Ex:Re - Romance

'Romance' is the first single taken from Ex:Re's self titled debut album, digitally out now on 4AD & Glassnote Records. Buy & stream 'Romance' here: smarturl.it/ExRe
Director: Antonia Luxem
DOP: Tegid Cartwright & Antonia Luxem
Assistant Director: Lia Buddenbrock
Make-up: Paula Delgado
Editor: Antonia Luxem
Colourist: Rebecca Goodeve
Thanks to: Ana, Bethany, Dave, Igor, Jen, Julian, Marika, Max, Oliver, Paula, Pete, Rosie & Turan
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[@jamess.t.2816]

"i grew up too quick and i still forgive too slow" that line always hits so hard

[@jeremyc9593]

"See he saw me as a human. This one thinks I'm a slaughterhouse" is the one that gets me. It gives a perspective I've never thought of before, seeing as how I've always been one to see them as humans.

[@akbarmahardika7597]

same to me yess 🙋🏻‍♂️😭😭

[@guivnoronha]

Relatable

[@annatsavidi8239]

​@@derek.rosales0:16 you

[@cyberteque]

@derek.rosales yep

[@gabrielgiovane7845]

I grew up too quick and I still forgive too slow

[@Nd-np8zb]

that lyric got me

[@teresa-.-656]

I relate to that more than I wish I would

[@Outrjs]

Too quick old too slow smart

[@vivipeach2745]

Gabriel Giovane thats ok though...it is

[@eagletmars]

Foreal. This hits right in my most vulnerable self

[@mixtapearchivist]

"I promised myself that I would never lose my youthful fears of grown up men. I'm scarred with cruel intentions." and "It hurts between my thighs on this side" really hit me hard.

[@jay-leevanderberg8174]

I don’t understand the “thighs on this side” thing? I know between the thighs refers to genitalia but the “side” thing is confusing

[@darladawn1111]

@@jay-leevanderberg8174 likely meaning the left or right side.

[@jay-leevanderberg8174]

@@darladawn1111 ooooh so like they have “rug burn” from too much meaningless intercourse? *sorry neurodivergent and trying to understand xD

[@bellar4484]

@@jay-leevanderberg8174 I think she meant from her side as opposed to his, as it takes two to tango...or so they say

[@ecclenctica]

I think it's "on this side" of (i.e. after) the death of romance. Notice that she talks about someone who used to care for her.

[@deadlynightshade3582]

🌹 Lyrics 🌹 And in the night It was a drunken stutter Started as a next to nothing conversation And then he’s tearing me out Taking me apart at my friend’s house I was uncomfortable I was hurt Still with blue innocence in his eyes I felt my reasoning was harsh With every stab wound and exhale I promised myself that I would never lose my youthful fears of grown up men I’m scarred with cruel intentions I thought of another the whole time Who would have never stared me like that See he saw me as a human This one thinks I’m a slaughterhouse He pretends that he’s understanding And you know in the grand scheme of everything He’s probably called a nice man Or an ordinary kind of man Or a stereotype with strong hands I’m so sad at how little joy I realized within my time with my ex guy Before these statues arrives Romance is dead and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side I could begin to open up and risk desire For I move slower and Quieter than most I grew up too quick and I still forgive too slow Oh I wish there was another way Romance is dead and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side See me here Meet me here I don’t care If it’s not repeated I want to know who you are For every second we outrun the moon and dread the sun come up I want to know who you are So I don’t have to check my stuffs still here when you’re gone I want to know who you are I want to know who you were Romance is dead and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side This side...

[@tommylight1312]

She 100% doesn’t say “hurts between my thighs.” She says, “hits between the eyes.”

[@jeremyc9593]

@@tommylight1312 What? She clearly says both. "100%" Lmfao.

[@hendrabp8234]

Queen of melancholia

[@eternalsunshine6392]

and lykke li

[@diegoshepherd4396]

@@eternalsunshine6392 Lykke Li's only sad song is ''Possibility''. The rest of her songs are mostly related to sexual affairs and such... Which I love, by the way... Specially '' Get Some '' my favorite.

[@earlkhentpermites8506]

@@diegoshepherd4396 Have you even listened to I Never Learn?

[@sdous5154]

did you mean: lorde

[@vilievtimova9122]

something ne you in music industry, come to video, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jnOVdayth7aBq6M

[@Scarecrowproject]

i love sad dance music

[@meierpie7809]

any recomendation of music/band for me please

[@melfuentes8061]

same what other sad dance songs could you recommend?

[@adifferentkindofhuman3786]

Saaaame Any recomendation?

