Ep. 393 | Psychological Clutter (with

The Minimalists speak with psychologist Dr. John Delony about psychological clutter, the anatomy of hope, and more. Watch all 2 hours of episode 393 on The Minimalists Private Podcast: / theminimalists
Discussed in this episode:
00:00 Introduction
01:17 What are your views regarding hope?
03:54 What are the two kinds of hope?
05:49 What do you consider the differences between wishing and hoping?
09:07 How do you define “faith”?
32:36 Isn’t compromise an integral part of a romantic relationship?
35:24 What are the three C’s of compromise?
44:13 Listener comments and minimalism tips.
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What causes the most psychological clutter in your life?

[@elaineclaire7063]

Family politics and toxic relationships.

[@madisonromero3529]

My biggest psychological clutter is "having too many irons in the fire". I need to focus on a few things more intentionally rather than get overwhelmed by many different things. I started telling people, "I can't do that right now, because I am already committed to certain things in my life". I am getting more things finished than ever in my life.

[@catmandoo3735]

My physical and mental health along with all the medications I have to take to keep them manageable to some degree.

[@kattrinaj6575]

The past.

[@midlife_minimalist]

Knowing I don’t want to be where I am right now but not knowing where I want to be instead. All facets - where I live, my job, relationships

[@catmandoo3735]

First of all, as a volunteer at the Hermitage Cat Shelter in Tucson, I'd like to thank Ryan for saving that kitten's life. As far as ""enough" is concerned, I decided long ago that I have enough tangible stuff in my life. Having been diagnosed with prediabetes, I am now using my money to invest in healthier food which can be more expensive than the alternative, and I am investing my extra time in finding creative ways to make that food more appetizing. I do have to admit that last week I purchased a stationery recumbent indoor bike as a way to lose weight and hopefully get out of the prediabetes category. I am finally investing in my health and well-being.

[@briannaphillips4255]

So proud of you!! ❤

[@kraykray4118]

"If it were to spontaneously combust...The voices stop" this bit I really like.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Dr. John’s vulnerability is so admirable as he walks his own journey!! I love this trio so much, and TK is very insightful! Y’all are amazing!

[@Cherylcoder]

Hope is living each day in a way that makes sense, no matter what is going on around you

[@marylee2809]

Thank you Ryan for saving the kitten. Thank goodness you were safe. Your down to earth warm personality is appreciated!

[@elaineclaire7063]

" sometimes hope exists in psychological clutter - psychological clutter exists in the intersection of mental and emotional clutter." theres a silver lining in every cloud, i would like to believe in that ray of hope since emotional clutter creates confusion, and chaos - if theres a lack of clarity.

[@min_oaka2617]

It was Fumio Sasaki’s book that propelled me into Minimalism and led me to discover you guys. But it was really thru the study of Buddhism that I found the concept. The monks are the ultimate minimalists. I don’t think I could or would want to attain that kind of lifestyle but I’m pretty happy with how things are going right now with my minimalist journey.

[@gortongirl]

44:36 Bryce had a great daily acronym. Every day is a SPECIAL opportunity for growth: Spiritually, Physically, Emotionally, Communally, Intellectually, Adaptively, and Lucratively. Thanks Bryce!

[@debbiephillips6809]

I love Ryan’s kitten rescue story so much!! ❤ 🐈

[@kattrinaj6575]

You saved the kitten!❤🎉🥳 Thank you wonderful man.

[@grandmasewhappyhomestead187]

Dr John I so appreciate your realness. Today was the fantastic 4❤ This was an amazing Conversation you shared thank you so much!

[@wendymitchell4511]

Without a strategy, hope is only a wish!

[@cin4195]

The book The Dawn from minimal mom was referring to was goodbye things by fumio Sasaki

[@yolandaingram7378]

TK have you written a book yet? You should write a relationship book on the 3 C’s. That was SO powerful!❤

[@elaineclaire7063]

omg if TK ever writes a book, imma be sure to cart it out. aint nobody got time for book clutter since TK coleman is in it.

[@FoodShowFan]

Loved TK and the Kobe-MJ moment

[@LSChestersMom]

Ryan, thanks so much for saving that sweet kitty :) Great episode.... been meditating on "enough" lately and what it means to me... could relate to what Josh shared about knowing his "enough" in all areas.... big fan of hope myself... been in recovery a long time and have seen many lives transformed and even saved by hope. Step 2 :)

[@KatherineKuehn-Bao]

Great Show. I love the convo about "enough" that's been a big one.

[@anamd2023]

Fantastic four for sure!!!

