Communication Techniques: How To Save Your Marriage

[@kkorova]

In conflict studies this technique is called "reflective listening". So this advice is not only excellent but proven to work!

[@VanessaMartinez-zj6tc]

My partner and I just realized ee have gotten to the power struggle stage. Its been so difficult and we even thought about breaking up after being together for 3 years. I found your videos and honestly I feel there is hope. I am sharing the videos and applying your techniques. Thank you so much !!!

[@she_sings_delightful_things]

vanessa carballo How is your relationship going today?

[@rajatsp]

Your comment gives me hope to work on my relationship. Its been a year for me and going through the power struggle stage

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[@AzMovieMom]

searched for this video while trying to teach my mom the technique. My partner is abroad atm and I chose my mom as my practice partner. it's so fun to see the evolution of the course. I see Validation and empathizing has been added. Brilliant! Thanks Bruce for your dedication to relationships.

[@Ellevated_Woman]

I have watched each video twice now and can hardly wait to begin the online course 10/5

[@avster9960]

you know this dose help out more than people expect. thank you this gives me hope

[@G_III]

Used to try this without even knowing it was a thing. Her response usually was, "do I have to spell everything out for you?!!!" 😂😂😂

[@biggysj]

I just watched the first 3 videos. You spoke to me. Even if my relationship doesn't make it past the power struggle I plan on learning from the mistakes and the new knowledge I have just retained. Thank you.

[@earphbound720]

Same

Women control the sex in a relationship and use it as a weapon ... there is no power struggle. If you were heterosexual you would know that.

[@angeloaugustus1016]

i know it is quite randomly asking but does anybody know of a good place to watch new series online ?

[@johnsonisgay2009]

I have to admit, I am hearing a lot of this stuff and I can tell you are speaking a lot of truth in these video's. As you were talking about these methods, I started realizing a bunch of opportunities where I wish i had used it. I am excited to see how these techniques work in the future. Thanks Bruce!

[@shumbap]

Thank you for such a presentation, I hope to use it.

[@andrewboyddotcom]

It is hugely empowering and bestows so much freedom to have the tools at hand and with which to restore the relationship with the one you love of even though so you have been rejected. It it removes the heartache instantly to realise that you have this power our at your your disposal. In other words the relationship is at your disposal now and you are in charge of your love destiny. Truly awesome. Every blessing Bruce.

[@rohankmhatre143]

Thankyou for such a explanatory video that helps our mind to visualization what were the mistakes we had in our relationships while you speak in the video.

[@stewie2464]

I so want to start working on this, thanks again very helpful

[@mikylasiete]

I havent started using this techniques or truths yet but i want to thank you for sharing and helping me save marriage and my family. God bless you for your little efforts are saving the nations. God bless you!!!

[@TaraJacobi]

Thank you so much for these very simple to use tools!!

[@franol7]

Brus ! fantastic short lecture on what is essential i communication .I love it.!

[@nzmarc]

Communication is everything...without it there is nothing. It's all I ever wanted. To hear, and to be heard, to love and to be loved. ∞

"Communication" ... meaning that men should shut up and listen, nothing a man has to say is of any value in a "relationship" with a woman.

[@michaelpokanau6409]

This is just awesome

[@ahmedabdulkadir9577]

Amazing Relationship coach, amazing videos with amazing examples

[@DigitalSaiyan9001]

Incredible video! Subscribed!

[@snagglepussvlogs8012]

thank you for the advice and tips. i just started watching your videos and i take notes. its really helping.

[@777Incredible]

Your advice is absolutely BRILLIANT!...THANK YOU SO MUCH!

[@deborah201990]

My partner and.i love your videos and are really helping us with our relationship.

[@pfcpayton]

great advice, looking back on our marriage I see where this could have changed our outcome. Thanks!!

[@ghitatherapy8255]

Really useful thanks!

[@Freeduradura]

Your advice is practical and easy to understand. We will give it a try. 😊

[@jasmines.1215]

Excellent info! I can already tell this is going to work in my marriage and LIFE in general!

[@dinadantoniosmithson2923]

Thank you! Wonderful info. MY partner and I watched this together, and he liked it too.

[@paulbeck2816]

Your awesome, im in the romance stage and am glad for all these videos

[@sandyapoonye1148]

thank you very much... this piece of advice is precious for me specially I am in the verge of break up so I'll use use your techniques to repair my relationship. bless you

[@nexttotheborder]

Where you able to do it?

[@robertamichels8829]

First video I have watched and loved it!! Will try this today. Thank you

[@JoyceMullins69]

I'm going to put these techniques to use! Thank you :)

[@bridgetandrade349]

Joyce Mullins how has it work for you?

