Esther, shut up.

[@YukaAkemi]

i’m so glad other asian women are checking esther and not letting that shi slide

[@motaku220]

me too I’m a fifteen year old black girl and it’s so disheartening to be dragged into every convo

[@Pink_pr1ncess]

About time people are defending black women, the anti-black women thing on the internet has gotten super old

[@NatzTalk]

Same!!!!💛

[@NiomiBlossom]

@@XxCørpsegirlXxStand over there on her channel ➡️💩🗑️

[@reneedennis2011]

Exactly.

[@shanitamorenita]

The obsession with degrading black women in media is disheartening

[@sannmayy]

Because they get a reaction. Let them keep trying to hide behind their own insecurities and just ignore. Eventually they'll mature enough to start addressing their own demons.

[@EVA-ki5vw]

Usually asian women

[@faebalina7786]

It starts from within our community sadly

[@akinaneon-xz6oj]

​@EVA-ki5vw wouldn't say that. We shouldn't be pitting races of women against each other. Pick mes exist in all races.

[@urzmontst.george6314]

@@EVA-ki5vw And Caucasian Conservative men

[@mother3arth]

Bro like why are we shaming black women genitals when both black and Asian women suffer from being oversexualize 💀

[@happygolucky9004]

Can I ask where is the shame? There is nothing shameful about having different sizes of the v-jay.

[@jojoone1099]

It's also really sexist. The thinking is that women are not only built for men's pleasure, but also sized for specific ethnicities is insane. BUT, I really believe that other people believe these sort of unscientific things. People are dumb.

[@gulgulgulgulgu]

​@@happygolucky9004 This is misinformation to dehumanize black people. Just stop defending ignorance.

[@happygolucky9004]

@@gulgulgulgulgu I was literally asking a question and pointing out anatomical truth. It's not ignorance to know that every human female has different sized body parts. So why is that a problem?

[@sabrinaladyswallowtail]

@@happygolucky9004In theory, you’re right. Different women are built differently, and it’s all beautiful and should be celebrated. But, the problem here is that a lot of (very misogynistic) people are equating vulva and vaginal shapes and sizes to the person’s value as a woman. We’re told that men value tiny vulvas and super tight vaginas, and that women that don’t fit that description are nasty or slutty. And then they’re assigning that description to a whole race of women, which then brings them all lower in the eyes of men and society as a whole.

[@ithoughtiwascishet1316]

black ladies, please stop responding to this stuff. it's rage bait and people keep using us for it because we keep responding. let people like elle and other asian women correct her and protect your peace❤

[@islandgrlnmywrld444]

^^ 🫶🏾 yes they do it for engagement they can barely get otherwise. it’s best to reserve our aura & glow for US!

[@happygolucky9004]

I don't understand why anyone would be bothered by this. Esther was trying to explain to men that body parts size has nothing to do with promiscuity. She was pointing out that some people are born with larger body parts and that's okay and should not be used against them to judge them. There are definitely studies that show that certain party parts are different for regions of the world. For most of human history a lot of populations were isolated and resulted in certain types of anatomical differences. That's not to say that all individuals are following those trends it's just that there are certain regions that have trends. For example Nordic countries have much taller men and women than the rest of Europe. That's not a judgment that's just a fact.

[@Tealaful]

​@@happygolucky9004 Because, it's a trend to never say anything bad about black people or gay people. Or we are biggots. They took equality and inclusion, shoved it up everyone's butts and are demanding the upper hand. Obviously it's only large and loud groups of people behaving like this but it's still enough people to be disturbed. People should be allowed to engage in conversations that ask real questions. Why are only children allowed to do this? Adults need to be able to talk about weird things and be wrong or fringe as well. It's definitely an unpopular show because I have no clue who those people were. They said some things that are out of the norm. Now everyone hates them. It's like calling someone fat. We probably shouldn't talk about that but it shouldn't hurt my feelings so much if someone does point it out. Just say hey, I don't like this topic and keep it moving like an adult.

[@intellextualweq3830]

@@happygolucky9004 It’s false and a stereotype to both dehumanize black people sexually. What’s not clicking? Height, weight, size isn’t specific to a race or gender. Just like the Nordic people there are three tribes across the continent Africa, three ethnic groups in Asia, etc. that has the same height. It isn’t specific to race. Please get out more often, maybe travel.

[@NinaAlbarn]

@@happygolucky9004 it’s also the context in which it was said. Even if you ignore the statement itself, look at who she is saying it to. Echo chamber.

[@afrinaaest]

Being a pick me girl in 2024 is sad

[@levtieart3409]

Being a pick me after age 20+ is sad As a kid you dont understand completely and just wanna be liked and 'picked " And not disappoint others but after you realise how men are and stuff you shoulsnt be a pick me

[@Alienn-o_o]

​@@levtieart3409 tbh as a kid I did do some things for attention and I was wondering if I was a pick me back then your comment helped me 🙏

[@Camy-2004]

it's giving desperate vibes ngl

[@astraeion]

being a pick me in general is sad

[@zekova]

​@@levtieart3409 Absolutely. I was a total pick-me as a teen, but sometime around 20 I saw the light 😅💀

[@OGseoulite]

As a black woman, I simply wish people would leave us the fuck alone.

[@ADR-xn6dg]

Same sis. We literally mind the business that pays us yet get harassed (now our anatomy down below) daily. It’s draining

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

They can’t. It’s a love/hate relationship (jealousy) they have with us 😂

[@ibrahimhassaan6188]

​@@JuniperGal-ek2pu its not jealousy, they just have low self esteem and need to feel better about themselves by punching down on groups lower on the social ladder

[@arariddley3314]

LITERALLY. Like please use something other than us as a stepping stone to get picked.

[@readyornot27]

@@ibrahimhassaan6188 In some cases it is jealousy because they don't think people they perceive as lower than themselves should be happier or more content with themselves than they are.

[@kaiymariewalker8823]

Black women don’t even be doing nothing to nobody 😂 release us!!

[@flaiirenn]

like tf did y'all do 😭😭

[@DraculauraVamp123]

@@flaiirennyou were too pretty. They got jelly.

[@uunnoov]

scapegoating in plain sight

[@ADR-xn6dg]

We are the “black sheep” of the world

[@KK-pu8tr]

In situations like this I always think of the nene leaks „now why am I in it“ meme 😂 like why are we living in people’s head rent free

[@zenli1407]

why we gotta compare sizes of private parts, that's weird. some people need to get a life lol

[@Calle.Hutch..]

Literally I’ve been saying this it’s weird af. Some things are not meant to be talked about in public spaces.

[@chilechi1846]

They need DELIVERANCE.

