"EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER" with LAYEFA! | older men + growing up too fast + friendships & more

Hi everyone! Welcome to another #20series episode. In today's video, I'm back with a fave - Layefa Ebitonmo. We discuss lessons to learn in your 20s and mistakes we might be making. Enjoy!
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M U S I C C R E D I T S
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F A Q
- Where are you ?
Lagos, Nigeria.
- How old are you?
I’m 25 years old, my birthday is on September 26.
- What camera do you use?
For my main videos use the Canon M50 and I vlog using the Sony ZV1.

[@kamsinnamani]

Hi my loves! Back with another 20s series with of my fave guests, Layefa! Feel free to let us know your opinions on some of the topics we discussed 🤍

[@LydiaStanley]

I personally experienced “growing up too fast” mostly because I had wide hips from 11! So I was sexualised really early and that made me grow up too fast , and I honestly will tell you for free it was definitely not a positive experience 😩

[@Stephanie_Ifon]

I’m so sorry about that❤ 🦋

[@misst4346]

I had to opposite experience and it used to hurt me so much. I was so small guys never had my time and I wished they did, as I’ve grown and heard the stories some of might mate went through because of the ‘attention’ I’m grateful no body had my time. Plus now at almost 30 my mates look like they are in their forties and I still get asked for my card every time

[@sheislayo]

I personally can relate...it wasn't positive most times 🥺

[@livingwithbums]

Omg same here

[@gladysonuma8725]

Lol. Me too. There's nothing good about growing up too fast. Just live your age .

[@viviennecarlaasiimwe444]

“Experience is the best teacher but you don’t have to go to that class” keeping this one🤞🏾

[@ogenglishchat9502]

Layefa is more relatable than I thought. Just subscribed to her channel.🙂 For Kamsi, Kamsi is me and I'm Kamsi. I literally don't go out, and I hate learning from experience too. It's probably why at 29, I've never been in a relationship lol. We also really need to start going out more 4 real.🤦🏾‍♀Nice chat! Pls we definitely need more of this.😌💓

[@Therealbubuu]

Growing up too fast is a thing and my Goodness, we should really calm down. So many mistakes can be made especially relationships.

[@kamsinnamani]

And you miss out on so many special moments bc you were such in a rush

[@LifewithVee2]

People who like to stay in their house is me😂😂😂 it hit home.

[@chidinmaebochue1981]

Layefa did her thing on Kamsi's face😍. Damnnnn🔥.

[@kamsinnamani]

🥹🤍

[@Gloria_Ukah]

I like the way layefa looks at Kamsi with so much admiration. Cute video, I like it😊

[@chiomareginald_]

I totally understand the growing up too fast, some times it doesn’t let you enjoy where you’re at the time You’re always in pursuit

[@bellasperfumediaries]

Experience is the best teacher but you don’t have to go to that class - Kamsi 2023

[@isiomaononye]

I remember being in university and thinking to myself that I can’t wait to be an adult, to be working and making my own money. I entered into adulthood and I realized how different things can be…still in the process of learning how to be a full adult 💁🏽‍♀️😂 All I know is that one thing I’m glad I worked on in my late 20s is learning more about myself, especially mental health, becoming more self-aware, taking exercise seriously and learning how to make myself happy. l’ve left my 20s but in many ways, I feel like I am just starting my life again. If your 20s weren’t perfect and you are not very successful in your 30s, give yourself grace and keep taking little steps forward with what you can 🤗

[@OnyinyechiIbemere]

Peer pressure is not just doing the act, but also accepting the act. Kamsi-2023

[@s0fire_]

Sometimes growing up fast is a result of parental pressure to act overly right than your age and capabilities and could also be a result of the company you keep or the influence of Social media models.

[@theganiiyat]

As a first daughter, I can relate with parental pressure to act overly right than my age

[@Simitea]

More under handed parental pressure As a first daughter, I have been rushing faster than my shadow,now I just want to wait, no goals in mind

[@PreciousPeters]

There's definitely something as growing up too fast. Growth constitute of process. A lot of young people like myself want to be "grown" without going through the process.

[@kamsinnamani]

So true

[@TosTosTV1]

I also believe you don't have to enrol for "experience" classes! Learning from others is just fine for me!

[@favouratta6047]

Exactly what I always say😂😊

[@ogomsseries]

Any relationship that is constantly talking down at you, making you feel less of yourself should be forgotten, not all older guys have sense, some are so immature that their thinking is that of a child. Knowing when to call it quit is the wisdom we should pray to God for. I enjoyed the conversation too.

[@imah_culate]

I relate to Kamsi. I experienced things through the eyes of friends, family members and neighbours. When I see what happened to someone else, I already know what I don't want for myself and avoid it.