[@ruthlandis7911]

You have given excellent advice, God bless you for your interest in helping couples to understand each other.🙌🏻🙏🏻

[@lizluma296]

Thanks a lot..This is so educative and wonderful

[@dzii3889]

Thank you so much for your wise advices, it is very helpful🙏

[@randomgirl55]

Thank you for the helpful videos 🤗❤️💛💚💙💜

[@skionen1781]

Excellent stuff

[@yazialmarzooqi6017]

This video is so helpful I swear

[@gabetheanimator6768]

Great advice! Now I feel as though I have the tools I need to work through tough moments.

[@acceleratedtrainingacademy]

Great video

[@wisdomopoku-fofie7345]

good!

[@ritikasahu6841]

u are awesome...I really wanna accept all ur teachings

[@marveladeguitar]

Hey Bruce, I have a question. What can you say in this regard about each partner's responsibility to tell the other what they need and want? I'm studying relationship counseling myself and am curious about your stance on this.

[@she_sings_delightful_things]

Georges Bolssens That was my Q as well.

[@joycedumaguit504]

Hello I like your advice....

[@MajaKlinko]

Fantastic video. Really enlightning!

[@PhillsLOL]

please make more videos...

[@savemaat7]

i believe that my husband stumbled on your video and i am thinking this is Gods message to us! i appreciate your dedication and commitment to bringing this message to the public. it is very thoughtful!!! and powerful and has the ability to impact humanity....as marriages create family and this is the cradle of civilization. i pray that this creates the results that the Creator intends for us...giving us both peace! thank yu! and i wish the best to you and your family!

[@keratravisgilliland1743]

Such a relief. I now have a direction. Thanks be to God

[@project10bball]

Bruce: again finding this video hard to work with, because im not hearing it so far address how to know if we like the other person sufficiently, to know whether we should put in the effort to go thru the five stages with that other person

[@lonewolf9800]

Thank you I getting so much

[@ChefBigSexy]

man i love ur videos they r so helpful to me

[@jamieflint6140]

Amazing

[@ShepKF]

Love it!!

[@stewardlouw821]

It really great learning from your video thanks a lot..

[@briefinsight8758]

great bro your doing great

[@He1iconia]

How do I download the PDF? I can't seem to find your link anywhere.

[@hiltonshaw5528]

great video such a big help, where were you yesterday dam it!! haha

[@navazmerchant6396]

thanks

[@inspiringcreativeentertain1716]

interesting.

[@deandorman3036]

loved your video

[@SuperHaven7]

HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE THE SOUND AFFECTS FIRST OF ALL, and it's so funny bc I was repeatedly serving back my serves to him when he served to me initially. I did that bc I didn't like what he said I thought it was emotionally draining and I was in a good mood so I felt upset at his serve and kindof expected it from him too which made it more of a drag. (Sometimes I don't respond) but I am loving how u put thism it is their serve, their game!!! So be "responsive" as they want...

[@praveenchauhan7940]

Thanx gr8 viedo

[@lovemecom3832]

This video contains excellent techniques for good communication. In order to lessen arguments, you must listen each other's side; it is the most important aspect to save and build a strong married life.

[@harchiermorales521]

thank you

[@susannahbburley]

Do you have any videos that give instruction on responsive listening but about work relationships?

[@MsHodie]

Hi Bruce, I cany locate these worksheets you speak of in this and your last video. Could you assist me with this? Many thanks.... P.S. I love your videos

[@LoveAtFirstFight]

Hi Hoda! You can find the .pdf file by joining Bruce's mailing list (for free) at www.LoveAtFirstfight.com.

[@laurasparks1298]

Hoda McClymont www.loveatfirstfight.com/wp-content/uploads/love-at-first-fight-reflective-conversation.pdf

[@sonamyangdon2891]

i love it... thank u alot

[@bubbleteadream]

Gonna try this out,seems really good!

[@7tr3_key]

love this

[@lynnecoleman9190]

Enjoyed your video, but I do not see where to download the cheat sheet. Thanks

[@LoveAtFirstFight]

You can find the cheat sheet by joining Bruce's mailing list (for free) at www.LoveAtFirstfight.com.

[@mariantaylor5277]

hi thank you for those video but it bit to late for me as my boyfriend broke up with me Monday what you said in video that what happened x

[@curraj2]

I find your thoughts and methods quite interesting and thank you for sharing them freely with everyone! I do find, however, your background music to be a bit distracting... makes it really hard for me to calmly listen to you...perhaps you could try one without music? Thanks again!

[@leecrotty658]

I needed these videos. I'm mr hailstorm 90% of the time.

