Ep:257 KETO DIET FAILING? HOW TO CHANGE FOR GOOD - by Robert Cywes

[@alysiaandjohnglass]

I looked at myself in the mirror and spoke to my id(super ego). you have been in control for 4 decades and look where we are(i was 385 and very sick) I’m taking over now, you will never hurt me again. (I was actually angry)that moment fueled my ability to learn how to change. I got off all the meds, dropped 245 lbs, and relearned food nutrition from the ground up and developed the foresight to learn when i was lying to myself. I’m currently 154 and healthy. Thanks doc

[@wocket42]

Congrats. You saved your life.

[@amyzumach5661]

Bawled! Nose blowing BAWLED listening to this!! So spot on. My carb free life began August 3, 2022. My flaccid phase was about 6 months before that. When I found your channel it was the biggest game changer of my life! Behind the scenes I had been journaling and digging deep into my emotional bullshit and excuses, trying so hard to make changes...at the same time, continuing to engage in the same choices. It was such a cognitive dissonance I was in and felt like I was hopeless. I could not understand how I could keep eating things I knew were causing me so much sadness and regret. I had “ been on keto” for about a year and a half from early 2019 to mid 2020, and then I went sideways ( I would now call that a relapse) and gained all the weight back! Why? Because I treated keto like a diet. The moment life served up a shit sandwich with the Covid restrictions etc...I was right back to the emotional eating/carb addiction. It started out with allowing more keto ice cream and keto candy and snacks creeping in and then eventually I just started eating the real thing and then eventually right back Standard America Diet and guess what? Fat again. Obviously I didn’t realize this was the pattern of carb addiction I was experiencing at that time, but it’s so clear now!! Your words of TRUTH have changed my life. How on earth I made it to almost 50 years old, insulin dependent gestational diabetic 3 of my five pregnancies, lost and regained 50 plus pounds at least 10 different times, and yet NO ONE EVER mentioned the word ADDICTION? I have fully embraced this fact now and it has changed my entire view on life. With that said, I have to say this to anyone on the fence reading comments.. If it is real ( the acceptance of addiction and desire to change), you truly want to be prepared that the beginning of this journey will likely be hard. Emotionally. It will be painful at times. Not everyone will be in your court. If you are willing to stay true to what you’ve finally comprehended about yourself,there will be times that people you love and respect will challenge you. Roll their eyes at you, mock what you are doing, even try to scare you out of it. There will be those who will just believe this is another crazy diet attempt. Stay strong. Remember where you were. Journal. Journal the hard stuff. The good stuff. Remember every time that you are tempted to go back to the old patterns that the same results you’ve had your whole life will be there. The shame, regret, embarrassment, the health issues, all of it. The results will never be different. You’ve already been there or you wouldn’t be bothering to read this right now. You can withstand the disapproval of other people much greater than you can withstand the continued disappointment in yourself. There are people who liked you better fat and sick alongside them. These are your enablers. Often good people, people we love. But ask yourself why they are so concerned about your health when you are no longer eating potato chips and fast food but they had no concern about the fact that you probably weren’t eating fruits and vegetables before either! Not one of those people probably ever remarked on the concern for your health in regards to the candy or potato chips or your weight in general. Think about that before you take their concern too seriously. There will be many who will cheer you on. Many who WILL be in your court. You are not alone. If the journey into being free of this addiction doesn’t cause some level of pain at times, it’s likely that you have not fully embraced it. Accept the facts. Expect the pain. On the other side of it is freedom and VICTORY 🎉 Dr. Cywes you are AMAZING! 👏🏻

[@denisea.869]

Your comment was amazing. I just started my keto journey after finding this channel. I wish I had a friend like you for support. I have very little support around me and all my friends and family eat junk. I have 40 pounds to lose and I’m ready to make some changes. Wish me luck. ❤

[@Galatzo]

"The results will never be different" hit me somewhere very very deep Thanks

[@Gail-gf7km]

Thank you for your comment! You have very honestly articulated my journey. Beautifully written.

[@mikafoxx2717]

I feel this too. I started keto and a few months later my roommate too. I wasn't as strict and my roommate was. He had much more weight to lose than I. He lost 100lbs that year, while working at a fast food restaurant, treating carbs like an addiction. Not even eating carbs at a restaurant or for a birthday. I got to a point where I was happy, because I didn't have as much of an addiction problem. But when I started working again in a bakery, it took 5 months before I got into the habit of eating something sweet almost every day. Before that, I made it a rule I could only eat a sweet if I made it completely from scratch. I let that slip, considering from scratch the things I made while at work. That was wrong. At home I only made something once in a blue moon, the few things I really really enjoy, and made it better than anything from the store. A metaphor is that it turned from a fancy celebratory drink maybe once a month to a daily beer or three. It's a slippery slope. I've decided to go primarily carnivore in the new year now. Maybe I'll still allow a homemade dessert once in a very long time, maybe once a year when the wild fruits are ripe, but the less dessert I have, the less dessert I want. And even the desserts I did make, I had to at least halve the sugar, or remove entirely if fruit is involved, in any recipe to even be palatable. Honestly what I miss most is my steel cut oats boiled in cream..

[@surfinwaves4769]

Thanks so much for sharing. So, so true

[@amyhaney3898]

Your show is the most “real” approach to change I’ve ever seen. Thank you, Dr. Cywes.