[@shannonengelken4629]

To me hope is the combination of desire for something and the expectation of receiving it. I try to balance gratefulness with expectation and declutter the useless expectations. 😊

[@RDOwens]

Regarding hope, while hope may not seem like it plays an active role in certain activities (writing, as was referenced in the discussion), the lack of hope would absolutely impact ones activities. Those without hope are in despair. One who is in despair has that active in his life. I suggest then that hope resides in most of us. Just because we may not pay it attention, it is there and its presence paves the way for us to do what we do. We know this for without it, what we do would be much different.

[@ginagonzalez6547]

Hi, I love this conversation. What stopped me on my tracks is the word ENOUGH. I never though of that word in that context. Wow!!! Brings food for thought. Now I have to look at my life in a different perspective.

[@danielleradomyski6315]

Thank you for saving the kitten 😻♥️🙌🏻👏🏻🌟

[@dawnmireles2912]

May 23, 2023 Thought provoking. Thank you for saving the kitty.

[@ApostolicITTech]

The beginning reminded me of the comparison between a person dreaming vs having a vision

[@desertsky505]

An unrealistic goal is a fantasy. Hope is a possibility or a potential when it is focused on entertainable goal. But it does not live until activated by an action plan. Then it becomes an adventure!

[@GG-kv8vv]

Excellent conversations

[@unhurriedhomemaker8071]

This was such a great episode!!

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

29:20 I hold on to a fire extinguisher “just in case”.

[@Mimicry161]

This is fantastic, thanks!

[@FA1L4LIFE]

One of the best episodes so far guys! 🙏

[@orientalshorthaircats]

this kitten story is so kind

[@kkbrew1854]

It blows my mind that anyone would say you find hope in yourself. That’s so sad.

[@emmabe]

Yey Ryan! Good job on saving the kitten. I wish this was abvious for everyone to do the same thing.

[@kevinspliid8509]

The ending was beautiful

[@TruthQuest4700]

Compatibility is what healthy relationships are based on when those involved benefit in some way, one could say that compatibility is a win-win, whereas compromise can lead to sacrifice and resentment if too much is given up of one's self to a zero-sum game of winner/loser. In other situations, healthy "compromise" would be better replaced with accommodating.

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

28:26 Yes. Yes I would. I would replace all my books. I have read most of them, and I will read all of them.

[@kraykray4118]

Well done Ryan saving that cat 👏🐾. Me and my sons save snails haha just moving off footpaths and on to the grass so they don't get trampled 🐌

[@jcszot]

“Fear is a dead end. Faith has a future.” Joyce Meyers

[@sydneygray1331]

Delony it’s the silent to do list.

[@CraftsBayou]

@colourfulnoir can you share where you got your bag insert for your other purses?

[@mosheedy9862]

Oh gad..that first caller wants her own show.

[@MITZZB]

This ❤❤❤

[@sheila_rabant]

Awe great cat story Ryan! Better than Delony's story about shocking dogs in cages. Ask him about it; then ask him to never talk about it again on his podcasts.

[@annoravetz5908]

1 Corinthians 13:13 And now these three remain Faith, Hope, and Love. But the greatest of these is love. Keep your eyes on the prize 🏆, and this is love, God is love. The others, Hope and Faith, will fall into place. I'm sorry, but initial the diatribe lost me. Psychological clutter. Let's simplify our questions, for one thing. Ok, I think she's talking about gambling without actually saying it. I am going to have to rewind and listen again. This addiction causes all kinds of psychological reactions. It's a psychological roller coaster, anxiety (about not being able to pay your bills), jealousy (at people who win while you're losing), regret (at having wasted so much money), thrill of victory (when you win), agony of defeat (when you lose). Also, the people who enable this causes psychological clutter. Associating with people who like to play games with your mind and manipulate you. They drag you down with their criticisms. They are evil because they don't have your best interest in mind, they just want to be mean, selfish, and self-centered. They feel a need to hurt. These people can be in your own family, Or people you think are your best friends. The thing is, you win by not trying to "win" in gambling. Flee from evil. They do not spark joy, so thank them for what they taught you, and get rid of them, so they can bother someone else, and show the next person about the kind of person they don't want to be around. Don't keep their photos and hang them on the wall, don't keep their gifts, their emails, their texts, their contacts, etc., and give away the "giveaways".

[@seniorito5309]

the first question is a fckin novel. wtf lol

[@lukelacasse6412]

I am sorry but that call in question - sounds like it came from AI??????

[@jasonsanchez128]

Lost me once Jess started talking. No thanks

[@upnorth316]

Joshua, it hit differently today, your comment about what is "enough.". How freeing it is, when you cease moralizing what "should" be enough! Yes! Enough for me is what I state is indeed enough! No need to compare my "enough-ness" to that of someone else. 🩵