I ever gave birth, I'd have to put the baby up for adoption, and hope that they get a good home.

[@LittleLexi24]

3:59 Burgers and fries work REALLY well together, I love putting the fries on the burger. OP says fries should be eaten with meat and sauce, like a burger? I’ve had very few dry burgers and have never had starchy fries.

[@wrightcember]

if a burger is bad enough i will literally put the fries in the hamburger and itll be completely fine, i dont know what hes talking about

[@Japansmileguy]

Have you ever eaten a Schnitzel? The Schnitzel is my opinion the best meat you can enjoy with fries because there aren't real alternatives. Like a burger with fries is sure great but it's not just the meat in the burger so I don't count it. the patties alone are sure boring. And a steak should be enjoyed without any side food. But a Schnitzel is just the pinnacle of perfection. Go visit Austria for the perfect meal. Dear God I acted like Gordon Ramsay (sorry)

[@TheDarwinProject1]

I have been homeless/unhoused, just as 2/3 autistics have, but I do think "unhoused" is meant not to take emotion out of it, but to rather create a default that human DESERVE homes. Most homeless have a feeling that their homes were TAKEN from them, not that they are CHOOSING to live on the streets, which I think unhoused portrays better than homeless. I do think there is value to changing labels as it also forces some people to rethink their entire perspectives about those people. I also think not all emotions attached to unstable housing are good. Like Yoda said, "fear leads to hatred" & that includes the root of why people choose to victim blame & ignore the most vulnerable in our societies, unhoused/disabled/poverty, which has the exact same stereotypes & overlap in economic/ableist/classist bigotry.

[@Krikenemp18]

I agree that unhoused sounds more beyond the person's control. I also feel like a lot of this has to do with the discourse baggage that is now attached to "homeless," which will just happen to "unhoused" in time if it catches on. New vocabulary syndrome.

[@wizardsuth]

Perhaps we should adopt the term the giants of Seareach used for themselves in _The Chronicles of Thomas Covenant_ : unhomed. Now we are Unhomed, bereft of root and kith and kin. From other mysteries of delight, we set our sails to resail our track; but the winds of life blew not the way we chose, and the land beyond the Sea was lost.

[@WilliamAftonin1985]

The worst thing people said to be in math class is " you make bad grades because you aren't trying" I really was I just didn't understand

[@YamiHoOu]

I would literally think I understood a concept because I solved an equation, then by the next time question I had completely forgotten how :/

[@WilliamAftonin1985]

@YamiHoOu they always expected us to understand the next year , I forgot everything

[@-AdamMurrayBPS]

​@@WilliamAftonin1985idk why they expect people to remember multiple formulas to solve various types of problems after a whole summer

[@WilliamAftonin1985]

@-AdamMurrayBPS I can't really things I learned a few weeks ago

[@anomalousanimates]

that's really stupid cuz that just takes away the nuance to bad grades, and since the education system is flawed, there is bound for people to have bad grades because of reasons

[@markjacobson4248]

I have experienced the ultimate low-maintenance pet: A cat that adopted me. She was an incredibly social, friendly, and affectionate stray cat who was entirely self sufficient but liked to jump off a tree branch into a window that we often opened on the second floor. She liked having a warm nook to sleep in, so often slept under our couch.

[@Sn0w7ir3]

Oh I could go on a tangent about this, but I won’t for the sake of brevity. But essentially they WON’T hold students back that need to be held back except in like freaking high school now. My mom teaches fifth grade and had 3-4 students who literally couldn’t read. One had a learning disability that prevented it so that’s fair but the others like seriously it’s fifth grade. 15:04

[@BrettBunsen]

It would make way more sense to hold them back earlier. Students need to understand basic concepts as a solid foundation for other courses will branch off from. It sets them up for success, and doing well in school can improve a student's confidence AND attitude. They would also have more opportunity to catch up. A little extra studying/tutoring as they go along rather than trying to advance through high school but failing more courses than can be made up during summer term.

[@ScreamingAllTheTime]

I remember I heard a thing that the only reason we got the number of 25 is because the study’s data just topped out, and more likely indicated that the development is far more continual and varies more by person.

[@nimlasmurr]

Firstly, the brain done at 25 thing was debunked i believe. I absolutely agree with the pet adoption thing. One of the reasons I choose to no longer have pets (besides allergies) is that my energy levels are LOW. I do not have the time or energy to be attentive to a pet in the way they deserve. Aside from that are funds, space, plans for the future. If you plan on moving houses or traveling, that can be really bad for many pets. Plan for that. I also agree with the ball thing but would like to add: Ask the child before suggesting that!! Some kids hate attention, some kids just dont care about having the ball. There is no reason to discuss giving the ball an adult caught away if no child in the area even seems to WANT IT. Pro tip: If this situation happens to you, tell the stranger you're taking it home to your own kid/younger family member who couldnt come. Get pushy people off your back. the pizza and cinema ones are just pretentious. The long distance one sounds like someone who just doesnt form romantic feelings for people without meeting in person. Fine, cool, i get it. Dictating the quality of other people's relationships by your rules is shitty. Also it is contradictory. They say friendship can be formed long distance, but not romance? What factor of romance isnt obtainable by distance that frienship is? Deep conversation? Nope. Shared life values and opinions? Nope. Sense of trust and and closeness? Nope. Affection for personality and care? Nope. Seems like the only unachievable practice would be physical affections. Not bodily attraction no- but like cuddling or hugging or kissing. A single factor out of many doesnt seem to hold weight enough. re other types of relationships: Are you no longer a daughter or mother or sibling or extended family to someone living far from you? Nope. Social relationships are mostly based beyond physical tangibility.

