EVERYTHING'S CHANGING...discussing identity, creativity and big changes.

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In today's episode, get cozy and come rug cuddle with us, Kate and Jooooeyyy, as we get real and dive into some personal and vulnerable stories and explain why and how everything is changing. What it means for us and what it mean's for you, this channel, our business and just being a creative and a productive person in this current world! We discuss identity crisis, confidence and insecurity, becoming a mom, Ariana Grande, feeling stuck and how to get out of that, how to actually be a creative person this year and our tips on assessing your life and motivation for the future. Also let us know what you think, should we keep this format going? What topics do you want to hear us two interior design entrepreneurs talk about? Rug Cuddles forever.
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[@MrKate]

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[@Zzz3331]

I’ve played this before, it’s actually really fun game! ☺️

[@iceicebabii1023]

❤made your bow rings =) *smiles*

[@ArtfulShelley]

That "stuckness" will change when Pluto shifts into (eccentric, wild, colorful, airy) Aquarius. We are at the end degree of Pluto in Capricorn (grounded, stoic, stable energy). I feel it. A lot of people are feeling this. But it will SHIFT. To be cliché... SHIFT HAPPENS. 😁 January 21, to answer "when does that happen?"

[@staceymcclellan5332]

I think this video is so needed. The journey of becoming a parent is so extraordinary but it does require you essentially putting yourself on the back burner in a sense. And that does leave you in a stuck position as they transition and grow. I feel like no one talks about that. Good job guys

[@MrKate]

Thank you for weighing in! We appreciate you!!

[@verylindsay3289]

To be completely honest, I didn't fully embrace motherhood and my new identity until my youngest was 5 years old. Inside, I rebelled against the new version of who I had to be and missed who I once was. I loved who I was before kids. Now, though, I love what motherhood has made me. I love this version of myself. Even with my chiari malformation and my weeks long debilitating migraines, my kids have turned into such incredible empathetic and kind little humans and... I did that. ❤

[@MrKate]

👏👏👏 amen!

[@drlott1]

That's so real. So glad you feel you can embrace it now and truly be proud of it all ❤

[@anniebananie444]

11 years at a torturous grind of a job, I’ve been laid off. I’m vacillating between utter elation, excitement and being absolutely petrified by fear. I am inherently a very creative, artistic person, a lot of what you guys are talking about resonates with me, especially creativity is language for our soul ❤👩🏼‍🦱

[@MrKate]

Time for your soul to do the talking!!

[@emilyfeely3978]

I felt like I was chatting with a friend today. Something that helped me understand how massive of a shift becoming a mother is is the word matrescence especially when you compare it to the word adolescence. You're never the same. You can carry parts of you forward but its ok to leave things in the past. It is so freeing to step into your new form and claim your space. Letting go of people's perceptions of you and the perception you previously put forth is a beautiful thing. hugs.

[@MrKate]

Yes great point! Thank you for sharing!

[@maryhornsby9441]

I had my first child the next to last semester of art college and now 10 years later I was looking at some of the art that I had been making then and almost cried. I was so proud of the things I had time to make then, but looking at the art I am able to make now, as a homeschool Mom of 3, it's just so minimal and things I am not proud of. One of my goals this year is to make art meaningful again. I'm not sure what that means, but I believe I a become unstuck too!

[@MrKate]

Sounds like a great goal! Give yourself patience and grace. You’re doing great!

[@pdq5465]

Good luck with that. I hope that you’re able to find time, with 3 kids.🤞🍀

[@sheilavanduynfote5539]

This feeling of being stuck can also be applied to empty nesters, for 20+ years you were responsible for the children you brought into the world and did the very best you could to raise them to productive adults, supporting their choices. Then comes finding yourself again in your 40’s and me at 72. NO ONE prepares you for this new life. I totally enjoyed this episode❤

[@LindaKayHolevas]

I came to say the same thing. There’s not a lot of content creators covering the ins & outs of becoming an empty nester. I had a huge identity crisis after my 3 boys moved out & I was left alone. I know I was a good mom. I raised 3 incredible humans & we love each other so much, but with them gone & starting their own families, I am trying to find out who I am on my own. It’s exciting, but scary at the same time. I realized that my entire identity was being their mom. I have no regrets, but I am definitely going to follow Kate & Joey’s podcast! I’m excited!

