End Of Life - the last hours and minutes

This video talks about understanding the last few minutes and hours of life and what the body goes through, what common symptoms are associated with the last few hours of life, and how to manage these symptoms to provide a humane passing.

[@GregSr]

My dad lived with us for his last 6 years. He died at 88 in our home. He was in hospice care. He knew and accepted it. He said things like, "I'm going away". As his son, I did not know how to handle his comments. All I could say was, "we're all going away...eventually". On one of his better days, he also said, "It's been a great ride". Just like in this video, he died very peacefully in his sleep. No drama. He just didn't take his next breath. A few days before he died, his personality changed. He wanted me to stay next to his bed and hold his hand. I was more than happy to do that. In my entire life, we never even hugged. I was shocked. One day, for no obvious reason, he started crying. I had never seen him cry in my whole life. The whole process was an emotional roller coaster but something I am glad I could be there for.

[@Maxcatboat]

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[@fishinguy]

Me too, the only difference was my dad also exibited sundowners syndrome. Wanna talk rollercoaster, gettin my ass chewed out of the blue but we knew why and what was coming. He passed in 06 but it still seems recent. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@goldenautumn3073]

My mother had her second and final heart attack at 75 years and I was sure grateful when the attending specialist told me they'd 'given her something to help her out', which I believed was morphine. It was a sudden death and she was gone just several hours after being admitted to hospital. She always prayed she'd never be a burden on anyone, and her prayer was answered. I hated her having to go through what she did but am so glad I was at her home when the time came, as I was living in another State and had flown home to stay with her for a short visit. I only saw her for the last time after the medics had given her what they did and she seemed unconscious, but her facial expression was peaceful - and in fact, even though pain was etched into it, she seemed to be smiling! Remembering that has given me much comfort over ensuing years. I had prayed I would be with her when the time came, and so both our prayers were answered - thanks be to God.

[@deniseroe5891]

My mom went into hospice on Friday and passed on Sunday. The nurses and I hadn’t had the talk about the EOL stages. On Sunday I go to her house after church and her body was shutting down. The urine in the catheter was coffee color and the feces was pouring out like a fountain. The on call nurse got there along with two others. She was given morphine and went home. This was almost nine years ago, thank you for saying that the morphine didn’t hasten her death. I have carried guilt for giving her the morphine and also guilt for not being with my dad for his final breath. I was home with a husband who had just had a stroke. Now I am preparing to go down this road with my husband.

[@andrewjoyce9038]

My father and mother both died in hospital within 5 weeks of each other. My mum died last week. My father died of a brain tumour and mother died of cancer. I miss them both terribly

[@ginnypurdey1]

Dear Andrew, Having been through such similar pain through loss of my parents and a sibling. My heart goes out to you Andrew and I am SO SORRY x.

[@andrewjoyce9038]

@@ginnypurdey1 sorry for ur loss ginny. I know its hard. You'll get through it

[@ginnypurdey1]

Thank you Andrew for your kind words. Many millions understand the meaning of LOSS and GRIEF if they have been through the trauma of losing loved ones and close friends. My brother died of a brain tumour too, and it is heartbreaking to witness. My thoughts are with you Andrew x.@@andrewjoyce9038

[@marlenea.6465]

I am so sorry for your loss. May your parents rest in Peace together.

[@laurakimmons641]

I would be like dose me up, l mean come on nobody want to be in pain or full of anxiety. The fact that we are dying anyway, I really don't see the problem. Let us die with a smile😊.

[@bonnytaylor7558]

AGREED

[@elainemurley9509]

Amen

[@fishinguy]

I was on palliative care before my lung transplant. There isn't any real limits on morphine, if you run out you get more, they don't say cut back, no police threats. They just want you comfortable.

[@goldenautumn3073]

Which is the way it should be. We help our pets when their time comes - why not our own?

[@legacyhospice4841]

I apologize that I have had people say that the volume is too low on this video. Please just turn on the closed caption option. Unfotunately I can't fix this now but I will boost audio in the next video! I am using a lapel mic.

[@Cassandra_Loveday]

This was so helpful. Thank you so much. Volume issue is trivial. Thank you again 🙏

[@ambriadaniels-dovolis7496]

You can't get CC on yr cellphone tho :(

[@katharinatrub1338]

oh, the sound seemed perfect to me! I also was touched by your video, because I just went through the passing of my Mom a couple of weeks ago. I feel relieved to know that Morphine did not hasten her death, but relieved her of the horendous pain!

[@kaltrex9465]

My grandma was like this, I once hydrated her because her prior dehydration issues and she bounced back but a few weeks later she passed. I had dilauted and tried to give it in the last hours but I don’t know if it was too late to administer. Her heart stopped beating and breathing, it seems she went peacefully, but I didn’t know about the restlessness. Her heart rate was very low and the kidneys were a problem. I kissed her and her rate went up then not. I tried to keep an eye on everything 24/7. I lost the person who I came home to. She was like my mother. It was a gift she held on until her birthday and so we could finish documents, then she passed.

[@kimmclean9933]

I had no problem with the volume.

[@mariejoy8598]

When my father was dying, I asked for valium for him. It made his last hours much easier.

[@jwhite9825]

Seizures were the worst thing my husband went through. When that happened and doctors had returned the diagnosis of brain death, I agreed to discontinue life support. Hardest thing I could ever go through.

[@user-wq5mz7no7h]

Thank you so much.....for all the help...i have terminal cancers various places... Thank you again.... Good to know everything. !!!

