Emotional Intimacy: Expressing Feelings and Emotions in Intimate Relationships

[@mariaa.confortimswlcsw4193]

I am a licensed therapist and I don't think I have ever seen a more simple, easy to understand explanation of this concept. I would love to see a video about finding the courage to approach a partner about discussing and trying this, what to do when the first attempts fumble and how to stay hopeful to trust the process. I will be sharing your work with my clients. Fantastic work, thank you for making this available and accessible, and honestly, bonus that it is a man explaining it. :)

[@mariaa.confortimswlcsw4193]

Pebbles Bambam nope totally normal check out the work by brene brown she says joy is scarier than anything. for a very interesting reason.

[@kuneeyakanna9041]

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[@Ta-Tchou]

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[@vesnastankovic7542]

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[@samisalloum8154]

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[@YLS8763]

While he is selling a product, i have to admit he gives great advice right off the bat without even the slightest whiff of bullshit. His methods have proven effective to me. And honestly for my relationship it worked like magic. As soon as you and your parnter open up the gateways of pure emotion, there’s immediately a foundation of trust, importance, and intimacy laid out as you do. My poor girl and i have been going through some rough times and somewhere along the way she stopped communicating her emotions with me. Which had the complete opposite effect of the former. We went through many small arguments but the big ones really made us go “wow okay it affects you this much” and it just pushed that emotional barrier right the fuck down. Always share your emotions. Because if you dont you start feeling restricted. And restriction leads to distrust and distrust leads to disconnection and well it only gets worse from there... you just dont want to be there. But once we both finally communicated to each other, the impact was so incredibly strong, this majestical feeling of just pure awesomeness washed over me and saturated me with joy. We finally understood each other again. We felt for each other again. Because we learned how to. Obviously my advice is not to get into an argument whenever you can. My advice is to not give up. Even when things look their darkest, there’s still a chance for the light to shine through. If you’re in arguments often, just know that they are necessary and they are stepping stones to a better understanding of each other. For our situation, it was the perfect storm. Neither of us want to be there again and i have a feeling we’ll be more in tune with each others emotions than ever before. Remember folks, dont give up. Just give it time

[@martinneely]

Took a while to find a decent video on connecting with emotions. This is excellent! Thank you. I'm going straight to your website now.

[@yarelyscampos9315]

Kudos for the video content! Excuse me for chiming in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you considered - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (probably on Google)? It is a good one off product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my best friend Jordan finally got cool results with it.

[@chanendlerbong3262]

Putting your emotions into words and sharing. Saying it out loud and expressing your feelings and needs. Thank you so much!

[@cristivoss976]

Ty Bruce, I did this yesterday and it worked. It also helped my emotional walls to come down that the pain builds. But yes, doing this WORKS folks. May not be what you hope to get, but yet it might. Worked for me the other day.

[@erunstoppable1174]

Thank you so much for opening the idea of emotional intelligence to me. Now I understand how to become more intimate which is the most difficult yet important part of a relationship.

[@cristivoss976]

Agree

[@TheJonbonesjones]

I wish I had known this earlier before my first relationship ended. I was with my first girlfriend and I got her by being a nice guy and a gentleman. I was very kind to her and I showed her that I cared and she eventually got into a relationship with me because of this. Early on, we did share about our pasts and open up to each other. However, after she opened up to me about the reason for her seasonal affective disorder (SAD) I thought I knew everything about her and I stopped asking how about her feelings and emotions unless I actually saw that she was sad. I continued to do nice things for her and take care of her through her moments of depression and I thought she loved me more for that. After winter ended, her depression stopped and I stopped strengthening our emotional connection. This was my first relationship so I didn't really understand what I needed to do to keep a long lasting and healthy relationship. She seemed happy so I didn't really change anything. When we talked, it would usually be small talk or about our daily routines. I didn't really have deep and meaninful conversations with her anymore, but I thought it was fine because she seemed happy and she never told me otherwise. That's why I was so shocked and hurt when she told me she had developed a crush on my "close friend" (housemate). I had let them smoke and hang out together. I guess they both bonded and shared that emotional connection that she wasn't having with me anymore and that caused her to develop feelings for someone other than me. I still loved her and wanted to be with her so I asked her to try forgetting about him. She agreed and told me that she loved me. However, a week or two later I discovered that they had been texting each other behind my back and that she was planning on leaving me to go be with him. I was so hurt because I had been so trusting of them both and they completely betrayed my trust. I was so hurt because I thought she loved me more than I loved her. I was so hurt because I never thought she could do something so painful to someone who she claims to love and care about. I just wish I had known before that to build a long lasting healthy relationship I would need to continue strengthening emotional connection. I'm so depressed and I wish I could go back in time to change that about our relationship despite everything she's done to hurt me.

