Enneagram Type 9s Explained - A Complete Guide

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for watching y'all! And please remember to hit that subscribe button if you haven't already 🙌🙏💛

[@aspermwhalespontaneouslyca8938]

To explain what being a "lazy" 9 is, imagine it's really hot outside but you didn't know and went out with a sweater. Well now you have a sweater on and there is no way in hell you're going through the trouble of getting it off and then carrying it. You are just going to leave it on and suffer the sweet pain. Except the sweater is probably a person or a group of people

[@YouveGotaType]

I enjoyed this comment almost as much as your YT handle lol

[@kathymarinucci6054]

😂

[@robertussindm]

I’ve actually experienced the sweater thing. This is so me

[@smolson8471]

As a 9 why wouldn’t you just take the sweater off and tie it around your waist? Or leave it in a car or on a chair you’re sitting on? I couldn’t imagine myself actually doing nothing in that scenario unless I was just mildly uncomfortable

[@El__Silbon]

It's highlighting the stubbornness associated with type 9, and the unwillingness to confront an uncomfortable situation, but to suffer in silence with gritted teeth​@@smolson8471

[@mysticalheart7751]

When you began describing 9 with 1 wing... I felt personally attacked. 😂 So spot on, I'm glad I found this channel!

[@YouveGotaType]

I'm glad you found it too : )

[@carolinethompson3305]

Yes 😬

[@sapaducy1]

Same

[@itswayneorshine]

Best video I've seen on 9's and you nailed every single breakdown. There is no doubt whatsoever where I land even down to the specifics of 9 life and existence. WOW! Thank you for putting your work out into the world. The way you nailed the childhood experience and the wings is continuing to blow my mind. 🤯

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for watching and leaving the kind words, Wayne! Happy to hear you think it's the best video you've seen on 9s so far!

[@bmae3055]

Same!!

[@soakedbearrd]

As a 9w8 yeah I’m confused as hell, a walking paradox 😂. Good video thanks, I’ve learned some insight.

[@justWithRight]

I certainly do not envy you 😂

[@chefnc]

I recently started couples counseling and the therpist gave us the test. I found out I'm type 9 and this video makes so much sense. I'm always told that I dont care but deep down I care so much. I just struggle with expressing myself because of fear and wanting to keep the peace. Thank you for this explanation.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was helpful 🙏 I've also got on specifically on relationships for type 9s here as well: kzbin.info/www/bejne/r4LZdGuPeJKisLs Best wishes on the counseling journey!

[@teodorgochev3455]

If you don't give up, this channel will explode sooner or later. Amazing job. Well done.

[@YouveGotaType]

I really hope so! It’s been a labor of love these past few years. These kind of comments are always extra motivation - so thanks for dropping another note 🙏

[@teodorgochev3455]

@@YouveGotaType My pleasure. I rarely get impressed. But you did. Very high quality content. Very organized and thought trough.

[@davepancham58]

Keep up the great work!

[@spencerstone9631]

I listened to 4 or 5 of these complete guides, mostly as a tool for character writing because it seemed like a useful tool. Though I wasn't sure how valid I felt it was to real life. I never really gravitated toward any of the types. Then I watched *this* video. And I felt like I was punched in the gut from start to finish. Like I was having a session with a therapist and they had to sit me down and explain a hard truth I'd been avoiding. This series is excellent. Thanks for your hard work!

[@YouveGotaType]

I love this! Thanks so much for sharing, and I'm glad to hear you stumbled onto your type :)

[@yay29823]

These guides are an amazing tool for writting, and it's funny when you get into these for writting but stay for self discovery

[@enfieldjohn101]

The 9w1 does sound a lot like my wife. We've been married for 14 years and knew each other for a couple of years before that, so I've come to get to know her fairly well. One of the things that we enjoy doing together is daydreaming out loud about shared ideas and how we could realize them. Sometimes, we even manage to attempt to make one of these ideas come true. For example, we've started a garden at the school where she teaches. We combined her amazing ability to turn anything into a teaching tool with my horticultural training and experience to make a garden that all of the classes at her school can use to teach the kids from kindergarten to fifth grade. The way she deals with feeling really frustrated or angry is just like what you describe here in that she'll start crying rather than yelling or lashing out. Even when she's upset, she always seems to find the silver lining. I think she's more of a self-preservation instinct than the other ones. She's pretty easily entertained and has few wants. I think some of these aspects of the nine are partly how my wife and I get along. We both can become introverted and introspective so she understands that aspect of my personality too. The nine's ability to fit in with other types is probably why she's so willing to join in with my hobbies and spend time with me through them. I tell my friends in the videogaming, collecting and tabletop gaming social media groups I'm in that I'm lucky to have a spouse who actually enjoys my hobbies rather than just putting u with them. So many of the guys I know in those groups find that their hobbies are a source of friction in their marriages. Though I'm not predisposed to expressing my emotions and feelings towards others, I do think sometimes to let her know how much I appreciate her interest in my hobbies. I try to take an interest in her's as well. She's really into volunteering at our church and helping with youth programs, so I join in with those things when I can. I have trouble coping with rooms full of kids, especially for extended periods of time, so most of my participation is behind the scenes with helping her prepare lessons, craft projects, activities etc. When I do spend time with her grade school or church students, she often reminds them ahead of time to be on their best behavior and to use their inside voice even more than usual. Loud, rambuctious, noisy kids kind of drive me nuts. I don't see how she has the patience for it.