[@raraavis7782]

It's mostly 'controversial content' for the sake of it, if you ask me. Someone makes some sort of outrageous claim, then 10 others get to 'react' to it and back and forth and we're all watching in fascination like it's some sort of Olympic discipline. Getting our daily dose of 'feeling self righteous/morally superior'. It's all just some giant circle jerk. I'm in my 40s, so I have a decent chunk of life experience, I'd say. I've also never been married and have always had an active dating life. Men don't care shit about the size or shape of your kittycat. Or chesticles. They don't care about 10 pounds less or more or other details of your appearance either, as long as you're reasonably attractive and not a total b****. Trust me. 90% of these discussions on the internet are just discussions for the sake of earning a living by 'making content'. They have very little relevance for actual 'real life'.

[@diutrinh1240]

It’s projection. Projection. Projection. Whatever they blame and criticize others of is what describes them.

[@reneedennis2011]

Thank you.

[@arehoneb]

I think reducing Ester to just being a pick me is so disingenuous. She's a racist first, and that's why she felt comfortable saying those things about Black women. She's racist, that's all!

[@kamivenus753]

Yesssssss

[@Crystalclear0]

They all are on that show! Accept for Viet. But I think she did call her a racist. Before clicking on the video I seen “the racist pick me” on the thumbnail.

[@alexavasquez1992]

She's a racist pick me. She could have said some shit about BM, but she chose to open her mouth about BW

[@CheekyCreole]

Agreeeeed

[@idontplaygames3k296]

​@@alexavasquez1992Why would racism/sexism to BM be any more acceptable? WTF is wrong with this space of women.😂😂

[@amyadams9970]

As a black woman, I am so annoyed that other ppl just enjoy bullying us. Like wtf, leave us alone

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

As a white woman, I see this and agree with you. I would be crying little white tears if half of that ish I heard about BW was said about me. Wtf.

[@treethief4987]

Honestly can't be in any comment section of most communities without someone bringing black folks up. Leave us alone.

[@jordane8526]

It’s envy

[@Anon06428]

Also can’t be in any black people comments without them hating on Asians too. Sick of it all. I do think it’s envy towards cute Asians.

[@Yunglou3000]

Seriously, you guys are just living your lives!

[@softmoonangel]

She said "You don't become more human in the eyes of the men they cater to" PHEW!!!! Message was loud clear and well received 🗣️🗣️

[@CassieTranthesuperfitbabe]

INDEED! And we saw this in real time in a recent yet pivotal political movement that shocked a lot of women in a certain demographic that statistically failed to support women and girls of marginalized backgrounds while they overwhelmingly aligned themselves with racist people and voted for one of the most openly hateful and bigoted presidents in American history

[@PHlophe]

when i heard that i was like "Whew.. Chile ! "

[@shersxtrustx2864]

Boys* men are feminists

[@intellextualweq3830]

It’s like she has no idea of the female anatomy. How old is she?

[@katarzynachojnacka5751]

Yea it didn’t make sense at all, she just wanted to get validation from low vibrational men.

[@queenofbeinghungryaf1025]

​@@katarzynachojnacka5751Exactly especially when she said she "read somewhere",it felt like she wanted to use "a study she read online" to justify her actual opinions on black women. Her trying to compare and correlate p3nis' length and thickness to v4gin4s as if they were comparable was clearly just plain ignorant beliefs that she wants to be true so that she can show to those men, "see i and other asian women are tighter compared to all black women". It makes no sense. Like in terms of p3nile size,there are averages in different groups but at the end of the day,there is a variety,variables and exception to the rules so speaking in absolutes about v4gin@s that are known to be elastic anyway, is stupid too. There isn't an absolute or specificity in any ethnic group even in terms of g3nit@li@. It's almost as if we were all indivuals with unique traits,bodies that come in all shapes and sizes independent from the eugenic way of thinking.

[@katarzynachojnacka5751]

@@queenofbeinghungryaf1025 you’re absolutely right, the whole thing was just unnecessary and not based in reality at all… just like the the whole idea of eugenics.

[@gili4562]

Esther is 30, she too grownnnn for this pickme bs🤢💀

[@h34rt5k]

@@gili456230????? THREE ZERO???? The way she was saying it was giving 19 year old trying to show out for the frat boys who last 5 seconds. My God…

[@rainbowprincess456]

Like men are worth fighting for lmao

[@Courtannica]

I legit cackled xD It's so true

[@KatieLHall-fy1hw]

But they WANT you to think they are

[@Gmhfseyhb]

Fr 😂

[@stefhanysilva3823]

Exactly, my mom always says never to fight over men. My mom is 55, btw.

[@Calle.Hutch..]

Wait are or aren’t?

[@elainestokes2787]

I'm reminded of the 'Save the boobies/ Save 2nd base' campaign. Instead of saving women from cancer, we're saving men's play things.

[@Courtannica]

That's SUCH a good point!!! Nevermind how often men leave when there's a can c er diagnosis

[@The_Super_NOVA]

I've never heard of that before. So disgusting!

[@starstorm1267]

@@Courtannica Perhaps we should encourage women to leave their husbands when they get ED. So that men can know what it feels like and maybe learn something from it (but most likely not, let’s be real here)

[@Gmhfseyhb]

@@starstorm1267 Exactly

[@chelseashurmantine8153]

🤯 faaaaacts

[@mw7845]

And she KNEW she was wrong because she said they might have to cut what she was about to say!!!!

[@queenofbeinghungryaf1025]

Exactly also the people who chose to still post the video of that podcast without removing that part means that they clearly agree with her commentary and wanted to share it with the world. Whoever they are,they truly didn't care about her reputation or her online career as a poscaster. If it's one of the men that make sense,they hate her enough to want to post her problematic beliefs for the world to see but then when they got called out,they deleted it. It's too late because now everybody knows how she thinks and that those men agree with her takes clearly since they didnt even try to correct or even google to verify. Nothing or even not be brain dead enough to point out how stupid it is. They are all complacent,even if they stayed quiet.

[@jenduh]

And yet they didn't cut it, which makes me think she has no friends in that room 😂

[@thepriceisright048]

@@jenduhNOT A DAMN ONE in fact someone has it out for her 😭

[@theoutsiderjess1869]

Then she tripled down instead of saying maybe its not a good idea to say this

[@MagisterialVoyager]

i love that an older Asian lady on Tiktok (i saw it here on a complication, though) pointed out that Esther _also_ threw the Asian guys, who were in front of her in that podcast, under the bus to highlight the size of black men. miss gurl really did that.

[@MsTee349]

The thing is; studies show that Asian men DO have smaller penises. This is down to the lack of testosterone generally found in Asians. Testosterone is responsible for muscle growth and density and the penis is a muscle.

[@MagisterialVoyager]

@@MsTee349 i'm pointing out more to the fact that she _had_ to throw them under the bus to highlight black men. like, why did that? good to know about the studies, regardless. any link? some DOI or authors' name and titles, maybe? :D

[@anika_h]

Link please? Because I tried to verify this with Google, and your stereotype seems false.@@MsTee349

[@BTSARMY-dk3bj]

​@@MsTee349 from the studies, there's actually a very minimal difference.

