Episode 49: Emotions Are Stored In The Body

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

Journaling and sharing with ppl who truly care and understand has been cathartic most of the time.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

So glad this has been the case for you, Vaishali. Thank you for sharing what's help you on your journey, as it will undoubtedly support so many others in their journey as well. So much love to you.

[@janakay7641]

Yin is the answer!

[@jonf9204]

Had a wonderful moment last week where someone chose to make a nasty comment to me unprovoked, For the first time that I can remember I was able to in the moment have the mindfulness to choose my response. I gained the awareness of how to process and react in that moment in a more positive way than I have been used to doing. Very proud of myself even though I had to battle the emotion of wanting to lash out in the "you hurt me so I must now hurt you mentality" Now I know I can take it even further to have a cold shower after or a pillow screaming session to release emotions. Thank you for the timely relatable episode "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom" - Viktor Frankl

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Amazing, Jon!! I like to call that "being your own proof". You now have that experience as a reference point/marker seeing your own work in action on your journey. Thank you so much for sharing here with us all and allowing us to learn from and relate to you. And thank you for sharing the beautiful words of Viktor Frankl.

[@devikabellamy]

This was SO timely! Dr. Nicole has no idea how much she's helping my entire family!

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

We're so grateful to hear that! We admire the work you're doing for yourself and your family. Sending you lots of love Devika.

[@Tarabethia]

Wow, this is exactly where I am now. I'm finally allowing myself to feel emotions and feelings that I used to block or dissociate from. Thank you for opening and sharing, Jenna, about self harm. I was part of that during my early teens and realized it was a way to cry out for help. I'm great at writing but still working on vocalizing. I always felt shame and hid that part of my life, though the feelings are coming again as a way to fully feel those emotions and heal. I was raised in a chaotic household, so I have to remind myself of being safe now. Both of you are doing wonderful work in helping yourselves and the collective. Thank you all so much for what you share. I learn so much from you. 🙏🙏❤❤❤

[@katepaisley7546]

I didnt start slowing down until I was 33. I’m 38 now and the process keeps getting easier but the amount of emotion trapped in my body is immense! I grew up in a pretty chaotic situation and coped by pretending I was ok all the time. I’m finally in a phase of life and therapy that I don’t have to do this because of nervous system healing I’ve do e- but I’m now overwhelmed with what is coming up. Dark night of the soul for sure. Can you talk about shame coming up as we heal and let emotions come up and release. I’m noticing a lot of shame and regret coming up- and just grief for all those years I pretended and stuffed and people pleased, then exploded. Tysm to you both 😘

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you so much for your connecting and sharing here, Kate. It's a gift to us and so many. Celebrating you and the work you are doing for yourself and Little Kate who always needed to pretend that "it's all ok." Here are a few episodes I think you'll find helpful regarding the shame, regret and grief that surfaces for all those years pretending, stuffing, people pleasing and exploding. Sending you so much love and gratitude for your being here on the journey, Kate

[@jenncrane7258]

This made me cry. For two years I’ve been feeling my emotions, labeling, and finding what works to release them. I think I’m crying because the anxiety I still feel is there especially in the morning. I feel it but I haven’t found a great way to release yet and I feel like that part of my emotional journey will never heal. So I’m crying as a release because I just feel so sad sometimes after the work I’ve put in.

[@cynthialester8348]

This podcast is wonderful. Most of us aren't taught how to heal. Or that we might have a lot of emotion and pain that we have been holding on to for years. It is hard work to do this, but so worth it. I have been doing this work for years now and probably always will. But I am a much healthier and balanced person than I was earlier in my life. I just wish I did this before I raised my kids.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you so much for watching and sharing here, Cynthia. It's inspiring to hear the journey you've been on for years in the face of the challenge, the pain, and re-raising yourself while also raising your own children. What a beautiful gift and example you are giving them through your actions. Sending you so much love.