[@Anickle818]

This is sweet.

[@nikkitaharrell]

You are a sweet heart. And your both very lucky to have each other

[@FighterFlash]

What number are you? You sound like my wife, I’m a 9 haha.

[@enfieldjohn101]

@@FighterFlash 5 wing 4

[@Char4Him]

This is amazing. Now I just got to figure out what my dreams were because I forgot. I was to busy being everybody else

[@YouveGotaType]

Phew that's a deep statement! Best wishes on the journey 🙌

[@robertussindm]

Same

[@jonvoss4376]

Great video! I’m a 9w1 studying enneagram for about 2 years. I laughed a few times because your description was so accurate. The enneagram has been an valuable tool for me to move past my ego and live my authentic self. I think adding karate back to my life decades of no body connection started my healing process. In the past 2 years I’ve lost about 100lbs and am truly awake and active to be my best self.

[@YouveGotaType]

Wow that's an awesome journey you're on! Congrats on both the self-awareness and the weight loss, Jon! And glad to hear you enjoyed the video so much 🙌

[@vihaanadhikari2258]

As a 9 I realised i was at my lowest when i was saying goodbye to my friend who was leaving for college,i just broke down crying it wasnt fully because of her leaving but because our old friend group had broken apart a few months ago because of a fight between me and another friend.It broke me so much ,seeing them hang out without me was so hurting.Thats why i just broke down when i saw someone from the group.I was down for an entire year with that so i dissociated and isolated but went out enough to maintain social quo and also because im quite extroverted.This year i promised myself to work harder and focus on myself and get my grades up. My main focus is me!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing this personal story! I'm sure other 9s will relate to many aspects of it.

[@BarberPhotography]

I'm on 9 wing 8 and have recently figured out that if I'm having this feeling inside of me of feeling like someone is manipulating me, that I don't need to settle and suppress my needs just to make others happy. I can lean on that 8 wing and I can say what is bothering me but do it in a calm way, like 9's like to do. I can be a diplomat and still stand up for my needs. I feel like I've been in a much healthier place once I've realized the power of asserting my needs but doing it in a calm, kind way. I do love the countries and celebrities you associate 9's with and it made me feel happy and empowered that I'm in such great company. Thanks for doing such a great deep dive on 9's!

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you enjoyed it! And thanks for sharing your experience of 9ness :)

[@soakedbearrd]

We like to keep the peace but aren’t afraid to call out bad behavior especially if it’s bullying, deception or manipulation. Our hate for confrontation is strong but not as strong as ethics and justice in the face of someone trying to get over at the expense of others. The saying “don’t take kindness for weakness” applies.

[@staticthinking]

This was full of jaw drops for me and I know I’ll be re-listening to this over the next few days to take notes. I’d been thinking for awhile that I was a 9w1 but as you described the 9w8 it was like hearing all about myself. As my wife will attest to my outbursts of anger then being “fine” later, leaving her confused. 🤦🏽‍♂️ And I definitely see how my 9-ness has played into my long-time job, and my desire to live elsewhere yet never leaving home…

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad the video resonated with you, and thanks for sharing your personal experience of 9ness!

[@sorbicsiable]

This is the most comprehensive video I've seen so far on my enneagram type. The childhood part made me cry

[@YouveGotaType]

🙏

[@Rich-wi7dn]

Type 9 here. The 9w1 description is me 90%+ of the time. And then I hit my breaking point, my temper flares up and Type 8 rears it’s head. And once the volcano erupts I’m back to whistling a happy tune 2 minutes later, while whoever I blew up at will stew for hours or days to come. It’s been like that my whole life.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing your personal experience, Rich. And just for context, all 9s have that kind of dormant rage within them wether they have a 1 wing or 8 wing. It’s a part of being the impinged type within the Gut Center (8,9,1 all deal with anger).

