Emotional Neglect of Men: A Surefire Path to Infidelity

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

"Every woman wants a good man, until they find one that requires them to be a better woman." The way I see it, a woman who neglects her man is de facto cheating on him...with herself. She is reserving herself for herself. A relationship is supposed to be about giving to the other...not being a selfish narcissist.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

it’s the game of hypergamy.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Amazing post

[@thehappywifeschool]

@ruralsquirrel5158, thank you for commenting. "Every woman wants a good man, until they find one that requires them to be a better woman." - So well said and spot on.

[@richarddigglersem1298]

Absolutely spot on

[@susanhaines7358]

This is excellent!! Agreed. I am going to use this comment.

[@MegusKhan]

Good men fed in a marriage by sex, touch, respect, peace, and loyalty will NEVER cheat!

[@LordShockwave9]

Good men exposed to women who do this long enough, will do bad things. This doesn't make them bad men. But it makes one question their existence.

[@LordShockwave9]

Good men exposed to women who do this long enough, will do bad things. This doesn't make them bad men. But it makes one question their existence.

[@johnsawatzky2128]

Your comment is true. If my wife fed me in sex touch respect etc. I would not be thinking about who I need to fulfill my sexual needs as I continue to stay with my legal spouse to provide a stable home for my children. I have three dependants. Two children and a wife. And she is NEVER acknowledging or respectful. She belittles. Disrespects. In front of guests. Makes fun of. And then is happy when I withdraw from the group. She goes to bed without saying anything to me. And in the morning…. All is right in her world. I continue to pay the bills and she gets fatter and fatter. She is almost twice as heavy as she was when we met and does not ever do anything to get her body back. And lashes out at me or just cries when I even bring it up. She is toxic. And I have had it. I need sex. I need it. So I am looking for a woman who will be clean and healthy and happy. And understanding of my situation.

[@SilviaLampa]

​@@johnsawatzky2128 sorry to hear❤ leave her

[@horatioashong9453]

Real talk 🔥💯

[@rougebaba3887]

For years there was no better feeling in my life than to arrive home from a long hard day at work, and see that her car was not there... "She's not home!!" Peace

[@redpilljesus]

Smh

[@guyincognito7211]

Damn... Exactly...

[@prrsd4046]

I know the feeling

[@smokingcrab2290]

Felt that before

[@johng.4959]

Yup! Only those of us that have lived through it will understand this comment. Peace brother!

[@mussersbowsboatsandscience6610]

I was telling my ex-wife how upset and sad I was about my toxic workplace, and she then used the opportunity to tell me how disappointed she was in me as her husband...

[@neiljones6725]

Absolutely, years ago i also had the mother in law move in and the continous berating and i wasnt even sleeping with her lol, let alone issues with wife, not worth it.

[@headsupdisplay2189]

Yikes...

[@mrwhigham]

Dude wow. I’m sorry brother. That sucks. But you are here with us and Karyn. We are doing better now!

[@fatherburning358]

At least you realised who she really is bro. That behaviour is so obvious you just couldn't avoid seeing her. Hope you are well. My soon to be ex loves to tell me I have no sense of humour, people I'm not married too seem to laugh a fair bit when I joke around. Go figuire huh 🤦🤣

[@conversionlyft]

This was your fault, complaining is not good for men, you either fix, leave or accept but not complain, it shows weakness. We all did this, just do not do it moving forward, at the end even if the workplace is toxic, nobody gives a f…k she does not neither

[@brianwalk108]

For me it’s just wiping away the tears, getting out of the car and preparing for a night of hell. I never thought I’d hate my weekends off or be excited about escaping back to work on Monday. We don’t talk about our emotions because we are sheltering our women from that stress. We just want to be acknowledged and appreciated. Thats all we need to keep going

[@chadstevens6605]

The last few years of my marriage, I focused on my business as an escape.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Exactly. Women are meant to be our helpers, but they're not. We are their helpers instead. Marrying a woman is never an equal partnership. It's always a matriarchal dictatorship masquerading as a loving vow.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

same here. made things worse,!if that was possible.

[@melkerner]

Yep - went through this in counseling - I am not sharing because I was protecting her from myself. When you share it's bad, when you don't share - it's still bad. Men are placed in a no win situation constantly.

[@stevenwomack9574]

For many, many years through two bad marriages, I hated weekends. I was a TGIM guy. Thank God it's Monday.

[@smokingcrab2290]

I will also add that our culture of chronic busyness wrecks havoc on our relationships. We never slow down to enjoy each other anymore. We fill our lives with so much bullshit and that's not how we're meant to live.

[@cowboy101lisa]

Emotional neglect can also be years of silence on anything substantive. Hurts like hell.

[@NateWilliams-h8q]

You have to emotionally check out from her as well. That way, you can survive until you leave. That's the position I'm in.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Yup. The feeling of your woman always tuning you out but you're always expected to be in tune with her is so destructive. Attention is the blood of a relationship. And when a woman stops caring about your presence and then she never says why and then blames you, and gets mad when you even talk about it because you want to understand her... It's hell.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

the silence is replaced by narcissistic control.

[@gugy68]

Yep. I feel the same way. Right now, I am just waiting for my youngest to go to college to probably leave for good if things don't improve. @@NateWilliams-h8q

[@thebirima91]

Me too. Sadly there’s no escape because of tight housing market. But I am in the process of checking out. She’s on the autism spectrum too. There’s no hope.

[@OziBlokeTimG]

A happy marriage from my perspective is a myth. I'm 63 divorced 2 years. Spent the last 15 years trying to make it work, make things right. Total waste of time and life. Still recovering. Never to marry again. I had turned into codependent disaster. For today's young one's God help them.

