Emotions: The Data Men Miss | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSantaClaraUniversity

[@purvipatel6841]

This reminded me so much of something I saw a while back. A feminist who works to change laws in India to help women was part of a panel on male on female violence and she said something that really struck me. She said we teach our boys not to feel and if they can't even feel their own emotions, how can we expect them to feel empathy for anyone else? She cited this as a major cause of violence and said that if we change the way we raise our boys, if we stop shaming them for having and acknowledging feelings, we'll go a long way towards ending violence because then those (unacknowledged and ignored) emotions will be less likely to turn into anger/rage. To me, your discussion seemed very in line with that debate. Thank you for the insight!

[@SuperPsyched]

Powerful comment, Purvi. Thank you for sharing this!

[@gperson1967]

Yes, and fathers need to be a huge part of that process too.

[@SuperPsyched]

Thank you, Purvi!

[@Userdoesnotexit]

BS

[@shivamdaskuldeep9711]

Did she mention how some women use our emotions against us during arguments about some topic which is completely unrelated? How certain women argue or how they behave also leads to violence. Every asskicking doesn't just fall out of sky

[@melbraswell]

“A problem well-stated is a problem half-solved.” - Charles Kettering. This information is very well stated. Thank you!

[@elizabethbennet4791]

"A problem well-stated is a problem half-solved."

[@koushikvemuri3130]

I a lot of my friends and including me are depressed about the same thing actually. "We have never reached our true potential. We should have worked harder or we are wasting our talents" I am sure the above rings true to so many men.

[@anonymouslearner2454]

How is talent realted to feelings (genuinely curious)

[@OlyaOrton]

So glad to hear people taking about it! Our society needs to realize that feeling is not a shameful thing, it's in fact insightful and wise and courageous. I see it as a sign of maturity when a man owns his emotions instead of suppressing and denying them. Thank you.

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Olya!

[@SuperPsyched]

Kamal Dasgupta and thank you, Kamal!

[@buzoqt.v1571]

See the Key word "own" not shown

[@pacosanchez7216]

I'm feeling something for you baby and it can't be suppressed

[@volpone45]

Last 6 years of my life is passed way for searching that things what is happening in my life with all the real world problems by zipping up all of my emotions and try to cure those emotions by another way but now I got it what was my problem and I had a personal analysis of my all sorts of action in my life with regards to my point of emotions for the last two years and that is actually as same as you narrate Adam . Thanks a lot Adam for sharing such a important information about emotions .

[@SuperPsyched]

Thank you, Adam T.!

[@jonathanmathe3815]

Profound, Good work Dr Adam.

[@adrianmedina5275]

Important for all of us to be thinking about Adam. Thank you for putting this together. I'll try and FIP more often.

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks so much, Adrian! :)

[@jonathanmathe3815]

Profound

[@NunsenseStudios2110]

This kind of thing gives me hope...

[@RobertOgner]

Really good Adam! I'm sharing it right now with a husband in a couple I saw last night. I'll have many more husbands to share this with. Thank you for sharing it with me!

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Robert! I hope it's helpful to your clients.

[@justicesociety4597]

Great job Adam - I especially appreciate your 7 set Roadmap. Looks like a good tool for men and women!

[@saraholly4021]

This is amazing. As the Mother of two boys I really appreciate the message. Excellent job!

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Sara!

[@debrawehrly9551]

Thank you for such a good video. Emotions are important. Emotions drive our behavior and everything that we do. Good and bad

[@guywilnai]

Well done, Adam! I'm feeling proud of you.

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Guy!

[@PeterTrudelle-1]

Insightful and compelling; we need to hear more: Encore!

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Peter! :)

[@lesliearia]

Great talk-way to go Dr. Dorsay! Fantastic message! ✊🏽

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks so much, Les!

[@tinajoneswilliams4253]

Thank you Adam Dorsay. Great insight, explains so much. I am sharing with my children (son and daughter).

[@yoloforlife48]

Just dont encourage them over to be emotinal to the point that they make their decisions based just on their emotions, it has to 50/50

[@leighharrison1091]

Awesome, Adam! I miss a lot of data, too. This was good to hear. Thanks for sharing!

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Leigh! We've come a long way since the newspaper!

[@vickyventer7488]

Love this - you inspire me Adam :) thank you.

[@AmritaSingh-ej1cq]

Wow! Great job Adam! Very Succinct and very well presented. Really important topic too.