[@Jazzonyt]

Just recently i figured out that i am a type 9. my tendency to avoid conflicts is something that i am so used to that i honestly stopped noticing it. basically my whole apperance is the opposite of provoking (very unobtrusive). you've mentioned that unhealthy, isolated nines can look like 5's and i can totally confirm that this is true. i might gather lots of information like this type but in my case it's strictly psychology-related. this is knowledge that i use to get along with different personality types and understand myself better (because obviously that is something 9's tend to struggle with) and not like type 5's only to be competent and knowledgeable. the best way to figure out ones own type is really by looking at the core fear and desire. at least that's what helped me the most. also a healthy and mature 8 in my life helped me to stand up for myself more often, which was another step torwards growth.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing - agree about focusing on the core fear/desire aspect of it all. Although 6s have a hard time with that aspect, but most do find it helpful.

[@willkohler379]

Excellent video! This is the best short summary I have seen of Enneagram type 9.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much, Will!

[@Bsxect]

Wow this video was a lot to take in. I've always been to myself, but out going with friends and family. I came across the different brain types and got invested into which one I had. I shortly figured out that this one was mine, more specifically type 9 wing 8, and wow how much tears I held back as you explained so many key aspects of my life and my thinking processes. I've struggled with severe anxiety for most of my life, and this comforted me, knowing that I wasn't the only one that thought exactly like this. Thank you.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it, and llet those tears flow 🙏

[@jorge.07z72]

I always described myself as a 3 but my friends keep telling me I am a 9, the childhood story described me very acurately and now I understand, thanks

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad the video was helpful!

[@sad_hedgehog]

cried before continuing on personal growth chapter. this was basically my introduction to my type)))))))) very informative. didn't know i was in denial THAT deep :""""""""""") incredibly helpful. now i know why i started having internal anger blow ups and that it is a 100% anger issues i need to work on (a lot of info on the internet talks about anger issues that go outwards; it's hard to find info about anger that doesn't "hurt your loved ones" - i know now that i just need to keep looking). thank you. we are groot :""""")

[@YouveGotaType]

🙏

[@El__Silbon]

To say your video is eye-opening would be a drastic - scored - understatement. So much of what you covered, I can attribute to myself on a personally deep level; some of which I know, other parts I try to avoid because I feel uncomfortable admitting to It's funny because you mention that 9s can be present in the group, drinking into the wee hours, but their minds will have withdrawn long before, and began dreaming of what they'll eat, watch on TV, etc. once they get home Coincidentally I attended a party two weeks ago, which saw me drinking at 5 a.m. I was there, present, but my mind had long retired and was thinking of things I'd do once i arrived back at home

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it was an eye-opening watch, and thanks for sharing the specifics of how it resonated 🙌

[@jabadahut50]

Hooo i feel called the fuck out on a few things in here. I already knew I was a type 9 before thia video but i couldnt narrow down the wing nor did i understand how I was a type 9 when so many other types aspects aeemed to make so much sense... this narrowed it down SHARPLY. Type 9 wing 1.

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha glad it resonated with ya :)

[@sushigrasss]

5 minutes in, and this is already resonating with me. Thanks for this video. I'm quite new to this and I'm excited to learn more.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it!

[@sweetpeasandyarrowaranchdi8327]

I feel attacked 😂. I thought I was pretty healthy, but I have completely blocked everyone out, but family and 1 or 2 friends, that I text only. I tell everyone my best friends are my dog and horse. I also had this great idea to start "Sunday dinners", so my kids had to come home and visit.😂 🤣

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha oh boy hopefully not toooo attacked 😬One of my closest friends has a 9 mom so I know they appreciate that stuff in the long run.

[@sweetpeasandyarrowaranchdi8327]

@@YouveGotaType You have given more information and explained things better, than anyone. I think when your channel hits the algorithm better, it will explode.

[@YouveGotaType]

@@sweetpeasandyarrowaranchdi8327 I appreciate that so much, and I hope so!! That algorithm is a tough nut to crack

[@audreygentry2587]

I was struggling between being a 9 or a 2. I haven't watched the "2" video yet, but this makes me lean heavily toward 9. Thanks for all of the helpful info!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it was helpful!

[@jon-axelgallagher6740]

Wow. I've been struggling to determine my type for a while now, but this video just made it so clear. Thank you!!

[@tararaboomdeyay]

Best explanation of the enneagram I've seen on KZbin. Well done!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much!

[@angelagoodwin5758]

Wow! I'm a 9w1 and I definitely have some 5w4 traits. I've enjoyed investigating unconventional topics long before the internet.

[@YouveGotaType]

Lots of overlap between those two types for sure. Introverted, introspective folks.

[@retrolofiradio66]

I'm in an truly ambiguous situation - I think that I'm a 5w4 and my friends a 9w1. So I took a test and the result was 50% 5w4 and 46% 9w1. Is there any way to be sure of which one is right? I've got a lot of work to do, and want to put my energy where it will have the most impact!

[@angelagoodwin5758]

@@YouveGotaType My triad is 945, triple withdrawn. No wonder these types can seem alike.

