My friends died because of me | Life Stories

[@singingblueberry]

She should go to schools and tell her story to as many students as possible. I think a lot of kids could benefit from hearing about this.

[@Burps___]

She doesn’t have to. She tells her story here.

[@singingblueberry]

@@Burps___ Of course she doesn't have to, just saying it could be helpful.

[@lisachucks]

@@singingblueberryehhhh and say what I killed my friends taking drugs ?? She’s to blame .. her actions was disgusting.. and the youth of day it’s the norm .. smoke weed sniff the white stuff.. walking brain dead idiots .. NO SYMPATHY WHAT SO EVER

[@VintageVegans]

It’s not just kids who use drugs.

[@amberr6]

@@VintageVegansbut kids who have seen a profoundly moving interview face to face might be less likely to turn to drugs and make poor life or death decisions in adulthood.

[@lizregan8195]

Unpopular opinion here. Passengers are also responsible for getting into a car with someone driving who they know is under the influence. Obviously this excludes people like children, those with dementia and those forced into a car etc. That doesn't mean to say the driver goes unpunished, but if you are an adult getting into a car willingly with someone under the influence that's the chance you take.

[@gelflingfay]

Agreed

[@d.o.y.vcaninebehaviour.hea1558]

@@lizregan8195 agree

[@pammcdowell8635]

Agreed

[@AA-ed6ek]

Agreed.

[@that1pretty.potprincess779]

a thousand percent yes.

[@SkyeMetcalf-q8r]

She is taking responsibility here. Most people NEVER do that. I hope she knows, it's okay to forgive herself. She has been punished enough. Her friends wouldn't want her to torture herself like this.

[@onthatilemantshane2387]

I love this comment right here🥺❤️

[@honeybadger3570]

I disagree, ending other people's lives bc of intoxication should include zero expiration date of guilt for her, *for the rest of her life **_she needs & should_** feel guilty* That doesn't mean she has to stop living her life but she should never forget and always feel guilt for stealing people's lives bc of her choice to ingest drgs

[@onthatilemantshane2387]

@@honeybadger3570 forgiving herself doesn't mean she's forgetting or pushing aside the fact that the friends died because of her, forgiving herself is her knowing and acknowledging and that what she did was completely wrong.

[@leepuffett9233]

he families might

[@ababy6074]

​@honeybadger3570 oh, she does and will always, for the rest of her life, feel guilty and want to punish herself.

[@socialmoon]

I feel nothing but empathy for all involved. We all do stupid, reckless things, but most of us are lucky enough to walk away.

[@rebeccaj7164]

Exactly!

[@MsZelda2012]

@@socialmoon Come on- she was in her late twenties and she was driving a car. That comes with responsibility. It’s like a nurse going off for a chat and leaving patients unattended and then 3 died. Driving comes with immense responsibility. It was shocking that she even considered it to start with. Use public transport if you want to do drugs or drink or are tired .

[@bdlimea7018]

​@@MsZelda2012Exactly She was close to 30yrs old!

[@qxq-]

We dont all do stupid reckless things. At here age she was incredibly irresponsible; shame on her

[@bdlimea7018]

@@qxq- Agree

[@Oceanlee261]

this is heartbreaking.. I was in a terrible collision at 21.. The driver in the other Vehicle was 16. He died on impact. No alcohol was involved that I was aware of but he was all over the road. It has haunted me my entire life

[@Spectrophia]

Thank God you were OK ❤

[@kezzokav5905]

On his phone maybe?

[@aaaaaaae-aae]

I'm so sorry. What a horrible trauma to live with. I hope that you have found some peace over time. It wasn't your fault, and yet still, what a hard thing to experience at 21.

[@coco_b]

Ok but that was no alcohol/drugs involved. This lady was tripping on X.

[@Spectrophia]

@@coco_b X is a drug.

[@MissJnet]

She fell asleep for a moment and many people have done that even without drugs. Tragic story 😢

[@melistasy]

And you were being reckless too. Let's not normalize falling asleep behind the wheel. It can kill, so pull over if you're falling sleep!

[@Motherhustler]

@@melistasykind of hard to do when there’s no where to pull off quickly.

[@melistasy]

@Motherhustler sounds like excuses to me. Make a conscious decision to find a place to pull over at. I'm not sure what country you're in, but there's usually a shoulder you can pull over at in the USA. But I had to do this one day. I had 30 more minutes to drive to make it to my nephew's graduation, but I couldn't take that chance. Found a gas station to pull over at and took a nap. I was late for the graduation, but everyone was safe.

