Explaining PDA, OCD, SPD, Anxiety & how to help your child with a dual diagnosis

[@steviewalline2303]

My son is 3.5 and he’s on the spectrum. He just started talking in the form of echolalia. He says some things but only my husband and I can understand him. Your videos are so inspirational. So glad you’re back. It’s so nice to know that you and other viewers can relate to what I’m going through.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you xox

[@peacefulpuls]

If I said “nope it’s three meals a day” and walked out of the room to my PDA child, she would follow me around screaming “Two!” At the top of her lungs and not stop until I re-engaged back in the conversation until we go round again. It’s so hard and I need support. Thanks for this video.

[@karenmontgomery124]

My wee boy will be 3 yrs old in dec. When I was watch your clips of Dylan it reminds me so much of my son. No diagnosis yet but he has started speech therapy and we have organised some aba therapy for him as well as we have been told there is a 3yr waiting list on the NHS. I’ve got lots of helpful tips and info from your videos.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Ah thank you lovely I’m pleased you found them helpful

[@anothergoldilocks1077]

Hello 👋, it’s Goldie from across the pond on the west coast of the USA 🇺🇸. This was an excellent, informative vlog, as always. I learned so much & I thank you for being such a wonderful instructor. My beautiful Grandson, who will be 4 years old tomorrow, is on the Spectrum. He has also has been basically non-verbal, but is just beginning to say a few words…which is exciting! I enjoy watching you interact with your children. Please take good care, may you and your family stay safe and God bless you all. 🤗💖🥰

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you so much goldie ❤️

[@gennyd8664]

Luca, you're not wrong, I love you more than anyone else on the channel - you're amazing!

[@alexandramcgee4942]

Tara I am so glad you are back to KZbin

[@donnadube8556]

Luca, I'm so happy you are a part of this conversation!

[@soumayabathami6016]

So glad you back you really help me on old days miss you guys ❤️❤️❤️

[@N1TRO]

Its obvious to see that youve put rewl effort into understanding and not stiffling your son. E.g creating scenarios in which he can explain something he finds interesting to you. When he was explaining the youtube metrics i could really relate to that odd excitement you get when your both interested in something and also knowledgeable about it. I bet he really appreciates th fact you take him seriously and listen to whathe has to say, keeping this stuff bottled up leads to a more boring existance and definately leads to more masking. Its as clear as day that he respects you, wants your opinion and wants to share his opinion with you. He really does trust you and trust never comes easy. Youre doing an amazing job and im sure your son will grow up with a high degree of confidence in his beliefs. I wish you both all the best, keep setting a great example of a parent child dynamic with neurodivergent factors. Take the time to understand someone and they will reciprocate, treat them with contempt or belittle them and even a young child will pick up on it, become more closed off and will be less able to place their trust in you. Mutual respect and understanding is always the correct way to build wny kind of meaningful relationship with someone.

[@sharonflynn3330]

Hey Luca ! My son is 10 and hasn't been able to go to mainstream school for 5 months. We are in tribunal for specialist placement it's been an absolute nightmare. Add school trauma onto autism . Plus a recent assessment revealed one of the highest pda scores the clinician had seen. We have the best kids ! They just need now demand. I'm like you ! I'm an Irish mum living in the uk. I am like you ! I try and make things flexible as the control is real !!!!. So much so that my son started to orchestrate conversations or requests so there would only be one answer and that would be the one he wanted !!. I teach him about " sometimes " and " maybe ". And " plan b" ! It's slow but he's smart as a whip. Wow !!! It's so challenging and I used to feel so sad but I'm glad I know because I want to help him . And I've had to throw out the mom book on parenting. So we rewrite it to suit us . Love your videos x

[@maniusman2607]

Luca you have described ADHD very nicely.And I can definitely see a lot of talent in you..maybe we will see you become a famous actor in the future..who knows!!!Thank you for all the videos you make...its not easy to share ones most vulnerable parts of life with an audience...but in doing so you are able to teach fellow special needs moms so so soooo much that sadly sometimes even professionals can't!