[@aileenreynolds5604]

Yes! Empty nests that refill and empty intermittently! Parenting 20-somethings is more challenging than toddlers! Being firm on your boundaries requires having a life of your own. So many of my friends have given theirs up permanently. Kudos to Kate for balancing motherhood, creativity, career and staying true to herself!

[@sashac7002]

💖💖💖💖💖💖 Power comes from the choices you make. This is already another level of rug cuddles

[@MrKate]

🙌💯

[@CSPeterson93]

Love this video, I have had a feeling of stuck, I’ve wanted to “move” in so many ways, move home, move up in career, and physically move more. This is very relatable, thanks for sharing!

[@Zzz3331]

I relate ❤

[@MrKate]

I’m so happy you relate to this! Thank you for your comment and good luck with your movements!!

[@imscanon]

The thing I've done that keeps me more cemented in the real world is I don't have social media on my phone. At the end of the day, I'll come on here and check out YT, and sometimes YT, IG, FB, and TT randomly. That's my relax time to see what's happening out there. I have a book handy on my phone if I'm out and have to wait a bit for something, I can read instead of scrolling feeds. Not having SM on my phone means I have to cause to be on it. It's in my purse when I'm not home and on the table or somewhere near if I'm home. If I get a call or text, I'll answer it, but otherwise, I only use it for directions, the calculator, photos, alarms, calendar, etc. It's not my social place. That's not real and it's lonely so I'd rather call a real friend or hang with someone in person. I think people have turned it into their social circle or shopping portal and are forgetting it's just images and snapshots of lives that aren't what they seem and products we don't really need. Time to fix that.

[@StrawberryPhys]

You both are such good parents to Moon! He's such a lucky boy. 😁 We only see a few minutes here and there but we all can see how much you let him be himself and allow his own creativity to come through. I love hearing you guys talk to each other. You're so honest and expressive. The respect you have for each other is unmatched. 💜

[@JamieNicole729]

I think Joey should do a whole production for ‘all I want for Christmas’. Make it a family event with moon. Go big or go home 😂

[@maricruzmartin8510]

I need about two more hours of this conversation

[@MrKate]

🙌🙌🙌

[@angelmooncloud]

Thank you for calling me out on all of my saved pins and reel ideas. 😂 this year I do want to me more creative. Actually making choreography, painting my room, sketching and drawing. Thanks Kate and Joey for the encouragement to MOVE! 🔥🔥🔥

[@MrKate]

Yesss!!! You got this!! Go forth and create!!!

[@hjisagirl]

I get this. I am a painter. I went to Italy for two months to enjoy art, and absorb and get inspired. I came home and didn’t paint for a solid year and a half. My art , which previous to my time in Italy, I was happy with, and after seeing so much art, and so many masterpieces, my art looked like trivial and I felt like I was nothing but a poser. In time, I crawled out from under that for the most part, but my focus on painting now is just for the love of being creative, and less about the end product.

[@MrKate]

Enjoying the journey of creativity! Thanks for this comment 🫶

[@grandmakiki1371]

"Creativity is our soul's language"

[@rollierollout]

Having a child is an expansion of your soul. It's beautiful and painful and happiness incarnate. It makes you relive your most difficult and painful memories, rethinking and reshaping them as lessons for your child. It hurts a lot, but it's pure inner growth. I've got a teen, and let me tell you, it gets harder. But you'll love it. ❤

[@MrKate]

WOW beautifully put ❤️

[@kingusm8954]

I wanna hear Kate sing All I want for Christmas! :D

[@mariahurtado6853]

Me too! Sing!!

[@ashleyrmartinez]

Wow , this was so needed in the creative community! More of these honest and transparent conversation’s. This felt like having a nice talk with friends ❤️.

[@linagardelidart1476]

Just want to say that you are the first ones to put my last three year struggle into words... and it felt sooo relieving. About being a crative person who's always identified and thrived on creativity... and also doing it as a public person. And now being a mom (two girls 7&10) and just feel STUCK. I have never seemed to find anyone who could relate to that. And now here you two superheroes are talking about it.

[@user-qk8wq7cx4x]

Anytime you guys have shared little tidbits in the past in your past content I’ve always wanted to hear more! We love this! Happy 2024 to you and your fam, hoping for more blessings and new things!!!

