EVA WAS NOT A VILLIAN ~ THE BURDEN OF BEING THE “RESPONSIBLE ONE”

#deliverusfromeva

[@riritheedon8967]

I’m glad you’re doing a video on Eva she wasn’t the villain her brother in laws were 🥺🥺🥰

[@Princessdollamanda]

She had a lot on her at a young age, she basically had no life because she was taking care of her siblings and was rushed to grow up very quickly and Jackie irritated me, she was very selfish

[@marvaaba3929]

Yes! Jackie was still being a baby and got mad at Eva for wanting to live her life but no..

[@lovefromwonderland]

Eva’s controlling nature came from a reasonable, responsible place. It was never malicious. The brother in laws should’ve gotten the heat and honestly dumped by the end of the movie. The sisters were also very codependent and seemed to never be able to make a decision about their lives without her. She had a lot on her plate, and I’m glad she slowly learned to put herself first for once instead of constantly thinking of others.

[@kareem0525]

It’s giving Terry in SoulFood vibes. They really made Terry the responsible one the villain too when all she was doing was taking care of the family. And in both movies the goal was gettin to that old bag money.

[@momo382844]

Eva may have been a bit extra, but I can see why. The men her sisters chose were bums! lol Well, Timothy wasn’t that bad but the other two, umm yeah.😅

[@Disre.damn.spectful]

Growing up I hated Eva, but as an adult now I realized it was because I was Eva. I was the responsible one and hated it so I hated her so I didn’t have to hate myself. Now it’s my favorite movie and she’s my fav character

[@MichellaneousMe]

Michael was doing the most while just being a boyfriend to Bethany. It literally took the end of the movie to ask for her hand in marriage, but he was the main one trying to dissolve the Dandridge funds🙄

[@ADyani6]

She was the oldest and had to protect her sisters! She did go overboard but I understand.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Totally agree with you about eva

[@QueenNTheMaking]

U know what always bothered me about this movie…the men did all this mess and never even gave Eva a real genuine apology. Like Eva was overbearing at times (but let’s be real the husbands were too concerned about their inheritance) but it did not justify the stunt they pulled and they all should have got left by their wives. It’s like they never were held accountable smh

[@badgyrl310]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@truthseeker9249]

I'm going to play devil's advocate here for one second. (This is long but if you're interested I think you should read this.) Tim and Daryl had some pretty legitimate reasons to hate Eva and to be so upset about their respective relationships with their WIVES. Tim is ready to have a baby, Kareenah isn't. That's a difficult rough patch for any married couple. But they can't even work through it and maybe get Kareenah to a point where she IS ready for a baby because Eva keeps getting in the way. She inserts herself in their private business and gives unsolicited advice. She gets inside Kareenah's head to the point where she's constantly psyching herself out about being intimate with Tim or even about so much as TALKING about having a baby. Kareenah isn't ready for a baby but isn't even opening up to the idea of it because of Eva's constant meddling. That would make any man extremely frustrated about their marriage and with their sister-in-law. Daryl just wants to be physical with his wife and not just with...you know... THAT kind of intimacy but all physical intimacy whether it's s*x or cuddling. He's even willing to open his mind to the stuff she finds interesting just to be closer with her (when we see him letting Jacqui read him a book and being okay with her doing it again later). Eva just invites herself into their home and actively interferes in their alone time or Jacqui just up and abandons him and their alone time the minute she thinks Eva needs her for something. He wants to be physically close with his wife without someone else getting in the way of that, plus he wants to be as important to his wife and she is to him. Is that really too much to ask? So of course he's frustrated too. Neither of them still had the right to do this horrible thing to Eva but at least they had good reasons to feel the way they did. And remember some things. This whole thing was MIKE'S idea. Yeah they were a part of it but he came up with it and pushed for it the hardest. He was also the ONLY person that was making a big deal of the stupid Dandridge Fund, Daryl and Tim were even telling him that he was being stupid about that and needed to let it go and stop talking about it. He wanted that Dandridge Fund dissolved so that he could get a taste of that money. HIS biggest complaint about him and Bethany's relationship is Bethany always hesitating to let him sleep over with her overnight. That's a legitimate thing to be frustrated over but not THAT much. Everyone is different and has different boundaries, especially women. They move at different paces for what they are comfortable with involving their man. But Mike has the gall to do all 3 of those things I mentioned when he isn't even married to Bethany. Coming up with this stupid plan and wanting to hurt Eva that badly would still be messed up even if they were married, wanting to get his hands on that money would still make him a selfish, greedy gold digger, he wouldn't deserve that money even if they were married, and him not getting to spend the night with her wouldn't even be a thing if he was married to her. Mike is a a selfish greedy jerk who doesn't give a damn about Eva's feelings even just a little bit, at least the other two were remorseful for what they did. He doesn't give a damn about his precious Bethany's feelings either because he won't commit to her but yet still wants SO much from her including to get his dirty little hands on her money. Deep down he may not even truly love her at all. So while Tim and Daryl were antagonists to me, Mike is the only true villain. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.

