Everyone has Messes! You’re not alone | Extreme Declutter with Me!

[@drewconway7135]

I totally get the mentality of keeping things out of the landfill. I used to be the same way, and I still feel that tug. And then one day I looked around my house and realized “Oh no… my home has become the landfill!” 🤦‍♂️

[@bethstratton3391]

I love that you recognised that about your surroundings and did something about it. 😀 The fight to want to keep things out of the landfill and be environmentally responsible is real for so many of us. However, decluttering to keep our own homes functional and tidy is more important, provided we learn not to keep re-buying stuff we don’t need and also discourage others n our lives from doing the same. Also, provided we don’t allow ourselves to be the acceptance point for everyone else’s stuff just to keep it from the landfill.

[@lindamusser7370]

My thought exactly.

[@AmyWhoLovesFlowers]

As a habitual recycler, I must say there have been some times when fretting about recycling (sorting, disposing, etc.) has been too much for me and I've just thrown a bunch of the 'potentially recyclables' away (as long as they weren't useful objects for donation nor hazardous). Not the greatest thing to do, but it's honestly sometimes such a relief to just throw the trash away when I need to! You might consider the big picture, that recycling at all other times may forgive a few 'trash'-gressions in the broad scheme of things! 😅

[@lunahelena5329]

I also have this mentality and some time ago I realized that most of the responsibility lies in people producing things and buying them - owning them is just the last link in the chain. This freed me a lot of the guilt but the sadness remained

[@rachellskerlec4713]

You just said something in this video that I think is so important when to cluttering especially for folks who are on the hoarder spectrum... Think of all the reasons to get rid of things when you pick them up instead of focusing on all the reasons to keep them. Something I'm learning recently is that most things are replaceable But our time is not so we don't want to be spending time churning the hoard.

[@gracesimplified3860]

There’s an irony to the fact that you were a storage facilities manager. Maybe with your progression in hoarding recovery, being laid off is part of that progression to lead you to greater things. 😊

[@fianorian]

Such a fantastic mindset change. Great job! One thing someone else online once said, that struck a chord with me was that, I am not a department store for friends and family. It is not my job to hang on to stuff, just in case someone else may, one day, need it. Also...love that dress.

[@lesleywalsh4517]

Greetings from London. I’d love to see a pile of decluttered items from your hubby. If he doesn’t want to appear on screen maybe do a before and after add on to you video. Btw you always look beautifully dressed and so well.

[@Benkissel1]

Been watching your videos for 4 years now, and lately I feel like you seem so much more comfortable and laid back in videos and im lovin it! You are truly shining ❤️

[@JLJ2730]

Since the Christmas cave seems to be an access point for plumbing and possible leak issues, would it be better to create a wall of storage to put seasonal and decor type stuff? It would give you better access for those things you miss changing out each season and reduce you just churning it. We've been redoing my mom's storage and creating shelves to store boxes. It has worked out so much better than having a cave of boxes pushed together and on top of each other. And it seems your kids have outgrown their basement playroom so unless you are going to update it to a teen hangout, I would just convert the whole basement to shelves and use the middle as workout and a craft studio.

[@lakbaydiva]

I spent about 2 hours today cleaning out my garage. Bagged trash, declutter pile is together, swept, organized a little. It is not finished, but I feel better about it. You inspired me to get it done! I'm so proud of us! Not just you and me, but all of us who are doing the best we can. 💖

[@ChristianAnneSmith]

We don’t have plastic bags here in Bellingham, Washington at stores although I don’t quite understand why Dollar tree and target still have them…. They still come into my life. I keep a very small bag of them on the shelf in the cupboard and if it gets too hard to stuff the other ones in there that I have too many. My local food bank my bank is always looking for donations of plastic bags. I’m not sure if they use them to give to unhoused individuals or what they use them for but I wonder if you were local Bank also would want them?

[@brg2743]

Ready to get rid of a bunch of stuff instead of churning it for years.

[@bethstratton3391]

You did great in this episode, Ms Heart. I really love that you said you recognised you are no longer a Storage Facility Manager and that you don’t feel the need to hang on to all the stuff connected to your old job. This shows a really amazing amount of progress. I am so proud of you for your understanding and dedication to not letting your past self image and old job interfere with your current life and your willingness to empty out your basement. I relate to what you were saying, because I remember it was hard for my husband to get rid of all the stuff associated with his old job of 21 years when he retired. I helped him declutter half a room full of stuff that he brought back from work. He told me after we had decluttered all of it, that he realised he didn’t miss any of it whatsoever, and in fact he was glad it was no longer cluttering up our home. This made me so joyful for him.

