exes that had the AUDACITY - REACTION

[@RavenousDevil]

When you said "hands up if you think he broke his glasses," my husband who "doesn't listen to your videos" raised his hand 🤣

[@amberleeperrine8369]

Men like tea too. 😂

[@Floss.1e]

The length men go to to deny watching tea videos 😅 sush we know u love the tea scalding ☕️☕️

[@crazybiogeek]

He may have broken them due to his own stupidity, and not on purpose, but he still broke them!

[@krystalgomez2300]

Oh my god thats so cute

[@Mud.lemons]

Lmao 😭

[@Justaperson354]

My wife wakes me up with a warm robe and socks in cold weather and puts a space heater for me too. It’s honestly so freaking sweet I melt every morning. I warm her blankets in the blanket warmer whenever she’s relaxing or taking her nap. I make her special drinks too and cut up fruit and cheese for her. We appreciate each other! I am so glad she left that bum!!!

[@Aishathefula]

That is so cute

[@ejburgess]

Awww so sweet ❤ my husband and I rub each other's feet every night

[@merci.petras]

You guys are literally so cute 🥹❤

[@Justaperson354]

@@merci.petras thank you! She’s honestly my best friend. We gossip together and always have so much fun! If you’re single, I recommend finding someone you can joke around with and someone who would clean up your throw up without hesitation. You’d be surprised how often that comes up haha my wife gets bouts of nausea often due to illness and I’ve cleaned her up many times and she always looks like such a goddess in the glow of the moonlight. I swear I can’t believe how in love I am with this woman. I hope that for everyone

[@merci.petras]

@@Justaperson354 this is so wholesome honestly, it sounds like you guys have pure love for each other. Bless you both! ✨️

[@Cashhhhew]

I’m so glad she told everyone in the first story. That is the first step to actually escaping. Too many people suffer that in silence

[@jessicaspecht]

Personally, the guy is legally blind, can't be bothered to take proper care of his contacts OR glasses. I would just be leaving 30+ minutes earlier so that I could walk the 10-15 minutes from the parking lot to my job and have my car available. My SO would NOT be allowed to have access to my car with that type of abuse, ESPECIALLY since he can't be bothered to take proper care of his contacts or glasses. He can't be bothered to get up on time, then he doesn't get the luxury of using my car.

[@Cashhhhew]

@@jessicaspecht oh 100%. She let him get away with so much but that’s kinda how ab*se goes. It probably didn’t start out that way and then he slowly started to show who he really was until she finally saw the light.

[@ItzRobyn87]

​@@jessicaspecht PERIOD!!!!

[@GalinaEv]

@@jessicaspecht i bet she wasted much more than 10 minutes preparing everything for him. at this point, it's just easier to walk from home to work.

[@chacheney]

Sometimes, people don't even care. I was totally isolated and begged neighbors to help me and call the police on him(dangerous for me to call at that time), they all ignored me. They looked at me as if I was crazy, when I had been so severely emotionally harmed by him for years that I was in fact losing my mind, but anyone with any sense should have seen why.

[@KittyScythe]

As a person with glasses...you ALWAYS have a spare pair. If that man can't even bother to take contacts out of his eyes, he's a lost cause.

[@themathslady988]

He is also over dramatic. I am also blind without my glasses, so what. I can see fine with them. He seems to think people should feel terribly sorry for him for his "massive disability" which simply requires having a pair of glasses and a spare....

[@franciskeys9810]

I have a weak prescription (something like 1.50) and I only use my glasses for going to the movies or drawing from life. Even I have half a dozen pairs of glasses. Edit: After watching a bunch more videos from this creator, I think it's all made up. Whole story is nonsense.

[@drricemice2046]

I don't even wear actual glasses and have more than 1 pair of glasses

[@avamalick5728]

i can understand money-wise why someone wouldn’t have more than one set, but especially with him being legally blind i’m sure he has to keep up with his prescription to safely drive and personally i always save my previous pair of glasses to have as a spare when i get my prescription/glasses updated

[@OliviaGabriel-b6e]

I'm legally blind (5.50 on my right eye and 6.50 on my left eye.) I don't own a spare pair of glasses, but I also wear contact lenses.

[@adriennechase81]

For anyone questioning - the tactics used by the boyfriend with the broken glasses are CLASSIC coercion and control abuse. Period. Full stop. I work with DV survivors. What he was doing was quite literally textbook.

[@pysceansun5818]

Listening to the first one, reminded me of my ex. What I did outta kindness and love became an expectation of his and if I didn't do it. Ended up in arguments and mind you I just had our baby. 3 years of bs. Glad I walked away.

[@SicilianMa]

Yup, even tho she's clearly doing everything and we know she didn't say it. But she's absolutely the one who's doing everything and was being groomed to become eventually a dv. So disgusting

[@easypeasy7584]

His behaviour sounded like this of a narcisist. They will always gaslight you and make you believe YOU are the issue. Crazy.

[@Darkprincess0789]

Her story hit me hard I'm a DV survivor and I almost wasn't. My ex husband almost succeeded in killing me. I'm so glad she got away.

[@psychohippie]

He reminded me of my abusive incubator, I was worried for the creator, glad she left him!!

[@bevalexander5897]

That first young lady dodged a bullet for real. As a police officer, I believe if she had not ended that relationship, the next time he would have hit her.

[@erikarussell1142]

100%. If they will raise their hand to anything, they will eventually raise a hand to you. Get out. Get out now. Before they make it so you can’t. I speak from experience.

[@RaviStarr7]

A police officer would know 👀

[@audreymarie1191]

@@RaviStarr7LOL

[@jandavis1523]

Absolutely!!!

[@jasonellis4330]

I know you probably mean that you've dealt with DV cases before, but this comment really just reads like you're in the 40%....

[@CollaborativeDog]

The first story is abuse. Straight up. She did not deserve being bullied and verbally and mentally abused like this. Once he raised his fist at her, she crossed into the danger zone. The chance of the abused being murdered goes up dramatically (about 80%) once they tell the abuser they are leaving. Unfortunately, I do know a few women who were killed by their abuser under these circumstances. Horrifying. People, if your partner starts setting you up so you are always at fault, leave before it escalates. No joke. Get out early. 😢

[@robinkholmes7127]

Gets mad if woken up too early, gets mad if woken up too late, yep, abuser.

[@Tristandar]

My husband used to be like this. He would axe walls from being woken up.

[@vialadeadwillow3099]

I was in this exact situation with my ex. She needs to run, not walk to the nearest exit. If he's willing to raise his hand to you, he is willing to hit you next time without hesitation

[@oletabostic6537]

#1 clear case of Narcissistic Abuse. Watch Dr. Rahmani.

[@lukejackson2354]

This guy was too stupid to live. He didn’t want to take off contacts even with how much it f’in hurt ‘im then thought he was “too cool” to wear patched glasses when he is outright disabled without them.

[@linkinjepoi]

I'd rather walk that 15 minute walk than to deal with that kind of guy every single day.

[@beatcat1265]

Exactly I said I wouldn't gaf if I had to walk 30 minutes 😂

[@sithumiperera5212]

U best believe this...I would choose walking option too.🎉🎉🎉

[@ladyscorpsmom]

that is what it is like dating a narcissist...at the very end you feel defeated and numb, you just go thru motions to keep the other person from becoming even worse. I am so glad she got out and found true happiness

[@ASHl33164]

Yep, you’re absolutely right. Been there done that

[@gr33ngirlsea]

She needed to break up with him before he was going to hit her!