[@arniep740]

Amen. Same boat and my boat was sinking. Now I am happily afloat and divorced. Not in any hurry to look for another boat, that's for sure!

[@Jireh_woolridge777]

This is exactly what i experienced every single time. Every night i went to bed or came home from work or even coming home from the store. I would never talk to her about how i felt because i was made to feel like i was a Neanderthal because i didnt talk about my feelings but when i did express myself then i was shamed, looked at as weak or abusive for not being ok with how i was being treated. The worst was the emotional retaliation...and still after being separated for 2yrs i still havent slept with another woman. God is who i drown myself in. With him i can let it alk out and there's no shame or retaliation.

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

Ha! Those are rookie numbers. I haven't had sex in 10 years. But looking around, why would I?

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

same

[@hotice8885]

2 years are not rookie numbers. That is the TOUGH zone, since the damage is still fresh on the mind, and the desires for _how things SHOULD have gone_ is throbbing the strongest. So glad you are running to God. He is so good to us, despite the world and the devil being so cruel. It's been 15 years divorced, for me. Committed fornication with one woman several times, but then cut things off with her, too. For the next seven years after that, not so much as a date, for me. I still long for what men and women are SUPPOSED to be able to enjoy, but have my eyes *too wide open* to make the same dumb move again!

[@SilviaLampa]

​@@hotice8885sorry❤

[@SilviaLampa]

Hugs ❤ why are men suffering so much???

[@NateWilliams-h8q]

Not a single woman in my life has ever really validated me to any degree. Not even my own mother.

[@jimjohnson394]

That is because women are more emotionally mature and do the emotional heavy lifting, didn't you know?

[@NateWilliams-h8q]

​@@jimjohnson394Riiiiight lol. It took me a very long time to realize there wasn't really anything wrong with me. I have now learned to simply live without it, as women are not going to change unless forced to do so.

[@steelearmstrong9616]

Mothers are horrible. Mine completely destroyed my childhood but I don’t play the victim, I continue to grow and move forward as I understand this. Still hard at times but it is what it is. It’s life

[@smokingcrab2290]

And they never will bro. None of them care. And if they act like they care, that's all it is - an act.

[@NateWilliams-h8q]

@@smokingcrab2290 Yep, I've grown and figured that out by now. I just think we do not talk about what mothers do to their sons NEARLY enough in this space.

[@electrifyingct4303]

I felt like a criminal in my own home. I would go out on 4+ hour drives through the countryside blaring music and screaming at the top of my lungs (knowing I felt like I was going insane) 8 months since the day I kicked her out of the house.... 8 months of loving being home, completely at peace, relaxed, calm, feeling safe. My son feels safe in this home as well but the "law" won't allow him to live with me full time.

[@TechnoMageB5]

Check your local laws. In some places I think when your son turns 12 or 14, they have a say as to where they can live most of the time. Keep making your home a peaceful refuge for him regardless - he'll thank you for it one day.

[@electrifyingct4303]

@TechnoMageB5 I have fought all the unnecessary battles, wars, payments already and 8 days out of the month is the best I can get. Hopefully he and I won't have to wait that many years for things to change. KEEP THIS CHANNEL GROWING FOR IT IS ONLY SPEAKING TRUTH!!!

[@steelearmstrong9616]

Living with a woman is like doing time for a crime you didn’t commit. Living with them definitely takes the fear out of dying

[@smokingcrab2290]

I know the feeling brother. I used to go to restaurants and bars by myself after work and have a drink and a meal by myself rather than going home. And then I'd just tell her that traffic was bad when she asked where I was. I also used to just go do errands I didn't need to do just to take a drive or go for a walk by myself. I never doubted my own sanity this much in my entire life, and I never thought marriage would do that. Even though my wife and I are "okay" right now I still doubt my sanity almost every day because of all the ways that we as men have to cater to the irrational, unfair, chaotic, contradictory and even downright toxic nature of our wives. I've come to the point in my life to where I'm really starting to let go of all the things I ever wanted in a woman, because I'm realizing now that it will very likely never come to me. And the more I address things, the worse it gets. As for your children, I'd fight tooth and nail. Hire the most vicious expensive lawyer you can get your hands on.

[@electrifyingct4303]

@steelearmstrong9616 Absolutely correct. We must keep in mind, this is not women's fault. It completely depends on what system we live under. When we have Hollywood, Television, and a government that we let lie to them and feed them deciet, what can we expect them to do? It is man's responsibility to be head of the house as well as head of the nation. Do not let that serpent beguile them, or be punished ourselves. Though my OG comment is true, I'm not blind to the fact she has just been lied to... to an extremely high degree. It is to be a wake up call to men of this world, not an excuse to blame women.

[@plasmaarmelund]

Wom3n tell men to be "vulnerable" and share their feelings. But if they do, it will get weaponized and used against them later.

[@smokingcrab2290]

We're viewed as weak for being anything but willing to put up with all of their weaknesses

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

it’s their insidious trap to manipulate you, if not now, in the future. there is a reason they never forget things. they will manipulate the smallest thing, whether valid or not, in an attempt to guilt and dominate you.

[@melkerner]

Men are only allowed to display approved feeling and emotions - anything not approved by the Wife is thought to be toxic (like anger or frustration) - and will be used at any point in the future like a court transcript to prosecute the husband at every opportunity. Seen it almost person for person in most marriages, and experienced it in mine. Don't be too vulnerable, it only leads to disrespect, invalidation and attacks.

[@johng.4959]

100% accurate! We've been told a huge lie about being that type of guy. Hollywood movies don't help this either!!!

