Enneagram: Levels Of Health for Type 7

[@kellyraeparker3275]

“Why are we not on a plan right now? Why are we not on a pirate ship right now?” This sounds like me most days! 😯 I’m a 7 wing 8 and ENFP and your videos are helping me so much. Thank you ☺️

[@twlahue]

Right... Glad to help.

[@fredericsimeon6625]

I listen to these podcast style lol. While im washing dishes or cleaning my room lol. Wouldn’t be able to stay and listen if i wasnt lol

[@avrurodriguez3294]

hahaha same! very much sevens 🤘🏻

[@worthtryingonce]

Headphones for the win!

[@justinbroady]

"Can't ya just DO what we are DOING"? LOL. Belly laugh. So simple but so hard.

[@summero-my5in]

I don't self reflect on this enough, but it's so true how I'm constantly having a mental list of things I feel I NEED to complete to suddenly become happy

[@emilieeast8788]

not me getting complimented for making it 12 minutes into the video when i'm watching at 1.5x speed and also have 15 tabs open while planning my groceryshopping (and now pausing to make a comment)

[@SteelmanArgument]

Literally left the video @11 minutes, returned and he opened with that lmao

[@minah.]

I’m 7w8 ENTP and I appreciate you for making these videos 🙌🏽

[@Kyoto99952]

ME tooo! Hey there! :D

[@legeanflorin]

It's so amazing for me to see a 7 with a 6 wing be a father and a committed family man 👍

[@applechiz98]

I'm a 7w6 ENFP as well and this video was super helpful to me! I feel like I'm an extremely introverted extrovert and I get a lot of social anxiety which I think is the 6 wing in me.

[@simaicovers]

7w8 ENFP here also. I feel like VR would be so helpful for 7's and ENFP's to get a sense of adventure and new experiences. Like when Tom was speaking about all the things we could be doing at 4:24 such as exploring an area or doing adventurous activities. VR google street view exploring and VR games that emulate real-life activities would be great to fill this desire for excitement, even on a day at home with nothing fun planned. Great video!

[@er6730]

Thanks so much. I used to think I was a type 9 because I do want peace and for the people around me to do well, but actually I'm 7w6, that makes so much more sense now. SO MUCH sense. "Why are we sitting here doing nothing?" Yes, totally.

[@geraldmichels7948]

Jesus!! You fully got me !! Thank you so much for this video !!! It helped me out more than you can ever imagine !!

[@marybruckelmyer2702]

I got a whole new perspective when I found I have ADHD at age 40 and got it treated. I found my creative side and can be content all by myself at home creating and planning and actually doing the fun ideas I have.

[@bellaschnella1602]

That was so helpful! The struggles and strengths of sevens really speak to me, but I've always been thrown by descriptions like "planners" (sounds way too strategic and detailed) or "fun squad" (I can be decidedly unfun when required to do something tedious). Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts!

[@Kindnessmatters2]

I'm new to this whole concept. I tested 7 with a VERY strong 8 and very low 6. Its made it easy to build a business andcearning money is almost effortless...but money only means more fun life experiences...bring on the Rollercoasters... and I only go with an express pass! I hate calenders but use them just so I can know what month it is. I'm not afraid to look inside myself with a realistic eye to what needs to change and see potential in others that they may not see in themselves. People often come to me to ask advice. I'm very much a realist and can be blunt but never to hurt anothers feeling. I hate to change what I'm into because "times up". I'm always creating and always say...everything I need is within arms reach and can usually prove that true. Ideas flow easily. I hate fishing...but I WANT to like it because it looks peaceful. I like to see all options before choosing. I do finish tasks but trained myself to enjoy the finishline. Being a 7w8 is sometimes hard! 😃

[@jenniecramer1613]

Ha! I am an 7w6 and an ENFP too, Dr. Tom! (I love being me!) I'm on minute 12 and have gotten up to do other things three times. Maybe 4. :) I think it's all hilarious.