[@lamma746]

@@MsTee349 Not true babes/ You're cherry-picking from stats. There's a minimal difference, and there's a reason for the "lack of testosterone."

[@neo_mosidi]

This just reminds me of Sara Baartman. Sick of people treating black women as animals.

[@jo7433]

It’s sad how her story seems so vivid to this day, and the fact that she couldn’t receive her peace until very recently. She was the main example how society dehumanizes black women yet they want to copy black women features to make them fit into their beauty standards

[@nandi_m04]

Yoh!! You just hit the nail with that. I remember curvy black girls being called Sara Baartman by the white girls from primary school to high school. Imagine being that heavily sexualized from a young age and then hearing claims such as the one Esther made. (I also do have an issue with the oversexualization of black South African women's body, not because I'm jealous but that all people every see or talk about black SA women)

[@jennywakeman3267]

@@nandi_m04 Stuff like that is one of the main reasons why bw & girls are some of the most common xes tluassa victims, which is exactly why the MeToo Movement was created. But unfortunately it got co-opted by ww. Smh That plus misogynoir and the jezebel stereotype that wp and bm keep pushing in the media are other reasons as well.

[@butterflygirl01]

Bw are everyone’s punching bags including BM’s. I would never ever cape for anyone unless it is myself and certain bw/girls. We are too nice

[@chrystianaw8256]

​@@butterflygirl01fr

[@calawendy]

why are people so obsessed with us its lowkey frightening

[@liv0003]

jealousy and low self esteem I suppose, some people evidently need to put others down in order to "rise up"🙄. Pathetic people

[@just_me_myself_and_I_99]

Jealousy

[@vanessarichardson110]

Not just white ppl

[@nosir2758]

Lowkey?

[@May52525]

Another KZbinr mentioned that the men weren't even offended until they realized she was also degrading their race of men. Then they had a problem...🙄😒

[@lalahadams1061]

As a black woman: At first I was angry, then I was sad about it, but now I'm just confused and concerned. What have I ever done? Why do we *constantly* get the bullying and the hate? I don't even know you. Why do you hate me so much?

[@buttertoast7262]

It's a rage bait. And obsessive behavior. Its weird.

[@Besafe782]

They like the attention … observe but don’t take it personally these are not our friends

[@MA-vn8vt]

This is bullying and bullying is abuse. You have every right to feel this way and i wish this madness would stop. Im not black but my heart gets torn aeeing stuff like this. Pleaseee dont take what they are saying and attaching it to your identity. You are perfect the way you are and they can fkk off

[@tired.5565]

​@@MA-vn8vtbullying is absolutely abuse

[@lordtette]

misogynoir is real😔. So sorry...it's not right how bw are treated. It's not your fault at all. Sending hugs🤗

[@Asenueh]

When Asian pickmeisha implied that Black women were "loose" and Asian women "tight", she also insulted the er... endowment of Asian men.

[@tired.5565]

She did

[@Amely2014]

Friendly Fire lol

[@firstspectre3928]

everything she said is factual, think about the basic logistics behind them.

[@troytaylor5746]

exactly

[@wtw2608]

Nobody talks about that part if your going to be mad let it be for both genders and not js women because as far as I know the Asian being small was a joke for dumb long now it’s racism when you flip the script🌝

[@Maximo665]

I just want to ask if this is solely patriarchy or if this is more of a function of racism. Notice how she centralized white women as normal and placed black and asian women on either side. Not only that, she threw asian men under the bus, perpetuating the harmful stereotype of asian men having small genitalia.

[@happygolucky9004]

Well I actually heard Esther defending the fact that you can't judge a woman's sexual habits based on the size of her genitals. She was pointing out a real thing that women are born with different sized genitals as are men. She's not incorrect there are studies that do show that the average Asian man has a smaller package. No I don't think she centralized white people because she did say that black people would have larger packages because the study showed that white people are in the middle, not the largest and not the smallest. I do think it's uncouth for anyone to talk about it publicly but these are studies that are done. I think people have a natural curiosity and if the data shows that it's supporting it then it is what it is.

[@vera2001x]

Of course it's racism, but it seems still mostly misogynistic. Pretty sure people like her would also put white women down when given the opportunity (depending on her audience). I hear pick me's of color often say how ugly older white women are and how they age like milk for example.

[@cutienerdgirl]

It's both. Misogynoir.

[@ghettogreenbeann]

Your last sentence about the stereotypes of Asian males.. this situation reminded me of that. I know that regardless of race any man can have any size. Im a black woman and im just sick of ppl talking about us in weird inappropriate ways. Out of nowhere! I dont even feel comfortable talking about anyone's genitals. Im tired of people worrying about our bodies, it makes me feel grossed out and violated.

[@NoxAeterna-wf4iv]

​@@happygolucky9004 okay, troll.

[@JaxJenks]

Not only is it mean to say stuff like that it also makes zero sense.

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

Exactly

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

Exactly

[@emilynam6084]

And it’s kind of gross. The last thing I think about is how big or small a lady’s portal is. Same thing with dudes. That’s weird.

[@eo0-g9j]

That’s what happens when a certain woman skips biology class and believes the incel internet

[@jessicay-hj1ju]

Exactly, women birth babies through their vaginas, it has nothing to do with males penises

[@Youmeandyume]

Thank you for taking this on. As a 40 year old Korean woman, I was horrified FOR Esther, because I have seen how these pickmes end up. It’s not pretty. I hope she realizes this sooner than later. SMH.

[@happygolucky9004]

I mean was she really pick me because I heard her defending women. She was telling the men to stop judging women promiscuity based on the size of their genitals. That women are born with different size genitals. How is she a pick me if she was arguing against them?

[@Youmeandyume]

LOL what

[@hmm4553]

she’s going to find out the hard way. i remember being a pick me as well and allowing the men in my life to be horrible to other women thinking that i was safe. i wasn’t and i’m still healing from that. being a pick me doesn’t protect women at all.

[@jellyrolly]

Horrified FOR her? I was horrified AT her.

[@no.6377]

@@happygolucky9004 she's perpetuating racist ideas about black women. It's gross and incorrect.

[@gem9535]

This is some old school racism. I remember hearing an old woman saying that Latina women have backwards cats, and, it was so absurd, I bursted out laughing from where I was standing in line. She was talking to another, younger woman. Maybe her daughter. She looked so offended, her maybe-daughter too. Both gave me dirty looks. Like, ma’am, you said that IN PUBLIC 😂

[@LoveLife-oo9cz]

Lol she was embarrassing herself. I hate when people sexualize any woman. Black or Asian. It's all about letting men to pick them. Those types of women will never learn that dirty men will disrespect them and good men will stay away 100ft from them. Just sad.