[@jartist]

This is the truth. I have said this many times to my wife. and yet she continues to do it. I'm the fool for trusting. Men, husbands: NEVER share your heart. You'll get burnt.

[@jonathanthorogood7377]

I don't even have the energy to engage in infidelity. I'm just sick of feeling like I have to jump through flaming hoops ... and still not get the attention, or respect, I need and desire.

[@Sir_Viver]

You described 22 years of marriage in the first 3 minutes of this video. Thank you!

[@notme4494]

I agree, she describe 28 years of my previous marriage to the tee. Now my ex is enjoying herself with her AP. After all of the stress of earlier life has passed.

[@danielreynolds6946]

Been married 24 years, been left and filed on twice and both times every single thing was ALL my fault! I’ve been left with a bad case of PTSD and trauma, but I’m not supposed to mention that though. I can’t even begin to express my hurts! You should have read all the things that they thought of me in the last divorce papers! How can I not help but feel the way I do?!? 10 months after we decided to try and make our marriage work, the real truth came out. There was another man involved the entire time!

[@100ones]

I dated a woman for a very short time and it was like walking on eggshells when I got around her. She didn't bring peace just chaos.

[@hotice8885]

Right with you, man. I hope I never forget what that was like, so that I truly value peace and freedom!!!

[@andrewrees8749]

I've felt like that for ten yrs...

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Women are agents of chaos

[@Caesar-nq5if]

That's why I stopped messing with women at 29. I've been at peace ever since. Women are satanic and extremely selfish. They are full of poison from television.

[@tidelovinyankee1368]

For thirty-two years my wife berated me for all manner of things. I was always wrong, never did enough, was not providing her with the emotional support she needed, but did not explain to me what she meant, nor did she give me examples. Whenever I needed something, I was being selfish, and my needs were not important. Then she developed cancer, and died...peace at last.

[@hotice8885]

You KNOW it is serious when you only get peace after someone DIED.

[@peterharrell7305]

Brutal

[@maxcactus7]

I lived in the same boat for > 20 years myself, Yankee. I was always wrong, she would constantly move the goalposts when I asked what I could do to make things better, and she was angry no matter which course of action I chose. I wish you peace, health and happiness, brother. We are not alone.

[@tidelovinyankee1368]

Thank you maxcactus, I appreciate your reply. I hope all is well with you.

[@andrewrees8749]

Trying to please a partner, is just about impossible, know how you feel..

[@MSMW23]

I was in that situation where I didn't know what I would come home to. It got so bad I would receive texts from kids warning me to be on guard. And I did help out around the house to the point where I was doing more than her ( She did not work). We are divorcing because no matter how much we talked about me being stressed when coming home after work, nothing changed or if it did, it did not last long. My happiest times were sitting in the car in the carpark after the train ride for 15 minutes before going home. I did not have an affair, despite being sexless in the marriage for over 2 years. She had one though. I am so happy to be free, living alone in a quier, peaceful home where I am not the bad guy anymore.

[@mfawls9624]

At 4 years into zero sex, 3 kids (all pre-teen), never any reason...my wife had an affair. I have a rental property. They were ending their lease, doing the walkthrough on the security deposit with the wife of the couple. I had been getting calls from apartment complexes concerning her, payment inquiries, was she a good tenant. So I asked if they had been having trouble. They had, but worked on it...I told her about my situation. She said 'maybe she was hoping you'd have an affair, then she could leave?'. Blew my mind! Do people do something that cold blooded? I get home and I ask my wife if that was the case. She doesn't say no, just shrugs and goes 'maybe...' So I laughed at her and told her it was hilarious that she cracked before I did. She had cut off sex but couldn't deal with it herself. On top of that she had told me that I didn't respect her. Then she slept with a married man. I guess she was right, if respect is what drew her to another woman's husband.

[@johng.4959]

This videos opening statement is priceless - "While not condoning affairs or infidelity, I want to help us understand how a wife's emotional neglect of her husband can make him weak and vulnerable to choices that go against his character and integrity." Yes!! When a man experiences a woman using his vulnerability against him... he often deals with it by making terrible choices for himself. It's the proverbial NO WIN situation.

[@raamtselon]

Karyn, you are spot on. Now, WHEN CHILDREN are in that marriage - the woman becomes a Mom and a different species... Another point - when women connect with women, they tend to poison eachother against their men, more than correct or encourage.

[@garthy4u]

That last part. I can't ever remember any of the men I know ever tell another man to leave his wife or LTR. Ever. Yet women are quick to tell their friends to divorce.

[@InTheDarkWood]

This hits home, makes a lot of sense "Your feelings are wrong!" -my ex

[@140ex5]

So what are men to do? I’m 68 married 40 yrs and not wanting to start over. Wife has completely detached from even conversation. You’re so right, women don’t respect a good man.

[@JB-yq9bn]

What i have noticed is when an issue is brought up, the response is I'm sorry you feel that way. Its my problem for having feelings.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

i’ve long suspected there is a handbook!

[@AlmightyDyson06]

@floridaman5125no, it’s clearly MY wife lol

[@smokingcrab2290]

The feeling of being tuned out like my presence doesn't even matter is the worst feeling. The feeling of having to always be focused on her desires, needs, and interests, but she never has to give you even the bare minimum in terms of attention is very hard to deal with. And when you want what everyone in any relationship wants, you're labeled needy while they label themselves as "strong and emotionally independent". I've never questioned my sanity so much in my life than I have in my married years. The bait and switch definitely happened. But I'm learning now that I have to let go of everything I ever expected because theres absolutely nothing in my power to engineer it. And quite frankly she gives me no incentive to try.