[@dmgsoultogetherness6667]

she took drugs and ultimately caused the " accident"

[@user5678-h2u]

but this was on drugs

[@deee6666]

This lady doesnt need any more hate. She must be in a world of pain x

[@notreallyafamousartist695]

She voluntarily killed 3 people. I want to hear you say that if one of those three was YOUR family

[@deee6666]

@@notreallyafamousartist695 she's told her story as a warning to others. She knows what she has done more than anyone else. Let's hope you don't make the same mistake

[@MultiY4]

If the accident happened because she dozed off while driving, it's likely unrelated to the ecstacy. People that have not taken any substance doze off and crash all the time

[@serenity8876]

@@notreallyafamousartist695 Exactly and what if she was YOUR FAMILY the one that drove?

[@JohnMooney-g5o]

She doesn't look in pain to me she's smiling at the beginning, she deserves her pain if she is in pain.

[@lindasimons691]

Partied all the time in the 70's constantly. So many times I'd find myself in my driveway not having any recollection of getting there. It's stupid, just the stupidest thing to do.

[@baboonman846]

We'v all been there, Everyone makes mistake

[@joshuawest5967]

Heck yea. I always think of this. I used to black the F out not remembering anything waking up at home.

[@MugatuJag]

Same here, can't believe I survived my late teens early 20's

[@comalab2387]

couldn't agree more. never did it myself obviously.

[@lalalalaaAa123]

This video saved a life today. It’ll probably save another one tomorrow, and another the next day.

[@jayjones2642]

Or just don’t be an idiot in the first place

[@kayleigh7575]

I think everyone who got into the car that night was as reckless as each other. I’m sure if your three friends survived and you passed away, they would feel just as guilty for letting you get into the car and drive under the influence. It’s tragic what happened but it’s not only one person to be blamed. Everyone made their own decisions that night. Having said that, I’m sorry for what you’ve experienced and condolences to the families who lost their loved ones.

[@emyyoung6629]

Very good point about if she would have been the only one to pass away. They would have all blamed themselves for falling asleep and not staying up with her.

[@missymogfossy7504]

​@@emyyoung6629plus the friends who didn't put their seatbelts on could have been flung forward in an accident- killing the driver. I'm sure they would have felt terrible guilt if they had survived.

[@doramisierra4512]

That's my opinion as well

[@zazalunacy2685]

The only person to be blamed is the one driving under the influence

[@kayleigh7575]

@@zazalunacy2685 you’re entitled to your opinion.

[@CrackberryMe]

That guilt is heavy. She learned a tremendous lesson by way of her very poor choices. RIP to the friends 🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@c.c.6930]

Her guilt is heavy but what the other families who lost their children must go through is... I do not have he words.

[@mrsweetscottyd7890]

Is it just her poor choices?

[@TruB1992]

Your friends wouldn’t want you to feel this way. You are clearly very remorseful. Every single human being makes poor decisions at some point in their lives but not all have the repercussions you have. Please be kind to yourself. I think by sharing your story to highschool students you could really make a difference. I wish you peace with a comforting hug ♥️

[@SUPERSPAZD]

Lovely Comment💞

[@reeddior]

Ditto! She needs to be here and keep sharing this experience so others don’t emulate it

[@leepuffett9233]

the families would

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

Their families absolutely want her to suffer but OKAY 🤡

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

She doesn't deserve comfort and the families agree

[@jupitersworld244]

She said “ I wanted to go to jail “ she didn’t even think twice about taking responsibility for her actions! I hope that she finds healing

[@lulumoon6942]

How many of us are miraculously alive despite the follies of youth... Forgiveness & Comfort to you & peace to their families. 🙏🕊️

[@peacefrog9306]

well said

[@IsabelSantosCunha1972]

In a split second ANY one of us can make a decision with life long consequences. Consequences that will change and destroy many lives, including our own. I hope you, Teresa, can move on from the past, from the unbearable pain you must be feeling, and forgive yourself. Sending love. xx

[@melistasy]

Move on from the past? I hope she doesn't! Her guilt and pain is part of the consequences for her actions.

[@melanieraynham5731]

You made a tragic mistake, and have paid for this a million times over😢. You are a Human Being, and we all mess up...we are here to learn and move on, as you must do now. Forgive yourself..and make the most of your time on 🌍 to help others going through similar trauma.Sending much love from the UK.x

[@Trent-s4v]

@@melistasy I bet you're one of those good ole murikkkan kkkrhistians lol. Only forgiveness and love when its you or your family that does something bad, bc "were all sinners". But straight to hell for gays and people who have abortions.