[@kristinedetorres1323]

I cried listening to this...

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you so much for sharing, Kristine. Feeling is healing. Inspired by your willingness and bravery to allow yourself to feel and to share here with us all. So much love to you.

[@amyrebeccaperez5240]

Thank you Nicole and Jenna for all you do to support the healing community 💗🦋💗

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

You are welcome, Amy. Thank you so much for watching and being along on the journey.

[@Stars_intheskys]

I have been running at the park or if i do not run I will walk really really fast. etc This is how I am really trying to help myself. I make sure I am also breathing from my belly not my chest.

[@tracybrooks9619]

Wow. Thank you for this. I just finished Deb Dana's book Anchored today and this has really hit home. Knowing that there are very real biological responses that we shift into in response to emotions and thoughts has been a real awakening. This is a great episode. Thank you for all of the amazing work you are gifting people.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Amen. Thank you so much for watching and sharing here. We're grateful to be on the journey with you, Tracy!

[@lmariecarroll]

I took so many notes. I’m going through a very vulnerable & raw season.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Celebrating you for choosing to be here during a season of rawness and vulnerability. You're certainly not alone here and we're so grateful for your presence, Marie!

[@marianapretti2866]

Thank you for making these videos. I learn a lot from you both and I’m very grateful for that ✨💜

[@ann-charlottej2922]

Wow, thank you for this! So in time, I sat with a lot of pent up anger today and to hear your podcast guided me in the best way, I released it 💕🙏

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Wonderful! What a beautiful gift to give to yourself. Thank you so much for listening and sharing with us.

[@Naturalicia]

Hi Jenna, hi Dr Nicole. Is it normal for emotions to stay in the body going on a week now? I go through cycles of anger and sadness even thoughts of wishing I were dead because it would be so much easier to give up. I’ve never made plans so I don’t think I’m actually suicidal. As time passes, I build back up again, but it seems like it takes way too long. The process is exhausting. I’ve tried writing my thoughts down and breath work, but my thoughts are angry and the breath work only makes me cry which keeps me feeling sad. I sound really pathetic right now. I’m usually always positive and looking for the silver linings in life, but when I’m down, I’m really down. It seems like I’m holding onto things longer now instead of working through them now that I have the tools and some knowledge about self healing.

[@oostupidxgirloo]

I feel like I can understand this and relate, because what I've noticed about myself is I have to REALLY deeply feel through things in order to work through them. Sometimes it's very dense and I think a lot of it has to do with hormones. My "moon time" (period) is usually my "shadow work" time where I need to address a bunch of things.

[@nicoleholt7245]

Thank you ladies. I appreciate all the work you do and I am growing / learning so much following this podcast :)

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

You are so welcome, Nicole! So glad to hear you are growing and learning alongside this podcast. So proud of you and sending so much love. Thank you for being on the journey with us all!

[@michellejordaan]

What an amazing conversation once again! I just now had a conversation with a friend about how to let go of feelings that we feel are still lingering in our body. And this podcast answered a lot of our unanswered questions. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. Hope u both have an amazing week!

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Divine timing :) Thank you for listening and putting this on your path! Appreciate your sharing and being a part of the conversation here. Sending you lots of love, Chelle!

[@cecilec7512]

Brilliant. So interesting and helpful. Thanks so much. And I love so much the sentence “you need to feel to heal” beautiful.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Yes! You are so welcome. Thank you so much for watching and being a part of the conversation. So much love to you, Cécile!

[@suzycue9278]

Sooo sooo good - awesome show…thanks for sharing - I will say that doing breathing exercises every day has been awesome and works…but tiring at the same time… and when one is soo tired, to add one more thing onto their plate is just too much sometimes and that is scary.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Ah yes, the fear of the unfamiliar and unknown! We completely understand. Each of us will have our own threshold and only we will know when it's time to rest and time to continue. Grateful for your sharing, Suzy!