[@barlinfarah6170]

TheJonbonesjones I read your story and I am truly sorry about what has happened to you. By the looks of it, you are a great person and you have done a fantastic job in your relationship... be happy just because of that and know that what you did was ENOUGH. No point in wishing different. Everything happens for a reason. You WILL find a amazing lover that DESERVES you. Look forward to that, don’t be depress about someone who does care about you. Get excited about your future.

[@khadijafayyaz6184]

Reading your story shows that you are an amazing human being and did your best. I do understand the hurt though. But everything will work out fine (if it hasn't already)

[@toteknowledge]

THANK YOU. I could not recognize my emotions & communicate them to her, this helped a lot.

[@chaoticimpulse]

I always have a hard time understanding people who cant identify their emotions, Im very in tune with mine.

[@hearrtsodarrk]

I've watched all your youtube videos on this channel a handful of times now. I'm in a long-distant serious relationship with a smart adorable man who is also strong willed, stubborn and who has severe inner-conflict stemming from the relationship with his parents. On top of that he's either going through a hard battle within himself (depression perhaps I'm not completely sure because I am not there as much as I wish I could be and he shares very little) or another possibility is that he is developing schizoid personality disorder or at least a superficial forum of it. Coincidentally (after watching the #1 gift video) I do and have pointed out positive intentions of both his mother and father. He had a distant, unstable relationship with his mother and then at some point felt he had no other choice or he had to distance himself from her and grow up with his father. As an adult he has rationalized that his mother had diagnosed mental instabilities and has come to terms with it but in my opinion (just by the way he talks about her sometimes) that the hurt and wounds are still there. His father...is a hard-ass mans-man stereotype to the T, from what I have heard, situations, quoting conversations and objectively observing his father he is metaphorically a loaded gun walking around blowing holes in people. He displays minimal to no affectionate gestures, he's hostile, tense and when he interacts with anyone at all it's either him telling them what to do, insulting them or tearing them down, criticizing or just flat out mentally/verbally abusive. I'm a "Hail-storm type" in the relationship in fact it's a rare occasion I don't confront and get up in someone's face and when I saw his father for the first time when I was waiting in my car outside I thought to myself, "Oh f**k that, I'm not approaching that guy." So now that you have background, my question is....I've shared these links with my boyfriend, when I ask what he thinks or if he had a chance to watch them he never acknowledges my question. Part of it is because I think he's resenting me for trying to encourage him to share his feelings and to be more open with me. Even occasionally when I feel I've had a breakthrough and he acknowledges that my suggestions could be potentially beneficial for him as well as the relationship, days...or weeks go by and any attempts on his end cease and although I continue trying he just withdrawls even more until I stop and he will then slowly come back out of his schizoid episode. More or less our main problem in our power struggle I'm trying to convince him to open up and he's not having it. So what do I do then?

[@debragrigio1495]

Love every word you said, great content, thanks you

[@PoyoWater]

I wish I knew about this earlier! My girlfriend and I broke up two weeks ago after dating for almost 2.5 years (2 years living together). I failed to do this with her and that is why we broke up (there were other issues as well such as my anger and lack of open communication). I wish she gives me a second chance.

[@012345678910306]

I got a panic attack at step 4

[@neoadviser8056]

Appreciate video content! Excuse me for chiming in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my mate finally got excellent success with it.

[@tonylars4128]

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[@tonylars4128]

Great Video clip! Excuse me for chiming in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a google search)? It is a good one of a kind guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some great things about it and my BF at last got cool results with it.

[@thanhphongtran9808]

Appreciate video content! Apologies for butting in, I would love your thoughts. Have you tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a good exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my friend after many years got excellent success with it.

[@kyrareneeLOA]

So clear!! My father has no emotional intelligence, and rage and screams.... I do not live there, but visit once a year. I try to be really stable before I go there.

[@thandekangwenya8371]

Feel so emotional watching this

[@MsYouANDREATube]

WHAT IF YOUR PARTNER SHUTS DOWN AND FALLS ASLEEP WHEN YOU FINALLY DO OPEN UP AND SHARE? IS IT BECAUSE THEY CANT HANDLE IT OR DONT KNOW HOW?