[@foreverpainful]

Except that isnt a split second decision. You have to want the drugs, acquire the drugs, get behind the wheel, start the car, and leave your destination. There is so much time that you could change your mind.

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

Insane. Do you think the families get to move on? She deserves the worst and she did this at ,27yo wilfully. It's not a split second decision or a reckless one it's wilful lol. She just happens to not enjoy the consequences. Guess what I'm 27. I know driving on E is bad. She's an annihilator

[@lilithowl]

Poor thing. She shows a lot of courage. RIP to her friends.

[@ashy107]

For those who have narrowly escaped these situations will never appreciate how lucky we are. Bless those who haven’t 🙏

[@babyloobibovski2947]

Thank you for sharing this story. I was responsible for a canoeing accident that killed my best friend. We were also 27 and on an adventure. His family wanted and still wants to keep in touch but it was and still is too difficult for me and so I’ve lost touch. On the one hand, this has added to my guilt, but on the other hand, has helped me move on from the tragedy. It absolutely kills me to see the pain in his mother’s eyes and to hear about how much she misses him.

[@HeatherBoo916]

I'm so sorry 😢

[@MISNM0]

🫂🫂🫂

[@stabletocity3976]

My heart hurts for you♥️

[@ashy107]

Reconnect with them when you’re ready. It might be healing for them too

[@happyandblessed5640]

I don't take drugs but after having my child, I took St John's Wort to help with postnatal depression. I never knew it would effect my driving, but I knocked a lady off her bike. Thankfully she was okay, and I vowed I would never get back into the car until I'd stopped taking the medicine. Tiredness can effect driving just as much and I would pull over to safe place, wind the window down and have a sleep before continuing on my journey. Grief can also effect driving or hearing bad news and having to drive to the hospital. So many things can effect driving it's a wonder the roads are safe at all. Stay safe!

[@toxictottie]

@@happyandblessed5640 I think you made some really good points, often people drive when really they shouldn’t, during grief or tragic events for example, martial affairs etc. I think many people won’t admit it but probably shouldn’t especially if they have taken a strong sleeping pill the night before, even those who don’t and are insomniacs surviving on little sleep. Thank you for mentioning the St John’s Wort, it’s good to discuss these things as I would never have thought of that one impacting as greatly as you mentioned and I know many people who have taken it and still do for low mood.

[@happyandblessed5640]

@@toxictottie Thank you for your reply. 🙂

[@Rebecca.xoxoxo]

That’s the thing, roads aren’t safe at all…..

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

That's different to wilfully taking a class A drug and driving though.

[@happyandblessed5640]

@Shannon-vv6rr Yep, I know. Thanks for your insight, the world is a better place.

[@VintageVegans]

Drug and alcohol users always say they felt OK to drive. The thing about using drugs and alcohol is that you’re not capable of making that assessment - that’s why you never do it! Use your brains people!!!!

[@CT-vm4gf]

How do you use a brain that’s impaired.

[@sophiewhyman9296]

Exactly, the thing impairing them from driving is also impairing their decision making!

[@andrewslagle1974]

not so its just a bad decision!

[@e1venkind946]

The problem is the substances not the people, as they impair your ability to make decisions. That's part of why we do them. Not absolving the countless tragic events of course.

[@VintageVegans]

@ you make the decision to take the drug. 👁️👁️

[@sariesturgeon4214]

You are very brave for sharing this tragic life event.

[@Goombasareawesome]

My cousin was killed in an accident caused by another driver who decided to drive while drunk. It’s a really selfish act to drive impaired.

[@dmgsoultogetherness6667]

well said

[@b.691]

People usually think about how well they can manage while impaired before thinking about how helpless others are to our decisions. It's best to simply hand over the keys and quit making stupid gambles...especially when they involve other people. My mom used to drive drunk while my sister and I were in the car. To this day she disgusts me.

[@Law1sfab]

I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s just beyond heartbreaking. 😢 It’s awful. I can’t get over these comments, my mum is a hit and run survivor. If it was their families, I don’t think they would see it that way. She clearly made a choice, there’s more sympathy for her in these comments then the those who died. 💔

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

Agreed. If she's snivelling imagine how the families feel. She's a selfish piece of work and nothing more.

[@wolfzmusic9706]

​@b.691 Doesn't it depend on circumstances? My mum drunk drove once (she used to be an alcoholic) but I don't demonify her for it etc because she was struggling and couldn't think clearly in general. She had to pick me up from school, no one else could, which is why she drunk drove. Not saying it's ok, but at least with my mum because she used to be an alcoholic etc I'm not so harsh with her.