[@twlahue]

That is awesome!

[@mindbodymasters]

Well Tom, for the last year I thought I was a 3w2. But you have helped me realize (in this video) that I am a 7w8. Huge win (but reframing away from the existential crisis this is creating hahahahah). Thank you for helping us become more present to life, you are definitely at the inspriting levels of the type 7. Distinction: I have created lots of achievements in life, today I realized they have been created to avoid bordom and chase the new experiences of life rather than for the self image! HUGE. Thank you x 1000000

[@linnaeusa]

Same lol. I typed for years as SP 3w4 bc of this. I thought that doing/researching/finishing a lot of things during the day made me 3, but I realized that I was doing it to avoid boredom. 8 and 3 are similar to each other in certain aspects, so it is understandable that we are mistyped as 3.

[@nickluebke5281]

You’re changing life’s dude. This has been so helpful for me. You have a great gift of communication.

[@danielrichardson7460]

Bro, I think I am a 7 VERY strong wing 8. can you make videos of what a 7 with a STRONG wing 8 is in health and not so healthy?

[@innolily1155]

Thank you so much for this beautiful, spot on, insightful, compassionate and inspiring sharing. I just watched it with my beautiful, yet living as a very unhealthy 7, ENFP, 30 year old son. Beyond recognizable. It brought tears to my eyes and we laughed, as well. Supporting him in remembering/returning to/cultivating his healthy 7 Self. btw: my partner, well he is a 7, wing 8 ENFJ. Fortunately, he has evolved and grown into a wonderful and healthy version of himself. And, I'm the 9, wing 1/INFP of the family, doing my best to find my way in the world. Again, thank you for the gifts, joy and inspiration you bring into the world. 😃

[@mandyyu4559]

I am 7w8. ENTJ. Can see eye to eye with this video.

[@smittenwithsugar]

I'm a 7, 3rd time watching the video, I have to break it up is shorter segments, but hopefully I'll finish it today 😂 so embarrassingly accurate!!

[@twlahue]

Glad to help.

[@jess1987]

Thankfully for longer videos (if it interests me) I watch them on a faster speed! It helps me focus on what's being said. If people talk really slow, I tend to get frustrated and 'squirrel,' which than I'm forever rewinding the video!

[@marieschmidt9416]

Excellent, so spot on. And he presents the info in a great manner.

[@anahitagardner1567]

Super fun and super accurate description of 7 and their different stages of health. Absolutely spot on!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@TheDenisedrake]

I'm a 7 wing 6 also and it feels like read my mind and intentions! I'm happily married to a 1 (possibly a 5) and am _mostly_ healthy. Like you I do have an interest in many things, however I do like to go deep in conversations and encourage people. Thank you for these videos. They are very insightful.

[@twlahue]

Awesome...Thanks for your encouraging words.

[@melissaadams4083]

As a 121 7 I am listening to this on 2X speed and also writing an article! But thank you so much is resonating with me. ESP the how would a 7 handle prison when life feels like a trap, my god that’s so so true.

[@ashleyching3166]

This reminded me of when my 1, a life coach, would say that I'm just trying to run away from feelings of insecurity, especially as a 4. This makes sense now. The Artisan Keirsey temperament in me, an SP of my ISFP personality had a rude but needed awakening from this video, by the way. Finally, Happy Enneagram Global Summit week and congratulations for being the rare Idealist, as you're an NF from your ENFP. The pandemic is a hard time for everyone's restless 7 🙄

[@twlahue]

Yes...restless...

[@trustyourself-ashleyching3646]

ENFP's top cognitive function is EXPLORATION! You guys love novelty more than any other MBTI type!

[@Stoffendous]

Let me explore you Ashley.