[@Scarecrowproject]

Skyweep, Fullcasual & Kooka - Resolution for Love

[@MrEking25]

@@meierpie7809 Pional - A new dawn Rhye - The fall William fitzsimmons - everything has changed (marv edit) Royksopp - You don't have a clue Daniel Bortz - Boyz 2 men Lekesch & shekel - broken heart

[@mattyates8501]

Something specifically about the way she dances in the crowded scenes, surrounded by people but unseen by them, dancing like if she doesn't keep pushing her energy into movement she'll scream, evokes so much emotion for me. Elena, her bandmates, and the makers of the video are incredibly talented

[@reyn5821]

"In the grand scheme of everything, he’s probably called a nice man" No-one believed me because he was "such a nice guy" who would "never do something like that". It took me years to realise what had happened.

[@TheLoboAK47]

I don't get it...

[@gautamasakyamuni6688]

@@TheLoboAK47 Because you are thick,it's so obvious 😉

[@LikeAZombie01]

@@TheLoboAK47 She was raped or sexually assaulted by a man who appeared to be a gentleman and presented himself as someone incapable of such an action, which meant nobody believed her and he got away with it. "He's probably called a nice man or an ordinary kind of man". Despite what he did to her, people are clueless as to his true nature and probably call him a nice guy or a normal guy.

[@CallumDickson666]

​@@TheLoboAK47 some "all men are rapists" crap

[@CallumDickson666]

See i had the exact different experience. A woman falsly accused me of rape and I got the "why would she lie?" response, but hey, who cares right. I lost several friend, almost got thrown in jail because her and her friends tried lying to the police and it failed, then they said "cops protect rapists anyway". Who gives a fuck though right? Only women are victims, because all men are rapists right?

[@119Elias119]

What I love about Daughter is how it's kind of a poetic post-rock. I wouldn't quite describe this the same way, but I'm glad Elena's new project hasn't lost that inspiration. Love it. Hype AF for the new album.

[@119Elias119]

Also she dances kinda like I do. But it looks way better ☺️

[@Reprodestruxion]

Roberto Elias 4ad , post punk , just ethereal throwing muses vein. Check out Cocteau Twins

[@119Elias119]

@@Reprodestruxion yeah Cocteau Twins are excellent. Frou Frou foxes in the evening is just a stunning song

[@JhoangelF]

you're right. the last album of Daughter has more post-rock influences, i love them and Elena, the best of the best.

[@bluepragya]

2018 finally feels complete.

[@graysonh.simmons1176]

pragya x no kidding

[@romainszuwalski]

pragya x totally

[@RogerLoera]

Nice quote.

[@KillBill2114]

oof. gut shot.

[@EstMeaVita2011]

The first time that I ever heard Elena's voice, she sang, "I sometimes wish I'd stayed inside my mother, never to come out." To see her now find the courage to share herself, the self that she sometimes struggles to like and accept, with the whole world-as she is, no choreography and no script-is beyond art, beyond beauty, truly transcendental. It's mesmerizing. Thank you for sharing yourself with us!

[@Juneau04]

Elena's music oddly makes me feel humane. I have never felt this type of utter sadness like her in my life. But seeing her broken to the point she's creating art out of it, makes me feel. So oddly humane. I really can't explain it.

[@chessguy246]

Empathy

[@lucasdelhove1568]

Underneath the skin, there's a human.

[@yunusemre-rm6xr]

this woman is going to kill me

[@bookowl1775]

Sue her.

[@user-qr1cp3rc1g]

Same.

[@reon-larth]

She already killed me inside with that song "New Ways" from Daughter so yeah lmao

[@yunusemre-rm6xr]

Can never handle ''All I Wanted'' and ''Smother''. Never.

[@reon-larth]

Me neither, especially All I Wanted, I feel it in some ways I never thought I could feel a song

[@celineschlosser2138]

I'm ready to get heartbroken again.

[@wardahmatin8940]

Your comment feels so sad and funny at the same time 😂💙

[@Captanuki]

dude same. i still have Not to Disappear, If You Leave, and Music from Before the Storm running 24/7 on my phone

[@SilencedButNotForgotten]

@@Captanuki same

[@Captanuki]

@@SilencedButNotForgotten yessss

[@SilencedButNotForgotten]

@@Captanuki captain fox... Girl or a boy? -that name with the pfp confuses me so much hahaha And still listening to the song (ofc with a break)

[@Japhala_Aether_Gwangwa]

Those breakbeats at @2:25 hit DIFFERENT. Prolific. An epoch. This song is sad AF but it low key makes me happy.

[@Worshiver]

childishly thoughtless note to myself: turn back time, choose friendship instead of love to still have you in my life

[@felizmentelari8377]

well... this fits me.

