Exposing a Terrifying & TOXIC Dating Trend

[@justinalexander9493]

I am NEVER ready for John’s lack of outro.

[@parentingadabsurdum]

Yes 😂😂😂

[@cvera__]

This 😂😂😂😩

[@ObesetoBeast]

Keeping y’all on your toes

[@LouzyInfomercials]

King of The Irish Goodbye

[@EnloTheRover]

The way he ends it is so funny to me bc it goes straight into another video and I'm like "wait, did he change topics... ohhhh it ended" lol😂

[@Sandra-Renea]

No! There’s nothing sexy about feeling like you’re about to have a heart attack from walking up 1 flight of stairs!

[@beultra3083]

You know there's someone out there right now watching their partner gasping for air as they try to walk who is THRILLED about it. Do not comprehend.

[@AllyCakes12]

🤣🤣 so much truth.

[@fawcettimo1897]

I hear that girl!

[@genericcosplaygirl]

Narrator: “Remember to stay fit on your weight gaining journey.” First tip: “stay as sedentary as possible”

[@c.s.804]

Their favorite salad. Word salad.

[@Anna-do4sp]

This is such a terrible advice taking in account the serious consequences that the sedentary lifestyle has on both thin and fat people...

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

@@Anna-do4sp YES!! Thin fat is very dangerous, too.

[@sarahh2072]

Not me doing the things they are suggesting 😭

[@vidhead85]

We said the disclaimer so everything else doesn't have to make sense lol

[@Sweetlittlehugs]

This feels predatory to me. One person (usually the man) stays slim and healthy while feeding their partner to the grave.

[@DocBree13]

Yep - and then moves on to the next one

[@doodledude8190]

It reminds me of a serial killer in a movie I watched. He feeds women to death and places gambles online about how much they'll weigh when they die. While he is sexually attracted to the women and the act of feeding (despite being a hunk himself), he just enjoys the control even more.

[@punkybrewstar83]

@@doodledude8190 The control is exactly it. As John was saying- something happened in childhood to make them feel a lack of control and a huge fear of abandonment. Huge women (and men) can't go anywhere, and they rely on the assistance of somebody else to do a lot of things and even financially rely on the other person sometimes. Although often the gainer will be a cam girl or be receiving disability, and is the income for them both. Often the feeder will leave if their partner loses weight and try to sabotage any potential effort to do so. I'm not sure why we can't criticize dangerous and abusive kinks all of a sudden, but I fail to see anything not to criticize about this.

[@Ober1kenobi]

It’s what these women want, she found her man

[@Ober1kenobi]

Ah look at the comments, it’s always the mans fault Innit 😂😂😂🤦‍♂️

[@sydney6268]

I think a kink stops being okay when it puts one partner's life in danger. It's especially important to consider that the "fed" partner is usually a woman, and obesity is often linked to mental health issues, so it might very well be taking advantage of a person who feels that is the only way they can be loved.

[@DocBree13]

This! 💯

[@mockingbirdnightingale7169]

A kink stops being okay when it causes ANY level of harm. It shouldn't have to rise to the level of life-endangerment before we understand that it's wrong. This is abuse!!

[@azaleaacevedo5124]

Especially constant danger. Other dangerous kinks end as soon as the play stops. The fat and all its risks stick with the partner long after the scene ends.

[@mockingbirdnightingale7169]

@Crazy Phil and they would be either abusers or self-harmers, doesn't change a thing.

[@mynamehasspacesinit8687]

What about CBT?

[@andrea1324]

"You won't get fat overnight" My depressed ass begs to differ.

[@Chefgrlangel]

I felt that lmao 🍰

[@spicymayo623]

Lmao. Thats the only part of the video where I spoke out loud. "Lies! " 😆

[@Sterling8953]

Truth

[@basshomie2946]

My pregnant ass begs to differ LOL

[@IceQueen975]

Mood tho

[@heylove9016]

The amount of anxiety this video gave me wow... fetishizing obesity is just as bad as glamorizing anorexia, in my opinion (but seriously).

[@counselforthedefendant4499]

Facts 👏

[@NearPanther92]

well theres a difference between the two

[@PistachioBandit]

@@NearPanther92 There is actually a 1:1 comparison. Anorexia fetish where predatory men encourage women and girls to starve to death.

[@LoveKnot78]

Yeah it is or like how heroin chic was a thing for models 😢

[@TheDanyell13]

To be fair I can also see why someone could get sucked into this lifestyle, if you have struggled with body image, and self esteem, and maybe worried that no one would ever find you attractive. Going from that to someone who's suddenly being loved bombed and suddenly attractive or even worshiped, I could see how someone could find that very tempting.

[@the_homun_system]

i knew someone who had an interest in feederism and honestly they used to post about how unhappy they were with their body. they were still somewhat fat themself and they would say all the time about how their body held most of its fat on their hips, butt, and thighs and the community seemed to prefer large tums more than anything else. they would always feel bad about how they had.. i would say a reasonably proportioned abdomen for how their upper body fat was held. because they saw that bigger stomachs were more ideal. honestly i felt bad for them that they were interested in making their body a fetish but then were self conscious about how people into that wouldnt like theirs.. they were a decent person. been through a lot in life. had poor food security for long periods and dangerous relatives. but they sure didnt deserve to be given image issues over a fetish.

[@DocBree13]

This is so insightful - I think you make some excellent points. I can see the appeal, too - after fighting my body for most of my 53 years, it would feel so freeing (at first) to just give up and even embrace being obese - but I won’t. I’ve worked so hard to go from 267 to 193, and even though I’m still obese, I’m much healthier and happier. I hope I can get down to a normal weight some day.

[@TheDanyell13]

@@foolishlyfoolhardy6004 yea its very easy for it to go badly because that's exactly it. Suddenly feeling like you matter is to some worth more than their health. It's also why people are drawn to HAYS.

[@DocBree13]

@@TheDanyell13 what are HAYS?

[@saraalmezel3143]

@@DocBree13 health at every size

[@ankida]

If pro-ana isn’t allowed this shouldn’t either. If you reverse some of what they’re saying. People would lose their minds. “Comments on how thin and unhealthy you look is just a sign of progress!” I think a kink stops being a kink and starts being a mental illness when it’s deadly or permanently harmful.

[@cosmicmuffin322]

I don't think it's a mental illness, it's just an unethical kink. I'm kinky and I firmly believe that some kinks are fundamentally unethical and harmful. Feederism is one of them.

