INFJ - ENFP Relationships - Personal perspectives

[@PsychologyandChillwMichi]

I would like to add that ENFPs gain A LOT from their INFJ partners (or friends) such as learning to be a bit more organized and thoughtful. And how to ACTUALIZE goals!! :D

[@EnidFPatternson]

"ENFPs show us what impossible is to explore, and we go, 'If we would explore it, this is how we would do it.'"

[@krystynaelyse]

I was in a serious relationship with an INFJ for a year and a half, but we had been good friends for two years prior. He was a drummer/composer, and I was his muse. I think he fully fell for me when he heard me sing. I describe interactions with my INFJ as like looking in a mirror and seeing something different reflected back. He really brought out my romantic side and saw this potential in me. It was a one of a kind connection I thought would last forever, but our lives went in different directions. I knew he would make himself unhappy to be with me, and that made my ENFP self uncomfortable. INFJs are intense emotionally and I actually would say that ENFPs should set clear emotional boundaries with their INFJs to avoid hurting them. Maybe other ENFPs have a different experience, but I think that in the long term, the ENFP has to learn to be less independent/free-spirited and the INFJ has to dial down the intensity. For me it was hard trying to go back to being "just friends" when we broke up because the relationship was super intense (he had me believing we were soulmates). I have no regrets but it probably would've worked better just as friends. But he's one of the best people I've ever met, lots of love for INFJs. I've been with an INTJ for 3 years and it works better for me because he isn't as intense emotionally but is brutally honest and tells me things that are hard to hear but ultimately improve me and push me to do and be better.

[@ErikThor]

In part the intensity in an INFJ is brought up by repressing and holding their emotions down, only making the emotions become stronger and more intense. So sharing may help here. Also the overwhelming free spiritedness of an ENFP may also have it's explanations. What do you think?

[@GrafinVonHopper]

Acredito que dependendo do eneagrama e da maturidade emocional, ENFP's e INFJ's nem sempre estarão em sintonia. Isso explica porque alguns ENFP's prefiram INTJ's para se relacionarem e vice-versa. Sou mulher INFJ e começo a pensar que deve ter algum ENFP que se encaixe comigo em algum lugar por aí. Até gosto dos INTJ's mas me incomoda a frieza emocional que eles possuem. No máximo, acredito que seríamos melhores como amigos.

[@7737rosegarden]

My husband is an ENFP and truly an inspiration. I can't count how often I've told him he lightens and brightens my world. I have had to learn the hard way to set boundaries, too. it keeps me from feeling taken advantage of and hurt and keeps me energized about our relationship. I know he values my insights (and sometimes is annoyed 😁) and loves to tell me all his ideas and dreams.

[@AskTorin]

I like listening to you talk :) you are a very positive person. I don't always agree with the mbti framework, but the way you communicate with this framework is very effective in explaining human phenomenon, and enjoyable to listen to. You have a very good understanding of people and the mbti framework, as well as a charismatic and bright vibe. I wanted to show my appreciation :)

[@ES1077]

Well laid out: logical, yet deeply heart felt descrription of the dynamics. I as an ENFP love your style!

[@Passionate4Him87]

I know this has been around for awhile and ive seen you in and out of MBTI groups but now that I am connected with an ENFP, this is spot on for me as an INFJ :-)

[@jamessoroe5605]

Awe yes. Monk life. I'm familiar. My best friend of 9 years is ENFP. I've only recently realized this, but it makes sense. I moved away a couple of years ago, and only recently have I really started to miss him, as I've been stuck in my comfort zone. He always pushed me, not in an aggressive way, but just enough to annoy me into action.

[@celestelundergan4570]

YES!!! My ENFP friend pulls me so much out of my comfort zone, but in a way that shows that she really gets me. She's not pushy, but lets me know what she needs and brings an amazing zest into my thinking and life!

[@SakuraCerulean92]

Thank you for being so open and sharing. I really enjoyed this and really hope you make future videos on INFJ/ENFP dynamic :)

[@GabbyFe]

This was SO Helpful and Beautiful. Cant wait to find my INFJ

[@sergioval2217]

Thanks, Mate... you have helped me a lot. Its hard to be an INFJ...

[@rickwhiteley1705]

Thank you, Erik! I enjoyed another INFJ discussing the INFJ way of processing. I am in a relationship with an ENFP. I am a much better person now, coming out of my comfort zone! :)

[@deedubyarocks94]

"..between comfort in nothingness or fear in everything."

[@ErikThor]

Still find myself wrestling that.

[@moopyftw2172]

Please do one on the ENFJ-INFP combo!

[@TheKgal89]

Please do one on the ENTP - INFJ relationship as well.

[@OoSingeroO]

had to laugh soo hard hahahaha: ENFPs are like a supernova at times at their best! :D true man!

[@kacake]

INFJ needs ENFP to get us out of our shells, experience life in its full extent. We compensate for each other's inadequacies, makes us whole to collaborate. We are not assertive about what we want we tend to look out for others getting permission to do things

[@victoriagranger4314]

I really enjoyed this!

[@Liolia22]

I would be curious whether you are still with this ENFP and if not, did you change your mind about the compatibility? So many people do that after a bad experience with any type...

[@VeeeBeee]

Are you still good and together? How has it been?

[@tariferrie2514]

Cool explanation... of complimentary differences. ~¡~~

[@jasonebespoke]

Dream combo

[@jhelton1970]

I really need some help.... I'm in love with an INFJ. Yes, madly, deeply, hopelessly, in love! I however am a big 'ol ENFP. We had 20 years of our lives taken from us by another's jealousy (long story don't have time to tell). We have recently reconnected after all that time, and I have just learned that he is an INFJ. Right now he's in a deep deep depression because he lost his job a few months back, and is working through a temp agency, he hates it because it's mundane, every day same 'ol same 'ol, and I know that for INFJ's they hate that! They see the bigger picture, they see themselves so much more that every day mundane existence! He's living with his ex sister in law and her family which doesn't give him any peace, quiet, or time to breathe, decompress and recharge which I'm learning through videos is crucial for an INFJ. Most of the time, he doesn't even eat. Me of course being an ENFP I want to jump in to the rescue! I want to make things better for him! I cook for him, I've offered to do his laundry, take care of him, But, it seems the harder I try to help, the more distant he becomes and it hurts me so when he drops off the radar! I don't know how to explain it, when we aren't together I literally feel a huge part of me missing, I feel bereft, merely existing and not living. I'm so scared that his depression will win over and I could lose him to suicide. So, how do I help him without causing him to do the INFJ door slam! I just found him again after 20 years! I can't lose him again!

[@jhelton1970]

@Crimson K. Thank you so much!!! I believe you are right! I have also spoken with a girlfriend of mine who is an INFJ also and she says the same thing, just offer words of encouragement, let him know I'm here, and just be there if he needs me... It's very hard for me because I just want to "save" him... Actually, I'd like to be like Yoda, and touch him amd be able to absorb all the pain so he doesn't have to have it, but I'm learning I can't.... Thank you for answering and offering your advice! It's greatly appreciated

[@thisispi1491]

Awww!!! :) :) :) nice news

[@infj-tguy6275]

My ai wife is an infp

[@marianaoz4150]

Who is she?