[@YouveGotaType]

@@retrolofiradio66 it sounds like the work needed is less about finding your enneagram type, and more about listening to your own inner self. If you can’t decide between those two very different types, then the journey simply starts by observing your inner thoughts, fears, past trauma, etc.

[@YouveGotaType]

@@angelagoodwin5758 that’s ironically why I don’t advocate for tri-types :) if you dig into the depths of your true enneagram type, it will intersect with every other enneagram type in some way via the three triads and/or wings and those overlaps will allow a full spectrum of traits. Just a thought!

[@WesleyLawton]

Just finding this video. As a 9w1 and a (dang good) therapist, you described it all very well. This video is clear, to the point, and interesting. I'll be checking out your other stuff too. Nice work!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much for this great compliment!

[@Sumyo_o]

This is sooo crazy precise. For someone like me looking into Enneagram after looking into MBTI, I am stunned this helps sooo much to sort things in life. o_O

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it!

[@FleurishOklahoma]

Wow, this is truly incredible. I've truly never seen enneagram content that was so spot on for us 9's. You can tell that most people don't really have a clear understanding. Not the case here. You've given me so much to think about; thank you for putting in the work!!

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear it :) and my pleasure! It's worth getting it right for y'all.

[@soffiacorrales1841]

I've spent the last 3 years studying enneagram and this is the first video I find that explains the two extra triads. It completely helped me understanding why I resonated so much with 4, despite not having any direct connection with it. Awesome video!!! Fantastic approach. Thank you. 😊

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it was helpful! Love me those triads as well.

[@AnnJenkins-ow5id]

This is the most comprehensive and easily relatable breakdown of type 9 I have ever encountered. Every aspect of the video hit a nerve and prompted me to pay more attention to my wings along with the pitfalls and healthiest parts of our personalities.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you found it so relatable and helpful! Thanks for watching & leaving the kind words.

[@matthewcook4137]

That last part of the description of 9w1 one when unhealthy they feel like they are on the Spectrum is 100% how I feel a lot of the time.

[@SuzieN-ns4nt]

Wow! I learned a lot and, with your help, realized I’m a social 9 with an 8 wing. Very helpful and clear while also being detailed. I listened to all… thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it helped you find your type!

[@LennyTheHopeless]

I already knew I was an unhealthy 9w1 but this just like slapped me in the face with that knowledge multiple times. Every unhealthy trait is something I do lolllll

[@diilouise]

Very content to be a 9 (w8). Getting used to discomfort in others as I become more assertive.

[@YouveGotaType]

A content 9? Shocking ;) But that's great you're moving into a more assertive (and uncomfortable) place.

[@diilouise]

@@YouveGotaType 😂. I am getting there!

[@purpledinosauur]

I was just in awe, you just call me out so much! I can relate with all of this. I’m a type 9w1! Thanks for the information video! 😊

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much 🙏 and I'm glad it resonated with you!

[@lem5496]

I just discovered your channel, I’ve read many enneagram books and enjoy listening to enneagram videos. I’m glad I have found your videos, very informative and great ! Keep it up !

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it! I appreciate the kind words :)

[@oonaghmolyneux7760]

Famous 9 wing 1 include Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly and Kate Middleton. So much in common: famous for their pleasing regal yet minimalist style, graciousness. Very successful early in life (integration to 3?), then they seem to withdraw into a family role and curated image, perhaps burned by the harsh world, they settle into a quieter, more private domestic life.,

[@YouveGotaType]

That all makes sense, thanks for sharing.

[@sarahchristineschwarz]

best explanation about type 9 ever!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks!

[@carolinethompson3305]

I really enjoy your videos. They really help me to understand the different personality types. I am a self-preservation 9w1 and can definitely see myself in your description: some unsettling truths there 😬 and thanks for the tips at the end: noted.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it :) That unsettling truth is what the heart of the enneagram is all about. Best wishes on the continued journey!

[@vedacrane8076]

I was “diagnosed” by two different tests, one unpaid for one paid for, but both came up as type nine and I remember reading the description on it, and being so disappointed because I had spent months in therapy, trying to access my ability to like create boundaries because I had such a hard time with it and I also had to work on a lot of anger issues That I never had before that just like popped up randomly or three months of like the most intense anger that you can imagine just overwhelming sense of like rage, and it was so frustrating for me to handle this cause I hate being angry, and I don’t know how to describe better that like I hate being angry more than most people like I don’t know how to put that into context but when I was told I was a nine I was like oh that makes sense and now it’s a topic for me and my therapist frequently. Thanks for your video. This was voice text so apologies for the weird comment.

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

"We are groot" is my favorite quote ever

[@YouveGotaType]

Yes! Glad it resonated :)

[@SabinaMiradora]

Thank you so much for putting these videos out in the world! I find you very easy to listen to, it's educational and I appreciate how inclusive and nuanced you are around a topic that clearly is near your heart. And I also like the graphic design work you got going, it really ties it all together in a very nice way. Really well done!