[@mael2039]

kink and sex in general shouldn't just be consensual, it should be consensual, safe, and sane

[@flightsoffancyaremylife5311]

Okay, but, like even some of the BDSM community wants nothing to do with feeders because of the morbid end it eventually leads to. Because a lot of feeders aren't content with watching their partner gain weight, they want to see their partner disabled, immobile, and purely dependent on them. This is literally helping someone kill themselves slowly and it's just... there's no love in this kind of relationship. Just obsession and an unhealthy need for control.

[@viviramdani2612]

This is the same as anorexic fetish. Scary shit man

[@DocBree13]

Yes! It’s so disturbing to see videos of men who obviously take good care of themselves in such a relationship - it strikes me as so unbelievably selfish. Their sexual desires are so much more important than the health, comfort and even life of their “partners.” That’s not love, any more than a man calling his wife disgusting because she’s overweight (that’s not born out of concern for her well-being, either).

[@frightmareswithfoster1111]

There is risk aware consensual kink. Oh you could end up with a serious injury doing xyz and I am taking responsibility doing xyz. Knowing you are doing something that PURPOSELY will cause death is not included in the bdsim community. The community in my entire state does not tolerate feederism or ana fetishists.

[@doodledude8190]

First acronyms, SSC... SAFE, SANE, CONSENTUAL! This ain't safe or sane despite the consent.

[@frightmareswithfoster1111]

@@doodledude8190 not everyone follows SSC because sane is entirely too subjective 😂😂😂 that's why I play under RACK & PRICK guidelines

[@gingerchaosmuppet9007]

Going to make my best friend call me a “more advanced slimmy” when I need to feel pumped about my progress. 👍🏼

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

🤣🤣🤣 yes!!!

[@somethinggood9267]

Lolmao

[@lordsxman]

What bugs me about the latter video is that they don't mention the negative physical changes like being out of breath, a rise in blood pressure, tendency to sweat easily, the foot/ knee pain, increase in thirst, and loss of energy.

[@mistyfiello5262]

Right! Heart disease, stroke, diabetes, death. It’s not just about weight. It’s just not healthy.

[@DocBree13]

Good point! I can’t believe I didn’t even notice that. Talk about no truth in advertising. SMH

[@emilykeckler754]

They don’t even mention talking to your doctor which is usually the thing to say in any kind of diet video. This feels like a video a feeder would show to someone they want to pull into this. :/

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

This is sort of an advertisement video. You conceal all the negative facts there.

[@Kloetenhenne]

@LaumiRez same. 😫 but I am on the right track now I think

[@LorraineVirginie]

Omg when she said that BS about “there are studies showing overweight people are happier in life blah blah” I said out loud “that is simply not true” and then immediately John goes “that’s just not true” 😂

[@Korilian13]

The wording is very sus. Are people with just a few exces pound happier than extremely thin people, who might be struggling with illness or an ED? Probably. Are they also happier than morbidly obese people? You bet your ass they are.

[@staceykersting705]

@@Korilian13 Just what I was thinking.

[@andreaberryman5354]

Lol

[@lordowl3533]

How exactly are they measuring this? Like maybe obese people THINK they're happier than they would be skinny, as they'd have to give up the foods they like that make them happy at the moment, which they think would make them miserable to be missing out on. Even so, happiness is rather hard to measure without legitimately being able to read minds. Like are they just going off what they say? Like, "yeah I'm fucking massively obese, and I'm happy", and then the scientist or whatever is just like, "good enough for me" or something. Seems to me like they're just kind of playing into the "Jolly fat guy" trope. Honestly they should be interviewing people who used to be fat but lost weight or are in the process of losing weight so they can truly compare happiness then vs now

[@IzzyandShadow]

As a former fatty I can confirm that’s true I was horrendously depressed at my heaviest

[@bees.2843]

John: “I’m trying not to kink shame” Me: “PLEASE kink shame”

[@AishaVamps]

yeah that just made me disappointed we shouldn't be normalizing something like this at all

[@ewe_e-]

@Charlie James yeah, what should be shamed is the harmful behaviour and not people themselves

[@Nameless_mixes]

I say, as long as someone’s kink doesn’t put anyone else’s health and safety in harm’s way, they can do whatever the heck they want. This ABSOLUTELY jeopardize’s someone’s health (and potentially their safety). We SHOULD be shaming this as these people are going to end up being hospitalized or worse if they engage in these activities. Ultimately, they’re entitled to doing what they want. It’s their life, their choice. It’s just disappointing to see people wanting to pursue this knowing the health ramifications they’re lining themselves up for.

[@primulamiguelshuggana2054]

You know kink shaming a kink too :-0

[@reyhugo4879]

It’s actually my kink to be kink shamed

[@jesssicaaaa]

“Wear tight restricting clothes that show off our rolls” I can’t think of anything worse

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

Many young fat acceptance women do this nowadays. As if they want to provoke reactions from their surroundings. It's sometimes unfomfortable to watch them, if they wear very skimpy clothes. Their breasts look like those are about to popp out of the short top, you can sometimes see the lower part of their ass cheeks in the very short skirts. And they are terribly sweating and leaving the seat ( in public transport ) wet and smelly ( unfortunately I have a good sense of smell my mom jokingly calls me a bloodhound then ). It's a little bit exhibitionistic, what they do in my opinion ( because you see more flesh on them than on skinny women ). They are more naked than clad.

[@janedoll3237]

@@Gaia_Seraphina as if public transportation wasn’t unpleasant enough 😑.

[@staceykersting705]

@@Gaia_Seraphina To help it all along, Walmart sells tons of leggings in beige, dusty pink, camel, cocoa, every shade of gold and brown...just drop your Twinkies then bend from the 'waist', sticking your bare-looking arse up in the air and block the whole aisle.

[@peppercmg6012]

An morbidly obese lady in skin color tights

[@tuffguydoe7937]

@@Gaia_Seraphina Sadly that's the only way they can get attention. It seems the fatter women are the louder they are when they want to argue.

[@kimyoho3254]

I don’t love being obese. I am currently losing weight. I started at 380 and got up today to finally be in the 200s at 299. I cannot imagine embracing getting bigger and bigger on purpose until it kills me. I feel very sad for these people. I hope they love themselves enough to to take care of their health. ❤️

[@victoriahollis3454]

Well done 👍 Kim I started at 350 I'm now 160 it's been a trip but I don't miss sweating super heavily the thigh rubbing soreness Inbetween rolls and all the other associated things that go along with it.

[@liimakino]

Proud of your weight loss!! Those people are definitely not mentally sound. Being obese is not fun - I got to 113kg (249 lbs) in a 5'3 body... I know.