[@T.K.111]

Dr. CYWES, this was one of your best videos!! This may sound terrible, I loved my husband 27yrs until the day he died 4yrs ago, but the day he died,for whatever psychiatric reasoning, I immediately became disgusted to the point of nausea regarding anything sweet. It's so bizarre. My point is usually our enablers for our addictions are the ones we love

[@robertcywes2966]

so true

[@agsmom04]

My Mom - she's a food pusher, especially sweets. She claims she's joining me and does most meals, but given the first chance she eats chips, pasta, dessert and wants ME to join HER 🤦🏼‍♀️ so frustrating.

[@joelafrite7850]

AMAZING VIDEO SEGMENT. I absolutely can't stomach the usual psycho - touchy - feely BS, but a real man talking about real struggles and feelings - thank you. 🎈🎈🎈

[@lindafields3262]

Dr. Cywes, I am a PA in the ED that tries to promote healthy eating and living. I recently found out I am prediabetic while on keto diet; now I'm carnivore living. I am thinking, living and feeling great and want this for all my patients, friends and family. However, I am a type A personality so as you can imagine I needed this lecture on how to approach people. I have failed to encourage some of my pts and family members by not meeting them where they are and not realizing change is a process that is different for all. I almost didn't listen to this lecture because it wasn't about the biochemical, nutritional, protein, fat metabolism information that I've learned so much from you. Sooooo glad I did; I needed this aspect of medicine personally and professionally. Thank you - sincerely truly

[@lgude]

I’m not a doctor, but I’ve had the same experience of failure trying to help people I love. I succeeded at keto over the past 4 years and these people were genuinely inspired by my success. I was addicted to nicotine 40 years ago and beat it, but never addicted to carbohydrates- once I saw they were a problem I was able reduce them slowly over the past 25 years and take them below 20 grams without experiencing overwhelming cravings. I get the same distorted rationalisations from loved ones that involve doughnuts, ice cream and the blueberries that of course don’t count. I have stopped intervening directly, but I do continue to talk about my own experience openly with addiction. Particularly with my experience of building new habits. The Japanese Kaizen method of building habits incrementally has helped me stop trying to eat the whole elephant and getting caught in rupture and repair. I am talking about keeping my house tidily, not carb addiction, but the road to recovery started when I picked up that first little scrap of paper off the floor that I habitually saw but ignored. Slowly I came to recognise that EVERY closet, EVERY cupboard was chock a block with things I never used and every horizontal surface was chockablock with the things I actually used. It has taken me a couple of years to break my addiction to stuff enough to really feel that no matter how potentially useful the contents of a storage space chucking it away is the only way to create what I really need - space to put away those relatively few things I actually use. Hope my experience is of some help to you in reducing that sense of failure to get through which we both experience.

[@robertcywes2966]

well said

[@marilynanderson1141]

I too am finding clearing out unused stuff is taking up the valuable space - I could be playing in. Thanks for helping me to see the correlation.

[@Kinderteacherlady]

Wow. I needed this. I keep focusing on the “diet” when the issue is carb addiction. I am a 64 yr old woman who used to weigh over 400 lbs. I have used calorie counting, and then keto to lose 105 lbs. I plateaued for 4 years because carb addiction has kept me from progressing in my weight loss. Yes my diabetes and hypertension is reversed but I eat a bit too much and regularly have struggles with carbs. This talk is helping me refocus, and add some new strategies. Thank you.

[@sclickner]

One of the best people I've listened to. Until you believe you are responsible, YOU can not help yourself. Dr Cywes: You can't fix the entire world. Relax, take a deep breath. I am struggling with 3 friends who can't come visit me because they can't go up stairs to the bedrooms. I miss them. I wish love could fix/help them. I hear the same things from them year after year. It only gets worse and deeper in denial. A wise man once told me that you have to "make friends with the pain". Change is painful. It hurts like hell. It is depressing, but you have to say "oh, here's that pain again. I can't have sugar and I am in actual, physical pain in my body because I want a bagel" and you have to sit with the pain. Feel the pain. Go for a walk, hug your dog, light a candle, take a long bath. Let the pain wash over you. Survive the pain. You CAN survive the pain. Each time you survive and you don't give in, it gets easier. The pain is less and less. The pain will give up. You must not give up on yourself. love & peace

[@junemollura1731]

My flaccid stage was the first 30 days after I decided to give up carbs. I never told anyone. Had my missteps but it was really a personal revelation that I could do this, and I felt so much better! Told friends and family after 30 days, they could see so many differences in me and that it made my next stage much easier. Thank you Dr. C.

[@suzymcclung9545]

Of all the "keto" people out there, and the doctors that are on the internet, finding your videos has so helped me along my jorney and every time I watch one of your videos I am moved along on that journey. I wish I knew how to thank you properly. Please keep at it.

[@robertcywes2966]

definitely

[@ckomtro3]

@@robertcywes2966hello saffie!

[@iainneilson1453]

Thank you, Dr Cywes. Back in 2018, I was admitted to hospital, with a third bout of cellulitis. I asked doctors in A&E, or the cardiology ward - even a Consultant Cardiologist - what I could do to prevent a recurrence. "Jiggle at work", "wear stockings", they told me. I asked about the root cause. "No idea", or "it's genetic", they replied. Seriously? My HbA1c was 42. Nobody mentioned prediabetes or insulin resistance. Nobody said "you're obese and need to make changes to your diet and lifestyle". Not even in the most diplomatic way. I decided to take action and started searching for answers. I read about insulin resistance and carbohydrate addiction, and admitted that I am an addict. The solution was then clear. Since Christmas 2022, I have been fasting intermittently, have cut out all carbs, processed food and seed oils. I have lost over 30 pounds, sleep better, no longer need a CPAP machine, feel more energetic, the brain fog is gone, my gums don't bleed, my eyesight is clearer... there are so many aspects of my health which have improved. I'm looking forward to episode 301, as I'm still struggling with nicotine.