[@jazzisojazzy2642]

Why is another race of woman talking about me and other BW private areas??? I find it GROSS and DISTURBING🤢 Also, why it seems like the trend to talk about Black Women? There’s a lot of other races, but we always get picked to be the topic of discussion. We need a specialized Anti-Cyberbullying for Black Women Act at this point. I still can’t believe another woman would talk about our private areas. This makes me mad uncomfortable around other …like is that really on your mind when you see me??😭 I don’t see anyone really calling her creepy and disgusting enough for raising such question

[@butterflygirl01]

These ppl get online and say all types of sick sht about bw. Then bm have the nerve to say bw are jealous of non bw!! I can’t think of any podcasts where bw just go on there talking down on non bw out of no where. Every month it is a new viral podcast targeting bw.

[@Wonderer888]

Disrespecting BW is a lucrative business these days. BW need to make their anger expensive and stop making irrelevant people rich with your outrage.

[@NatzTalk]

I completely agree! HOW WOULD YOU EVEN KNOW THAT WE ARE BIG LIKE THAT DOWN THERE?????

[@truthhurts79]

If you let someone bully you on the Internet you're weak

[@Jenni-md7xo]

It's weird. I also feel like she tried to "brag" about supposedly having a small 😺 by saying these things (racist and pick me behaviour).

[@neemoeep]

Please don't think all Asian women think this way about other women. I am an Asian woman myself and it never crossed my mind. I also heard some people say Asian women is tight? That is so gross. Can we not talk about other women's vaginas? What she said made my jaw dropped.

[@uniquenewyork3325]

They say this because they see "purity" and childlike features as appealing. It's disgusting but true. It's basically another way to infantilize asian women.

[@gem9535]

Also, being tight is not fun for women. I’m ‘tight’ and it hurts. I do not even want to date guys anymore because they treat me like an adult doll. I’ve bled because men do not listen when I say I need more prep than average and they TORE me. That sh!t hurts.

[@beyondallreason-du4pq]

It's ok we know ❤...there are bad apples everywhere in every race

[@jinaolen786]

​@@gem9535 I'm really sorry you've been treated so horribly 😢

[@Can-x8k]

@@beyondallreason-du4pqwould u think the same if a white gay man said what Esther said?

[@TheFilmbroad]

This is more about removing Black women from the sexual marketplace. And criticizing Black women for real or perceived wrongs on social media has become a cash machine.

[@Calle.Hutch..]

It’s about a women trying to get the respect of men who will never respect her by putting down other women. Not a lot of women are actually thinking about their s*x lives when catering to men, they just want to be seen as more of a person.

[@ambireptorm]

exactly

[@ambireptorm]

@@Calle.Hutch.. yeah, specifically black women. stop acting like race isn't a factor.

[@Calle.Hutch..]

@@ambireptorm (Sorry this is long I just wanted make sure to get my point across from my previous comment, feel free to disregard or respond, I just think it could be an important thing for people to discuss) Race absolutely is a factor and I should’ve included it since it’s the main issue we’re talking about. I was speaking more generally because the part I wanted to focus on is that the idea that “women are just fighting over men” is dehumanizing and this situation is more serious than that. It could be a detrimental sentiment to spread if things escalate like Elle was suggesting, although I really hope it doesn’t. What Esther said was a really awful thing to say and a dangerous notion, but maybe her intentions were to get an in with the men around her to be seen as more human even though she knew it was wrong. Or she meant it and she’s a terrible person. Either way she is in the wrong, the only reason this distinction is important is that we can’t boil women’s decisions down to stereotypes that make us look shallow and are untrue, that only hurts all of us. I really think we should all be in this together as women because we are all dehumanized to an extent, and it’s obvious that a lot of men are not on our side. Right now we need to be uplifting and supporting black women who are having an especially hard time.

[@butterflygirl01]

Competition. Nobody is playing fair.

[@Ella-el3lt]

Thank you so much for talking about this. It's genuinely disgusting to hear her talk about us like that.

[@MagisterialVoyager]

fr. you cannot waterboard that kind of racist crap from me. like, girl, please just don't say it. and on a PODCAST, at that? why? WHY?

[@happygolucky9004]

Talk about what? It's based on actual studies that people in certain regions of the world have bigger or smaller parts. There is nothing shameful about that. She was pointing out that just because someone has a bigger body part it doesn't mean they are promiscuous.

[@KamariaNias]

​@@happygolucky9004It isn't true there's literally others studies saying the opposite black women literally have a higher mortality rate for having a smaller private part area . That's just reinforcing stereotypes 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@uniquenewyork3325]

​@@happygolucky9004 eugenics are scientific now?

[@loveyourselffirst549]

​@happygolucky9004 I see you're going around the comment section trying to push your racist lies! LADIES BEWARE and report.

[@TheRandomIzzy]

I’m a black woman, and I’ve been engaging with this Esther incident through the lens of other black women and their perspectives - I really appreciated hearing Asian women talk about it, too. This video filled in a gap in my perspective. Love the content as always 💕

[@minahtheweirdo]

🎉

[@happygolucky9004]

I don't know I heard something different. I felt like she was addressing a preconceived notion that men have that women with larger body parts are promiscuous. I think she was pointing out that having a larger body part does not mean you are promiscuous it just means you can be born that way. She's also right that some studies show that certain regions have larger body parts than others. There's an evolutionary reason for that and there's nothing wrong with it. We are all individuals, but there are some trends that do exist.

[@Ania-on9le]

​@@happygolucky9004im sorry maam but why are you EVERYWHERE

[@happygolucky9004]

@@Ania-on9le because I want to be.

[@jackiealexander92530]

@@happygolucky9004ANOTHER SNOWFLAKE CRYING IN THE COMMENTS 😂😂😂

[@NoxAeterna-wf4iv]

This is why, we need to focus on the dehumanisation and fetishisation of black women. And how badly if effects Black women in both short terms and long terms. Stay strong!💜💜

[@A_Mustard_Seed]

🎯🎯🎯🙏🏽👍

[@ahmosel4901]

EXACTLY. Too many content creators are afraid to address the elephant in the room. They skip over it or generalize so they don't have to talk about why and how Blk women and girls are being targeted specifically.

[@NoxAeterna-wf4iv]

@@ahmosel4901 Very accurate! They should start addressing this issue before this gets more out of hand.

[@muhlaynee]

Exploring the story of Sarah Baartman and also the culture of 'Human Zoos' (Congolese Village) will blow your mind. Regarding Esther's comment, she doesn't get patience or forgiveness from me. When you're that ignorant in the age of the internet, there's no hope for you.

[@dlod8371]

Yeah I was low key disappointed Elle didn’t talk about her. Like it’s egregious what they did to that woman.

[@yashaswinikrishnan1878]

this.

[@yashaswinikrishnan1878]

​@@dlod8371 i feel like she indirectly pointed towards it in the past when she talked about colonization and slavery

[@sunfeatherX3]

Omg I remember reading studies that were done about the genitals of women of different ethnicities that disproved ANY difference between ethnic groups vaginal canals. Like what are these girls on? 😂

[@MagisterialVoyager]

PickMeum (copium but for the pick me, lol) /lighthearted no. seriously. i thought that at this point people would be very careful with what they threw out online but... i suppose not.