[@kaileywmiranda]

ugh i loved this so much. thank you for sharing. i hope you do more pod style for us. good luck on your 2024!

[@arlenegibson9158]

You will continually change your whole life. I think we all just hit certain times in our lives that are changing in many ways.

[@mommamimaashouse9511]

I was a single Mom of 2, but, also a stepmom of 5. My role in their lives didn’t change even though my relationship with their Dad did. My house was always full of kids and critters. Now, the youngest of all 7 kids is about to turn 28. Time flies. I’ve been an empty nester for 3 years and finally, maybe, starting to become my own person again. At age 56, my creativity is back. Not just making simple crafts with my kids. I picked up crochet again 5 years ago. I don’t know how to read a pattern, so I just stick my hook through the yarn and create. Colour leads the way. The rest just happens. Thank you for this video…I am inspired. 🥰

[@LindaKayHolevas]

I absolutely loved this video. It really hit on so many levels. I am an empty nester & trying to figure out who I am again. I am also a very creative person. I am excited to follow this journey with you & becoming unstuck. I’m excited for 2024. Our thoughts create our reality, so by changing how we perceive something, we can change our lives. Great job! 👏

[@Ambrosethebard]

Joey is the driver, determined to get to the destination. Kate is the co-pilot who is guiding the driver. At the end of the day they got there together!

[@lysec9672]

I wish there was a universal symbol for self-anlytical creative people, because ive never felt so seen and heard and I dont even have a child or a business but absolutely identify with feeling stuck!

[@Liziana33]

This was fantastic! I resonate with that feeling of being stuck - I've been spending the last few years revisiting everything I loved from my adolescence and refocusing on my goals/loves/connections to find my person again. I've discovered a brand new me! ❤

[@user-ei3pt3eb2j]

love you guys❤ I'm also in my 40's mid life crisis, and resinating with so much of what you have talked about. praying for growth and movement and creativity

[@AnnettePapa]

This episode was everything I needed. HELL YES to podcast if it feels in the sweet spot for you both. KATE thank you for talking about the identity crisis of mothering, so relatable over here. Joey, loved the tool of 1-10, different roles and moving the needle just 1-2 points/yr. Will implement this “kind” tool. You two have been my fav for a LONG time. I am so here for this new, slow, embodied evolution of you both. Thanks for being leaders. ❤❤❤❤❤ Annette from Toronto

[@serenitymattingly]

My word for this year is "presence" and hearing "move your phone away" is literally what I needed to hear to move that marker on my scale.

[@MrKate]

Fantastic!! Excited for you 🫶

[@brycem953]

Loved this. I just took a year off from my engineering job because of burnout and really allowed myself to rediscover my inner child and get creative again. Recently started working again because I realized that I do in fact love Engineering myself and that I wasn't just doing it because people told me I'd be good at it. But I desperately needed that year to reteach myself how to set my own goals, that doing what Iiiii wanted wasn't selfish but necessary. And I am very happy to go back to engineering with new boundaries that allow myself to exist outside of work and nurture my creativity consistently rather than in bursts that are far and inbetween. It also allowed me to enter the journey of starting a family with a clear head and not feeling like I was just going through the motions of life. Nervous to be a mom but more willing than ever to try. Thank you so much for starting this conversation as it is not discussed nearly enough in the world

[@Zzz3331]

Loveee this style of video!❤ love hearing your thoughts and everything in that creative mind! This was very refreshing in best way possible! I can relate to a lot of the things you guys mentioned. Makes me feel less alone as cliché as it sounds it’s so true

[@MrKate]

We’re in this together! Thanks for your watching/listening 🫶

[@adriville5927]

I can totally relate. Before motherhood I really didn't understand the luxury of time. I had so much time for myself and on top of it I had my own identity. Now because I am molding a person to I have put so much of my identity into that. I want this year to be more of me reclaiming my identity too.

[@kaylacarlile10]

Oh I love this format! I love watching you and your fam evolve and just continue to be yourself! I would love to see more of this!

