ENFJ vs ENFP | What's the Difference?

[@KB-tg7pf]

I'm an ENFP married to an ENFJ for 10 years, and the biggest difference I've found is that, while we both like the same things, he is in it for the responsibility, and I'm in it for the fun. SO if we like to take walks outside, he's doing it because exercise and fresh air are good for you. I'm doing it because I love exploring and seeing nature. This is good until a cold, gloomy day when I don't want to go because it won't be fun, and he insists because I still need exercise. Our motivations took different paths and now there's a fight. ;)

[@acharich]

I would have thought it'd be the other way around but now that I think if some interactions, wow, that makes so much sense.. 💭 From an EFNP surrounded by ENFJs.. lol

[@damarisltrevizo]

Tooooootally makes sense, as an ENFP with ENFJ parents 😅

[@cellosing]

I’m an ENFP and I’ve just started dating an ENFJ. Any advice you’d give? :)

[@elainekan4209]

im an enfj and I do it for both reasons :|

[@robcarter6771]

@@cellosing As an ENFP, run away.

[@MrKaibaoh]

I'm an ENFJ with 51% judging to 49% prospecting 🤣, so I'm a switch 😅

[@damarisltrevizo]

Ms.Kaibaoh ooh I’m on a similar boat, friend! I just retook a personality quiz and got 52% p and 48% j! I understand why now! I tend to do things for fun, but have recently wanted to balance it out with doing specific fun things that would ALSO be equally beneficial for me as they are fun for me. I’m curious about your slight preference for J!

[@giovannigarcia5895]

Me too!

[@hjs.7234]

Same!

[@TheFashionninja]

SAME!

[@Merry357]

Soooo true!

[@katet6436]

Thank you for clarifying. I always knew I was an ENFX but this helps me better understand what I am. I think I'm an ENFP who strives but doesn't quite succeed to be an ENFJ.

[@GeekPsychology]

Might want to look more into the Perceiving and Judging dichotomy. Personality Hacker has some great thoughts on it. Where do you want (read: need) freedom/organization? Freedom in the outer world with structure inside? You’re a Perceiver. Organization outside so you can have the freedom in the inner world for your mind to wander where it may? You’re a Judger.

[@tidespilgrim]

Nice advice! I understand myself as ENFx too, but now I can see by this description that ENFP is more my style! Thank you

[@vinsanity_52]

I thought I was the only one that looks at the different types of Myers Briggs personalities as classes in a video game. Great video!

[@GeekPsychology]

+Vincent Drewes There appears to be many of us out there! Trying to build that community up here.

[@sefmusic6273]

That’s really interesting because I’ve been an enfp my whole life but a lot has happened recently and I’ve been less afraid of wearing my heart on my sleeve.. and when I retook the test apparently I’m an enfj now!

[@tasnimnaz7109]

Seven Flowers me too!

[@v.s7760]

Maybe you’ve always been a j, but because of your feelings you came out p. I’m not afraid of not wearing wearing my heart on my sleeve I just don’t want to do it so easily and with people I don’t know lol. It’s just naturally not something I want to do 😂. I’m an ENFP btw

[@stanbtsforaclearskin]

Pls don't trust in tests and don't type yourself by letters, it's not J or P, it's cognitive functions

[@sibulelentsonkota7948]

Same I was a P but today got J

[@clarisa2651]

IT HAPPENED THE SAME FOR ME!!!

[@arunahosein]

The more I get into differentiating between them the more I get confused

[@ranganaa]

I am an ENFP and have been in a relationship with an ENFJ. I resonate with your analysis thoroughly. I like doing things as long as I keep my interests on. I hate being suppressed and esp, I run from people/ things which don't create any emotions for me. My partner is more of a responsible guy, he is headstrong with a big heart. He likes aesthetic kinds of stuff compared to me who likes shiny things. Even though we find common in most of our traits but when it comes to making sense of a situation/goals, I tend to lose focus and become flighty, as I feel weighed down. I also keep wondering why he comes out so successful in most things... coz He is Really very good achieving things, be it music to any leadership roles. He wants me to be more responsible in my life and career esp. and when these expectations don't meet, we lead to arguments where he feels not being understood enough...But as an ENFP, coz of our flighty nature, we don't reach that depth what an ENFJ expects. And these experiences of bad arguments and misunderstanding come as self-sabotaging to an ENFP, impacting their 4th trait.