[@1tim3_JB]

It was really the inheritance part that bothered me. They acted like they were entitled to the money, when they didn’t struggle or raise them. They were really upset when the girls decided to give it to Eva. Like Eva didn’t raise them or deserve it. Like why are you so worried about money that has nothing to do with you. Are you only with your girl for a check?

[@QueenNTheMaking]

@@1tim3_JB I def agree!!! They just showed major red flags throughout the whole movie smh

[@bougiegirlK]

These are the black romcoms we need to see again. They were light, funny and didn’t push struggle or stereotypes. Gabrielle was hilarious in this too lmao she was not playing with those restaurants at all. I agree that her sisters were also too dependent on her and she was always making decisions based on her sisters instead of doing things that made her happy

[@chrystianaw8256]

Yes, I like that the movie doesn't revolve around racism.

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

Yes, Eva overstepped her boundaries by always having opinions on her little sisters' relationships. The husbands were all trash, though. Two things can be true at the same time.

[@truthseeker9249]

But at least Tim and Daryl were redeemable trash. Mike was not.

[@TheLoveBugz]

@@truthseeker9249 yea Mike definitely was the worst one

[@beebeevids6851]

@@truthseeker9249 it was just Tim for me. He was remorseful at times. Them other 2 were plain trifling 🙄

[@truthseeker9249]

@@beebeevids6851 I can understand that. But again at least Daryl isn't too bad. And his reasoning for feeling the way he does is fair too. Everyone wants to be close and intimate with their spouse and certainly be able to do it without a rude sister-in-law breaking into their house and interrupting.

[@sandracrump]

She was so GORGEOUS in this movie! ❤ I love this movie so much

[@beautelle1065]

This was a really good deep dive- I never liked the raggedy boyfriend/husbands in this movie lol. Them paying Ray was a blessing in disguise for her though

[@patriciazandilencube4597]

For a time as a teen I modeled my whole personality on Eva. And it worked and helped me get by in a seriously patriachal society. It made me work hard and never took the 'you should only aim for marriage and work hard to keep your man' mentality that I saw around me. I never saw her as needing mendingor a man or any help. Heck she held her ISH down fo real. This is why MEDIA and ART matter. As teens our minds are impressionable and fragile. Lets show are teens positive role-models.

[@bkimatab]

Same. I loved Eva's character as a kid despite not growing up with that type of personality. But I admired her charcater so much. It's sad we dont have a lot of movies like this anymore. Just love and hip hop type reality shows.

[@matthewmensah481]

Happy Women's History Month ♀️ 👩🏾 Eva- Deliver Us from Eva

[@tiaraw872]

Yeah I never understood why the ladies still stayed with those dudes after the situation. I would no longer truth them AT ALL with anything.

[@emorylamar]

Eva was only controlling because she was their default mother and had to be responsible now those dirty trifflin men should’ve been kicked to the curb asap at the end.. Also ok you have taste I hear you playing 3LW Crush on you

[@rogueryder3285]

Thank you. It's about time somebody shined a light on what an angel she truly was. She had a lot of weight to carry and a lot on her plate since her parents died. She had to be thr strongest and the responsible one, raising those girls. She was their mother after that, and it was impossible for them to see her as anything else because they felt the still needed her. She sacrificed quite a lot for their survival as strong black women. Those dudes did her so dirty, and it was clear they mostly cared about their family's money than they did their own women. They lowkey faked their friend's death just to kick their big sis to the curb. That's sick and they're the real evil. Put some respect on Eva's name, please. She's so misunderstood. I say this because I feel for her on how she and her sisters struggled to stay surviving. I'm an older sibling myself and I was the parent in my house. Dads were nonexistent and mom worked and socialized. I know what it's like being dependable on a daily basis. And it's impossible not to be the strongest in the family because it's all you know how to do, which can sometimes affect relationships or attempts in having one

[@leiiib]

I loved this breakdown! I never even looked deeper into her character and her actions like that and it makes so much sense to me now that you’ve broke it down. She basically mothered them and felt like anyone moving in on her sisters meant them forgetting about her and trying to take advantage of them too. I have to go rewatch this movie now lol

[@nicolesherman8974]

Your thumbnails are getting better and better babe ♥️.

