Entitlement (The Shadow Side of Deserving) - Teal Swan -

[@MichaelMaxwell747]

One of your best. You owe us nothing, Teal, but I am grateful for you.

[@tylerwatt3142]

"Obviously, if they're not capitalizing on your best interests 24 hours a day and they're thinking about themselves instead, you're going to be disappointed in them all the time." hahaha SOOOO Good! Thank you Teal. A grand reflection indeed.

[@ManuelaJimenez96]

Exactly the type of video I needed, I'm 20, living with a man twice my age, I don't work and I expect everything handed to me.. it's a vicious cycle of disappointment, anger, self-pity and powerlessness. I need to do something.

[@nancyc5922]

M why would you expect everything handed to you?? I am a housewife and mother to 15 year old, I do all the cleaning, all the cooking, drive daughter to school and back also husband to work and back because there are no school busses in the area we moved,,,this leads to about 6 hours of driving per day with having to do everything else, heck it is plintless for me to work,,,,,extra vehicle, extra insurance, extra gas, how would my child get home from school? jeez, the money I make would go directly to the extra expenses instead of in our account!! ,,,,,what would you expect if you were me?

[@ManuelaJimenez96]

Lady Grey Flower Exactly, it's not a way to think.. that's why I need to get a job and stop being so ungrateful.

[@theultrawarrior7448]

Manuela, are you Argentina? Spiritual from Cali?

[@robynhoodliving8862]

I can relate. I hope you worked it. As will I

[@memeful4]

@Nancy C: Don't have children in the first place.

[@alexandramarie5668]

You should do a video about the people who feel like they can't get anything without giving.

[@bbeeez]

Gosh….. you sound very entitled! Just teasin!

[@samuelxd7954]

This is me... I'm a 22 year old Man child. It's so easy to blame your circumstance and others. Thanks Teal, definitely need to take responsibility to get off my ass and fix my life.

[@thegardenofeve]

You can do this!

[@then35t18]

Also helps to get toxic people out of your life.

[@private4701]

We are same age but lucky you .. you found her 4 years ago ☹️

[@bbeeez]

Youre also so rare to recognize this and want to work on it!!!!

[@show_me_your_kitties]

How did it work out for you?

[@tanakeilidh384]

Teal, you called me out. Thank you. Now I know what I need to work on. I'm embarrassed by how oblivious I have been to my selifishness, neediness, manipulations... my entitlement psychology. Many blessings and many thanks to you.

[@bbeeez]

Good 4 YOU! 💕

[@ravensaid7226]

I was recently feeling powerless and incapable of changing my life’s circumstances. Almost like every action is too hard to take, like I won’t be able to succeed as a result, like everything is too hard. One of the answers I received from myself as to why I was being passive and choosing to hold on to my entitlement was a fear and feeling of powerlessness that would come as a result of letting go of such behaviour. Almost as if I would swing all the way to the other end of the spectrum and become entirely dependent on others in deciding whether I am a worthy human, whether I am good enough, and that would dictate all my actions - to have other people’s validation as means to feel empowered. Most likely I was opting to keeping the entitled attitude to have at least some power over other humans, almost rebelling against their power. Kind of - better broke, alone, and powerless than powerful, but dependent on other people’s opinions. Looks like I gotta really look into properly motivating myself through showing that my actions DO bring positive results, that I DO have the power to change my circumstances. And that I can be powerful, through cultivating it within. Giving it to myself. Good luck everybody on this path, hope this helps you in some way.

[@AlteredEgo-tq1sd]

This is CRAZY how I randomly found this video!! I've been hissying all day about my older brother who refuses to do ANYTHING major for himself. I declared earlier that "if he could, he'd take my brains & drop them into his own head." He has a false sense of entitlement--he feels that women should do everything for him while he spends his leisure time going to the gym, bike-riding, going on dates, socializing, taking, daily naps etc., while (since I'm a woman), I should be stuck here doing his work & mine too & not even get a break to take a bath or shower!

[@nbextremebotting]

The reason I feel entitled is because 1. I believe I've been emotionally/socially misshapen by society's failure to address my past 2. I feel so void inside that if I did not get support for free, life would be even more miserable and I might take my life. And all this even though I'm physically perfectly capable, and intellectually as well. If someone can untangle my emotional knot so I can stop feeling so negative and feel alive, I'd work my ass off to not need those supports.

[@cecilia1099]

I believe I do know how you feel. I’m sorry it’s been like that for you. Parts of it have been the same for me too. 😥🌻

[@apollofateh324]

@@cecilia1099 Same :(

[@BenjiFriedman]

looking for people’s generosity to help you still.....