[@christianwellness4363]

This is very accurate. im an enfj and for some reason 75% of my friends are enfps , and you just described them in every way they are ,lol. Thank you for this great video. Helps me understand enfps more ::)

[@GM-ie4yy]

Good thoughts. It is very true at the end you were talking about ENFPs using extroverted thinking and just wanting to jump in and use logical steps to get the job done and measure progress etc, but it often ignores our introverted feeling. I find this is often the case. The interaction of the cognitive functions is complex but I tend to jump in and then later find that my course of action isn't aligning with my values (Fi).

[@GeekPsychology]

+Gemika Maloney Definitely. The auxiliary function is so incredibly important. It's just hard to listen to because we often don't have enough rapport built with it and patience for it. Keep at it! "Always let your conscience be your guide." ;P

[@GM-ie4yy]

The ENFP conscience is conflicted haha either in Ne Fi mode or Si Fi under stress. For me, realising that the extent to which I follow my core values my Si will launch an inner counter attack helps me to consciously choose Ne Fi and not feel guilty.

[@nicolabrittain3101]

I am conflicted too. I really want to find values driven creative work but there is some weird conservative side that has kept me in the corporate world. It is very confusing. Anyway, my priest's in charge now.

[@GeekPsychology]

Make it a non-negotiable thing! Easier said than done, I know, but force it on yourself until you get more comfortable with it. Don’t. Act. Until. You. Check. In. With. Your. Conscience. :) Let us know how it goes :)

[@KristalCherelle]

G M me too!

[@amberlouize127]

Love it!!! :) I'm an ENFP; my girlfriend is an ENFJ!! we get along very well lol.

[@ellier2018]

You’re so right about the ENFP’s thinking function. My Enfj friends get caught off guard when I go into heartless Te mode. One Enfj called me a robot when I was in a Ne-Te loop. Ne sees cool things and Te wants results NOW, so it is a conscious effort to go into slow and reflective Fi mode to see how I feel about things. Great video!

[@BlessMyHart96]

THANK YOU! This was so helpful! I’ve been on this MBTI journey of rejecting what I thought was true of me and growing to understand my actual preferences - not just what I want to be - for the past year. I finally claimed ENFJ and yet some people I know insist I’m an ENFP so I went back to the drawing board but it never fit quite right. This was the perfect side by side comparison of both.

[@ANGEL-eh6pd]

I always get ENFJ, but I know I am ENFP. After reading and studying the Enneagram, I learned that most ennearam 2w3, test ENFJs. I AM 2w3. I score higher on FE, because of my personality, rather than cognitive functions. Plus because I am 100 E, 98 O and 94 A, I score ENFJ, but I am really ENFP. Does that make sense? I get 85 to 100 ENF, but my J is only 5 Percent more, but I am certainly ENFP.

[@bgbagustin9161]