[@iconicallyiconic]

Thankyou honey 🩷

[@Peacebewithu34]

Do a deep dive on Shannon Doherty (Brenda Walsh) in 90210, together with her friends, Kelly and Donna. Can you also do Chloe and Halle's outfits? Only if you like. Thanks for this lovely video ❤❤🥰

[@tgirl1021]

I hated how the guys did not apologize to Eva at the end of the movie. She apologized to them for all of her overstepping, but what they did, how they essentially hurt their own sister?! Idk if they could be forgiven!

[@angelaholmes8888]

I really enjoyed this version of the taming of the shrew gabrielle did a great job I watched this film when I was a kid and I totally understand where eva was coming from I never understood the negativity she got by some people

[@shkaragriffin]

I’m so glad you did Deliver Us From Eva lol me and my sisters used to say which sister we were going to be growing up since it’s four of us and no brothers as well lol. I love your outlook. I agree with your perspective on most if not all of your videos! Thank you so much for the content girly! I used to feel that Eva was evil as a child (I didn’t understand it) but now as an adult, I could definitely relate to her feelings and understand how they really had her messed up. Mike smh. Weirdo from the jump lol.

[@charlita25]

I loved Gabriel 's role in this being that i am the olderst sibling. I could relate

[@realSimoneCherie]

This reminds me of the Justice for Aunt Teri movement ✊🏾

[@marvaaba3929]

This was so true and soon as she got a man she still couldn’t live like damn could she move to Chicago for her and if she wants to date ray let her and the sister’s focused their life’s around her and the men blamed Eva and it was the sisters..

[@ellebassa9288]

Your thumbnails are gorgeous

[@iconicallyiconic]

Thankyou doll 🩷✨

[@ashleyware82]

i love 3LW's "Ghetto Love and Heartbreak" & "This Goes Out" playing in the background 🥰

[@charlita25]

This movie 🎥 was well cast. 🎥🙌🏾💯

[@VendoLoveBug]

Do Aaliyah in Romeo must die

[@bougiebohemian5393]

This would be an awesome deep dive!!

[@Peacebewithu34]

Also, can you do Zaria from Parenthood, too? 😅

[@RambleMaven]

You have some of the most nuanced takes I’m subscribing!

[@WaterfallVee]

Parentification

[@therealmarlonbellamy]

I would like for you to do a deep dive on the following characters: Nina from Love Jones Diamond from The Players Club Monica from Love & Basketball Yvette from Baby Boy Sidney from Brown Sugar New New from ATL

[@jayjohnson3059]

Is there a video on Mona Thorne from Half & Half?

[@PrinceSolomon82]

Eva Character reminds me of Candace Owens. If there was ever a Candace Owens Bio Eva's personality would be perfect.

[@badbitch.imthebar]

I couldn't stand Mike AT ALL!! The other husbands were annoying as well, but his character was very sneaky and shady and very true to who he is in real life and what he did to Tisha Campbell. being so co-dependent is definitely not healthy at all and I think some people like others relying on them because they feel loved but it's not a healthy situation at all

[@brittanyguyton3987]

Gabi and the girls were serving looks.

[@bkimatab]

I miss these kinds of movies. 😢

[@asleung988]

Mannn I need to get a list of your top 10 movies, I love everything about you :')

[@JalenTheCreative]

Sidenote: The 3LW instrumentals as your background music. *chefs kiss*

[@badbitch.imthebar]

I also loved some of the looks in this movie, like Eva's cream leather skirt suit and her equestrian look

[@camgeorge6222]

Basically the taming of the shrew by Shakespeare .

[@SixthDivison]

I need to watch this again. I can hardly remember what happened.