[@Christynmaine]

Your patient IMHO simply is not ready. It takes commitment, steely determination, discipline, and the ability to the work. In my case I had been thinking about losing the weight for years. Earlier this year everything seemed to just click. I knew I was ready. I can serve ice cream to the family and watch them enjoy it without feeling the least deprived. I love how healthy I am now and will never go back to the high carb life again.

[@loisbrown503]

"seemed to just click" That really is a thing for me too. Comes after short or long flaccid period and then seems magical. In my case it was cold turkey on (dark) chocolate bars. The carbs didn't add up so much, but those chocolate bars signaled some part of me that I was NOT in control of my eating.

[@bcakste2000]

Even though she was defensive and angry.....you never know what "truth" she heard, that she will come back to later. I tried for years to get my husband to get on board. It took him getting so tired of being sick and tired, that one day...something "clicked" and he said I'm on board and he's never looked back. It's a seed planted....sometimes you are not there to see it grow.

[@sowen1062]

"They can make changes to me, but they cannot change me"- One of the most important quotes I have ever heard in the diet and health arena. One sentence that says volumes.

[@jax9349]

I discovered keto 4 years ago and it was truly life changing. As obvious as my health improvements are, when people want to know what I've been doing, I tell them, it starts with giving up sugar ... I can't tell you how many times people, who obviously need help and change, tell me that they don't eat sugar! I say then it's the carbohydrates that turn to sugar ..... oh no, they tell me, I hardly eat any of those either! I'm tempted to say "oh well you will be slim and healthy in no time then"! But I don't. It's bloody hard work.

[@user-MELK-d9u]

I had a GOD moment a week ago! YOU showed up on my KZbin page! I haven’t stopped watching your videos since! YOU haven’t stopped AMAZING me ……..I’M 71 years old……. I have been on a search since in my late teens to figure out what the heck is going on with my body. I was a thin person growing up. Then for various reasons, some my fault, I wasn’t. In EVERY one of your videos I’ve watched I say, THAT’S the BEST one I’ve watched……..then with each one you I say, that’s the best one. I figured out years ago that I am a carbohydrate addicted! I’ve tried every diet. I did a 21 day medically supervised water fast in 2019, what a horrible mistake. I’ve known for years that I am an addict………I just didn’t know that becoming a CARNIVORE was the ANSWER……until this past January, 2024. I spent December watching KZbin to learn everything I could about being a carnivore, then in January I committed to a 90 day healing journey, with meat! It was AMAZING at first, until it wasn’t, hormones, hairloss😢, and more. But I kept going, knowing this was the answer, and my metabolic markers are improving, my highest Ha1c a year and a half ago of 8.1 went down to 5.5 and I’ve only been doing this since January. But I know what I need to REALLY DO since I discovered YOU! I cannot express how AMAZING you are! You are what I call a word genius! There is never one out of place! I am an addict! I will not STOP watching your videos and I’ve only just begun! Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart.

[@lindab8868]

Light Bulb moment. I began my journey in 2015 @ 253 lbs. Today, 171 but kind of stuck. Long story, I was so motivated with just weight loss being my only focus. I wrote the "dear john" letter to favorite comfort foods however I never considered this as an addiction, until I found you about 3 weeks ago. This particular Ep:257 hit me between the eyes. I'm 76 in a month maybe an old dog can be taught a new life style. Gosh I'd love to sit with you and talk and figure out just who I am. I'm the mask wearer, and don't even know how to unveil myself. But perhaps admitting my ignorance to myself will permit me to remove the mask. I'll need to re-watch this episode several times to peal back the onion skins. Thank you for being upfront honest.

[@Selwayliz]

The psychological component is crucial, you showed me this more clearly than anyone (and I am a psychologist). You are brilliant, honest and humble sir. My fridge contains only ketivore food yet I still open it to browse, then I realize "here is emotional event". If I'm not hungry then, What am I honestly feeling? My come to Jesus was prediabetes and then breast cancer. It's 7 years now. I've worked hard to change. I am alive and well because you gave me tools. I am deeply grateful that God graced me with finding your generous videos. I pray for you and that you reach as many as possible.

[@davidhowarth8806]

Wow, I'm 55 years old and that is one of the most powerful speeches/monologues I have ever heard

[@barbarasirum]

In the past 1.5 years I’m down 50 lbs. First stopped carbs, then went carnivore-ish, added intermittent fasting. Love ❤️ keeping my mind renewed and strong by listening to videos like yours. I was 200 lbs at 5’1 now working on the last 20-30 lbs. I feel great!! ✝️❤️

[@cw3504]

The struggle is real! I decided, after watching this video, Thanksgiving being the high carb day it is I am going to stick to Turkey and salad and veg with a tiny amount of gravy. The gravy will be my big splurge. Thanks to these videos and good common sense.

[@vangojo4u]

Please do more videos like this. Reality is what makes us see.

[@kimmcnichols9650]

I found Keto just over four years ago , mainly carnivore the last two . You have been such a vital part of my journey.. I have watched all of your videos and you have helped me change and evolve , and understand the addiction side of it better then anyone , hands down ! This was very thought provoking , and I think my consciousness of change has been all the examples you discussed …I am still finding my way… thank you so much for your invaluable teaching .. I have an appointment with you coming in December and I can’t wait ! Again , thank you .. I so admire your calling

[@Liahs333]

Great video Doc! My denial was not looking in the mirror enough because in my mind I was still 140# so the few times I caught my reflection I was shocked. No more! It’s all down to me. Thank you for everything ❤🇨🇦

[@janemiddleton9509]

Been there done that. Now the mirror shows an old lady I don't recognize.