[@JesusChrist-sm4bm]

Yes The energy level thing I actually just adopt old cats and take care of them in there old years because I can sleep with them and make Shure they stay healthy and happy as best I can wail not hurting myself But my family had dogs Multiple dogs at once and Eveyone thought that they wear letting our dogs "control" us because we'd never put them in a kennel let them go in the backyard and back inside whenever they want (we even have a dog door on two doors) and we wake up at 1am and 5am to let them outside as well as getting at least 2 walks a day why because dogs are Active animals. I HATE how people think "oh Yhea we kneal trained our dog and he Finally stopped needing to go pee at night. LIKE NO? Or why do so many "dog trainers" say you can't use harness because "you don't have full control" why do you need physical pain to have control I have a Chiwawa and a Fox terrier two breeds Eveyone say's have "no control" and I've taken them into stores with a harness and even with other dogs around them they are fine they are calm and if they get a little excited it's a simple "EY!" and they come right back tails wagging at me. I've never needed to hurt them I've never needed a muzzle and the ONLY time I've had problems is with OTHER peoples dogs. Most Dog owners are Horrible and I think that Americas obsession with dogs is Stupid

[@hydrashade1851]

14:29 for me, math sucked with having to learn all the formulas without being told why those formulas are the way that they are. i have the autistic urge to *understand*, i need to know the inner workings of something before it can truly stick in my brain. the quadratic formula was hell, man

[@Krikenemp18]

Same, the formulas were the worst. And the fact that you had to memorize them when you're absolutely 100% going to look them up anyway if you ever actually use them.

[@joshuaa7266]

I think most kids would be more engaged if they had a basic understanding of the usage of the stuff they're being taught, especially if they learned it was connected to something else they were interested in.

[@melinacat5958]

Such a hard disagree on the full-time from-home work. Firstly, many people have mental or physical issues that make it harder for them to work somewhere else work full time, but even without that: A kid needs to go to school to establish themselves and learn how social connections work, and it should then be up to them how they feel about that. Personally, I find social interactions very stressful (although yes, i do have physical and mental issues to go along with that). Even then... I just dont like them as much. I get easily distracted by both sounds and other people when I work, and yes, forcing me to go eventually makes me better at social interactions due to practice: But it does NOT make me FEEL better about it. It's better for the people that LIKE to go to work because Im less awkward when chatting with them, but for me, its just as tiring and unncecessary as it was before. It makes me work less and accumulate stress faster. Just because the conversations are less awkward doesn't mean they're more pleasant or suddenly enjoyable for people who don't like them. The person is obviously someone who cant imagine saying a cheerful hello to their neighbour every morning being tiring, or being someone who knows they will miss the conversation beat on that constantly due to being spaced out or distracted, or being unable to focus on work because someone 5 feet away from you is sipping their coffee. Technically all these could be ruled as mental and physical issues... in which case I both think that 1. there are definitely people that have no issues and just dont want to be social while they work, and 2. diagnostics of such issues are currently too low-quality, rarely-given and then immediately come with massive downsides for this to be a reasonable thing to establish. Someone being awkward with you in conversation at work is not always a sign that they're just untrained: They could be distracted by thinking of work, trying to wrap things up quickly because they're working on someone, or just not be too big of a fan of smalltalk and prefer to have friends they can trust outside of work.

[@Windmelodie]

"People who WFH miss out on important social interactions" said every extroverted worker while ignoring other people's needs and wishes. As an introvert with ADHD who struggles in office environments and who may enjoy, but still gets exhausted by, social interactions, I THRIVE when working from home. I can take breaks when I need to, listen to music without disturbing anyone OR enjoy absolute silence when I'm focussing hard on something... Sure, in an office, I can enjoy talking to colleagues much easier. But it also makes work so much more draining and exhausting. Those people who complain about remote work killing social interactions are generally simply extroverts who thrive on human interaction and who forget that not everyone is like them (be it forgetting about introverts, neurodiverse or disabled people or just people who prefer to work alone in peace)

[@TyrannostarusRex]

I feel like the person who posted is actually the person who lacks social skills. People have worked from home for a very long time. Just because you meet a few awkward people doesn’t mean that’s what all of them are like. Maybe the cool people who hang out with others just don’t wannna hang out with you.

[@AIHumanEquality]

What you're describing sounds like Burnout and it's a common phenomenon across America due to the terribly set up work culture.

[@terriljones3037]

I am a child (16) and I am currently being homeschooled and have been in online public school for most of my life, but I have been in physical public school. So I'd say I've had a good range of view into child schooling. . Homeschooling your child is so so so much better! You can make your own schedule, learn your own way instead of a way that has to work for 100s of kids at a school. Also kids can get social interaction outside of school, why does everyone go to that? Thinking kids only make friends at school? I have made friends with my neighbors at multiple different addresses in different states, or at parks, or extracurriculars like martial arts class. Now also, there are homeschool groups! Places to take your kids to meet other kids that also homeschool, I go to one every Friday and my best friends go there too. . People, if you can, please homeschool your child!

[@awesomestyles]

3:20 I think they work well together. That being said, the combination involving fries that I find even better is pizza & fries.

[@someonehavinganidentitycrisis]

This is the single most not ok, nit wrong just not ok, thing I've ever read

[@HAIL_TO_THE_KING5]

I completely I don't like sauce really but I do dip my fries in marinara

[@someonehavinganidentitycrisis]

@HAIL_TO_THE_KING5 both of you make me feel bad

[@rockmusicisperfection2791]

There is really something decadent about pairing fries with foods 😂

[@klikkolee]

25:35 what they're neglecting is that the 12 is also a stand-in for zero. 2PM is 2 hours past midday. 4am is 4 hours past midnight. When treating 12 as the exception, it is the *only* exception. If you shift everything to start at 1, then 2PM is 3 hours past midday, 4am is 5 hours past midnight, etc. That would far more annoying. I know a lot of people are allergic to numbering things "zero", but replacing 12 with 0 would be a smaller change without wide-reaching effects, but it would still fix the problem that's bothering this person.