[@boojeecloset]

If you do tv shows, id love a deep dive on the cast of Single Ladies 💛

[@tionak]

Could you do a deep dive on Woo!? She was so charming and charismatic I loved her.

[@yetundearowosegbe3274]

As for me i was in love with her character ❤❤❤❤

[@yetundearowosegbe3274]

I think i have to rewatch this now

[@goddessnoir290]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@gracetinuagboola737]

I always thought it was fair to get the whole Dandridge fund/ inheritance. From 18 Eva worked to put her sisters in school. One was a doctor, one owned a hair salon, the other I forgot... but all those years of lost wages b:c she couldn't go to school. I thought she should get it. Most importantly I do y think the husbands had any business about that. IMO

[@AFocusedLiving]

Love ya❤

[@ChristaBlack-gn8ys]

The men that the sisters were dating were so fcking annoying, gross and irritating 💀

[@nokupireleis_np]

Please do a video on Jeff Stinco , the male fashion icon of the 2000s ;)

[@Ivoryjohnson25]

Hey babe ! I clicked on this video so mfn fast lol 😂❤

[@VendoLoveBug]

I love this movie

[@truthseeker9249]

I'm going to play devil's advocate here for one second. (This is long but if you're interested I think you should read this.) Tim and Daryl had some pretty legitimate reasons to hate Eva and to be so upset about their respective relationships with their WIVES. Tim is ready to have a baby, Kareenah isn't. That's a difficult rough patch for any married couple. But they can't even work through it and maybe get Kareenah to a point where she IS ready for a baby because Eva keeps getting in the way. She inserts herself in their private business and gives unsolicited advice. She gets inside Kareenah's head to the point where she's constantly psyching herself out about being intimate with Tim or even about so much as TALKING about having a baby. Kareenah isn't ready for a baby but isn't even opening up to the idea of it because of Eva's constant meddling. That would make any man extremely frustrated about their marriage and with their sister-in-law. Daryl just wants to be physical with his wife and not just with...you know... THAT kind of intimacy but all physical intimacy whether it's s*x or cuddling. He's even willing to open his mind to the stuff she finds interesting just to be closer with her (when we see him letting Jacqui read him a book and being okay with her doing it again later). Eva just invites herself into their home and actively interferes in their alone time or Jacqui just up and abandons him and their alone time the minute she thinks Eva needs her for something. He wants to be physically close with his wife without someone else getting in the way of that, plus he wants to be as important to his wife and she is to him. Is that really too much to ask? So of course he's frustrated too. Neither of them still had the right to do this horrible thing to Eva but at least they had good reasons to feel the way they did. And remember some things. This whole thing was MIKE'S idea. Yeah they were a part of it but he came up with it and pushed for it the hardest. He was also the ONLY person that was making a big deal of the stupid Dandridge Fund, Daryl and Tim were even telling him that he was being stupid about that and needed to let it go and stop talking about it. He wanted that Dandridge Fund dissolved so that he could get a taste of that money. HIS biggest complaint about him and Bethany's relationship is Bethany always hesitating to let him sleep over with her overnight. That's a legitimate thing to be frustrated over but not THAT much. Everyone is different and has different boundaries, especially women. They move at different paces for what they are comfortable with involving their man. But Mike has the gall to do all 3 of those things I mentioned when he isn't even married to Bethany. Coming up with this stupid plan and wanting to hurt Eva that badly would still be messed up even if they were married, wanting to get his hands on that money would still make him a selfish, greedy gold digger, he wouldn't deserve that money even if they were married, and him not getting to spend the night with her wouldn't even be a thing if he was married to her. Mike is a a selfish greedy jerk who doesn't give a damn about Eva's feelings even just a little bit, at least the other two were remorseful for what they did. He doesn't give a damn about his precious Bethany's feelings either because he won't commit to her but yet still wants SO much from her including to get his dirty little hands on her money. Deep down he may not even truly love her at all. So while Tim and Daryl were antagonists to me, Mike is the only true villain. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.

[@niarahstansberry834]

I loved Eva lmao and I am the eldest sister of 3.

[@dionneking8]

I am eva....I understand that being responsible from birth

[@euro-trashling]

They faked his death!!! Wtf. I can't imagine my partner going along with that. I'd get a restraining order from them cause like... Why are you trying to shutter my psyche like that?! Are you good? Do you need a hobby perhaps? ☠️