[@dietollezeit]

I'm a dynamic change kind of person. My journey with keto and progressively carnivore started with 21 day fast. I've prepared myself reading and watching Jason Fung, Ken Berry and ofcourse, you. Without that initial preparation and subsequent exposure to more and more information from Ben Bikman, Dom D'agostino and many others it wouldn't be possible to keep up momentum. In 19 months I've lost 17 kgs achieving 10% body fat level. In parallel I've picked up physical activities. Being almost 40 I'm in better physical and mental shape than in my twenties. For the first time in my life excercise is fun and I'm motivated to be active not because I "have to" but because I want to. Nothing of this would have happened without your guidance. Thank you.

[@DrTonyHampton]

Continuous improvement as a person or as a clinician is best done when we pause and huddle with ourselves and ask those reflective questions. What did I do well? What can I do better? Appreciate you walking through this exercise with us.

[@arwenhardy1995]

I come from a complex addiction backgroud; eating disorders, past sexual abuse which led to PTSD, cutting and two serious suicide attempts. In addition, I started drinking and using IV drugs long before I got out of highschool. My turning point was realizing every time I justified "slips" of binging on chips and cookies made no sense. By the grace of God; one day at a time, I'm narcotic free. No slips, no relapses, no excuses. Carb addiction is very insidious since we have to eat to survive/thrive. In the past two months, it finally dawned on me that I'd never be able to look at myself in the mirror if I'd been injecting heroin or meth - even one time. Carbs are the same and would certainly kill me, as well. I adore you, Dr. Cywes. You're truly one-of-a-kind. ❤️

[@RV-there-Yet]

All true, every word of it. Beautifully & honestly stated. I believe you speak for SO many of us, & I thank you for doing so Arwen. ~Sam in AZ

[@arwenhardy1995]

@@RV-there-Yet I appreciate your kind words. If I've helped anyone, in any way; I'm truly grateful. 👍❤️💯🙏

[@judymiller5154]

Once I started regarding sugar/carbs as poison for me (just as peanuts or shrimp or bee-sting allergy for another), abstinence became way easier. I can comfortably resist the pusher at a church potluck by saying - "oh no thanks, looks delicious, but I'm allergic". (I break out in fat 😁)

[@2bbossfree]

This was a beautiful video. I'm a 64 year old woman. I really turned the corner when I started telling myself "nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels" but it's not a single step...at least not for me. I did feel better, but I didn't really believe it. Not yet. Then eventually, I ate bad-for-me stuff and felt like shit. I'd like to say that I stuck with my good clean keto diet, but I fell of the wagon, again and again even though after I ate carbs, I'd have trouble climbing the stairs. My knees hurt. I had to use a nutcracker to open a water bottle. I still bought the keto ice cream and really tried to avoid looking at the carb addiction. I was eating keto, but couldn't kick the sweeteners. Atkins bars are the devil, but they actually helped me to stay on keto even while feeding the addiction. I went from size 18 (not sure of my weight--over 200) to size 10. 165 lbs. 5' 1" but then I stalled. I looked at what I had done so far. I really started to believe I could be well. I was taking less pain meds. Reduced BP meds, didn't go on statins or metformin like my doc wanted me to and mostly, I felt better. I knew it was the diet, but I was stalled. I needed help. I didn't want to go back to where I was, but my doc yelled at me about my high LDL. I think my turning point was when I ate a "big mac bowl" on the way home from the doctor. I thought what did it matter? Eat comfort food, but I didn't want to eat the bun even then. (certain breads--not all-- give me stomach cramps-- so I was scared to eat the bread) Sure the bowl was totally keto--but I vomited my guts out. My only processed food for months had been the daily quest or Atkins bar or homemade sweets with swerve. It took vomiting to make me finally realize what my body was trying to tell me. I decided I needed to listen to my body along with you good docs on the internet. But it took a long time to actually see me where I was and then I could see where I wanted to be. I'm still struggling with a sugar/sweetener addiction. I really want "dessert" after dinner and break down all too often, but I think the sweeteners have stalled me. I'm not a size 8 but I'd like to lose another 15-20 pounds. I still have belly fat. I'm not hungry on keto. I know it is totally comfort eating. It's the taste of the sweets. I'm thinking maybe carnivore, or at least higher protein. Both of my parents died in 2022 and I'm an only child. Lack of sleep is probably a factor. My kids don't live nearby, so my internet friends are important. You are my support. Never doubt how much your videos--and for those who make comments--your comments--help people like me who are basically doing this alone. You are our support.

[@dixsigns1717]

Dr. Cywes, I weighed 351 lbs and had no idea that it was what I was putting in my face. Looking at me was probably the hardest thing I have ever done or will ever have to do.

[@patdenman3887]

I am 87 years old. I have done Atkins in the past successfully several times but always went back to carbs because ? Doesn't matter why. Getting off gradually worked for a while but now I am stuck with chocolate, ice cream and potato chips. One leads to the other. See no progress unless I go cold turkey off of all! Thanks for encouragement.

[@robertcywes2966]

treat the behavior

[@tomdixon1213]

Try beef, butter, bacon and eggs for 90 days. While you are at it read “Lies My Doctor Told Me”’ by Ken Berry, M.D.