[@kuzianmak8480]

Luca, hi. It was great seeing you and your Mum in this and other videos

[@ComingHometoAutism]

❤️

[@bhela2619]

You have helped me slot, immortional and just overall, I'm from South Africa and I didn't know anyone in my black community with this diagnosis ASD, with covid I couldn't get my regular therapy sessions at the government hospitals but you have been my safe place. I'd repeat all episodes over and over save them and share so people can stop asking me something i cannot even explain in my own native language. Thank you!

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Oh thank you so much lovely lady. I know it’s not easy but hopefully from watching my Chanel you know you are his best teacher and you can help him more than anyone ❤️ you got this x

[@Its_Ambira]

You are inspiration and hope for depressed moms, stay blessed Tara, love you Luka

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you sending you a big hug and hope your ok x

[@bhela2619]

Love him too, love Naya aswell too cute, they are the reasons I want to give my son atleast one brother or sister. They are truly amazing.

[@blo1314]

Thanks for all the info, hope and inspiration you give those of us starting this journey with our children! Yes, Luka you are the reason we watch the channel🙂❤

[@blo1314]

*Luca

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Ahh thank my you so much ! Luca cracks me up 🙈

[@ADWOWA]

This is very helpful, just got a diagnosis for my 3yr almost old about ASC and i'm notiticing a strong leaning towards PDA. Your videos have been very helpful as I've sought help and assessments for my little one. Thank you xxx

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Sending you a hug on this journey you got this

[@ADWOWA]

@@ComingHometoAutism Thanks. it doesn't always feel like that but yes... we got it!!! :) xxx

[@marybaker9401]

Great video!! Love you guys and your channel! Luca, it was very nice to have you on this video with your amazing Mum! 🌻💛🌻

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you so much

[@alexandramcgee4942]

Hello Luca!! You are the best brother!!!

[@mrsmuffinman]

Love this ❤️ as a parent to 3 autistic sons, I agree that the range is so different and definitely unique and changes every season 🥰

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you . It’ changes so much doesn’t it. Not one day is the same and I think it’s unfair when they say oh he is very high functioning and then you think wow they struggle with things but sometimes you don’t see it. . ❤️

[@Roachandflasha]

Love your videos. Thank you for making them, you give so much hope and great information.

[@lanni8224]

I really would love to know how people get these diagnoses , If you’re on any Medicaid. I can barely get my 8 yr old “Therapy” from a licensed therapist and she is suffering and so is everyone around her. Her neurologist said “you’re lucky you’re getting any help with your insurance! “ hopelessness ,is what this feels like, and my daughter feels it as well .

[@naomie6415]

Thank you for another wonderful video. Enjoy your Sunday and sending lots of love to you all 😘

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Happy Sunday to you friend x

[@miriahtaverna]

Just found your channel & im crying because everything your describing sounds like my son. He is 4 years old & I think I need to get him tested to see if he is on the spectrum.

[@AncaGruiescu]

Luca is right! We love you too. You ar e an ispiration. Very very helpful.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

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[@Chickadee_21]

My son just got diagnosed with ADHD. I have been studying about his situation through any available platform including yours but doc just see my son for 1 hr and diagnosed him and ask me to think about medication. I am not ready to do that. I know he has attention issue & do only the task that he likes. and he cant read social cue. But his teacher said he is more settling after a few months of starting school. I just want to try therapy and some training instead of straight away to medicate him. You are helping us a lot and i am so grateful for that. Pls keep doing what you are doing and pls shed some light on ADHD topic too .