[@vilievtimova9122]

listen IWAN LOVYNSKY - DOESNTMATTER, pop minimal 2020

[@haydendutton6916]

The spectrum and analysis of human emotion and grief on Ex:Re honestly cements how mature in nature Elena’s lyrics are and the themes she’s been tackling as a whole since Daughter began. Ex:Re in its stripped down rawness reminds me of Daughter before If You Leave like on earlier EP’s before they became big. It’s so stripped back and forward with its lyrics. While that may put off some people who might find it unexciting and at times repetitive, people who’ve appreciated how dark Daughter is from their very beginning will find as if they’ve discovered them for the first time here. This album for me personally felt intimate and personal especially with my own history of trauma and heartbreak and loss, the songs here were almost ghostly in their expression and Elena here is steadily haunting in her delivery. Romance was a good choice for the main single as it’s the most similar in style to Daughter and feels like it could be a single from a Daughter album, heck it sounds like a song that should’ve been on Not To Disappear. Listen to this album on a beach at night and close your eyes, you won’t be disappointed. Elena has always helped me through the darkest moments of my life.

[@CeruleanAether]

It’s funny. Discovering Ex:Re was exactly like discovering Daughter for the first time. “Where the time went,” gave me that sense of nostalgia and claustrophobia in the same way “Landfill” did.

[@ma-ks8cq]

Me too💕

[@rain_down_]

Not sure I can trust anyone who doesn't think this is deep and brilliant.

[@Hvors]

Word!

[@KnotApps]

Ain't nothing deep about being raped. The lyrics are quite plain and obvious.

[@rain_down_]

@@KnotApps I find it more about how a lot of men believe they have a birthright to play a very smooth act of appearing innocent and nice to someone, then go back to someone's flat and abuse them, then fully expect to get away with it - often fuelled by coke and alcohol. I think there's a lot of depth there to start with , and the line 'I grew up too quick and still forgive too slow' could be interpreted in many ways and I'm certain this must be something millions of people relate to, regret or also blame people for. Yeah, it's easy to just label it as a rape song, but that's a very straight forward and basic view of it.

[@tramarthomas6105]

@@rain_down_ I'm assuming you're referring to your own beliefs/previous ones? Tf you mean by a lot, lol

[@dearoldmold]

@@tramarthomas6105 Just about every woman I know has been harrassed by men. You go online and you see and encounter countless men who act as if women owe them something. Either you're not looking or you're right there with them.

[@asmrwithme4459]

Something's about the way she moves it's liberating dancing in a room full of strangers, yet she feels alone in her own kingdom not taking care of the environment the ending is enchanting

[@aleo6480]

"This one thinks I'm a slaughterhouse", in triplets. Pure Elena Tonra.

[@lolimfranco]

Triplets?

[@jabin4175]

She stirs my soul.I wish I could manage to see her perform live before I die.

[@Saavycupcake]

Memoriii oh! You must! I’ve bawled my little heart out at her last 3 shows. I really hope you get the chance to. I went in my wheelchair the last time. It was painful, but my soul finally felt better.

[@alyssamsipe9123]

I saw her a few years ago, I cried the whole time

[@hardstylepikachu]

She’s such a ray of sunshine live! Her smile lights up the room and she’s such a sweetheart when talking to the audience

[@songwithoutword]

She seems as shy as can be, hiding behind her mic stand and guitar. Almost as though she doesn't want to be there but she has to be there to give us the amazing gift that is the music. It's really sincere and heartfelt.

[@katarinakorlat8707]

I feel you, but I live in Serbia so I know she'll never come here :((

[@madinarobson4208]

thankyou for sharing your art. Daughter has helped me in the darkest moments of my life and I am forever grateful. Beyond excited to discover your new music. Thank you so much

[@AlejandroRodriguez-gy8mx]

so sameee :(

[@SilencedButNotForgotten]

Sameeee

[@tanya3453]

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[@evaahagn]

This is one of the saddest most beautiful deep songs I have ever heard. Thank you for this beautiful piece of art.

[@MookVideos]

This is one of, if not the most, lyrically powerful songs I've ever heard.

[@ElenhVlaxakh]

I miss someone but I don't know who

[@ban9867]

i miss someone and i know who.

[@eps3154]

That's the most apt way I've ever heard loneliness described... thank you

[@emanueldornelles3177]

Can relate

[@jellyeffxlo7485]

Ελενη Βλαχακη yourself.

[@yiwtu8802]

Η κατακουζηνα σου λείπει 😋

[@saruulmio5279]

Here comes my depression dance.