[@TheMaggie1954]

No one spoon fed me to my 236lbs. I tried many fad diets. I understand keto and carnivore after much research. Dr. You are an inspiration and great support I have eventually owned my body and am ready for change. My new life begins. Liw carb Margaret and get moving Thank you doctor 🙏🙏🙏

[@maureenvenables9766]

She’ll be back. Just not ready to hear the truth. What worked for me? It telling myself I could eat as much as I wanted…of the right food. That was way before I knew I was a carb addict. But it my first steps to this huge journey I’ve been on for the last 4 years. 90 lbs down but struggling every day with the addiction. Baby steps then Burn it all down. Thanks Doc.

[@jrowlove7328]

You are such a caring person. I am that person that needs help but cannot find the answer.

[@judymiller5154]

I hear you and feel compassion for you. I'm confident you are on your way to healing, health, and freedom from addiction. May God bless you with a clear path forward ❤️🙏😋

[@valeriobailey]

"Change is going to happen in your life. Do you want to be the driver of that change or the passenger." That's PROFOUND!! My Answer: The Driver

[@elizabethmedendorp5157]

Makes sense I have smoked for years I am 64 years old and have chest pain and finally told my surgeon

[@linda-ks9pf]

You are my pathway! My change is standing alone, doing it myself as i learn what works and what doesn't. I quit smooking 2008, i quit all alcohol 2223 and started a Keto diet in Nov 2223 against GP advice and a Dieticians advice. My partner even thinks i am crazy listening to you on KZbin. But i lost 89lbs stopped all my pain relief, thrown away Lansaprosal and Simvastatin. I have type 2 diabetes and hypertention. Now taking less medication for both. My GP still not supportive and has me in for blood work every 3 to 4 weeks. My partner still thinks i am wrong to do this lifestyle change. But the more you tell me i can not do this the more determined i become.

[@weekender101]

Doing your very best in helping this woman is all you could have done for her . Your practice offers her the tools to get on the right track, she has to be willing to believe and trust .

[@healthyhobbylife]

🙌 Love this, this has been my life the past two years. Helped my Hubby and myself lose 170 pounds combined the last 2020-2021 and myself, i am off three medications and a fourth reduced. This is exactly where i have been and what i needed to hear again. Thank you for all you do!

[@peggywells8581]

Many are victims of sexual abuse and the fat reflects emotional barriers put up for self protection. Until that injury is addressed and dealt with, nothing you say will get them to lay down their protective layers emotionally or physically.

[@lr1732]

You are a BEAUTIFUL human being. No other comment needed. 💜

[@pointshealthcoaching8474]

We all fail every day & we succeed as well... I use the 'stages of change ' to assist clients to be more introspective- some get it and some Don't.. & some aren't ready - yet. Pray that they will be ready soon

[@Elusive.magick]

Some of us, with divergent spiritual beliefs, call this shadow work. It’s a beautiful method of lovingly checking yourself for all destructive behaviors. Obesity has got to be one of the toughest.

[@LaCantressa]

I used to do volunteer work with a hospice. One thing I learned is that not everyone truly wants to feel better. For whatever reason, some people need their pain. As difficult as it is to do, I think you have to respect where people are on their journey. My friends know that I am here for them, but sometimes, all they want is love and acceptance, not suggestions, no matter how helpful they might be.

[@ORCHIDLOVER2156]

For me it wasn’t important to know why I was fat. I know why I was fat. I ate too much of the things that kept me hungry. I wanted to know how to get rid of it. A little struggle but thanks to you I’m on track now totally.

[@maytem2137]

I'm maintaining a natural 150 pound weight loss. I lost it using IF, exercise and ketovore but what I have had to learn in order to keep it off is why I use food. Author Geneen Roth helped me tremendously... it's that psychological work that has been key for keeping me on track in combo with the other 3 logistical pieces.

[@barbischaefer]

Which of Roth’s books would you recommend starting with?

[@maytem2137]

@@barbischaefer when food is love is my favorite book and the audio course is even better. I got both through my library and have since bought all her books. Hope it helps you!!

[@petercyr3508]

Started ketogenic diet in 1998 (Atkins). The diet never failed, but I did a few times over the years.

[@annettestephens5337]

I really appreciate the time and trouble you take to put these videos together for free for ordinary people. So many people are disappointed by their visit to their doctor with whatever complaint and have no idea that so many things are symptomatic of what they eat. The balanced diet and value of the gut microbiome is often talked about, but this includes loads of ‘healthy whole grain’s and sugars. People are so confused and do not realise they are addicted to carbs.

[@starnejme6902]

Your book has already been "spoken" by you. Maybe hire someone to curate all of your talks? You are inspirational.

[@jimrutherford2773]

I know a lot of very overweight people, including coworkers and immediate family members, and they all have two things in common. They constantly eat junk and high carb, high sugar foods all day, and they don't like to exercise. Not even a walk.

[@elizabethroos81]

I appreciate your no nonsense style. I am my own worst enemy and saboteurl!

[@Pfanta76]

Doc, this is your best KZbin post I've seen so far. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, you can't make it drink. I asked myself three years ago: what is my current condition and am I okay with it? What state do I want to be in and why have I not always been in that state? What does it take to get there? That was my revelation. Thank you for your commitment.

[@JAnn319]

I have been sharing this video with everyone who comes to mind!! ❤

[@sarahlatello9701]

Ok so I am one that can easily gain 10-15 pounds in a weekend if I drink wine and aren’t in movement, but I also have lipedema. The fact is though that even though my body doesn’t process normally I have to take responsibility in knowing what causes my body to do that and stay away from it. My change came when a Dr looked at me as I was in severe pain asking me what I ate that day. I then went home to research food and pain and found keto and never looked back.

