EP. 11 - Godly Dating

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When We Abide

Күн бұрын

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@TheSingleManPodcast 2 ай бұрын

As a Christian man that is single, I really enjoyed learning from y’all’s perspectives! This popped up on my homepage so know you are reaching people for the Kingdom!

@WhenWeAbide 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, brother! Glad it blessed you. God be given the glory! The Lord bless you 🙏🏻🤍

@bronzemuseum504 2 ай бұрын

Never dated. Never was interested to until last year. Now that God has worked on me, i'm ready. That was a great recommendation video

@nikiIux Ай бұрын

I definitely took away a lot from this video. Thanks so much for talking on this subject!

@TheWavelengthsPodcast 9 күн бұрын

Vey good! Love this conversation!

@HarleyDavidsonVHMMC 2 ай бұрын

What every father wants for his daughter(s) when they start dating 😉

@WhenWeAbide 2 ай бұрын

@@HarleyDavidsonVHMMC 😚🤍

@scottydwarica688 Ай бұрын

Hallelujah 🙏 Glory to God I love Women of God they are so Precious and Special you are so Amazing ❤️

@Bigfellatrenty Ай бұрын

I really appreciate this video sisters, as a Christian man that is single God broken up all of my past relationships from worldy women, i thought it was me but it was God protecting my heart and my future i totally felt the same way the sister on the left was feeling like how i wasn’t good enough looking at other people getting into relationships and me being the last single but now im learning to love myself and seek thy kingdom first and Yah will provide it says in scripture that how men shouldn’t be alone so i know God has that single Godly women ready for me i just gotta work on myself and my relationship with Christ first so thank you for this video sisters yall got a subscriber from me 👏🏾

@WhenWeAbide Ай бұрын

@@Bigfellatrenty amen, brother! So glad the Lord is revealing these things to you and working in your life!! May He reveal the woman He has prepared for you in His perfect timing 🙏🏻 Thank you for your support! We’re so happy this blessed you

@Bigfellatrenty Ай бұрын

@@WhenWeAbide amen

@andrestheman10 Ай бұрын

thank you for your insights!

@dean_fit 2 ай бұрын

Great, insightful conversation. Enjoyed this. Thank you

@thakrerohit7874 2 ай бұрын

Please pray for me i have fall in lust and addicted to porn too i don't want to watching but my mind lead me to watch this , I loves you're podcast.

@ElladiLanHuong 2 ай бұрын

this format really suits me

@djgrant8761 2 ай бұрын

I’m so grateful the Lord gave me the gift of singleness. So I can focus solely on Him.

@WhenWeAbide 2 ай бұрын

@@djgrant8761 amen! What a beautiful gift it is! 🤍🙌🏻

@BenC-77 29 күн бұрын

1. Marriage...2. Courtship...3. Dating - our personal lives must be arranged in that order before the LORD. I get asked often about being a widower at 40 years old, having now spent the past few years alone. The answer is quite simple, I will only consider a relationship if I know for sure before ever "dating" a woman that I would be capable of being her husband and she my wife. Hence why I am single and have not dated. I appreciate the rise in people (Brothers & Sisters in Christ equally) being willing to place purity and morality at the premium position. Abide in the LORD, loneliness doesn't exist.

@WhenWeAbide 29 күн бұрын

@@BenC-77 amen!! Thank you for your comment, you’re exactly right 🙏🏻

@ironmatto3 2 ай бұрын

Great biblical truth expressed in this video, helped me in many ways. God bless you guys.

@WhenWeAbide 2 ай бұрын

@@ironmatto3 Glory to God! The Lord bless you 🙏🏻

@J3.16-17 2 ай бұрын

First time viewer here, so forgive me for saying so, but I did not expect the substantive/scriptural depth you both presented. Reminds me of girls gone Bible, but more focused lol

@WhenWeAbide 2 ай бұрын

@@J3.16-17 thank you!🙏🏻 all glory to God!!

@Kenoticrunner Ай бұрын

"Godly dating" is quite the interesting concept. In the historic cultural context of the Ancient Near East, women were often treated as property, subject to the authority of men, typically their fathers or husbands. Marriage was not a personal contract between husband and wife but rather an agreement between a man and the woman's father, often involving an exchange of goods or services. Biblical law often reinforced social hierarchies, with control over property, family, and inheritance tightly linked to patriarchal structures. Women were generally positioned in a subordinate and dependent role within these systems. However, there are notable exceptions, such as the stories of Deborah, Ruth, and Esther, who acted in ways that subverted or transcended these norms. These instances, while significant, were exceptions rather than the rule. (Interestingly, the stories of Ruth and Esther contain very little direct Divine intervention or explicit references to God, relying instead on human decisions and actions to drive the narrative.) It is worth noting that when contemporary Christians refer to a "Biblical view of marriage," it is often a modern interpretation rather than a reflection of the historical reality of marriage practices in biblical times, which differ significantly from current ideals. Would think the concept of "Godly dating" needs robust theological continuity with the genuine past, not just its liberal reinterpretation.

@WhenWeAbide Ай бұрын

@@Kenoticrunner you are referencing “biblical history,” but you claimed in our other video that this approach of “believing” something to be true because others believed it is wrong. How do you know that’s what the history of marriage was like in the Bible if you claim the Bible isn’t true? What are you basing those claims off of?

