being an introvert

hello lovelies, today I'm doing another chatty get ready with me while talking about being an introvert 💓
s o c i a l m e d i a
twitter: / missmareadsalot
instagram: www.instagram....
goodreads: / emma
tumblr: / missmareadsalot

[@heidibechard]

I think that’s why a lot of people who are introverts love to read. We are able to make those connections without the anxiety.

[@emmmabooks]

i totally relate to 100% being an introvert but enjoying spending more time with people lately!! i know for me, i've been trying to allow myself to spend more time out with friends and it's been really really wonderful. i do need my alone time still but it feels more balanced with time spent with loved ones and i am really enjoying it!! i think we've discussed this before but i am also an infj hahah but yes i totally totally know what you're talking about!! xx

[@emmagreenily]

another infj girl! 😍 we're so rare. it's so nice to hear from an introvert who still loves being with friends like me. it definitely does feel more balanced to me too, to allow for time with people AND alone time!

[@momotozaki]

I'm an introvert too! Where's the INFJ squad, guys? 🙋

[@tessavery2151]

Yeah! Introverts unite!🌹

[@emmagreenily]

💪🌹🌹

[@BaileeWalsh]

I am also the type of person who loves to connect to people and to have deep conversations with people. I'd rather skip any sort of "small talk" that happens when you usually first meet someone, but sometimes it's hard to go straight to more meaningful things with someone I just met.

[@maureenkeavy]

Also I am very in the middle of introvert and extrovert and I go back and forth, but I definitely need my alone time. I’ve found that I get more exhausted when I feel like I need to “perform” but when I’m with people I can let my hair down around, I leave those interactions fulfilled.

[@emmagreenily]

I totally relate to that, and having that time with those "safe" people is so important to me!

[@simplifiedjayn]

I feel the same about my makeup. The eyeliner pulls the whole look together! This video is something I needed. I feel like a lot of the time I avoid social interactions because I’m so introverted but when I’m surrounded by people I love I feel better.

[@ChristyLou]

I definitely feel you on this. I know I am an introvert, but I find myself wanting to be with my good friends more and more. But being with them doesn't really cause any distress, they are comfortable and safe. It's being in crowds or around a lot of new people (or at work) that gets me exhausted.

[@kawarry]

have you heard that INFJ is the uncommon type of personnality with only 3% of the population? we are special

[@emmagreenily]

I did know that! it's why I'm always so surprised and happy to hear that so many of you are INFJs too :)

[@GwendolynKensinger]

I am also INFJ and I heard it's the uncommon personality but I have honestly seen so many INFJ here on KZbin and Instagram. Maybe we just find each other?

[@saminaakhter7230]

kawarry same

[@amy6610]

I love this video and I 100% agree with everything you said! I used to use my introverted-ness as an excuse to not go out/go home early, but then I would be sad when I missed out on things. In the last few months to a year I've really made the effort to spend time with the people I love and NOT cut our time together short when I feel like my social battery is all used up. I realized my social battery isn't really a thing when I'm around the people I love, and spending time with them is sometimes better than being alone! But I loved this video and I'm so happy to see someone else talk about things I relate to so much!!

[@thisstoryaintover]

I completely relate to being an introvert but being energized when around loved ones (my closest friends and my sisters can give me more energy than a whole night alone sometimes). But I also find that since I'm an introvert, rather than going easy on myself, I keep thinking that I have to push myself to be more open, to go out and interact with more people, and recently I've been trying to be kinder to myself and give myself a moment to breathe if I need it. As always love these chatty videos xx

[@katfeelsdaily]

Same, Miss. I love deep conversations anď connecting to people despite being an introvert. Yeah, we always live for our alone time. 🥰

[@JulEnglefaris]

There's like 4 people in my life that aren't energy vampires. Even so, I LOVE BEING ALONE

[@briseydareyes351]

You listen to sleeping at last!!!!!!! ME TOO 😆😆😆

[@jenna-in8qg]

I relate to this a lot, I’m more in the middle of being an introvert & extrovert. I really love talking to people but I also like being alone or just with family. I’m so glad I found your channel, I feel like I relate to you a lot & I love books also, so thank you! I think also I get bad anxiety when I’m with people, regardless if they’re friends or not. I have moments where I think all of my friends & love ones hate me, I know they don’t but I can’t help but think that.