[@Chefgrlangel]

80 pounds! That's impressive and you probably feel better too. I'm really happy for you

[@kimyoho3254]

Thank you everyone!

[@Readitinabook]

@@kimyoho3254 hey Kim I’d love to connect with you on your weight loss! I’m on the same journey, it’s been slow going, but worth it!

[@ashleyh8352]

She makes it sound so difficult to gain weight when I can smell cake and gain 5 lbs 😂

[@kimyoho3254]

😂 facts!

[@annacollins2184]

Same here!

[@greyhavens9474]

Exactly!!

[@TyphusVonElder]

I need about 4,000 calories a day in order to gain weight. At 3,000 I lose weight. So I mean it is real.

[@greyhavens9474]

@@TyphusVonElder want to change bodies? I gain weight at 1200 calories. Its real 😔😔

[@marmelaota1703]

Love how in the second video they basically said that the fat positivity movement is a good cover up for feederism

[@somethinggood9267]

Yeassssss

[@zoelatzer7774]

So many of the 600lb Life people have partners that are feeders and get mad at them for wanting to lose weight. In one episode the husband was soo mad she wanted to lose weight and said he wouldn’t be attracted to her anymore. Right when he picked her up from her weight loss surgery he went to fast food and shoved it in her face. So sad 😭 I think she also was in a feeder community when she was younger and loved it, but then later in life was really struggling.

[@candyce2144]

Gareth? I remember that episode because the daughter was like “you didn’t have to marry him”. I used to tell my mom the same thing about my dad. /feels

[@bxpandorumx5691]

I remember that episode. Ugh I couldn't believe what I saw he was such an asshole. Glad she left him.

[@brioche8123]

Tbh on top of them getting therapy for their weight, they should be spoken to about healthy relationships (off or on camera). Because a lot of them are definitely in mentally/emotionally abusive relationships

[@davidrobertson7315]

Yeah they’re mostly guys though. It’s so hard to find a female feeder. I’m 680lbs and I’ve been looking for a female feeder to help me gain more weight.

[@joannapatterson4625]

I remember this guy. Total asshole.

[@elielis6]

"Hey fatty" "right back at you lardo" sounds like a regular sibling interaction lmfao

[@NyxGuyASMR]

Wow...just...I can’t. I’ve lost 165lbs and still have 50-60lbs to go. I can’t imagine going back to 370+ lbs. living like that was absolute pain and misery.

[@mckenna_L_]

That is so much weight loss I can’t imagine the amount of work you’ve put in to achieve that. Very inspiring ❤️

[@docescete3672]

Congrats in your weight loss. Amazing work!

[@scootingscoot4807]

Congrats! That’s very inspiring and I’m glad you’re valuing your health 💜. This summer I’m helping my mom to lose weight because she’s in a similar boat. She’s in pain constantly. It will be so nice to see her happier and with much less pain

[@ivykaway]

Omg when in the first video they said "a more advanced fatty" I had to laugh out loud... 😂😅

[@WhatIsItToBurn]

I'm going to descibe myself as that from now on lmao.

[@zuzanaaa]

@@WhatIsItToBurn HAHAH same

[@amandalopez6063]

I was like there’s levels to this bitch 😂😂😂

[@ThisIsNotAnExit86]

I laughed out loud at John laughing at it 😂

[@heathersealey592]

That first video is like they took a top 10 weight loss tips and just reversed everything.

[@bixler3463]

I kinda feel that about second video like almost parody of how ridiculous diet videos are? Am I giving too much credit?

[@Starburstluver69]

Bixler yah i think so lol

[@bethanymann9137]

The first video absolutely sounds like satire. It's a little eerie that it's not 😬

[@brandonjoseph1489]

It 100% is lol. In suprised he didn’t realize this lol kinda funny

[@WolfStreak]

@@brandonjoseph1489 But isn't the channel dedicated to the topic? Why would they troll themselves?

[@ABrainlessThot]

@@WolfStreak I mean there are whole ass accounts that dedicate their channels to trolling Look at all the “easy craft tricks” channels lol

[@lanaj1994]

Qqq

[@virginiagirl6628]

That’s what I thought!

[@nanalamb4623]

What sort of pisses me off is that a lot of people simply can't afford this sort of lifestyle... So many people go hungry. It's like the people that live at the capital in hunger games.

[@lygiabird6988]

That is so flipping true! Like it’s actually unethical as a lifestyle considering how the food systems in the world are set up! Horrible

[@danniealexander4131]

Exactly. I remember that scene from hunger games at the party where the people would be so full they cant eat anymore but would take a pill to throw up so they can "taste everything" at the party. And there were people starving in the other districts. Very unethical behaviour

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

The modern version of decadent romans from the ancient world, living in debauchery ... believing it's morally and socially totally ok to live in abundance ... to overindulge, to take more than your body actually needs. The ancient romans even vomitted thanks to a feather, so they could stuff their faces again.

[@inferno7289]

not to mention how wasteful it is and how bad it is for the environment

[@azaleaacevedo5124]

@@lygiabird6988 I think Catholicism views it as a sin (gluttony), or at least it did once. I’m not Catholic so I can’t be sure. But they certainly have a point on that one.

[@Smacy]

This sheds a lot of light on Tammy Slaton and her enabling boyfriend

[@alexcastro7665]

Oh, Jerry? He’s a well-known feeder. While he was dating Tammy he was also married and had children and grandchildren, which we all know (most likely) but what some don’t know is Jerry’s wife was morbidly obese and not only bed-bound but in the hospital with severe medical issues. Jerry met his wife in the same place he met Tammy, on a dating site where men could find BBW (Big Beautiful Women). Jerry has alleged that he loves bigger girls, and he loves to see them eat. This might seem strange, as he is a very tall, thin, and even somewhat *lean* looking man who is surprisingly youthful for being in his later forties, but when you take into account his...interests it’s an obvious conclusion. His relationships are typical of a Feeder, wherein he is thin & healthy but his partner is extremely overweight, even sometimes to the point of morbid obesity. Jerry isn’t so much an enabler, as a _pusher_ as he pushes Tammy to gain weight, will make exorbitantly large portions of food for ‘both’ of them and eat little to none while pushing the food off to Tammy who obviously indulges and gains weight. It’s very sad, I was initially Pro-Jerry as he resembles my grandfather, but I can’t continue to support such a person regardless of how entitled each and every person is to their own fetishes and kinks as long as they’re consensual and between adults.