[@meganadair6930]

Joey and Kate, thank you so incredibly much for the real/raw talk about identity! I just became a first time mom in November of 2023. I love my baby girl and wouldn’t change a single thing that has happened in my blessed life. However, since I had our baby darling, I feel as if I completely lost who I “was”. The only way I can describe it to people is to say: “I feel like I’m chained to an angel.” I would describe myself as a Creative Weirdo as well. 😘 I love to paint, draw, sing, play my ukulele, and express my passion in any artistic way I can! Sadly, since my baby was born, I have had such a hard time trying to do ANYTHING for myself. My beautiful darling is in constant need of me for food, love, comfort, and even help with gassy tummy pains. (As I'm sure you can understand ❤.) With all of that along with extreme lack of sleep, my daughters dependency has made me feel like I won't ever get time for myself again. Feelings of selfishness and discouragement have filled my mind. (How you mentioned it)... I just don't have the same amount of time anymore. Anyway, thank you again for talking about this! It truly helps just knowing there are people out there going through the same thing I am! Thank you thank you Joey and Kate.❤️

[@jadamood]

I Absolutely agree. I am in my 40s and feel stuck too. I feel stuck in a whirlwind and I am trying to walk away from it to gather myself. It does not help working in a fast paced job. It feels great hearing this talk. Thank you ❤

[@cosmichouseofrose9788]

Love to have you both talk to other interior designers about their process and being stuck. Definitely making changes this year that been bubbling up for several years. Love to the awesome three of you!

[@alliebengochea503]

LOVE THIS!!! So relevant to many, myself included. The world as a whole is shifting, and while uncertainty is scary, I believe it's becoming a more beautiful world. Thanks for helping bring about this magical time by inspiring and uplifting so many!!! We love you!! 🤍

[@treesa2020]

Love the rug cuddle podcast idea. It is sooooo sweet. Deeper conversations about creativity from you two is just what we need.

[@chloelafrance8054]

Love you guys!! I have loved to watch you guys grow over the years and a podcast would be amazing. My husband and I are creative weirdos and new parents so this chat is definitely appreciated ❤️ thank you for being genuine and vulnerable and talking about having kids in a positive light!

[@HawaiianSkies]

Have the kid! Life is very very short! Moon is so freakin beautiful and adorable! But yes - either you put parts of YOU aside or you hire many to help so u can do your business. Can’t really have both no matter what anyone says. I know someone who had a live in. That person did the chores, helped kids w homework & when mom got home she had her special time w the kids. And weekends. If you want your business. - a nanny may help. All the best. Thanks for all your creative videos & giving us ideas. Kate - you are so creative & kind. And who doesn’t absolutely love Joey!

[@mcc1488]

I feel like so many parents feel this sense of loss of self identity, especially mothers. I often refer to my life pre kids as another lifetime ago because it really feels like it was so long ago and that I barely remember that version of me. Now that my kids are 6 and 4 I’ve really started putting more focus on myself when I can. I’m consistently working out, trying to eat better, be more selfish with my personal time, just overall focus on my mental and physical health. I’m a work in progress and trying to be a better version of myself. It has definitely helped. ❤💕

[@heydomanders]

SUCH a good ep! Super relate to feelings stuck after having kiddos and working to find my identity again.

[@NIX-SATION]

Been needing this sort of thing to listen to. This will definitely give me some creativity sparks with writing (that i've put off for a few months on one particular script), and even drawing designs, and I now have the motivation to get back to it thanks to you both. This is also SO needed in this space, and it is so relaxing. It feels like you're listening to people who understand you so much too. Let's move to a whole new chapter filled with creativity, and get the character development one step at a time!

[@MrKate]

Love this comment! Excited for you to feel like you can create again and excited to keep this conversation going 🙌🫶

[@susishearer9531]

This "Rug Cuddle" video was absolutely so needed and appreciated. I love that you both talked with each other and your viewers from your souls. Please continue this!! So many ideas and insights to take away from this. Becoming a mother to my two sons was a reality awakening in me that I had no idea how to handle for the next 18+ years. I had to learn as I went through each stage and age with them and became a "supermom", wife, career woman, college student. I kept this up until I crashed and burned. Now I seek peace and pursue it daily and have a strong faith in God. You hit the nail on the head when you talked about the "purgatory of scrolling", and how many likes and saves we can rack up using energy that could be used in much more creative and nurturing outlets. The inundation of too much energy and info available in the universe is mind-boggling and overwhelming to me. I truly hope you will move forward with a podcast in the near future. You guys ROCK!!