[@hannahlynn6013]

i love this discussion! i'm also an infj, but throughout this entire year i've been becoming more and more outgoing and social and it makes me feel almost as energized? it's so weird and cool and it's great to know that this happening to other people too.

[@emmagreenily]

ahhh exactly! i love hearing from other people experiencing this too

[@TheWordN3rd]

I've learned to guage how much emotional energy a person requires from me. I have friends that I can spend most of my time around and not need a break (they also happen to be introverts). They tend to be these ones o know the best. People I don't know well tend to require the most energy.

[@burninembers]

Yess i understand the struggle! Especially when i started like pushing myself in a self-growth way and, just like you said, I didnt know when it was just an excuse or actual need for a break 😅

[@StarstruckFerSure]

I stumbled across this video after seeing you post a lovely tweet for Monica’s birthday. Wanted to say thank you so much for posting this. You’ve definitely put my thoughts into words while giving me some perspective. Really trying to find that balance with anxiety like you said and opening up/pushing past it. Sadly I have bunch of health issues that really heighten my body and nervous system which isn’t helping the anxious feeling, but seeing this reaffirms that I agree. Miss being around people and the right people can definitely energise you, should push myself more. Thank you. :) Going to check out Atlas too!

[@AshleyOutpaged]

Omgsh I love Sleeping at Last and I had no idea they created songs for each type?? M i n d B l o w n

[@emmagreenily]

RIGHT?? it's v cool 👏

[@saminaakhter7230]

~~How rare and beautiful it is that we even exist~~

[@RachelHS825]

To me, being introverted can mean that you don’t necessarily hate socializing in general, but that you prefer (and are actually energized by!) socializing with people on a deeper level. Like family and long time friends, just having more meaningful and deep connections. Whereas socializing too much with people on a purely surface level, making small talk with strangers, etc is much more draining!

[@crunchyhufflepuff8308]

i really loved the things you talked about as an introvert and i could relate to a lot of what you said :) i personally also get really, really energized around my friends, but even if i'm still around them, after a couple hours, my energy can drain out. also an infj and your video has motivated me to take the enneagram test 💞💞

[@TundraTomes]

you're such an insightful and wise person that i really connect with. i love watching these types of videos from you--you're what i want my channel to grow into.

[@laurengroves663]

SLEEEPING AT LAST!!!!!!!

[@alenemarie1726]

I love your chatty makeup videos 💖 they are so lovely and nice! I’m also usually such an extrovert but as I’ve gotten older I’m become more of an ambivert. My depression also generally makes me feel more subdued, but I HAVE to talk and be around people and have experiences with them to feel fulfilled.

[@KelseyReads]

I just absolutely loved everything you had to say about introvertedness. It really resonated with me! Also, yay enneagram! It’s so powerful. I’m a six 😊

[@michaelastevens8503]

Loooovveee Sleeping At Last!! 😊

[@fictionalives]

i struggle with the balance of how much alone time and social time really works best for me as well! loved this discussion!

[@RobbyReads]

AH I loved this!!! You're so insightful and I like hearing about how you're growing and learning and all that :) Inspo!!

[@emmagreenily]

Aw thanks friend!!

[@caseylynn_]

Emma, you should read the poem "How to Love Your Introvert" by Kevin Yang. It's an excellent poem!

[@halcyonnoro7659]

This was such an interesting video! When I was growing up until like a year ago? I always labelled myself an introvert because I liked nerdy things and like staying inside reading and I had some social anxiety around large groups of people and I never really connected with my family but as I've grown I've realised that I'm actually more of an extrovert! This is mainly because I moved away from home for university and the mix of, not having my family around all the time as a source of social interaction and growing into my own person made me realise that I love hanging out with people and feel terrible if I don't interact with people and especially friends on a daily basis but I'm still quite quiet and stay inside so I really have to push myself to get out and interact with people! Whilst I do appreciate my alone time the best version for that for me is being around other people as we both do various tasks, I've had some friends stay over and the times that I've been studying whilst they've been watching videos is the best thing to recharge from deep conversations and having your own space even though I'm still like with people? But yeah the process of like steadfastly believing that I was an introvert and using that as an excuse to avoid interacting with like my family or friends outside of school to realising that I actually more extroverted and really need that social interaction has been interesting and I'm still growing and understanding myself but yes this video was super interesting and I loved it!