[@adoreyou7449]

@@alexcastro7665 no she has a new bf, she has a few tiktoks with him.

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

@@alexcastro7665 This sounds as if he will be her legal and consent murderer. Just like drug dealers ( minus the legal part ).

[@pentrubarbati]

Typicaly women there allways a man fault never them ...

[@katesawyer1151]

@@pentrubarbati nobody said it wasn’t her fault that she’s that way but it doesn’t help that she has a man who enables and encourages her eating

[@samanthavanscoder9536]

I would love to be a fat and happy lady but I really enjoy breathing and fitting into small spaces to reach things. Like how am I suppose to get in my bathroom cabinet to change out the faucet at 500 lbs.

[@staceykersting705]

It'd be good to at least fit in the bathtub, and have the strength and strong knees to do it.

[@sloth7187]

That's so funny. I am actually pretty underweight and have been struggling to put on weight, so I was almost excited to see what tips they had, but I do recognize that they have a different goal than me x)

[@lizh4244]

i def recommend the protein shakes & nutritional shakes. personally i have trouble eating any solid foods in the morning so shakes are a life saver.

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

Yeah. Those tips are just an instruction how to ruin oneself for your fat fetishist partner's pleasure! Or how to get disability paychecks and live your shortened life as a glutton and lazy-ass.

[@alexanderdavidmartinezsilv1914]

I was weighting 218 lbs at the beginning of february when I started my weight loss journey. Down to 188 lbs as of today. I just decided to get in the gym, run sometimes in the mornings, and I "cheat" at lest one day of the week (sometimes more due to my binging. I eat when I'm not doing anything, not because I get hungry), the rest I eat whatever I want, but making sure my calories are lower than the recomended intake to maintain my weight.

[@brundlefly88]

“It can be surprisingly difficult to gain weight” uhhhh not in my personal experience lmao

[@kellz4563]

Definitely not me lmfaoooo

[@nataliaa.1094]

I don't have hunger or satiety cues so if I wouldn't controll myself I could just go on eating all day long. Pretty sure I'd get obese within one or two months (currently upper normal BMI range).

[@frummel403]

Haha exactly!

[@esmee6308]

@@nataliaa.1094 Same, if I'm busy / distracted I just don't eat and it takes forever to notice and if I'm bored I could eat all day. The times I eat a whole bag of almonds to negate the damage is pretty sad, my days are quite hectic atm though.

[@mistyc7478]

So my friend actually has an extremely high metabolism. She has had to make sure to actively count her calories. Weight gain has been a struggle for her and there have been times where I was worried about how thin she was. She's finally at a healthy weight and she's super proud of it. For her, it was really difficult to gain weight. For me...it's super easy. lol

[@AngryGeisha652]

As someone who used to be almost 300lbs (down 100+) this makes me absolutely SICK. I have HAD IT with the body positivity movement. I was down with the idea of loving yourself at first but now it's gotten out of hand and has lead to abusive situations like this! I am tired, absolutely tired. People! Do better. Get healthy.

[@huu5807]

I get what you’re saying but there is a difference between the body positive community and feederism. Feeders might disagree but the body positive community tends to be insulted by the feeder community

[@AuralayKristine]

@@huu5807 That's very true, feederism is a fetish in a big way. Body positivity was originally meant to be for people with scars/deformities that they couldn't help. It got a bit coopted by the fat community, but even then it was originally intended to be a "love the body you're in" not a "the body you're in is healthy." I agree that losing weight sustainably needs to come from a place of self love, not self hatred, so in that way, the body positivity community is supportive and helpful--you love your body enough to want to do the work to make it healthier, but you're still valuing yourself as a human being at any size--but the fat activism has taken that sentiment and turned it into "you are healthy and fat is not dangerous and obesity is fine because bodies are just different." So it's kind of a more nuanced situation than that. Interestingly I don't think feeders are in any way claiming obesity is healthy. At least some of the communities I've seen certainly aren't. They know it's dangerous, but they don't care. Frankly I'd prefer that over the narrative that "obesity is healthy" -- at least they're owning up to the dangers of what they're doing.

[@somethinggood9267]

I agree with you completely, and I just wanted to say I'm proud of your hard work and dedication. It is not easy to change habits and mindsets

[@beverlyhills8988]

Feeders have been around for a lot longer than these fat positivity people. There's definitely going to be crossover though.

[@CareySol_0228]

This is ridiculous! I used to weigh almost 500 lb and that wasn't by choice. In a year and a half I have lost 195 lbs which means I still have a long way to go but I'm a lot more healthier, a lot more active and enjoy life so much more than I used to. I could hardly walk. I never wanted to go out because I was embarrassed of what people would think of me or say to me. plus I couldn't walk very much so it was just embarrassing & exhausting. I don't understand how people want to be by their choice, heavy. Not so much because of the looks but because of how uncomfortable you feel. Cleaning yourself on a daily basis is so difficult and you're in so much pain all the time. I just can't fathom anybody actually wanting that. But hey I guess to each their own 🤷‍♀️

[@FitLabb]

I agree with what you said, but more importantly I wanted to congratulate you on your journey so far and for how far you’ve already come! I’m very happy to hear you’ve made such incredible progress with such tangible positive changes so far, and I wish you all the best in the future. Looking forward to seeing your updates in the comments in the future!!! 👍

[@donnaleeclubb119]

Good Luck. You have come a long way.

[@CareySol_0228]

@@FitLabb thank you. It's been a struggle but it's so worth it. I was miserable. Now the struggle is getting over this dang 7 month plateau & dealing with the excess skin. Ugh, losing weight isn't fun. 😪

[@CareySol_0228]

@@donnaleeclubb119 Thank you so much. 🥰

[@heathersealey592]

@@CareySol_0228 It may not be fun at time, but I hope you're proud of yourself. You're working so hard and deserve so much credit!

[@salsabeelsh3878]

“The dreaded gain plateau” and the whole Top 10 Tips video feels like sth from an alternate reality

[@slippypippy]

In all the years that I’ve used Tinder, I’ve had 2 feeders approach me and they are terrifying. It’s honestly one of the sickest forms of controlling behavior.

[@cthulhupriestess]

Just Curious, how do they begin the approach? Is it like, hey want to go eat a bucket of wings with me?