[@OperariaCarito]

Same

[@NewGoldenEraRap]

Got me through my last broke up after 4 years.

[@katannadrake7399]

Patrick... we’re doing the “gallow dance” over here, still swaying like “goodbye horses” 🖤

[@step26sn93]

The best kind of dance, I feel. Very therapeutic😏

[@faithwind3376]

@@step26sn93 is your name Stephen?

[@cyberpokey]

this was oddly therapeutic

[@muri7915]

And the dancing oddly cathartic

[@Fullbatteri]

It soo good to have Elena back, but it's so *sad* she's still *sad.*

[@alvarosirvent3207]

What can we do apart from loving this song, this artist, this art?

[@mikk5540]

Álvaro Sirvent throw all our money at them! 😍

[@Dyzlegdyg]

I’m just sitting in a restaurant and crying to this. Amazingly sad, as always, amazingly beautiful.

[@gray.mongrel]

I keep coming to this song ever since I was 19. Every time I feel like things are going to be different or get better, the situation once again brings me back here. I'm 23 now, and I feel like I won't have many more returns left until I will end my suffering.

[@kianac5557]

I don't know what to say , this is too much but I read that comment two days ago and tried not to answer Because I don't know what to say but I haven't been able to stop thinking about it , please carry on , and please see a therapist. you deserve everything. I'm so sorry but please just carry on , I hope everything will be okay in the end.

[@gray.mongrel]

@@kianac5557 I've been going to a therapist for 4 years but some traumas keep repeating, and when I'm triggered I feel very broken inside and have flashbacks of all the times it kept happening. So I do feel like I'm not gonna last eventually, right now I'm feelling more neutral, I was very triggered when I wrote the comment. I hope I'll be able to carry on as well, I'm sorry for worrying you.

[@kianac5557]

@@gray.mongrel I can't imagine how hard can it be for you. I know it's a lot deeper than that , but you can talk to me like anytime. Thank you for trying 🤍🤍

[@yourdream9920]

This song is about boundaries. I love the way she story tells

[@moonzter]

romance is dead but elena's very much alive

[@sea-goatbr7588]

Alive, kicking and dancing

[@sarahwo6152]

What a coincidence that I was wondering this morning, if Daughter is ever coming back with new music. And then I check Twitter and see that "Romance" is released. Even though it's not a new Daughter song or album, it's still a pleasant surprise! It makes me fall in love again with her voice. (But I do hope that this doesn't mean that Daughter is splitting..) Edit: Ah i saw on facebook that this project is running in parallel to Daughter! That's awesome!

[@tylersmith2010ts]

I LITERALLY WAS WONDERING THAT TOO MY WHOLE WEEK JUST WENT TO THE MOON

[@sebastiansikora7353]

Same!

[@AlainHus]

Thank you for that precious information!

[@davidefacchinetti2084]

I was thinking about it last night too, how weird is that ?

[@nesrinehamidat6829]

Oh my god me too!!!

[@tuca3434]

I found this song when I was romantically invested for the first time a few months ago. I was hurt because I felt connected to this person and they didn't feel the same way I did. For 21 years of life, I never knew something romantic could hurt so much, nor did I know I had it in me to have romantic feelings for someone. Months later I now realize that I wasn't invested in the person, I was invested in the idea of the person, and I still don't know them well enough. Yet, it felt like I had known them forever and it still hurt like we had been dating for a long time, even when nothing ever happened. He was afraid to express intimacy and I longed for it. To this day I don't know if he ever had the intention to explore my feelings, or if it was all in my head. Even though Elena is hurt for diferent reasons, I can't help but relate to feeling vulnerable and emotionally unbalanced because of trauma. There's something about the beat, and the raw lyrical story telling in this song, that makes it so emotionally charged. It's hard to explain but it hits me in my feelings in a beautiful way

[@ts0088]

Maybe he was hurt and traumatized too which is why he couldn’t open up properly. Also many men, especially young men struggle with keeping the balance of on the one side sharing there emotions and on the other side controlling them in a way that they don’t over share and show too much vulnerability so the women they are in a relationship with doesn’t get scared away and loses the attraction they had prior to „opening up“. This is a big dilemma in relationships.

[@Wonderclover]

And you know in the grand scheme of everything he's probably called a nice man or an ordinary kind of man..

[@blackthunderbird425]

I am a nice man. I'm not ordinary though. I'm the vessel for God, and it was I who ordained Her with my love in the night. She is one of my Stars, and I have given her her spark.

[@blackthunderbird425]

@@jamesklieve4620 Lucifer is my Father. Jesus is Lucifer. I am the son of Lucifer.