[@boyboyburaot253]

Thank you bruce

[@SayaCuppycake227]

what do you do if your partner says no to having a reflective conversation but you really want to try to fix things between the two of you and your partner is fixed on having a divorce but you feel like your partner doesn't truly mean it on the inside?? great video, but please help on the other side if your partner says "no" to having a reflective conversation

[@anisurfer84]

The idea of reflective conversation or mirroring and very well explained. Thank you. Can you or someone point to techniques on dealing with when she is "venting" or getting something off her chest -- where she is going on for a long time, about 10-15 minutes at a stretch with several points at once. It would not be possible or at least extremely difficult for me to mirror her. How does one handle this? Often times, she will vent and as soon as I start responding, she will walk away for water or basically take a break.

[@jackiewitham5456]

Nice video Bruce--not only do you offer a great technique to navigate through charged conversations but your instruction to do so is very good. Thank you! I look forward to more of your videos/information!

[@dinadantoniosmithson2923]

Where is the link to the PDF mentioned in this vid?

[@Aerospaceman]

I just came across your techniques and I hope they can help, my wife will speak for at least 15 to 30 minutes and when I try to interrupt to reflect/paraphrase she says "Can I finish?" or some other statement to reflect guilt upon me. I've been through anger management and she refuses to follow any of the ideas and makes me feel like I'm belittling her, ignoring her, making her feel lonely. If I can't communicate with her in the way she communicates how do I figure this out? Thank you.

[@mamathemeat]

William Gallant Use this technique and tell her that it’s very draining for you to listen to her talk for 15 minutes straight.

[@k.s.ktheboogeyman2788]

Would you do if it's hard to get to the separation stage and she says she needs to see if she's still in love with you no matter what you try seems to get you nowhere

[@dinadantoniosmithson2923]

Where is the "Reflective Conversation Flow Chart?"

[@fisla101]

All is sweet, nice vid and I really envy all of you who can communicate like that, but in case of my marriage theres nothing more that can be done, absolutely, we are two totally different people and my hub will never learn to be responsive or reflective simply because hes nt interested in any communication whatsoever.

[@mamathemeat]

Joanna Ajwes What ended up happening? I’m having similar problem with my boyfriend he’s a half ass listener and communicator

[@justinewhite-hadley3138]

Funny, I automatically do the reflective conversation already. But the response I get, is him telling me I've twisted his words with anger. I ask for clarity and he refuses. Over and over, thus is how our "conversations" go. But I'll try again with this video in mind. 7 years is not worth giving up on....

[@mamathemeat]

Justine White how did it go?

[@project10bball]

First example had much more energy than 2nd. People with more energy are more successful. Restorative sleeping the foundation of energy

[@NewellDaugherty-wu2su]

The Twenty Rules for the Longevity Of a Relationship: 1. Is a wedding ring jurisdiction, handcuffs or a mutual bond of agreement? 2. Don’t break your covenant contract. 3. Those men and women who seek perfection in their mate have life's work ahead of them. 4. Disagreements should be handled with the highest of Statehood. Just Listen. 5. When lost and blind ask God He will answer ye two Never, Never go to bed angry or mad at least hold hands and say a small prayer. For it may just be the last chance you have to tell them how much you really love them. 6. God and Family are your foundation. 7. Never talk at each other but to each other. 8. Life is a lonely place unless it is shared with the love of someone else. 9. If you can't learn to talk no one wins. If you can't openly listen you'll never hear the other side’s feelings. Finding the balance in love and war is the goal. 10. What is the art of longevity in a relationship? It is how that person makes you feel about yourself. You can either support each other or point the finger. 11. Respect is given when respect is earned. 12. Speaking the truth is what allows people to trust you. 13. What is the key to life? Attitude. 14. What is the key to happiness? Accomplishing your goals. 15. True love in a relationship is loving them more than yourself. 16. If I were you and you were me would you still love me? 17. From within the art of smiling; and with one’s eyes there are battles won before they were even fought. 18. What’s the heaviest load a man can carry? A grudge my friend for he cannot see clearly a head because of his pains and becomes an inmate of his quondam’s. 19. There is no one person that can do what a team can do together when striving for the same goals. 20. Children should never be used for a tool of vindictiveness because if something unfortunate happens to you. This child will need all the love one can garner to move on with a healthy mind in life someone they can bank on with a trusted love of peace for their soul. Stand above it all. njd2

[@robertamichels8829]

Where do I get the document to print please? I can’t find it

[@LoveAtFirstFight]

Hi Roberta, Sorry the video is old. You will find it signing up in the free course at www.loveatfirstfight.com

[@blackspy1552]

I dig it

[@project10bball]

So the fundamental IMO is not the responsiveness, but it's the low energy levels on both sides that are even more fundamental

[@towetttitus7625]

great

[@katrinawattskw]

where is the downloadable reflective conversation sheet?