[@slippypippy]

@@cthulhupriestess The first one I talked to for only a few lines of text. I was almost 400 lbs at the time, and I didn’t try to hide it online. He was into it, started giving me compliments about my body being soft and whatnot. Then after I said thank you or whatever he started asking me if I wanted to get bigger and how he could help with that, would I like to be full, how much can I eat, can we have sex after you eat, do you like incorporating food items into the bedroom. I never answered him after that. The second one started off normal, nothing seemed strange about him and we talked for about 2 weeks. I was out of town at the time so we couldn’t meet up, but we had plans. One evening while we’re talking about the usual stuff like what are you doing, how was your day, blah blah, he says that’s he watching My 600 lb Life. I like the show so I talked about it a bit, and how sad it was, their poor families. He agrees, but then he says that he could see himself taking care of a girlfriend that ate herself into immobility. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt so I didn’t stop him. He could see why some of the husbands weren’t supportive, because maybe they like big women that are fat and happy at home, he would like to cook for someone or order food for them while he’s at work. I bring up the fact that immobility kills you eventually, and he said that’s part of the thrill. The immobility makes you dependent on someone else, and someone else has to serve you. I weighed around 230 while I’m talking to this guy, and I make it clear that I’m not interested in that at all and that we should end the conversation now. He says he’s just joking, but that he wanted to choose what I eat, make it for me, and watch me eat. I never answered him after that. Both of these were years ago so I don’t remember more details than that.

[@patriciainportland5567]

@@slippypippy That is so fucking disturbing. I'm glad they showed their true face to you before you got emotionally attached. And good for you for seeing what was going on and taking protective action!

[@DocBree13]

@@slippypippy yikes!!!

[@slippypippy]

@@patriciainportland5567 Oh yeah, I don’t accept any nonsense and I definitely don’t develop feelings easily. Those weirdos can stay far, far away from me 😂

[@anzelaiv]

Can someone please explain to these people that deliberately crippling yourself for sexual pleasure (even your own) is a very VERY bad idea? A feeder is an abuser, plain and simple. How people are willing to cut their lives short for this, I will never understand. Sure, it's a choice, but if you are willing to put yourself through that for any reason, you don't need a partner, you need a good therapist and some nice people around with your best interest in mind, I mean that in the best way possible. This shit is scary.

[@deathtothesystem]

You asked the question and then nailed it. Feeders are abusers. They find insecure people, usually heavy people who struggled with their weight and their body and they love bomb them. They "worship" the body that's been such a point of pain and struggle and they say, it's perfect, you're perfect. All those things you've been trying to stop, you can do all that and more. And the eater is so thirsty for that love and attention and validation, it gets toxic fast. And once they're fat, the feeder has complete control. Because self-worth is tied to that love bombing. Their mobility is compromised. Their ability to find another partner is compromised. 100% it's abusive and controlling behavior

[@hildahilpert5018]

I,m an old maid with a cat. Took care of my mom who had a stroke and my dad had COPD, a long disease.Nevet had a boyfriend but sure in the world wouldn't want one of these clowns.Beside I'm picky.

[@Marina-to5yz]

100% when you talked about eating out. When I started someone, we were eating out all the time and I gained 50lbs in a pretty short time. Before then I'd rarely eat out because I didn't like spending the money but its a lot easier to justify when its someone else you care fore. Once everything shut down and I was cooking healthier meals at home, a lot of the weight came off quick.

[@donnaleeclubb119]

If I was in a feeder relationship, I would roll on outta there.

[@cthulhupriestess]

😂 true!

[@d6mafia13]

😂😭😅

[@esmee6308]

I tried, he rolled me back before I got to the door. :( Got up, walked, shed the weight and walked right out of that door 6 months later. :'')

[@sarahh2072]

Some of them are too fat to be able to leave their own beds. They can't move

[@tiny.terrorist.negotiator]

I see what you did there lol

[@christiank5675]

This gives a very twilight zone freaky feeling. For the first half I was convinced this was some satire site or like “anti-hero” style science video that disproves a lot of HAES ideas by countering it by making getting fat a “good” thing. But now I’m just horrified by the reality of it all.

[@mistyfiello5262]

I recently got back into shape after getting a pacemaker for congenital AV block. I love watching fitness influencers for motivation and perspective. This channel is one of my favorites. I didn’t know things like this were a thing. Choosing to be unhealthy just because, when so many people struggle to be healthy because real life can often be unfair, is just really really sad to me.

[@derrickscott1630]

"pimp out your food" I just dumped my dinner on a street corner, getting skinnier already! 😂 And making money

[@anitabathe2]

“Remember to stay fit on your weight gaining journey” is oxymoronic 😑

[@deathtothesystem]

"Remember to stay fit, while you're completely sedentary and deliberately packing fat around your vital organs!". Fitly. Such fitness.

[@Shudderetal]

"it's a world" is going in my back pocket for the next time I'm appalled but trying to remain diplomatic

[@katepatoot]

Fam. They need to leave Buddha out of this.

[@katepatoot]

Oh shit, the first few tips are really good at care homes for over 65+ residents as they need to gain weight most the time.

[@uribheidi]

Buddha did not approve this message

[@fairiewinterbee]

kinda what I thought when I saw him but 🤷🏽‍♀️ Buddha just loves anyway , he doesn't mind

[@LimewirePirate]

Lol I thought the same thing when I saw that

[@frozendrinksforfree5352]

Buddha was fat and body positiv

[@sim771]

Video 1: oh yeah this advice is good for underweight people who are trying to get to a healthy weight. Video 2: ... That took a twist

[@Haghenveien]

Only that video 1 is not good advide for underweight people trying to gain weight either. At certain moment I was underweight for medical reasons (no anorexia) and really wanted to gain weight so I was pretty much doing the things that video 1 says, and I did gain weight but it wasn't healthy. For example, I was very sedentary and I avoided exercise like the pest, what happended is that I became extreamly deconditioned. The thing is that when you gain weight but it's all fat and no muscle you simply don't have the strenght to move that around. Yes my weight was "normal" but I couldn't do the same things a regular person with that weight can do without problem.

[@johanakolarova]

​@@Haghenveien Exactly, I thought about that too. But gaining healthy weight is something entirely different from what the videos are suggesting. This is sickening.