[@blackthunderbird425]

@@jamesklieve4620 I am the Christ of God. My Father is Lucifer. You're right, but Lucifer is also the light bringer, He brought the Nations low in order to bring me fourth. Jesus calls the Church the Synagogue of Satan. And, He calls himself the bright and morning Star. The Morning Star is a greek God that raised in the morning just before the Sun, symbolically bringing the Sun. I am not a Satanist/Luciferian, I don't worship my Father as God. I'm the antichrist, and the true messiah. I falsify Jesus as the Christ because the word of God teaches us to do so. I love Satan, I love God, and I love humanity. I choose to love everyone, but I don't love when people say I rapped them... When it was clear that I poured out pure love to them. That sickens me.

[@jimsy5530]

@@blackthunderbird425 Shit, did you write that yourself, or is it a quote?

[@blackthunderbird425]

@@jimsy5530 Yes, I write a lot. I'm literally a fallen angel, and the son of Lucifer. Why would anyone else have the understandings I have? I know what this reality is, I know what My God wants. I know my Father, and I know the word of God better than anyone else. All of the Stars sing for my love. I am the one who ordained them all with a spark of my soul. I am the messiah, and anyone who rejects me, my Father will make those suffer. Jesus is the lamb that spoke like a dragon. Jesus is the son of God who has been worshipped as God. Jesus is the Lawness one.

[@hyunjeilee8782]

Here comes the queen

[@michaelp.4890]

Fancy profile picture.

[@NewAlternative40Chart]

"Romance" debuted at #4 on the New Alternative 40 Chart this week!

[@TheHeartshapebox]

New Alternative 40 Chart oh! U guys must have better music down there on the radio.

[@luizgustavoz7509]

"i grew up to quick and I still forgive too slow" such a beautiful lyric

[@Cptidris]

The wording and how she sings the melody is brilliant ofc apart from the numbing soundscapes and her haunting voice. This is my fav on the album.

[@DeepSeaHobo]

This song will save souls.

[@katjrinn]

And in the night It was a drunken stutter Started as a next to nothing conversation Then he’s tearing me out Taking me apart at my friend’s house I was uncomfortable I was hurt Still with blue innocence in his eyes I felt my reasoning was harsh With every stab wound and exhale I promised myself that I would never lose my youthful fears of grown up men I’m scarred with cruel intentions I thought of another the whole time Who would have never stared me like that See he saw me as a human This one thinks I’m a slaughterhouse He pretends that he’s understanding And you know in the grand scheme of everything He’s probably called a nice man Or an ordinary kind of man Or a stereotype with strong hands I’m so sad at how little joy I realized within my time with my ex guy Before these statues arrives Romance is dead and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side I could begin to open up and risk desire For I move slower and Quieter than most I grew up too quick and I still forgive too slow Oh I wish there was another way Romance is dead and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side See me here Meet me here I don’t care If it’s not repeated I want to know who you are For every second we outrun the moon and dread the sun come up I want to know who you are So I don’t have to check my stuffs still here when you’re gone I want to know who you are I want to know who you were Romance is dead and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side This side This side lyricstranslate.com/ru/exre-romance-lyrics.html

[@MusicqlNotes]

katjrinn what do you think the lyrics mean

[@katjrinn]

MusicqlNotes loneliness.

[@danhe13]

@@katjrinn sounds like a rape to me ...

[@katjrinn]

danhe13 idk sometimes you go for sex with someone you didn't want, just for sex. sounds like it for me

[@MusicqlNotes]

danhe13 that’s what I think too honestly

[@marekpeles3153]

Lets agree we all had moment when we danced alone and totally loved ourselves -- dancing the emotions out fearlessly

[@arroncuellar9347]

I think everyone has felt like this at one time or another. It’s the comedown after a night out and all you’re left with is yourself. 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@myagirl4494]

I could just walk through the city in the middle of the night listening to this. I'd get lost and I'd never come back

[@davidjay2812]

Its rare a song makes me cry, but Elena always knows how to hit me in the feels.

[@chipsneed5142]

"I thought of another the whole time" - gives me chills unlike any song i've ever heard.

[@fynn9708]

this song's lyrics are so ingrained in my soul i swear. in general, ex:re lyrics and some daughter lyrics too. but especially this song, the first verse before the chorus is my favorite and i try not to constantly quote it fully all the time haha it has this melancholic sublety and storytelling quality. it means so much to me. i feel like this music has helped me a lot. because it is so poetic. it was a non-threatening way to approach my feelings because i could relate to it a lot and it was really hurtful. thank you for making this album! and i'm so excited for the new daughter album!

[@VNDRWRLD]

I know exactly what you mean. This song feels like an echo chamber where I can enter and let all my emotions flow around me, and I can dance with them.