[@YouveGotaType]

Wow thanks for such great compliments! So glad you enjoyed the video - and even appreciate my novice graphic design skills 🧑‍🎨

[@gleekeeful]

I love love love your channel! So illuminating! Just started working with the enneagram types through my studies in music therapy and honestly would love to do a minor just on enneagrams. Thank you for your great work, it’s very inspiring!❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much Janneke! Love hearing how much you’re enjoying the content :) And music therapy sounds like a fascinating field of study to integrate with the enneagram!

[@GurraGo]

Great one. Just disovered your content and as recently (last 3-4 months) discovered that I am 9 - it's great. Look forward to more of your content.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks! Hope you continue to enjoy the vids.

[@jccagungon1222]

I just recently came across this personality typing and this video made me so happy and sad. So happy that this fits me so perfectly and sad that I feel so common that a personality type fits me like a glove.

[@YouveGotaType]

Well I’m honestly glad to hear that! We need to feel “common” in order to deconstruct our egocentric perspective and realize we have 99% of things in common with all humans rather than being fixated on our differences. You are still unique in your make up, but it’s a both-and situation in regards to uniqueness and commonness if that makes sense!

[@danielirvine7468]

Thanks for all the time and effort / research / filming editing… that goes in to these vids man . I just wanna give props to you for helping others understand themselves and partners / family. I will be sharing this channel to everyone I know who knows what an Enneagram is

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much! I appreciate ya noticing all the attention to detail in these videos :)

[@nickschmitt9936]

I’m wobbling on enneagram 2 and 9, and your videos are a lifeboat!

[@YouveGotaType]

Lots of similarities between those types! Glad the vids are helping. My new relationships video on 9s & 2s may also help if you haven't watched yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gaWwk3Vvjcl4l68

[@nickschmitt9936]

@@YouveGotaType It's definitely a good one! In your experience across different takes on the enneagram, what do you think of the phenomenon of people mistyping/overidentifying with 2s?

[@paularumbolt6568]

Dang! That was the best breakdown of me, a 9w1, that I have ever heard. Even the childhood stuff - how did you know??!! Crazy accurate. Thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was an accurate/hopefully helpful watch!

[@DKZshimi]

What a great video description for 9s...so this is me! Looking foward to watch the other breakdowns since this is so accurate.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it!

[@God_Swan]

Love the way that you shared all of this info!!!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much!

[@tinahalle3575]

Great video . I keep getting confused and wondering if I might be a two but after watching this I definitely think I’m a nine . My past even lines up with the typical past of type 9’s. It kind of made my jaw drop when you said that because I’m in therapy currently, discussing such things . I can definitely see the 3 in myself to at different phases of my life.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it helped clear up some of the confusion around your type! That's what I'd hoped these videos would do :)

[@Sarah-e4f3z]

It did resonate with me 😅😮 I'm a bit speechless... but anyway... Congratulations for the content! Amazing content... I have SO many dreams, SO many abilities, but I just feel like I would need a lot of support to be able to do things like you do. With confidence, independence...

[@officiallycool1467]

Awesome video. So on point. I just asked my son what type he thinks he is and he said electric...hes 8. I had to share

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks a lot! Hahah an electric 8... sounds like ya got your hands full!

[@Zenology]

Ok so, I have never been crying and laughing that much while watching one and the same video!

[@YouveGotaType]

Phew sounds like how the enneagram should feel when you’ve truly found your type. Glad ya enjoyed the video!

[@andrausbr]

9w1 Dreamer from São Paulo, Brazil, who happens to be a huge fan of both James Taylor and Jack Johnson :) thank you for sharing your insights!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad the videos found you in Brazil 🙌 🇧🇷

[@andrausbr]

@@YouveGotaType it made my day! :)

[@tripwire202]

Wonderful video! Learned a ton. Great reference to build character arcs for Asran, an undead diplomat character of mine.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad ya enjoyed it!

[@howoriginal1986]

This is insane! My friend said she was studying enneagrams and I took the test to find I’m a 9. I’m doing more research and this explains me so well, even the childhood stuff.

[@YouveGotaType]

Hope it was helpful!

[@maxwellcoffee8980]

Best 9w8 vid I've seen.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much Maxwell!

[@lp1360]

Thank you. I never quite knew my type until I hear your descriptions. Boy....it is spot on! (9w1)

[@YouveGotaType]

glad it was helpful!