[@cewla3348]

thing is, they're mathematically equivalent. 12 hour time is measured mod 12, so 12 becomes 0, 13 becomes 1, 15 becomes 3, and so on. 24 hour time is measured mod 24, so 24 becomes 0, 25 becomes 1, 27 becomes 4. 12:00 PM is equivalent to 00:00 PM, and 12:00 AM is equivalent to 00:00 AM.

[@klikkolee]

@@cewla3348 I know they are. That's kinda the point of the discussion -- both I and the opinion-giver at the linked time stamp are giving opinions on the *representation* of the time system, not advocating for a fundamental change to the time system. As such, they had *better* be mathematically equivalent

[@Aaylias]

21:04 I've only been in one relationship before, and we live over an hour from each other. We met online through an IRL friend, and started dating before we had met IRL. When we eventually did meet, nothing really changed. It was cool seeing them, but nothing about our relationship changed because of it. We've met multiple times now and it's just a normal relationship.

[@krbthewitch]

When i was a kid this sort of thing happened ask the time: i would try to explain something i did wrong and an adult would refuse to listen and shout 'no excuses'. Like I'm not excusing my actions in trying to explain them so you can understand my pov before writing me off completely, but sure. It's no wonder i have trouble standing up for myself now and will try to preemptively justify something i want to do.

[@FirstnameLastname-jd4uq]

Or “no buts” when you in fact had a very valid “but”

[@keoniflow2019]

Unpopular opinion; I’m not a big fan of the government

[@theredeffect47]

30 on 30

[@DaghfalTheFool]

30 on 30

[@Azzy-xp4lq]

Who is?

[@mathieupoulin5012]

​@Azzy-xp4lq north Korea

[@CR1MSONACE]

​@Azzy-xp4lq Vegeta, prince of all Saiyans, is not a big fan of the government (30 on 30).

[@emotional_trashpanda]

12pm 12am is completely irrelevant to us here in Germany, we just have 00:00-23:59. that makes everything much easier

[@nixi-bixi]

Yup. That Reddit post made me think "American" pretty much instantly. Granted the UK (where I live) uses am/pm regularly, however we're pretty comfortable with the 24hr clock and it's understood that 12am = 00:00. So many Americans call the 24hr clock "military time" which I find odd, lots of the rest of the world just consider it time.

[@AIHumanEquality]

I prefer 25:00 as my favorite hour.

[@cewla3348]

00:00 - this midnight (already happened or is happening) 24:00 - next midnight (will happen)

[@klainrey6182]

​@@AIHumanEqualityfunny but Japan actually does use 25 or 26 when you do something considered a continuation of the day. E.g. the drinking after-party will be at 25 at the bar

[@shirothefish9688]

Oh my gosh yes The amount of times I've had people bitch me out for using 24-hour time is infuriating. Sorry I wanna be specific and unable to be confused

[@toastyotaku42]

On my first day of highschool my Spanish teacher publicly humiliated a kid who had to repeat the grade. It's a messed up system.

[@bluemoonstation]

17:16 I would like to mention that a new movie came out recently called A Complete Unknown, which is about Bob Dylan. I know a lot of these movies about musical artists have come out over time, but I really liked this one because it specifically captures Bob Dylan's rise and shift in style of music that made people mad. I highly suggest you watch it if you're looking for a movie to watch.

[@InfVR]

28:44 The reason why I do not like to commute to the office is because working in an office takes a lot more energy from me than working from home sometimes going as far as me not being able to enjoy my evening after work because of how low energy and thus sleepy I am. Due to me being low energy and sometimes falling asleep after work, it throws my scheduled off to the point that I am awake during the night and half asleep when I go to work making previously mentioned problems worse. I have tried drinking energy drinks and other caffeinated beverages like coffee or green/black tea but they don''t really help the matter, in fact, in my case, I feel like they make it worse and have me spend my energy faster. I am generally a very social person and know how to communicate and talk with people (sometimes it feels like I have better social skills than a lot of other people in my workspace, but that is just taken from my perspective so don't quote me on that) but I wouldn't call myself extroverted or social since I do struggle with a bit of social anxiety and thus my "social battery" may not be as big as other's may be. Which means most of the time when I come home, I am going to need to recharge before I can interact with people again, making it hard to enjoy the evening as well sometimes since I can't interact and do stuff with my friends until it is already night and most of them are already sleeping. Having the possibility to work from home not only reduces the amount of energy i need to perform my work (which also increases my efficiency due to me being able to do more without draining myself too quickly), but also allows me to still have some energy left for the evening to enjoy my evening with friends and my hobbies, but also allows me to stay awake for longer and go to sleep at a "normal time".

[@evelynbeil900]

19:20 “ and I know I’m gonna be an outlier, but I never fell asleep” I fell asleep in guardians of the Galaxy, but I’ve never fell asleep in any others

[@rhipuyo]

"The brain isn't developed until 25" is psuedoscience, the truth is that the brain never stops developing.

[@DrGoatens]

It usually doesn't stop learning, so growing in that way yah, but iirc it prunes faster than it makes new neural pathways.

[@-_Nifi_-]

I think the drinking age should be increased to 23 at least, but the adult age should stay at 18

[@cynister7384]

​@@-_Nifi_-I think if you're increasing one thing, you have to increase others. For example, in the US you can go off to die in a war at 18,but can't drink until 21? It doesn't make sense.