[@nbextremebotting]

@@BenjiFriedman Nope :D I've been healed

[@nbextremebotting]

@@BenjiFriedman I'm a living testimony, I work and enjoy life a lot, and help people.

[@tysonsmithsavimbi]

i was really hoping that you do this episode. i wanted it so bad from you. I'm so thankful. and i love you so much. i usually don't praise anything but i will praise you. you made my life easier. I'm happier.

[@patricia071]

I just noticed how from caring too much what other people think, I went towards entitlement tendencies like a way to "respect myself" Just now I realized it was not the case to be so defensive about some things and maybe I could've addressed issues in a more productive way...I'll try my best to balance this Thank you so much for the raw honesty and teachings, Teal ❤️ your videos always bring me down to earth

[@raychen024]

You legit condense an entire book into a video. I'm taking notes, and instead of taking 'notes', ive basically written out the entire bloody transcript! I LOVE YOU. ALL YOUR VIDEOS HAVE HELPED ME SO MUCH! I hope to meet you one day :) Peace and love from AUSTRALIA

[@TheJereld]

Life is easier without expectations.

[@memeful4]

Yah? Even the statement itself, asserts a explanation? I have this friend who likes to say this to me repeatedly, I really feel the weight of the "pink elephant", and when I finally challenged him, that was the end of our "friendship".

[@memeful4]

A typo: The statement "Life is easier without expectations. " sounds like a "expectation" itself already, and patronising to me.

[@marinawerneck1655]

Teal, it would be really amazing if you did a video doing a whomb healing meditation! If anyone reading this also would like to see that, like this comment.

[@ciarashrader4008]

Marina Werneck love this idea !

[@carlalove3498]

Please do💖

[@RDSrockstar]

male cycles female cycles, earth cycles, and brainstorming, what would we benefit knowing the part of god, which is everything, that means the reader. rewriting this,,, what part of human behavior do we need to be aware of and reflect on, reason/cause/solution to this, I thought what started our species to not always be contributing themselves and the ones around them, where did we go about thinking no your different you can't come over in fact you'll idle because of it, or be exile because of it, let the differences unit and send us to a bliss of learning not a conflict of turd flinging, trying to be easy with the words and allow you to grasp me and go away with a part of me that can aid you in your day today. because I love you and care enough to care about you and know enough that your enough I have to learn a bit more before I may understand you, but were all brothers and sister, family we are drifted apart we may have, where did it start, we create where it goes, take a beautiful breath threw your nose out the mouth there it goes, four rotation threw the mouth, then go out with the nose if I gave you out threw the nose you know where to start with the mouth, then three with the mouth, that's a breathing technical passed on to me, from a guy called Core, beautiful beast, god he is, as we all one, take a applaud for yourself, and those who got you to where you are, that includes self. cheers and oracle and blessing and space and sound and silence random words to wrap this up take care oui/rds/rock/star applauding all, but taking a moment, to realize hes a fractal a outer part a part of the whole, who allowed to judge feel and know. student of the land, teacher of himself, take care all lite hearts

[@loveinfinity8884]

I like the paint of the wall such great green color ;D

[@chailatte7926]

I agree! I think it's called Teal 😉

[@tanjanikola9489]

The colour 'teal' is actually darker, a blueish green... one of my favourite colours!

[@BellaLifeEssence]

Becki Marshall that is more of a seafoam-green. sorry I'm not trying to be picky just an artist who is particular about colors because I love them passionately

[@TheCrystalCollector]

Reminds me of the beach!

[@ClaritasFA]

Thank you Teal, your teaching expanded my mind and put my problems into perspective. Being a millennial in China, where the previous generation had rigorous Confucian believe system, I have experienced many conflicts with my parents in terms of communicating our believes and vision. I hope I can become an inspiring figure like you someday who empower and heal many people's souls. Much respect from Hong Kong Richard

[@oracleekkho8682]

I have been working on feeling I deserve my hearts desires and I am a good person thanks for the video love you

[@slivyivy4169]

I'm so glad i found this woman

[@bAa-xj3ut]

thank you teal for these great videos.. when you didn't upload one last week , i was worried that there was sth worng so i cheked ur facebook account, i just wanted to know u r fine.. i know that u don't have to make these videos but pleeeeeaaaassseee never stop making them.. they have been a source of great help in my life.. i love u for that and i'm really grateful for ur work.

[@jessejules2092]

There is a difference between ego thinking it's special and important and an individual containing ego expecting others to do their part in the transactions of a mutual relationship.