Hi! It was fun stumbling on this video. And I felt you've really hit homerun on some things. Might as well tell my story. :) Way back 2013-2014, I was an ENFP. And true, I was an "innovative gunner" because I was part of the student council, always coming up with new ideas, always Miss Sunshine of the group. But I wanted to be "behind the scenes" woman; I always wanted my ideas to be heard but did not want to be the "face" of the group; and always stirred things up to make a change. (IDK if that makes sense) I always dealt with things based on my previous experiences and moral standards. I was full of energy and ideas! There was this one time when I stirred things up and caused chaos and tears flowed because I voiced up my opinion on very delicate matters. HAHAHA I think it was my "newbie"-self getting the better of me. Lastly, I took the test again and now I'm an ENFJ. Currently in graduate school left me with so little energy for big crowds and I now have my labmates to work with. Most of the labmates seek my help or advise, feels like the Paladin character. Always immersed with my surrounding environment, too immersed sometimes. So right now, I'm everybody's confidant, willing to listen to their rants and frustrations, sitting side by side, or across a table for one-on-one drunk ranting. Always hearing "hey can you help me with ..." or the "hey I need to tell you something ..." from my companions. Apparently, most of them think I give the most sensible advises based their stories, its like "If I were you ..." line. HAHAHA. Always the one who speaks late in the conversation because I’m trying to assess the mood and where the conversation is going. Always the first to say "Uhhmmm. Your vibes is so heavy today. Anything you wanna share?". HAHAAH. Always being able to tell if a person is in a good or bad mood because of the vibes. Sometimes, when the vibes I sense is so strong, it can affect me too. So whenever I feel overworked, I really take my break and change my environment in order to recharge. More importantly, when there are opposing ideas during group discussion, I can suggest things that eventually leads to realizations of compromise between different parties. Feels like the "unifying cleric" role. HAHAHAH So yeah, I was kinda awestruck during and especially after watching the video. Lots of events and experiences flashed back as you describe each RPG role. HAHAAHA So yeah, I'm so thankful for this. And I've read some comments here and thinking about reading up on the cognitive functions. But I think I’m really much comfortable being an ENFJ rather than being an ENFP. AND OH! I just remembered, also, way back 2013, I was able to spend a short time with this exchange student and we got to the topic about the MB personality test. I said I was an ENFP. And he said " Oh yeah? I figured you're an ENFJ". HHAHAAH Sooo yeah, here I am 5 years later. Anyway, sorry for the long post. Thanks for this again! This is very helpful!

[@jeoplays]

Kinda agree that our cognitive functions stack can change over time.

[@Y77-7]

Sometimes when a big situation happens .. like you said about you making a decision that wasn’t that good and that effected others .. functions can change especially if the situation effected others, the functions will probably become introverted .. so the extroverted intuition that you had became introverted thus leading to the change of all the functions. Sorry for the rambling just a thought I had in mind 😂 I’m an enfj who was an enfp by the way

[@shoshiyel1505]

BGB Agustin girrl idk i thought am ENFP but i did the test again and am enfj i just dont know who iam truly i think am both i feel like i have alot of things with enfp and also with enfj the thing is am fun and responsible so could it be possible to be two characters lol i mean yes i care about people but not tooo much like i dont put them first like enfj i put me first the. People who am i god knows:(

[@bgbagustin9161]

@@shoshiyel1505 hello :) be patient with yourself :)

[@shoshiyel1505]

BGB Agustin 😂 ill be i just noticed both characters has the same problems and Solutions for their problems so it would help alot improving my self

[@christophercoan7331]

Loved the RPG analogies. I don't even play RPGs, but it really helped me to get my head around these two types as distinct archetypes. I wish someone would give you a job doing all of these!

[@GeekPsychology]

Awesome! Thank you. Glad it was helpful. Heeyyy. I wish someone would give me a job for doing all of these too!

[@benwells2338]

I must say, BRAVO! I can't exactly explain it...but I feel you've done something here extremely complex. You've basically stacked three different ways of explaining something...in a way that's easy for a beginner/intermediate person to MBTI to understand the differences between these two types. Like the metaphors you had, stacking on one another, to describe the nuances between the functions, as personalities, living within this larger construct, that IS a personality type, do you know what I mean?? Ya, I can't explain it. I know what you did though and I feel you've done it so well and so fluidly so it came across as simplistic, when it's actually not haha. Nevermind the garbage that just came out of my mouth lol.

[@alshaw7418]

Really insightful bro.... It's truly beautiful to see the person of yourself playing out... What an amazing God..😁😁🙌🏿🙌🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@GeekPsychology]

Thank you, Al, and thanks for supporting :) PM me if you have any questions.

[@soulinhaque2578]

Can you do ENFP vs INFP?

[@GeekPsychology]

Sure :D

[@fato8272]

Geek Psychology which website accurate for doing that test brother ?