[@summero-my5in]

@@Stoffendous what the--

[@denys7652]

haha, you on the 12th minute saying about 7ns, I found your videos about Enneagram about 15 days ago, and since then I decided to watch your whole playlist about me the 7 type, 3 more videos to go after this one. Thank you very much for making these videos, you truly made me realize why things happen the way they do with me, as well as a special thank you for showing the good things in me, which helped me understand my self-worth and see value in my self as a being, that was difficult for me to see, and I used to be very depressed because of it. = one of the reasons is me being an ESFP and my brother being an INTJ on Bricks Myers. haha. - once more thank you for your time sharing this free helpful material, and thanks for lifting up the mood in your videos, like this 12th - minute scene.

[@jess1987]

Listening to all you said, I'm definitely at my lowest health 😢. No wonder earlier today, I thought I wasn't a 7... But, the more I learn about type 7, the more I truly am a 7/7w6.

[@Diamond-hg2ij]

Yes next video will be 8 I’m so happy thank you for all your work I listened to every one of them but I’m really excited for my type in the next video God bless you

[@twlahue]

Glad you like them! Yes...next week!

[@Josh-iy8xr]

Hi Dr. Tom, I am a SX/SP 7w6 who is dating a SP/SX 4w5. I avoided the enneagram for over 2 years, because my girlfriend read off what the 7 description was, and every single word struck me to the core. I was such an unhealthy 7, I used to clean and move everything in my room around once a week. I literally could not stop moving. I could not complete or commit to any projects, or even commit to a loving relationship. I remember not being able to feel anything. I was so unhealthy I remember feeling like I could legitimately murder someone and still not feel anything. And the worst part was, I was unfaithful to my perfect 4 girlfriend, because my stupid 7 was always looking around for something “better”. And now years later, I am now drowning in all of this pain my 7 has brought upon me. I am starting to feel again, but I still have 1 very bad problem. MY BRAIN WON’T SHUT UP! It constantly thinks and runs. I try so hard to stop it, but it refuses to just stop and feel the moment. Any advice? Anything will help. Thank you Dr. Tom. P.S I am your biggest fan

[@raenforest22]

Thank you Dr. Tom. I have listened to many of your videos and find them inspiring. Have passed them on to many as well. I multi-tasked through the entire video but heard every word. The credit card thing is hard...

[@Atypicalkid88]

Hello! Im a 7w6 and coincidentially also a ENFP. I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder because im all ocer the place, but the more I l learned about the 7 the more nornal I feel

[@twlahue]

Yes

[@BeckyPhelps]

An unhealthy 7 describes my mother. Thank you for this series, it helps me understand her better!

[@twlahue]

You're so welcome!

[@lilis6636]

I always felt like joy was like the climate and happiness like the weather. Not sure if that makes sense. I appreciate your videos. Sincerely, another 7w6 enfp.

[@Davidconga]

Hello Doc!! Thanks very much for creating this content, as a 7w6 I have learned a lot and this video helped me to try to move and be an inspirer, but well as you said not an easy journey so I´ll try it just for today!!! looking forward for new info on 7s and it´s relationship with other eneatypes!! Greetings for rainy Costa Rica!!!

[@summero-my5in]

omg why is the part about it feeling like it kills us to go to a funeral or doctors appointment so true ... someone can literally die and i feel like it's a waste of time to attend a funeral since it's just a sad event. i see why we can be considered selfish to some...

[@kuccurulatte5120]

Im an ENFP 7w8 and wow I have to thank you. At least now I know my problem

[@jacobheadley1270]

"you cant identify me with your lil personality types MAAN" *hears description of 7W6 ENFP* ...oh ...ya thats me

[@edgarcastillo7143]

You are great in your explanation,I enjoyed.

[@christianneyoung4010]

Just curious, do 7s often have a hard time making lasting friends? I know they are fun. But I know a couple sevens and they have the worst time creating friendships. They don't have a hard time creating lasting long-term romantic relationships but creating quality friendships seems difficult.

[@jacobheadley1270]

hmmm hasn't been my experience as a 7, great close friends since childhood. but I dont know if thats the case for all of us.