[@sarahkay8436]

Exactly, You don't owe anyone anything, neither of Us do, we only deserve love, compassion, forgiveness. Only love is real, everything else, is only but an Illusion!

[@bbeeez]

@6:33 oh girl. I’ve had all issues w this most of my life but never had the right language to truly describe it or tools to dismantle the relationships it exists so prominently in!!! I am the first type. Before seeing this video, I spoke up to the person who has been (the second type) basically using me and others, is very self absorbed, seeks out others only if they will benefit them or satisfy a need/desire. They seem totally clueless about the meaning and value of reciprocity in life in general but totally miss it in relationships. It’s been maddening and painful. So I clearly and strongly put an end to this particular “transactional” energy between them and I, after over 10 years of operating (badly) in it. This felt very liberating and courageous for me. As the Universe would have it, i was going through your videos and saving a few to watch later and decided to watch this one tonight, right now. It’s absolutely in synch with what I’ve been vibing and you as well as this magickal place we live and play in, never cease to amaze me! THANK YOU! You one of my my soul sisters I already feel that. ♾ 🌙🔮 🌬💫

[@t.bo.6495]

The relationships im in are transactional. The family,friends. I ve noticed a selfesteem issue, im working with mental health, im completing tasks and help people talk about their intrests, thank you for your hard work!

[@Outofbounds7]

Need to listen to this video everyday.

[@robertzamber1707]

Man, TS, IW, and VO offer some of the best advice and insight among the spiritual community.

[@CelineAdobea]

I've been so critical of entitlement for so long! Not knowing that I was being entitled as well

[@madelyntoday7093]

Take in from a former narcissist (I didn't know it at the time): Find self love! Before I found it I was looking for ways to prove that I was a worth while person. It led to every selfish act. I hated myself, but I needed to feel special. I thought if I did this amazing thing I would finally have a reason to love myself. I thought that if people did things for me it was was evidence that I was the wonderful person and then I could feel good about myself. I had no clue I was like this. Funny thing is is that I would become the codependent around other narcissists because I thought that by being their friend I was somehow proving that I was this special person because I was friends with all these "cool" people. Bottom line: being a narcissist is exhausting. Best thing you can do is decide that you are good enough for your own love regardless if you are special.

[@amor2827]

i know you do thattttttttttttttttttttttttttt!!! girl youre so amazing my entitled conduct crave for that ask teal episode! but here is now! and im grateful to you and myself.

[@lindsayestelledunn-officia8639]

I am voting this woman for president. I am not kidding... let’s get this trending

[@DennisBayazitov]

Could you do a video on psychedelics? Specifically, what is their role in the healing process, and what is their necessity (or lack thereof) in raising one's vibration?

[@Lalaldd]

She did, they are called enthogens, I think.

[@Alyssasrealm]

Dennis, there are at least 2: look for "Spiritual drug use" and "Marijuana and spirituality".

[@gmailnicolette]

Happy new year Teal! More priceless information. You are like a beautiful bright sun You should take as long of a break as you need, you came back so soon! Sleep in, do your artwork and just enjoy yourself

[@bdmenne]

I really needed this. Thank you.

[@yuvalcohen9754]

One of your best so far, had to deal with two people doing just that lately and after watching this video it all fell into piece.

[@joseph233382]

This is so kind of you to take time to heal people on this world :)

[@banjo1957]

IM grateful you take the time to share with us and tell it like it is, I am amazed at some of these comments, I AM always looking forward to the next episode ,I have learned a great deal and will continue to learn and keep an open mind .

[@SallyFrancis]

Brilliant.. so grateful for your wisdom and knowledge loving your books at last someone that gets it.. The world so needs your wisdom right now

[@saughs]

Not to get too political, but I absolutely love this as a libertarian and an anti-SJW. I wish more people understood how destructive entitlement is, and that we're not the bad guy for not giving in to it.

[@alaskawolves]

excellent video. when the video from last weekend was not published I laughed real hard...i felt something uh-brewing. I loved it. thanks teal and team. rock on! 😛😄😎🤗🌹♥

[@theultrawarrior7448]

Carbuccia? Italian? Or just boricua with Italian surname?

[@zuzannavee9558]

Very good explanation of complex shadow behaviors. Thanks, Teal.

[@zainabamadahy9918]

I didn't even notice you were gone for a week. This discussion of entitlement has been helpful to me. TY.

[@waterlily6747]

You made everyone wait an extra week for this video, how clever! I was really longing for it.

[@user-uq8mt9eh1z]

You are so beautiful, Teal. Thank you deeply for sharing this video with us. I sincerely appreciate it. ✨💖🙏

[@seriboyxy]

The difference between egoism and altroism is this society. My role with it for most..

