I have been living in US for 18.5 years with a large Indian community and friends to support. I still feel extremely lonely as I don’t feel I can call or bother anyone during weekdays. There is this hesitation. Loneliness is real and an epidemic.
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and sharing your personal thoughts!
@rithwikj5 ай бұрын
haha, but it's beyond annoying to have relatives drop in unannounced during working weekdays and then expect to be entertained - somehow that's okay in India. If you say 'no', they make sure to outcast you and pass snide remarks or insults in any gathering (weddings, etc)
@honeydewim3 ай бұрын
@@rithwikjmaybe you are Americanised.. this is how people in India roll.
@xxxx-tb4de2 ай бұрын
Honestly, it is mostly up to you and loneliness issue will not change by relocating.
@swapan17 күн бұрын
@@xxxx-tb4de So true and I am appalled at lot of such people complaining (a lot of indians) whereas they have so many opportunities to share their time. I am amazed by the amount of time some Americans (especially parents) devote their time to so many voluntary organizations - from school PTA boards to Boy Scouts leader to Junior Achievement / HfH to school sports to DI to FIRST Robotics program ... all of these need volunteers for programs to flourish.
@SavinderKaur-e1m4 ай бұрын
People don’t be fooled. These are influencers.
@use.UR.intellect24 күн бұрын
People can spend if they dont have responsibility With a man who is nri, they have to take care of parents, wife, children etc.
@honeydewim3 ай бұрын
By far this is the most interesting interview on your channel, giving a different angle (and a correct one in my opinion) to moving to India picture. Loneliness and family is the only reason, for someone to move back no matter what they say.
@DesiReturn3 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.
@goddessvibes083 ай бұрын
The hate for single women in India is real. But a lot of us are happier and content with our lives. Especially after coming from US. More power to u girl
@DesiReturn3 ай бұрын
Thank you very much for sharing your experiences and thoughts
@newjiva17 күн бұрын
She can do yoga at home. It’s better than running and weight training. It’s proven scientifically. Enjoyed her honesty.
@abhijitguha4947 ай бұрын
The elegant lady is right when she says there is a lack of human socialization in the US/Canada. But I feel it's becoming the same in India also gradually. Everyone is glued to their own personal devices & the interaction only happens in the virtual world thru a 2 by 4 inch screen. The human interaction is getting lesser everywhere everyday.
@DesiReturn7 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts. It's so true about human interaction
@swapan17 күн бұрын
Some interactions with their 4" screen will happen especially for the gen alpha kids (and the way things are progressing these kids will never be out of virtual world, think TESLA FSD on steroids) but that does not preclude your kids going out into the physical world and do stuff: go play sports, bike around the neighborhood / park, go hiking / camping, join a martial arts club etc.
@PrabodhtАй бұрын
Entertaining guest, shouldn't be taken seriously
@iyyappanswaminathan78125 ай бұрын
This is one of the best interviews related to NRI’s…. She nailed it about the mind set of NRI’s…. Being an NRI for 20 years and living by spreadsheet I can understand what she means…I really appreciate and wishing her all the best..
@DesiReturn5 ай бұрын
Thnaks for watching and sharing your thoughts. Glad it resonated well. All the best
@2aa22a8 ай бұрын
She is so level headed...Free spirit....Seems like she never married. Very thoughtful and gives clear perspective.
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts. Yes she is very honest and level headed.
@sudheerr47608 ай бұрын
36:25 - When you said "Throw the worksheet out" - I'm litterally working on that sheet when you said that and also since I decided to move to India after working for 8 years. You read the NRI people mind.
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts. Yes she summarized her observations very clearly. Good luck with move and hope these videos are helpful.
@SingaporeBuilds7 ай бұрын
Starting is abrupt. Need more background as in home town, where they did engg etc.
@DesiReturn7 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback
@whatup3072 ай бұрын
I've noticed that most of the people who are interviewed on here are not permanent residents or US citizens. unless I'm wrong. My experience is that I have been in America since I was 2 years old. I'm in my fifties. From my last two trips to India I have noticed a lot of the crowds in streets are in their twenties to mid-30s. The thing she said that struck a chord with me comma is that it's not about it not working out for me it's about me working out for the opportunity in India. It's true after living in a country for this long getting used to its ways. Something about India intrigues me and has made me consider coming back to live long term, but when I look around for women my age who live kind of the lifestyle that I live here in America, I don't really see it there. Here, women have a certain Freedom that they don't have in India. you can wear shorts and a tank top and go to the grocery store-- Or just go for a walk in your neighborhood-- without being stared at, or having people talk about you in a bad way. you can go to the gym ,like she said without being bothered. Or go on a date. I think the biggest thing I would miss is being able to drive wherever I want whenever I want, without it taking 30 minutes to go 10 miles.
@DesiReturn2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. We have quite a guests who are US citizens on the show. Sounds like you considered about India but based your experiences India might not be a right fit for you and its good to make a decision. Depending on one’s circumstances and preference, they can choose where they want to live.