[@bradjtrains]

I recently went through a major health event where I spent 2 weeks in Cardiac Intensive Care. As a result, I ended up with PTSD. I told my girlfriend that I hated who I'd become because of it. She asked me why and then told me to speak to someone else! Its been downhill since then and I'm seriously considering leaving her after 14 years. Talk about being cold as ice and having a total lack of empathy!

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

Read the Dr Laura or 7 Principles of Marriage books. It helps me and Karyn was the one who recommended Dr Laura's books.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

don’t let the door hit you in the ass, run fast so it can’t!

[@andrewrees8749]

I've been there, they just dont care

[@JamesPetroff]

A lack of empathy is the hallmark of a covert narcissist. My neighbor's husband was dying and she was complaining how he was so needy!!!

[@caucasianafrican1435]

An acquaintance had been married for 8 years with 3 kids. He had undiagnosed PTSD result in a hospital stay. Less than a week in, and his wife starts talking about divorce. Sick.

[@gtom70]

My marriage is on the rocks. Tried couples therapy but hit a wall. Got criticized by my wife for not being "invested" in our marriage because she went to her OWN therapist more than I went to mine. Meantime she spends all her time online trying to diagnose everybody's mental health problems in our family. I'm realizing that the cause of my depression is the emasculating behaviors I'm subjected to. She insists that I have ADHD. My VA psychiatrist had me tested and the results were conclusive that I didn't have it but my wife doesn't accept that diagnosis. Meanwhile the walls are up. Funny how her "boundaries " are what's causing the depression and lack of focus. At least my dog likes me. *sigh*

[@northsideirish312]

DUDE thats both terrible and unnecessary, youre needlessly suffering for crimes you didnt commit, bail out now.

[@AndrewTannerMusic]

Tell her(and act like) you want a divorce. See how her behavior changes. If it doesn’t start changing for the better, leave her.

[@bobmathews9072]

Yep this dude’s marriage isn’t “on the rocks” , it’s over , he just can’t accept it @@AndrewTannerMusic

[@SilviaLampa]

I like you. Hugs

[@judd0112]

It still amazes me how many times I’ve heard the same exact story from someone else that I have myself about married life. It relieving that I’m not “crazy” and not the only one.

[@spliff_craven]

@Karyn Are you sure you dont have cameras in my house? Your opening statements describes what many men feel. I glad for your channel. You give your viewers insights and a message of hope and understanding of ourselves and relationships with our significant others. Its truly great to know "we" are not alone in these "silent discussions". Most of us do not have a way to discuss these topics. Your channel is a god send to these internal dialogues. Thank you so much! 🎉

[@mobiusmaximus586]

Well said!! 💯

[@loverofgolf]

If so she had cameras in my house too. LOL.

[@stevenwomack9574]

In 2015, I had heart attack and a quintuple bypass. Starting in 2019, I've had two different cancers three different times. All I've ever gotten from my wife is how hard it's been on her. How she can't travel and take classes and afford a housecleaner because of my medical bills... After nearly a decade of this, I'm about ready to walk. As I've learned the hard way, life's too short...

[@Dano-MX5]

That has to be tough my friend but I understand where you are coming from.

[@JamesPetroff]

She is a narcissist

[@TheHillrat4wd]

In your first minute you just summed up my 25 year marriage.

[@Dan_Matwij]

Yeah for me too. Just turned 25 with my wife this past January. Sounds like my marriage.

[@TheHillrat4wd]

​@@Dan_MatwijIt finally broke my soul. It broke my spirit. I had to violate everything I believe in and file for divorce. 2 1/2 years later I'm still fighting in court trying to get divorced and we didn't have children.

[@nickcalderone75]

​@@TheHillrat4wdhang in there! Stay the course!

[@TheHillrat4wd]

Thanks friend. I thought I was through the rough of it but today I just received letters in the mail from her family telling me what a piece of s*** I am. She's still playing the victim and I'm the a******. I've never one time spoken to her family and said anything bad about her she went out of her way to call my family my extended family and run me down.

[@Dan_Matwij]

@@TheHillrat4wd I'm sorry to hear about all this. You're going through alot and I'm sure it's the hardest thing to manage. But for you it's time to get you back. Time to refocus on yourself to bring you back. You got this! Push forward.

[@Brotherhood.777]

Emotional abandonment is a surefire way to be divorced. Just ask my exwife. She pulled that bullsh*t with me until I finally had enough. Then I filed for divorce. I gave her exactly what she wanted.... she didn't want to fulfill her duties. Now she has no duties that need fulfilling.

[@cheslinscheepers2547]

I am a man watching this, it is so good to see women leaders teaching women with no bias.

[@uniquesmarttechnologies6346]

This is so refreshing

[@curlyhairdudeify]

My mother did this to me. Now, I never open up to her. She would berate me, shame me, and make it all about her.

[@jackjones9460]

I guess listening to these videos is reassuring to me since my wife left. You demonstrate I am not alone for feeling isolated when she was with me and now feeling better since she is gone.

[@jefferypiscitelli3532]

Just experienced this, this morning. Got the you're being too sensitive line. Felt like she wanted to take the comment back as soon as she said it. Tried telling her how a comment made around friends made me feel

[@jimjohnson394]

Honestly, I would not tell her how something "made me feel". If I were in your shoes, I think it would be better to say something like, "What you said to our friends was very disrespectful towards me and towards our marriage and it is eroding my love and trust towards you which has lasting consequences." That would put the accountability on her, rather than on you to get over it and not be sensitive. I wouldn't let it go either. If it is worth you speaking up on, it is worth working on. Find some article or book about rebuilding mutual respect within marriage and read it with her.