[@alexr6114]

A friend who was overweight her entire life told me that if anyone brought up her weight it had the effect of making her eat even more the first chance that she got. Unlike the woman who claimed that she was suffering from water weight, my friend said that she always knew why she was overweight. She just could not stop herself from eating.

[@gaypreator8547]

She knew she was over weight, but could not say the quiet part out loud, she is an addict in denial by justifying with, I know I know. Makes me wonder if she is so strong when she is alone with herself.

[@roadiemort3589]

I keep a daily food diary as the struggle is real, so real that you justify not marking down something you know you really shouldn't be eating.

[@judymiller5154]

yes, even tho nobody else will ever see the food diary! what is the distorted thinking? justification? pure denial? As if not writing it down means it will not affect me, even tho I actually did ingest it? yep, I'm still a carb addict in spite of keto/carnivore for years. I am just now learning about effort-based relief of emotional tension and asking myself "what else might I enjoy now, other than food?".

[@wesroberts1983]

I absolutely needed this today. Have “slipped” by eating some “keto friendly” food and it completely messes up my daily health routine. It is 100% emotional.

[@subi1677]

How I wish the doctors that have encountered gave as much thought about my treatment as you have about this lady that you think you have failed.

[@theevolveddietitian]

Right on Doc. This is the most influential video you could do. No matter what behavior change we request or offer, without knowing how to deal with where the patient is at, we're just about useless. Don't worry. You may have planted a seed that may take time to sow in that "amored" patient. Meanwhile, keep it up. You help so many. We appreciate you.

[@robertcywes2966]

thanks

[@matthewshannongreen1900]

Her beliefs and decisions aren’t your failure. I can’t believe she was as desperate for change as you believe if you couldn’t even get her to try keto which is super good at getting rid of some water weight, but yeah not 200 pounds worth. At any rate if she would have given you a real chance and saw some quick progress on keto like most people do, it would have started opening up her mind to further conversations and you could have started cracking that wall but it sounds as if you were defeated this time before you started. But I can’t agree with you that her failure is yours bc that’s just another excuse for her. If you were a mainstream doc, I would 100% agree with you but I’ve watched enough of your videos to know better than that. I am impressed with your wanting to grow and learn from every experience but this is just that for you..a learning experience, not a failure.

[@mikatmeg]

This is NOT your failure. You can’t help someone who is not honest with herself. You are wonderful! She will see eventually. She has to come to terms on her own. ❤

[@lynatedalton1456]

Love watching all your videos. Thank you for all you do as a healer & a Doctor. You help millions of people.

[@Julie1988HI]

People are so easily deceived. Thank you Dr. C for providing the truth. ☺️ My first step of my contemplative phase was not to call it exercise or walking... but rather 'I had to get off the couch". Whatever I was doing that was off the couch was success. From there it became easier to set goals.

[@cathyzabel7924]

This just tells how much you care about really wanting to help people. Examining it might help you succeed the next time. Worth looking at!

[@scottlopez9366]

Dr Cywes, you are amazing! You touch me so well on my successful 4yr KETO journey & carb (icecream/gummi) addiction. You also help me to guide my daughter in life prison for a crime she did not commit. I am working with her as well as I can on KETO education within a sea of carbs in the prison system. She has her own challenges with herself personally but luckily not substance abuse. Thanks for your continued content.

[@robertcywes2966]

be strong for her

[@vangojo4u]

Cutting Edge medicine here ❤️

[@sueferrell1932]

I am so thankful that I found you. You are so caring. I would like very much connect with you to have you at least check my blood and my numbers. Right now I am in the driver's seat and doing well. Finally starting to see the scale move a little. I think I am doing good but I know there is always room for improvement. 76 yrs old female 211 lbs currently.

[@kathleenberch]

Dr. Cywes hello! I'm a huge fan of yours. Your honest, factual description of carb addiction is what finally woke me up. I started with keto and transferred to carnivore-keto with astounding results in both greatly improved health and huge weight loss. Once I faced my own personal demons of my love for carbs and sugar, admitting to myself that "Yes. You are an addict." , only then did everything click in my brain. I could then face the REAL problem which was myself and battle to control my cravings, KNOWING that those very carbs that I was stuffing in my face, because they taste so good, were the reason for my sickness and fatness. Carnivore has helped me the most. I eat only twice a day and rarely am hungry in-between. Plus, after hearing so many of your talks, you also helped me when I may slip up by eating some dessert at a celebration for example or eat more than usual. I now know how to bounce back immediately and any weight I gain I'm able to lose very quickly. Thank you doctor! You are a gem! Keep up the excellent work😊

[@sbclose561]

Great, great video. Thank you Dr. Cywes. This is where most gurus gloss over this kind of info or turn it into a 4 week, expensive group program. And that works for many! I'm beyond that. I'm an honest-to-goodness carb/food addict. And because of you, I know that and am working with this information. You dive deeper into the whole psychological aspect which is where I believe most people have huge issues without even knowing. That's why they have the "can't stick to this diet" or "it didn't work for me" attitude. It's when you have that aha moment that things start to change. I've been on a roller coaster with this for sure but I'm glad my eyes are open. Thanks to you. So blessed you're my Doc and you're in our lives. 🤗💜

[@gayle4718]

Loved this video….it resonates so much. One year into keto with IF, and down 82 pounds. Thank you for these videos…

[@amyk6028]

Thank you for this awesome video. So hard to find an empathetic person, much less a Doctor who really CARES. You are definitely the exception not the rule, unfortunately!