[@c_gaudet90]

I really needed this. As the mother of a four year old - I feel like those four years were the fastest, rewarding and exhausting years. I don’t think I’ve had the bandwidth to understand how my identity has changed and shifted since then. It’s honestly the hardest “job” I’ve ever done. It’s frustrating, taxing and thankless most of the time but rewarding all the same.

[@sophiebrockman3342]

I love these style of videos ❤ thank you for always being honest with your audience xx

[@MrKate]

Of course!! Thanks for watching!!

[@dorethacarter6480]

Great discussion and wonderfully thought provoking! At fifty-five years old I've had to rediscover myself many times through planned and unplanned life changes. Move.....it keeps you going till you find your next self and the joy will catch up with you again..A cycle that can feel refreshing versus stuck!❤

[@womanofacertainage5892]

Aside: I own the Winston sectional sofa in that GORGEOUS blue and now I want another one in that delicious green so I can use that tropical wallpaper in the room with the green sofa! I can't say enough good about the Winston sectional -- it's small enough to not overwhelm the small room it's in, yet it's large enough to cuddle with my sweetie and our pup and kitty cat, and watch a movie! I also love how we can move around the chaise part. We move it to the middle when we watch a movie so we can both put our feet there. L O V E !

[@MrKate]

Awww love that!!! Such a good idea with the center chaise!!

[@esthershambaugh2889]

Yes! Love this! This moves along with your journey so well and for me it's what I want to watch as we are all growing and changing so you changing just makes sense! And yes to phone free time! I am working to overcome the desire to always be on my phone. ❤❤❤

[@Candice-Smith]

Totally agree with everything you said. Not enough people talk about how you loose your own identity as a mother. It has been super hard for me to maintain my creative interest and feel like I am my own person, not just a mom but me.

[@michaelamaestas4950]

Being 40 years old. You are Maturing into a Real Grownup ... You are bringing out your true , deep self.

[@valoriegonzales3167]

I loooooooooove that you guys are considering a podcast. This conversation was much needed & reinforces the feelings I’ve been having too as well 😭🥹

[@StarSpirit]

It was so helpful to hear all that right now, thank you guys for sharing, I'm so excited for more!

[@NupurKale]

Mr. Kate we love you!! Please always keep your products budget friendly. I want to decorate our house with all your furniture when we redecorate!!

[@CantStayAway]

You should call these The Rug Cuddle Diaries

[@jessicalea9460]

OMG! Loved this so much! you're going to need some floor pillows to keep comfy!

[@sushmacs9061]

I was a regular viewer of your KZbin videos and it’s been 4 years( my kid is 4 😂) that I watched your videos and all of a sudden today I wanted to go to your channel and get this video is a sign! I needed this because I feel stuck too, finding myself is a journey that I am going through ❤

[@anishimi6994]

This was such an important conversation to share♥️ So many of us creatives have been in this cyclical loop of digital consumerism. Thank you for both for sharing✨ Much love!

[@chelsoinked]

Yassssss!!! I relate to this sooo much! Pleaseeeee do more!

[@dianacatalina1649]

I am 37 years old and I have an 8-month-old baby. Everything you said in this video resonated so much that it almost made me cry. But it also gave me hope. So thank you for this video!

[@laurenashley90]

‘ROMANCE JOEY!’ 🤣🤣🤣 I love this, & love y’all so much!!! Also, my word for this year was move, I teared up when she explained it in a way that I didn’t even know how to, I just knew I need to move.

[@spacebar9733]

I love this title I’m so excited to listen to this perfect timing for me. Edit: my word of the year is authenticity I’m consuming less content and meditating more trying to find my true self, true inspirations, what I actually like. Omg yess authenticity always wins!!

[@Michelle-vk2jm]

This was such a good video. It was very much needed for many people l think to kick-start creative thoughts and reflection. I personally enjoyed this and as an aspiring creative person myself enjoyed listening to what you had to say. As always I am looking forward to more from my favorite creative couple. ❤❤❤

[@amys3168]

Definitely thought you are a singer. It’s crazy how your raising eyebrows was still so stylish. I’m about to empty nest and I’m feeling that identity crisis again in a different way. My time increasingly becomes more my own and I’m kinda sad about that. We’re also talking about retiring actually being on the horizon. What!? Retiring? What do I do then? It’s all normal, it’s just figuring out again and again, as sad as that can be sometimes. (And, we’re burying a good friend this weekend. So I’m particularly contemplative and sad right now. Stay safe everyone!)