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Amrita! :)

[@bofuscrapshaw]

Adam was my camp counselor amazing guy

[@SuperPsyched]

Wow, thanks!

[@bofuscrapshaw]

Adam Dorsay its jason Goodman in case you were wondering

[@SuperPsyched]

Yes, I was! Thanks for letting me know!

[@renehenriksen1735]

Good thing that someone has an eye for this issue...

[@akshitasrivastavaofficial8171]

💗that was awesome👏👏👏

[@SuperPsyched]

Thanks, Akshita!

[@Chuu266]

Awesome! but, what is the name he specifically gives to the seventh step? Ability? Fluency?

[@SuperPsyched]

Hey Roxanne, thanks for asking. It didn't show up on the talk very clearly but it's "Articulation"

[@crAzytitAn4741]

@@SuperPsyched can't believe this didn't blow up 🤔

[@anonymouslearner2454]

@@crAzytitAn4741 right 🤔

[@renehenriksen1735]

Maybe this reveals something missing about the upbringing of boys.

[@BenjaminEsposti]

Shhh, you can't talk about that! Everyone knows that it's only girls who are mistreated. Boys already have it easy. XD

[@tylercooper1551]

René Henriksen not just maybe, it literally does. It's so apparent in society sadly

[@rainystone607]

Benjamin Esposti women have more rights then man

[@renehenriksen1735]

@@PinkYellowGreen2023 Hmmmm

[@renehenriksen1735]

@shaka mata _ African pride They are like Hollywoodcelebrities. DEMAND, DEMAND and DEMAND!

[@dplant8961]

Hi, Folks. Interesting talk with some interesting ideas. One thing did kinda jump out at me - that most men would choose electric shocks over sitting with themselves for an hour. Cain't say itza 'kwestyun' that I've asked a lotta men but I know I would have NO problem sitting with myself for an hour - do it a lot anyway - - - AND LIKE it.. Just my 0.02. You all have a wonderful day. Best wishes. Deas Plant,

[@jayTerry9]

I show my emotions to my family only. Women have the opposite problem no control of it.

[@TalkEssence]

Nothing much that can be done if a man doesnt see the need to feel, respond, or desire resolve... Some men simply remain quiet, unresponsive and cold. Its better to them then obligating their emotions selflessly to others - seems way to risky for them. So is this bad if they function well socially with others?

[@buzoqt.v1571]

Bet 💸 u dont want a men wit emotions, ull c him as if he were feminine.

[@TalkEssence]

@@buzoqt.v1571 this is foolishness in the female that thinks that way. In part, the culture - watching how men interact with each other - has influenced that type of thinking in women. Men tell each other, you talk to much, shut up, stop crying like a b+×+× and man up... So some women think its something feminine then if a man does otherwise. Sadly we did learn in part from the men

[@TalkEssence]

@shaka mata _ African pride men are not all the same. I have male friends who know how to communicate very maturely and thoroughly. Then I no some men who only communicate that only their opinion matters and is truth. Others They dont talk to the point where they feel they simply dont have to. You can say, how are you? And they say nothing. You ask, do you want something to eat? They say nothing and act like you arent even there. Ive seen various types of personalities in men. But that last example I gave stumps me. Anyway, thanks for responding🙏

[@siradmin6791]

I can function well socially. While hiding my emotions and bottling them up. But it isn't healthy in the slightest. Also the reason men hide their emotions are because theu are told they are weak for showing emotions and are told to man up.

[@elizabethbennet4791]

lol I *love* sitting alone by myself- what a wonderful rest! Maybe this explains submissive men, because they choose consistent pain to alleviate their inner pain.

[@daniellu8662]

How can I donate to this guy?

[@reallydoe2552]

Dope do more

[@_godsl4yer_]

Hopefully i don't end up like this.

[@donnysandley6977]

Understand the self first 🤪 as troublesome it is 🤫 way better than poo 💩

[@OriginalAustinOblivion]

I would have chosen the shocks so I could be described as shocking :)

[@yggtheterribleone8077]

I learned to not express my emotions from the reactions of women. Also male brains process emotions in the amygdala and as such have difficulty articulating them when compared to women.

[@robinisdefinitely7393]

really funny he used Nathan Fielder here

[@markofcain2761]

This was 15 minutes about absolutely nothing that went nowhere.

[@rainystone607]

Mark of CAIN he wants to make man weak

[@A6Legit]

Creative Film smh really...

[@A6Legit]

@shaka mata _ African pride what