Everything We Hated About Our Wedding (Ep.6)

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[@visnukasiva668]

I am shocked how did 7 years of my life go so quick. I remember watching them before they got married. This is crazyyyyu😭

[@patryk5173]

This is not even a joke 😅

[@londonisforeverblue1022]

love the podcasts but missing the vlogs too, hope to see one next week :)

[@rainfall-mn2ej]

Yeah want one& all

[@abrahamvanderpuye1925]

Yup yup

[@chanegraaff4268]

Yes! Agree!

[@SincerelyDidi]

Same

[@user-eb5ux6ug4v]

So are they like gonna stop vlogging eventually?!

[@ninamoyaa]

Jess has so much patience 😭 Gabe's humor is so dad-like now hahaha

[@marymellas5548]

Jess, I just wanted to let you know that some pressed flower companies will actually recreate your bouquet for you if you send them photos but don’t have the original flowers! I’m in the same boat and have been thinking about doing that as well.

[@mitzifuentes1591]

Do you happen to know the name of one! I would love to do that!

[@samdecon931]

With telling the ex you’re engaged, I’m separated and I have children. I have a wonderful co-parenting relationship with their father (my ex). If I were engaged, I would respectfully call my ex to let them know. It’s better it comes from me, than coming from the kids. That’s when the particular scenario makes sense

[@faithwithsheldon]

this is understandable, but if you don't have kids it doesn't make sense.

[@alenabigalska3800]

me making a list of jess’s regrets (i.e pressing the flowers, inviting close people only, mini cameras at every table to get the guests pov) so that i could do those things at my future wedding and not have regrets 😂❤️

[@LillyBrowtteworste]

i love seeing more of their personalities come out while they just chat with each other

[@jessicaa.m.harper1727]

What Gabriel said about parents buying a gift but treating it as a purchase to have their way - yes yes yes! I feel so grateful to have parents that only give and don't hold it over my head. Also, I did my own flowers the day before. Paid 10% of what flowers would have cost (or less), but it was a stressful. They looked beautiful though!

[@robynbaer4317]

I just love how natural you are in these, Jess. Your sense of humor really shines out and actually has me laughing along with you guys 😂

[@9384cows]

I think you guys should write a book about weddings. What you regret, what is important, what's not, what you would do and not do if you could go back, and so much more. You guys have so many great ideas, some regrets and you could be very helpful to couples planning their weddings. You would be perfect! Good Luck!

[@velvetxdrapes]

I can relate so much to your conversation about wedding guests. We’re coming up on five years and in that short amount of time we lost contact with quite a few people we thought were our friends at the time, including members of our wedding parties. It’s crazy how things can change so much. - loving the pod so far! 💗

[@meganmaldonado9664]

Loved this episode so much! I was nodding my head throughout this whole video. I love how well rounded and the perspective you two have on many topics. It's so refreshing to see people around my age with such great morals and wisdom, because I feel like that's rare nowadays. Some takeaways that I'm happy happened at my wedding: 1) Very intimate (60 people) I was adamant on only having people at my wedding that I actually talk to and am close to and not just inviting them because "they're my 3rd cousin". 2) My mom did all of the florals (which were fake, but looked amazing) and she DIY'd a lot of the décor items. 3) Chose a Sunday wedding and a venue that was actually an event center 5 mins from our house. 4) Got my wedding dress from a non-profit organization that has a wedding dress recycling program (it was a third of the price it normally would cost) and looked like I payed thousands of dollars for it. 5) Chose to have our wedding on our 14 year anniversary, which was just so special. 6) Designed my own invitations and ordered them through a cheaper site to save money. Excited to see you guys have your vow renewals at your 10 year anniversary :)

[@logan1969]

I know you can’t actually rate a video on KZbin, but here’s a ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ for y’all! Enjoyed the PodCast and I’m looking forward to future ones!! Have a blessed day!