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Hey there absolutely I will. We have a a few videos on adhd . On is called another diagnosis ❤️ where Luca and andrew talk about it hope this helps x

[@Chickadee_21]

@@ComingHometoAutism thank you for your reply. 🙏🏻I know how busy you might be. I watched all your videos including Andrew one. Some i watched twice or more. I always worry my son having adhd , he might become high school drop out or school-will kick him out 😢. But he is very smart though . After seeing Andrew doing fine , it gave me some peace but of course i will have to word harder for him . cant wait for new video. May God give you more strength & success

[@ComingHometoAutism]

You know what I always tell Luca that richard Branson head of virgin has adhd some of the most successful people in this world have adhd . We try and call it a super power as they have extra energy. Andrew always says try get them in to something like swimming or running or what ever hobby they might like . ❤️

[@girlsmummaslife9548]

Absolutely love your channel and beautiful family. My oldest girl has autism, spd, anxiety, separation anxiety, selective mutism and is also awaiting an adhd assessment x

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you for sharing lovely. Your girl is lucky to have a mama like you x

[@jacobclayton1995]

Louca. You will make a good TV percenter one day. You are all very good.

[@WenliXia]

Great video！Amazing mom！I really appreciate it.

[@LashleyAnder]

Luca! Everyone loves you!! ❤

[@codiceblu5566]

I love your videos!!! Lucas is a cutie and a tech geek, but since he was showing his back during his explanation, I thought I heard him say "hit the like bottom" LOL ^_______^

[@ComingHometoAutism]

He is so funny they know more about KZbin than I do! I haven’t got a clue 🤣

[@beautifulheart3849]

Luca, you are so right, I do love you.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

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[@nusratkhanshinwari1071]

Love your videos, so helpful!

[@beautifulheart3849]

Thank you so much, this was such a comforting vid. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you

[@mickkiw]

Luca, you did well. 👏

[@ezyb4884]

Hi, I remember you said you tried everything for Dylan. Did you try holistic treatments as well? Do you know anything about it?

[@katrinaheard9147]

Hi, I was wondering if you posted your video regarding cbd oil and any you recommend? The video of supplements for your son that you uploaded, you mentioned you would post about Cbd oil but I can't find an Update. Thank you! I love your channel by the way and have found it so helpful.

[@pokemonacer]

I’m a child with a dual diagnosis as well. As a teen with Autism and ADHD On the mild zone, I used to be a crazy bunch and would summon a hurricane, figuratively. I guess a ton of from therapists,family, mentors and friends did guide me to here I am today. I can still be rowdy at times but not as much as back then

[@annaw7437]

Loved this, so helpful ♡♡♡

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Thank you ❤️

[@aneesahthequeen]

Luca you’re definitely the star🤣love you beautiful redhead🤣❤️😍

[@aneesahthequeen]

I totally agree with you!!!

[@joannawezyk9723]

Thank you for your videos. Could you tell me how did you dignosed your son? Did you use the NHS or private care?

[@krazykrissy128]

Thank you so much for this video. My 5 year old girl has ASD, anxiety, SPD (seeking and avoidance at the same time) and not diagnosed but I think OCD. Did you ever have any problem with your child not liking their name? My lil one loves character names and they change many times each day and she gets upset if you use her real name. Her school has been very understanding. I thought it was a phase but it's been about a year and half.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

I think this can be a phase so you can always go with it . Dylan used to call me Bob he didn’t like mummy 🙈 now he will only call me mummy ❤️

[@emmahepburn7831]

My six year old son is Autistic PDA and has SPD and anxiety, and he definitely has OCD traits too, especially when he's stressed about something. He has refused to be referred to as his given name since he could talk. We have used only his chosen name for the last three years now and it's used in all circumstances. It's been so long I suspect his chosen name will be his forever name now, and he'll change it legally when he's old enough.

[@krazykrissy128]

@@emmahepburn7831 yeah with mine it's like she is in her own world. And she assigns not just her a name but everyone else around as well. It's gets difficult because not everyone knows tayo the little bus characters or whatever. And also she won't tell you her name, we have to guess" are you a bus, a car, a train" it gets very complicated. It's like a game to her, and I hate to feed into it, but it's like pick your battles. Do you want her to be happy or upset all the time, and also if I use her chosen name she complies with chores or commands so it's just easier.

[@emmahepburn7831]

@@krazykrissy128 my son is much more comfortable living in his imaginary world. It enables him to be able to function better, so we just go with it as it makes him feel safer and more in control. He would never leave the house if his imaginary world was not used.