[@TheCraftBin]

I’m very much so an extrovert. I talked A LOT. But I super loved how you talked about how you like to have deep connections with people and talking about dreams and fears and stuff. I was at an amusement park recently and I re-realized how much I love humanity. People are just so lovely. Which is hilarious, because I wouldn’t expect an amusement park to be somewhere that would reawaken a love for humanity. But I did a lot of people watching and saw some beautifully stupid, cute things, and over heard some beautifully stupid, cute things and have made a decision: everyone should people watch because it would make everyone love humans a little more. Because as much as humans can be awful, we’re also pretty darn cute and funny and beautiful and man, humanity is great! Okay, that’s my random rant that I thought you may enjoy. I love your videos, you seen like the sweetest, must genuine person ever! ❤️ Have a good day!

[@maryvandehei]

I love these videos. Clicked instantly.

[@emmagreenily]

yayy i'm glad you enjoy :)

[@reem.k6075]

I’m an INFJ too !! So happy that we have the same type of personality 💕💕 you have a beautiful soul and i find your videos so relaxing and refreshing 🍃💛

[@karenkoutsoumbaris6308]

Thankyou for sharing this video, very important , you are so very special Emma and so young and lovely! All so true

[@spaceykid]

You look like a princess ✨

[@HollowMoonReads]

I'm an "antisocial" introvert. I'm so envious of people who can be performing extroverts for jobs or social situations :...(

[@withloveanto]

this video is soooo important! thank you Emma

[@emmagreenily]

💕💕💕

[@IvyGirl22]

Loved this video. I'll definitely check out the Sleeping At Last playlist! I'm an INFP and a 6 on the enneagram. My favorite thing is sharing the same space with the people I love, but not having to constantly talk or interact because we're comfortable with each other

[@kendray8698]

Those enneagram songs are amazing. I’ve been sending them to friends whenever their number pops up. It is amazing how theblyrics really do connect so deeply with each person. I’ll have to listen to his podcast! (Enneagram 2/ISFJ/HSP)

[@emmagreenily]

hello fellow HSP

[@kendray8698]

I just took the Myers Briggs again after your instagram story poll and got INFJ. I wonder if becoming a mature person emotionally made the letter flip from S to N. 🤔

[@nathanielaberteh6736]

Thank you for sharing this video.

[@leilagagnon5294]

I love sleeping at last too!!! And your video has been refreshing, as an introvert.

[@memnoch1974]

My wife doesn’t understand that the simple thought of how much interaction I am expected to do in a social setting drains me. 🤔. Our Thanksgiving this year wasn’t a hit with everybody else - I just was completely spent and I did not have the energy/interest in being social. My social spurts are with a select few and for a few minutes and I am good as an introvert. This amazes my wife (she is an extrovert). 😄

[@frede.reads.frantically]

So cool to see someone else who's an INFJ 😊

[@brooklynnnnereads]

Loved this chat, great video!

[@hibaz5157]

You're so pretty Emma❤

[@maureenkeavy]

ENNEAGRAM FOREVER AND EVER AND EVER.

[@tiredhopeless2146]

you have a super sweet voice aw

[@witchyhomemaker]

I've literally been watching all of your videos today while I'm working and I'm so glad there's a new one today as well! Hahaha. I'm also an introvert, haha.

[@emmagreenily]

aww haha! hello fellow introvert

[@katelynfields2345]

I've been more social this year than I have in my entire life and I'm learning a lot about my limits as an introvert. I think the enneagram test is fascinating! I'm a 2.

[@emmagreenily]

it's so nice to test those limits and learn what's helpful for yourself!