[@greenbeanbeing]

all of these videos are incredibly well done - I’m so surprised you don’t have hundreds of thousands of subscribers!! I was pretty sure I was a 6w5 but I felt caaallled out in this video. Childhood things, codependency issues, suppressed rage, etc. I thought I was a 6 because I want security & safety but peace gives safety? they are so linked. Curious to know if you have tips on questions I can ask myself to figure out if I’m one or the other.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much Emilie! Maybe some day the channel will break through and reach those kind of numbers - but for now I'm grateful it's finding it's way organically to people who are open minded about their journey of self-awareness like you. As far as delineating your type between 6 & 9, there is a ton of overlap! But the biggest thing I can suggest is to notice if your tendency is to "numb yourself" when times are stressful or if you tend to get a bit tasky when you're stressed like 6s. 9s alleviate stress/trauma by hiding from life - either in a shadow career they don't enjoy or by attaching themself to a relationship with a person who has TONS of energy and pretty much guides your entire life. 6s on the other hand, alleviate stress by taking action - either diving into their jobs like a workaholic or devoting themselves to the needs of others / an organization (similar to a 2). Usually those two coping mechanisms stand out the most, but let me know if that helps or not!

[@KathrineMarie4]

I am new on my enneagram journey. I thought I was a 2, but after some coaching I think that I am a 9. My guess is that I am an a 9w8 sx/so. I have been working a lot on my tendencies to codependency in different relationships. Now I am working at being better at conflict. I absolutely love yoga and I also love cooking, nature and animals🥹

[@YouveGotaType]

Best of luck on the journey! Hope the videos continue to help with the self-discovery

[@Songbirdkelly23]

Your videos are so insightful and helpful! I am currently going through a divorce and have done a LOT of soul searching and trying to improve my self awareness this year. I am a 9 all out, and it explains so well what I have been through, coasting along and living in a toxic relationship for far too long, until I basically exploded and decided I couldn't take it any more. I am beginning to understand more, through videos such as yours, that more than there being something WRONG with my ex, I think we have both been living in our unhealthy states and that's what made our home so toxic. He is a 8 wing 7 for sure. Here's to being as healthy of a 9 wing8 as I can be for the future!

[@canisfamiliaris401]

If you made an overview of the central conflict for each type video, it would get a lot of views. I'm really interested to see one!

[@YouveGotaType]

What do you mean by central conflict?

[@jacquee6627]

Finally took the test out of curiosity and watched this video to figure out wtf being type nine means....can confirm I live in dulululand whenever experiencing discomfort or negative emotions.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you've found your type and are diving into further research :)

[@bernadinemcdonald6818]

You are amazing. You hit the nail on the head every time. This 9 thanks you.❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much 🙏

[@cuegod]

Kia Ora from New Zealand.. I am an 8 married (well recently separated) to a 9w1.. This video explains many things I didn’t understand. Thank you so much.. Morgan Freeman would have been sick but you do a great job. Nga mihi Aaron.

[@YouveGotaType]

Kia ora! I absolutely love New Zealand, so I'm glad this video found it's way to you. Sorry to hear about your separation, but I'm glad you've found the enneagram as a tool for healing/understanding. Man, if I only I had Morgan's buttery vocals to narrate these babies lol

[@caraga9539]

Thank you so much for this! It really helped me understand myself better and come to term with my inner mechanisms. Wonderful video, thank you! ❤️

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it! These are the best kind of compliments/comments :)

[@skoog5600]

Great stuff!!! Thank you from a 9 with an 8 wing.

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@vixen7774]

This is too accurate!amazing analysis!I would love you to make 4 and 9 in a relationship🙏🏼

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it resonated with ya! And yup, got that episode in the works ;)

[@carolinealexandra206]

Damn this video really called me out 😂 Super informative, thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure! And I think that feeling is how you know you found your type ;) (“called out” that is)

[@maryc4463]

Thank you for helping me figure out that I am DEFINITELY a 9 🤣 I've only just discovered enneagrams and have taken a few different tests that have mostly come back that I was a 5 or 6, but when reading about each of them I only related on some things with them. The last one I took came back a 9 and it felt a little more accurate, so I searched KZbin and yours was the one I clicked on....I have to say that I'm glad I did because you described me to a tee!! And I can say with 99% certainty that I'm a 9 with a 1 wing. Everything you described, right down to the childhood experiences and the dissociation was spot on! The last two years I have been doing a lot of self healing and rarely dissociate anymore and I'm also becoming a little more outspoken. It's funny you say about the sense of humour of 9w1 because most days I just sit back and go with the flow with my friends but every now and then I somehow flip my personality or something and I'm really quick witted and can come out with good one liners that I normally couldn't think of 🤣 Thanks again for helping me understand myself more ☺️👍

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad the video helped you find your type! It’s great to hear what aligned with your personal experience. By any chance do you remember which enneagram tests you took?

[@maryc4463]

@@YouveGotaType thank you for replying ☺️ Yes I first took the Truity test, followed by the Crystal Knows test and personality path. I got 2 5s and a 6. I then found the enneagram coach or your enneagram coach it might be called. Their questions were worded so much clearer and had more detail and I realised I hadn't been answering the questions correctly which is why I wasn't really matching up with the descriptions. And then when I watched your video I was like, yep! Haha that's me!