[@AbsconderNoLonger]

This made my year...I’ve been missing some new music from my favorite singer...and here she is

[@SilencedButNotForgotten]

Yep yep, ready for December now. Replay button going to get smashed

[@CaptainFram]

This is stunning and devastating

[@starmaree]

She makes my sadness feel beautiful...she sooths my tears

[@flashhclubb]

this is one of those songs you don't just listen to it. you feel it.

[@sel1963]

I kept replaying old songs for months and new song came out i am so happy. Daughter is only band i feel connected. And me and elena so similar i hope i see them in real life.

[@SilencedButNotForgotten]

Same same same

[@mykameakulpa]

We need to talk about how important a woman dancing by herself is. It has purpose.

[@AlejandroRodriguez-gy8mx]

ammmmm no

[@conzoomer8894]

wat

[@Javier-kw9yw]

It has a purpose, it means independence and freedom. Women were more opresed in the past times, they could not even dance.

[@_aereos]

i thought the same when i saw the video for the first time, and it's so beautiful

[@reneeb6411]

Yes!!!! It feels amazing!

[@radhikarishi9420]

This song makes me feel like I'm not alone in the way I felt and it almost reveals the light to humanity by showcasing darkness and turmoil.

[@TeikaAkiura]

Elena's not a generation's idola, but the timeless genius.

[@noiravoir]

*_i really needed this_*

[@evgenianovikova1339]

to run through your veins

[@jakeparkin3227]

And in the night it was a drunken stutter Started as a next to nothing conversation And then you're staring me out Taking me apart at my friends house I was uncomfortable, I was hurt still With blue innocence in his eyes I felt my reasoning was harsh With every stab-wound an exhale I promised myself that I would never lose My youthful fears of grown up men I'm scarred with cruel intentions I thought of another the whole time Who would've never stared me like that See he saw me as a human This one thinks I'm a slaughterhouse He pretends that he's understanding And you know in the grand scheme of everything He's probably called a nice man or an ordinary kind of man Or a stereotype with strong hands I'm so sad At how little joy i realised Within my time, with my ex guy Before these statues arrived Romance is dead and and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side I could begin to open up and risk desire For I move slower and quieter than most I grew up too quick and I still forgive too slow Oh I wish there was another way Romance is dead and and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side See me here Meet me here I don't care If it's not repeated I wanna know who you are For every second we outrun the mill dread the sun come up I wanna know who you are So I don't have to check my stuffs still here when you're gone I wanna know who you are I wanna know who you are Romance is dead and and done And it hits between the eyes on this side The grass is dead and barren And it hurts between my thighs on this side This side This side This side This side

[@konugetka]

Thank you 💛

[@luisat431]

It's so heartbreaking to see her dancing alone... But she does it on purpose. She is in her own world. Just the music and her. She moves like nobody's watching her. And that is really strong. Even such a simple thing is an accomplishment for some ppl. Just dancing and not thinking.

[@anonymousgirl5935]

This song came out on the exact day I was raped. The day after the incident i discovered this song (the 27th of November 2018) and i listened to it on repeat for most of the day and cried. It was done to me by one of my closest friends who I trusted and loved like a brother. It was his birthday and I always think of it and remember him telling me that he liked me....him forcing himself on me as I told him to stop and that i didn't feel the same way. I kept saying stop and to wait, but maybe i didn't fight enough or shout loud enough, maybe if the neighbors had heard me it wouldn't have happened. I told the man I was sleeping with at the time what happened to me the morning after and he told me that it was my fault and that i needed to learn how to day "no" properly....he and the guy are actually very close friends now. Every now and again i listen to this song.....i feel so empty. Im in a relationship now and i can't help but feel it's going to fail....we argue so much and i try to connect with him emotionally, but i feel like i'm failing at it. I listen to this song every now and again, hoping i'd probably find closure eventually, i know it's stupid but I don't know where to start. I pretend that i'm over the entire thing but if i'm being honest, I miss our friendship and i know i should hate him because he hurt me and i definitely stay away from him but i can't simply forget how close we were, he was like my brother and he hurt me more than i can even put into words.

[@kdwavour]

I’m so sorry you went through this. You responded the only way you could’ve at the time and it will never be your fault. Having complex feelings about your abuser is normal since they are often people you once trusted. If you need to talk, let me know.