[@SamSpray-jg9hz]

So somebody else had the same dumbass racist hypothesis and had to perform this study....can't be surprised I guess

[@happygolucky9004]

Can you provide a link to that study I'd be interested to read it. It would be interesting because there are a lot of studies about male body parts that do show trends. Keep in mind that doesn't mean every person of that region is the same it just means the average.

[@uniquenewyork3325]

​@@happygolucky9004I'm not convinced you make any statements of good faith based on the kinds of comments you have left.

[@Courtannica]

Ex actly!!! And why WHY does it always *have* to be a ra ce thing? I'm so over it

[@impepenane]

the worst thing is, what she is saying about asian women has its root in colonialism, when asian women were trafficked and coerced into prostitution with white american soldiers. so she essentially does bad to asian women, too. this stereotype also ensured that asian women are considered more sexually open-minded and submissive, if you ever wondered why.

[@A_Mustard_Seed]

🎯🎯🎯

[@MadArtLang]

The history of the Korean comfort women is heart wrenching...

[@joerudnik9290]

Asian women were also trafficked by Asian societies. The Japanese used Korean women as sex workers during WWII. They were called Comfort Women.😮😢

[@Camy-2004]

​@@MadArtLang not just Koreans, but every girl in the Asia-Pacific area during WW2, even to Palau to an extent The Philippines just released a series about it and damn it's so sad! Even very young girls were forced into comfort women like wtf

[@ambriaashley3383]

Reminds me how black woman are seen as over sexualized or as the “jezabel” stereotype due to slavery & black women being consistently r worded by their slave masters, so these married racist men made up that these women (their “property”) were throwing themselves at them. To this day black women are less believed (by cops, media, etc) when they share about their SA at any age in their life. Esther is perpetuating that terrible colonizing stereotype too.

[@PhotoJeticPoet]

I hate this stereotype because I'm medically "small" down there I can't even sleep with someone bigger than average because I get ripped no matter how gentle they are it will swell and then subsequently rip. When I get to a point that I want to be intimate with a man I have to have a awkward conversation about it and 20+ years of being s3xualy active NOT A SINGLE MAN HAS BELIEVED ME.

[@thepovdweller]

I'm sorry people doubted you. Take care😊

[@hellohell7773]

@@thepovdwelleromg Leon pfp 💖

[@thepovdweller]

@@hellohell7773 i love fictionnal men sm💕

[@ahmosel4901]

I'm so sorry. That's awful. Many BW are actually smaller so the stereotype is crazy wrong and HARMFUL. 😓

[@mimistarion2390]

@@ahmosel4901literally, it’s so sad

[@damanipage5990]

As a black woman, I want the world to please leave us alone. I'm tired.

[@sonireddy6696]

Hollywood overly sexualized black women

[@thezu9250]

The messed up part is that the opposite is true based on the limited knowledge we have. These ideas impact black female healthcare. Go read about the father of modern gynaecology, James Marion Sims. Who do you think they tested things on? Without anesthesia.

[@ahmosel4901]

Exactly. The opposite is true according to the small number of studies available plus individual Blk women's smexual experiences smh

[@butterflygirl01]

And women docs ignore bw as it is. Don’t consider being gentle or using smaller tools. Nothing has really changed

[@skyepleasehealwearedying]

I can’t stand the people saying “it wasn’t that deep she’s opening a conversation on human anatomy” blah blah (which was Amala Ekpunobi’s whole video, I hated it). We all know that’s not what she wanted to do at all, she was not curious, she was stating it as a fact to make herself seem better or funny or whatever, but the tried to evade the consequences by saying “I heard someone say it” and citing no sources because she knew she was spewing pick me bullshit.

[@callalilly1988]

Ugh. Amala got on my nerve with her take. She’s a lot smarter than that so I feel like she was being deliberately obtuse. She has pickme tendencies and they come out at the worst times.

[@Clockwork_999]

Amala always has bad takes.

[@nastyathedustslayer]

Ámala is a biracial woman, and biracial women with white mothers tend to be anti-black women.

[@BlackRaven000]

Huh, when the liberals start convos on anatomy they're called shallow and superficial. Funny how open minded they get when it's the other way around...

[@neutraliserjanine]

The absolute refusal from the people of that channel to treat people how they request that you treat them, talk to them or approach them is just insane. They simply say no, no, everyone is spoken about. Like blantant dehumanization. They will not accept people telling them how to treat them. They will treat people how they want to and any objection is just faking victimhood to those people.

[@LoveK1]

I’m so incredibly tired of people degrading BW completely unprovoked. It’s disturbing how many conversations we get brought into when we aren’t even in the room! We are literally living rent free in people’s minds and it’s EXHAUSTING. It’s like this compulsion people have.

[@fulltimeonfire8536]

Imagine being so insecure that you feel like you need to pander to men by convincing them your noni is the tightest 🤦🏻‍♀️ that's so incredibly sad I don't even know what else to say

[@pixiestxNyomouf]

Yep. Simple as that.

[@Ana-h3w]

Like damn she is 30 around and that's her brain cells 😭 damn man how can human turn out like that specifically a girL 😭

[@marijanikolic4873]

Dont they understand biology? Its not even about race anymore, its about basic education.

[@yashaswinikrishnan1878]

yeah like in that time it was brutal but understandable. NOW IN 2024?!

[@Ana-h3w]

Bro literally 😭

[@rasputjen]

"UTI podcast?" That literally stands for urinary tract infection! 😆

[@kamivenus753]

lol sounds accurate lol

[@kaissaleonard2453]

Yesterday I watched a video of this youtuber Amala Ekpunobi about this situation and all her comments was like: " people who are offended by what she ( Esther) said are so sensitive grow up". " as a black woman, I'm not offended by what she said, that is her opinion" or "Why people are acting like they never talk about POC genitals before" And most of these comments got so many likes , that's insane😮 "

[@readyornot27]

Ignorance is the default state of humans. Also, in certain internet spaces insulting and dismissing black women is the norm, including by biracial women like Amala.

[@YogaWDía]

@@readyornot27yep and especially from black men. Mainly the ones who make their whole channel about being a passport bro. They can’t stand us🤣

[@kaissaleonard2453]

Yes you're right , it is like people are trying to be "unbothered" by issues that may or will affect them, Amala is acting like being "unbothered" by issues that has caused many black women to die because of ignorant doctors will make her the exception. Smh

[@uniquenewyork3325]

Internalized racism

[@fancybeingawesome]

​@@kaissaleonard2453She is not a good person

[@Meimei-z6c]

Elle i need you to make a video on Amala Ekpunobi. She's literally just someone who validates racism saying people are too sensitive

[@C12341]

That woman makes her living off of being a pickme. I feel sorry for her. She seems to be in a bubble where she is only looking for the approval of a select group of people instead of investigating the world.