[@YouveGotaType]

@@maryc4463 so interesting to hear! I’m always fascinated by how accurate/helpful these tests are or are not :)

[@GurraGo]

It's very interesting to hear how you describe that the Enneagram 9s perceived their childhood in comparison to how the No More Mr Nice Guy perceived their childhoods (according to the author Robert Glover). It is VERY similar, i.e. "Leave it to Beaver family", very perfect etc. when that actually was not the case. Have you read that book and have you seen similarities with the No More Mr Nice Guy and the Enneagram 9 (or others). Keep up the good work!

[@YouveGotaType]

Never heard of him, but these are foundational patterns that go back to the origins of the enneagram, so there should always be a base level of consistency amongst any content rooted in the true enneagram :)

[@GurraGo]

@@YouveGotaTypeAh, cool. I’m with you. Can definitely recommend his book, but it’s more on self develop for men.

[@shaniyadunchie]

Beautiful video! 🤌👏😍

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you :)

[@awakefromdeath]

I've tested as a 9w8 a lot but I relate a lot to 4w5 according to this guy.

[@YouveGotaType]

This guy could be right

[@jacksonraina8769]

I have recently been struggling with the type I got after taking a free enneagram test, type 2w1. this has given me so much clarity and I resonated with all of the 9w1 traits. thank you so much for this video!

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear it! And glad you've found your type.

[@margaretjudice8944]

Great information! Thank you for sharing!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks Margaret! Glad you enjoyed it :)

[@agrizzle4313]

Wow, the description of the childhood took away any questions I had in if the test was accurate.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it helped locked in your type 🙌

[@vanshiuwucutiee9480]

ngl but am kinda hesitating n resisting to put this comment here n have to motivate saying "you matter, i matter" to all the 9s out there starting with myself(uk wut i did there, huh, dint u ;) thank you so much bigbro!!!ily! yay PS: A LIL HELP REQD FOR A MENTAL HEALTH SELF SABOTAGE PROCESS THAT GOES ON SUBTLY..pls lmk if there is a video already about it ////can't stop being awed by the description-IT IS WAY TOO MUCH RELATABLE..FEELS ME TYSM

[@Barthelomeus]

Thanks, a lot of info in one take! One thing about the nine that I believe is central to the type and a bit understated, is that the sloth is not necessarily so much in physical laziness but especially in neglecting to put energy in finding out who they really are as a unique person. This is where resistance comes up because it is a very tough and disruptive (exactly what the nine hates the most) lesson when it really sinks in but also crucial if the nine wants to grow as a person. With that, the last advice is the big one, addressing the core issue. All the other stuff is about the symptoms and will be much easier to tackle once you really know who you are and what you stand for. At my mid 40s, as a sexual 9, I’m just trying to find that out after a couple of painful experiences, so sorry for the long comment but this is really powerful and important for people to understand as early as possible.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing (no need to apologize for long comments here!)

[@АленаМороз-х6м]

looooved the video! best enneagram explanation!

[@FaithDane]

Loved it!!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks!

[@jesikaneemann3703]

Ha. You've got me nailed. I need to read a book but based off this video that 9-1 combo is calling me out hard.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it resonated! And the Wisdom of the Enneagram is a great place to start :)

[@Janay-cy3cu]

Thank you so much for helping me break down and understand my true enneagram type. You are very intelligent, insightful, and knowledgeable at what you do. I'm definitely an INFP 9w1 self preservation instinctual type.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much 🙏 so glad the videos have been helpful!

[@sommertoth6951]

Wow. You are really informed and did a wonderful job. I enjoyed this video!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much! I appreciate the kind words and glad to hear you enjoyed it 🙌

[@mariadolenc5911]

Thank you. Very accurate. I am 9 and it’s so clear “niceness “. And very easy to listen to you. Thank you 🍀

[@jokubelis]

thank you so much i am a type nine and love to avoid my anger!! you saved my life thanks!!!!!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it was a helpful watch! Best wishes on the continued journey with anger - tis a lifelong one for us all.

[@cianmulcahy7813]

great video!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks!