[@britneyb8876]

Andrea Urias LMT omg this is my problem

[@jamiethegemini5409]

People would be surprised what a hug would do early on...

[@AnthonyL0401]

Unless you use hugs as a form of manipulation...

[@gratitude5740]

How can I do this when I’m in a long distance relationship?

[@rubymendez388]

Thank you!

[@1977linda1977]

Can you do a video which goes over more examples of things you might ask your partner for (to help soothe an emotional state) and how to ask it? I can identify my emotions but, historically, would just ignore the emotion and focus my energies on fixing the problem on my own. This causes problems since my partners tend to feel shut out and disregarded. The fact that I'm now FEELING emotions is overwhelming for me and I don't know what to do with them or what to ask my partner to do. So further examples that I can have at my ready can help.

[@hemipee9827]

Thank you, i needed this…. My wife says i have no emotions and that is sad, i an learning how to change that cuz this lady is the love of my life. That connection use to be like hi speed internet now its like dial up. And i dont want that. Thank you for the advice.

[@DailyDoseOfMigue]

This litrally answered all my questions.... wow.

[@Skaylar.fashion]

I tried this when i felt he is not attention to my feelings and our relationship but he had no specific reaction. I realized that he is not interested in me as i wanted to be

[@xd3m0nxx25]

This man knows what hes talking about

[@AnthonyL0401]

Good video, but.... I just clicked on the website and it took me to an adult hookup site, WTAF? I'm trying to improve my relationship, not lose it...

[@Raminakai]

Good man! 👍

[@dearella9450]

what if I'm the one to ask how is my partner feeling? can i be the one to ask what they need?

[@cristivoss976]

I am not a counselor, but the answer is YES. Men (subliminal to you) want this from you. It is like you being his rock and shoulder and ear. BUT don't keep asking it. If he says he doesn't want to talk, respect that and try later. Say, honey it feels like something is wrong are you ok my love?

[@mamauly7990]

You Amazing!!!!!!

[@MrDonkov]

I don´t know, this could be a two edged sword and I would not use it very often. If I share my feelings with her, for example feeling of anxiety or fear, she might also get involved into it, it can open a whole new set of problems, with questions like, is it something about me, about our relationship, ... etc, etc.. and before you know it, you talk yourself into a bigger mess. Maybe only my experience is like that, but I could imagine this working between two mature, opened and well established partners.

[@SuperDuckyWho]

Usually I do ask that, but I trust when he says "no it's not about us." I worry MORE if he feels he can't share it. I can't tell what he's thinking then though I can sense something is not what he says, and it worries me. I'll strt running through theories of why he fels he can't share it with me in my head and as it goes on these theories become progressively worse. Just because the discussion/argument isn't happening between two people doesn't mean there isn't a problem.

[@cristivoss976]

Just skip number 4. That's what I do and it still works

[@lisacoleman9398]

Thank u :)

[@deepaktoppin]

very nice explanation. :)

[@je3f0o74]

Thank you

[@needthissong]

Hi Bruce, I absolutely love your articles and work! I'm trying to become a more emotionally healthy person. I come across a problem though: If I phrase my emotion like that, my partner wouldn't be there for me and tell me to not make such a big deal about it and that he doesn't want a discussion so he completely shuts down and I'm left alone. Can you tell me how to deal with that and how to reconnect?

[@onlyme6662]

How about if they dont want to even hear you out and your tired of initiating the conversation?

[@mamauly7990]

same here

[@danielg.5297]

I understand sadness and anger

[@joesuff17]

I think this is pretty good but especially for a male to say and do the last part means he's putting his whole "being" on the line. Very scary

[@aurielshavaun774]

4:23 😂😂😂😂 step “3”

[@alma7047]

has anyone tried this? comment

[@bzzy968]

I can't feel the first three feelings

[@ritaagostino3100]

If you are Angry u angry Cuz of how u are treated wrong by some one you love Mad is upset how thing s are going fear is your scared of what they will do to you or you feel you going to lose something you are dead wrong if a man is not giving u intimate loving so how can u if A man u love does not show emotions feeling s of intimacy he s use u or does not love ....

[@bilcifer666]

that ringing in the audio is almost unbearable haha

[@asiser1]

i dont think thats good advice for men, it will show emotional and she will see you as inferior