[@lisachaput2952]

Here, in Calif. plastic bags were banned. Last week, though, a charity food distribution center needed them to hand out food to the homeless. They said they go through 200 bags a week. I'm going to research that here, find a charity close by that needs them, so when I have too many, I can take them over. Oh, and even though bags are banned, we still have them, they just charge you for them....🙄

[@sarahsmom1002]

I'm in Ontario, Canada & plastic bags have been banned here for a while. You can't even pay for one. All you can buy, if you forget your own bags, are the reusable fabric type. Most people have too many of these since they often forget to bring in their own bags from home or their car when shopping. They get rid of the extras when they donate items to the local food bank or a thrift store, as the case may be.

[@mrandisg]

I'm in a small town in northwest Georgia, and so far they haven't banned plastic bags here yet. I've been preparing in case they do, trying to get into the habit of bringing my own reusable bags, but having ADHD makes that difficult. Still, I kind of wonder if there are too many people in my local area who would raise a stink if our stores ever tried to ban or charge for plastic bags. I can picture some pretty funny scenes! Well, they wouldn't be funny to the store employees, but still...I kinda feel like our area is going to be one of those last holdouts if the plastic bag ban goes global. My local food bank uses plastic bags too. So does my local library. They hand them out for your checked-out items if you forget to bring your own bag. Once I donated a huge collection of them there, and I ended up getting some of them back later when I checked out books! I knew they were mine because they were from a store that had closed down years before! 🤣

[@AmyWhoLovesFlowers]

Oh ~ such a pretty dress, Ms. Heart!! 🌺 I love it! You look like a sunset-sunrise in this video! 🩷💜💙✨

[@elisamaurerbailey2787]

Perfectly said Mrs. Heart!

[@katrinamuritala3207]

Can’t wait to see you start on the garage and attic xx

[@Objet_Dart]

You could delegate the sorting of old paperwork to Pepper. She seems very enthused about helping. ;)

[@keelienne]

Please show the part again where you throw it in the recycling bin 🙏

[@keelienne]

Oh, and PS: I am really looking forward to a series where hubby dwells in his memories! And will he be like Wilson? Will he wear a mask, or sunglasses and the mobile in front of his face because now he ist too WOOOOOOO vurnable? This will be so very awesome!!! Oh, and I really hope the snake does a good job to support Christmas!

[@elizabethpaul989]

It might help you stop churning things if you make the recycling a part of the actual video.

[@connieverbeck1110]

Holy cow!! You did that almost effortlessly!! You rocked it. So glad you are emotionally able to Look and decide. You have so kept me motivated to keep on my my whole house declutter I have committed to! Given my self 18 months to see where I’m at. Hope I have gone through the whole house at least twice. Time will tell. I know the impact decluttering makes on how fast and well I can maintain. And since I have through the past maybe 20 years, it shouldn’t get to bogged down, Have to accommodate my 74yo needs. It is still doable. Only slower! lol. And I’m ok with that done. It will get done eventually. Gone are the days of marathon deep clean and decluttering! And I’m ok. Because I know how wonderful it is on the other side. Take care all.

[@jessicaquiroz7178]

I use an old Tidy Cat litter container for my plastic bags. When the container gets full and no more bags can fit, I recycle the ones that can’t fit in there. That’s how I know when to declutter them. I gave them a space that they have to fit in.

[@Anberel]

One of the things I really loved from the book How to Keep House While Drowning is that it gives you permission to choose saving yourself over saving your stuff from the landfill. Having to rehome or recycle everything can be another excuse to not declutter. A lot of your churned items were things you meant to “save” by giving away or selling them, but instead they just continued to be part of the hoard. I absolutely do my best to recycle and rehome things when I have the health and energy to do so. I no longer guilt myself for putting things in the trash if that’s what is best for my health in that moment. Put on your own oxygen mask before helping others.

[@eyrunsigrunardottir6977]

Congratulations on the shift in mindset you talk about, it really comes through in your videos. Something has obviously changed, it´s so great.

[@Sylwia2402]

Yea longer videos 😊

[@alisonsmith7162]

G'day from Australia Melanie. We also have a plastic bag ban here too. If you did want to use up some of your bags for bin liners, you could maybe line each bin with 5 or 6, one inside the other, and then they do serve a purpose for a season, and the rest could go. I imagine too, that those coming to your yard sales will usually have some means of getting their finds home eg car etc. I'm so pleased for you, that you're speaking at Get Organised HQ!!