[@Terrann1]

Hey guys, I love your content. And I have been following you all for years. Since the wedding video. 😚 And I just want to say I feel kind of sad and left out.😔 I know that might sound silly. At the moment I can not justify paying to be a member because the economy is so crazy and I am trying to be wise. And I get it, you all are trying to do something special for your fans. But I can’t help but feel a bit left out. I know you all are excited about your members, and you all are definitely not the only KZbin channel that does this. I guess your channel is the only one I would care to be apart of. Anyways don’t know why I felt the need to share that. Just felt oddly sad. Like I don’t even know you guys haha. But I have been rooting for you through so much of your journey. I’ll still be apart of the best team on the internet the conteam. 😊

[@JessicaBusii]

Watching this 9 months before our wedding is such perfect timing . BTW flowers are SO expensive. Even here in South Africa 🫡

[@muzna9362]

Have binged watched your previous vlogs and onto new podcasts, to catch up on your content. Can’t believe I have been watching you guys since 7 years, I don’t know if it means anything to you guys but I really love you guys specially you Jess I love how spiritual you are and just a softhearted person you are makes me want to come back to your channel even if I lose track. Now, Kaia as a new addition to the fan is such a beautiful cherry on top! May God bless you always. ❤️

[@oliviaalise3595]

This was such a good podcast! I’m getting married in about a month and it was so good to see what other people regret so I don’t do the same. The amount of people seems to come up a lot. We have a wedding of like 11 people and I don’t really feel stressed or concerned about other peoples feelings. We did a wedding shower with a bunch of people like 2 months before the wedding which was like our reception.

[@amandahuff6111]

I also had a small wedding of like 20 people and things didn't go as planned. I hope your day goes perfectly and congrats! We both still wish we had eloped 5 years later.

[@xoxellerose]

My wedding was 2015 and it involved a flower crown, a lace dress and a very rustic vibe which was also very “trendy” but honestly don’t regret it at all. And I made my bouquets and centerpiece with my bridal party and a few family members the day before and it was such a fun time!

[@hopereed7379]

I just got married 3 weeks ago so this was a sweet and fun episode to watch!! I'm also a wedding florist (yes I did my own flowers, and yes I did regret it a little because it takes up so much time), but yes get your flowers pressed or have a plan for donating flowers to a nursing home afterwards! It really does stink that most weddings enjoy them for a few hours and then they are thrown away, especially with all the work and money put into them! Just a few ideas :))

[@stwmmumbai]

Feedback on friends and family tier: Usually when there are tiers to content it’s to post exclusive content but that comes after one’s channel is already fleet. I think a lot of your subscribers would like to see more on this channel before committing to a tier! Since you guys are pretty private(which is totally fine) it’s something even you guys should think/pray about more. Because once you have a discord there are people who would like to interact with you guys outside your social media commitments. So as a subscriber who has been from the time you guys were long distance I have seen you guys have quite seasons, social media breaks, being uncomfortable with sharing too much or sharing on a surface level. This comes from a good place, lots of love!

[@jenaelovesjb]

Your laughing fit honestly made me smile on a hard day so thank you for not "cutting" it :)

[@sarameier]

You two have such a fun time together, it’s so apparent and sweet

[@Myir12]

This episode is a 11/10, y'all are adorable! so funny! Loving the podcast!

[@paigesillustrations.]

Currently planning our wedding for March 2024, so I'm so excited to hear your advice and opinions!

[@saffronh9926]

I take notes from most of these podcast episodes because you are both incredibly insiteful and have amazing points and i need to remember. ❤

[@tiffanyblu156]

you two are so in love its adorable to see you two laugh and giggle so much 7 years of marriage and with a baby your innocence and excitement towards one another seems to have never changed. your love inspires me to do my best for my partner in my relationship and is a constant reminder to work together.

[@andreaweinrich7518]

We had the traditional first dance and then we had a private last dance while everyone was getting ready for our send off! Also, my husband and I paid for our wedding ourselves because we knew my family wouldn’t help but also if they did they would want to control what we did and we didn’t want that. We would hear their suggestions but as soon as it became a demand we reminded them they weren’t paying for it.