[@LydiaStanley]

Oh you both are stunning! Just clicked and started cheesing so hard 🥰🥰🥰🦋

[@ChinnyIvy]

Thank you Layefa, you need money to go outttttttttttt. And Kamsi, you're so so pretty

[@the_jemimaa]

You grow older and realize that you should have spent more time appreciating all you had and lived. But, again, it's a human thing to always want to go for the next and the next and the next thing. We don't take time to learn and really "grow".

[@Ngozin1]

I agree with Layefa. Kids are only attractive to me as part of a family/marriage. I dont want to be a single mom. Also dating as a single mom comes with its challenges as well. I think its selfish to the child but I get why some women go that route. Children will not solve your issues and will grow and live their own life but Nigerian culture puts too much pressure on women to be mothers. But then I see why some women think this way cause the way marriages break this day a child is more permanent than a spouse. I dont think intentional single motherhood aka single mom by choice(SMBC) should be normalized but to each his/her own. With that being said women who see marriage as prerequisite to children have to be prepared to be childless if it never happens or happens too late(past menopause).

[@mimiwork9535]

I agree that growing up too fast can be negative, but I think we should differentiate what is wanting to GROW UP vs GROWTH and at the bedrock of these is PRESSURE. I think one of the most interesting things about being in your 20's is how we can try a little bit of everything and find what makes us genuinely purposeful. Some people get this “spark" early on and use it for the biggest advantage. While others might take longer time (might end up being in your 30's or 40's) which is perfectly normal. If I am “corporate smart" and I use my smartness as an advantage to climb the corporate ladder faster, guess what? That means early retirement for me and more time to explore other parts of my life that I haven't after retirement. This applies to all aspects of life (career, relationships,etc) Bottom line is, life is not a scripted story so why are we acting like there was a storyline we were meant to follow. The whole point of living a happy life is by doing what we love and are excited about. Why don't we just do it and stop bothering about being GROWN UPS.

[@followGreatness]

'Cooperate Smart". By sleeping with peoples husband and going as far as following them back to their home country. Thank God it's not me sha... Lol we need morally smart, Integrity smart, Spiritually smart. Life is not a game people's lives are not a game. Oku omo imi ni won a gbe lo Ile mama e in the abroad if my family unit is threatened for social climb. Or Cooprate smart. Also somethings are evil oooo.

[@mimiwork9535]

@@followGreatness Tobi, next time read properly, try to comprehend what you've read, take a moment and let it sink, then go further to argue. I don't think you achieved any of the above.

[@eladebidaniella]

I don’t like learning from experience too. There’s no need going to that class for real 😂😂🤣 Always love a Layefa and Kamsi collab 👌🏼❤️❤️

[@TheBillionaireVessel_]

I agree with Layefa's view on relationships with older men. I remember when I was young, I think I was 19 then. I was dating this guy who was older than me not knowing I was actually being foolish. So some months afterwards, this guy texted me about how he needed 40k, his bank and all. I then linked him to a close friend of mine who lent him the 40k. Sis, the idiot vanished. Na me con dey find 40k pay person back. What a foolish person I was chai. 😭😂😂😂😂

[@Ames510]

Layefa well done for not wanting to hve a child before getting married/ baby mama. God will surely bless you! Do not fall into the pressure of the world. That’s not how God created it🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@owenikponmwosa7315]

its the way Kamsi hopped off the single mum topic for me 😂😂 asap omo lets not go there oo.

[@Dems413]

I agree with Kamsi and Layefa - when it comes to relationships, there’s definitely a thing as growing up too fast. For life generally, I agree with Layefa - there isn’t really a “growing up too fast” cause everything is relative to your own perspective and upbringing. What feels like too fast to you might be just right for another person. Loved this video ❤

[@joyomari8666]

Two of my faves Nigerian KZbinrs in one video 😁😁

[@kamsinnamani]

🥹💋

[@tolanimary]

Two beautiful and intellectually sound women🥰 love etttt❤❤❤❤

[@stephanieunurieh2650]

I totally understand wanting to grow up fast cause I really really want to. Been watching your twenty series since I was 18 and now I'll finally turn 20 in September and I've never been more scared😅 Oh well I'll definitely be rewatching your entire 20 series again!