[@jacquig1939]

I watched another video and they were told "you can't keep things out of the landfill indefinitely, everything will end up there eventually" and while I'm still going to be mindful and recycle it's okay to let things go if I'm just becoming a temporary landfill storage.

[@Stefunny82]

2 paws of approval from Miss Pepper on that massive pile! ❤

[@sherrygantt2158]

You are amazing. Every video shows how much better you are getting. Keep up the great work!!

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

Good job on this one. Your decluttering muscles are getting stronger and stronger ❣️

[@soak785]

Thank you

[@susanmunoz7688]

It really shows how much you have grown, your still the same lovely person now see how valuable you are without keeping everything! I also love your sweetness in including we.❤

[@jwb3136]

Great work and you look fantastic in todays video. Summer looks great on you ❤

[@lisachaput2952]

Ok, now I reached the end of the video and Ms. ❤, You make quite the dent! Impressive! Glad your thought processes have gotten easier! You rock!🎶🎶

[@alainapotaduh]

I just love these big piles! You're doing so good! It's been really cool watching YOU grow during your journey. I do want to let you know, you really shouldn't be diffusing essential oils in a home with a cat as they are toxic. They lack an enzyme in their liver that breaks them down. Diffusing directly puts the oils into the air, which then come back down and land on your cat or surfaces they lay on (which they lick to clean themselves), or are breathed in. Please reconsider using an EO diffuser with Ms. Pepper in your home!

[@josephdaly2015]

Wow that was absolutely fantastic, well done. Paper is the bane of my life too. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🐈

[@araceligiacoman]

It’s great that you say “we” because one way or another “we” all have some things that we hold onto & we can all relate 😊 happy to see your journey in this & so proud of you because it’s part of healing as well 🙏🏼

[@decide2day815]

Truly amazing to see how your thinking about clutter has totally changed! It’s wonderful to see how easily you can do this now. ❤❤❤

[@christinedisneyqueen5746]

We are all in this together! 💜

Great videos! I love the way you are filming now 😊

[@debratakagawa4764]

We are in this together. I watch your channel to see all your progress and laugh at some of your silly antics. You have made such giant steps of progress over the last few years. I found another channel ‘Peeling away the clutter’ she is where you were about 4 years ago. So because of your channel I can encourage her journey to unclutter her home.

[@lakbaydiva]

I've watched some of her videos. I wish they could collab! 💖

[@thebeachyfarmhouse6410]

I have also watched some of her videos!

[@mrandisg]

That name looked familiar, so I looked it up, and I have watched at least one of her videos. So I went ahead and subbed. Thanks for the suggestion!

[@JV-cd3ku]

You dress in beautiful colors! All colors from the Bright Spring Type. They suit you perfectly well.

[@christineshultz7615]

I am so looking forward to when you are creating the macro organized bin spaces. You have made amazing progress thus far!

[@kellyharris4639]

That folder… yesterday I went through the corner of my living room where I keep my “current” craft projects. I had the same folder full of photocopies of old patterns. I recycled it. Since Friday , 5 more large bags have left our house.

[@honeywell7892]

My province was one of the first to ban the plastic shopping bag. I hoarded the last ones to use and would get them from friends in other provinces that still had them as I used them for this and that. What resulted in the reusable bags only was having an abundance of those in the house..lol...they were donated to a food bank.

[@delbelcoure]

Your journey helps me so much on my journey - thank you for sharing!

[@claraabelha]

you were great letting your old work things go ❤ time to create space for new amazing memories!

[@mrandisg]

Yay!!! So happy to see you're going to be doing Get Organized HQ again! I already got my ticket! Can't wait to see all of you guys!! 💖💖💖💖

[@donnahilton8924]

I had success throwing all the paper in a box/basket & saving them to go thru while watching tv. Not Jeopardy, or anything i had to pay attention to, but it made it much easier.

[@ZellaPusz]

he variety of textures in the LYXBAG tpack is impressive. From smooth leather to textured suede, there's something for everyone.

[@theannamueller]

you have come so far in understanding as to why you hoarded and i am amazed at how easily you are able to toss so many things! i gave my huge collection of plastic bags to the store where people in need can get clothes for free but most of the time forget to bring a bag for the items they choose and the ladies that work there were very happy about that 'donation'. i kept the two most pretty reusable bags and did the same with all the rest of them. then i bought 3 bag rolls in different sizes that fit perfectly into my kitchen drawer which has been such a relief, because the bulk is gone and i am well equipped for any eventuality. and on a side note - i really like your dress ☺

[@jeannebowes2898]

I love your happy summer dresses! You always inspire me to let go of items!