[@vickyt529]

Here's a cringe one: my ex's brother married my sister (they met through me), but for my ex's wedding (let's call him Jim) the bride (let's call her Rita) invited my parents & myself to their wedding. My parents did not attend and I went out of town. But when I was getting married years later Rita told my sister she was expecting an invite from me. Why? I did not want J & R at my wedding. We kept our wedding small with closed family & friends. Thanks for sharing your list.

[@alinefcht5041]

GUYS ! I love hearing from you, it's so interesting please keep going

[@areyouok447]

My husband and i were pressured so much into having a wedding party reception etc from both our families . My husband ended up caving in eventually which didnt make it easy for me as he just started a new job in a different country. I was so upset,we ended up having want our families wanted. 10 years later it still upsets me. i enjoyed absolutely nothing about that day even if i try thinking about a positives. Our marriage is great, just that day was something neither of us truly wanted. Dont let your families bully you into doing something you dont want. Whether you want a party or not let it be yours and your partners decision.

[@jacquelyn7]

I am getting married next year so am taking notes as I am listening to this 😂 It has been so helpful! Thank you Jess & Gabe 🙏☺️

[@allisonsegalini4452]

I watched yall's wedding video side by side listening to this and it was so sweet!

[@raw8565]

I’m crying of laughter when u guys laugh over nothing hahahah😂😂😂 I love how prepared and well thought out Jess was with this topic vs how guys think abt it😂

[@rikkim2279]

I’m loving this podcast so much🥰

[@Takoda9721]

love y'all you're the best thank you for being a blessing for my life!

[@karlaherrera311]

LOVE this podcast. Thanks for sharing❤

[@kortneyrowsell3140]

Watching this with 5 months to go for my wedding!! So many amazing tips! Thanks :)

[@gabrielamuro]

You guys should renew your vows and have another small intimate wedding! My husband and I got married on the beach in Florida, with only our parents and siblings. Then we had our reception back home in Illinois and had our small intimate reception and dinner with everyone.

[@Iam_laurenthrasherrr]

I love how genuine y’all are. Cut and laughing. Just love laughing along with y’all haha

[@sarahschmid8280]

I love watching you guys have so much fun together 🎉

[@annabellex3559]

I actually think your wedding style was pretty classic and stands well over time, it just looks gorgeous x

[@nusayba1073]

this "premium" thing kind of made me sad. Not everyone can really afford these as you have viewers from different region of the world. Hate how everything has started becoming "subscription" based, even youtube itself. Anyways just my opinion. Happy for you guys. Best wishes

[@mintpolohomer8722]

I agree, so disappointed :(

[@amare_._]

I agree, like I know they wanna make that extra cash but it’s sad somehow? Can’t describe it, have fun if you can afford tho

[@briannakron430]

Agreed, like I love and support them but it definitely made a part of my heart sad. I use to feel like they were my friends but now I feel this disconnect needing to pay :/

[@briannakron430]

#broke 😂

[@amare_._]

@@briannakron430 that’s totally fair that you feel that way. I mean they turned the relationship from voluntary viewership into transaction…

[@janicegingerich3731]

I already love this episode so much, 15 minutes in. The stand-up is too funny. 😆

[@DahliaTuong]

I love this episode so much, so funny when Gabe is making jokes

[@danifriesen9137]

My husband and I got married 7 years ago in May, and we did disposable cameras at the tables which I’m glad we did.. but we still haven’t developed them. 🤦🏻‍♀️ so thanks for the reminder to do that 😅

[@kaylinworthington]

At my friend’s wedding, the bride and groom basically were in the corner while they enjoyed their food but did very few pictures! I got a quick picture and that’s all I got from him the rest of his wedding haha. But fair, because he wanted to enjoy his wife. Their first dance was a few second and then everyone joined. And he also put a “see how well you know me” crossword on the table and whoever got it completed first got first cake! I made sure I won😂

[@YAD1997]

Loved this episode! I was cracking up with y’all

[@MrsMuffin11]

What I love about my family is that my grandparents asked us how much we spent on the dress and then after we told them, handed us cash and told us they would like to pay for it. That was the best gift, because while we didn't splurge on my dress it was around 2k which is A LOT of money and they gave us that gift without ever seeing the dress until our wedding day ♥️

[@laurafreeman3335]

I admire your honesty with this I don't ever see anybody else on social media like really talking about this and so I think this is really interesting I know that you guys are a lot little bit older now and you guys are are doing this but I think it's good to be honest and be like okay this is what we disliked him and what can we do better and striving for improvement and that I really admired about and watching you guys talked about this

[@KatarinaRa]

You should link your wedding video to this podcast! 👏 love the new content.