[@thespiritualartist123]

I loved this conversation. I focus on creative expression through mindful practice and consciousness. I've been working on a new chapter about the emotion/body connection and was inspired by your conversation. Thank you.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you so much for watching and sharing here. You're welcome and we're grateful to have your presence and engagement here. Sending you much love.

[@subooma]

You both are so well spoken. I finally feel like I'm learning how to get where I want to be. I appreciate this so much.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you so much, Sara! So glad to hear you're creating your own traction and showing up to put one foot in front of the other. So grateful for your listening and your willingness to share here! much love to you

[@nadineghows8413]

This is great. I think the processing is important.. we can't release the energy stuck in our body until we process it. Could be somatically processing it or psychologically.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Yes! What we process mentally we must also process physically. Emotions need to move through and be released from our body. Thank you so much for listening and being a part of the conversation here. Sending you lots of love, Nadine!

[@PeterMcLarty]

Great episode, some useful insights and I love the asking questions. I was reading something the other day about asking our brain questions, being the observer and then asking relevant questions, like why this, what now, who is this is relevant to and trigger different responses

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Love this! Embodying curiosity (allowing ourselves to ask ourselves those questions and explore our possible responses) is foundation in any healing. To get to where we are going we must first understand where are starting, and we do so by getting curious. By asking these questions and getting to know ourselves. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing this here, Peter!

[@Marina-vd]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

You are so welcome, Marina. Thank you for watching! :)

[@kathyalpert9857]

Great episode! Thanks.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you! Grateful for your presence here :)

[@jirael]

Amazing episode ! I'm surprised to learn of the importance of movement to shock the system back into a regulated state. Is it possible that "depression"/a frozen state can sabotage that ? I used to think I was depressed, lethargic, lazy, that sports was just not for me and even after years pushing myself out of my comfort zone, I still identify as a unhealthy non-athletic person and will often make up excuses and give up as I feel very unsafe outside. Could it be that this frozen state does not want to shift and wants to protect itself by sending thoughts like "what's the point? or I can work out tomorrow, etc" ? Thank you for sharing your amazing work here ! 🙏❤

[@maryannebouzianis3907]

Awesome, thanks. Would you say the soothing activities on page 240 of how to do the work is how to release emotions and perhaps the enduring activities are the daily commitments to tone the vagus nerve, to get match fit so to speak?

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Yes! Great connection. Thank you for watching and sharing this here, Maryanne

[@krisztinavincze]

12:33 she didnt finish her thought process...

[@marshadavis5050]

I am confused. I get angry very fast and literally blow up. I don't know what u mean by going for a walk but NOT rehash the problem. What do I do in that walk to make it better?

[@kaitlynnwiener9217]

I think it is more of being present in that moment while on the walk vs focusing on what your inner voice/ego is saying. Thinking about how your feet feel when they hit the ground, paying attention to your physical surroundings...is the sun out, are there any clouds in the sky, is there any flowers/grass around, do you notice any birds/butterflies, do you hear anything (dogs, cars, kids, etc), how is your body feeling (are you tense or relaxed, do you have any pains or sensations both positive and negative). When your mind starts to wonder again about the thing that has upset you, trying to bring yourself back to your physical environment. It is definitely easier said than done but hopefully this helps some😊

[@montys888]

It's hard, I understand that. I try letting go of the issue at hand, the angry feelings, by actually taking a step away, breathing, and telling myself to let.it.go. over and over again. Instead of making an issue of it, (and regretting it maybe later) I practice doing this. Just telling myself to let it go and maybe adding reasons why... "it's not worth the energy", "stay in my own lane". Hoping this helps🤞

[@juliamatthews203]

Hey have a question. I get severe muscle tension in neck and shoulders but not all the time, it comes and goes. I thought it was triggers but it may also be long term emotions stored in my body. Any tips for releasing the emotions that have sat in your body for long periods of time? Thank you for talking about this 🥹

[@tnt01]

yoga.