[@deerinheadlights9784]

This one popped up on my recommendations. If you knew how much I needed this right now. Thank you

[@vickigunderson4806]

Teal You Have Helped Me Change My Life!!! Thank You!!!!

[@vanislegirl81]

So thankful for this topic!

[@TK-iu8nj]

Thank You, Teal. :) For all your work and videos.

[@RWMHUBBARD]

"everything is one ... so what's yours is mine" debilitated Mercury in Pisces.

[@bijan1316]

Teal Swan's channel is a masterclass of psychology.

[@AnnamagrietDeWet]

Wow. Thamk you for explaining so clearly and for sharing such helpful content without being judgemental or critical of any unhealthy behaviour. This was so helpful and practical and honest

[@nancyc5922]

Many parents do that to their children!!!

[@jonostaley2155]

I always say the good must become powerful through love for the powerful will not become good through more power. Time to shine light up the pyramid to dissolve the Demi demons. Teal is so wise and beautiful is she a Scorpio?

[@degoldenvajina1527]

your videos always come at the right time in my life

[@callisto_1486]

Man, this video packs a punch. I love the connection to intentional communities too. Thanks Teal. :D

[@EdithVaca]

literally. first 30 seconds. I am healed already.

[@lmjoshea5915]

this is such a good teaching! O my goodness, on so many levels. Thank you very much.

[@CerebralAssassin]

thank you Teal! I noticed something was not right last week...but didn't notice consciously that you didn't upload...only subconsciously :)

[@pfacontractor1573]

CerebralAssassin .

[@UrFayeS.]

Hi thanks for sharing your thoughts! I was confused before I watched this video of yours. I was manipulated a lot of times to get things from me, Spend some time etc. I felt the need to give even I don't want because I don't want to hurt feelings. The 3:27 part is true. I am afraid to be accused of being selfish. Saying no if you don't feel like doing it is a relief. I don't want to please people all the time anymore. It's time for me to choose my happiness 😘 P. S. :This person's childhood was somewhat deprived so maybe he/she is feeling entitled to have what he/she didn't have- that explains demmands of getting gifts, eating out on fancy restaurants, seeks attention etc.

[@bh9262]

Love the teal green background.. Teal.. Thanks for your work, and thoughts.. You benefit so many..

[@marysmith2569]

You are always there for me! I love you!

[@Sugabullets]

From my perspective, these various complex are not the focus of resolving our issues. We have a trauma happen to us and we amplify it by X10 X100 or whatever, but the way we deal with it either by running away by trying to distance ourselves from the pain or by covering up and end up with a smear of what we perceive as a trigger. Identifying the distinction between the unique self and others gives us the ability to perceive the collective; It's the possibility of the unknown that is the question of asking the question what is the meaning of it all (The contrast of what is). I believe a void is necessary much like the lens of our eyes or a black hole, but from outside in exactly like the universe but the objective is not put focus on the void but having an acute awareness of its presence. That's how I got out of the fantasy of spirituality and started taking action to live my life and better yet understand each human is a distinct universe unto themselves.

[@henkverhaeren3759]

Thank you Teal. This is something I really have to work on! Now I understand a more how to do that. happy New year wonderful Tealtribers, love you all

[@amygailey870]

So, if I am in a financial slump and I am now relying on some others for financial support at the moment. I greatly appreciate this support and feel that cleaning or cooking for these generous people shows my gratitude. Am I in a transactional relationship?

[@RamiroLeiva]

Crap you got me good! I just searched your channel wondering why am I not seeing your videos.

[@parththakkar9383]

It is interesting how you manage to make a reference to previous videos in every single video of yours!

[@nicholasfalkreilly]

Can you do a video on Neediness. Thanks you, your work is great.

[@hahanicebroskie]

The laugh at the beginning. Ha, this is why I watch Teal!

[@Loveheals144]

Thank you for shedding a light on this topic. We need to shape up our thinking and doing. Myself included..

[@joanninac.7842]

As usual.... Awesome! One I've been working on 😉 already...this just cemented it. 😊 Thank you Teal 💗

[@ikin3301]

Thank you Teal, I'm so happy I found your channel in 2016 and thoroughly enjoyed your videos. Wishing you and your family best in 2017 and looking forward to seeing more of your videos in the new year!😘

[@rychartist]

I really love with you do Teal, I think it would be great to put your books in an audiobook format. This way your content can reach more people. Thanks for the vids!

[@humanintraining]

So spot on - again. Thank you, Teal!

