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[@DEFINING]

We hope you enjoyed this episode of #DEFININGBreakups! A big shout out to Thato & Buhle for their honesty & vulnerability! Don't forget to give this video a like and subscribe for more 🎊

[@khanyinoxolo7711]

Please host ghost hlubi and seemah 😢

[@dianakiny]

Love it!

[@gontsemokone2357]

In all honestly, this is the realest episode we’ve gotten. I think both Thato & Buhle are mostly hurt because they lost their best friends more than anything and that’s what we mourn most with break ups.. the fact that the very first person you’d share things with is no longer your go to person. Love and light to both Thato & Buhle, more so Buhle ❤

[@KeabetsweNeoRabz]

Facts. And it's sad how their situations turned out... 🥺😩😭

[@Salad_Channel]

Exactly, I just said the same thing.

[@Asie_Kholwane]

That's so true

[@BubuhleGobodo]

I really enjoyed this one, maybe because I was rooting for their relationships to make it..

[@skmatt2811]

This is really a good combo. Buhle needed someone who will quickly call her back from being emotional and Thato did it so perfectly.

[@evidancemogale7638]

Yes! He protected her so beautifully.

[@enhlenjomane5694]

I feel like he created a safe space for her, them.

[@asiveangel4940]

Yes!

[@khunindlovu3310]

This was like watching 2 friends catching up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣seeing Buhle smile always make me happy sheem

[@BabalwaMoni]

Yazi mtase😅😅❤

[@zimasambonelwa]

'I think because I've been alone' I felt what Buhle said with every bit of my soul yerr😭

[@sthembilethanjekwayo_za]

And then she legit tears up....yeah I felt it too. 😪

[@tobbogun9420]

Hi Mama. You’re beautiful. could I have your ig 🤲🏾

[@wadzie_]

I could never do this if they invited me, I would be swearing at my ex left right and center because I am never mature about breakups. I wish they could die( my ex) 😂😂😂😭😭😭. These people are so civil and mature ❤. Love it !!!

[@mamitii4787]

Violence all the way 😂😂😂😂

[@dikeledimonokwane3662]

My sister!!!🤞😂😂

[@Mamokete_Mosia]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@thandiwedlamini2327]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@juliaphoshoko]

Leadership😂😂😂

[@abongilem]

Wishing Buhle all the healing she needs man. I can relate to the part of losing your friend, it really sucks.

[@zamaradebe6683]

I’m scared of what Buhle will become after she fully gets over and heals from the break up… I see it ❤❤❤

[@RRRoyaltiess]

I love how genuine Thato is and how he makes the space comfortable for her to express. Big ups to Thato❤️

[@simplysinovlogs]

This felt like a therapy session for all of us who have experienced heartbreak.... Nothing hurts like losing a best friend 😭, I wish you nothing but healing Hlehle it takes time mntase especially when you are alone mna it took me a whole 2 years and no matter how long it takes you, the pain helps you grow strong❤️

[@phiwem5855]

I needed this..thank you Muhle.

[@michellemoreana1938]

Ke a gowa it's not Twitter no one will fight me but I hear this people I recently went through a break up. There is gossip I want to call him, I was on the phone with this person till 2am daily and we would be walking ghosts at work but I love it now I have insomnia I can't even call him. We had plans, routine, we used to go to church together, we have friends in common. Everything is hard after a break up. The streets are wild too also don't feel like re introducing myself and telling someone what my favorite color is. Iam crying as I type this. Ending a relationship is not easy. Love and light to everyone going through it, everyone brave enough to let go when it was not working ❤️

[@jesss8060]

I love how their energies bounce off each other. They are able to have serious conversations but also be light and fun 🤩

[@lakeishalleke619]

Breakups are scary 🥺🥺🥺❤️ especially when you feel like the person you're currently with is the one🥺🥺🥺

[@mphomonenyane5387]

Seeing Buhle tear up made me cry. I love you Hlehle❤️ you are going to be okay

[@wmatshidisomofokeng7511]

Same sana

[@sokhanatayi9304]

Me too mntase😭

[@nomsankosi2990]

Yoh I just wanted to hug her 🥹🥹🥹🥹

[@Koketso_T]

Buhle is still hurt, you can tell through her voice,she loved him and she's also hurt that she lost herself after the breakup

[@phililengcobo276]

When Hlehle said "It's not having my best friend with me." I lost it, why am I crying 😢

[@blessingmangisa2030]

they both sound so mature about their breakups and sound like they've actually grown from it hey!