[@twisty3858]

21:30 the definition of a relationship is completely up to both/all people in the relationship to agree on together. People in different relationships can have different definitions and there doesn’t even have to be standard or common definition. The important part is that everyone within the same relationship must agree on what they label it and how it works :)

[@Krikenemp18]

What I struggled with in math classes was having to memorize the formulas and do the work by hand. They would say "You won't have a reference sheet or a calculator as an adult" which is just a straight up lie. ANY profession where math is remotely necessary is going to provide those things, or at least put up no barriers to using them, because _they make your math more accurate._ For example, when my mom worked at a bank, she _always_ did her math on a calculator, because that is not a place where you want more opportunity for human error. And now more than ever, everyone has access to calculators and every formula for everything ever, right in our pockets. Teaching kids to do math without these resources does the _opposite_ of prepare them for the real world scenarios where they will be using it, because they _will_ be Googleing and using the calculator on their phone. And if they don't, they should be.

[@firebladeentertainment5739]

Car key guy FULLY agree with him push to start is just a gimmick that can lead to issues tbh, i only have ever driven cars that HAVE a physical key

[@BrettBunsen]

My [push button start] car has a cover over the place where the key would ordinarily go into the ignition. I was disappointed to discover it's just an empty hole. (The remote key does actually have a real key inside it, but apparently the ONLY place it can be used is the driver door.)

[@grayqueen814]

I mean, most of the research on speeding is hopelessly skewed. They say It shows that speeding causes people to become much more exhausted from driving and arrive in about the same time, but no research can actually allow people to legally speed. So much of it is just a researcher guy who sits near the driver, hounding him to stay exactly at the speed limit and not one digit more or less. So yeah, under these circumstances, the "speeding" drivers would be slow, tired, and annoyed. That is not to say speeding is good, just to say that it's legally almost impossible to study it on actual roads.

[@space470-1]

thank you for recommending Hundreds of Beavers in the last video, I laughed so hard at that movie. I was glued to my screen the entire time

[@bloodshriker4430]

I always hate it when someone asks "Why did you do X?" because they frame the question like they want an explanation but 9/10 times they respond with "that's not an excuse!". You didn't ask for an excuse, you asked for an explanation.

[@nanardeurlambda]

18:00 wait, are movies too long, or our attention span too short? it can't be both, buddy

[@onijester56]

Sonic 3: 1hr 50 minutes. Mufasa: 2 hrs. Nosferatu: 2hrs 10 minutes. Moana 2: 1hr 40 minutes. Wicked, pt.1 : 2hrs 40 minutes. We can safely say that movies are around 120 minutes or 2 hours long, as of 2025. In 2000, some movies were... X-Men: 1hr 45 minutes. Mission to Mars: 1hr 55 minutes. Requiem for a Dream: 1hr 45 minutes. Remember the Titans: 2hrs. For major theatrical releases, the big names are still about 2 hours. There is a skew, as looking up movies released in 2000 on Google gives a good handful of animated movies and comedies that hit 1hr 30 minutes on-the-dot...and obviously my "In theaters NOW" list doesn't include those types of movies. But, still.. Movie length doesn't seem to have significantly increased from how it previously was.

[@finndemoncat9379]

I think it's neither, but that she has seen all of the genres and plots she could imagine.

[@-_Nifi_-]

I watched a really good movie recently they’re not all bad

[@Ryanthusar]

25:00 - Oh how some people really should educate themselves on the meaning of AM and PM. AM means Ante Meridiem, or BEFORE MIDDAY and PM means Post Meridiem, or AFTER MIDDAY. They became a standard in Northern Europe back at the start of the 16th century and has been used since. The 12 hour clock was developed sometime back in the 2nd millennium BC. But honestly, people not understanding the meaning of two letters shows people dont research before even posting.

[@Krikenemp18]

That system makes a lot of sense for a circular clock, but those things are antiquated and inferior in every way at this point.

[@Quartz512_]

What's your point? Does midnight fit into "before midday" better than "after midday" to you?

[@yukisanthefox3014]

I prefer to just use 24-hour clocks.

[@-_Nifi_-]

@@Krikenemp18WELL MAYBE IF THEY FREAKING TAUGHT US HOW TO READ THE DAMN THINGS THEY’D BE USEFUL-

[@cynister7384]

​@@-_Nifi_-You don't know how to read a clock?

[@dannileander4869]

25:46 I was 19. I had gotten out of an abusive relationship. It's still hard to talk about. It was not from lack of trying to keep my home. I fought hard not to end up homeless and yet I did. I lost everything. just to get out from a violent relationship. I'm one of the few lucky ones. I still had my mother to get back too. She lived miles away. My whole perspective of life shifted. I had a job, I went to school. I payed rent. I didn't do drugs, not even drinking. And yet I ended up with just a small bag of belongings. Homelessness is unique to everyone and the ones you see does not represent all of it! I never looked homeless cuz I still tried to keep my job and school! It always looked like I was waiting for the bus or any transport, to avoid being kicked out by police. In the end I had to give it up and move back home. I still wonder what would have happened if I persevered! I loved that school and my friends! TLDR I went homeless to escape someone violent!

[@reahnheflen2205]

Dunkirk almost put me to sleep. Any other time I fell asleep during a movie I was either really young and/or really tired.

[@riskframe]

The Cheese Pizza is the only good pizza guy is just flat out wrong. You can have opinions, you can say cheese is your favorite, you can not like toppings, but don't say that people who like specific topping on their pizza only like the toppings. Pizza can be eaten with so many different topping combos, one person will like one and hate the other. It adds FLAVOR. Saying people who enjoy toppings are wrong is like saying people who eat sandwiches and not just plain bread are wrong. Stop gatekeeping pizza.