[@StorytellingHeadshots]

I can give you a reply as a seven who has done quite a bit of self work on this. I realized lately that I have friends who are truly very dear to me -- but to whom I haven’t connected with in weeks, months, even years. But I will actually think of them as being close friends whomI love dearly. Sounds nuts right? Well, it is. But I will explain: The seven is a mental type. We have a profound amount of mental energy. And even more so , we have a profound need for mental stimulation -that’s external mental stimulation (travel, learning, discovering) or self-stimulation through imagining, planning, telling stories to oneself etc). So, I realized recently that a big reason that i dont think to reach out to my friends is they already feel present to me because I am thinking of them-particularly true of friends that I’ve had for a long time. Friends from school or other parts of my past. But the reality was that, Even though I thought of them often, in reality I have drifted from them because I don’t take the time to reach out and call them or write to them. Here’s why: A seven is in the a “thinking” type group, who is often thinking about action, and then moving on to thinking about the next action. And so on...all without actually DOing the action. So the sevens that you know maybe expending mental energy on their friendships and thinking that that is enough. I know that sounds really disconnected reality- and it is- But sevens are expert at being disconnected from reality that is their entire mode of operation. And That is certainly what I was doing. However, recently I have realized that if my friends can’t feel action in my relationships with them then that isn’t a growing building friendship that is just Nostalgia. I am working on myself in this regard. And I’m setting aside time to actually write notes to my friends that I think about when I think about them instead of just thinking of them and moving on to the next thought. Anyway, I hope that gives you a little bit of insight about your “7” friends who may have drifted from you or who you may feel aren’t active participants in your life. It may be that they want to be. But they are distracted, in fact distracting themselves, from their own pain so much and that running away from pain actually takes a lot of energy. So the idea of reaching out consistently can feel very overwhelming to seven. I hope that’s helpful. Keep loving your sevens they can be absolutely maddening I realize - but they need your love and they do love you, it’s just that sometimes all that frenetic activity that they use to run away from their own pain gets in the way of showing love. Finally, I Want to thank you on, the behalf of your seven friends, for your obvious care for them and i apologize for bewilderment they may have caused you- I know I have caused a lot of that myself and I’m working on remedying it in my own life and with my relationships. -- Ps One thing to remember and that I think gets lost often and KZbin videos about the Enneagram. Including the ones that Pastor Lahae does… Is that the any a gram is a diagnostic tool for dysfunction. It’s not just a fun personality test. It’s a little bit like someone having cancer who needs treatment...saying “oh I have just discovered by taking this test that I am a cancer!” And they read all the books about the traits of having cancer, they might even get a bumper sticker that says they have cancer, but they never use the diagnosis of cancer to go get treatment that will kill them. And the whole point of the Enneagram is to help us to pinpoint the things that are really damaging and hurting us the core wounds that we are reacting to and behaving and our behavior is often manifestations of reactions to pain. The enneagram was originally used to help people, by diagnosing the big sin that held them back from spiritual growth. So if you can think about the pain in a seven and the frenetic activity that they use to cover up that pain results in a lot of broken relationships, perhaps that will give you some compassion toward your friends that carry a burden. Instead of thinking about them as incapable of having long-term relationships, just think of them as being hurt people who could potentially grow if they saw how this behavior affects the people in their life. Sharing your feelings might be a good place to start. I think if you can say it in an affirming and loving way, then potentially a seven could hear it, particularly if you said that the reason you were telling them is because you want to have a closer relationship with them and that they are safe with you. We are all little bit broken and the Enneagram helps to see our brokenness potentially with the goal of being able to grow through the things that unconsciously hold us back from the wholeness and true happiness and love that we are seeking.

[@raenforest22]

I'm a 7/8 and I have had no problem making or keeping friends. I actually find myself more loyal and more willing to look someone up after a number of years than others I know. Perhaps that's part of the 6 wing. I will say however that sometimes my first instinct is to flee a relationship when it gets uncomfortable, and then I think through the options and settle down.