[@deekaym]

I just want to give Buhle a big hug 🥺! I hope she moves on finds herself in a happy and healthy relationship with herself…What a great episode ! 🤍

[@Tshegomlp]

Yoh Buhle , "my conscience would water down my feelings... I'd go in there wanting peace and not to resolve the matter", dass deep sis but I love how you were able to articulate your feelings so concisely❤️

[@ntombizodwamacu1852]

I related so much with that coz I do it a lot, by the time I’m ready to sit down and talk, I’m already over it and just want peace.

[@didintlepotelo1484]

This episode should've been longer. 🥺

[@petraelamisi4456]

Losing someone you thought might spend the rest of your life with hurts to the core

[@lebohangmzila7244]

I really really like Thato and Mo individually and together. Lovely people.

[@nkatekomahange661]

Buhle is so honest, I love her.

[@zintlemboki2606]

This series is pure genius because you get to witness the change these individuals have gone through ( emotionally, mentally some even physically) it's like they've evolved in a sense... the people who defined their love now defining their heartbreak just seem like mirror images of themselves & it's beautiful honestly

[@boitshekomyataza8113]

Shout out to the defining cast for respecting Mo’s request with that one question 🤣❤

[@agnesaggy1571]

Shem I noticed 😂😂

[@mphahlelegladness3555]

What was the request?

[@zintlemgilane4609]

Did I not cry 😂😂? I really think that one of the hardest things about a breakup is losing your best friend and having to learn how to live without them. That thing is hard. I really wish both of them the best in their next mjolo.

[@nolufefesiko7870]

I also cried 😢

[@Woke249]

The hardest thing about a breakup is realising that the person who was always there is no longer there and noone will ever look at you the same way they did

[@matumomohlabi7646]

Ohh I wanted to give Buhle a hug, why did I cry with her🥺

[@LoveandLessons_Cambles]

I think I didn’t realize how much we needed #DefiningBreakUps up until I saw Buhle and Thato. We get into relationships and send our persons their KZbin videos on the next adventure we want to take with our partners. Then we break up with our partners and it feels like no one in the KZbin space has experienced such heart wrenching feelings. But even our faves hurt too, and even when “moving on” they still are healing at the same time. And healing is not linear.

[@hlonilesedi]

“The hardest thing is not having my friend around me” girl same 😭😭😭😭

[@tebellomotabaaletta9988]

Went through this emotions this year.! It was intense grief.

[@hlonilesedi]

@@tebellomotabaaletta9988 I’m going through it right now

[@kabelo_m]

@@tebellomotabaaletta9988 time and space... you'll be ayt

[@tsholofelomatshidiso]

Sending lots of love and healing to Buhle ♥️♥️ All the best to Thato as well. I really enjoyed this episode but Buhle's vulnerability and honesty made me a bit emotional.

[@NangulaUahengo90s]

Buhle is still in the healing process yoh yoh💔🥺🥺.. This mjolo things will be the end of us guys.. We love too deep 💔

[@daboys7983]

Buhle’s aura is so so beautiful ✨there’s just something about her man! ❤

[@sanekweyama8774]

This episode really got me emotional and hit different because I am also going through a break up after 5 years of being with the same person, my bestfriend. Its been a couple of months 'now but I still fight the urge to call him everyday, I have no one to talk to about my day or what I'm struggling with. I have no one to validate my feelings, no one to call after a drunk night, I miss all the things I didn't think mattered when we were still together. It really hurts everyday, almost feels like grief it's just a never ending heart ache. I hope everyone going through this finds the healing they need to move on because that's the most difficult part. Being alone after sharing most parts of your life with someone else and relying on them for the simplest things like handling your emotions....now after all of that you really just have to start all over again, find yourself again, learn how to be independent or how to be yourself without needing anyone else, it's so crazy cos I think I'm too much for myself too and there's just so much work to do on my side before even considering getting into another relationship and that's the worst part😭. I have to face my demons ALONE, everyday, its just so exhausting man, everyday!!