@papercityvlogs4325Ай бұрын
Absolutely true. I love my anonymity in the USA. It may seem trivial but the freedom of just throwing on t shirts and shorts and grabbing a cup of coffee is exhilarating. No one cares. Exactly. This is the best part of living abroad
@ChasingBogeys22 күн бұрын
I’d go on a limb and say that your loneliness index is still lower than an average citizen regardless of which country you’re in. Whether US or India or Paris. I’m an Indian with a thriving social life in the states, and I travel back often but have never found a place like NYC in India. If you’re asking me to have a daughter in India over the US, or have a better work life balance, then I’m happy to have a chat. But just like you talked about NRIs looking at India through a biased lense, you’re doing the exact same for the US. It’s frikin awesome here and the best decision I made was to leave.
@deepthirao1647 ай бұрын
I have watched all the episodes on this channel and this was ny favorite of all ❤
@DesiReturn7 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching most of the content and appreciate your engagement
@shashikanthchannagiri86038 ай бұрын
Very good information and Channel. I can only wish God Bless you
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and for providing positive encouragement. Please share with others who can benefit from the content. Thanks
@swok0906 ай бұрын
Many problems Nupur faced in the US are because Nupur is single at a 35+ age. This is rare for Indians especially in the US. Your social circle shrinks, and loneliness hits you. Dating would be one solution to keep such people away from loneliness. Similarly, in India, women at that age that are single have a tough time. It is just not the norm in the society. The trainer not leaving you alone in the gym would probably not happen if you had any sign, even if fake, that you are married. I'm not saying, "why are you single, get married already". I'm just saying Nupur that many of the perspectives you shared don't resonate well with most Indians who are married and have kids. I'm sure you know this, but it'd be good to include this in your narration of your perspectives.
@swapan17 күн бұрын
True and I would add that feeling alone is a state of mind. There are so many things to do and opportunities to share time with people, I suppose lonely people are not able to see them. It may be their nature.
@985051772298505908188 ай бұрын
Good video Fortunately loneliness is not everywhere in usa . There is good social life if you are at right place with right person .. major reason you got bored or lonely because you were single and as your age increases and you are single , the group changes .. this happens specially if you are at 30 or above ….married people won’t be much friendly to you .. and bachelors are too young for you … many of my friends are in same boat… I am married with one kid and we have more than Indian chaos at my home always people friends ..we are in Arizona as well This video portrays usa as lonely place but it’s not …. It’s just her experience …also my experience is usa has very good respect for Indians as per my 13 years of experience in india …
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.
@scientistswife8 ай бұрын
True but your perspective will also change when children leave the nest and one starts aging.
@985051772298505908188 ай бұрын
@@scientistswife yes when children leave and you are alone many people shift to india …or many says they are fine with aloneness not loneliness .. I think it matters how you see situation ..
@scientistswife8 ай бұрын
At a elderly life stage when one doesn't have kids around or partner . It's called suffering when alone. You may have servants but not family around
@meerajha8325 ай бұрын
I have met her in one of her in person session. If you review her Linkedin posts she writes like an American who immigrated to India and have started to learn about Indian living. Any person who has never left India can easily see through her posts on how naive she is about being an Indian. She is mesmerised by the nuanced unorganised chaos of Indian living. She speaks about her pre-US days but you would know she isnt the one she is portraying to be just for the sake of garnering relatability. Also she has a failed marriage. I dont want to get into her personal life but its important to take that into account while making big emotional moves based on her advice.
@swapan17 күн бұрын
I get the impression that Google employees (and other such companies in Bay area) are living in their own bubble. The things she did and flirted with for 8yrs, I did in my first 2yrs of coming to US and then moved on, got married, had kids, kids are going to school and soon we will be empty nesters but each stage has it's way of enjoying life. Right now, I try to devote some time with volunteering for their sports and academic activities, their school (always need helping hands), the small town we live in, the social events happening in the area and so on.
@mannerivamsi58 ай бұрын
A different perspective and a wonderful conversation. Thoroughly enjoyed this episode!!
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Great!! Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.
@RajivSambasivan8 ай бұрын
Excellent, kudos to both of you!
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@SalviAkshay2 ай бұрын
"Spend it now" really. Take advice with a grain of salt.
@SR-mv2mf7 ай бұрын
How to connect with the guest?. I am in a similar situation to her. I would love to meet her
@DesiReturn7 ай бұрын
You can send a note via Instagram desireturn.official or send an email to info @ desireturn.com
@SR-mv2mf7 ай бұрын
With all due respect I meant I want to connect with the lady guest here- ms. Nupur. Where is her insta or website ?
@DesiReturn7 ай бұрын
Yes I know. I don't want to post guest IM or contact info public.
@HarshiniRegained398 ай бұрын
😢
@londonds914 ай бұрын
"You are giving them source of income, you are being nice to them" Your employer does the same to you Nupur, but you are not a maid. Its not left leaning to call maid a help, its humane.
@DesiReturn4 ай бұрын
True
@lavanyay27678 ай бұрын
I can totally relate to it . I'm sailing thru this right now Avinash 😕
@DesiReturn8 ай бұрын
Thanks Lavanya for watching and sharing your thoughts. Each story is unique in some sort and very well resonate to some people. Please subscribe and share with others who can get value from the content.
@lavanyay27678 ай бұрын
@@DesiReturn definitely..keep doing the great work and inspiring us ❤️🙏