[@ANGEL-eh6pd]

I just discovered I was really ENFP, at 55. Since High School, I thought I was an ENFJ. Now that I've been studying up on MBTI and personality types, I now UNDERSTAND why I type ENFJ all the time. Ive learned so much about myself, since Covid... After watching Many of Dr, Nardo's lectures, I discovered how the brain works with aging. Thanks. I'm investigating the cognitive functions because I've been on ADD and Bipolar meds., along with cognitive therapy for 20+ years. I was just curious. Do you I u have any tests? I lead with Ne and Fe 85 and 82 percent. Weird... But my P and J is so close.

[@ieatcrayons3322]

Whoa nice!

[@brycerenfeldt330]

ENFJ here. I like the D&D/RPG terms you used haha! Was fun and the in your face projecting cleric definitely resonated with me. The tertiary function being described as a relief is very true. Definitely use Se to escape and relax. How do you think an ENFP would use Te as a way to relax, or is it not comparable?

[@ANGEL-eh6pd]

Great info, thanks.

[@syamilahosman1459]

a few years ago, i took the test a few times within a year & i always got ENFJ (with the J ratio almost leaning to P) but in more recent years, every time i take the test, i always get ENFP (with the P ratio near J). i’m a bit confused about why it happened but i concluded that it’s due to the phases of life & the different environments that i went through. but watching this video made me wonder if it’s possible to actually be both ENFJ & ENFP at the same time? because most, if not all, of the explanations/examples made sense to me & i was able to relate to them so much that it kinda scared me. if someone could give answers, that’ll be great!!!

[@GeekPsychology]

The theory says you cannot be both. As you said though, different phases of life and environments will PULL ON different aspects, thus compelling you to (over)identify with them. Dig into the cognitive functions. It's more telling than the dichotomies like P/J. Hope that helps!

[@helenawebster8812]

i'm an enfj and my sister is an enfp

[@robertocausey]

Pretty awesome approach with the RPG characters ! great job

[@diplomat2623]

Everything you said about the ENFJ is correct! 💯💯💯👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽

[@TheFashionninja]

I am so frustrated, I use to test ENFP, now it's coming up as ENFJ? Is this normal?

[@tomosobi3603]

I used to think i was an INFJ until just recently!! I retook the test and it said I was ENFJ. So i just looked at characteristics of both to decide which one best explains my general personality/nature. And ENFJ definitely does that !!

[@happilyeverafter1528]

Same.

[@gibbishgiggles]

Same. I got enfj for the first time and enfp for the second and third time. I am really confused rn

[@borrink82]

Best explanation I have heard. Great job! I have questions🤪

[@avaelizabeth4808]

i like your curling irons ;)

[@Bonnie-sd7et]

😁

[@kimmeee4808]

Will an ENFP male and ENFJ female relationship works?

[@Partor6]

any type can be compatible with any other type, mbti doesn't define who the person is, first you have to find out whether you actually think the person is good for you before typing them and thinking they'll never be good for you only because they are a specific type.

[@savysarah]

i feel im enfp but i feel i have trats of enfj too

[@happilyeverafter1528]

Same.

[@jethrolagon8511]

You are handsome!!

[@vtheory7531]

I took the quiz on the Myers Briggs website 2 years ago and I came out as ENFP. I recently took the quiz again, but now I came out as ENFJ? Any reason why I somehow changed? When I read the profiles of both I feel like I fit ENFP more, but I do see bits of myself in ENFJ too... so which am I?

[@GeekPsychology]

+V Theory Not knowing you, it’s hard to give a clear reason. The biggest issues come from it being a self-assessment with forced choice (Is it A or B) questions. Another reason there are changes comes from life calling our attention to different things, making us overidentify with certain aspects. You might be in a position, as an ENFP, where you need to be more organized and focused on achieving goals. This would pull on that “J” aspect and possibly get you to come out as an ENFJ despite it being wrong for you. Learn the cognitive functions if you want real insights.

[@lunagregoria8827]

ENFP here. Why do I feel playing DnD all of the sudden?

[@GeekPsychology]

Not always? ^^

[@lunagregoria8827]

@@GeekPsychology Too much Yu-Gi-Oh for DND 😂

[@diplomat2623]

ENFJ here!!! Wow didn’t realize we were so different!!