[@FluffyKittenofMordor]

Eighteen years later and her reaction is as if it had just happened as she recounts this harrowing tale. That's a burden that would break most people. Three lives were lost. She could've easily ended her own life too. The weight is heavy. But she's carried on till 45. Hope she finds people that will carry that weight with her.

[@englishrose11]

Ahhhhh poor thing ! NOT !

[@SaraSquared88]

Maybe there was no bad intent but the carelessness in getting in that car while high was astounding, which is why she feels so much guilt. Let this be a lesson to us all to be careful with our decisions.

[@karasea1021]

Recklessness.

[@toxictottie]

You never ever think it’s going to happen to you, that’s the thing. It seems as though she was trying to be careful given she had driven before on ecstasy and been fine. It is such a tragic shame it happened so quickly and she couldn’t pull over in time but it only takes minutes to fall asleep, the poor love. I had a similar situation on the way to a festival, my Friend who hadn’t been drinking or taking any drugs but was driving a bit too fast admittedly as we were running late and he wanted to arrive early and get set up, sadly lost control of the car. The car was a right off but we were very fortunate and all made it out alive and well the guy in the back didn’t have his seat belt on but we had so much stuff in the car he even stayed put, I remember his glasses went flying out the window and he managed to find them on the grass and put them back on, they weren’t even broken! It really is luck of the draw in situations like that at times, the Fire-Brigade thought my Friend had fallen asleep at the wheel because of how badly the car was damaged. I was the passenger in the front seat next to him and it was the most scariest thing I’ve ever witnessed, a truck came up alongside us and I will forever remember the noise of the wheels jamming into us and my window smashing in and my screaming! We were extremely fortunate in a very unfortunate situation. This poor, poor lady my heart goes out to her, what a brave soul for telling her story. The immense amount of guilt and grief she must have felt is hard to comprehend but she has to remember that no one forced her Friend’s to get into her car, they wouldn’t want her feeling sadness and sorrow all of her life but I understand she wished and prayed she had been taken with them as we all would have done had we shared the same fate as she had on that night! ❤️‍🩹

[@thepluggedinmama]

Very sad situation no intent but this is a lesson to all. I tell my son never get in a car with someone who has been drinking or taking drugs. I hope she finds peace within herself

[@Lionforaday]

Clearly she was impaired - but on what basis? Was she guilty of "being high" or "being tired?" Especially as she recalls briefly drifting-off? Bc the truth is that *both* factors contribute to countless accidents each day. And more worrisome? We know far less about either impairment - being tired or being high - then we probably should. Here in Canada, for eg. marijuana was legalized with few (if any) studies conducted to determine exactly *how* it impairs drivers, or for how long. Consequently, thousands of folks use marijuana - and/or other drugs - and then drive, without either "rough rules-of-thumb," such as "one drink over an hour's probably fine," or an objective measure such as a "blood-alcohol level," that both drivers & police can use to guage impairment. This must be the case with other drugs, too. Are you "fit to drive" on New Year's Day - even if your blood-alcohol level's returned to normal? Are you a "safe driver" in the mornings, if you take a sedating "little blue pill" each night to help you sleep? Maybe; maybe not. This woman used ecstasy the night before - and stayed-up all night. The next day, was she still impaired by the drug, by lack-of-sleep, or by both? We'll never really know. America's National Sleep Foundation estimates that some 20% of people suffer from sleep apnea - a condition which causes profound daytime fatigue. It often causes sufferers to "nod-off" unawares, and leads to untold #'s of traffic fatalities. And tragically? 85% of sleep apnea sufferers don't even know they have it. Right now? I have 3 patients who are new mothers, and they're profoundly - maybe pathologically - sleep-deprived. Are they too impaired to drive? The law says no, but you tell me. I get the judgment. We *need* to believe that we're very different from this woman - bc the alternative is terrifying. Who among us hasn't checked a msg on our phone - even briefly, once, and on an empty road? Who hasn't reached for something in the backseat, or glanced away to change the radio? Who can honestly say they've never driven exhausted or angry or upset, or after having "just one drink," knowing only that we're "probably fine," bc we'd be below the legal limit? The uncomfortable truth is, this woman made a pretty small, pretty human mistake. It was the consequences that were catastrophic. This *could* have happened to any of us - or if not this? Something just like it. And that terrifies us. That's why we need to blame her, to "other" her, and to distance ourselves from the frightening possibility that we could end-up just like her. No one spends too much time thinking about the bad luck part of things. Maybe that's the part that scares us most.