[@Meimei-z6c]

@@C12341 and the way so many people agree with her

[@leenmangaka]

I used to subscribe to her channel, while in the past I did see myself agreeing with a few points she'd make I slowly started to realize how infuriating and extremist her content is, there's soo much hate even I got stressed whenever I got shorts from her and that other woman (i forgot her name). Glad I unsubscribed She really is a pickme

[@doshpits]

why are you asking an east asian women whos evidently a reactionary to critique that woman?

[@Meimei-z6c]

@@leenmangaka it's all rage bait

[@valerieandherlifeofwonders2465]

I thought this "tightness" discussion was finished by that one tiktok of a guy answering "dude she's just not into you" 😮

[@sunfeatherX3]

Finished the video, so glad to see this being talked about! Eugenics is seeping through their pores…

[@happygolucky9004]

Who is the "they" you are talking about? Also what is wrong with the fact that there are some regions of the world that have anatomical differences in averages? There are some regions of the world that are taller than others how is that a moral judgment?

[@tishaprnucedteasha]

​@@happygolucky9004go clock in

[@fems.ss1]

​@@happygolucky9004almost 100+ comments.. 🐕 is crazy.

[@nikki22yeo]

@sunfeatherX3. It is and it's just going to get worse for a while. Black people and other poc need to batten down the hatches. Keep your sanity, do not engage, keep your head up and never give up. Take care of you because things are gonna get rough. Remember first. You are beautiful. You are kind. You are smart.

[@immakitty88]

No joke had an asian girl in college tell me hers was smaller/tighter because asian men are small downstairs. I was dumbstruck

[@Courtannica]

Which is so silly. Every individual woman is different but it's not a ra ce thing. D:

[@emmiee12]

All men don't have same d size bruhhgg

[@Mira-gu6we]

Thats evil and disgusting. I woulda asked her why she is bothered about another ladys genitals.

[@bbibbi-nb5pl]

@@Courtannica Yup, not only is it not race dependent, but the size of the d does not impact it. It’s elastic by nature and it stretches and contracts to it’s original form. It’s further improved by doing kegles. It’s sad to see that not just men, but even women are ignorant of how their own bodies work. Ignorance like this is why many girls around the world are murdered on their wedding night for not bleeding. It’s such a dangerous myth.

[@kateriaknows]

the vj is mostly composed of muscle and skin. It has been scientifically proven that genetically, blk people have tighter, stronger muscles and tighter skin with greater elastin and collagen. Therefore, blk women have tighter vjs than any other group, Esther.

[@pharietaless]

as a black woman who has watched for a while, i appreciate you standing with us❤

[@scorpionbraid]

I can't take anyone who cites phrenology as a basis for their argument seriously. It's not even "junk science", it's just junk.

[@alicec.6195]

The majority of youtube channels I watch regularly are from black women because they are a million miles ahead on the "decentering men" content. ❤

[@Autumn-zd9nq]

Black Women have been minding our own f*cking business for so long and the obsession with us has been beyond annoying. Then people keep asking why “We’re so angry”. It’s because we’re tired of y’all not getting your own lives outside of talking about us.

[@reneedennis2011]

Exactly 💯.

[@SuperMiIk]

Also ive noticed that while criticizing black women, the woman doing the criticizing fetishizes black men in the same breath. It almost seems competitive

[@NurmaBP]

My dear beautiful Black sisters, as South East Asian sister here, I'm sorry for the inconvinience but please don't let this Asian stray rent free in your head. Let us, her fellow Asian sister correcting and shreded her to pieces. She doesn't bring honor to us all.

[@uniquenewyork3325]

@@NurmaBP 🫶🏾

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

Amen. As an Asian American, I am angry at what Esther said. So racist and ignorant. She does not represent us.

[@cypress2212]

This is black woman hate. This is a hate crime against black women we need to file charges. Being this comfortable should have consequences.

[@MastaBaitaAmbatukam]

She hates them for sure

[@MA-vn8vt]

It is, its bullying n hate

[@kallista5194]

1:35 "this trend of people having a weird obsession with body parts" seriously, it is weird. We're very obsessed with bodies, and anything that's none of our business seems to become our entire focus. We are a rude species. 😂

[@Nxtxliesbeautybook_]

THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS🥺❤️

[@Davian775]

As a black woman. I am so happy to be asexual honestly

[@ventaliq]

same

[@AutumnAprodithe]

I'm leaning towards asexual. I tried to change it because I felt like an outcast. But now I'm happy. Just look how much crap I avoid by not wanting men.

[@Calypso-u6m]

I’m asexual too! I wish there were more black woman asexual representation.

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

17:00 “Humans who hurt other humans are not normal.” I love this statement. Healthy humans do not seek out to hurt others. ❤

[@reneedennis2011]

Thank you.

[@mollygrace3068]

I’m glad you’re talking about this. I heard about this from a black conservative woman’s channel and she was acting like this was no problem. All the comments are saying people were overreacting. I was pretty shocked, because I thought she was going to say something general, like BMI or body shape differences between races. THIS was so gross and disrespectful. And SO DUMB. Just fake.

[@ras-nts]

i remember in college, when my Filippina girlfriend would go on dates, men would tell her she was exotic. it always creeped me out. she wasn't freaked out by it. and i think it was because she was being picked that it didn't freak her out. she went from guy to guy, hoping one of them would keep her forever. my own mother who is married 2x, is now at almost 70, decentering men. and that only happened because her last husband died and didn't do right by her. dehumanization can be seductive when you get money. but sadly.... it's still dehumanization.

[@Camy-2004]

ngl a lot of us Filipinas starts as pickmes, with the amout of soap opera with themes where the strong independent woman is usually the homewrecker Well atleast they are slowly changing it, but the notion is still the same. Loud, independent women, usually with gay men sidekicks are either homewreckers or everything men should avoid, and the pretty, petite, religious, proud "light-skinned" girl is the standard This country fcked up the minds of many girls but I'm glad many are starting to wake up

[@Eszti-Mary]

As an Esther, this title scared me.

[@Hideonface]

Lol

[@bamgyuuu304]

omg same💀 i though youtube is trying to tell me smth

[@chrystianaw8256]

😂

[@GabrielleSeunagal]

😭

[@mjtopping4179]

I was friends with a man for a long time until he said to me while I was pregnant that he believes women should go back to work 2 weeks after giving birth... I have no interest in being friends anymore.

[@hanatirk4375]

I am so glad women are starting to stick with each other and having each other's back. This is true power.

[@scorpioxrocky]

I appreciate you making a commentary about this. Having as many people standing in solidarity with Black women and seeing how people treat us is what we need, so thank you so much. ❤️

[@evelee9163]

Literally was rewatching older videos and then blessed to see a new update yay!

[@viridianacortes9642]

If you pay attention…all the villains in soap operas around the world are pickmes! They’re always trying to separate or sabotage the main couple to get the man or control the man in some way. It’s wild.

