Episode 85

This is a valuable replay of Episode 4- Have Your Own Back. Everything Else Is A Bonus
External validation can feel good in the moment, but when we rely on it for our self-worth, it creates frustration, resentment, and emotional suffering. In this episode, I introduce the concept of a Validation Detox-a process to stop seeking external approval and start building the self-love and empowerment you deserve.
What We Cover:
1.What is Validation and Why Do We Seek It?
-The psychology of validation and how it connects to our need for belonging and esteem.
-Why we often give away the responsibility for our worth to others.
2.How External Validation Shows Up in Your Life:
-Common behaviours like overachieving for praise, difficulty setting boundaries, or constant comparison to others.
-Everyday examples, from posting on social media to seeking compliments for reassurance.
3.The Validation Detox Process:
Step 1: Awareness-identify where you’re seeking external validation in your life.
Step 2: Interrupt-pause the habitual behaviors that seek validation from others.
Step 3: Validate Yourself-practice self-affirmation with thoughts that empower you.
4.The Byproduct of Self-Validation:
-How validating yourself leads to self-love, empowerment, and unshakable confidence.
-Why external validation becomes a bonus instead of a necessity.
Key Takeaways:
-Your worth isn’t determined by others-it’s a decision you make about yourself.
-Interrupting validation-seeking behaviours is hard, but it’s the first step to empowerment.
-Self-validation is the foundation of a life filled with love and less drama.
Actionable Insight:
-Write a list of the ways you seek external validation, then practice pausing those behaviours. Replace the need for approval with the affirmation: “I’ve got my own back, everything else is a bonus.”
A Warm Invitation:
Ready to start your Validation Detox? Download the free Validation Detox Workbook now and take the first step toward self-love and empowerment. Find the link in the bio to get it delivered straight to your inbox.