[@tanyaklein4104]

💛 Warm wishes.

[@meganpinkston9390]

This was wonderful - love to hear your thought process

[@somekindofsickjoke]

I’M SO INTO THIS. I love you guys’ love and your journeys and I can’t wait to hear more from y’all and celebrate with you!

[@MrKate]

Love you back!! Thank you!!🙏

[@H20Body]

Thank you for this conversation ! It is very needed and even more so as a couple. The female perspective vs. the male perspective is such an eye opener. I totally relate and understood what Kate was stating as a Mom. And when Joey shared his perspective as a Dad, for me, that helped me understand what my husband was trying to tell or show me. There is this unspoken transition of have a child, work, and growth as a family. Again, thank you for this hart to hart conversation.

[@krystalreyes6499]

I've been a Mr.Kate fan for what feels like more than a decade and I would LOVE a Mr. Kate podcast. Currently in my 30's feeling the overwhelm of ideas and opportunities but trying to take a step back and take stock of the things that really matter. So comforting to know that the feelings of "being stuck" are felt by more people than we think. Sending you and the familia positive vibes as you enter the new year of tiny but mighty changes! XOXO

[@MrKate]

👏 wishing you all the love and positivity back! And thanks for your longtime support 🙏❤️

[@jessicadarlingstudio]

I became a mom almost 12 years ago.. and it really is a rebirth of a new identity.. i think I am still evolving in my identity and continuing to find myself.

[@missrobinhoodie]

Thank you so much for talking about this! I always longed to have kids but being a 31yo independent and creative person who only now gets some kind of stability of self (after years of mentally struggling) I have so much respect of a change like that. I want to be a mom but I don’t know if I‘m strong enough to do it…

[@pixiequilt]

Thank you for the honesty Kate, and Joey. It's true, becoming a parent is very limiting in a sense that you don't think about yourself anymore but your family as one. We don't need to sugarcoat life because that how it is.. it's hard. But you know what. That's bravery for me! Its the perfect love that drives out fear. Living everyday trying to make it work. Trying to be okay. Trying to be happy. All these shmall little details of life that teaches you to value the meaning.. not just reason. That's how we learn and grow... the only difference is we are not doing it on our own... not alone but together.

[@MrKate]

Love that!!!

[@MarinaJA7]

You guys are truly inspiring! As someone who’s followed your channel for 5+ years I think you’ve come a long way! Take a breath… stop and enjoy everything you’ll have accomplished. Enjoy your family and give Moon the sibling he deserves 😉

[@MrKate]

Thanks so much!!

[@mooeeze]

I have been patiently waiting for the podcast so this is super exciting! I’d love to see it, design, your life, anything! I just love hearing you two talk and would like to see… hear, even, more.

[@MrKate]

That is so sweet wonderful of YOU! Thank you!!

[@jennifergarcia-velazquez2561]

Love love love this!!!!

[@trbrig22]

Sooo needed this rug cuddle!

[@Claudia-vq5iu]

Ahhhh!! Where to start. I had you Joey on my tv as I cleaned my livingroom and when you said we have so many options or like so much inspiration can make us feel stuck and that 100% connected with me. I juggle so much and I always feel stuck! I loved this. I loved being able to hear and watch you and Joey talk. Loved this.

[@elisebrisson]

I really enjoyed this convo- I need more “movement” in my life in many ways. Thank you for sharing.

[@christinapeters6506]

Thank you. I have been so lost since becoming a mother last year. I couldn't articulate the feelings I am having. I am so grateful to have been given the opportunity to be a mother and I honestly love it. But I feel like I am lost, i have lost myself. I also thought that becoming a mother was adding a baby to my life. But I have changed. I am trying to discover the new me...who am I? What is my new path? I am also STUCK. So thank you for helping me navigate my mind and find the words to correctly describe my thoughts, feelings and fears. ❤

[@kenanbolic]

This is like the best podcast ever! I wish I was there in the podcast and talk to you guys and ask maybe some questions for you. You guys make me smile every time I see a new video.