[@reneedennis2011]

Good point.

[@jenniferesein4813]

🤨🤨🤨 Is this what all those "red pill adjacent" podcasts are discussing? Gross nonsense

[@islandgrlnmywrld444]

at this point we needa be financially compensated for the rage bait it’s so tired bc why is our body is her mouth?? girl do you have a crush or whhhat 😭 #bewhoyouaregrl!

[@sshafiq543]

A modern day example is Burma and how they use the darker skin tone of the Rohingya to ostracize and discriminate against them, deeming them as lesser humans

[@gitslover9834]

Aren't there Burmese people with dark skin? I remember watching a documentary years ago about how the Rohingya are treated and one of the Burmese who was interviewed was more of a dark brown complection.

[@ranfak]

Not true you are misinformating people. Rohingya is different political problem please don’t misinterpret

[@MastaBaitaAmbatukam]

@@gitslover9834 And? What is your point?

[@gitslover9834]

@@MastaBaitaAmbatukam I just made a comment what's your problem?

[@MastaBaitaAmbatukam]

@@gitslover9834 It seemed like you think colorism can't exist in countries with majority dark skin population

[@abigailpierce4079]

As someone of Irish descent with fair skin and dating out to find a partner. I've experienced more obsession with my skin tone with others than I do with men of European descent. I'm still learning and navigating to spot the difference between preferences ,subtle obsession and sexual objectification. Men can be subtle and may not completely realize it themselves.

[@stefhanysilva3823]

Sorry to ask that, but the men obsessed with your pale skin tone are Irish or from other ethnicities?

[@lordtette]

abigail steps out of her bubble and is shocked to learns yt supremacy affects other races🤣😂

[@Calypso-u6m]

@lordtette she’s allowed to be upset about objectification and fetishization, regardless of who it comes from.

[@fx7105]

did she forget that people back then also used to say some crazy stuff about asian women's private parts as well, for example that it's "slanted" on the side, which added to the exoticism and objectification of asian women heavily. people need to not forget history.

[@reneedennis2011]

Thank you.

[@eo0-g9j]

Yea let’s not forget that many women in the east and south east were trafficked by US soldiers and sold

[@thelastonequesqueca8982]

Subscribed-please never stop talking the dehumanisation pipeline, this is extremely important. We are in a dangerous time when dehumanisation is becoming normalised and we need to call it out and stop it from progressing. Thank you so much for doing this work

[@Northernlights30]

Looking at Esther i can say that she is been that way since her childhood a lot this things start from there even in some asian schools a girls are consider popular or likeable on the amount of male validation they receive and then they would go at any length to get it as much as possible even at the stake of their self respect

[@happygolucky9004]

I didn't really see it as seeking validation. She actually was defending women saying that men shouldn't be judging a woman's promiscuity based on her genital size. She was making a point that women have different sizes of genitals naturally.

[@Northernlights30]

Gave me a new perspective but though the way she delivered it didn't seem good way ​@@happygolucky9004

[@cecenails9713]

@@happygolucky9004yeah I’m so confused with the people in this comment section. I don’t see what she said wrong.

[@KuteBaby967]

When I was in hs, some freshman boys came up to me and asked if my, you know, was slanted or sideways because my eyes are that way. That was the first time I ever experienced something like that and it always floors me how disgusting it felt to be asked that. Clearly, we know it’s not true, but still incredibly damaging. Esther thought she was giving herself some “cover” by saying that “it’s something I just heard, we might have to cut it out” but, that was bs because she still perpetuating the terrible way Black people are sexualized. Imagine if someone started with, “something wild I heard, idk 🤪, but someone said that Asian p*spies are slanted” and then turned around to give a half ass, attitude filled apology. She’s just mad she’s being called out. Cause Esther thinks she’s too hot to be held accountable. No, I’m glad we shut that down and are not accepting her rude ass non apology.

[@mimistarion2390]

It’s the fact that she also is completely and entirely wrong. If Esther really wants to get with the facts, then she should know that studies show African women have the strongest pelvic floor strength, (which translates to the most ‘tightness’ in the vaginal canal) compared to asian and european counterparts. Size, shape, tightness, has nothing to do with male genitalia at all. It’s just relates to subtle differences in the average head shape of babies born in different regions. She makes a complete mockery of herself, fellow women, and science.

[@CandyCoated96]

I would not entertain ignorance with a rebuttal. She said it to uplift herself and dehumanize another. She didn't ask out of curiosity. She knew she was lying when she said it. Pray for people because they are stuck on vanities of vanities. Real life is happening, and many are so lost.

[@BKJay718]

I’m sick of black women living in folks heads rent free 24/7 being spoken about in a disrespectful manner. So many try to mimic us and males date women of other races who have features like ours but are BOUGHT! I appreciate you speaking on this!!!

[@sinovuyobudaza7167]

I haven't watched your class on not having guy friends, but I totally agree with the sentiment. I reconnected to an old friend who was my guy friend pre covid. In a few weeks, I wondered why I was ever friends with him. But I know it has a lot to do with the inner work I did during and after covid.

[@PHlophe]

Vuyo, he probably looked at you and though "Yhoo, you've become so fine, it is time to clear Lobola for this one"

[@bbydoll1222]

I cackled when you put “ is this play about us” on the screen

[@c.v.3025]

SAME LMAOO

[@Mpersonal-v1i]

She ATE and left no crumbs. Elle is teaching and showing how it is done with all her videos. ICONIC.

[@Xiouuu]

As a black women whos been following her an slowly giving myself more self worth Sn caring for myself it means a lot to have you talk about this topic you are really the queen

[@MastaBaitaAmbatukam]

Esther hates y'all lol

[@chelseashurmantine8153]

Thank you for talking about dehumanization. It’s so true that words like “animals” “pigs” “dogs” “snakes” “cows” “cats” “roaches” “worms”, using those words MEANS SOMETHING

[@Aniexo_]

For a while I’ve said that white women and other races of women weren’t really girls girls. BW stand up for everyone and there’s hardly ever anyone there. I hope she gets canceled. Idk her though lol never heard of her nor did I ever finish the clip of hearing her talk. But I’m sick of it

[@Courtannica]

Ehhhh I dunno about that

[@allie773]

This comment doesn't really go to your favour

[@inprogress9757]

​@@allie773 y'all are fr so unserious. Instead of reflecting on why we've collectively made bw feel so isolated and betrayed y'all would rather nitpick individual comments of bw expressing that thought. As a persian-indian woman, ive personally seen how kind and thoughtful bw are for women in general. Just wanted to let y'all know that we're grateful and doing our best to return the favour as girl's girls!