[@siinopakade9995]

Sending love and hugs 🫂 ❤️

[@loyisoD]

It was a 16 months long relationship and I'm still struggling some days. I cannot imagine 5 years 😩😩

[@blessingmatlala9051]

Hope you’re in a good place now❤️

[@RainQueen]

What a great episode! The vulnerability. Seeing Buhle not pretend to be okay is encouraging. I cannot wait to see her heal.

[@hlonilesedi]

I’m like Buhle, when I’m mad/angry I ignore the person until I’m fine

[@kendallwitbooi]

Having a friend like Thato is top tier

[@noziphopotgieter7197]

Bro, I’m here thinking please be my friend😭😂😂😂

[@blessjoy]

I can't believe my 32 year old self is waiting for this episode 🙈that time I have to get something at the mall😂😂😂

[@MahasheS]

Sisonke mtase 🤣🤣🤣🤣 29 and I must do stuff aibo 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@notafanofpots5244]

Sisonke baybe😂😂😂

[@sobum4436]

31 and i'm here too🤣

[@YourFavoriteBabyMama]

😂 same boat

[@nokuthulashilenge7217]

Hehake a 30 year old me, subscribed because of this Episode and the last one 🤣🤣

[@msbeephakathi]

“The erasing part will help with the heartache” - Sheesh, I felt that!

[@ikiiya3026]

I love this girl, she’s so sweet maan❤

[@NonhleDollarbully]

Thato is such a Gem ....he gives you big brother , let's talk and let it out and you will not feel awkward because I get it I'm with you. This episode healed people for real ❤️

[@londekashandu2505]

"my sister just talk, this thing is not nice, me I want to know just talk" 😂😂😂 even me Thato😂😂

[@atlehangnkwana5420]

Buhle made me cry😭. Wish you healing Hlehle and I hope one day your paths with Sibu cross again.💞 Wish the episode was longer, because you and Thato gelled nicely.

[@angie__reads]

Thato Rampedi❤️ It’s my first time seeing Buhle and I just fell in love with her. What beautiful souls.❤️

[@ThulaMath]

My heart goes to Buhle, feel so sad for her😭😭❤️

[@Luhlanganiso]

Buhle is always so real and I love her for that. I hope her journey of solitude and growth gives her healing ❤️

[@nontsikelelolillytlooko9987]

Through this episode I've learnt that self reflection after a break-up does you good. To self aware of the role you played in the relationship and acknowledging where you went wrong and were you went right.❣ Wishing these two continuous healing!🙏🏽

[@Mbalenhlechrissie]

Love and light Buhle, I can imagine loosing a person like that it must be hard❤️

[@busishauntelle]

No one really talks about what break ups do to our mental health. This was so raw and touching ❤❤

[@LoveandLessons_Cambles]

I really wish I could hug uBuhle. This is definitely the best pairing ! So open and honest.

[@sabamasaya2064]

Thato and Hlehle were such a perfect match.🥺 Thato is so gentle and welcoming which worked because Hlehle was rawly honest about her healing journey.

[@hunadimakgatho3403]

Lol buhle is a lot of us. She's so unapologetic about where she is right now. I absolutely love that for her.

[@nolwazindlovu2320]

This is the best one yet, Buhle is so genuine they both answered so honestly. Shout out to Thato for making Buhle laugh through it. thank you to buhle for sharing.

[@Kamogelo_PhD]

Buhle made me cry at work phambi'kwabantu. Wishing her all the love warmth and healing.

[@siphosethumotsa7586]

Laughed, Cried and Laughed again, sending love to Both of them❤️

[@tebogomaupa_]

Everytime I watch these I wonder why can’t the couples just get back together 💔😭 I haven’t healed 😭

[@lindamdlokolo9204]

Thank you Buhle for being open, vulnerable and so relatable. I wish you all the healing, peace and happiness in your life!