[@sharnawelty]

I am wondering the same thing....please can someone help us to access this?

[@TheValentinMera]

www.loveatfirstfight.com/wp-content/uploads/love-at-first-fight-reflective-conversation.pdf

[@LoveAtFirstFight]

You can find the cheat sheet by joining Bruce's mailing list (for free) at www.LoveAtFirstfight.com.

[@valeriek5245]

What you are describing in this video is the Imago Dialogue created by Harville Hendricks. It's great that you are sharing it but you might want to give him credit for it.

[@annwilliamson5007]

I tried reading Hendricks books and found his description and explanation of the imago overly complicated. I think this video’s much easier for the average person to understand and apply.

[@StephanieKaul7]

So in the situation where the woman was tired, if the receiver of that information isn’t responsive how should the woman respond so she can continue to be responsive and not escalate the conversation? We can only handle ourself and will inevitably end up in a conversation with someone who is unresponsive. What is the best way to respond without getting frustrated?

[@Rainbow-du7ln]

waaaw love thisss

[@_marlon]

My girlfriend and I have been on and off a couple of times over the past year and a half and just recently broke up. She says she just lost hope for the most part that we can get back to that place of romance because we fight too much and it's exhausting. We were in the Power Struggle stage most definitely. I am not a quitter and always want to work through these things because I know how beautiful our love is, but I can see how we were trying to fix things all wrong. Almost like we were using the wrong tools to fix anything. I feel like I don't have the right to contact her as maybe she needs space but I do hope she tries to reach out to me because I love her to death! If that happens, then I would love to put these tools (that you have shared in your videos) into action. I think they would work wonders. Everything you've said is right on the money! Thank you for sharing such valuable information!

[@mamathemeat]

Marlon Did you guys get back together?

[@Alisen12]

I am trying this every time my husband gets mad at me but it never works. Everything I do is just wrong and makes him scream at me which most of the time leads to me crying. I am just so stuck since all I can think of is "don't make him upset". But then this is not right either. I cook dinner for him and tidy up and even moved to another city far away from my family for him but nothing seems to be enough. I don't know what else to do, moving was already the biggest thing I could imagine I have no more to give... But I will keep on trying...

[@ronicohen3905]

Alisen12 are you better now?

[@terricruz4257]

It's a terrible viscous cycle to be stuck in I would know... The only way out is to leave.

[@mamathemeat]

Everything ok now?

[@Football5198]

He may have some narcissistic traits.

[@SimplyHealthTips]

What if the receiver doesn’t think they did anything wrong and that the sender is too sensitive and the receiver doesn’t want to apologize because they don’t think they did anything wrong and that the receiver is who has the problem???

[@elusiva9389]

What to do in this stage when they leave??? Being the woman, I don't want to pursue, but i do know it was FA attachment style kicking in. Now he is 2-3 months into dating someone else.😪He wanted to keep me as a close friend but i had to reject that because it hurts too much to see him move on. I told him i loved him and i would miss him. Its hard to believe he doesn't still have feelings or remember what we had. It was unique and very special for both of us. He told me constantly how different and special i was than the women he typically dates/married. His fear is our main problem. I dont wantvto just sit and wait....but it is frustrating to add more minds and bodies and hearts to the equation... we are 55 and 57 years old! He wanted to marry me, just before he bolted. 🤯

[@puru108g]

Are you an engineer? This is how the electronic transmitters n receivers work when they transmit/receive the data...but in lightning speed n in codes! Byte size, small chunks, acknowledge, error correction codes....these are all electronic communication nerd-words. N what u have there is a called tx-rx communication flowchart and what u r talking is sender-receiver protocol - you are an Engineer! :) Good lecture - thanks!

[@samanthafox2814]

Where is the PDF?

[@LoveAtFirstFight]

Hi Samantha, you will find it signing up in the free course at www.loveatfirstfight.com

[@JBthree24]

I always think to myself, “nobody has it perfect...even the Kardashian’s who are considered the worlds top sex-symbols, even have it rough...” Not the best example but it’s what makes me feel a little better lol

[@melaniegastiger]

Well my partner doesn’t respond. I feel like he just doesn’t care.

[@onlyme6662]

Pure Bliss ..same here im crushed

[@privateeye7401]

Pure bliss Allow me to ask a question My friend told me he drives by my house everyday and honks I thought nothing of it, the last two weeks I made sure I was up and could hear and recognize when he drove by and honked. I would respond back with the thumbs up emoji to let him know I heard his horn. All of a sudden, last week and this week, I have heard nothing from him. I know he drives past my house, but he doesn't honk anymore. What happened. I'm sure you don't know what happened, I'm just asking.