[@charishurt1768]

Wow huge tossy congratulations so very proud of you💜🦄

[@charishurt1768]

Your strong when it comes to paper clutter congratulations fantastic job beautiful lady ❤️

[@TheJoyFinder]

Such a cute dress.💛

[@colleenpomeroy3024]

YOU are Wonderful changing lives❤

[@stefbmccoy8297]

Best part of my friday is your videos. Hope you have a nice weekend.

[@jennybird2770]

Miss Heart- I just gotta say I adore you and Miss Pepper paws so much! I look forward to your videos every week! You are a light and an ins-purr-ation - get it?? Haha! Have a lovely day :) thank you 😃😻😸❤❤❤

[@jeno264]

Look how much space is in the basement now! 😯💖

[@CherylCoolidge]

you are doing amazing!!!!!!!!

[@MsArtistwannabe]

Well done. Great tossy tossy pile.

[@judenebaer9997]

That's great 😊❤

[@michellerobillard4067]

At the end of last month I decluttered 2 big trash bags of clothes and a walmart bag of kitchen stuff and a walmart bag of shoes and I'm still going through stuff but are thrift store isn't taking donations right now because they are moving into a new place so I'm getting my donations together and moving it into our storage so they are out of here and not in my way your doing a good job and you help me out too so keep up the good work and I'll see you in your next video

[@tizianachiffi1204]

Omg, that dress looks fabulous on you! 💗💜🤍🌴 Since you posted twice this week, does it mean you will do so every week from now on? 🤗 Hubby doesn't need to be on camera if he doesn't feel comfy about it. You can film his tossy tossy pile and the opened up space as you did for yours! In your old videos of decluttering the shed and garage, he was on camera more than i expected btw! Anyway, you are a warrior Miss Heart, all of us are rooting for you! 🤍✨️

[@sterterous]

Oh wow! Miss Heart, you have come so far! We are proud of you. Thank you for sharing.

[@goldfishsnake]

as you were talking about being able to give hoarded things to others, it was making me wonder if you've ever thought there's a connection between your childhood bullying and feeling rejected by others and your gift giving patterns today? Do you think there's a connection for you where you're trying to self-sooth those childhood emotions _you_ felt by gift giving to others (making _them_ feel accepted / trying to avoid your child or another child feeling rejected like you did, or making another person more likely to like and accept you / avoiding feeling rejected yourself)

[@GILLIANMOOR-ed9ii]

I know your decluttering but love your nail colour😊

[@rebeckamattisson5083]

Wow, you are radiating! Your energy levels seem to have sky rocketed. 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤ Awesome work, as always!

[@AgnesVandenBosch]

Give your bags to thrift stores

[@courtnez]

Rockstar!!

[@JaniceIsLearning]

I just consolidated my stash of plastic bags, so they are available for use. (NJ, too.)

[@heatherwieler726]

If it is a drain only that needs cleaning out and the snake doesn't work - try finding a company that does sewer & drain cleaning- not a plumber. They are a lot cheaper than plumbers.

[@melanietrester]

Hello from Germany hi Miss Heart and miouw pepper.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 Basement declutter🎉🎉🎉🎉 good job

[@erinmaclean5064]

While I love that you usually donate the proceeds of your yard sales, they're a great opportunity to sock away plumber funds as well

[@sharonsomers5513]

You have really gotten the decluttering muscles you are doing such a great job. You look beautiful in that dress.

[@justusewater1]

Congrats on being part of that panel!!! What a gem to share with others.

[@daiweibi5302]

It is amazing that you have such ideas of declutter the space and get it organized when u are hoarder😂

[@thebeachyfarmhouse6410]

That was a huge tossy tossy pile and miss pepper was there to support u tru it all! ❤❤❤

[@zsuzsannabak1530]

You don't need to be a hoarder to keep bunch of little things for years than eventually say What was I thinking to hold on and store these items for so long 😂

[@andrearidgeway939]

I love your kitty helper 💕

[@rachellskerlec4713]

Omg! I cannot wait until you and hubby go through his stuff!!! I'm going to make my hubby watch it with me!

[@michellewanner3921]

Love your videos and talking it out. Your dresses are so cute!