[@glennkoenig6078]

Dr., with every video I watch from you, I am breathing in new air. This one in particular, resonates very close to my moment of change. I am 57yrs old, and was 365lbs with bG levels around 300, on BP meds, metformin, and Crestor prescribed from my GP. My moment came when my flaccid safety was broken down by my wife fighting with me to a point where I stopped being defensive and making the effects of my obesity and T2 only about me. I looked at myself finally as an engineer to see what was broken. It was as simple as knowing that my sugar was high and I needed to get rid of it! This led me to the low carb / keto diet. This started in early March and I currently lost 45lbs. Bg is down to around 130 in the AM and lower at other times. I started Ozempic 2mg but stopped because it felt unnatural to never feel hungry, plus the extreme constipation. I also stopped the Crestor on my own. I went to a new endocrinologist twice, but still haven't been given a clear answer/plan on how to balance out my meds and diet for maximum results, and specifically, how/when/if to get off the meds.

[@cherylnelson3815]

Well, it’s been over three years and everything you’ve said here was true on the first day I saw you and I keep going over and over it for the last three years and I still haven’t gotten it totally all yet, but this video has helped me. My stubborn brain just won’t let go of my thought about carbs, I’m doing much better though and I’m on track and that’s the best I can do for now. No I’ll never give up no matter how long it takes. I won’t give up.❤

[@erinlou8403]

You have inspired me to make more changes! I am down 45 pounds, but I get stuck with constant social events around food. They are at least once or twice a week😬

[@annettelindsay6955]

Regarding addiction…. Do addictions evolve with your diet? Began with SAD, moved to keto, now most carnivore. But I rarely feel full or satiated after eating. Can’t get enough no matter what’s in the fridge.

[@robertcywes2966]

fat...don't be afraid of fat

[@keylanoslokj1806]

@@robertcywes2966 are you the real doctor or a fake profile

[@TheEquinox99]

@@keylanoslokj1806 the answers with the logo of a red circle with a lower-case “r” are the doctor. The answers with the logo with the doctor’s portrait in it are fake. I don’t know how that happens or does not get removed.

[@g-forcefundamentals2912]

I struggled for years trying to commit to a keto / carnivore lifestyle and this was one of the books I read... It was great for understanding the process of change, but to break free from the mental trap of addiction I read and implemented "Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Emotional Eating". Has anyone else read and used this method? How about you Dr. Cywes?

[@MrBDezno]

Many, many people have poor reasoning skills. If a person listens to the "guidelines" he/she may believe they're eating very well. I thought I was. Cooked potatoes, fresh corn, sugar - not high fructose corn syrup, low fat meat cuts, "healthy" fats etc. The shame thing? Needs to be unlearned by information. I no longer see anyone as "a big fat slob". Now I see metabolically ill people without a clue. I was completely clueless until I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. It was the best thing ever! My doctor gave me terrible - clueless - advise. Then I had to do a deep dive into understanding why I was metabolically ill. This happened about a year ago. Now I don't have the markers for diabetes, better blood work results and about 45 pound weight loss.

[@RV-there-Yet]

Really strong statement in there Buck~ "The shame thing"..."needs to be unlearned via information". Could not agree more, mostly because it truly is the only way. Once we decide to search a matter out, the information we take in can only serve our best interests. Over time, a whole lot of gray area becomes crystal clear, along with previously conceived notions of ourselves- shame being such a brick wall made up of nothing but lies.

[@taradodson8097]

You are one in a million doctors that care so much to have a sincere connection with a patient. God bless u!!

[@davidsanderson7948]

Keto didn’t fail me. My “just a few carbs won’t hurt me” addiction failed me. Carnivore healed me.

[@Lgarell60]

You are the Most Convivial Person Out there that is Helping Others Whom Struggle with Their Health 👍🏻🥰 Thank You Doc Cywes

[@JAdams-jx5ek]

Well said. My times of most struggle have always been when others thought I was doing well. Being vulnerable has not yet worked out for me.

[@johnmartinsen963]

I love sharing your videos, because I believe your presentation appeals to a broad audience. I can't wait until you kick the coffee/caffeine addiction (or at least take a break once in a while). You helped me break many addictions...even the ones you approve of as a bridge. I switched to decaf exclusively last winter and stopped all coffee/tea (only drink water and broth) three weeks ago. I don't miss it at all and my energy has never been better. Thank you 🙏

[@robbiesewell9477]

I gave up coffee too. It's plant-based...not indicated for a carnivore WOE. I just drink water now. I do make a cup of hot water w/ butter, salt, heavy whipping creme (all frothed together) if I need something cozy and warm. Also, my BP has lowered w/o coffee. Coincidence?

[@jeanmartinis7241]

The only thing I could think that you might have tried was to say something like, well the best thing to try for water weight is a keto diet and if we get you securely into that we can have clarity to see if there's anything else going on. She just can't hear more so get her to take one step and see what happens.

[@robertcywes2966]

good suggestion

[@ninawildr4207]

We (in the mental health field)use motivational interviewing ...sometimes that helps...sometimes not...its a process...

[@RV-there-Yet]

Yes~ motivational interviewing, along w/a mediator's balance & frankness truly can be helpful. Almost always worth the effort, imho.

[@JAnn319]

BEST VIDEO EVER!!!! perfect for every aspect of our lives!

[@carylfrench4067]

I know my issue is my self loathing - and yet I can’t seem to win against myself. I lost 60 lbs on keto and it drifted away and I’ve gained it all back.