[@emilycolbert2852]

So many things similar to my ex in that. The look in the eye is in my mind. I knew that look and it's terrifying. And it's not just "hitting me" it could have been worse.

[@Hcollens85]

My ex was a narcissist and emotionally abusive anda little bit physical, I haven't been with him in a year and 5 months and I'm still suffering with it. I suffer with terrible anxiety and very guarded. I'm glad she got out.

[@julieworsley5048]

I didn't date a narcissist only worked with him but I felt exactly like this it was a very weird work relationship. It was like I was dating him without actually dating him and only after retelling my story to friends did I realise this. Happy to say over four years narcissistic colleague free! I just blocked him on absolutely everything and never looked back

[@amysays3980]

That first story, the guy is a serial abuser in the making - all the ingredients are there, just waiting for enough heat to turn him into a monster. I hope he gets help. Really glad she got out because, even though it hasn't gotten physical yet, the abuse was there - the gaslighting, the belittling, the verbal abuse, the unreasonable demands like he's the lord and she's the maid. What a piece of work.

[@StrangeFacinations]

And the wear and tear on her car. That is not a small thing.

[@jenna6149]

Came here for this. He isn't a man baby he was verbally and psychologically abusing her. Whether he got physical or not it was full on abuse.

[@Megan-xl8yx]

That’s exactly what I was thinking…I’m so happy she got away. What a son of a bitch. He totally broke his glasses to not do another thing for her. Heard the fear in her voice as she was talking. Been there. I’m lucky to be alive in a similar situation years ago. My EX husband was involuntarily committed to Yale Psych Ward three times while we were married for similar things, and who knows what her fiance was doing while she was at work? Was he just a serial killer in the making? Or self medicating with drugs… I’m so happy she’s away from him

[@GingeRenee]

Yep, my ex was exactly like that and your spot on. I wasted 14 years of my life and still dealing with the trauma and ptsd 3.5 years later.

[@StrangeFacinations]

@@GingeRenee I'm glad you got away. It's hard not to dwell on the bad things, but we keep trying.

[@drwheycooler8423]

...also...when your vision is that bad, mine is, you ALWAYS have multiple pairs of glasses all over the place. Even old pairs that may not be as strong, but still allow you to function are kept. Pair in the car, next to bed, desk drawer, bathroom, backpack/handbag...everywhere... because sight is vital. The fact he didn't speaks to what CD said... incompetent. The almost hitting her also speaks to his incompetence/lack of intelligence.

[@wendyattwell8946]

I only have one pair because I can not afford more than that.

[@DM-ll8kl]

Yes, this. I have glasses from 20 years ago. 🤣😂

[@vcutler4735]

This like did he not even have sunglasses?? (That was my backup pair for the longest time)

[@Trammiliin_nr2]

My ex was also almost blind and couldn't see farther than a foot without glasses. He also had multiple pairs. He kept all the old ones in case something happened with his current ones.

[@poiwytlee]

Same haha I can't afford to have more than one pair made usually because my vision is very unique and they're expensive. But I at least keep all my old pairs that'll do in a pinch!

[@Acsana]

That first one sounds like a malignant narcissist. Very scary. I’m so glad Kirsten left him. I felt so bad for her.

[@ingridakerblom7577]

Let's hope she is able to keep away from him. Men like this DO NOT ACCEPT being dumped... they WILL come after you will all they got.. Manic revenge..

[@floggednflankednfl.3277]

Any person acting that ridiculous is s huge coward. If she had stood up to him I bet you he would have backed down.

[@MAE_Nerd_Out]

11:34 I love that she told people to keep her accountable and so others know she might be in a dangerous situation.

[@frankkiejo5560]

Yes, absolutely! To both parts of what you said!

[@Poolpuppies3]

Omggggg the first story gave me ptsd from my past relationship. I swear the more you baby them the more they treat you like they did their mother

[@sandrashevel2137]

Truth.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Same & agreed

[@AHilly]

I would have prepared a warm baby bottle for him, leave and never look back. 😂

[@averyflowers8819]

​@@AHilly Sounds like a great idea! 😂😂❤😂😂

[@SusanStewart-qs4qw]

I love your channel but why do we need to watch these ladies put their makeup on.

[@susanhansell3435]

The minute he raised his fist, I would have grabbed the keys and drove my self , even if I had to take the chance of being late. No one raises a fist to me.

[@gilded_lady]

That was my immediate thought. Any supervisor with a soul would have understood too.

[@jesclifford88]

I’d have left for work and called police to go remove him from my house. There is NO WAY I’d have got into a car with him or gone back home with him that night! Very dangerous!

[@rebny7801]

I wish everyone had your spine. Althoug you are totaly right.

[@andreavantzet1962]

I was just thinking, wasn't she still holding scissors at that point? If that had been me, the guy would have been seriously hurt! No joke!

[@Ca_mi_la]

She doesn't seem to be the kind of person that knows how to put limits on people or self worth.

[@ismaelrodriguez6420]

The first guy was a classic abuser. That's how they operate, demand you do everything for them, treat you like a servant, like they own you and lastly they raise their hands to you. I am glad she got out before it was too late, because that's where it was headed. I knew my ex needed to go when he pulled a knife on me. Got his behind arrested and packed my things. Once is too many times.

[@Liz_Lizille]

The first story... She literally saved her own life. Literally! I always wished my mom didn't hold on to her ex-husband for 17 years! At least when he started to humilitate me and verbally @bused me, she decided to leave him. 20 something years later we never heard from him again.

[@BeeWhistler]

Good for her. Some moms don’t leave even to protect their babies. To me, that should be a hard no. I suppose y’all never saw him again because he found out the prey was gonna fight back and he, like all bullies, preferred an easy target.

[@PuffyWuzHere]

I feel like my brother is like this guy, trying to convince whatever future gf he will have in his life

[@misspres8718]

A back up plan 😂😂

[@Lynn-kh5rs]

@Liz_Lizille Although it took her a long time at least she left. My mother stuck with my abusive father till the end. They both died of old age but his physical abuse stopped when the police got called on him. After that it was all verbal but at that point she did start to verbally push back. It was like some weird crazy codependency. Ugh!

[@michellekeith5602]

I hope that you have been able to find some kind of peace in your heart about the things you had to witness and endure . I've been on both ends of that as the kid and the adult receiving the abuse.. I wish you all of the best ❤️💪

[@kristinenelson9376]

I'm a DV survivor and I'm so glad the 1st girl got out before it escalated 💜 Let's all be in our "act like a grown up or GTFO" eras!

[@seraphim9906]

As someone who married(and divorced) the guy who waited to show the abusive side of himself until AFTER we were married- you saved yourself girl, way to go❤💪

[@n.e9831]

It's frightening how many men are like this.. it's like they think they've trapped their victim and that you are now their property and can do what they want to you. I'm sorry you went through that and am so happy you got out of there ❤

[@TrailerYardGirl]

Been there, my marriage made it almost exactly 1 year for the same reason. Ppl are insane I tell you. 🙄 Was a great wedding at least..😂🤦🏼‍♀️

[@kristinenelson9376]

Yep - same! We were together 6 years and he didn't start abusing me until the last 2 (after we got married) 😢❤

[@lisafranklin9089]

Her describing him, brought so many visceral emotions up in me😞 Im so , so happy that she told her friends/coworkers everything and made safety plans I'm sooo proud of her strength and intelligence 🙌🏼💓

[@LAVirgo67]

People have a hard time believing that some men do hide their violent side until either after marriage or when a woman gets pregnant. It's crazy! I know this because I used to work as a domestic violence counselor. I thought to myself "How can this be?!" Then I started meeting the women that had it happen. Whew!