[@redpilljesus]

​@@jimjohnson394if she's being disrespectful in front of friends it's unlikely any words will work. Demonstrate, do not explicate. Remove your presence from such gatherings.

[@jimjohnson394]

@@redpilljesus You are right, he would have been better to go for a walk the moment she talked bad about him in front of friends. I was just mentioning the mornings conversation.

[@judd0112]

I’ve said the same thing to my significant other about “where’s the girl from when we met who used to LIKE to have fun” I got a different answer than the one you described. Mine said “that people change.. I’m not that person anymore. “. End of discussion. Yet I feel I’m at my core the exact same fun loving person. Yeah obviously people change but not to the point of whatever she’s saying.

[@j.p.5716]

Sounds like she needs to become LESS significant.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

I dream of a woman almost every night who cherishes me because my wife will not. Last night in my dreams I met a beautiful red head with perfectly green, emerald eyes who looked into my soul and had perfect respect for me.. Being loved by a woman is just an unatainable dream for me now.

[@AndrewTannerMusic]

Women don’t love men, they LUST for us(if we know how to trigger their attraction) and use us for the things we do/provide for them. They don’t care who we are. The only thing they care about is themselves.

[@pistache28]

This is what I experienced with my father when I was a kid and when I lived with my ex wife! 😡😡😡😡😡 Thank you for presenting the reality of what men go through! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@akidiado1039]

From my experience, when I mentioned about the lack of fun, initiating romance and preparing the right atmosphere for that to my wife like she use to do from the beginning of our marriage, she made excused that she comes from work often tired, she blamed me for not always complimenting her, she said I gave other women attention instead of her, even blamed her hormonal levels for lack of desire for romance. She never took my complaints serious until an incident happened when she realized that another younger woman have encroached into her intimate space. I believe now that she has learnt her lessons on how to take her husbands complaints and needs very serious if she wants to maintain and keep her marriage.

[@loverofgolf]

My ex-wife's go-to for everything was "if you would just..............".

[@SomeGuy-xf9bc]

I never feared not knowing who was going to be there when I came home. It was always the dark side of the force waiting for me.

[@samozhivnik]

🤓

[@noblepolygon8694]

Women really don’t understand men have feelings and want to be heard too. In my town in Europe, there is a red light district (this will play into my story later). I am working far from home to provide for her. Not once have I gone to that area. When I call it’s always a complaint about something but when I told her how I was feeling she said “I don’t have the luxury to be stressed / depressed “ Fast forward past countless complaints and arguments. I was in a bar and a woman approached me and we had a good conversation and talked for hours. I realized that what I was missing was companionship and someone who would listen to me. The reason I brought up the red light district is this. If I wanted sex I could just go there and do my business sight unseen. I’ve never gone. However being vulnerable and feeling let down made me enjoy the company of someone else. If a man cheats, it’s not about sex.

[@cylaneporht7861]

When a man disconnects his feelings because we're not supposed to look forward to our wives to help us with our needs, then insulted by our wives because we don't show any emotions anymore, it always circles back around to us being the selfish ones.

[@garthy4u]

And this is why men need to prioritize being the best version of themselves. And NOT cater to the whims of women. By this, I mean we should be taking care of ourselves, taking care of our business, taking care of our responsibilities as fathers, being kind and considerate for others, If you're doing this, then you're being a good man by default. If she is still whining, then she needs to be shown the door. No amount of trying to satisfy her every whim will work to keep any woman happy.

[@richardcharlesworth6069]

This is my life for the last 10 years.

[@Dano-MX5]

….amazing analysis of the modern man’s dilemma. My problem is I have rebuffed “other women” multiple times and evidently I have grown accustomed to my misery, choosing it over seeking a happier life. Perhaps I subconsciously think a happier life isn’t possible. That makes me feel weak and gutless. It’s a vicious circle.

[@redpilljesus]

Does your woman know you are getting offers? If she doesn't, no fear of loss.

[@Dano-MX5]

@@redpilljesus I don’t have a fear of loss. My fear is taking that step and starting over with another woman only to find out once the excitement wears off the “other woman” is a lot like the one I have now. The reason I say this is because most of my friends seemed to be treated by their wives the same way as I am treated. I tend to believe this is how most women are and perhaps in my mind I am chasing a dream that can never become a reality.

[@GospelOfThomasMcSwain]

Don't lose your dignity. I didn't cheat on any girl, but had some attention. I only entertained flirting once, wanted to cheat, then decided that wasn't who I was, or wanted to be. I told my (now) ex that I didn't feel love for her anymore I had flirted with a girl, and I was not happy with her - she told me after a few days of talking it out that she cheated on me, at least twice, with an old mutual highschool friend. I don't regret not cheating on her, even though she cheated on me. Why? Because I have my dignity and I know I didn't do anything to break up our home - it was all her. Literally, every step of the way she was a hindrance towards building a family. But I ignored every single red flag she presented, and, so, my judgment is to be financially enslaved for my transgressions of expecting a girl to grow into an adult at some point in her life.

[@garthy4u]

​@@Dano-MX5yes, they're all the same. Now that we have that out of the way. You need to reframe your life so that you are driving the ship. She needs to add to what you're doing and the life you're living. If she's not a complement, then you have a choice to make. Women can't make us happy. Shoot, "happy" isn't even a goal a man should have. It's such a fleeting emotion (leave that to the women). You should be wanting to be a man other men and your children can respect. We'll always have the burden of performance as men. We have to show up every day until our last day. So focus on showing up the best way possible, whether that's with or without her.