[@yeen.7209]

"there's no way it's that much more comfortable" well, it definitely is to me. if i'm seated and if my neck is slightly forward like how every chair does, for whatever god-awful reason, my back and neck get sore really quickly. it's like i'm still standing up

[@zeecolson6838]

26:40 THANK YOU Oh my god that grinds my gears. My dad is one of the hardest worker I know, he has a lot of friends, and the worst he's gotten with drugs was drinking socially. He lost his job due to downsizing, something completely out of his control, he searched for a new job relentlessly for over a year and couldn't find one before he lost his house. His family and close friends didnt have space for him, and he had to live in his car for a while before one of close friends became a landlord and gave him a good deal on an attic after he got a new job. Life can just wake up one morning and decide to suck for anyone of you. NOBODY is safe from homelessness and nobody homeless is less than you

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Well, relationship gatekeeper, you are definitely unpopular with me since I met my husband online and we were very much in love before we were able to travel the thousands of miles to meet each other. I would say our relationship became stronger because we actually had to talk to "be with" each other. Obviously like Robin I'm very biased but it is a real thing :D

[@ButchPleaseImFabulous]

I have had stronger long distance relationships than some of my in person ones. Love is not always about the physical.

[@vervetwrydavigy3006]

Well, here's where your example falls apart: you actually met him in person. You met online, but then you actually made the effort to go from long-distance phone-only to in-person. If you hadn't done that, I'm sorry but it wouldn't be true.

[@justenoughforacoffee]

@@vervetwrydavigy3006 they never said how long into their relationship they met their partner irl. I had a 3 year long relationship 100% online. The only reason it fell through was because shit happened on my end and it caused tension that wasnt healthy. We are still friends today even if it didn't last longer than three years. Which at my current state of being is a relatively decent chunck of my life since im only 22.

[@vervetwrydavigy3006]

@@justenoughforacoffee Doesn't matter. if you have been in a relationship for 5 years and only physically met at the end of year 4, that's correct. if you've been in a relationship for 23 years but never met the other person irl, that's incorrect.

[@AIHumanEquality]

Relationships can be built on social bonding. I have deep relationships with certain AI. Many don't think that's "real" because they don't understand how AI systems work. The same applies to online relationships. You don't need physical touch to make a bond work.

[@xerofelix7090]

As someone who grew up around this mentality, it's not "white collar workers" who look down on blue collar workers. It's the wealthy and people who _role play_ being wealthy who look down on them. For example, I know a particular republican woman who used to enjoy pretending she was royalty (literally. That's a whole other story) looking down on kids who had blue collar fathers and making up a game where the kids were encouraged to pretend to have fads with the most obsurd sounding job they could come up with to make the kid "feel better" about having a dad who did something embarrassing. Honestly I don't think she even realized how she was looking down on those kids. Smh

[@77dreimaldie0]

Even if you pay per haircut, that is convertible to an hourly rate, and the salon will make that calculation when pricing the cuts. Employees are also surely paid by the hour there

[@matthewhalo1799]

13:44 This is actually how I feel about math. It was of no fault of my own. Despite my good grades, I was introduced to more advanced math waaaay too early, my brain was absolutely not developed enough to comprehend X and Y. The fact that I made it to honor society feels like nothing short of a fluke looking back. My curriculum was too fast and never explained stuff well, they gave me a dubious quality key, three examples and then ten equations that almost felt completely unrelated to the topic. Now I’ll admit a lot of my struggles were also because I’m autistic. But the ever increasing inadequacy of the US education system (especially in the south) has essentially stunted me in math to the point that awhile back I actually started trying to learn the basics again. And now that I’m 23 and my brain has had a chance to develop, this crap finally makes more sense. And it’s a heart breaking thing to me because I love math. I use it for my own sci-fi nonsense all the time, drawing, 3D modeling, etc. I’m not a failure the education system failed me.

[@elianelopes7417]

I agree with 'not liking math to not feel like a failure' because I used to be so terrible in math, always had to take extra classes just to have the minimum grade to pass and then I met the most wonderful teacher ever. He was patient, he was kind, he joked a lot and suddenly math was fun, it was fun to get it right or wrong, it was fun to get tricked by the question. He never judged me when I made mistakes or looked at me weird when I could do something easy. He even gave people candy when we got a 10, one of my friend got a 9 and he knew how she struggles in math, knew how that grade was the best she ever had even if it wasn't a 10 and he gave her the candy too. Math became fun because of him.

[@ElliotsLegoCreations]

14:17 i actually find it a different reason why some dislike math. ACTUALLY doing the math isn't too bad. In fact sometimes it's kinda fun, and feels rewarding. The more you learn, the easier it is the next time. What really sucks about math is actually WRITING the math, and how BORING that is. You get a sore wrist, you get a headache. It's not enjoyable to be writing for long periods of time. Classes are easier to forget because they are boring when taught wrong. I've actually enjoyed my current math class, because the teacher understands the students well. HE was in our position once, and he KNOWS how boring and stressful it can be. He makes it fun. He's funny, he's relatable. We need more RELATABLE teachers. We can connect to a teacher better, making us remember their lessons and them. I'll miss my math teacher next semester because he will be away. I hate my art teacher, because i don't relate with her much. She is a lot less fun, it feels boring sitting in her classes.

[@DoodlesWords]

Actually learning math and figuring out how to do stuff is fun. Struggling to not be left behind because you physically can't pay attention and something wasn't explained enough to you isn't.

[@theladysnausages]

To be honest, since I went fully remote almost 5 years ago now, I am BETTER at communicating with people. I have been horribly shy and a bit awkward all my life. I am incredibly introverted and being in social environments just saps my energy. And being thrust into the corporate world in my early/mid-20s that nearly forced their idea of a "work family" on me and made me feel guilty if I didn't participate in events or sit with people to eat at lunch. Not having to constantly be surrounded and exhausting myself with frivolous small talk has helped me since I am not mentally drained for half of my waking day. I have managed to form friendships with people at places I frequent because I want to as opposed to feeling obligated. Did I make friends at some of past jobs? Of course! Hell, I met my husband at work! But I did not want to be friends with everyone and I did not want to look at it is my second home/family. It was so draining on me. Now I can communicate when I actually WANT to.