@Kenoticrunner Ай бұрын

@@WhenWeAbide Great question. The books of the Bible aren't the only contemporaneous accounts of Ancient Near Eastern culture. And "true vs not true" is an over simplified characterization. The question of historians would be "what are Ancient Near Eastern concepts of marriage based upon the written evidence we have?" We have some good information, in fact, multiple fairly independent corraborating sources. What would I be basing beliefs upon? Consistent with historical inquiry, the artifacts we have. These artifacts consistently point to women as unfortunately property in the time and place in which these books of the Bible were authored. A "Biblical" or "Godly" view of marriage would encompass such, despite being unlike often popularly framed in contemporary Evangelicalism. And it's not that believing something because others believed it is categorically wrong. Historians use a robust framework that includes reliance on multiple independent attestations, unmotivated or disinterested witnesses, corroborating evidence, proximity to events, and contextual coherence. Even then, conclusions must be modest, as we simply can't go back to the past. That said, even with these limits, a historically-based Judeo-Christian view of marriage must grapple with the notion that it was normative for God's people to more or less own women as property and that God at that time to be portrayed as rather just fine with it. I hope this helps answer how we know what marriage was like in the Ancient Near East including among the Israelite people. Feel free to explore the often cited "Social World of Ancient Israel: 1250-587 BCE" by Victor H. Matthews and Don C. Benjamin. They discuss the status of women in Israelite society, particularly in relation to marriage, within a broader social and economic context. The authors argue that women in ancient Israelite society were often viewed as property in marriage, but this was part of a broader social and legal system where family and economic considerations were paramount. Their role as chattel was intertwined with their economic and reproductive functions, but this did not entirely negate their personal agency or social importance.

@cyberla 2 ай бұрын

Great discussion! Thank you!

@luckerlynemaxis Ай бұрын

Great topic!

@Newgrist 2 ай бұрын

God bless you and guide you both.

@WhenWeAbide 2 ай бұрын

God bless you 🙏🏻

@BùiBíchHòa 2 ай бұрын

really liked this video

@GEORGIOARCADE 2 ай бұрын

You two ladies spoke the honest, godly truth about dating 😊🙏🏽. You gave some very helpful things to consider. I believe the Bible is the ultimate guide for how men and women should be as partners. Christ has to be at the center. I do believe in doing self work and bettering the relationship with Jesus first. While I don't have a lady yet; I'm determined to prepare myself to who God wants me to be in the meantime. I wish you both tons of success with your channel and that you can continue to bring people closer to Jesus in the process.

@WhenWeAbide 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much brother! Glory to the Highest 🙏🏻 God bless you!

@chewbrocka6833 Ай бұрын

"as Christians" just team playing people that can't have a deeper thought to understand there is no teams. Just an educational level of understanding things.

@WhenWeAbide Ай бұрын

@@chewbrocka6833 people use the phrases: “as people of color,” “as women,” “as men,” “as the new generation,” “as Muslims,” “as politicians,” so on and so forth… does that also play people who don’t fall into those categories? “As Christians” because not everyone in the world is Christian…that’s not divisive, it’s factual. And that applies to all things. One doesn’t require a deep thinking brain to grasp that concept

@chewbrocka6833 Ай бұрын

@@WhenWeAbide they are divisive terms. I don't call out Muslims because yes, they might blow me up. They are also just made up beliefs. But these labels put a hierarchy in your brain. For example, in your head if someone is an atheist you probably label those people as "the people who don't know or yet to come to Christ" or "people who will go to hell" these are all word games when in reality religion is a much more easier path than understanding the scientific, molecule aspect. The understanding we make up these labels from an evolution standpoint. Then if you really care about people and smart the goal is to be a scientist or some other educated profession that manipulates reality that helps physical beings in a physical way. All cells. You are putting value to the word Christian because the subset comes with beliefs. You probably think atheists means game over. Life is hard for everybody, but understanding truths like pessimistic truths can be overcome. But they first have to be accepted then the next step if you are an empathetic person is to figure out how to buffer pessimistic truths into something not as much. You are choosing Christianity as a solution, your intention to be good is good. But the real world doesn't function on those solutions, we know by common sense that a form of a scientific method helps us achieve real goals. The biggest thing you can do with your labels is to accept there is no good or evil. It becomes a different type of thinking instead of hierarchy thinking. Which was more useful during our primate jungle days.

@WhenWeAbide Ай бұрын

@@chewbrocka6833 This is a method to unnecessarily complicate the simple truth that words have meaning. It doesn’t create a hierarchy in our brain to use words. A word describes or gives meaning to something. “Christians” define people who follow Christ. “Atheists” define people who don’t believe in a God. Creating a hierarchy in your brain about these groups is irrelevant to the meaning of the words and is up to each individual being and their perspective. You can define something in this life without creating a hierarchy in your brain about it. People need to stop trying to twist language & words to fit their narratives. Words have meanings and are necessary for describing things. It doesn’t need to be complicated and turned into some psychological issue. This is what the alphabet community does. Language is language. Words are words. It doesn’t need to be altered to fit some complicated explanation. But we can agree to disagree.