[@kaytinsabiastro8829]

@@karasea1021and she’s still paying for it.

[@lulucolby8882]

This message will save lives. You are doing your friends proud, Teresa Clark. What a horrible accident.

[@holliejane3605]

She’s not a bad person, she made a terrible mistake but that does not mean she’s a bad person and I hope people understand that. I hope she manages to forgive herself one day.

[@comalab2387]

gross negligence is indistinguishable from evil.

[@holliejane3605]

@ your opinion. Doesn’t make it right.

[@Bmhh24781]

​@@holliejane3605doesn't mean you're opinion is right either then.

[@d.o.y.vcaninebehaviour.hea1558]

I fell asleep for a second. Driving home from a festival 20 years ago. I was alone. Pulled over and spent the night sleeping in my car, on the side of the road. Frightened myself. I could have killed myself, and god knows who else. Massive wake-up call. This could have easily have been me. Forgive yourself. You all made irresponsible choices that night. Could easily have been any of you driving one another in that condition . You were also kids. We all make mistakes. Some bigger than others. I’m so sorry this happened to you. You deserve peace. Sending love. ❤❤❤❤

[@donnajohnson8035]

She was 27; very far from being ‘a kid’!!

[@Christophertracy09]

@@donnajohnson8035I can’t believe she’s only 45 currently. She looks easily 55!

[@crownsbritain933]

At 27, you’re 3 years off 30 - that isn’t a “kid”: open your fucking eyes.

[@betsylaughlin8652]

Absolutely correc. Anyone who I not naive knows it’s not til it’s over, and if you’re still breathing, you are ALWAYS capable of making a mistake that can KILL an innocent bystander. It’s doesn’t need to be in a car, there are LOTS of mistakes you can make that will result in the death of another person. I’m amazed comments stating otherwise have a single upvote, let alone dozens…Stay humble, you aren’t infallible unless you are God Almighty

[@kikilu79]

27 year olds are not kids. She was pushing 30

[@francesbale1409]

This gave me goosebumps. I think back to being young and know i made some really really stupid decisions including getting in the car when my friends had taken drugs. And you do think it wont happen to you. I am so lucky that it didnt.

[@bombyboo6335]

Your comment could’ve been written by me. To think of all the times I drove reckless boggles my mind. This jarred my memory..

[@ADJW212]

she was 27…. That’s a full grown adult… mind you, I’m 25 saying this. They all knew better.

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

She was 27. I am 28 and know it's bad to drive on E. 🙄

[@equus3333]

You must forgive YOURSELF. Sending love and prayers, hugs

[@nevaeh8255]

idgaf

[@SUPERSPAZD]

@@nevaeh8255 1. You MUST 'gaf', since you cared enough to comment. 😉 2. Google Translate is TOO IRONIC here.😂

[@nevaeh8255]

@@SUPERSPAZD bro ur literally brainrotted urself into thinking i care , i can type 4 letters that took 4 seconds n not gaf old head .

[@nevaeh8255]

@@SUPERSPAZD bro did ur old head a** get my comment deleted? anyway

[@nevaeh8255]

@@SUPERSPAZD Like I said, u been on the internet too much u think something i type that took less than 5 seconds means i still gaf, try again old head

[@rozchristopherson648]

She said she had used ecstasy before and driven and nothing happened. But there’s a a first time for everything. Don’t take risks with your life. I’m 63. Young people, stop and think about what it will take to be get to be my age and older. Make decisions based on wanting to live a long and healthy life.

[@jessicapaton5553]

Too many people make this same choice to drive under the influence and think that something like this would never happen to them. Thank u for spreading awareness. I feel like the trauma and guilt u are left with is punishment enough and I hope u continue to try to make a difference now.

[@skinfinesse]

You didn’t have to do this. You are brave to open yourself up to so much criticism. I admire your courage. I hope you find peace and acceptance. By talking about this you could save a life. Thank you

[@melstevenson2994]

It sounds like even without any substance use, if it was late she could have nodded off anyway. I’ve never taken drugs but the number of times many years ago I’ve had to drive long distances while tired, trying all the tricks - window down, music full blast, drink coffee, stop for quick breaks but still felt soooooo goddam tired, I’m often surprised I’m still alive. I agree with one of the earlier replies about doing talks in schools. Obviously don’t do drugs or drink and drive, but also don’t drive any reasonable distance when tired. If you start to feel your eyelids go, it’s time to pull over. Very valuable lesson and I’m literally about to go and talk to my kid about this. I lived in France during a time when drinking and driving was considered perfectly normal. I was the driver and the beer at the party was very strong. The 2 dudes in the back were snoring away oblivious to how pissed I was but the dude in my passenger seat saw, and he stayed awake, talked to me to keep me awake, and pretty much watched me like a hawk for the entire drive back. I dread to think what would have happened if he hadn’t done that.