[@Pheebs_foodies]

Me too babe... I've been watching her series since I was 18 and I'll be 20 by September too 💃💃 this kamsi of a girl has inspired me In several wayssss

[@stephanieunurieh2650]

@@Pheebs_foodies likeeee. She's so inspiring 😫

[@stephanieunurieh2650]

@@Pheebs_foodies what day in September? Mine is the 5th

[@worthyyoung]

Same here too we will be fine ❤

[@mazeedahomowunmihassan8937]

I've been watching since I was 17 and will be 20 by September too; September 26th precisely (Same day with Kamsi, yeah 😌). Kamsi is one big source of inspiration to me, she inspires me a lot in many ways 🥺🥰❤

[@Marabelle247]

I will honestly say that "growing up too fast" is surely a thing. In my experience, I lost my mum at an early stage of my life. I was raised by my Dad who never remarried and I had to wear a lot of hats of being an "assistant wife", (Running the affairs of the home) and being a "mum figure" and big sister to my baby sister as well. It hasn't been easy, I have had to figure out alot of things myself and also miss out on having fun sometimes but I am grateful to God for the strength to experience that. I think any first born child can totally relate to this. I enjoyed every bit of this video. You both inspire me in ways you can never imagine. Best wishes. ❤

[@justyingi4345]

Not everyone child can handle growing up fast. Some people do and fall off the rails while others stay grounded.

[@debbiemattsson4331]

My sister layefa we think alike i totally agree with you having kids the right way is key which is in marriage and if it doesn’t happen is not God plan 💯

[@saraholaleye]

I wish this was longer sincerely. I thoroughly enjoyed it!!🥰🥰

[@elmalabelle5206]

You literally could be married and still end up a single mom, life comes with crazy twist and turns , everything about life is a gamble . So do what makes you fulfilled that’s the only way you get to properly live ,do the right things , don’t be selfish coz that way you get negatively affect someone else , and try best to apply common sense always

[@joydaniel403]

So true, I have not finish watching o but what Layefa said about those that married when we were 20/21 are out is so true.. Personally I know a few

[@ChisomUtazi]

I really have a different opinion on paying alimony to their baby mama. The court grants child support based on the income of the father and as a man why don't you want to financially support the child you brought into the world? If a man is paying 25k a month then he's a very high earner.

[@goodymartins1946]

I totally agree with Layefa on the age for being in a relationship please ah👏🏽

[@latichina5]

I’ve been saying teenagers shouldn’t date, they have so many changes going on in their bodies, it clouds their jugement

[@Pheebs_foodies]

I so much don't know how to go out kamsi😭😭 I've gotten so used to staying indoor that i find it difficult to leave my hostel and go to church.... I'm tired🥲🥲 and i feel outside is expensive.

[@mercybassey3877]

There is something like growing too fast and I agree with Kamsi! It is not always the best.

[@iamkamsii]

The way you caught yourself ‘on the single mum topic’ 😂😂😂😂😂

[@lydiadaniel6298]

There’s definitely something like growing up too fast. Has benefits but omoooo the mental stress from being somewhere you aren’t ready for can be a lot!

[@ChisomUtazi]

Growing up fast is a thing! A lot of people have bad experience and tough situations that make them become adult so quickly.

[@GlamifiedDivine]

Layefa and wisdom are 5&6😅❤️ I just love her😍❤️

[@Nkirusworld]

My UNEC connect, all time favs.

[@eloologho7098]

100K LOADINGGGGGGG OOUUUU loved that i've followed the growth from 8k ish. well-done Kamsi

[@kamsinnamani]

🥹 thank youu

[@omie_xo3032]

Two beautiful woman with amazing mindsets❤️

[@AdaUnleashed]

What you guys said about baby mamas and kids reminded me of Selling Sunset’s Chelsea and Bre’s argument about wanting to be a single mother and blah..

[@Raregurlstephie]

Kamsi oo Yes most Single moms are happier than some women in marriages 👌

[@CYNTHIAOKORIE.]

Layefa is sooo real lots of love girls❤❤❤

[@graceHumphreyy]

Kamsi you're stunning to a fault. And Layefa really did her thing! "Experience is the best teacher but you honestly don't have to go to that class." I so agree 🤣.

[@_ohdu]

Ah! That friendship own ehnn, i have so many friends right now, but prolly as time goes on, i realise who the true friends are🤲 I enjoyed this episode! We want more Kamsi❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@still.sophieee]

Intentionally learning to savor every second of every day as it comes and live for ‘now’ while conveniently making plans for the future. It is easy to get lost in our plans and expectations of the future, so much that we forget to appreciate the beauty of the present Really enjoyed this video🥰❤️

[@janetluxury2382]

When an individual grows up to fast such individual will still later do those things he/she didn’t do because they grow up to fast

[@chroniclesofmanu7674]

I am keeping the going out point because my father's house and I are five and six 😂😂

[@owenikponmwosa7315]

i'm in my early 20s and oh my, I love learning from other peoples experiences because me I don't want to go through what they went through because the fact they might have survived it doesn't mean I will🥲🥲. this also depends on what the experience is.