[@vikkitaylor3434]

"Should I take the liquor?" 1.5 million subs collectively say, "HELL YES!!"

[@Musicalsfangirl]

The fact that the guy in the first story is even BLAMING THE CATS over taking his own accountability for the broken glasses just SCREAMS narcissism. Also agree with the weaponised incompetence.

[@gabbycampbell4390]

I resonate with Kirsten. My ex would refuse to shower at night and take long morning showers making us incredibly late for work. And he would always wonder why we were late. I would make our breakfast, and lunch and prepare everything while he just showered with no appreciation. When I stopped doing things for him he didn't know what was going on.

[@coralt5541]

As a person who has worn glasses since 2nd grade and is also legally blind without them, I can confirm you do not break your own glasses on purpose without making sure you have a backup pair. I can also confirm that no matter how diligent you are about putting your glasses on the nightstand, you WILL leave them on your bed by accident at least once.

[@WhitSomething]

Or falll asleep with them on....luckily my husband will take them off me and put them somewhere safe 😊

[@sasskvetch8617]

That horrifying "crunch" when you know you done effed up your specs and have to blind-feel your way to the cupboard where your spares are 🥴

[@snowflake4065]

​@WhitSomething, yes! My husband will always put them somewhere safe for me if I fall asleep wearing them. I also have 2 pairs though

[@ColletteSpagnolo]

Omg! Are you me? 😂 glasses wearer since 2nd grade, also legally blind w/o them! 🙋🏽‍♀️ facts facts and more faaacccts.

[@ToxicNeon]

I was so bad about putting my glasses on the nightstand and just leaving them next to my pillow that i kinda compromised with myself. I have this stuffed tiger and i sat him right next to my pillow. I started leaving my glasses on his face. So there's thankfully no chance of me destroying my glasses and my little tiger gets to see sometimes too!

[@hauntedghost95]

I lived through something similar to the first story. When my ex and I were living together, if he had to get up for work early, I had to wake him up(he would sleep through his alarmS), get his clothes for him, give him his breakfast, and take the dog out. However, when I had to get up early for work, I did all that stuff on my own. Get myself up, get my clothes, make my breakfast, take the dog out. He just kept on sleeping. This all happened even while I was pregnant.

[@peggyrolfe7061]

He knew he'd broken them but typical narcissist, can't be blamed for anything. My PTSD skyrocketed hearing this story.

[@BrianAndresScott]

💯 agree

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

Yep, I left my narc ex of 20 years. It sounds so familiar.

[@peggyrolfe7061]

@@CreativeCreatorCreates I left mine after only 16 years. The longer I stayed the more afraid I was to leave. He kicked me out of the house ( to teach my fat, useless, dumbass a lesson) this time he let me take my kids. Never went back. More than 20 years later I still have crazy flashbacks

[@phatal4573]

@@peggyrolfe7061thats legit on you for not leaving and putting up with this crap.

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

@@phatal4573 narcissistic abuse is no joke. I had no idea how bad it was until after the fact. I’m 11 years out from it and I’m still peeling back layers.

[@ZaZa-nm6sw]

I'm proud that woman in the first story realized her worth and got out. The things she did for her ex are things I do when I wake my son up for school.

[@MartavanEckDesigns]

Yes. Because narcissists act like kids. They literally are mentally on a niveau of a teenager. 😅

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

Stop that immediately! This is where it comes from! I don't know how old your son is, but if he's older than 7 or 8, he should be getting himself up - with no warmed up clothes. Buy him an alarm clock and teach him how to use it. For a younger kid, a clock radio makes it fun. Waking up to music is a great way to start the day. You may need to double check each day for awhile that the alarm is still set and you'll need to serve as back up. If you find he's not getting up and just turning the alarm off, you'll have to move it across the room so he has to get up. Don't raise your son to be like this horrible person. Teach him to be strong and independent and how to be a responsible adult.

[@zoeyalena]

Glad the first one got away cause that sounds like a potential domestic violence situation

[@coolcutiekitti17]

That first story was borderline triggering for me. My ex did that kind of shit ALL THE TIME. Narcissists always need someone to blame and can never take care of themselves, but they're also the best people in the world and aren't we so grateful they deem us worthy for them to "love". Man, I'm glad this girl got out of that situation. Took me 3 years, so I'm glad she didn't give in to the sunk cost fallacy like I did

[@ohnonotagain8935]

Took me 12 years to escape mine

[@-Annn-]

7 years. I left when he hit me in front of the kids.

[@ChildofthemostHIGH86]

10 years. I will never again experience that feeling of helplessness 🤞

[@GabrielleTollerson]

IKR

[@Arisandra91]

Took me 10... But yeah I understand​@@ohnonotagain8935

[@joyceeh.-johnson3609]

19:15 "Just because a guy expresses interest in you does not mean he sees a future with you" 💣💣💣 💯💯 We definitely need to pay attention to their intentions!

[@franciebelcher4594]

Can we appreciate that the amazing, incredible Kirsten told us this story doing makeup....no tears. She is going to be fine, and she'll never put up with any one's elses abusive BS. Kirsten well done❤

[@Baider808]

As a former optician, I feel confident in saying if someone has that high if an rx they aren't breaking their glasses intentionally. HOWEVER, he should know better to have a second pair ir even an older pair with maybe an old rx but still usable. Now I work as a victim advocate and anyone going through a situation like this needs to get out and there are resources for you ❤ his behavior was inexcusable and I'm so glad she left him.

[@BeeWhistler]

Yeah, I think all of us with vision that bad were thinking the same. Does he just throw away old pairs?

[@deedeejames6590]

Exactly! I have glasses from ten years ago, justn case!

[@yetiyarnworks6578]

@@BeeWhistlerI donate mine.

[@sprig.sprout]

I think you underestimate how crazy ppl can be 😂

[@Just_Smile-n2w]

Maybe he has a backup pair she doesn’t know about 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@paisley8519]

Oh geez ~ I’m “legally blind” without my glasses and this guy is a dramatic baby. It’s not a big deal. Glasses off, you can’t see. Glasses on, you can. You have a backup pair and you’re always careful about how you handle your glasses. There is absolutely no amount of added dramatic stress about being seeing impaired when you can correct with lenses. She dodged a great big man baby bullet.

[@Nanubaby3385]

The fact that she wasted a year on him though

[@paisley8519]

@@Nanubaby3385 Yup. Too nice for her own good with that one.

[@brendak7781]

I’m so glad to see women actually standing up for their own self worth.

[@Lmerc]

As someone with glasses, I quickly learned that not having a backup is dooming yourself to failure.

[@starsluckypoke21]

My 13 ur old is legit legally blind with infantile amblyopia and we learned by age 4 to have back ups always

[@honestyisadyingvirtue]

Had glasses all my life, over 30 years and have never had a back up pair

[@Lmerc]

@@honestyisadyingvirtue Then you are either very lucky or very careful. All I know is that I am so clumsy that it warrants a back up pair.

[@poisonangel6178]

My glasses are my back up for my contacts 😭

[@Melissa-rv1fl]

For real I went on my honeymoon with only my glasses. Went on the hulk ride at universal. There were signs that said secure your glasses so I stuck them in my pocket. They put the harness on and I hear a crunch. I had to survive three more days with busted glasses I lost a lens on the ride so couldn’t even try and glue them together. Lesson learned. Carry two pairs everywhere!