[@geraldfranklin6049]

My ex said everything that she just said. But when complaining about the children, I told her get a job and i will stay home.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Women always act like they have it worse. They act like theyre living in handmaidens tale because of the children they wanted. They act like theyre modern day slaves who are carrying humanity on their shoulders because they put laundry, dishes, and food into machines that do the work for them.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

But she’ll view you as weak for staying home, she’ll resent you, cheat and eventually divorce you

[@geraldfranklin6049]

@@BrianWaller-qe7gr Yep. Not many know how to "Be at PEACE with themselves".

[@ajsmith9800]

I tried repeatedly to get my now ex-wife to understand the importance of emotional intimacy--holding hands, hugging, kissing---in our marriage. She has a degree and psychology and refused to even look at the studies showing the importance of these issues in a marriage. And in the end she abandoned me and blamed me for not trying to save our marriage.

[@Cymricus]

I had to start saying “no” to women who don’t like being said no to. They kick and scream and they silent treatment you, but the only way to handle treatment like this is to tell them “no, we aren’t doing this today.” If you try to talk to them and they won’t listen, you can say “we will try again when you’re ready to listen.” And if that’s in only 3 minutes, great. If it’s never, we’ll cross that bridge as we come to it.

[@westadam8890]

I hated going home after my full time job because I never knew what I was coming home to. The threats bulling intimidation and verbal abuse became too much I had to move out of my own home that I had bought with my own savings. I'm happily divorced now.

[@luvmydeck]

These are excellent videos - I was never so alone as the time i was living with a single mom and her two daughters. I was the outsider, third wheel, etc. Finally - had enough and in order to get some control in my life I ended up selling my house. Would i like to have a woman in my life - yes, if she was a loving person. But I have not found one yet that lasts. They always start out nice but turn into something else.

[@themoon69420]

My ex became neglectful a couple years into the relationship and I tried to be patient and understanding with her, and never once had the desire to step out on her. In the end she was the one who stepped out on me, and with an absolute dumpster of a man, and I wish I'd have kicked her to the curb a long time ago. Nothing like knowing you're less valuable to a woman than even a heroin junkie. It was pretty satisfying watching her fall out of the karma tree and hit every branch on the way down, though. Her life is a complete mess now. She lost her career because junkie boy was a work client, and he ended up going back to prison for a long time and left her pregnant. I'd never laughed so hard in my life than when she tried to come back around and make amends. Honestly, men, I'd say just go ahead and go for it if your wife is neglecting you and you have another woman offering herself up. Easy women are a dime a dozen these days, and frankly, the odds of finding someone who's truly in it for the long haul for any reason but financial gain is slim to none.

[@red7fifty]

I moved into a different house so our growing family could be closer together in two different households 3 miles apart, instead of 2 different households 50 miles apart. After 1 1/2 years of constant threats that she wasn't happy, and was going to leave, I finally told her to get the F out of my house. I'm in so much a better state of mind now, although our 3 year old son that we have together, now has to follow the same routine his 1/2 sister was put through. Sad that at her age of 41, she is repeating the same thing to break yet a 2nd home (then of course, blame me).

[@mamanjc]

Wow this is soooo accurate! I was the guy who always thought I would be the last person on earth to be unfaithful but after years of exactly this I made the biggest mistake of my life! I will never condone what I did but it was unfortunately this very place and circumstance I found myself in.

[@user-kl5zd2oe3e]

Nah. Now adays, numerous women will leave a sad man alone and never give a second look. Ask me how I know.

[@FerJitsu8]

I'm in a terrible marriage, but I've been forged into martial arts world and learned what loyalty means. So I will never cheat on my wife, even tho she's being so terrible in the last 8 years. I'm just giving up in trying her to have self improvement, so I think my next move will be to file for divorce. It's sad, very sad to end a 16 years marriage, but I just can't feel miserable as I am right now. On top of that, I have 0 family members and it will be a very harsh lonely journey, but I'm ready.

[@c2rail]

Yep. She will tell you that it's not her fault. Then in counselling the counselor tells you its not her fault. You know it's not you, but everybody tells you it's you...pretty soon you think you are going insane.

[@kenpresley45]

A woman wants a man to validate her feelings, not share his.

[@johnryan3374]

A good marriage requires both spouses to allow the other person to express their feelings without fear of being ignored or shamed. If the wife refuses to listen or gets angry, the man will eventually shut down, and stop trying to communicate.

[@minnesotajude8447]

My mom and sisters never gave a fook about my feelings.

[@ElleryOmur]

0:41 "Not knowing who I am coming home to." That is such an accurate description of my own experience! It is incredibly destabilizing and anxiety-inducing. That being said, some men can be like that as well...

[@craigsutton3765]

As you said Karyn. A sad man won’t be that way for long. All women know by instinct how to fill that void and give the validation a man needs when they are looking to create a relationship. This is what drives a man insane when that level of empathy and understanding evaporates and he is left wondering where the woman he loved went. He stays, believing that person is still inside her somewhere because she once gave it so effortlessly. Yet she will constantly gaslight him trying to convince him that the reason all that connection is gone is somehow his fault and if he would only be better somehow it would change. Duplicitous indeed.

[@warwickbarnes8106]

I asked my wife to pick me up for the mechanics when I dropped my bike off for service, she refused and told me to ask the kids to do it. The kids were all to busy doing their own things, so I took the bike into the mechanic and ask if he could do the service straight away so I could return to work. i was stuck for hours hanging around waiting for the mechanic to finish my bike service so I could go back to work."self employed". To cut a long story short I broke my ankle on the way back to work due to frustration and being in a hurry. Six weeks in bed recovering and no money coming in, I ask my wife to step up and help me pay some of my business accounts, her answer was NO that's nothing to do with me, I said even though you benefitted from my income, NO she said that's your rent for living in my house. Second wives I could write a book!