[@er6730]

7w6 I have a hard time making lasting friendships by myself. What I mean is, it's hard to make NEW lifelong friends. I can become friends with my sister's friends, with my cousins' friends, and with my friends' friends, and I will stay good friends with them forever (as long as we stay in the same physical area so that we can get together regularly, or we make an effort to meet if we live far apart). But it's difficult to go to a new place all alone and make new good friends "cold". I actually moved/gave up a well paying career so that I could be close to my family and friends. I need them, they're not replaceable by fun acquaintances. I certainly do feel trapped sometimes and wish to escape, but then I think about it for a second and realize that I'd rather be trapped with people I love than free all by myself.

[@Kyoto99952]

jesus it's crazy how accurate this is............. it's crazy. This is me to the T.

[@lorrielee885]

Loved this and definitely will watch again. 7w6 here and I hate fishing....i do like catching though...lol

[@amandawarren4116]

So I shouldn't have told everyone I'm moving to Reno the moment I decided and haven't even visited yet lol 🙃?! I definitely expect people to jump on board right away or get out of my way 😅 even if the plan/thought is fleeting.

[@twiggysmallss3864]

Me watching this in 2.0 speed , eating and painting my nails at the same time say that I am a hard core type 7 🙃

[@worthtryingonce]

“It’s a surprise!” - what I tell my kids when I just want to get in the car and go somewhere but I don’t have a plan 😂

[@smittenwithsugar]

The frenetic escape artist does sound more exciting than the peaceful joy-person....but I hear ya 😋😁

[@legeanflorin]

7 s are two witty to ever get to prison. 😂 And if they do get there, they'll make everyone go crazy 🤪

[@spender8888]

Not witty enough... I brought peace and calm everywhere I was housed. The guards sought me out to find out what was going on. 7w8 ENTJ

[@pensive8552]

"I accept that list" **oof** So easy to say lol, and maybe even start, "this time I'm going to do it!" RIP. Same predictable outcome - the day's over, got distracted somewhere during the first task and, "it's going to be ok, because I'll get it done tomorrow. I just know I will!" lol

[@Enfpmom]

We feel horrible and we don’t know the cause of our anxiety until we find out.

[@twlahue]

Right

[@izzlebeanie]

35:50 creative 7s

[@atomicnumber8051]

Am I a 7w6 or a 7w8? OR AM I EVEN A 7 AT ALL??

[@spender8888]

I caught myself wanting to do something else while watching this, ha! 7w8, ENTJ.

[@krisviljoen7986]

confession, i totally tuned out until you said it's minute 12 thanks for keeping with it. haha. #7reality

[@twlahue]

Too funny

[@maximmullens4983]

I can experience all these levels like before midday hahah

[@EmmaDeyandBros]

Why are we not on a pirate ship???? I feel heard

[@spender8888]

I was in prison for something i did not do. I read and wrote and studied my bible. Every page looks like a Christmas tree. 7w8 ENTJ

[@BPopovBG]

69th comment hehe. If you really come to Bulgaria, contact me. We will think of something to entertain ourselves. 🤔

[@natachaunelus]

Wait you're a 7 and teach at a university? Can you talk about 7 children and focus?

[@twlahue]

7's can be great at inspiring others...

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

Lol thank Goodness my bf is a 1!

[@Lordofthefliess]

Fuck. All of it hurts 😆

[@bethanyangelheart]

7w6 gang

[@consistentlychristy2991]

Lol Chester... you lucked out

[@twlahue]

Thanks

[@Stoffendous]

This man seems to really dislike his own type.

[@Stoffendous]

And i mean REALLY dislike.

[@katievarela7130]

Why are we not on a pirate ship right now? 😅😅

[@twlahue]

YES

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Upbeat vs doing nothing/what’s normal

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Goes to 1 when frustrated and grumpy

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Panicked, anxious at low health, away from tedious and restrictive

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Empty and dissatisfied

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Fears missing out

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

1s want to improve