[@Just1Nora]

The first woman? Her "unexplainable" actions? Yeah. That's what abuse does to you. Verbal, psychological, and emotional abuse are STILL ABUSE. Don't delude yourself with, "Oh, he does it because I deserve it," "But he really needs me," "He's so stressed that he just gets frustrated and lashes out," or the worst, "He does it because he really loves me!" Ladies...besties...NOOOOOOOOOOO! Just because a man hasn't laid hands on you doesn't mean that he isn't abusing and manipulating you. Get help, get out. You don't owe him an explanation, argument, or warning. Just straight up leave. If he knows that you're leaving him, he may try to stop you. Just gather a support crew and perform a military extraction, preferably when he isn't there. Even if it's your place! (You can get him evicted afterwards) If you don't have friends and family nearby, then ask coworkers you trust, or find a local support group for abused individuals. There is help. Find it and get out. You have the strength and will get back on your feet. Change is hard, but that's what makes it worth it in the end. We love you, and you deserve better. ❤

[@Floss.1e]

Perfectly said

[@helixxia9320]

This

[@StrongSpottedDoe]

I remember in my last relationship (September 2019 - November 2023) i would say “at least he doesn’t hit me.” I don’t know why it never occurred to me that i was still being abused. By the hurtful words he would say to me, disguised as “jokes.” The neglect I endured. And we have a child together. I’ll never completely get away from him. But at least now he knows I’m serious. He can’t treat me like that anymore. I had to file a protection order, we had to go to court, and he hired an expensive lawyer. I’m hopeful that things will be better now, but now i know i can file for another protection order if i need to (in my county the fees are waived if there is domestic abuse involved, verbal abuse and threats of violence are domestic abuse with intimate relationships)

[@pg4662]

@Just1Nora this reminds me of a 'rescue' we performed for one of my staff. She came into my office saying a colleagues upset her by calling her partner a manipulator. When she described his controlling behaviour I knew she was in trouble. So, long story short, after several long conversations, she woke up! So one of our group offered her and her cat, a roof over her head. A group of 5 of us ladies, with our cars, went round after he left for work. We knew we had only about an hour to get her out because he would go to work and then come back to 'check' on her. We didn't all have phones back then. Well, we did it, we got her and her stuff out. She went on to fulfill her dream of joining the armed forces, which he said he wasn't going to allow and she was too thick for!! I'm proud of our actions!

[@Just1Nora]

Doe, I'm glad that you got out! I'm so happy and proud of you! Getting out of an abusive relationship is scary and hard. I support anyone working to break free, the ones realizing what's happening, and those afraid to leave or even unaware of that abuse. Everyone deserves that support. I cheer for every person saved. ❤ And pg, good on you for your successful rescue mission! 💪🏻 Even if a person's physical body isn't in danger, you guys still saved her life as she could then move on to live the happy free life that she deserved. Hearing these stories always makes me smile. Thanks for supporting her. I know that she will never forget it. I became isolated and couldn't have friends. My partner insisted that if I wasn't in classes at college that I HAD to be with him. I didn't even live with him yet, and while I knew that my degree program taking up 80-90% of my time was a lot, but him insisting I not have time to go back to my home, sleep in my bed, and just physically recover (chronic pain and health problems) was the last straw. Being "alone" afterwards was terrifying, but I never regret that I got out. He did do a lot good things for me, most of our relationship was good, and I will always be grateful for those things, but when things got twisted and I realized that I wasn't excited about the prospect of us getting married once we finished school; I had to get out. It was very hard at first because I had gone from the doormat of my family to the world's doormat. I knew it was time for me to stand up. I wobbled like a baby deer at first, fell down a few times, but I eventually found my feet and even stopped letting my family manipulate and abuse me.

[@okoye670]

First story: I relate. My ex almost slapped me several times and then joked about it. It scared tf out of me but when I told people around me (that knew him, cause I was too much of a chicken to tell the people who actually cared about me) they didn’t act as if it was such a big deal. That turned into him taking advantage of me, because I didn’t read the signs properly or know what to do, so I’m really glad she caught on immediately, even if it took a load of emotional abuse, at least she acted when she realized.

[@rebny7801]

Before people have been in an abusive situation they can't believe you! That's why in my opinion Charlotte's videos are educational. Me, not a relation, but I had a manipulative flatmate that hated me. She didn't do anything that I could point out to people until four month of profound disconfort went by. But just her general attitude, her way not to look at me, not to speak to me beyond "good morning" her body language were some sort of hidden abuse. She eventually moved out.

[@okoye670]

@@A-db4tz Thank you, I am. I took it as a learning opportunity😂❤️

[@BeeWhistler]

Yeah, it’s a shame she got that far but I’m so glad she was able to break the spell, y’know?

[@LazyIRanch]

@@rebny7801 I agree! I love Charlotte's humor, but I hope the "Ex Files" becomes a recurring theme as it's so relatable to many of us who are still healing. I hope that young men and women who have not experienced this kind of relationship dynamic are learning to spot the red flags of abusive partners. Charlotte is sharing vital, life-saving info here while still being funny, entertaining, and looking lovely as ever. 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner, according to NCADV; the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The CDC reports that about 41% of women and 26% of men experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner and reported an intimate partner violence-related impact during their lifetime. I suspect those numbers are higher in actuality, because many won't report violence from their intimate partner, especially men who face ridicule from other men who insinuate that they are "weak".

[@n.e9831]

I'm glad you got away safely. I think unfortunately for a lot of women (and men) in this situation that they feel shame for being abused and don't want to tell people who care because they are ashamed that this is happening to them.

[@ambersimms6069]

I am SO PROUD of the 1st girl. I’m going through something similar and I absolutely felt her story. Great job!

[@lisamelroy2855]

I hope you got out too, bestie! ❤

[@Zaddyslove09]

The first girls story made me cry. I am sadly going through a similar thing right now. When me and my SO started with each other, there were not any signs at all. It's been almost 3 years with us now, it slowly started around the 2ñd year mark, but it became worse last summer. I think it got worse, because I called her what she is, a narcissist The emotional abuse is severe at times. The mental torture. The extremely sad thing is I have become so numb to it. But when she doesn't get that reaction out of me, she will explode sometimes.

[@mowgli7_]

You both get out of it. Do everything possible in your might to get out of it. You guys deserve love, unconditional, limitless love

[@Cheddar_Girl]

Life is short, sisters! Get out and live it with those that love & respect you ❤✊🏾

[@mowgli7_]

Recommending you guys the TV show: Maid The second season will come out in the latter part of 2024.

[@julesc_bubblegum]

I applaud that first girl for not marrying the guy. It gets SO much more complicated after "I do" when they're already acting like that before. You go girl 🎉🎉

[@irmaromo1635]

😂coffee girl is a butty call just face it lady😢😢😢❤❤❤❤

[@julesc_bubblegum]

@@irmaromo1635 what kind of sentence is this?

[@ladyjustice1474]

1st story, very happy she got out of that mentally abusive relationship. He used his poor eyesight and her empathy for others against her. I hope she has a restraining order against him and changed job location.