[@sim771]

@@Haghenveien okay so you have one perspective, but that's not everything. You're talking about being deconditioned, sure but people can be underweight for many different reasons. Ex: if the person is underweight because they have mental health struggles like depression and struggle with basic tasks, any calories they can put into their body to stay alive is better than being underfed because they are trying to do something "right". Fat, muscle, doesn't matter when you are trying to survive mentally. Eating food that's unhealthy but satisfying, easy to prepare or high in calories is enough. They can worry about their physique later. Experiences aren't universal, so apply one persons experiences as a rule is just not right

[@Haghenveien]

@@sim771 I agree with the importance of putting on the calories, they're very much needed no matter where they come from. Sometimes you don't have the luxury of being picky. But if you have mood disorders like anxiety or depression eating healthy and having some physical activity it's known to help. And that's what it's usually recommended by professionals. It's not about doing things perfect, you don't have to make three homemade meals every day and lift weights at the gym but if you can include some more healthy options (they don't have to homemade) and do some light exercise (as far it's possible and recommend by a doctor), that's something. Please keep in mind that exercise routines can and should be adapted, for example you can exercise while sitting on a chair if you can't stand up.

[@shezmeister2771]

I love how people in the stream are saying hi to KZbin.

[@JessTheory]

Lol ya

[@Anna-fw7lm]

And we still have people who aren't eating enough....how can you not be enraged by this? It's horrible.

[@coffee_boii_6588]

This was really hard to watch,especialy the part about the stretch marks. I myself went from 48kg to 60kg in a couple of months thanks to birth control and i cant explain how many times my own mother made fun of me and my stretch marks. And thanks to that to this day i have problems with food and not eating. I know this is a kink for them but i wish they would start actually taking care of themselfs. They can find someone to love them without gaining a ton of weigh.

[@CheetoFireCat]

Sorry about this, that is the worst when family comments about obvious things and stuff that you can't control such as those. 😔 I have a question, do you have an IUD by any chance? I have one and I swear since I have had it in i gained a bunch of weight and i have PCOS also. Just curious.

[@coffee_boii_6588]

@@CheetoFireCat im actually on pills 😅 sadly alot of birth control makes you gain weight,and i wish i knew that sooner. The problem is not everyone has the same body type so it takes a long time to find the perfect birth control for you. I was thinking about getting a IUD but im too scared 😅

[@s.sanders653]

@@coffee_boii_6588 if you want to learn about hormone free BC, I highly recommend the book “taking charge of your fertility”! Don’t mean to intrude but just in case :) I’m reading it now!

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

@@booksandtea1989 ( Grand- ) mothers know best! 😅 Mine was a devout catholic and according to her, obesity is the consequence of gluttony and lazyness .... and those in turn are mortal sins and a sign of social decadence! She would say this vid was made by a satanic cult or something like that.

[@nens1fens1]

I really love my stretch marks, it took me a few years but I do love them now, but also I'm currently happy with my weight

[@thecartoongirl22]

What this hell is going on in this world!? I'm actually blown away by this!

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

Reign of decadence! A symptom of a self-destructing society.

[@FitLabb]

I respect everyone living their life the way they want, but this was difficult to listen to. Felt like something out of the twilight zone, & promotes behaviors that are so detrimental to people’s lives in so many ways. 🤷‍♂️

[@CheetoFireCat]

Agreed 😬

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

And detrimental to society in general. Cuz those sedentary people who disable themselves purposedly ... will be just a liability for their fellow humans. And not worth any compassion, cuz it's their own wrongdoing.

[@andrewbinghamjr]

Guess you haven’t seen stuff in media lately.p, fat is in style.😂😂🙈

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

@@andrewbinghamjr Say again?

[@Caligirl.8630]

The pizza comforter took me out 😂😂😂

[@deathtothesystem]

Bringing food into the bedroom 👁️👄👁️. ....with a themed comforter.

[@raspberryjam348]

“Let’s get fat together.” Just ... no.

[@MangoPandaBros]

I recently stumbled upon this feederism thing only about a week ago while looking up boost shakes cause I need to gain 10lbs to be approved for surgery slightly underweight/ got health issues galore. In the review of this 530calorie boost shake on amazon it showed a guy going from slim to gaining 100lbs which is wild and scary. It's sad and reminds me of another form of self harm ):

[@barsguzel7559]

I appreciate that they are accepting weight gain/loss is related to surplus or deficit of calories.

[@Champagnebear]

They should know it’s only genetics that determine their weight not calories 😂😂

[@deathtothesystem]

The bar is so low! Lmao

[@jungsghost1650]

Is Coach Greg gonna cover this? His head will literally explode!

[@hagar3288]

Not gonna lie I really want him to it is gonna be such a good video

[@ck2d]

I have a cat who was advertised as a "short haired Maine coon cat" and caged and overfed so he would be heavy in order to be bred. When his vet told his owner to stop this practice and have him neutered or he would be reported, the guy ditched the cat because he couldn't profit off him anymore. It was abuse pure and simple.

[@allyson--]

:-( The animal breeding industry is disgustingly cruel. Glad you could help the cat & give them a healthy home

[@lordowl3533]

As the owner of 2 Maine Coon mixes, there's literally no such thing as a short haired Maine coon. Fluffiness comes with the breed, and even in cats that are half Maine coon, they're gonna be medium to long haired cats. It's a dominant trait. They can be average sized cats if they're mixed with a domestic short hair tabby like mine are, but it's pretty much a guarantee they're gonna have long hair with sort of a unique layering to it and bushy tails. On top of being an abuser, that guy is also a plain and simple scam artist, trying to get money for breeding what's most likely just a morbidly obese regular domestic short hair tabby with a purebred Maine coon. Fuck that guy.

[@ck2d]

@@lordowl3533 Yep. But I have a sweetheart of a cat with a fabulous baritone purr who is living in the lap of luxury now.

[@KittyTerhune]

Your kink is never more important than someone’s health and well being

[@somethinggood9267]

YES

[@IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777]

This

[@theywalkinguptoyouand4060]

I had an ad for the world food programme. The narrator in the video talked about eating so much then an ad "1 in 7 children do not have enough food for..."

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

Cynical and very dark!

[@cleo958]

I get this ad all the time

[@somethinggood9267]

Wowwww

[@razzdarkstar]

To be fair poor kids in america can only afford junk food, so they are in need of healthy food but its not in their area. Thats why kids here arent healthy, they can get food but not good nutritional food.

[@noemirodriguez1879]

This scares so much! From your last video of the girl you reacted to I've been so paranoid. Im obese and seeing these videos make me SICK. Ive been in a weight loss journey and its been harder for me to loose weight after hitting a certain mark. So when I see these videos I want to cry because they are killing themselves

[@joannald89]

Whenever I would hit a Plateau I would go into maintenance calories for about a week. It always helped me start the losing process again.