[@jessbushell2042]

Me and mum made my bouquets. It was such a fun day and great bonding moment. We woke up early went to the flower market and walked around and i got to just see what i liked and we went from there. Was much cheaper then a florest and i got exactly what i wanted

[@alyssanicole330]

Video idea! You should rewatch the wedding video with your family + close friends!

[@emelisebond8785]

yes. yes. yes. THANK YOU FOR THIS! Quality content

[@mikgonzales]

man if I could redo my wedding, I would change so much 😭 the way that it was an absolute disaster cause there was a huge unexpected storm and we only had an outdoor reception area and if I could go back, I would of had an indoor reception for sure. even if you think it’ll be perfect and sunny, it might not be so it’s always better to get an indoor venue!

[@clairesnelson9961]

I loved this episode!! I agreed on a lot of the same dislikes about my weddings. I wish I would have asked someone to box up a few slices of our cake. It was delicious and I was so sad I never got a full slice 😅 petty but still!

[@saanahlefevre8202]

I love you guys!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@katrina1646]

Speaking of wedding photos I spied one of Jess & Gabe's wedding photos while I was shopping in the small rural town I live in, in Australia. They had displayed a nice wedding photo frame and I was very shocked to recognise one of the couples in the frame. Got me wondering if that is even legal....🤔loving this new form of content.💕

[@DahliaTuong]

can;t wait for the next episode Jess

[@danigogodly9122]

In my culture, it is the m.o.b and bridesmaids job to pack up the cake and food for the bride and groom so that they can have it after. Food (most times meats) would stay frozen until after the honeymoon, so when the bride comes back, she doesn't have to cook for up to a week after the honeymoon. The cake is secured for the bride to cut up and give away (to whom she chooses) after, too. It's tradition/superstition to not just let any and everybody part take of the cake.

[@Oluwasemiloore]

Loved this!❤

[@dustylouthan]

I had someone be my videographer that was also one of my best friends at the time. I regret having her there, but I wouldn’t have my gorgeous wedding video without it was kind of a catch 22. She was going to be my maid of honor, but I decided last minute that another one of my best friends is going to be my maid of honor. She and I have since ended things as well too. So I feel like I should’ve had more family instead of friends. Because I haven’t had any falling outs with any of my family members that were there. I trusted them so so deeply! I was very very happy with who walked me down the aisle, though. It was my brother that I hadn’t spoken to in nine years prior to the ceremony. He showed up and asked me if it was OK that he walked me down the aisle. I said yes I would love that and he wore our dad’s hat, technically his step dad but he was more of a dad than his own dad! It’s my favorite part of my day, besides being able to finally marry the love of my life💖

[@twishamohin]

I loved this episode!

[@kandacekirsch]

We got married in 2016 too and when you talked about your trendy wedding, I was thinking I didn’t have a trendy wedding and then you said burlap on the tables and… yeah I did that too😂😳

[@Wifeyz56]

My step sister and her husband just got married and her best friend is a photographer and she was taking the photos. My 10 year old ended up hijacking the camera and they ended up loving all the pictures cause they were honestly pretty great candid photos but they also know they were taken by her.

[@lilmissteesha95]

My bridesmaids duty was to get me a plate, drink and cake. I had a bubble tea van during our ceremony and reception- a groomsmen made sure I got one

[@CrystelMckinney]

So excited for the discord see ya there 😃 I wished we had eloped as well and taken a destination honey moon.