[@nettelast]

Luca you are awesome ❤️❤️❤️….. thank you for this and all your videos. My husband and I are trying to learn everything we can for our son and it can be overwhelming…. Your information makes me feel hopeful and that we can figure it out regardless of the challenges thank you 🤗

[@ComingHometoAutism]

You can definitely do this! I know it’s overwhelming just breathe and and trust your self x

[@miaadam1574]

Very helpful to hear like all your videos. My child gets very upset when his toy/object that he stacked falls down or sibling has moved one of them. I feel like playtime is sad time and unfair to his siblings. Any tip on how to reassure him that it’s okay?

[@ComingHometoAutism]

If you can stay calm and say it’s ok and make a game of it it will help. So build something up and then get him to knock it down so he sees that things that fall can get back up again x

[@annie02091987]

Useful video. Can you pls how to handle child hearing voices in mind who's autism spectrum.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Useless video ? Thanks

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Not a very nice way to start a conversation and then ask me a question on how to help you!

[@annie02091987]

I am so sorry it's a printing mistake it's a very useful video. Not only this all your video. My apologies.

[@annie02091987]

Even my kid is having anxiety . My sincere apologies for the printing mistake.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

That’s ok . I was wondering why someone would dis a video and ask for help. I try my hardest to help as many people as I can yet I still get some negative people who like to bring me down. If he has voices in his head it’s good to draw or get a child psychologist to talk to him. Sometimes it’s just them talking to them selves and this can pass . X

[@sureelasachdeva2462]

Luke, u r the best! Super cute!

[@ComingHometoAutism]

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[@serena9543]

I cant believe that I have a 28 year old that is on the spectrum and I was told over and over he wasnt. If you know fight for child

[@pinkpetal489]

I live in London - do you know reliable organisation for PDA for adults too

[@pinkpetal489]

@@janebaker519 what herbs ..

[@kellyshimey825]

You always give helpful information thank you so much you have a beautiful family too💖 My Son he's on the spectrum he's 3 and they are suggesting ABA for him. What are your thoughts on ABA? Thank you From the U.S.A Scranton Pennsylvania love your channel. And special family's out there did you guys ever give it a try?

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Hey there yes we did do abs I talk about it in my video therapies we used to help dylan we used for a year when he was about 7/8 when he needed help with putting on shoes ect. I do think though you need the right therapist. And I always stayed with dylan x

[@kellyshimey825]

@@ComingHometoAutism thank you so much Tara for getting back to me I truly appreciate it alot💖 That's great to know it help Dylan and you having this channel helps so many parents out you're a awesome amazing beautiful Mama 💖 We are on the waiting list now for ABA I don't know anyone in my circle who has a child on the spectrum so watching your helpful videos truly do help 💖

[@lisadesmidt7991]

It would be so helpful if you would share your toilet training success in an upcoming video please!

[@ComingHometoAutism]

Hey there we have a video on potty training of you would like to check it out x

[@bhela2619]

I wish i could help him stop screaming, as his doing this alot. His 2years old, Luca is love! Can I adop him.

[@ComingHometoAutism]

I’m sorry your son is screaming have you had his ears checked ? It might help to re direct him to a small Indoor trampoline? Or hitting a soft pillow ?

[@bhela2619]

@@ComingHometoAutism I'm still looking for the trampoline I think it's a great idea. Yes I have checked them they okay, I will think he does it when his frastrated with me not giving him attention and at first I thought it will be cool to just scream with him but I stopped coz I thought it's not good no he still continues to do so and waiting for me to join him 😄 but I must say u have really helped me with him and thanks for reminding me I'm his best teacher.

[@bhela2619]

So sorry and another thing is, how do you think I can stop stop him from throwing toys up in the air because he literally throws everything even stones which might hurt him or break a window, he gave me a blue eye the other day from him toy car

[@andreajohnston9009]

Well💖 💖😗

[@ComingHometoAutism]

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[@ifigeneia149]

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[@ComingHometoAutism]

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[@aneesahthequeen]

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