[@anonymousgirl5935]

@@kdwavour I needed to hear this. I have been feeling guilty since it happened

[@kdwavour]

Anonymous Girl your abuser is the only guilty party, you cannot be held accountable for his actions. Hope you are taking care of yourself ❤️

[@anonymousgirl5935]

@@kdwavour thank you

[@distantsolarsystems]

The world is so fucked up and I’m so so so sorry this happened to you. I’m sorry too that you were blamed for being tortured. That happens way too often and it needs to stop. Keep going though. Even when it’s hard. And know that it was never your fault. Someday you will find someone that gives you time and patience and helps you heal. You are stronger than you think ❤️

[@aygontier2131]

Thom Yorke is dancing out loud now!

[@Marcos94h]

It must have been difficult for her to film this, dancing in front of people and cameras, when in her concerts she moves softly and is shy even to say thank you to the public

[@Liza33650]

m94h i think in a room full of smoke, dark lights, music, and hidden behind her fringe she's more comfortable plus dancing relieves (sorry for my english)

[@evgenianovikova1339]

@@Liza33650 absolutely agree with you

[@vilievtimova9122]

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[@voetschy]

It's not Elena dancing.

[@arteriesveins6029]

It's not her dancing

[@herrcemacu]

I wish I had found this masterpiece earlier. I am speechless.

[@aurelienjeanneau5334]

Same

[@Methamphetamineist]

This is the best song I've heard.

[@veidt72]

Listening to your music is like hangin 'round with an old friend living far away ... but once we riunite we make every single second together counts. Thank you Elena. xx

[@marvellesantos7877]

Reading the lyrics, it sounds like the aftermath of an abusive relationship and Elena's voice is just breaking my heart even more.

[@mangasunny]

The songs reminds me of my own trauma and break up in my early twenties. It was my first heartbreak and the feeling of rejection and loss was overwhelming. I think the song is about the time after the break up when you try to ease the pain. Especially with seeking love in other places to fill the the emptyness. Having affairs with men and realising that it´s not the same without love. That the dating scene is extremly toxic and superficial. That you are just using each other and objectifying sex to feel close to somebody but it doesn´t work and it hurts even more afterwards. And to experience being used for your body and the other person not seeing you as a human poisons you and the more you do it, the more you become numb. PS: sry for my bad english :P

[@somebody9596]

I searched for this comment because it's exactly how I feel in the past two months after I broke up with my boyfriend. We were 3 years together. He left me saying that he loves adventures and actions, something new and fresh. I couldn't believe that he can say that after 3 years of saying how much he loves me and fights for me. And now, after two months, he has someone else. All my memories of him are like flashbacks in my head, I can't handle it sometimes. I feel so lost, disappointed, trying to ease my pain talking to some guys that never attracted me.

[@mangasunny]

@@somebody9596 oh no I´m so sorry. I felt the same way. Believe me with time it gets better. I´m with the love of my life right now but I can still remember what the pain felt like. You are not alone and you are good enough. Hugs and love.

[@KnigthMare69]

I couldn't have said it better myself, almost feels like you read my thoughts. Except that, well, in my case, I change the word men for women

[@caslualves]

I want more from this vibe

[@christianagkiouly]

She reminds me so much of Florence...and it's not because I feel like she is copying her or anything like that...it's just that she has such a calm, vibrant, melancholic, wonderful vibe and I just wanna say that she is a true artist with all the colors that a masterpiece needs, painting her voice with all kinds of emotion...That's why she reminds me of Florence..both of them are unique, amazing, powerful women and artists. I'm actually very thankful that we get to listen to such an amazing song (music in general by them). So thank you Elena (I'd prefer to say Daughter but ok). And thanks to anyone who actually provided some of their time to read my opinion. I appreciate it! 💜

[@sorcellerie]

Finally someone sees this omg!

[@tiagocardoso1725]

Same!! Florence and Elena seem to me like those musical twins who contrast between each other with their happiness/sadness, but when it comes to writing their souls out, they both do it amazingly

[@sorcellerie]

@@tiagocardoso1725 they need to collab like yesterday

[@Mimikatzz]

It‘s amazing how many people who listen to Daughter listen to Florence and the Machine aswell, they have always been my favorite...

[@UnhappyTooth]

Funny cause Daughter and Florence and the Machine both make my most favourite music to listen to.

[@jasoncauge2315]

Don't ever stop playing music ,Your talent is undeniable ,Your My favorite thing right now!

[@akbarmahardhika2982]

"i grew up too quick and i still forgive too slow" that line always hits me so hard 🥲🥲

[@ashleykalegha]

"I grew up too quick and still forgive too slow" :( . this hits so deep

[@dylanbuchman8128]

I can't believeeeee how good this is, months and months later I'm still floored

[@ebrart2]

i cant find a song like this song makes me feel..