[@maxcorder2211]

No matter what she does or says that causes me to respond with, “why did you say or do that?”, she will then say, “what’s the matter, can’t you take a joke”? or, “why are you so serious”?

[@mobiusmaximus586]

It’s uplifting to know i’m not alone. The comments are fire 🔥

[@GospelOfThomasMcSwain]

The issue stems from being conditioned into an addiction towards being abused - not necessarily by spouses, but most certainly through government and employer abuse. Men and women alike are abused day in and day out by those two, and it has a negative affect on all of our interpersonal relationships. I believe that women are affected far greater by this, possibly by nature, but definitely due to them being significantly more vulnerable to men, physically. As the saying goes, 'evil exists where good men do nothing.'. Well, good men have done nothing for so long that we have, collectively, lost sight of the root of the evil: government - electing someone else to make decisions for us - someone who is almost certainly far less qualified to rule over another individual than the individual themself is.

[@MrEllipsis423]

As a man im learning a lot myself. It seems being a good hearted man leads to being taken advantage of by women who don't find the man attractive yet they could definitely use the good hearted nature he provides...they cant give it back tho!

[@DP_e-que]

I'm a good man. But I'm crap to my family. Easter is a turning point for me.

[@redpilljesus]

Do not share your feelings with a woman who isn't respectful. She won't get it because she doesn't want to. Remove your validation, affection, and even your presence. Do something else and do not text her. She starts freaking out? Good. A woman who is panicking about your absence is a woman who isn't leaving. Once she begs, then you can tell her what the problem is.

[@smokingcrab2290]

My wife isn't like this. She just doubles down and puts even more walls up.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

unless she simply goes out to find chad thunderstroke!!!

[@jimjohnson394]

@@smokingcrab2290 Have you tried humor? I TRIPLE dare you do slap her on the butt and run away. Then when she chases after you, jiggle your butt at her and/or make armpit noises. Get a motorcycle and take her for a ride. Take her for a car ride and fog up the windows on a deserted road. Above all, stop taking them seriously when they get in a huffy fit. Invite them along, and they can either have fun with you, or they can watch on the sidelines while you are having fun without them.

[@oroville12345]

You can't tell women how you feel they will see you as weak and dry up so fast.

[@NoneMcNobody]

As a man, your videos are as eye opening as they are soul-crushing. How should a man convince someone to look into your courses?

[@OfSoulAndSin]

Karyn, thank you again for the message you send. Reading the comments, so many of my brothers out there are suffering the same pain and it’s horrible. Could you do me a huge favor and get your damn spy cameras out my house now😂

[@Ojthemighty]

Yes contrary to popular belief, us men have feelings. We feel very deeply infact, we just keep it under lock and key.

[@josholdaker8684]

I mean, I'm not a child. I can control my impulses. I'm not going to let a woman's abuse make me do something I find immoral. I would certainly divorce her though. I experienced enough emotional, physical, and sexual abuse in my childhood. I have no desire to be married to my mother

[@joh8379]

Love you girl, thank you so much for what you're doing for us.

[@BuhurtUK]

Second video of yours I've seen and the second I've saved. Straight away you got to a key problem with the relationship I had with my kid's mum. It's very helpful to understand that part of my life so thank you

[@byronwaite2824]

If I tell my wife how I feel, she will say oh my God, stop being a baby.I need a man and if you can't be that I'll go find one that is

[@InstigatingInsulator]

Mine always says oh my god… I responded nope I’m just Trevor 😂

[@fmagalhaes1521]

@TheHappyWifeSchool When a man opens up and becomes vulnerable to wife, she will weaponize that against him the next time she is giving him a verbal beatdown.

[@VictorEstevesCastro]

You made me understand what was missing about my last relationship Thank you Your video has made difference for me

[@michaelbruner3511]

It's not just the invalidating of our emotions. It's also the demand from a wife that her husband share his feelings. Why should he when he'll just get shredded to pieces. It's a sick game

[@L6FT]

Thank you. I've internalised so much of her behaviour blaming myself, and although I realise I also played my part I realise it wasn't all my fault. I was with a very insecure woman for a couple of years, who was very into me, I was insecure about committing. Had she communicated her grievances more directly, instead of cheating and running off with a playful young man she'd just met, we'd probably still be together, but who knows. My heart was very broken, and I'm picking myself back up and learning, she's been miserable ever since, but also learning, I expect.

[@adelb7897]

Not only good men, most men have a complicated depth of feelings that have been suppressed due to societal norms and being taught to stuff it all in until you can't take it anymore and explode. If a woman is unable to accept and be okay with the fact that her man can be just as emotional and sensitive as her (we just show it in different ways on average), then I don't think she is ready to be in a relationship with an emotionally mature man. Maybe she might find a guy who can hide his emotions well but they'll come out one way or another, usually in less than healthy ways. Also from my own experience and friends', most of the 'bad boys' are actually more sensitive than the 'good man'. They are the way they are due to trauma, self victimization and the walls they built up to avoid the pain. I have dealt with my pain by acting the part and having promiscuous phases and times where I 'faked' relationships just to eventually 'switch up' to what I thought was a 'better' girl. I have since worked really hard to better myself and heal my emotional trauma but I'm still just as sensitive, only now I can almost always recognize when I am being unreasonable. I want to have a truly positive relationship with a woman but I will never waste my time on emotionally immature women who can't accept that her partner can have emotional depth and sensitivity.