[@SugaryPhoenixxx]

Wow, you are a hansome guy!

[@teacupnoir]

This is pretty good.

[@savysarah]

im like in between i feel like ive grown inbetween lol i used to not say anythng aout my feelings now i do.. is this possible ?

[@bhaatkhamhami3144]

Sameeeee

[@Leelanau03]

We need to talk so you can evaluate me. I'm still in the middle and I can't figure it out.

[@karissajones1744]

Me vs my mom

[@kaitlynnhaffener8148]

Dang Um I think I’m a mixture. I carry attributes of both. I honestly can’t say that I’m more one than the other

[@JBirch-bx1lb]

I feel like all of that applied to me

[@aleynanazcoskun482]

me too

[@kiri1620]

Hey, I'm a bit lost with the mbti system. Do the letters in the "personality code" such as ENFJ somehow correspond to the intuition-feeling-thinking-sensing system? What also bugs me is that for example the first letter E/I is already extraverted/introverted, but they're all present in defining the functions. I'm also wondering about the order (preliminary, auxiliary..) and how it's defined. I mean, the division seems very structurized and definitive when in reality I've noticed my own personality balancing right between ENFJ/ENTJ/ENFP, depending on what different people and situations bring out of me. So yes, I'm a bit lost but also playing a bit dumb with my questions, anyway I'd appreciate if sb would shed a light. I've also watched many videos and read articles but still the whole logic is somewhat unclear. Peace out :)

[@linzai520]

Why don't you try to take an online test? Maybe it will help

[@traditionalgirl3943]

I- introvert E- extrovert S- sensing (Si, introverted sensing/ Se, extroverted sensing) N- intuitive (Ni, introverted intuition/ Ne, extroverted intuition) F- feeling (Fi, introverted feeling/ Fe, extroverted feeling) T- thinking (Ti, introverted thinking/ Te, extroverted thinking) P- perceiving J- judging

[@stanbtsforaclearskin]

Let's see: Fe(extrovert feeling) dominant are ENFJ(Fe-Ni-Se-Ti) and ESFJ(Fe-Si-Ne-Ti. Fi(introvert feeling) dominant are INFP(Fi-Ne-Si-Te) and ISFP(Fi-Se-Ni-Te). Te(extrovert thinking) dominant are ENTJ(Te-Ni-Se-Fi) and ESTJ(Fe-Si-Ne-Ti). Ti(introvert thinking) dominant are INTP(Ti-Ne-Si-Fe) and ISTP(Ti-Se-Ni-Fe). Se(extrovert sensor) dominant are ESFP(Se-Fi-Te-Ni) and ESTP(Se-Ti-Fe-Ni). Si(introvert sensor) dominant are ISFJ(Si-Fe-Ti-Ne) and ISTJ(Si-Te-Fi-Ne). Ne(extrovert intuition) dominant are ENFP(Ne-Fi-Te-Si) and ENTP(Ne-Ti-Fe-Si). Ni(introvert intuition) dominant are INFJ(Ni-Fe-Ti-Se) and INTJ(Ni-Te-Fi-Se). Fe dom, Te dom, Si dom and Ni dom have the J. Fi dom, Ti dom, Se dom and Ne dom have the P. You just have to inform yourself about all those cognitive functions and try to guess what is your MBTI

[@kuykendallforkicks3227]

Enfj and infp. How are they related?

[@piccoloktheforged]

Man hard to believe I have changed that p to a j

[@stanbtsforaclearskin]

It wasn't just J to P, but all the cognitive functions.

[@piccoloktheforged]

@@stanbtsforaclearskin Ya that sounds about right

[@acharich]

13:20 ENFP here & whoa, that makes so much sense.. 😅🤯😅 I think I've grown in this area though & I'm very reflective / evaluative now, whilst still being very innovative.. ✨⚡✨ This vid really helps too as I seem to have so many ENFJs that are close to me.. 📝 Thanks so much, the similarities & differences make more sense now, and dots connect much better now.. 🔥 - @Acharich

[@acharich]

Actually, I said "now" but I think I've always been very reflective & evaluative.. lol I think it's just grown even more over time.. 🔑

[@tija1012]

I like this channel

[@GeekPsychology]

I like you!