[@shopwindows1]

The lyrics on this song are just beyond astonishing, a powerful and remarkable once in a generation epic masterpiece

[@dariorobertherma7169]

This song and video are pure art. Elena Tonra is beyond amazing!

[@saecsee]

I come to this song every now and then. It's actually a masterpiece.

[@kayoss8787]

Your songs are like vengeful ghosts, they haunt you, but you are powerless to resist. The Perfect song for the most imperfect breakup to breakdown too. Ty I needed this.

[@Jellygirl5440]

I've been sober for 3 months. After 6yrs of just about every drug I could get my hands on. Right after I was 18 I was raped twice in a 6 month period. Two different men. This song hits so hard in so many ways. It took me almost 9 years to open the mental box of that time in my life. To realize that all I'd done was block it off. Told myself it happens to people all the time and I was okay. In my therapy program as apart of getting clean I opened the box and realized just how deeply I was hurt and affected. All the ways the damage had eaten into every part of my life since it happened. I'm finally facing and dealing with it head on. Some days I'm crushed under the weight of the memories and the fears of intimacy. I crave love and closeness and touch, and the things I need the most are also the things I guard against the most. Have the most fear of. This song gives me a sad sense of... understanding and peace. We all have our demons, I'm learning to be peaceful with mine.

[@manori69]

thank you for showing yourself...much respect, warmth...

[@drewd4491]

Jesus Christ love you sister, He wants to heal your damaged heart and make you a new one. Literally all it takes is a prayer asking the Lord to reveal himself in your life. He will do the rest. He loves you so, so very much.

[@cali6913]

so glad you're healing. i'm sending you a hug and lots of love 💜

[@Jellygirl5440]

Didn’t remember I’d posted on this. Sober a year& 4 months. Healing is a hard journey no doubt. It’s possible for everything to be okay. I’m still learning how far the fears reach, how to let go, and embrace the blessings and challenges to come. I’ve made it, and I’ll continue to make it. Love to everyone questioning life and their place in it. ❤

[@Peat_42]

"This one thinks that I'm a slaughterhouse" This lyric kills me

One of the best songs ever made, her lyrics is pure poetry

[@starsalways7922]

There was never a more complete song in the history of songs, but hope there will be more in the future.

[@SarangSerigala]

Elena Tonra and everyone in Daughter are truly gifts for life. Thank you for existing and creating outworldly songs that actually speak for people on a wide spectrum. Love from Indonesia, I wish I could at least see Daughter live once before I'm gone for good.

[@DA-te7xe]

A beautifully clear depiction of what feels naked and without identity but with desire for it

[@halohale]

Why is she so amazing

[@librabalance]

Don't worry she's not

[@sorayaalhady7368]

she's blessed with sadness that she expresses through creativity (music)

[@esmin2400]

Soulless GINGER lol stfu she’s great

[@andreluizfr]

it's extremely intriguing and somehow satisfying that in No Care Elena says "no one asks me for dances because I only know how to flail" and then in Romance she just decides to dance alone

[@catlady9084]

One of the most beautiful songs I've heard in a while. The emotions are just inexplicable.

[@chiquitapas4130]

This is what you call music. She my favorite of all times 🎶🎧🎧🎧🎧🎶🎶 love all her songs it hits me deep

[@6Hikari6]

dont know why, just felt tears in the eyes from the first second I heard it

[@GlitzyWitch]

Her voice is haunting beautiful, and the words to all her songs make so much sense in many ways

[@gfeex]

This is the most beautiful thing ive ever heard

[@zolper1189]

Reminds me of those times when you go to a club and people are all around you, but you feel alone And you dance like never before and try to forget your frustrations but when you leave the club you feel empty and frustrated again

[@simonevalent]

I'm speechless.

[@mykameakulpa]

Didn’t even feel like 6 minutes, wow her power.

[@mariamlad8521]

i can't keep track of how many times i replayed this , truly amazing

[@houseonjupiter]

"He pretends that he's understanding, and you know in the grand scheme of everything hes probably called a nice man, or an ordinary kind of man, or a stereotype with strong hands." This just really reminds me of the guy who abuses me. Everyone likes him, everyone thinks he's the greatest and nicest guy. And to them he is, but to me he's my worst nightmare.

[@jared20089]

You need to tell your friends. People you trust. I hope you're doing okay.

[@drewd4491]

Are you still in an abusive relationship?

[@sirg-had8821]

The song is brilliant. The video reminds me of my 20's spread across Okinawa, Korea, Savannah, and Dubai.

[@zakuga]

This is so deep. This need to be heard by more people. This is a different kind of pain.

[@andreluizfr]

2k18 is over, I need nothing but these chills

[@hay_bail1]

this song has so many amazing lines. pure poetry.