[@mshockey73]

There was something I heard Matthew McConaughey say recently that seemed so simple yet so brilliant at the same time. At the end of the year he takes an assessment or tally of which small successes went well or worked for him which in turn gives him the confidence to double down on those sucesses and gives him the momentum to reach some new goals for the New Year.

[@karibancroft4484]

Sharing this with us is just lovely. I had my first kid one year before you two did, and WOW what a journey! I’m just finally getting back to who I am as a person and how I want to create in the world. I can’t wait for your next video like this! Love it!

[@MrKate]

Thank you for sharing! There’s so many of us in the same situation it’s nice to connect on that deeper level 🫶

[@michellxloren]

I love this video! 🤍 feeling stuck was a large part of my 2023, I relate to you guys so much. Thank you for your vulnerability, I cannot wait for your podcast! Would love to hear about how life has been like living in Hawaii vs LA

[@jessicashore6304]

Oh my gosh! You both said so many good things in this!! I am crazy excited about this podcast! MOVE! Love it! It is so easy to "sit still " and be completely complacent in your life with things you want to change or fix. I'm seriously so excited for this!

[@MrKate]

Yayayay makes us so happy to read this comment!!

[@katrinlux826]

Please, more of this… great hearing you talk about things like this!!

[@eroh2466]

I am late but needed/loved every second of this video. I want to be as self aware as Kate is when I grow up! 🥲

[@jenniferhatton8496]

Oh my gosh. 5 minutes in and I could cry. Bc yes. Stuck in motherhood, finding myself… it’s hard.

[@jayonay]

I just had my first kid (at 40!) 9 months ago today, so thank you for this video!! And yes we NEED to see/hear Kate sing All I Want for Christmas!

[@marinketimmer3163]

LOVE this!! Would love to see more conversations between you guys.

[@staciecorke9561]

I feel like I did the opposite and totally embraced motherhood and jumped in head first without a thought I was 19 when I had my first baby now I’m 37 and here I am now my oldest is 17 graduating high school and turning 18 in June and my youngest is 8 going on 13 and I feel like the only identity I have is mama I’m a stay at home mom I also homeschool my youngest and don’t have many friends I like to keep to myself and the few that I do let in so now I’m learning myself again just as a person without the title of mom and trying to get back to me I’m exploring new things trying new things wanting to become more spiritual and just really grow and evolve as a person not just mom so many of us relate to you both and are or have gone thru what you both are now going thru

[@averriemagalong4706]

This was so important. Thank you for sharing

[@karenkinyone613]

I have felt like this for years ! I feel like I just exist in life ! I understand

[@christie724]

I think as we become parents and as we get older of course things change. The key for me was to realize things are supposed to change as the seasons of our life change. Often we don't give ourselves enough grace to accept the new different chapters and changes as we age. Sending you love and prayers for your journey ahead ❤

[@pdq5465]

Very well expressed. I agree with you.

[@Alinkssa]

This is absolutely fabulous. I love the openness and the cuteness overload of goofiness and honestly and purity that is you guys just sitting or rug cuddling and going on trains of thought and just....talking! I LOVE hearing how other people think and see the world. I'm so hopeful you keep this up!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@MrKate]

Awww thank you!! That means so much 🫶

[@fatimaalmeida200]

Great video Kate and Joey A great conversation. I think we Geminis are very artistic in different ways. I was never a mom. But I understand what you're trying to say. I have mom's al around me and my God daughter just had a baby boy and it has certainly changed her life. Shes in her early 30s. BUT he is a sweetheart. ❤ So, keep communicating. We're listening.🙏

[@jenniferkatafias-luna4637]

Love you both, loved this video. I’m taking your advice and creating more this year, instead of saving more “pins”. And I want to hear Kate sing Mariah. 😂

[@MaryRevery]

glad to see a thoughtful new format on mr kate vids!

[@liontalesart]

Happy New Year! I can relate to some topics as a creative too and trying new things out is one of the things on my list. well i don't use lists, don't like them. but i have some ideas for this year to boost my creativity to the next level. Can't wait to see what you bring to us :)

[@nikkihughes170]

I really appreciate this video and chat.