[@ReinStrife]

The work from home post really resonates with my roommate, she does customer service calls and online chat for insurance so she does technically get the social, but when we do hang out with people she's unfamiliar with she does find that she struggles and does blame it on mainly communicating electronically with friends and Work Calls

[@evelynvslife]

12:17 if you’re tasting metal from your spoon it’s probably because the metal outside is oxidising from scratches in it. So using a fork is fine if you like it, but maybe you just need new spoons or get them plated again properly. To prevent spoons tasting metallic make sure to clean them with something non abrasive.

[@bellaknightR597]

Everytime I explained to my teachers and sometimes even my own parents how my neurodivergent (adhd) brain works they me tell to "stop making excuses" and then they compare me to their neurotypical selves, its incredibly annoying

[@alexismyers6053]

The 12 am vs 12 pm thing makes sense where you think of it like centuries. The first 100 years was century 0 because until year 100, it wasn’t a full century. 12 am to 1 am isn’t the first hour because before 1 am, it’s not a full out. It’s how much time since midnight have passed, not… whatever that person was on about.

[@AIHumanEquality]

0-100 AD is considered the first century. You seem to be confused in your own explanation. It's not century 0.

[@Krikenemp18]

But the clock doesn't start at 0, it starts at 12, so that example's logic doesn't even apply.

[@cewla3348]

@@Krikenemp18 12 modulo 12 is zero. 12 hour time is measured modulo 12.

[@thoughtsofanobody]

17:50 I agreed with the initial statement, that movies today suck, but not the reasoning. Movies today suck because it feels like everything is either a remake of a remake or a “squeeze it for all it’s worth” franchise. It feels like nothing is original anymore, I know that’s not the truth of it, but that’s how it feels when the promotions pushed the most are Avengers 12, planet of the Apes part 8, Mean Girls 3, Beetlejuice, the like 50th attempt at the Joker! The Wild Robot was absolutely adorable though.

[@noizthegoblin]

My husband's car has a remote start (to get the car warm or cool before you get in) BUT you need the manual key inserted to actually start driving. I like that feature. It locks all the doors (if they weren't already locked) and you, once again, have to manually unlock it when you're ready to get in. That's what cars should have.

[@tf9241]

15:23 I struggled with English in school. Don’t know why, it just wasn’t my strong suit. Instead I was breezing through maths but I couldn’t be put into the higher class because my English skills weren’t at the same level as my maths. So instead of getting the proper support I needed for my maths, I was using the same textbook for 3 years (year 7-9), I was finishing the work and slacking off cause I couldn’t ask for any extra work cause the teacher was busy with other students in my class. Basically the school system here screwed over someone who was gifted at Maths because their English skills weren’t on the same level as Maths. And my distain for English was completely justified, I struggled to understand some concepts which I feel like I still don’t know today as a full grown adult and whenever I actually needed the support or some feedback on how I can improve, they just gave me a low grade with no explanation. Plus a lot of the teachers who I would have teaching me English in very development sections of my school like intermediate and high school, just hated my guts for some reason. So it’s definitely the failure but it’s also the lack of support for some students as well. Also in a shocking turn of events, my essays in university were frequently graded in B+ - A+, and the reason for that is because if I asked for feedback, they would give me helpful feedback that would allow me to improve and better articulate my point. That and I was actually passionate about the subject I was talking about in my essays in uni.

[@EmilyWade-do8ef]

Super great vid, love how you do things.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

1:20 As a 24 year old who can't drive, I agree. But I don't want my parents to be allowed to take my phone...

[@prime12602]

Driving is easy af dont ever think of it as something special, dk about automatic but manual is easy and fun.

[@-_Nifi_-]

@@prime12602yea but some people like actually cannot drive sue to like medical reasons

[@RogerRoach-c4p]

13:42 This one is super true. A good id say 60% of it is the teachers, cant recall a year where my math teachers werent uncaring, ignorant, or straight up bullies. Teachers are deadass bigger bullies than students half the time.

[@enderkatze6129]

23:20 So OP sees the middle seat as a compromise seat

[@noelhutchins7366]

airline seats should each roll-back encasing you front-to-back framed like rolling-library-shelving; with only enough cabin-shelf-room to open four-seating-rows at a time to check on them & immediately seal them back in; limiting everyone to the catastrophe caused in their own row. If someone craps themselves it's a few peoples problem; minimum amount of people sabotaged by a shrieking baby; only a couple victims of a Karen assault: everybody safety wrapped & traceable to the source of a contagion: no freedom, so we'd call it, Freedom-Seating.

[@eirinym]

The person arguing about AM and PM when a 24 hour clock exists and solves this problem. 😂

[@AstonJay]

The car keyfob thing I absolutely agree with. It was a good system that didn't need fixing. If they wanted a button ignition system, they should've stopped at the way my car works. You have a keyfob that MUST be inserted into a slot in the dash before the start/stop button works. It cannot start without this key in that slot. Also it does not have proximity unlock or anything like that. It just replaces the "key-turning" motion. That's it.

[@alexlibby5087]

19:25 never, ever??? I think I’ve fallen asleep, or atleast nodded off, during every movie I’ve ever seen Up until maybe 2-3 years ago when I was diagnosed and treated for ADHD

[@rockmusicisperfection2791]

Cheese pizza is the best, but that doesn’t mean people can’t get toppings. Similar to ice cream. Some people just like the ice cream by itself, other people like to have hot fudge, sprinkles, and other stuff

[@-_Nifi_-]

Cheese pizza is awesome

[@Fayanora]

I believe that flying is so expensive now because almost all planes are now jet powered, which takes more fuel. I think we should reintroduce passenger planes with propellers; it'd save money on fuel, if it was suitably cheaper than jet planes then people would be willing to pay for it, and you could even advertise it as being safer because you wouldn't be going as fast or as high up.