[@vanessamedina5041]

1:33 I'm screaming I do this for my baby boy because he's a baby 😂😂

[@meganseastrom5467]

the first one is an example of an abusive relationship; not weaponized incompentence. She had to tiptoe around him, and then he blames Her for his problems! I'm so glad he's her EX but I hope she got some therapy to see how it happened so she doesn't end up with another AH. It happens to young women who the manipulator knows he can abuse; it starts out with the little things, then escalates into you tiptoeing around his emotions until one day he hits you. She was so close to getting beaten by that AH. Happened to me and in therapy I learned this is how they manipulate and the abuse starts. Here I am 40+ years later and that triggered PTSD.

[@fibanocci314]

Weaponized incompetence can be part of abuse

[@patriciamurfitt4590]

Me too 😮

[@stown1134]

That 1st story, so hard to watch! I'm glad wasn't so broken that she stayed for the next stage of abuse. It starts off as emotional and verbal, and escalates to physical. They have to break the mental 1st. When you see red flags, run, don't walk.

[@AuroraHemi]

The waking her ex up thing brings back so much trauma for me from my past with 2 of my physically abusive exes. Knowing my husband won’t get angry when my alarm goes off makes me feel so safe. It should be a normal thing but when u go through trauma just something that simple feels like a blessing

[@jennabarna2353]

So true

[@Miranda-r4u]

She handled leaving the abusive guy BRILLIANTLY.

[@robinkholmes7127]

Story 1: Straight-up abuser, gets mad when woken up too early or too late, needs his clothes warmed up, needs his alarm set by the girlfriend, gets access to a free car and is still mad at her all the time, blames her for breaking his glasses and has a tantrum😬 Save your job, and hold onto what's yours. Love yourself🥰 He won't die without you, he might move back in with his mummy but he'll live. I suspect that he broke them on purpose🤫 I'm so glad that was the last time he drove the OP to work. Right, rage, shame, terrorise and then hug it out without an apology🤮 What an entitled, rage-aholic a**hole.

[@GhostlyJitter]

So glad that the first girl got out before it got too deep. He was ABSOLUTELY using her, he did not see her as a partner but another mother.

[@madelion24]

1st story: I can not tell you enough...TELL YOUR CO-WORKERS. I had an employee crying telling me things about her relationship. She did NOT know that they were classic signs of abusive behavior. A month or so later.(because it takes time for ppl to see it themselves) 2 of my fellow managers & our sheriff officer got her the eff out of that apartment one night in the middle of a shift. Tell the ppl you work with, you might be surprised how willing they are to help you.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

God bless you for helping her!!

[@Jacoe413]

11:09 don't break up with an abuser in private. Go to a public place. Keep the conversation quiet. That way if things go wrong, you have people who can help

[@missamanda2703]

I do those things for my husband of 20 years in the winter. Why? Because I work construction and sit on my happy, warm butt all winter long and collect my 2.5 months of unemployment a year before its Illinois, and this is what seasonal work means. So in the summer, he gets up with me at 430 in the summer to fill my cooler. Not every day, just big buildings, but I so appreciate it, and he shows me he appreciates it all winter. My husband has never in 20 years raised his voice or hand at me.

[@ravenartistofficial]

I consider you lucky, you may have found your permanent person and I envy you.

[@kellz6266]

a year before its illinois?

[@Fauna4ever]

Shut up ​@@kellz6266

[@HunterLvyiXIII]

When a voice is raised in blame (without reason) and anger a hand will surely follow. I'm glad you've found someone who does neither and fully supports you

[@eleonora7946]

@@kellz6266 i think she meant to write "because". as in she gets this 2 months and a half paid even though she is not working in that time

[@Cinnamon_Cleric]

That first story is weaponized incompetence if I've ever seen it. Like, I have a hard time waking up in the morning, but I do all the shit I need to do for MYSELF the night before and set up all kinds of shit so that I have what I need to deal with sleep inertia. I don't take it out on my wife like an abusive d-bag.

[@miriamiuricich6636]

Learned incompetence and it becoming weaponised is really dangerous. It stems from the “other” person, aka me, stepping in and doing the thing they won’t or can’t do themselves. I am finally learning to step back in these situations, and they can take ownership of their learning.

[@EH23831]

Yep - abusive man-baby sociopath

[@idontspeakenglish827]

Yeah even in a scenario where he actually needed the “help”, the all other behaviors were more than enough and definitely not functional to get up more efficiently

[@alyzu4755]

Story 1: DAMN! 😱

[@Justaperson354]

I’ll admit I am fully incapable of waking myself I blame my asd/adhd but I do appreciate my wife and never once get mad if she doesn’t wake me because she slept in we just laugh and I say “oh no you caught it!” And we laugh. But I do make up for it in other ways! Every night I rub her feet and back as part of our nightly ritual:)

[@awkwardbash]

My partner shoveled the walk out to my car before he left for work at 5 this morning. I felt so loved.

[@beingbeckeroni]

My partner scraped the ice off my car before he left in his. Same. 🥰

[@OkamiLyra]

The moment I hear anyone say their relationship of any kind is "on and off" I immidiately groan. That's just a less harsh way of saying that y'all "can't get your shit together and either work to better things or end it for good" and there's no way in hell it's a solid or healthy relationship.

[@misshell]

one minute in, and I am SO ANGRY at the ex in the first story!!!! OMG girl, you dropped dead weight. Congrats!

[@bgoldschmidt2583]

The best kind of weight loss!

[@emmashuffle6457]

Ugh. That first story broke me. Abuse is such a mind fuck. And when you can remove yourself from it you can see just how messed up it is. But in the moment, even tho it hurts, it feels just like she said. Your just numb and it’s just normal at that point. And good for her for telling people and telling them to keep her accountable to the point that she couldn’t take it back and go back to him. That she had people in place to help her. That woman is amazing!

[@chainer1969]

Here is a quick story of me and my wife. My wife ,3 years past, was almost 14 years older than me . I'm in my mid 50's. When we would go shopping, every now and then I would get approached by an older lady saying how "nice it is seeing you helping your mom." The look on their faces when I reply, "Oh, she's not my mom, she's my wife.' We always had a good laugh over this.

[@Justaperson354]

I’m sorry for your loss my friend. I couldn’t imagine what you’re going through. I love my wife more than I thought I could love a woman. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Your marriage seemed beautiful!

[@brookeb4563]

I remember when my “ex” (we weren’t technically in a relationship, he basically just pressured me into sending pics and chatting about stuff I wasn’t comfortable with) contacted my sister trying to get my info (had him blocked on everything, he was trying to find me apparently). My sister really had my back tho, she told me about it, and as soon as I told her about what happened she told him off and threatened to call the cops. I wish I had stood up for myself sooner, but I’m glad I had someone that stood up for me.

[@kaijade588]

Uggg that first one makes me sick to my stomach. I'm glad she recognized what was happening and she was able to leave him. He's an awful excuse for a human being and I hope every one of his possible future relationships see this!!

[@lmbgemini]

That is so true. Bare minimum interest from a guy does not mean he wants a relationship with you. I'm speaking from experience.

[@jacqweee]

THE ABUSE OF IT ALL also- not even close to being blind and i have two pairs of glasses, this guy is a disaster

[@aliciamae14]

Same, I get extra cheap pairs from Zenni, there's no excuse. Lol

[@rebny7801]

Same, I could more or less function without glasses, except for driving (wich I rarely do) and I always have at least 2pairs.

[@Mr.Mineaux]

Ppl dealing with chronic, deteriorating conditions can feel that the world owes them compensation. They know the world never will, so they simply expect DOUBLE compensation from YOU. Needless to say, all of their misery, real or imagined, is 'your fault'. So glad you got out before it got worse.