[@moonsharn]

I disagree, ENFJ’s are highly logical, because of the judging function. If an issue is in conflict the ENFJ will step away from opinion and go straight for the data… what are the actual measurable facts here? Whereas the ENFP will continue on with opinions, ideals, and base their opinion on perception, creating a pattern from past experience and anecdotal statements to formulate their perception of “fact”, and they won’t budge on it or accept any logical data placed in front of them. They’ll go at the whole way down the rabbit burrow. And that gets even worse if they can connect to others through these opinions. Whereas the ENFJ sees the bigger picture, they prefer to focus on what is true, so that real change can be created. Even if that makes them the outsider

[@restccpow1504]

I am ENFJ or ENFP I never wanted to be boring in ENFJ way not look like scientific nerd - Ti inferior but it could be explain also as ENFP not wanted to be boring not want to be as everyone else (though enfp might mean babbittry sensing - in a way of Britney Spears wordly pleasues - "you got to wok bitch" being cool nice queen of the school etc.), and I dont like it much, but It doesnt matter to me so much not to be wordly pleasures - sensing - as everyone else - so I am probably ENFJ

[@GeekPsychology]

ENFJs have a big connection to extraverted Sensing as well! All of the ENxJs I know love being outside, taking hot baths, or weight lifting/exercising.

[@xavi7683]

over the years, i always did the mbti test and get different results. i have been introverted, then became extroverted. i never had sensing, so i can say this never changed. i almost never had thinking, just one time. always get feeling. judging and perceiving is always a problem to me. over the years, when the introverted changed, i always got judging, but it was like 60%. now it's been a tie, like 55% perceiving, 45% judging. i can't make my mind!!!! i cant make decisions only with judging or only with perceiving. i did a test on truity and ill show my results: 62% extroverted 88% intuition 59% feeling 50% judging 50% perceiving. the top3 matches are: enfp (66% match), enfj(44% match) and entp (85% match). others that have a great percentual: entj: 63% match intp: 79% match (idk why) estp: 61% match (but i dont have sensing??) infp: 60% match intj: 57% match infj: 38%. obs: in my opinion, those numbers are based in the cognitives functions, bc i dont have sensing and got estp as 61%. based on the high results, i guess im more perceiving person at the moment. i want your opinion! thanks for reading if you did haha

[@alanbunsee5230]

The J an P types walk different, talk different...you don't just change that. If you can't see that then your probably not a enfj or an enfp. We are aware of what's up! It's a state of mind

[@smokeofspades2974]

I'm an ENFP my ENFJ "friend" turned out to be a narcisst now I'm just thinking are all ENFJs prone to be narcissist?

[@123kelkat]

lol i know an ENFJ narc too

[@quasarbunny]

Whoa....I don't believe I have ever heard that about a healthy ENFJ.

[@Miluielle]

No, you've had a bad experience but narcissists come in all personality types. Try to take people as they come, don't avoid types simply because you've had a bad experience with someone otherwise you may rob yourself of a really fantastic and supportive relationship in the future.

[@swansong-oi2yz]

I believe esfjs are more likely prone to be narcissistic.

[@c.m.b.1676]

@@Miluielle Thankyou. I think that judging by type is a way to really miss the person sometimes which is the opposite of what we want to achieve! Anyone can take their weaknesses and address them and Grow.

[@Calebeqz]

Nothing to do with the video but it looks like you bleached your hair like eminem in the thumbnail

[@sandradibiaso7316]

I would rather be an enfj.

[@nadaaouiti1060]

@@sandradibiaso7316 I think being an enfp is a gift. Because you're more authentic than the enfj. -intj

[@AGirl]

😍😍

[@alexspeed8358]

As a ENFJ I find ENFPs really annoying and confusing actually... anyone else?

[@JIKitty]

I'm enfj and my partner of more than 11 years is enfp. Some aspects of him annoy me, sure. But mostly, I love him to pieces for his fun spirit and warmth.