[@simonemachacek4788]

I agree. It honestly seems to me it was more tiredness in this case than drug influence. Typically after 4 hours those types of drugs have started to wear off. Sounds like her friends were acknowledging that she could get sleepy as they promised they would stay awake with her. They were also responsible adults who decided to do what they did. What a horrible nightmare. This lady does not need anyone lecturing her on what she could have done better. I’m sure she has been over all those scenarios a million times. I pray freedom for her.

[@dijellicoe3185]

Ecstasy causes tiredness on the come down. Driving tired is also an offence. Not judging just more context. It’s an awful thing to live with. Horrendous for the families of the people who died. They also made a choice of course. It’s a risk to get in a vehicle even when not impaired. I think we are complacent about cars, I see so many people in their own world oblivious to a lot that is going on around them. In a bubble they think is safe. Modern cars even more so because speed doesn’t feel like much and the comfort, music, it’s like being in your living room not operating a speeding heavy machine that is as deadly as a weapon. Accidents can happen when not under the influence, split second of inattentiveness or other factors beyond the drivers control, but I do believe the ecstasy was a major factor here.

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

🙄 I'm sure being on E didn't help. Silly comment.

[@steffra4756]

The worst sentence is the sense of guilt for the entire life

[@RachelLondon]

I felt this deeply. Sad situation all round.

[@Naturegurl124]

Yes I agree. Her remorse is so enormous it is palpable

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

​​@@Naturegurl124too bad remorse does nothing, and not being a selfish piece of crap on E that drives was the preferable outcome. How you're all simping for such a person when their families grieve and have to live with it is beyond me. She's the reason their kids were impaled and slowly died

[@sophiatracey3]

she seems like such a sweet, genuine soul… i hope she finds peace

[@SEANPOL203]

What a tragedy, she is truly remorseful for what happened and this should be a lesson to everyone about driving under influence of anything or even driving while tired . RIP ✝️ to her friends who lost their lives

[@echo2893]

And a reminder to everyone not to ride in a vehicle with an impaired driver.

[@aydihd]

It's so refreshing to see so many supportive comments here. It's so true that we are all more than capable of making poor decisions that have drastic consequences, especially when in the presence of our peers. It's clear Theresa is consumed with guilt and knows she will be haunted by this mistake for the rest of your life. I hope she can heal from this

[@meli3789]

Wow…..what a BEAUTIFUL woman !!!! Rip to her friends 😢🪽🪽🪽🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@LouisCasas]

People often state that nobody can make them feel or punish them any worse than they already have been. This lady is living proof.

[@GREENMAYNE]

Wow. I had a similar experience with my friend driving home from a Toronto rave at 8am speeding 70-80MPH down the Sunday morning QEW- which was packed - there were 5 of us snoozing- I opened my eyes for “no reason” to surveye the scene out of nowhere and saw our driver was in the last stages of accelerating into the back of a 18wheeler in the left lane - I saw him nodded off- I yelled his name at the last second and he woke up, jerked the wheel in a correction maneuver that could have been worse but somehow, he pulled it off. We had traffic packed around us on a 6 lane highway- all going 70-80. Im sure others saw what was happening when he drifted lanes. It would have been just awful- a busy morning holiday in Canada. Sorry for your experience- keep sharing your story, you brought me back to the time when I almost left this mortal coil. For years, I had a hard time driving with people, I’d have fear in the passenger seat if they did anything fast and get pissed!. I might still have that tick.

[@Kristin2885]

When I was her age I was involved in a similar party scene. I'm so grateful that me and my friends all lived downtown so we were able to cab everywhere after EDMs and clubs and not think about it. I knew MANY people that would drive though, after finishing their night/morning at the after hours. Even if you don't feel overtly high any more, all your sense are still off for some time and the intense fatigue can set in out of nowhere. It's an absolute tragedy and series of terrible mistakes but I feel for her and respect how deeply it has affected her and her resolve for atonement and carrying this loss with her.

[@scarlettvschultz]

I have absolute empathy for this lady. You really can feel her pain and sorrow. In my younger years i travelled in a car after a festival and the driver was showing off and going so fast driving like a maniac, it completely scared me and I made the decision to never travel in the car with anyone on a substance again, whereas this lady did what many do and still do and didn’t mean hurt anyone. It’s tragic all round.