[@Khethss]

I love buhle’s banter 😭😭🤣

[@boitumelo515]

This is the best episode yet! The honesty and vulnerability. Thank you for sharing! And when Buhle spoke about neglecting yourself to be the best girlfriend for someone… felt! Hugs and best wishes to you both and anyone else going through a break up atm❤️

[@MichelleMakhanya]

I've never seen someone hurt so much. Buhle deserves love yoh, she's been through a lot with this breakup.

[@internetathi]

Felt like the most honest and genuine one yet. Hope they both find a long lasting healing.

[@lebom2456]

I cried with Buhle on this one 😭🥺... it's evident to see how brave she is💚 Keep on keeping on babe... you're doing well 💚🌻💚

[@Pamela_MrsMike]

I thought Thobi and Libho's episode was the best but Thato and Buhle did the things. It's like they've known each other for years. So free with each other. Ngathi zi chommie mani.

[@blessssrt]

idk why but seeing uBuhle smile is so refreshing

[@nontobekodludlu3405]

I guess this year was a year of a lot of breakups and heartbreaks💔 coz I’m part of the defining breakups gang 😢

[@grace_mampofu]

Askies my love 🥺🥺we together

[@nondumisomhlongo]

Buhle is still hurt, this is sad maan😢

[@thobekatamera]

My first time on the channel after hearing loads about it. This episode made me see Thato more as human than just a creator or whatever else I used to think about him. Buhle is definetely doing better and its great to see. Enjoy your healing you guys🥺❤️

[@k.ginah_]

I think this is a really beautiful episode to watch because Thato and Buhle really put their emotions out there, wishing them the utmost best in their next relationships. This actually helped see that it's okay to feel what you're feeling in that moment.

[@LethoHali]

Buhle I am in tears!!!! The best friend line!! 😭😭😭😭😭. USibu has to react to this alok. Asoze!

[@TamandaXO]

Haven't even gotten through 1 minute of the video but Thato saying the streets are dangerous? Wow. Triggered. 💀😭

[@kitapanell4973]

When Buhle said “because I’ve been alone” yho I just wept😭 I relate to a lot of the things she said. This was the absolute best episode. I love how well their energies merge and how much of a big brother Thato was here. Thank you Defining❤

[@lessadiko]

It's really hard not to water your feelings down in the process of digesting something. I never really have the words in the heat of the moment, I tend to want to think things through and understand why I'm feeling the way I'm feeling before I even mention it. It takes time to get to a safe space with someone, a space where you can say what you felt in the moment, even if you may not feel it anymore, but it's important to say it all out. It's important for both parties to realise that when one person comes to you to talk about their feelings, something that made them unhappy, it's not that they're looking for a fight or to blame you for being a problem, they just want to be heard and for you both to see how you can tackle the problem together. And sometimes one person may need to do the adjustments, but it doesn't take away from the end goal, you both being happy and not having to guess where you stand with each other.

[@olonancusane9712]

I felt uBuhle ❤😢 That I have been alone is a killer to me😢 being lonely sucks worse if you have been given the attention for a very long time❤

[@LifeofKhanyisaLupindo]

I love you mtasekhaya and I'm proud of you! Love and Light Hlehle! ❤ 😍

[@kattsomething]

This is a good match ito the episode❤️. Buhle is so so funny and Thato's laugh is also dusting me 🤣

[@zeejama7107]

Thato❤️ I love him nd how he held Buhle down. He’s like that person you can confide in, cry nd laugh all the same time

[@leratongomane4863]

definitely rooting for Buhle, can't wait to see you on the other side of this mntase. You deserve so much love and happiness

[@dianakiny]

Spending Dec 15th 22 watching this 📌. Just missing a glass of wine 😢. I love the chats being had here. Navigating breakups is tricky especially when your relationship is public. "I should have looked after myself to be a better partner." 👏

[@atlehangnkwana5420]

The BEST episode. Thank you DEFINING!