[@elizabethbrundagemediajour150]

You can ask Ms Pepper kitty to use her sharp claws for shredding paper. Ha ! ❤

[@Siures]

OMG, the picture behind you is so beautiful ❤ Do you plan on using them? I imagine a reading nook at the window with this nearby, a cup of tea and a good novel. Plastic bags are really good for yard sales. I also have a small stash as a minimalist for rainy days (literally).

[@scfirebird]

love all your videos so much! please be careful with essential oils though they are very toxic to cats!! don’t want ms pepper to get sick

[@alanbirkner1958]

August 2024. I enjoy sorting and tossing papers and trash so much that I volunteer at a local museum and our library. Tina, Al's wife

[@alanbirkner1958]

BTW, do you have retirement funds and college funds savings? Before you buy more makeup, clothing, or crafts, fund your retirement and the kids' college. Tina, Al's wife

[@minimaladjacent]

THE bag of bags... I don't miss those days... I remember trying to get my bro to reduce his bags bc there were SOOO many, kept for sooo long as it was. I still have tons of plastic bags we are trying to use up... keeping some bc they are of stores that don't exist anymore too. food banks and similar places, fruit stand owners love getting bags- plastic or reusables. heads up most essential oils can be toxic to cats.

[@marialeahey5380]

I dumped my essential oils on my grass. It’s amazing how little liquid is in those bottles

[@tngirlz4622]

Woo hoo, way to go Ms. Heart!🥳👏👏👏 🦄 No need to feel shame, I’m sure many of us have basements crowded with clutter - I know I do! I’ve worked on it this summer, but progress is slower than I hoped. You’ve inspired me, though, and I’m going to put in a little time today to hopefully make some progress. 💪📦🗑😊 Good luck figuring out what to do with your work tree🎄- maybe it could be your basement tree when you get space cleared out to be a family room? Or you could donate it to your church? Also, if you have a clogged basement drain it may be tree roots impacting the pipes leading to municipal waste water pipes. Not sure what the solution is - or how you’d know if tree roots were the problem. But how great that you’ve cleared enough space in the basement that the contents of the Christmas cave have somewhere to go while awaiting repairs!

[@flightlessphoenix77]

'Everyone has messes' oh boy do I this week. We just had repairs done in our bathroom and kitchen (a leak damaged the floor slowly over years before we could see the issues). Now I have to clean construction dust off every single thing in my flat and put all the things we had to move back... oh and take all the junk out of the attic ready to go to the tip with the builders rubbish. Wish me luck?

[@stefs3460]

WE are all right there with you! Btw if the extra long snake doesn't work ask your town for plumber recommendations for further estimates. This happened to me it was still a lot of money but more affordable than the big companies because the city recommended a local man and his son.

[@liobraunt]

I'm 21 years old, a nursing student. I've been struggling with procrastination for a long time now. It was stressful and tbh, it really took a toll on my mental health. I don't want to self diagnose myself, but upon discovering your channel I found I showed some behaviors same as yours. Like in my room rn, there are lots of clothes and papers, random items stuck in my space rn. When I look at them as a whole they dont seem important to me but when I take a focus look on it I realized they are important so I keep them. This behavior has become repetitive and now my room is a mess. I must say I am actually a viewer of your channel since last year. And today I revisit you again, I am doing my best to motivate myself and move myself and start ACTUAL CLEANING AND ORGANIZING. I must say, a big thanks to you :)) Sorry for my grammar. Not really good at english

[@thomaseiber4445]

Congrats on 50000+ from Monica

[@Peanut1965]

Thank god everything is online no reason to have paper bills, or statements come in the mail. I use to keep a years worth of bills and I finally said no more even before I went paperless Same with flyers they are great but there’s way to many. I put a sign on my mailbox telling the person I don’t want any. And now I look on our flyer app. Saves a ton of clutter and time going through it all

[@jenniferr-f3157]

Awesome declutter today!!! I so wish I lived near you - I would definitely take a bag of bags off your hands! I hate having to buy garbage bags now!

[@janeorr3074]

Thank you! I signed up, through your link for the Sept. event!!! Best wishes!!

[@alba_Pi]

you've grown sooo much! I'm so proud of you 💜🦄

[@croccatcher]

Amazing job as always ❤

[@francinehogsett3065]

You did good. Your dress is beautiful and so are you 😊❤️

[@danazzimmerman5534]

Yay! You keep on going girl! You’ve got this❤❤❤❤

[@huggingMonster]

Yes, the video motivated me. Thank you.

[@kathyprusak2762]

You gave me an understanding that I am not a slob i have a problem that I can fix. Thanks ❤❤❤

[@bruckssarah]

I just love your attitude so much buddy! That’s all❤