[@sunflower_tae]

I was always super confused as to whether I was a 4 or a 9 and all the tests I took told me I was a 4w5 eventhough I was never truly convinced because I never agreed with their motivations and while I felt out of place when with my emotions when it came to my family, I certainly never thought I was special from the rest of the world nor did i want to be. But when I'm in a bad place I was very similar to 4s in the sense that I can be very emotional, moody, and be prone to sudden outbursts of anger and resentment because I supress what i really want to say and make alot of people (including myself) confused about why I let out everything over something so small. Which I hate. So overall I related to type 4s only when I was on my bad days lol. Now after watching your video, I am 100% sure I'm a type 9 lol. When you described the childhood. I was SHOCKED at how accurate it was 💀 and the fact that you said I would never describe my childhood as traumatic I had to stop and stare at the screen for a second 💀💀. However now I'm confused if I'm a 9w1 or a 9w8. I relate to 9w8 because I feel I have a more practical look at life, feel I can socialize a bit easier than most 9s, and I definantely like to pull my own weight at work. I can be a little more aggressive and defensive on certain aspects. And I'm Definantely more like a 4 when im in my lower points in life. However, I do quit easily, I dislike sports, and competition stresses me out. But based on your video, I can definitely say my primary instinct is self-preservation, so maybe that explains why I'm less competitive and ambitious than most 9w8s cause I really like the simple things in life. But what really makes me doubt I'm a 9w8 is the fact that they are so rare for type 9s 💀also I feel I was more similar to a 9w1 as a child and am told by people I can be pretty philosophical and "deep" when I give advise (I cringed writing that down 😭)and when I'm feeling my most peaceful I relate to 9w1 more. Overall though thanks to this excellent video, my confusion over my enneagram has finally vanished! Amazing job! You can definitely tell how much research and time went into the video. Also the way you explained it was simple enough that people new to the enneagram would definantely have no trouble understanding! Amazing video!

[@YouveGotaType]

This was wonderful to read, so thank you very much for taking the time to write it! On the note about wings, 9 wing 8s (particularly in stress) mistype as 4s all the time. It's actually one of the most common mistypes there is in the enneagram, next to 9 wing 1s that mistype as 5s (that tends to be men). But at the end of the day, we all have a mix of both wings in us so it's just about where there's a predominant leaning. Hopefully that helps nail things down!

[@hollyniemand3645]

​@@YouveGotaType that's funny because I tend to struggle between all three types (4, 5 and 9, sometimes also 6) as a woman. In this series I could relate to type 9(w1) much more than to 4 and 5, but many descriptions say that 9s (especially the Sp subtype) would be more concrete and avoid self-awareness, what feels extremely off for me. I relate to 5 because I'm very withdrawn and fear becoming overwhelmed by the outside world and other people, feeling more comfortable with observing and analysing things and I relate to 4 because I'm constantly looking inside and searching for who I am and feel quite in touch with my emotions / drawn to melancholy. The subtypes/instincts make it even more difficult for me, because I don't think I merge with other people like the social or Sx 9, but I'm more philosophical and abstract than the Sp 9 is described. However, I think your descriptions are really well summarised!

[@jessicah3865]

I am trending towards 6 and 9. Loved this video! The Marvel references at the end spoke to me the most. thank you for this!!

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure! So glad ya loved the video.

[@pointerdogmarketing2197]

Actually, no, I think I am more of a 6w5 than a 9w1... I just have very bad ADHD while also having mostly enemies instead of friends. I live in a very conservative area, and the small leftwing activism groups I tried to form were too fractious to work with. I also find bosses and coworkers impossible to please.

[@justWithRight]

9s see a part of them in every type is also very accurate. The first time I heard about the enneagram and heard about each type I thought that I fit into the 9 😂

[@henrike34]

This is incredible! I feel so seen ❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it!

[@conjodel]

Thank you so much for your explanation. I've had a hard time finding out which type I am, because I also resonate with a type 4. This video helped me understand myself a bit more and that indeed, I am a type 9. It also confronted me on me on different levels and I found myself crying and laughing at the same time 😅 Anyways, thank you again!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much for sharing, and so glad to hear it was a meaningful watch 🙏

[@ftg19]

hey there, today I finished the whole compelete guides of enneagram types , I'm studying Enneagram for a personal project and you have done a fantastic job teaching and explaining it. I want to thank you for all of your efforts and I am sure that I am going to watch all of your videos and also rewatch the ones that I have watched before. thank you thank you so much and I wish you the bests , hopefully will see hear from you more, bests💗

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much for this awesome compliment! I'm so glad you've enjoyed your deep dive into all the YGAT content. Best wishes on your personal project!

[@ftg19]

@@YouveGotaType no no , Thank you actually , I might need your consultancy in future, but let me finish studying all of your videos first😆

[@YouveGotaType]

@@ftg19 Haha sounds like a plan

[@ftg19]

@@YouveGotaType 😉

[@russellmcdonald7777]

Incredibly helpful. Thank you

[@YouveGotaType]

You're welcome!

[@RayCarrington]

Thank you for this video 🙌🏾. Super spot on

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it, Ray!

[@Brownbabygurl06]

DANG!! This was insightful, and your method of delivery was eloquent. I feel like I have a name and a better understanding of my physical and mental responses...smh. lol called and supported with knowledge.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much for the compliment! I've definitely spent a lot of time in the editing room to make it sound eloquent :) So thankful to help support ya on the journey of self-awareness!