[@buhleshezi5222]

This one will be good, can't wait ke sana 😭

[@DEFINING]

❤❤

[@moledwaba2797]

The best episode. Authentic. Honest. Meaningful and the answers brought us (as the audience) closure

[@ayandamokwana]

Thato is so intelligent & mature. I don’t know what I expected but I feel impressed with his spirit.

[@mbalienhlemthembu6373]

Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. They made it light.. even through the transparency and tears

[@nhlanhlaemuplugged]

Not uBuhle putting our tear ducts to work, sana. Thato holding B's hand through that breath? What a gesture❤️. Ingaske kubekho uPart 2🥺

[@sellogabriel5596]

I'm not that familiar with Buhlr but i am a big follower of Thato, he is a lover and he deserves only happiness. Judging by Buhle's reactions, it shows how she is still hurt and the questions are triggers to her past, i wish her healing and acceptance too. This has been a beautiful and emotional episode.

[@lifewithzeldawillemse]

Didn't this just make me emotional 🥺

[@lerandzotibane3150]

Its okay to move on. And working on yourself is best thing you could ever do for yourself.

[@nandii1969]

The best episode yet😭🥺❤️

[@katlegonkwana2825]

I'll be watching this with the hopes of finding closure from Thato's relationship bc wow I can't hey 🥺😩💔

[@DEFINING]

❤

[@PreciousDimpho]

I think I’ve finally found it. 😭🥺

[@leratomolaoa3819]

and i still had some hope that maybe one day they will get back...aoooowa are there is no hope for them....

[@MahasheS]

@@leratomolaoa3819 he's seeing someone right... He did say on Yolz channel

[@leratomolaoa3819]

@@MahasheS yaaah he said soo its time I move on hahahah I love Motee

[@kattsomething]

Defining "Moving On" 🤣🤣

[@noluthandomahlangu5494]

How can we get Zuki and Karabo and Umiey and MXO? 😭😭😭😭

[@ilove_amanda]

Zuki and Karabo owe us an explanation bathong 😭😭😭😭😭

[@anathimose6036]

He was literally accused of sexual assault and then things ended shortly after so it’s not far fetched to assumed that’s why.

[@masechabangoako]

Yoh Umiey and MXO😭😭😭😭

[@iamlithakazi1]

Zuki and Karabo 😭😭😭

[@mweli.4617]

Have Umiey and Mxo been on this show? Because I think the Defining crew calls back people who have been on this show before...

[@EverHopeful555]

I love how you guys are able to discern who will vibe well with who 👌🏾❤

[@kholiwembuyisa7237]

Thato must wait for me ,He must just send the Woolworths location 🥲I’ll be there we’ll grab the cranberry juice at the same time like a movie sana 🥺

[@roseb.5367]

Haaa this one was the toughest session ever... tough piercing questions were asked. Honestly may they both gain healing asap especially our gorgeous sister uHlehle. We miss your smile, laugh, jokes, great convos... acquire your education and come back full force. We will be here mntase.

[@nyakallomokoena5205]

Buhle is a beautiful soul 😢❤she’s going to make it through

[@asandambutho9098]

Not me watching this episode and going through a break up with my partner as well. My heart is hurting so bad because I don’t want to lose my best friend but hey we move it is what it is

[@khethiwemajola295]

You'll be okay babe❤love and light

[@thebemphahlele4773]

So sorry. Hope you heal. It will get better

[@keat73]

It gets better ❤

[@snenhlanhlamasina8673]

Sending love and light to Buhle wish you all the best in life going forward you deserve it

[@AmantleMocumi98]

I personally relate to Buhle after breaking up with my ex I felt like I have lost my best friend and it really took me time to heal and actually move on with my life.

[@refilwesibiya5322]

I rarely comment on YT, but this episode was so enjoyable and wholesome. I love seeing young people so mature about things such as relationships. I wish them both love and happiness, they seem like such awesome individuals.

[@Ms-lb7lb]

I hate the fact that I relate to Buhle… 5 years later and I’m still grieving that friendship.