[@RachelReduces]

I understand how you feel. Allow videos like this to serve as a "What not to do". Like John said, look as this advice in the opposite terms, as what to avoid, like extra sauce. And even though it's hard because there are people partaking in gaining weight on purpose; focus on your own journey, getting healthier and happier. Please join John's discord if you haven't already (link in description above). There's lots of help there too. 😊😊

[@LylaMoshi]

These videos remind me of the pro ana stuff you used to find on Tumblr. It's not safe - it's toxic and screams ED to me, but because it's linked to kink and weight gain rather than weight loss people seem more reluctant to push against it and call it out

[@soojincho2829]

This should be titled "Become a My 600# Life Patient" It's amazing this is okay on KZbin but if someone did this for an ED, mainly a weightloss ED, it would get taken down immediately

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

Double standards of a self-destructing, decadent society!

[@deathtothesystem]

The biggest difference I see is that feeders are usually older. A lot of ED, pro-ana is being consumed by teen and pre-teen girls. (I would know. I lived it. Started at 13). Feederism is inherently abusive, but it's mostly vulnerable adults rather than sick kids. Personally, I'd just slap an age restriction on both. They're both fucking toxic, but imo it's not the place of big tech companies to decide what is and isn't acceptable content.

[@rivhall8535]

This is freaking nuts! I can't even imagine actually deliberately doing these things.

[@davidrobertson7315]

Because you’re close minded

[@rivhall8535]

@@davidrobertson7315 in what way did I say people couldn't do what they wanted with their life? Because I dont understand the want for it doesnt mean they have to stop. I don't understand the some people's wants for super expensive cars or 5,000 square foot house either but that doesn't mean other people can't live that way. Don't project on me because you are unhappy.

[@davidrobertson7315]

@@rivhall8535 what makes you think I’m unhappy?

[@andyblair3901]

@@rivhall8535 It’s easier for people with mental disorders to lie to themselves about their addictions or self destroying habits. They make up positives about themselves. It’s really sad, but it’s extremely common and the hard truth. It happens with pretty much any addiction / unhealthy habit. Drug addiction, alcoholism, intentionally dating awful people that will treat you horribly etc. people do this stuff all the time. No one actually wants to do it , but they’re so far gone they brainwash themselves. I don’t think he implied you said people can’t do what they want, but even if they did shouldn’t pay it any kind. Certain things have so many negative effects on society that individuals shouldn’t “do what they want” . Being obese is the biggest health issue in western societies, wasting resources, making the population weaker, literally making people dumber. Being obese has actual negative side effects on your brain function. So anyone doing something god awful and saying “ do what I want you can’t judge “ are usually wrong and desperately need to be shunned. That was a lot but hopefully it answers your question at least some.

[@andreamunoz6088]

@@davidrobertson7315 told myself I was happy while I was fat but I was fully lying to myself. Being obese is not the way to happiness

[@limegreenlover21]

Well this is interesting… I can eat one doughnut and gain 5 pounds. I’m sure there’s more people out here like me who are actively working to lose weight. It’s crazy to me that there’s a whole community who wants to gain weight quickly and easily.

[@elainepavek3156]

The name of their company is "Fantasy Feeder", that says it all in a nutshell.

[@prismo1428]

Basically this is teaching you how to have an eating disorder.

[@SybilNix]

I blame that Simpsons episode when homer went to donut hell

[@flightsoffancyaremylife5311]

It's kind of scary how many cartoons have stuff like this in them.

[@DEdPoolio]

Wassup bro! U helped me loose weight bout 3 to 4years ago. Love ur vids, like the new background and intro. Keep up the good vibes and good work, bro 👍🏾

[@billiee8035]

the thing with feederism, as far as i can see it, is the same with most kinks in that it's about removing somebody's autonomy. some of their posts came across my tumblr dash before the purge and there were a lot of fantasies about being too large to move or having somebody force-feed them. it reminded me of bdsm, which is all about surrendering control to somebody.

[@Claire-iz2jw]

You’re so kind and inspiring, sending love from Italy, love you🤍

[@gabbrielewilson6702]

I’m not even very big, but I’m so afraid of being fetishized because of my weight. I’m losing weight bc I have a bad back and hips at 22, and those things don’t go well with horseback riding. Preferring a partner who is curvy, thicc, fat, whatever you wanna call it is all fine and dandy. But sacrificing your partner’s health and calling it a “kink” is vile

[@jeremyschep3589]

I appreciate your commitment to being empathetic and non toxic as a fitness KZbinr. That's about as common as finding a humble crossfitter

[@shockwavecg]

Bring back kink-shaming. One of the most fun things about a kink is the shameful, secretive, naughty aspect of it. It's fun to be bad!

[@megsley]

underrated comment

[@rebeccajaffee7278]

The way she says “sedentary” drives me crazy.

[@sammich6257]

“sen-den-tin-uh-ree”

[@emilye3313]

I'm in an anorexia recovery program currently and it's super intensive (I've gained 20 lbs in two weeks), a lot of these tips I use but i end up eating like 80% junk food (bakery items, chips, etc.) for pure calories. It seems nice but it actually sucks, im drinking a shake right now and my stomach hurts so much

[@bea2661]

i’m so proud of you for getting on the road to recovery ! best of luck to you xx

[@emilye3313]

@@bea2661 thanks :)

[@itsqueendebae]

You got this! It’s a big step to get on the road to recover but it will be so worth it!!

[@phangirl2484]

this is a mood, weight gain sucks but it's gonna be okay. life is better without your ed. i got back to my body"s ""comfortable weight"" too and i don't love it but i feel better. you're gonna be all right.

[@somethinggood9267]

Do they make u get the junk food or do they have healthier options? Like fruit and maybe some rice with chicken or tofu?

[@violindalola]

I always wanted you to cover this topic!

[@wattthefaqameye1146]

Bro they sound like they're feeding ducks for foie gras this is so bizarre and disturbing. And the fact that the material is so professionally produced is kinda eerie on top of it all, is there a feeder industry?

[@Coricori6363]

This helped me look at my diet. I was doing the sauce and plate thing.

[@spicymayo623]

Same. I guess I better hang up my pimp hat, cuz my pimpin' days are over. 😆

[@j.h.2921]

Well, this was bizarre. Disregarding all the health dangers, what worries me also is basically giving up independence. I love being in charge of my able body and that I can do all I need and want on my own. And ppl getting really, really fat for their partners become dependent on them about normal everyday things, and that is scary af. I remember the last 2 pregnancy months, and how nice (and also annoying) it was for the SO to pull me up from the couch, put on my shoes or fetch stuff for me (and I could still walk up to 4km, do the laundry and such). I'm partying hard now that I can do that all myself again.

