Ending Gaslighting Relationships with Toxic Family Members

[@durgan5668]

I kept hoping my father would 'see reason'. That was an emotional response, as I knew from experience he would not. He thought he had all the levers for me to bow down to his wants and the damage continued to accrue. So, I got a moving company to come pick up my stuff, and I left. To the day I did leave, he thought I was bluffing. You have to get to the point where you put the emotions aside, because they're standing in the way of reality.

[@Carolmaizy]

Left a gaslighting husband. I tried for many years. Then just couldn't possibly take any more. I thought I was losing my mind. Truly. I had to leave to save myself. The peace of mind I later gained was priceless. Starting over with nothing was painful, but worth it. Several years later I met the love of my life. It all worked out for the best.

[@PugLovah]

I felt this: "You don't have to talk to people as much as they want to talk to you."

[@annetteselent]

I recently was on the receiving end of being gaslit by my brother. I have been ostracized by my family for 5 years. 2 years ago he at least admitted that it was happening. Two weeks ago he advised me that it was always all in my head. That I was basically nuts. That the family has always welcomed me with open arms. This…a couple of days after yet another family gathering of which I had no knowledge and to which I wasn’t invited. He even asserted that 3 of my siblings and my parents would be willing to sit in on my counseling sessions to let my counsellor know how off-base I’m being. He and I used to be close. This is very painful and breaks my heart.

[@mjsmith9889]

I have actually blocked family members on my phone for their toxic behaviors. I have also left a narcissist after 10 years of marriage. I recently left a toxic narcissist after 6 years of dating. My mother is a narcissist. I am trying to break the toxic cycles, but it is difficult since this is what I grew up with. I am in therapy and I am doing the hard work. When you have had enough you will leave. It gets dangerous at the end sometimes so please leave before you really get hurt.

[@LinJMartinez]

Loved this segment ❤️ My mom allowed my step-dad to sexually abuse me. For years I held it in but 2017 I confronted her. She does not know how much damage she did to me.

[@taraarrington2285]

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[@user-hr1ql2fu3f]

Believe your own reality and accept that your gaslighter will never acknowledge your reality.

[@MariaMautiDrake]

They probably don’t see reality

[@monsaracho]

Mind blowing!! Thank u soo much for sharing ❤

[@andreabrigitteprohaska3281]

I had to feel its enough to breakout one minute to the other...and its a very long road coming to this point & take action.

[@taurinenrgy]

Is not worth trying to get a person to accept their wrong doings. I know I’m not a perfect been and I take fault for the things I do wrong. I just cut someone from my life that was constantly gaslighting me, I didn’t even said good bye. Is not worth trying to get them to accept what they done.

[@fauza4679]

Hard for me. My dad , my grandpa, my neighbour . And many people I don't know. They gaslighting me with make fake cough, fake throat cleaning. And now more days more loudly and yelling . I'm tired life

[@Lifeisbeautiful-ri2tb]

I have slowly decreased contact with a gaslighting friend. I put up with it for several years and I just can't take it anymore. We still keep in touch by text but haven't seen each other in person for a long time. The check ins by text are very short and mostly consist of small talk.

[@elaineclaire7063]

You've to be grounded to be able to tolerate gaslighting - i've given up on the money forms - most of the time my money is being controlled and is being used as a threat if i don't obey my parents - because i've a bad habit of overspending - but gaslighting me when they're broke and using my money is just a no go - and another gaslighting tactic is self pity. I've been putting up with my mum's self pity in public, so at times it can be embarassing when she puts up a show when shes in pain; but when shes at home shes okay. So when people see us in public, it looks as if she is a victim and i am the one who is to be blamed for not being able to help her. Sometimes i would want to breakdown in public because i don't know how to stand up for myself, for my beliefs, for my freedom. I continue to stay on in this family despite being gaslighted because of the self pity, the narcissism that goes along with it.

[@PS-bs8oe]

Been there, done that... Alabama'lovely voice...

[@ferdiemontenegro5436]

Ryan looks like a Lord of the Rings character in this picture.