[@Noahcrusade99]

I got no sympathy for what's coming for American women. What goes around comes around.

[@GreenGablesForever1]

Thank you for all your videos, you've helped give me a road back to me...

[@naturallaw33]

I had a recent very very bad experience with an American woman, she had the princess programming and was a feminist (not normal). We only lived together for 2 months and it was enough for me. my mistake? I GAVE EVERYTHING to make this work. and I just felt used. It was my first time with an American, so I don't know if this is normal in the United States? Or are they like that because of the culture? but in LATAM we are warmer in many aspects. Obviously, she didn't work, she spent all day listening to things about high-value women. I came home after a day of work and she was already waiting for me to take her out on the street for a walk. She was like that for 2 months (almost every day I took her outside). She NEVER asked me if I was tired or how I felt. She only cooked a couple of times. and the only time she did a little cleaning in my house was because I asked her to. and a couple of times she paid for the food outside, but I noticed that she mentioned to me several times that she would pay. She made me feel that only her money had value and mine did NOT. She was an asexual person, so I only had sex with her a couple of times. It was something totally horrible. Or possibly I was a fool who believed her lies and just wanted to vacation in my country for free and she only saw my stupid face, I will never know? Any honest opinions friends?

[@Jettatura-yn8ss]

That is pretty bad behavior by American standards too.

[@naturallaw33]

​@@Jettatura-yn8ssthank you, i just asking bcoz was my first time with american woman

[@Dano-MX5]

It sounds like you were used and abused….its common among a lot of women regardless of nationality. Chalk it up for experience.

[@dresher0121]

I want to know the male version of the video so I know how to spot when I'm being emotionally neglectful

[@richarddamiani4721]

Emotional neglect can be a wife who refuses to connect or talk beyond information exchange, who takes all the love you pour on them and gives little or nothing but duty sex in return, who makes you so lonely your chest and soul ache with it. Then someone comes and actually sees you, talks with you, loves you, and there is no defense. I finally divorced, ended the emotional affair, and later found a woman who truly loves me and who loves my love in return.

[@davegayaldo]

id get home , 1145 pm she drunk and didn’t ever know if she’s pissed off for something….my X . never forget .. i think she was looking for reasons to leave

[@socialnetworking4782]

Nah, no excuses for affairs. I've been the guy who's wife had an affair. There's gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and far too much disrespect. this goes for men and women. Stop babying men or women who cheat. It was their fault.

[@kenoconnell7730]

Karen is right. I will never cheat on my wife, no matter how bad she treats me, but even the average women out there are looking appealing these days.

[@ab-lg7lu]

Dear ma'am, I am pleased to listen your talks. After 28 years of marriage experience, I agree with your observations. I am from Pakistan and a Muslim but do agree with your point of view. Ladies of this era are not ready to understand the hard facts of life. If we start analysing ourselves and perform our duty as a spouse honestly; no doubt affection and love get prevailed. It is our ego and bad attitude; which makes relationship worse

[@marsewolfe3989]

I'm at the point, and have been for years that I hate going home. We've been together 39 years, I can see the end in view, I'm tired of trying.

[@InstigatingInsulator]

Go stoic my friend let nothing bother you! If you don’t mind it doesn’t matter… I know easier said than done but I’m trying to

[@dat581]

Yes. My wife is full of resentment and certainly has the rolodex of hurts she likes to throw at me during an argument. I have plenty of resentment too but it all boils down to the one and only thing in my rolodex: She took her away from me. She put walls up, she withdrew sex and affection, she turned her heart to ice. I miss the fun, playful happy woman who could not keep her hands off me. I have asked her what happened but she says it was 11 years ago and she does not remember. It happened over a period of weeks and I don't believe her for a second that she does not know. I miss the old her terribly.

[@InstigatingInsulator]

Classic bait and switch best of luck 🤞

[@fish4food0071]

It seems to never fail. If you say what’s on your mind and troubling you , they will find away to make it your fault !!!

[@clintpot8521]

My dad and I joke around about how being a man is a thankless job, lol.

[@Enjoymentboy]

Be it from parents, friends, my (now ex) wife, friend or family I had to make the long hard journey to accepting that my feelings and emotional state just do not matter to anyone other than myself. Through this I learned to accept that I myself don't matter. v It sucked but just like any of the 5 stages of grieving acceptance is the final stage. Note I know that the only one who can accept my feelings or emotional needs IS me and I no longer hope for anyone else to do so.

[@DrLusEnglish]

So enlightening

[@USER_S4V4NT]

heard this one guy say that when infidelity comes to mind most people think about cheating but nobody talks about emotional infidelity where you devote everything to yourself and nothing to your partner. i dont care what people want to do, if will only invest in yourself dont get married, people who will only invest in themselves can do it alone.

[@alexszlanina7548]

The guy also needs to push for positive vibrations. Take her hiking.. camping. If she can care for there ..

[@scottedwin9615]

Whenever I express myself and what I am missing and feel neglected on. The standard answer is.... oh I am sorry that was not my intention........

[@guyincognito7211]

My wife goes the full trump approach and complains preemptively that I am doing the things that SHE is actually doing. She complains that SHE never knows what my mood is going to be like, that SHE always feels like she's walking on eggshells, etc

[@smokingcrab2290]

Same exact thing for me dude. Same exact thing. It's the ultimate disconnect

[@OfSoulAndSin]

Yep, she actually said “walking on eggshells”. To those who actually know me, I’m an easy going and supportive friend, if there is something I can do to help someone, I almost always do it (sometimes you really can’t).

[@jordanp5163]

This is a very common form of gaslighting.

[@JamesPetroff]

Projection from a narcissist