[@ascensionlight3125]

omg so in tune with this you just read out what i have been dealing with in family/friend dynamics some helpful thoughts thank you teal

[@666nenni]

I love this video😻

[@lyzawhitney]

I think I know what this is addressing... -.- Aptly put. I had a conversation yesterday evening with a couple my boyfriend is friends with, we were visiting their new home for the first time. We asked why they had a security system and they mentioned some shady neighbors, one family lives off of the government, belittles and yells cursewords at their children all of the time, and every time they are in the backyard and those neighbors are out there they loudly talk about how much they hate that our friends replaced their old, dilapidated fence with a new fence. I asked why they felt that those neighbors acted that way about their fence--are they trying to break in? I was really impressed with his response: He responded that they were jealous and felt like they never could improve or have the nice things that they have, so they became hateful. Ties with this video pretty well.

[@gemiiadvdanca]

I LOVE YOU TEAL!!!

[@yiplatino]

Some moral licensing: I am entitled because I am recovering from a tyranical mother who wanted my existence so serve her, now she might respect myself a little. And yes, everything's about myself now, but, can I blame me?

[@luticia]

intro = you one of a kind! :-D

[@indiebaby]

I have to say the week leading up new years and the first week of have been a bam in terms of "entitlement". In my case anyways, things not happening in the way at least I imagined them. It didn't feel so much like something I felt I deserved being taken away, although I did for one moment feel a bit hurt, even that then spiraled around and turned into another surprising, but this time, more positive change! Just, things not going as I thought/imagined they would. I'm trying to handle it all as one big adventure it's been so hectic and full of change. Also wanted to add, I loved your perspective on how manipulative people see intentional communities as feeding grounds. I also came to this conclusion a few months ago in hindsight of an unhealthy realtionship. I didn't see how bad it was until afterwards and connected the dots. It became clear he went into the festival/hippie community for the very reason he felt like they're people who are easy to take advantage of. He gets away with it pretending to be like them. It's something I wish I saw sooner and can now understand how deeply important these types are to be vigilant and aware of. It feels as if they're energy vampires, just sucking away at your soul.

[@harleensingh7983]

Teal, you’re an absolute goddess. Thank you

[@karenhardin4566]

~🙏🏽Thank you for sharing this! 💞Love you for your commitment to sharing & growth💞☯💜☮

[@soffieeverdeen4807]

You ROCK... Thank you for being YOU

[@jarnohimself]

What if you (inner child) refuses to give anything to people and expects people to meet his needs because he has a need for unconditional love and he hates and resents all people so much for not giving it to him that he would rather be alone and be unconditionally loved (by myself) then to give to people and then feel like he's "earned" some conditional love..

[@hanakaihealing]

does this dynamic of wanting to give/ expecting to be given to have any correlation with the love avoident/ love addict dynamic ?

[@HanhNguyen-vj1pb]

You described my father. And now I’m wondering how to get away from him.

[@tomazkenda7204]

oceans of love and grattitude

[@gabycee2713]

perfect timing

[@thatsinpossible4967]

Hey, you're pretty special. Thank you.

[@johnnywlittle]

Pretty good one Teal. You certainly do have of seeing into people's psyches.

[@pfcmagik]

You're talking about hierarchy vs holarchy, enabling bad behaviours due to acceptance and abandonment issues👍

[@shawnlazer3880]

You seem fundementally mistaken regarding the necessity for a divide between the spiritualists and the physicilaists. Sometimes the "you" aspect of the person does not want to work not because of "entitlement", but because that's the process of protecting the world through his "suffering"...I've been trying to make money for years and have failed time and time again. The problem is the system and I'm here to change it....if you think the system isn't broken and this capatalism thing needs to continue, then you're far behind and living in the past - nor are you looking at the future 😡 And I challenge your "abilities"

[@JustWorkThankYou]

Thank you for this video, Teal.

[@gillianomotoso328]

I took notes.

[@wpkm2]

But what's the difference of contributing because you have low self esteem as a entitled person and becoming a codependent who's always contributing because of low self esteem too

[@LaptopVegan]

10:54 That's me. How strange.

[@ymearth]

Wow. Thank you so much for your insight💝 So much to learn about🎁

[@Magagirl2024]

Thank you Teal you're a true angel..i love you sis xx

[@Magagirl2024]

You have helped me help myself...i have released attachments to the outcome (no desire to control the outcome) My energy is flowing naturally and im free from me. Thank you

[@modernmike157]

wow... really nice...

[@magdakidybinska6109]

thank you very much 💜💙💚🙏🙏🙏

[@nvinios1]

thanks very much for this video. it's scary i can't see this stuff