[@marilynanderson1141]

I have struggled with my weight for years, then an accident in 1983 resulted in chronic pain - the struggle increased I refused all drugs (singel parent). 2006 depressed I weighed in at 480. I overcame pain in 2020 w/o drugs except for sugar - which preserved my happiness - I have gone on keto since 2019 I got down to 380 - and finally, I am on a carnivore plan going strict - I no longer look at the scale. My pant size has gone down another size - I feel amazing and most important I know how to encourage myself - I am working my way out of the wheelchair I have used for 15 years. Life is good. Your story has helped me and I just wanted to thank you so much for teaching me about sugar and your journey.

[@henriettaviljoen5757]

Carnivore 2 months...strugling with cravings and myself (kry myself jammer..moet koeksisters bak en niks eet nie) Don't want to go places like church, friends..functions always lekkernye. I am strugling. Went into Carnivore eating cold turkey. But yes the battle is on mostly myself! Small town in Karoo and extreme weather is playing havoc with my emotions...also budget wise. Luckly Springbok and Vlakvarke is cheap meat. Cheaper than frozen broccoli. Greetings from South Africa

[@robertcywes2966]

begin stadig. om net vleis te eet mag as straf voel. beter om met n wyer verskydenheid te begin dan stadig minder groente eet. moet n keuse wees.

[@66gtb]

Good luck. A common early keto/carnivore mistake is not eating enough fat (and salt). That might help with the cravings.

[@jerzy2pi]

So i did quit smoking once forever when i separated physical from emotional addiction by using nicotine sticks on my skin and when i travelled and was in non smoking environment. Then after one month I also stopped nicotine in my blood. It was really much more easier

[@chronicallymeg5115]

I have quit so many things, cigs, wine, Xanax, pain meds, but food eludes me still. Started keto, lost 25 lbs then stalled for months. Then added fasting and I felt so deprived, I started eating carbs on occasion. Now I act like I’m going to the electric chair before I get back on keto, trying to eat all the things the days before. I’m not sure how to change for good. I actually have lymphedema, I was born with it, and depending on what I eat I can swell up 10 lbs overnight. I want to eat better for life and stop having these “ breaks.”

[@jobrown8146]

The other things you can stay from completely, but we still have to eat. But one thing that I noticed when I started eating low carb, and it wasn't a deliberate thing, it just happened. When I went to the shops and saw different food I looked at it as what it was; ie seeing fruit, biscuits, rice, flour I would just think carbs. I wasn't thinking oh I miss that. It was a real switch in my thinking. But no, I don't have it all worked out yet.

[@robertcywes2966]

work on selfcare first. watch my selfspeak video

[@rg1360]

Increasing consciousness and shining the spotlight on ourselves to see how truly disgusting we've been is a journey through hell. Maybe it's also the way to true liberation? I'm contemplating this now and it's grim but what you expose to the light then becomes the light. How I've behaved towards others was wrong, I can see how weak and pathetic I've been using various comforts, I've created my own problems, I've been disgustingly selfish. My ego really doesn't like looking at all this and prefers to play victim. I'm just gonna allow this honest self reflection to humble me and hopefully change for the better. I didn't previously have the level of awareness to act any different, knowing this maybe I can forgive myself. My level of awareness (consciousness / god) is now of primary importance. Everything else flows from that

[@joysaunders7680]

Wow this video hit home! I gave up cigarettes 30+ years ago when I wanted to start my family, that was hard, but I had my reason and never smoked again. I gave up alcohol 1.1.2021 as I was drinking to cope with external pressures. Now I need to permanently kick my carbs as I am a type 2 diabetic and HATE what the medication does to my body. So, if past experience is an indicator….I CAN DO THIS. ITS MY CHOICE HOW TO TAKE MY CONTROL. Thank you DR CYWES

[@joannazaras8144]

I think your videos can be very helpful for people with all kinds of addictions, not just carbs.

[@amyhall2398]

I love your therapy combined with medicine approach!!! You are my favorite person!! #cywester

[@edwardkennedy9919]

This man is a real doctor

[@studley]

Absolutely magnificent, heart felt guidance to your fellow human being. GOD bless you and never give up!

[@geriannvargas6965]

Ditto ! Magnificent!

[@daisybuchanan5378]

Thank-you Dr Cywes. I began my keto/IF journey four years ago, wrestled with relapse until I said goodbye to sugar, all sweeteners, and flours of all kinds permanently. Took me awhile to face the fact that I was addicted. I was in denial/bargaining, “moderation” for a long time. Now I’m free. Learning from you has been instrumental.

[@gailtaylor6488]

You are human don't knock yourself around because someone has tunnel vision and a closed mind, you will never get through, go forward and chew the fat with me, I'm on day 20 I'm finding what works for me on Carnovor 🤸💪 feeling fab at 70 💓

[@finagill]

My opinion was that I have always been fat so I will also die fat but I won't die weak. Because of people like you that have given proper diet advice, I now am optimistic that I will lose my gut.

[@PetraOfner]

Love that guy - so smart ...

[@jayallum2423]

Great video. I put 2stone on when I hurt my back, not because I hurt my back, but because I wanted to eat, and couldn't move much. Lost it all now, and more besides getting back on keto/carnivore with IF, loosing the weight helped heal my back quicker too,

[@TheJeweledRose]

I would love to have you change the title of this talk because it is an incredibly powerful one. I don't think it has anything to do with failing at keto and more about how to with how we have to actively participate in our own change.