[@raw8565]

Lol ily guys ahahha gabe is hilarious and i love how Jess responds to him😂😂

[@jazlyntanguma]

Who remembers the cake tasting video 🥺🩷 so cute! Love you guys

[@aliciaandjoshua]

My favourite episode yet

[@xarivlogsx]

I signed up for the $6 tier!! i'm excited for the bonus content, love you guys 🤍

[@heatherch]

Hi! do you live in the states? I am wondering if the prices are in USD or? As I live in asia and my country uses a different currency!

[@xarivlogsx]

@@heatherch yes I do!! there's a $3 USD tier and a $6 USD tier 🤍

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

Love your channel 💕

[@werew3]

Definitely the ceremony is for you the reception for your guests. As for your flowers great idea. I had gone & bought paper made flowers & put them on a frame hanging in my kitchen. The cake definitely is a tradition where ppl freeze it & eat it the following year but yeah. Surprised no one cut your cake & gave it for you to take home. Also think the bridesmaids thing could do with money because really fancy ppl go on big trips like las vegas for the bachelorette etc and can’t afford or the dress or personal hair color clash etc could be a major problem or reason for fall out of friendships. Such a good point that its not a gift if there are strings attached and then holding that over their child. So good! This happened from both sides of my family, my own mom being like u need to include me in your plans as i am the mother of the bride while the mil basically buildozed every decision for catering since she did the flowers and flower arrangements 😂😢 I definitely think out of all the wedding things, deciding who should be invited and fam saying this person should be invited because im friends with them but not even being close to the actual couple getting married, such a common stress problem. Also that last point.. i think weddings get pricey real quick and again the wedding is for other ppl and honeymoon is for the couple but at the same time if you dont have anything, you might regret it bcuz you don’t have a visual representation of the day since you elope.

[@AquamarinaPearl]

When your dad isn’t here any more you’ll wish his speech would’ve been longer and wish you could go back to that moment and relive it

[@ceci1884]

I’m pretty sure he appreciates and loves his dads speech, quit being over analyze what he didn’t say or MEAN!!!! Thank you 😊 for understanding what I’m saying to you.

[@AquamarinaPearl]

@@ceci1884 How would you feel as a father if your son only had 3 wedding regrets and one of them was handing you the microphone? It was funny what he was saying and I laughed but as someone going through grief I pointed out the truth. You’re so worked up about my comment it’s bizarre

[@ReyeLynn]

In the process of wedding planning here and oh my gosh it’s still ages away in June next year but it’s already been stressful. Picking a venue was trouble and now onto everything else now that the venue is confirmed. It’s really tough because to have this nice wedding I need financial help from my dad and my in laws. My dad is very easy, my in laws however not so much. Everyone says the day is for us but realistically the wedding is a family get together 😭 I know people will come for me but we’re the first kids, grandkids, niece, nephew, etc to get married on both sides of the family. So both sides of our family have been pestering us about a wedding. I guess does anyone have any tips to be excited about the wedding? I feel like I’m not excited because I’m stressing about money the whole time.

[@hnhrosales]

"whole church service with jess's dad starting with the worship song" T_T THAT CRACKED ME UPPP

[@racheltherese4161]

Seeing y’all crying laughing made my entire day!

[@valnucifora9992]

you guys sound sooo happyyyyy

[@alexandrademetriou5203]

Cant wait for the 40+ minutes of the video, but your wedding was ideal.. remember it like it was yesterday 😢❤

[@heatherch]

hi jess & gabe! wondering if the price per month is in USD currency? as I live outside of the states, I live in asia!

[@jonathanjunio6698]

love you guys.. number ONE FAVORITE COUPLE!!!!!!! YOu guys are HA HAHAHAA HILARIOUS!!!! keep it up...