[@Cajun_Seasoning]

That last guy is in SOOOOO MUCH DRAMAA over him basically monetising his girlfriend throughout his relationship for his socials and then blast their relationship problems on tiktok when it ended. She even replied to him multiple times saying how its sad that he tells the internet how much was wrong in the relationship when he couldn't ever bother to talk to her about their problems. He is being CLOWNED ON so hard its really hilarious, I recommend you dig into it cuz there's some tea to unpack with that one

[@thereturnofveronicasawyer9998]

He seems pathetic and his girlfriend is pretty but guys aren’t staring at her like that - come on now she’s not a Supermodel - I mean she’s dating you.

[@CarrieBLMT]

I literally just learned about this guy a couple days ago, and after watching a few stitches that other creators did (with his “where are all the good women” TikTok video), he gives MAJORRRR *ICK* vibes. Ugh. Awful.

[@tatiannalee689]

I knew something didn't sit right with me about him. They seemed like they could have been genuinely happy, but he just came off so insecure.

[@pistolemi2156]

I've had glasses since I was 8 years old (currently 25), and while I never had a pair of back up glasses, until I was 23, you best believe if something happened to those glasses, the house would've been torn apart searching for them. My parents decided that I didn't need a backup pair, (we had insurance, so they could've been replaced), I needed to learn how to care for my own belongings. And I do appreciate it honestly.

[@PeanutsMommy]

Kirsten seems like a QUEEN of a good person with a big heart. I hate that she wasted so much of her time and love on such a horrible man-baby. He was clearly abusing her and somehow convincing her that she deserved it. I sure hope she surrounds herself with POSITIVE, supportive people who tell her how wonderful she is all the time. I also hope she meets someone who treats her like the QUEEN she deserves to be treated like.

[@MollyReynolds-vb2qf]

I toast my kids towels, toast their clothes, run their bubble baths...gently wake them and make their mornings special....I would also do those for things for my husband when I had the extra time...they all loved getting toasted blankets straight out of the bath and were very quick to thank me and love me even more for it.....she will find someone one-day that will love her for all her tender care!

[@NikkiTustain-jq3fw]

No-one should ever have to go through this crap. First lady can do so much better for herself. She's a beautiful person

[@terrip8451]

The situation with the first one really hit home for me. I dated a guy who, through time, slowly alienated me from all of my friends and most of my family. It was so gradual I barely noticed. He was very controlling over what I wore. One day in the middle of summer, our landlord had to come over to fix our air conditioner. It was hot, but I was wearing pants and a tank top - a racer back that showed zero cleavage, just my arms visible (this comes into play in a minute). After that, my little brother came over to mow our lawn since my ex was highly allergic. This was preplanned with my ex's knowledge, but my ex tried telling me my brother wasn't allowed inside. Since my ex was sleeping when my brother came over, and before that when the landlord had been there to fix the AC (same day for both occurrences), I let my brother in and gave him some ice water because I'm not an ass who asks someone to do something for me for free on a hot day and doesn't even offer a glass of water. I could hear noises in the bedroom when my brother was inside, and after a bit he left. I went to the bedroom to see him throwing our clothes and whatever he could get his hands on all over the room. I asked him what he was doing, and he walked up to me, only inches from my face, fists balled at his side, breathing heavy and shaking like this girl in the video described, and he starts yelling at me that I let my brother in and the landlord and was dressed like a slut to get attention from them. I was in shock at his reaction. Kicked him out. He ended up living with his mommy again before he eventually went into the Air Force. Not sure what happened to him after that. He has tried contacting me multiple times throughout the last decade but I block him every time.

[@what_equals_42]

So glad you got out of that situation. Absolutely don't ever talk to him again. Take care of yourself. 👍

[@BrianAndresScott]

Good that you got out of that relationship that was very toxic

[@rebny7801]

Good you still had a relation with your Brother. When you have to cut a toxic relationship you need good people around you! I'm also glad it was your place, and that he properly left too.

[@kaoutermouslimhaliba7145]

@@rebny7801 That is what might have actually ddriven him mad. Bro is still around .

[@Grace-ms7un]

😂😂 i hope he got straightened out. Blessings to you babes

[@gracelovely3838]

My Ex started dating my Now-Ex BFF less than a month after I left him. She made him miserable and they broke up a month after we graduated highschool hahaha

[@rebny7801]

Oh the Teaeaea!

[@guguedaniful]

I mean, she made you ex miserable, so points?

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

This is so satisfying to read.

[@brownavatar8]

Charlotte is so dang funny to me! 😂😂😂 When she was saying yea to the black lady that had me rolling! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@haylenq]

As an optometrist, im shooked with the first story of how one handle their glasses or contacts 😮 And one thing, she was nearly assaulted by her then boyfriend. So its lucky that she dodge the bullet, hopefully she is still safe.

[@baumeister5705]

I’m pretty sure she has a wife now

[@ooshiikurai]

Hands all the way up. 🙌 Also had a friend who similarly married to a man baby. He got worse and worse over the years. Nothing was ever his fault and always his wife’s. He was unemployed and living off her money. The instant she lost her job durning COVID he left her. And now he’s trying to beg his way back but she’s finally realizing how much happier she is not having to take care of him all the time.

[@f8lflawdragon372]

I’m so glad she could see him for him. I just hate it had to go that long. Loving someone shouldn’t feel like a chore.

[@tasiawest420]

I love love love love your attitude girl ✋😊 thank you for these videos haha makes me laugh along with you 🤞💞

[@eh1126]

20:33 this girl!!! Her self esteem must be on the floor. As soon as the guy uttered that he was gonna talk to their ex, I would’ve bailed. And to wonder if she should block him or not….smh

[@4kach24]

Did she take the liquor back? I didn't get it...

[@KDu400]

@@4kach24no! She left it! And after waiting for his ass for over 40 minutes. She was making excuses about needing to wait around so he could reimburse her too…honey, know your worth!!! ❤

[@ThimbleFox350]

When you forgive a cheater all that you're telling them is "Go ahead and keep cheating on me, there's no consequences to your poor behavior and I will always be here for you to walk all over". Cheaters never think "Oh! She forgave me, I better not do it again" that's simply not the mindset. I know in your heart you wish that was how they felt but it simply isn't. Taking back a cheater is giving them the greenlight to go ahead and do it again and again.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

exactly. Once a cheater always a cheater

[@RylieJakkens]

This "legally blind" MAN is acting like a child. He's old enough and responsible enough to wear glasses. It sounds like he is using you. If he doesn't work, he needs to be waking himself up and doing all of this for you. If he wears glasses to correct his vision, he's NOT REALLY BLIND!!!

[@zoegoad9621]

Right! My husband is legally blind and he still walks around without his glasses cuz hes a weirdo!

[@erikarussell1142]

I’m in no way minimizing his disgusting abusive behavior, but both can be true. 😅

[@joelsantiago9148]

well, she chose him and chose to live with him...

[@greenginger6668]

Blindness really is a spectrum, you can be legally blind (which he is) but it can be corrected with lenses. Without his glasses, he is effectively blind. I’m legally blind without my glasses, I have a couple pairs because glasses sometimes randomly break (I had a pair just snap on my face while I was just walking back from class, literally nothing else happened. My best guess is the temperature change between the air-conditioned classroom and the outdoors lead to that). Without my glasses everything is a blur of color, I’m effectively blind. Not all blind people see complete darkness, some only see lights/ shadows, some have a very limited field of vision, etc. He’s an abusive asshole but he’s still blind when he doesn’t have his glasses.