[@Solomay55]

Ah bless you , what a terrible tragedy for all of you, so easily done , so sad for you , so brave to share your story . We all did this years ago and thought nothing of driving home after festivals or nights out and thinking we were all invincible. Don’t blame yourself , my heart really goes out to you ❤🙏🩵

[@AHigherPerspective-w6i]

Thank you so much for your honesty. I feel a huge amount of compassion for you and all that you have been carrying through your life! It’s courageous of you to share this! You’re a good person. ❤️

[@mpat100]

Blessings and healing for Teresa and blessing for her friends souls who died in the accident also.

[@melindamorrow6102]

Your beautiful soul is hurting far beyond what your beautiful passed on friend's will ever want you to feel!! Your compassion and empathy and heartache is evident! Your friend's are wishing you healing from the other side . . . . God bless your courageous heart!! Sending love and healing your way! ❤💓💗🙏

[@mariGentle]

I once nursed a young girl on neurosurgical. She was 17, she had passed her driving test and the next day went out with her girlfriends, she lost control and all the friends were killed. She never spoke after that ❤❤❤

[@ben_pettit_4264]

It’s a miracle she survived! She is still here for good reason.

[@AllegedlyMaybe]

Such a powerful story.... thank you for holding yourself accountable it speaks volumes and may make people think twice about taking the risk! Thank you for sharing something so personal knowing there may be backlash.... incredibly brave!

[@darranweston9425]

Heartbreaking to listen to but think she's done everything she can to pay for what happened. It must be the hardest thing to face knowing you killed your friends in a moment of carelessness. I think she's very brave for going public and showing that she feels the guilt and pain. We all do stupid things, hopefully nobody gets harmed but as in this case, sadly they did.

[@hscha2085]

People believe one mistake or failure makes them immanently bad or evil. We have all hurt, lied, and failed others. I can tell she has true remorse and guilt and would change it all if she could. Many can’t tell their stories because of shame.

[@petegurdal1844]

As a driver, this is a great story to deter people from driving on drugs.

[@thatswhatsup0493]

I feel so bad for her. It wasn't the exctasy that caused the crash. She was just super exhausted. She didn't get enough sleep the night before the festival, which she should have being a DD, it was a 4 hour drive. On the way home, she was tired, she was going to make another last stop when they were half an hour from home, but she never made the exit. In a single second, she dozed off, and it forever changed her life, and the lives of so many others. What a story

[@Edxn_]

She was most likely tired from the ecstasy

[@thatswhatsup0493]

@Edxn_ if you click the link in the description there's an article. She was working all day and night the day before the concert. And also had barely any sleep before making the 4 hour drive to the venue. The ecstasy sure didn't help, but I don't think that was the main reason.

[@timt398]

Yep I completely agree with you. The ecstasy element makes a good headline but in reality its effects had finished; this is pure exhaustion from all the other factors you mention, which made her fall asleep at the wheel. Poor lady and poor friends who lost their lives.

[@Edxn_]

@@timt398 but it can also make you feel extremely tired once its effects are wearing off

[@thatswhatsup0493]

@@Edxn_ can you read? Yes ecstasy may make you tired but what I'm saying is this could have easily happened if she didn't take a bit of ecstasy either. Read the article. She didn't have a large dose and had it hours before she drove home

[@keriXianne]

A group of my friends and co-workers were coming back from Las Vegas to LA, my friend fall asleep at the wheel and in a panic over corrected the steering wheel and the suv flipped. One of my friend in the back seat, wasn’t wearing a seat belt was ejected and died hours later. It was completely heartbreaking but no one blame our friend that was driving. My friends were enjoying last Vegas and a huge work conference and my friend that was driving, stayed up late to study for finals. It was just a busy weekend. Everyone’s life was forever altered that moment.

[@jeannelederman8992]

Don’t forget that your friends decided to get in the car, knowing you were under the influence. Your story is powerful!! 💕

[@leemzx9730]

Such a tragedy,but your decision to share this story has probably saved more people than you know. Thank you for sharing and I hope you find peace

[@shewins3775]

This is what accountability looks like.

[@robw2486]

The details of this was just horrific and awful all around, but I am glad this story was told. She did something really stupid and dumb, which had tragic consequences, but she sounds very remorseful. She cannot undo what she has done, but I hope she moves on, and has a good life.

