Episode 74: How To Break Through Self-Doubt

[@BookdragonCarina]

Very important conversation. My inner critic and my self-doubt are always very loud. And they do go hand in hand with my fear. Often times I end up criticizing myself for judging myself. And then I criticize myself for criticizing myself 😅 It’s hard to watch my thoughts when all i ever learned was judging others and myself. Some days I can’t stop listening to my self-doubt, but I’m proud of myself for every time that I don’t listen to it (or don’t believe it). But sometimes it’s really hard to see the difference between self-doubt and simply seeing yourself and your abilities (and limitations) clearly. The line gets very blurry sometimes.

[@adamhope8689]

I can totally relate to this. Definitely hits home. The more authentic I live the quieter those voices get. Follow that intuition to toe the line

[@bycarolinakobayashi]

Same! The line between self doubt and realistic awareness of our limitations does get blurry sometimes.

[@justiceforthechildren2229]

You two are amazing and have helped create the awareness I am seeking. Thank you.!

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

You're most welcome. Thank you so much for tuning in and sharing your presence with us here!

[@abicole1192]

Kitties all over the place😁 Becoming clearer on my feelings and moving in keeping with my heart is my greatest flex.🧿 Your work is life changing ladies, thank you for giving us new perspectives. 🌻

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

They love debuting on camera! Celebrating this beautiful flex of yours, Abi Cole :) Thank you for tuning in and sharing with us here.

[@reannabahling3880]

Thank you for this episode, I relate very much with Jenna in self doubt in my intelligence. Not pursuing passions in education for fear of failure is a great regret for me.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you for tuning in and for sharing with us, Reanna. We get it. Is this still a passion for you? Often times our callings will keep calling until we answer.

[@janepierson6617]

I think what you are doing is such a beautiful gift for us! I'm so moved by the love and dedication you bring us to personal growth!! I'm so incredibly grateful!! Thank you!!

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

And we are so incredibly grateful for you, Jane. Thank you for being part of these conversations and on this journey alongside us

[@Lumeloveslife]

thank you for this episode

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

💚🙏 you’re most welcome. Thank you for watching

[@jenniferali2596]

Thanks you for this. ❤

[@portalsandpathways]

I’m interested in exploring the idea that the inner critic/self doubt resides in a place where I’m not even aware of it’s presence. Maybe like the “blind self” pane of the Johari Window? Thank you for these amazing conversations and for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. It’s life changing for some of us 💗

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Often part of our subconscious/conditioned mind-or the "submerged" part of the iceberg. We're diving into this a bit more in the near future with episodes around the conditioned mind and our self beliefs. Stay tuned! Thank you for tuning in here and being part of these conversations, Kristin! So much love to you.

[@stephanierumbarger2272]

Robotic meat suit 😆 had me LMAO! You guys are the best, thank you for everything you guys do ❤

[@sofiastroe9164]

You guys are amazing thank you for everything you do!! -was hoping you could do an episode where you zoom in on that cycle that was mentioned in this one about when self-doubt prevents action, how that strengthens self doubt

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Thank you so much for tuning in, Sofia! And for dropping this request. We go into this a bit on future episodes (stay tuned) and will keep this in mind in further discussions as well.

[@Cata1217]

Thank you for sharing. I think that self-doubt is some thing that I was surrounded by as a child from my parents to my older siblings and kind of automatically passed down to me. I can see that now as an adult and gaining awareness of what it really is. It makes me think of my niece and how I can see self-doubt growing in her now as a teenager; would you guys be open to an episode dedicated to navigating teenagers?

[@Helenaclarecoaching]

Would be great if you could do something about the fear of success… as we often focus on failure but I think we also hold ourselves back from success… thanks! Great videos xx

[@gensways]

yes agreed!!! It would be so interesting!

[@Octaviacliosisley]

Thank you for all your episodes! There is a lot of information that talks about overcoming fear, etc. and it is so helpful What about its effect on the body and how to support the body back to feeling relaxed if you somehow feel physical symptoms of stress? Thank you again.

[@chanfrong9768]

Thank you for sharing this episode, this topic really connects with me. Maybe this has been touched in a previous episode, I’m not sure as it’s the first one I’ve listened to, but one of the elements aside self doubt that stops me from really following my passions is money. Not having enough money to invest in the thing I would like to do, not having the time because I dedicate most of it to my job which pays me the salary I need to survive, doubting that if I do invest money / otherwise paid time to the thing I want to do and it doesn’t work out, that I will be in debt or unable to pay for the basic essentials we need to live. When there is also a practical element blocking the way or causing anxiety, what would your response be to this?

[@ana-mariamaria]

Robotic meat suit, sounds a little harsh. This "suit" is allowing us to feel the touch of our mothers, to feel the touch of love, to be tickled, to be amazed by a song and so on... It deserves to be loved, the same we are loving our soul and mind ☀️🙏.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Absolutely. It's the miraculous vessel in which we get to experience all that this human existence has to offer. Our first home

[@lerocleroc]

Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome an extreme fear of driving. I am 27 and I still don't know how to drive and it is so embarrassing but I feel frozen in fear whenever I try and I get tunnel vision and can't focus on all my surroundings. I've never done more than drive around a parking lot or an empty street or gone faster than 40 km/hr. My issue with this is that my fear of failure is valid. If I mess up I could very seriously injure myself or others and it's not something you can just get up and try again if you die in an accident. Driving is just too much for me to focus on all at once at such a fast pace but not knowing has impacted my relationships and my job opportunities and I don't know what to do.

[@vincentblea4285]

The cats stole the show

[@Merzui-kg8ds]

I'm with you on a lot, but I am weary of the well-worn theme that "the education system" and "teachers" cause (cause is a BIG word with BIG meaning) children to have problematic feelings about their competence or self worth. Conditioning happens to every human being, and it is not limited to the home or the school or the religious building. Conditioning itself isn't even a problem, per se, as it is a necessary tool to survive childhood. It is holding ON to conditioning that is no longer serving that is problematic. This is not a small semantic problem. It is HUGE. If sufferers turn, time and again, to blame their parents and blame their teachers, thinking that is going to free them of their conditioning, those sufferers will continue to suffer.

[@SelfHealersSoundboard]

Absolutely. The entire world around us leaves the imprint of our original conditioning, which we then learn how to navigate as a way of survival. Blame indeed leaves us stuck. Instead, our work is to cultivate objective, depersonalized awareness of the habits, patterns and beliefs we've all learned and experienced. Thank you for tuning in and connecting with us here, Merzui

[@kidxmoon3509]

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