[@lilyr.8096]

I love your wedding dress! Still to this day when I get married I want a dress similar to yours 😩😩

[@cathirodrigo2933]

We had disposable cameras at our wedding!! There were SO MANY pics I decided to make a collage with them. It was great, I recently lost it in a house fire but I can still see it in my head!! ❤❤❤ My newly husband & I hit Taco Bell on the way to the hotel room. 😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@ophiliagrace23]

This EP made me laugh way too hard!! 😂😂

[@HelloMoto_]

I am 100% all about inviting only close family and really close/good friends… meanwhile my fiancé is like let’s invite EVERYONE we’ve ever known. & it’s weird because as a woman I’m almost like can we just elope in Italy with just parents and siblings?!? I don’t think I need anyone there but my mom and sister lol

[@DVHdz]

Planning on getting married very soon, we’ve decided that a dinner with 25 people sounds perfect for us. Yes a big party sounds awesome but also stressful 16:41

[@cyndicopeland4113]

I had my sister and my sister-in-law be my bridesmaids and my best friend as my maid of honor. My husband had a huge bridal party on his side and isn’t friends with at least two of them and kinda rocky with another. I’m glad I chose to have a smaller bridal party!

[@maddievega4395]

Laughing so hard at this one, you guys are so funny 🤣🤣 Also yes I totally agree about the size thing, I just got married in May and I remember my biggest thing was not to invite everyone we know, we ended up having around 180 which is still a lot but that was after a huge cut in our list LOL

[@fimja]

This was perrrrfect timing as I just got engaged 😍

[@Alinasinging]

I’m in the process of planning the wedding. What I know is that “we will be selfish”. Our day. Our money. Our love. Open to suggestions, but ultimately the decision is ours (well mine, my fiancé doesn’t really care 😂)

[@amandahuff6111]

If you wanna be selfish, do yourselves a favour and elope! We had a small wedding of about 20 people and things didn't go as planned. We still wish we had eloped 5 years later. Good luck planning and congrats!

[@consueladcosta29]

Some really nice points but I think the video could've had a better title.. something like "Things we would've done differently at our wedding" cos it doesn't seem like you'll have the emotion of hate towards your wedding. Even if the title was for clickbait reasons, you'll don't need to do that. We love you guys for who you'll are and that's why we watch your content and you'll know that! God has blessed you'll abundantly! ❣🤍

[@saffronh9926]

Ive never been to a wedding so i have no idea but the point you made about the first dance and just having a dance for the couple thats intimate and not awkwardly long in front of everyone,, would it be possible to plan that for like after all the guests leave you just stay and have a 'last dance' thats for you and intimate???

[@Terrann1]

Ok when you said the first dance alone I was thinking it could be cute for people that do a first look and then have a moment to dance. And have that recorded.

[@cailincrane]

I liked this topic a ton. Definitely can relate! 😂

[@li5re9ma]

Gabe you ARE hilarious 😂

[@YAD1997]

Omg how do you not eat at your wedding? 😭 I totally agree with the wedding being all about the guests when in reality the couple should be catered to! Smaller, intimate weddings are definitely the go to.

[@haileyhickman9791]

I used my aunts old cam corder at my wedding because we couldn’t afford a videographer and I can not recommend that enough. Was a great alternative!

[@kayleigh3331]

could u guys use a wide shot? instead of the zoom in?

[@jaimseygirl2594]

I wish I had eloped. 🙈 My mom stressed me out so much that I ended up canceling my “real” wedding and just having my and my husbands immediate family there anyway. My mom was so critical and unhelpful and tore down every idea I had until I had nothing left. I was only 18 at the time and didn’t know how to stand up for myself. Ended up with no flowers, a kind of gross cake, and none of my friends there. And my husbands family didn’t support the marriage at the time. 😬🫠 Now over 7 years (happily married with 2 kids!) later, I would have just eloped on a mountain with gorgeous flowers and a delicious cake and an expensive photographer. That would have been a much better experience and really encapsulated who my husband and I are as people. Regardless, I married the boy and I’m glad I did. So the day was still a success. 🥰

[@villaflorcath]

How I wish this episode was out before my wedding day.

[@tiffanyblu156]

when gabriel said "I'm not a stand up comedian" I immediately wished I was there in that moment to say because you're sitting down. I wish Jess chimed in and said something along the lines of him sitting cuz that would be so them to be punny!