[@wrighty321go]

Introverted and INFJ I definitely don't go out much really but I am preparing myself for going to university next year after two years of being homeschooled just the thought is overwhelming but I am going to be testing my limits of social interactions as I'm working on a boat in Italy for three and a half weeks starting on Sunday. So I've decided that if I can do that all the people at university should be fine. I rarely choose to go out and see people even my friends but I don't think I make excuses for it due to me being introverted as I did the exact same for years before knowing I was an introvert.

[@rebecabeza]

I agree that, although I am an introvert, I don't enjoy anything else that being with my family and my best friends. I definitely need to work out a better balance for myself because I think I don't spend enough time with my closest friends.

[@redreadinggirl86]

Being an INFJ is kind of hard for me. Few months ago, I was in my 4th semester of college and that whole semester, I was in the mood of hanging out and basically opening up to people that's close to me (same like you). But, I don't know why, I felt like, those people kind of got annoyed by me. Every time I tried to have a conversation with them, it just ended up pretty bad. I kept trying, but it didn't work out. So yeah, I thought being an INFJ kind of related to this? (because we INFJ are different?). Sorry if I'm not making any senses😅. And basically, what I was trying to say is, few months ago, I felt so similar to what you feel. Being around people and talked about things and life. But seeing what happened that time, I don't think I'm good at having conversations😅. Also, sorry again if my english is bad because it's not my first language but I still want to share something in here😊

[@mireillek2841]

Notification squad, this is a very cool video that I relate to because I’m an introvert too! 😊

[@jasareader5580]

I love your vids and have always related to a lot of things you say so I also took the Myers-Briggs personality test and guess what? I'm an INFJ too 😂

[@emmagreenily]

There's so many INFJs here 😍

[@ida8226]

introvert here as well! yay! i love the enneagram as well it’s just so deep and there’s so much to learn about hahaha (im a four btw yayyy)

[@TheHitchhikersGuide]

I never know which enneagram number I am. I am always 7w8 or 8w7. 😂 I'm not an introvert, though I really understand you & kinda feel the same (meeting people is not draining for me but I need a lot of alone time). I like that even though we have really different personalities, I always agree with you and understand you. It feels like even if we are completely different people, we are kinda similar at the same time. It's interesting! 😊

[@emmagreenily]

That is so interesting! I love connecting to people who are totally different personality types ☺️

[@Joshuarcade]

I think you’re a fun loving person. just started making my vlog, do you use any special program to clip/trim your videos?

[@bookpedia]

Hi Emma! This video was so relatable for me hhaha. I also wanted to ask you if you would ever consider doing a "boyfriend does my makeup" or something like that =)

[@emmagreenily]

maybe someday! but i'm actually not dating anyone at the moment :)

[@bookpedia]

=)

[@madelynhanes5759]

I definitely relate to this video a lot :) I’ve been able to retain my energy for much longer recently, but I think it’s more because I’ve been pushing myself to go out more. Also, I’ve been really wanting to get into sleeping at last, but I just don’t know where to start, is there an album/any songs you’d recommend?

[@n475ch3]

Ambivert and INFJ over here ✊

[@vanessaajohn]

Great video, also sounds like you are an Aquarius

[@emmagreenily]

haha I am an Aquarius

[@vanessaajohn]

missemmareadsalot same! I related to a lot of what you said

[@paperbacklaura8967]

Have you ever read anything by Brene Brown? I have one of her books on vulnerability waiting for me on my shelf 🔥

[@momotozaki]

Which test is Emma talking about? Does anyone know? I'd like to do it. 😊

[@belenfernandez2021]

Hi, Emma! I love your videos, and I'm an introvert too! I noticed you mentioned the topic of vulnerability and I was wondering if you have ever read any book by Brene Brown. She tackles the issue in such a relatable way and her books are so helpful and inspiring! Anyway, I hope you have a lovely day 😊

[@emmagreenily]

I haven't read any of her books, but i'll be sure to look it up 😊💓

[@adriapoynter512]

I’m an INTP

[@hakancevikel7368]

i am ambivert.

[@eglathren]

Maybe you're an ambivert with more tendency to the introvert side? :) Not trying to dismiss your own analysis, but trying to provide you with more tools to look at yourself.