[@IzzyandShadow]

Being fat is the worst thing on the planet at 280 I was miserable and in constant pain just from walking I’m now down 150 pounds and I’m happier than I’ve ever been these websites should be band! No one should be encouraged to be obese

[@sebastianmedina4141]

It’s only a fetish if you’re doing it safely and with the consent of your partner, slowly murdering a food addict with food is not a fetish, it’s abuse.

[@beforeverexistential2425]

Exactly. I respect fetishes carried out between two consenting and sane adults that acknowledge the risk and accept it, but taking advantage of a food addict for sexual fantasies is abuse. Truly disgusting.

[@sarahhitchcock3786]

"Gain weight quickly & healthily" Oxymoron? 🙄🤔

[@silverplug]

Not if you're underweight, but that's a good point!

[@WhatIsItToBurn]

I understand getting fat "by accident". You know, the normal way where people don't think about their weight and stop caring and don't realise until it's too late. The usual Freshman 20 or when a new couple get together and both have loads of fun and then, 2 years later, notice they gained 30 lbs. Normal ways people accidentally get fat. The idea of wanting to be obese though, that's beyond me. I notice if slack a little and "enjoy life" and end up gaining 20 lbs, I will think "AH CRAP!" and get my weight down again. I have a weight range that I allow for myself (190-220 lbs, I am 6'2 so that's abs to fluffy), but higher than that and I feel awful. I couldn't imagine wanting to be 300, even 400 lbs. I know a few strongmen/powerlifters who are over 350 lbs. Yes, they are insanely strong (some even have high endurance) but they move like everything they do is an effort. Wanting to be like that is just crazy to me. Knowing that if there was a pill that you could take and be your ideal weight, that some people would choose to be 500+ lbs, it's mental. Just sitting and eating all day. Not being able to see your genitals, or wipe your own butt, or wash between your back rolls... It's honestly a nightmare.

[@TheHeathersponge]

I lost a lot of weight (not by choice) and it hit my self esteem, my family kept telling me I'd lost too much, it was very noticeable and I wanted my old body back, I tried bigger portions and high calorie snacks and was making my self sick and sad trying to gain weight, when I spoke to the doctor they did a bunch of tests and said I am very healthy, at this point I realised my health is more important than what I look like and my problem was in my head, nothing to do with my size.

[@timegirl95]

Always avoid these 3 fetishes: Furries, feeders, and feet.

[@meberimora1246]

after watching these kind of videos, it actually gives me motivation to workout harder and eat healthier.

[@JoannaXodus]

The person in the video: I- John: *pauses video* OMG THATS CRAZY

[@jadew824]

Yayyyy I get so excited every time you upload. I’ve been obsessed with your channel lately ❤️

[@brioche8123]

“ *gain weight quickly* healthfully AND cheaply” Sounds totally realistic and legit. It’s hard to believe that wasn’t satire

[@Gaia_Seraphina]

*lol* Both things are oxymorons in this matter!

[@brioche8123]

@@Gaia_Seraphina exactly lol you can’t do all 3 of those things at once.

[@Helium128]

This was all the motivation I needed to get up and hit the leg workout I had been pushing further and further back in the day. 🦵🏻🦵🏻

[@Angie.grace543]

"It can be surprisingly hard to gain weight" sis, I gained 15lbs in the first month of quarantine without even trying 😅

[@adswan3407]

I was exposed to the feeder community at a young age. I thought I loved someone, and they loved me. They didn't love me, they wanted what they didn't have. They always pushed me to gain weight and eat more and all this other stuff, and I never realized how much it affected me until we stopped talking. I still struggle with food and my thoughts surrounding it. Some fetishes deserve to be shamed. I have lost so much to someone because they took advantage of my weakness. Feederism is not love, it's watching your "creation" die.

[@rodjoh]

Wow I dunno how i survived all of that 💀💀💀

[@shellohween]

Jeezus. This is so upsetting. When I was in my 20’s I went from a bit chubby to a very heavy woman and actually got fatter when I was married to a man who liked me better the plumper I got. He’d bring me donuts, king size snicker bars, fast food. Ugh. There is a french quote I read once saying “never marry a man who wants you to be his pillow” There are so many mental issues going on with chubby chasers and feeders. I finally left him,but my body issues just exacerbated from then on. I was suspicious of every man that was attracted to me after that. Thankfully, I’ve finally got my weight and health under control and am married to a wonderful guy who’s loved me and supported me through my health and fitness journey.

[@beth114]

"I'm not trying to kink shame..." You are too nice. (Not that that's a bad thing AT ALL.) I get that kinks aren't necessarily something you can help. But this kind of rides that line between "oh, it's just a kink" and unhealthy. This video was hard to watch, as I'm trying SO hard to lose weight and NOT look like that. You explained exactly why it was hard for me to watch. It glorifies being overweight, and doesn't talk about the dangers/difficulties of living that kind of lifestyle.

[@jellykelly7994]

Seeing or even hearing about the "feeding" kink gives me such anxiety! As a fat girl myself, losing weight (almost lost 100lbs, starting from close to 300, now down to 200), I would hate to date or be in a relationship with this type of person cause it comes and stems from a power of control. Most "feeders" actually, when interviewed, say they have fantasies about S&M and things similar. The idea of being controlled in that way scares me to no end. Don't get me wrong, I like a dom partner and prefer it but not to that point and to the point where they think, "I can control this person by changing their body shape and crush their self esteem, making them depend on me all the time"

[@laurakissthechef4674]

Hahaha anyone else noticed the two boys literally sitting in Doctor Now's office???

[@luminaire44]

Yep. Really uncool to use pics of fat people desperately trying to change their lives as inspo.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

I’ve seen all the food tips in the first vid before in a positive context as I used to work on a cancer ward. Cancer treatment is very arduous and the pounds drop off also u don’t feel like eating so it’s very difficult if you were lighter to begin with. Our dieticians used to help patients with weigh gain. It did feel like opposite land though as I was alway trying to loose!

[@greyhavens9474]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 i should watch this everyday to know exactly what i shouldn’t be doing... but i am portuguese.. no way i am giving up cheese 🤣🤣

[@staceykersting705]

Just watch those carb portions.

[@pattyrot]

These 2 videos made me really anxious.

[@hannap8052]

Maybe I'm close minded, but to me this is soooo bizarre and sick, it reminds me of anorexia fetishists. I don't think it's a fetish anymore tbh, it's more of a paraphilia.

[@sarahkercheval8964]

Omg. Is nothing sane anymore in this crazy world? 🤨 Ty for posting this. I had noooo idea