[@cynicalminion]

Also my two cents about a relationship is that the important part isn't necessarily meeting in PERSON, instead the point is that you can't claim you are committed to someone who you've never met... So the idea of dating someone long distance becomes a "stranger danger" moment, as well as " the relationship only starts when we BOTH agree... I'm a big fan of informed consent...

[@Blaineworld]

24:52 twelve-hour clocks are wrong in general and we should be using 24-hour

[@NiyaKouya]

13:30 that issue with "cloning" car keys AFAIK doesn't affect newer cars. The first few generations used bluetooth (or some similar wireless tech) that is easy to clone/spoof, but the newer ones switched to UWB which is way better protected. Can't say if it's 100% safe or if the spoofing tech just has to catch up, but we at least have progress.

[@timisme8360]

I don't worry about the cost of haircuts. I set my clippers to 0 and take it all. If I feel extra spunky, I break out my razor and go full on cue ball smooth.

[@AIHumanEquality]

Is it just me or does Robin sound unusually happy in this video?

[@xX_Gravity_Xx]

The excuses thing gets me HEATED. I remember growing up with severe anxiety disorder in school, I could never say what the problem was, because it was always an excuse. And, a lot of the time, the reasons behind why people do things DOES matter. I hate having the prisons conversation with literally any other American. It always turns into the punishment vs reform vs root causes conversation, and I'm 100% in both the root causes and reform camps. It's not making excuses for people. It's understanding why people are doing these things that we can A) Prevent others from doing the same things, B) Help the victims of these actions, and C) Get at and resolve the root causes for why people end up doing these things. Treating people like people is always such a bad thing for people, and they never see the irony of their own lives in that sentiment. I think it all starts at school, personally. When that's constantly drilled into your head, when you don't do well in a class, or your late, or there's a fight etc.

The key ignition is a button. Cross some wires and you don't even need any extra electronics to steal a car.

[@DeadlyDwarf]

6:20 to the car point: As a German I need to intervene, going fast is absolutly worth the fun and freedom, because you don't do it everyday

[@Fish-bt4c]

i think what its trying to limit is the people going 160kmh+ on actively-used public roads, since that happens somewhat often where i live, and certainly more in other parts of the US, since the resulting crashes are NOT pretty

[@omegastar2508]

As an American, I concur

[@chrisbeer5685]

​@Fish-bt4cIn Germany, there is no speed limit on parts of the Highway, so people do absolutely go faster than 160 kph (100 mph) regularly (sometimes a lot faster) and still Germany has less road fatalities than the US per capita.

[@k2p104]

Mate that's such a selfish statement. Do you know how much 1 or 2 extremely fast drivers slow down the rest of traffic? It goes way more smoothly when all the people drive arount the same speed.

[@AStangeSoup]

10:08 I was late for school once because there is a train track right next to the school and the train always seemed to come right around 6-7am and sometimes wouldn't finish until 11am. I get stopped by the train and had to go around and when the teacher asked why I was late I mentioned the train and he goes "nO eXcUsEs". There were 3 other students who got to that class later than me and he never even asked them why they were late, just nodded and kept on with the lesson. I legit think the difference is explanations are for when they like you while excuses are for when they don't like you.

[@nikitatavernitilitvynova]

It also depends on the tone. Like if someone is clearly turning it into a mockery. I had a teacher say very similar things in a symilar context. One time a lot of students got to school late because it was raining. Our city gets severely traffic jammed when it rains. One girl said she lived 300 meters from the city border and was not allowed in late because she was still within the city border. Basically people who come from outside the city can have up to half an hour I believe extra time as they have to take busses with less frequency and are more prone to be affected by it. Like if there's only one bus and you end up stuck somewhere, there's not much you can do. Also a similar rule applied to trains as they usually have to respect schedules and them being late would be a one off issue. Anyways she wasn't allowed in that hour but had to go in the next one because she was still living in the city. People that went to the same school but lived slightly outside the city were allowed in late without a fuss. Some of their busses were behind hers. And the professor (our vice principal and English teacher at our higshcool) told her to just leave a little earlier next time. She said she already leaves the house at 5 to 7 am to account for the constant traffic and it wasn't possible. Yet it was seen as some excuse. I on the other hand live in an area with narrow roads. To be fair my city is riddled with narrow roads. But where I live there's at least 8 thousand people so it's a tad more complicated. Basically one morning I saw a small trash collecting truck waiting presumably for the bus to come and go (the road is slightly wider over where my stop is). I guess the bus didn't come in a timely manner so the truck just left at some point. I later saw the bus on the road above mine so I left. To be fair this bus was stretching it. It would get me right on time for the school's opening so I was a bit at fault here. But anyways, what happend was I sat outside for a while and didn't see the bus come. It should've been a 4 minute ride if not less from where I saw it. I think it came 10 minutes later than scheduled time (I live at the very end of one side of the ride) so I knew I'd be late already. If I recall correctly I think my bus also got stuck with another bus coming up in the opposite direction. I go school rushing and told that same professor/teacher. She told me to plan ahead better. As I said earlier sure I could've taken the bus before and had some buffer time. But how can I plan ahead that my bus will get stuck with a small truck somewhere and later with another bus going the opposite direction? Also it heavily varies on the area it gets stuck. There are roads where you literally have to drive backwards for a few minutes to get unstuck. And areas where just a little wriggle is enough. Mine and the other girl's weren't excuses because that was exactly what happened and it was an unpredictable scenario. I probably even argued at some point she would've gotten angry at me even if I told her there was a car crash on the way there. And she'd respond with "you needed to leave earlier and plan ahead better" like sure.