[@oluwakemi4682]

your makeup is👌👌💯

[@kamsinnamani]

Layefa’s hands 🤲🏽 🥹

[@n-silverose6244]

Ya marriage is a selfless ministry 😅 I enjoy watching

[@s0fire_]

You look gorgeous Kamsi🤎🫶. Hello Layefa

[@theganiiyat]

I dislike making mistakes so I'd rather learn from others whose opinion I respect. And at the same time, I like figuring things out myself

[@chelseaowusu.P]

Growing up fast doesn’t allow you to live in the moment and appreciate your growth

[@vera_ogu]

Just looking at your makeup I knew it was our celebrity make up artist

[@chiamakaenansofor4660]

Wow this is actually insightful especially the last point about peer pressure. Love it!!

[@LoveMotunrayo]

Kamsi’s makeup 😍😍🥰🥰

[@the_live_in_podcast]

Yes, there is something as "growing too fast". Just the other day, i was asking myself to slow down, bcos baybeee i be reading everything, listening, watching and having "over knowledge". Putting in mind I'm a scorpio, a original FBI/over thinker normally😅. So now, I'm in my head 22/7 plotting out every situations like my life is some HBO /Lifetimes series😩

[@Ntube_Vanelle]

My best all time KZbinrs I pray God keeps blessing you guys and may I get to meet you two someday too❤❤

[@kamsinnamani]

🥹🤍🤞🏽

[@tolanimary]

I have met Layefa and I can't wait to meet Kamsi.. likeeeeee I have been picturing that day for almost a year now😂

[@milliana9224]

That hardest thing is going out but you don't know how you will get back home

[@shakie_my_love]

Wow. Layefa and kamsi ❤❤❤❤ I love these videos girl

[@dearomonso]

I genuinely love growing up fast! I’m 23 and my friends always say “You’re too young to be this old” lol In terms of relationships I started dating really early. Early as in 12yr early but my first mature relationship was at 16. It actually has shaped my beliefs and life in general. I make better decisions now cause I got to experience things early and I’m glad that I was able to make mistakes then instead of now! At least now the mistakes are minimal cause of the experiences from before.

[@RoszyPeterz]

Love this and didn’t want it to end 😊

[@PreciousPeters]

Kamsi X Layefa😍 Sign me up!!!

[@the_live_in_podcast]

You both ate your looks❤ kamsiiiiii, i caught you o😂 lets have a full live episode on that baby mama topic FR

[@NosakhareAkioya]

Love Love Loveeee it ❤ Welldone kam!! Always giving us premium content 🫶🏽

[@_ohdu]

I can definitely relate to this growing up fast thing, im 15 and i feel like i have a 25 years old man's brain😂😂 But, In a positive way now😅🤣

[@gwihana]

Good for you.

[@vivicaakpoborie3119]

I loved every minute of this video! So insightful ❤

[@Quisha]

That being young thing !!! I agree - pls we are actually young … 20’s is young !

[@obindeborah1305]

This was sooo refreshing to watch it felt like two biggies just speaking sense and your make up is givinggggg

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww thank youu 🤍

[@j.cletus]

13:20 - 13-30 Layefa please tell them😂😂

[@j.cletus]

Let me relax and enjoy this video with these two amazing ladies❤️❤️

[@kamsinnamani]

Thanks for watching 🤍

[@agbonungozi7861]

Kamsi is just attacking all of us😂😂🙌

[@_ohdu]

Its the hopefully its out for me😂😂😂 Kamsi be hitting Layefa😂😂

[@adewunmioyindamola6923]

Enjoyed this video ❤I agree on the growing up too fast o! It’s definitely a thing

[@Agnes.shines]

Layefa is such a darling and she’s so wise❤

[@winnieboateng5334]

I love you Ladies😍😍😍You guys look so gorgeous ❤❤Kamsie and Layefa.

[@Omotayo.Adeyemi]

When layefa said you need money I felt it😂😂😂😂

[@MetrogypsieS]

Such a cute and sweet video. Cheers girls 🥂

[@kamsinnamani]

Thank youu🥰

[@Faithafahaene]

I have a wedding to attend tomorrow, I Honestly didn’t want to go after watching this I’m going!!!!

[@kamsinnamani]

Yaayy

[@julianaeninful1670]

I love this much So inspiring Thank you Kamsi and Layefa😍🥰

[@___tselaju]

Really thank you guys so much for this lesson.

[@alabota_i]

Kamsi stop shouting at me, I’ll repent and be going outside 😩

[@toreraibrahim8182]

Here for this ❤❤

[@agbonungozi7861]

I knew a video was coming ❤❤❤😊😊😊

[@chiomareginald_]

I love the topics discussed here honestly

[@kamsinnamani]

🤍🤍

[@ihechieke]

Road to 100k🎉❤

[@mimiwork9535]

I love this episode Kamsi ❤

[@bukiamanda]

Love you girls

[@mercyogbanga1949]

There's something like growing up fast

[@rhunoradirien9810]

I think same but I think that I should stay down on my goal and I am 22what your advice bcs I think growing up too fast in real

[@jemimahakange]

Thank you for this very video🥰❤️❤️❤️☺️☺️