[@beeharbour]

"Weaponized incompetence" is a very apt and succinct way to characterize certain behaviors.

[@HappyHarryX5]

So glad for Kristen. I had a similar situation when my ex complained about the messy house with 2 toddlers (he’s a hoarder) and I was vacuuming the bathroom crying. He kept telling me to treat the vac with respect while I’d answer back why don’t you love me. He fully extended his arm above his head for what seemed like forever. The only things saving me were the door frame and the bulky vac in front of me. I couldn’t escape and the kids were in their bedrooms. If he’d struck me, my head would have been smacked into the wall. We lived in one of the most remotest places in the world and my friends all knew him as their husbands worked with him so I couldn’t tell anyone and didn’t know if he knew any cops through cycling community. What I didn’t realise that the only difference between emotional and physical abuse is the scars are on the inside. I put up with him for 32yrs. They don’t change and there is no low. I was lucky in the end to find out some of the lies that had been there from the beginning.

[@scarlettedelacroix]

I’m so sorry this happened to you! It’s so hard living with someone that would treat you this way.. Sending you a lot of love ❤❤❤

[@HappyHarryX5]

@@scarlettedelacroix Thank you so much. The first thing I said to myself after I found out what he’d been up to the whole marriage was to get my head together, and I did. I’ve also learnt new skills, wrote 3 design books and in the last 6 months, I’ve started a light DIY reno my home. It’s so cool to trust my own instincts when no one else thought it’s been a good idea. Take care of your heart and mind and wishing you all the best in life!

[@KelseyPaige1984]

This is what its like dating a narcissist, I had a child with this type of man and for 9 years tried everything to get along unfortunately way longer then I should have tried. When my psychologist finally told me that she strongly believed that I was wasting my time even trying to co-parent peacefully with him because he will never change because he was a "Narcissist"everything clicked that day I finally felt understood and NOT crazy and I took her advice on how to proceed and it was literally the best advice I have ever received! Edit: This was like 12 years ago so I didn't know about a narcissistic personality I had heard of narcissism before but thought like most back then that it meant a person obsessed with their looks.

[@Robingrae84]

My husband and I were at a huge fair in our area. Like one of the biggest in the country. I stopped at the massage booth for a 15 minute massage and gave my husband my glasses. I’m also legally blind without glasses. When the massage was over I looked up with my blurred vision and couldn’t make my husband out anywhere. Eventually he came back but the night was ruined. I never understood how vulnerable and disabled I am without my glasses until that moment. Almost blind, thousands of people all around, every single one a blur. It was terrifying. I was so angry at him for leaving me stranded that way. Ps. My husband is practically a saint but used to drink a lot at the fair. He’s been sober for over two years ❤

[@4islandbeauty]

That sounds absolutely terrifying sorry that happened to you.

[@ambriaashley3383]

I’m glad he stopped drinking!!

[@sithumiperera5212]

For the first girl Kristin....the only thing I can say is I'm blind as a bat...on top of that foggy memory due to ADHD....I have 3 pairs of glasses...and detachable spectacle chain....I always keep one of my spare glasses in my cupboard, so I know that place for sure.....also, I always have the other one in my bag just in case sth happened.....Also, as a person who lost so many glasses or broke them, or lost them in public transport...one time I ran on snow to get my glasses to catch the bus with poor eyesight cuz I remembered I left them on my seat just as I got down at bus stop....to this day I HAVE NEVER YELLED AT SOMEONE/ BEAT SOMEONE my eye situation....sure there are times I have been upset, my mood was off, and I cried...plus, I asked help from people around me....I HAVE NEVER YELLED TO THIS DAY....I want you to know some people don't want to try....cuz what's more easy is to blame it on someone....he sounds like a narcissist with issues or may be a borderline...idk wutever it is...that's not normal...if u didn't cause illness u absolutely don't need to shoulder that. Cuz, some ppl really know how to shit in the place they eat. Good u left his ass to rot. If u were not in his life, then what he gonna do?..he has to find a way right...he's the prime minister of manipulation nation..Be careful of such people....good luck to you❤❤❤

[@emily8878]

I feel like the sister @14:30 was entertaining the conversation a little bit just to see what she can get him to say, then go back to her sister to tell her everything. And she got him to say "picked the wrong sister" LOL! priceless

[@ted8480]

When your vision is that bad, your lenses alone are 300 bucks, so it is hard to have two pairs, but usually you have an old pair with a script that will work enough for a pinch.

[@tabathaalshalhoub1653]

True. In America, glasses are super expensive and sometimes aren’t covered by insurance unless you have great insurance. Still, being able to see should be a priority and he wasn’t spending money on a car so he should’ve saved for a second pair. But selfish people don’t plan for things like that.

[@fibanocci314]

My guess would be he mistreated the backup pair like he did the first pair and the contacts, or he didn't get one because he likes the excuse.

[@LAVirgo67]

I have really bad vision, legally blind & my glasses run over $600 a pair (the frames were $99!). I ALWAYS keep my old glasses as back up because I can't function without glasses.

[@meredithnwilliams]

And if he'd just behaved like an adult, contacts would have been an option 🙄 plus, if he can see well enough to drive with corrected vision, he's not legally blind. He just has bad eyesight and needs glasses. There are plenty of us in the same boat, and we don't hold onto that fact like it's our whole (or only) identity 🙄 absolutely weaponized incompetence 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Ambariffic]

As someone who is also blind without glasses, that 'get a second pair' take is hella privileged. That being said, dude totally broke them himself and should go in the trash.

[@TerriResists]

27 year DV survivor. I had to hide to escape. And I lost everything. But I got out. He absolutely would have hit you the next chance he had because you would have given him permission by staying. And it would have gotten worse and worse. And harder and harder to escape. I am so proud of you!!! And so happy. I’ll look for your other horror stories. Big hugs. And way to go. And Charlotte, thank you for highlighting this story. The biggest problem is the isolation. And telling such stories may help those who live with an abuser, not recognizing the behavior for what it is, and give them the impetus to escape. I love your work ❤️❤️❤️

[@zackwalker664]

lol “he broke them on purpose” that’s exactly where my mind went, too.

[@MythStarFire]

I am legally blind without glasses as well and have been for most of my life. I always have a back up pair of glasses. I always keep my old pair when I get new glasses, just in case. It’s not a great solution, but at the price my glasses cost, it works. I have been doing this since I got my second pair. I recommend it even for people who can function without glasses.

[@courtneyr6645]

Ok now it makes sense. Keeping the older pair is what I usually do, though my power does change every year or two. I couldn’t understand the comments that say to have a second pair. It’s so pricey! Makes so much more sense that it’s the last pair vs a (same) second pair.

[@chiarybLuE]

@@courtneyr6645 I'm in the same situation, I need new lenses practically every year 😅 and I'm not able to afford two pairs of glasses since I change them so often. Some people don't understand how expensive glasses can be

[@ejburgess]

So is my husband! He takes incredibly good care of his glasses and contacts. We're saving up for LASIK surgery. I can see okay without them and wear my contacts for like a month straight, not as bad as this dude but yeah I only wear glasses now too 😂 BUT I have three pairs just in case.