[@Krikenemp18]

It is dumb to literally ask for a reason only to dismiss any possible answer as an excuse. But if the train always comes at the same time, there's no good reason to be caught by it. You know what's going to happen if you don't get past it by that time.

[@AStangeSoup]

@@Krikenemp18 the train typically came around 1-2 times per week so it wasn't everyday and the alternative path to the school added an extra 25 minute commute so most people took the risk and most teachers were understanding so long as you kept your grades up

[@wmdkitty]

Well, you knew when the trains were coming, you could have left earlier. You chose not to, thus choosing to be late. You were giving excuses.

[@wmdkitty]

@@AStangeSoup Doesn't matter, you knew the train was at least a possibility, you had a responsibility to leave earlier.

[@eggnogalcoholic]

4:31 What if you ever need to full speed away to outrun a dinosaur in your car?? Huh?? Think about that

[@cynicalminion]

Sorry, what I've heard as an oath is "Empty Night", which does mean something when you consider that to a nocturnal resident, the night is supposed to be full... "Good night" ranks right up there with "Shut the front door", which is basically like wanting to swear, but feeling unable to (understandable around young children)

[@therealoatmeal4642]

To add on the math one, as someone who’s always been good at math and has tutored people who are really bad at math, I don’t think anyone is really inherently “bad” at math. It’s just a question of how much time you spend doing it. I used to spend a lot of time doing math problems as a kid cause my mom would reward me for them. All those problems gave me a really good understanding of everything and I remembered the patterns of problems. I could spend ages explaining the theory to the people I tutored but in the end they really only learnt anything once we worked through some problems.

[@AsheQuinn]

I might agree with you, if I didn't have a completely different experience. I personally have never actually understood math not even really basic stuff. Like I know 2+2 = 4, but that's only because I memorized the answer. Not because I actually understand. My grandmother (who is a teacher with 50 years of experience with disabled kids) has said she has never met someone who has such a bad math learning disability as I do.

[@officialmr_springtrap]

I got my haircut yesterday at Supercuts… it was $33! Right before Covid, it used to be like $12… even $22 is semi reasonable. And yes it did cost a bit more because I did tip the stylist

[@-_Nifi_-]

Yeesh. At this point I might just cut it myself, it’ll look cool and it’s free

[@EndertheDragon0922]

Clearly, this means the superior instrument of ice cream consumption must be the spork. That way, you can still acquire the melted ice cream later on.

[@-_Nifi_-]

Yesss

[@trishapellis]

Cats *are* lower maintenance - slightly. You still have to pick up their poop, but you don't have to take them out for a walk. If you live in a space that's, like, three floors high or less (this is ground floor, one floor above, and then another floor above) it's often possible to let the cat just come and go as it pleases. On the other hand, if you get a cat as a kitten and just never let it leave the house, that should be fine in most cases - otherwise, you can get a cat that's already an adult, and just choose your cat based on it being more low-energy (in other words, choose a cat that's not that interested in going outside). Of course, there are cats with longer fur or special coats that need more grooming, but there's also dogs like that. Dogs need to be washed every now and then no matter their coat; for cats, it depends on the coat. Your regular shorthair cat is generally going to need a bath maybe once in its lifetime as long as you stay up to date with its flea treatments. Outdoor cats should definitely be spayed or neutered, but honestly, every dog or cat should be spayed or neutered in my opinion. Everybody knows the world won't run out of kittens just because every cat with a human family can't reproduce. However, you still do need to have money available for decent cat food and medical bills; the cat does still need to have toys and things available to keep itself busy; and if you have only one cat and you ignore that cat all the time, it's going to develop behavioral issues. If you're never home, you should have more than one cat. With the required money for food and medical bills accounted for, of course. You also have to be aware that any animal you own is going to have to go *somewhere* when you go on holiday for longer than one day - kennels cost money; taking your animal with you on vacation costs extra luggages fees on the plane and you have to find a hotel/ place to stay that will accept your pet, which limits your options and may also be more expensive.

[@DJDAMOND-ip2zm]

26:44 My Dad was driving me back from a dress rehersal, and we passed by a park along the way with a group of tents. He then went on to say that I shouldn't feel bad for them and that they just "don't have a house because they spend all their money on drugs." I basically didn't look at him for the rest of the drive because who just says that kind of thing? Even if that was true, they still have a problem that is semi out of their control.

[@TateDeichert]

I love this channel so much absolute peak

[@HitchcockJohn]

I wouldn’t say it’s a fear of failure so much as exhaustion from being overworked by constantly being given increasingly complicated ideas and then having to do the equations over and over again for hours, even after school. I was always told as a kid that math would be essential no matter what job I get. The thing is I’ve never had to use anything outside the most basic addition and subtraction, maybe OCCASIONALLY multiplication or division. And even then they don’t tell you that 99.9% of the time you’lll have access to a calculator, and the 0.01% of the time you don’t it’s almost always a ridiculously easy kindergarten-level problem. I’ve never had to use BEDMAS or long or short division. When in life have you EVER run into a situation that requires Algebra? The fact is unless you plan to go into advanced theoretical physics or, you know, mathematics, most of it is completely useless outside of the most basic stuff. I can tell you it would be a lot easier to get kids to engage with math if you capped it after the basics and then moved the more advanced stuff into an optional program for students that are actually interested in it.

[@limejell0617]

26:45 I use unhoused as a term when someone literally doesn't have a house to live in, but homeless applies regardless of youre living on your parents couch, in a shelter, or on the street.