[@vievahigdon7322]

Thank you

[@gailpool4042]

Dose me up on morphine when my time comes. The more, the merrier.

[@elainemurley9509]

Yes

[@roylee5391]

Amen 🙏🏼

[@cynthiaboatright3542]

I turned my volume to the max. Still impossible to hear. Hope you can fix it, because I was intrigued with the topic.

[@girlpower4589]

so did i and i still couldn't hear him.

[@Hawaii510]

Same here

[@carolmackowiak752]

This is when you need to turn on the CLOSED CAPTION!

[@LeaLea5757]

Put earphones in and you can hear him

[@cynthiaboatright3542]

@@LeaLea5757 They are incompatible with my hearing aids.

[@HermanMelendez]

Excellent, very helpful!

[@robertonuno2592]

Thank you so much for sharing your videos,they are very informative.

[@JANJOHNSON59]

Thank you for your information!

[@user-so4vn7oh1r]

Thank you for this information 🙏🏼

[@Timmsy]

So helpful thank you Dr 🙏

[@silverraven2017]

Thank you for this informative video. The sound was perfect too

[@jino2786]

I don’t care if it hastens my death. Load me up I don’t want to feel anything. Relieve all of my symptoms and suffering not some bring it on

[@roylee5391]

Amen to that

[@goldenautumn3073]

Right with you!

[@deniseshell9170]

Thank you for sharing this information 🙏

[@jackskellington9195]

Thank you for your information Very helpful to understand this process I live in Thailand and hospice is not offered so good to be armed with information

[@nid128]

There are palliative care offer in some hospitals, not famous among Thai people but shift focus from best treatment target for cure in terminal disease (which need to sacrifice with more suffering) to be focusing on patient desire/wellness both physical and mental , we need to make more awareness on this well death.

[@druo7840]

Thank you.

[@normanchristie4524]

Thanks for this....

[@csnymoodiesfan]

This makes me feel better because I did ask that the healthcare person give morphine to my mom to make the end of her life a more pleasant and less stressful end of life. She seemed to be sleeping mostly the last two days of her life, so I know she was at peace. I never saw her struggling.

[@anitadenton1468]

There is CC closed caption

[@darrenupton5500]

In my dads last moments he went all hot so i opened all the windows. His last words were" i feel faint". He past out. I gave him the kiss of life but i was just glad it was all over for him. I was not sad at all. I can picture them last moments as if it happened five minutes ago and it 35 years ago.

[@eckankar7756]

I was a Hospice RN for 17 years. I had multiple encounters with the spirits of recently deceased patients. I did an podcast on my spirit experiences, it's on m channel. Part 2/2.

[@libragal1750]

What's your channel?

[@eckankar7756]

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[@cherylcarroll7916]

Thought my phone was broken. Couldn’t hear the speaker. Will try later.

[@user-br1gm3et5w]

🙏

[@anitadenton1468]

I used CC all the time if it is available, I’m deaf

[@silvana11221122]

when my dad was dying his heart seemed to be the last thing it looked like it was totally turning over in his chest and i cant get that visual out my head 6 months on... after the heart stopped there were a few puffs of air from his mouth .. but it looked like the heart was last fighting on ... Is this right Heart is last ?

[@akristen4971]

Generally yes

[@joelynnhill8684]

I’m heard your hearing goes last

[@joijuaire-darfler4614]

Volume on max, unable to hear much of it; very frustrating!

[@michellestella7477]

People. Use headphones.

[@cynthiahawkins2389]

My headphones are top line BOSE. Still can't hear. And yes, my hearing is normal.

[@michaelp761]

I’m deaf and can hear him.😀

[@sweetiepie4328]

I take care of someone that is in hospice actively dying and no one visits him. He has kids. Where are they?

[@beckymiles8807]

You need to turn up volume, on high, and can't hear you.

[@cynthiahawkins2389]

Hint: ALWAYS do a sound check before recording. Most of this lecture is inaudible; I could not hear any of it. Despite turning my laptop volume to maximum. My hearing is normal, BTW....Bad mistake, Doc.

[@girlpower4589]

Same here.

[@nickiirek6569]

I can hear it all just fine

[@wolfe6220]

The sound was fine for me. May want to download a volume booster app like my auntie has.

[@burnindaylighthomestead2977]

The volume is too low on your video. Interesting subject. Just can't hardly hear .

[@junng6848]

Turn YOUR volume up

[@burnindaylighthomestead2977]

@@junng6848 if I was the only one saying it. Ah ya. I must not need to hear anything on this channel.

[@jkth4500]

@@burnindaylighthomestead2977 I've no problem listening?

[@sirius7871]

I can listen clearly

[@lisarobbinslauve3825]

Dude get a tie mic!!!!!CAN'T HEAR YOU

[@user-hj1mk7zy6t]

I didn't want my mom to continue to get morphine, when I could tell that her consciousness had left her body. I did not want her to cross over loaded on such a powerful drug. I felt that she should retain as much consciousness as possible so she was aware of what was happening. She passed away peacefully without it.

[@cherylhafner]

Can't hear what you are saying.

[@PraveenSriram]

I unfortunately couldn’t hear 👂 anything

[@MsMamatube]

WHAT?!!! PLEASE ADJUST VOLUME

[@stevendaniel8126]

Couldn't hear him........

[@glenmason1876]

Clear enough to me

[@mpmunger1225]

You can’t hear this

[@laurakimmons641]

I had no problem hearing with he was saying.

[@girlpower4589]

I clicked on Thumbs Down because I could not hear what he was saying even after turning up my volume . O well.

[@M3ttaM4n]

Thank you.