[@allie773]

@@inprogress9757 I get that the goal here might be to highlight support within certain communities, but these comments blatantly set up a double standard that’s racist and dehumanizing. Reducing wyte women-or any group of women-to negative stereotypes while uplifting others as inherently ‘better’ is not only inaccurate but also deeply harmful. We can’t pretend this isn’t racism when we imply that one group of women naturally lacks qualities like kindness or supportiveness. Saying that only certain racial groups are ‘girls’ girls’ or more supportive relies on damaging racial stereotypes that strip people of individuality, reducing them to one-dimensional caricatures. This kind of language is divisive and undermines any efforts to create solidarity, respect, and inclusion among women, instead fostering the very isolation and exclusion we claim to be fighting against.

[@Aniexo_]

@@allie773 yes 36 ppl agreed lol

[@gg_ingy]

She also took a dig at asian men's wieners with that comment, lol. She didn't lie when she said she was gonna say something "kind of wild".

[@ranfak]

Lady you seem to be new here. She had dig about Asian men wirners before. And majority of Asian women do that toward Asian men. And this is also another rage bait she created to dig Asian men. and she is successful. Instead of talking about her . People are talking about Asian dude and that’s exactly what she want and she got it. Humiliating Asian men is so easy.

[@ranfak]

Lady you seem to be new here. She had dig about Asian men wirners before. And majority of Asian women do that toward Asian men. And this is also another rage bait she created to dig Asian men. and she is successful. Instead of talking about her . People are talking about Asian dude and that’s exactly what she want and she got it. Humiliating Asian men is so easy.

[@ranfak]

Lady you seem to be new here. She had dig about Asian men wirners before. And majority of Asian women do that toward Asian men. And this is also another rage bait she created to dig Asian men. and she is successful. Instead of talking about her . People are talking about Asian dude and that’s exactly what she want and she got it. Humiliating Asian men is so easy.

[@ranfak]

Lady you seem to be new here. She had dig about Asian men wirners before. And majority of Asian women do that toward Asian men. And this is also another rage bait she created to dig Asian men. and she is successful. Instead of talking about her . People are talking about Asian dude and that’s exactly what she want and she got it. Humiliating Asian men is so easy.

[@ranfak]

Lady you seem to be new here. She had dig about Asian men wirners before. And majority of Asian women do that toward Asian men. And this is also another rage bait she created to dig Asian men. and she is successful. Instead of talking about her . People are talking about Asian dude and that’s exactly what she want and she got it. Humiliating Asian men is so easy.

[@C12341]

Thank you Manifestelle! True friend of all girlies. THANK YOU

[@spamozoid2310]

It always comes back to black women being the butt of the joke but they’re so sly with it they can feign ignorance and say they didn’t mean any harm by this. They should have just shut down the men point blank, why bring black women into the battle you have with these men on the pod? Stop entertaining them.

[@faevalentine9187]

As a black woman, I literally didn’t feel anything watching the video. I’m never surprised that people are racist, I’m just pleasantly surprised that they’re not. I watched a couple of episodes of that podcasts and it’s just a whole bunch of misogynistic and racist views.

[@kristynasamotna8553]

I just love watching your videos. You always make such a good point and explain everything so well, that it's easy to understand. I'm planning to look for a boyfriend soon, finally ready for it after many years, so your videos are really really helpful. I love your vibe also. You are very clever and wise and it's really refreshing to learn from someone like you. Sending love from Vienna

[@MagisterialVoyager]

all the best luck! i believe in you, girl. remember that you are the prize.

[@mimiseye]

i already know this video is going to be good, you never miss!

[@vothuhien6598]

As an Asian, I was absolutely BLOWN AWAY by what she said, I didn't even know anything about this girl and the podcast (I recognized the other girl but the entire casts are unfamiliar to me). And I immediately had second-hand embarrassment from her statements. It's giving inferiority. Feels like she was trying to bring black women down because something in her head told her that they are a threat to her, that they were so far better than her that she needed to do something about it. And the way she hints it by using the 'compatibility' logic. It's like she's trying to be very mindful, very cutesy, very demure about it. Everything is so off and cringey. I'm screaming and crying.

[@brolteon2740]

black women: everyone else: LET ME TELL YALL SUMN ABOUT BLACK WOMEN

[@wxwxw8800]

The topic of dehumanizing makes me freeze a little inside. It’s such a horrible feeling living in a group and not being seen as human. I am a white woman and did not experience racism in society. But it’s how I felt all my life in my family. My mother was the main force of dehumanizing others. It’s hard to understand how it works. I don’t fully grasp it, maybe also because it’s so painful to think about it.

[@readyornot27]

Wishing you healing. ❤‍🩹

[@Clockwork_999]

Spot on about dehumanization. It’s like that Black mirror episode, Men Against Fire. If you know you know, don’t want to spoil it.

[@Eldavide888]

Finally someone says exactly how some women can be more dangerous for others women.

[@mymelu]

from all the languages you could have spoken, you spoke the truth. thank you

[@pemex23]

The way the "looksmaxxing" stuff (which is just incelspeak slightly rebranded) has reintroduced what's essentially phrenology and race science into the mainstream is genuinely disturbing. Yes, this has been an issue before but it's gaining a LOT of traction now especially with how quickly trends move on tiktok specifically but other online (and real-life) platforms as well. I'm not sure what can be done to stop this but it's a really bad omen for where we're going socially

[@veganbutterfly3652]

She stated so many stereotypes. On black men's p size, which isn't true... leading to stereotyping BW. Also stereotypes Asians etc. Etc. And beside women V size has nothing to do the sx ... the V returns to it original size after sx. With her logic, all pregnant women V size would be the size of a basketball.

[@charlesshead8475]

They did a voluntary study were men from Africa Europe and America had their genitals measured. None of them had to reveal who they were. Out of the millions that volunteered, the top five countries were African.

[@VelvetRed-rz8ur]

7:57 I learned this the hard way.. A pick me at work set me up asking me to meet her on a storage room because “she needed help with something” so when I got there 3 men (including our boss) where there (I never socialize with men at work unless absolutely necessary and I make it short and cut them off) they knew this and basically force me to interact with them by asking her to dragg me there.. I never forget how uncomfortable and obvious it was they were there to boomb me with inappropriate questions about my personal life.. At some point it got so unbearable when my boss started to say I should be having babies by my age (27) and that I need a boyfriend.. 🤢 🤬 I just give him a hateful look and leave without saying anything.. I was ok loosing my job but he just pretended it never happened.. Pick mes are the biggest traitors of women.. We should be protecting each other not sabotaging ourselves 😒

[@xsunlx]

Elle, I think one of the biggest lessons I have learned from your content is that men CANNOT be my friend. The way I move in the world has absolutely changed because of your content, and I mean this with all honesty, my life has improved. Thank you, Queen💜

[@brixnx]

my mom is a pick me, and that's a special kind of hell on itself.

[@salonipattnaik8248]

The irony is that Aryan Invasion theory has now been refuted and that makes Indians indigenous and fun fact: Romani people (generalising here) were Indians who migrated to Europe so they actually are the original "Aryan" (if there is such a thing) which just proves all of this is so stupid!