[@nyrea8163]

Same I am too legally blind but I am pregnant lost my apartment due to an unforeseen downsizing at my boyfriends company (he did find a new job and we are both working now but have a lot of debt to pay off) and am utterly broke and can’t have a spare pair. And I’m really bad with keeping my things intact. Buuuut I do know my items and my sight problems are just that MY problems if I break my glasses, I fix them with tape and deal with it. This little boy had no accountability or responsibility not to mention the worst Personality ever. If my man tried to make me feel bad for doing what he said, I would laugh in his face and tell him to get the hell out of my apartment

[@CrocHudson]

This is exactly why I DON'T think he broke them on purpose. I think he's just an idiot. I'm legally blind without corrective lenses too and there is NO WAY I would purposely break my glasses to get out of doing something - ESPECIALLY if I didn't have a spare pair. I would be unable to function the entire time until they were repaired or replaced. I think if this guy is a big enough moron to wear his contact lenses for so long he could no longer wear them, he's a big enough moron to not put his glasses on the nightstand. Also wanted to add that I'm with you on having an old pair as a spare. I do too. To get my lenses thin enough that they aren't too heavy and don't stick out the sides too far it costs nearly £300. Just for the lenses. That's not even including the frames. (I'm sure some of you fellow blindeys 100% know exactly what I'm talking about) And my glasses are my face so I want glasses I really like. So I know that those of us who need extreme thinning for our thick-ass lenses gotta rely on that previous pair in case of emergency!

[@GenX_Gal_71]

The last story - she broke up with him because he made her feel like a trophy. That would have given me the ick for sure

[@GenX_Gal_71]

Sorry, just my speculation 😂

[@GabrielleTollerson]

yep!!

[@ny8117]

the whole saga came out and well, you're wrong

[@GenX_Gal_71]

​@@ny8117 Probably, yes, just my intial thought without doing a full blown investigation. Not really that invested in it tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@ny8117]

@MsMaryPatricia went to eat my b. Basically he was offended by her attention or something, pretty much insecurity. In ever video he made talking about the break up (more than 5 videos) he would keep going in honestly too much detail for social media. She responded briefly not even saying names and he got offended and made more videos, saying she made her videos long enough to monetize so he was just doing it too (keep in mind the one video she made did not call names or anything, just talked about general red flags to look out for in relationships, where as he was directly addressing her or the audience about their relationship making the video just long enough to be monetized on tiktok)

[@jennifersilves4195]

Everyone was supportive and helped her make safety plans. I love people.

[@Emshep18]

I am SO PROUD of that girl for putting an end to that right then and there. I mean, obviously, the behavior before that last altercation was unacceptable. But, a lot of women would be like, he didn’t hit me, he was just mad.

[@crystalharris7394]

Ladies, you deserve to be treated like a queen if they don’t treat you like a queen don’t stay with them I don’t understand why you have to live with somebody. It’s so nice to have your own place. I love it.

[@brittanym9266]

That first girls fiancé was more of a baby than any of my own kids were! Goodness.

[@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049]

My 7 month old is more independent

[@Christian-is-thriving]

The first story reminds me so much of my past relationship. I can assure you he did not break the glasses on purpose because that would require forethought that type isn't capable of. That situation would have absolutely gotten worse I'm glad she got out.

[@beyourownsunshine5548]

This man, baby literally sounds like the kids I work with when they have a meltdown and we are trying to regulate. In the moment, I’m sure it was a scary situation, but I hope he knows hearing this story he sounds so pathetic

[@jeswainston]

This first girl was that guy’s mother, not girlfriend. What a man baby.

[@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049]

My 4 year old has more responsibilities then this man

[@inconspicuouskara2527]

Ohhhhhh my goodness. I haven't even gotten through the entire first story... and this guy.... the way he gets mad about being woken up because he wont do it on his own, and the reasons why he gets mad, sounds EXACTLY LIKE MY EX!!! I feel so heard right now. It's ridiculously stressful living with a man-child like that. UGH!

[@courtneyr6645]

There was no way she could ever win with a person like him. Definitely damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t.

[@inconspicuouskara2527]

​@@courtneyr6645 Exactly. It's a lose-lose-lose situation.

[@wallie.w13]

Same 😭 needed us to do everything for them but also “you are not my mom” so grow up then?

[@nyrea8163]

There were no signs before that? Not trying to be rude just I would not be attracted to someone who acted like that

[@Jordan-vc4cn]

The Ex-Files: The Audacity Is Out There

[@Fran_Glass]

😂😂😂 best comment.

[@Nikkilou36]

Nice 😂😂

[@forfoxsake89]

That story of the guy who broke his glasses then blamed her after she did all this stuff for him just so he would be a decent human being to her.... that was me. Like, same exact type of situation, sans glasses, for 13 years. He was my bff when we were teens. He was the one that got away. Then he wasn't. Then he really wasn't. Then I was hoping in tears and silent prayers of desperation he would die on his way home from work and leave us (me and our 2 kids) with the house and everything (paid for in full, car and the dog I found but he paid for) in peace. I did not get my wish. And my daughter chose him. Because he was always nice to his princess, but me and our son were worthless. We got out. There is a LOT of nuisance, but that's the very VERY short version. So I feel you, girl, and I'm glad you got out. I didn't see it. Not until it was far, far too late.

[@anony4637]

Word of advice to glasses wearers from someone with high astigmatism: GET MULTIPLE PAIRS IF YOU CAN, if not, KEEP YOUR OLD ONES as most of the time they are better than none! Glasses unfortunately break so easily so it’s good to always have a backup! Yes you can fix most issues on the glasses easily with a mini screw driver, bending the frames, or pushing the lenses back in, but sometimes you’re in a rush and it’s helpful to have a second pair.

[@lilykep]

When I get a new prescription I buy two pairs of glasses. I also keep the best pair of my old glasses just in case.

[@Doremi120197]

I always get my extra pair haha

[@wildcatghoulette1822]

Zenni and Zeelool are cost effective ways to get extra pairs of glasses. When I get my new script for glasses, I go to them and get back up pairs.

[@chiarybLuE]

It's not so simple, not everyone can afford that kind of expense. The lenses of people who see practically nothing without glasses are already costly and if you apply a "reduction", so as not to appear to have bottle bottoms as lenses, the price increases even more. Not to mention the anti-reflective, anti-scratch treatments and the cost of the glasses frame itself which aren't exactly cheap. Furthermore, in the case your diopters continue to drop annually, getting more than one pair of glasses a year is quite useless (since you'll have to change it soon) and very expensive.

[@Doremi120197]

@@chiarybLuE in the UK if you go to Specsavers you buy one get the second for free.

[@VaishnaviBarthwal]

We need more of the Ex-flies Audacity Edition

[@user-uh6xc1wg1e]

💯 yes

[@LazyIRanch]

We will never run out of audacious ex stories! Some of us could write a book.

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

I’m *here* for this!

[@marinasplaylist2251]

I love the misspell

[@yarnovah]

@@marinasplaylist2251 Ex “flies” 🪰🪰🪰😂

[@fancyquebecoise4550]

Coffee girl: why are you so desperate to get crumbs? That guy is crumbs, and you deserve prime rib. Don't settle.

[@EsmereldaPea]

And she's GORGEOUS.

[@4kach24]

True!

[@CassandryneGirard]

I thought the same thing about breaking the glasses on purpose and then u said it … always thrust ur guts! 7:00

[@meshe9203]

I am so glad that you mentioned about people having the bare minimum interest in you. That makes so much sense. You really opened up my eyes and I will think differently from this point on. I guess you can learn something new everyday.