[@JOHNTHEWHISK]

She doesn't deserve a good life, sorry

[@melistasy]

Moves on? No, she sould not move on from the trauma she has caused herself and others. You think the victim's family have moved on??

[@robw2486]

@@melistasy It's a tragedy and awful all around, especially for the victims. I am sure she will feel shame and guilt for the rest of her life, but she cannot undo what is done. Also, the victims knew she was on E, and went along in the car knowing this information. Of course they did not know what would happen or are to blame, but it is just a tragedy all around.

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

​@@robw2486that's called victim blaming. Why don't we stick to the selfish pos that impaled her friends on E

[@donnapierson5687]

@@melistasythey also got in the car knowing she was high and didn’t put their belts on. They are adults and also responsible very tragic all round

[@brandyyolidio4213]

I want to say thank you SOO much for sharing your story with us, I know it cannot be easy, it takes massive courage and inner strength. I want to also say thank you for helping save my life. I found the Samaritans several years ago when I was at a very dangerous depressed state, and suicidal. The Samaritans helped me SOOO much, I will forever be greatful. Thank you for being a part of such a wonderful helpful group. No matter out back story, what we continue to do is what matters. Much love to you always ❤❤❤

[@Nicna86]

She’s so brave telling her story. I do think that we can learn from the passengers who made a poor choice when deciding not to use the seatbelts. Lots of people everyday make that choice and this is an example of why you should wear your seatbelts.

[@Sailors30]

What an amazingly brave person you are to share your story so vulnerably and honestly. I wouldn't wish the pain and guilt of this on my worst enemy.

[@elizabethseals2001]

It was brave of her to tell this story. People always want to blame someone without thinking about what that person goes through. My cousin (more like a sister) pulled out in front of a loaded dump truck. It messed him up emotionally.

[@aaron.debattista]

A complex tapestry of pain, loss and despair. I'm so sorry for everyone involved in this.

[@Rebecca236]

She should go into schools. She could really help people. Feel so much for her... 💓

[@SoNiels]

The bravery of this lady to come on here and share her life story. I hold the deepest respect for you ❤

[@angelahimmelreich7104]

This woman is not a bad person

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

She's terrible. The families agree. She's the reason their kids were IMPALED 👍

[@aw7165]

@@Shannon-vv6rr I pity your level of consciousness and your listening skills. When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

[@JayHomes-h7c]

@@Shannon-vv6rrit’s ok and I’m sorry you’re hurt - I hope you heal ❤

[@donnapierson5687]

@@Shannon-vv6rrThey are also responsible they got in the car knowing she was high and didn’t wear seatbelts they are adults also. It is a terrible tragedy all round

[@nancyabottari7107]

I am so sorry for your journey. I pray that you will find it in yourself to ask God to take this burden of guilt from you. If you ask, he will take it from you and give you peace. You survived for a reason. Many blessings and peace for your days ahead.

[@ajourneytoessence2166]

This could have been me. My friend who was older than me wanted to sneak away from a high school basketball game to go visit her grown bf. We both had been drinking and got in the car. On the way there she wasn’t paying attention and slammed into the back of a parked car. I remember my head hitting the windshield so hard it cracked her windshield. I went unconscious for a minute but woke back up. She didn’t even call an ambulance for me because she didn’t want to get into trouble. She literally had the car towed back to the high school and told our parents the accident happened leaving the basketball game. The chances you take as a teen, and young adult , can very easily be your last.

[@terihudson9650]

Sending you love Terresa. This is heartbreaking. Your friends were complicit in the mistake & they would want your heart to be at peace. Wishing you healing Xx

[@TheRainbowGal]

I fell asleep at the wheel on the way home from a festival in 2019. No one was injured. We were extremely lucky, considering it happened on the highway. I thank God I am alive.

[@TiaaBankss]

Her accent is very soothing .. RIP to your friends you have a purpose that’s why your still here ❤

[@kayt7059]

That's such a hard thing to live with. I applaud you for trying to do something positive in remembrance of them. I pray for your healing. It will take time, it may never happen, but I pray that you learn to forgive yourself.

[@MiaKay22]

There are a lot of comments passing judgment on her story. Yes, clearly she made a very poor choice, but she is also clearly still carrying immense guilt and shame years later and seems to feel as responsible as she did the day it happened. What vulnerability it is to share her story in this way. Working in the substance use/mental health field, I have heard many stories similar to Teresa’s. If I have learned anything, her experience could be any of us. We are capable of anything through our decisions and choices if we are not careful. I do hope she continues to share her story to help educate and prevent youth and others to be mindful of what can occur through substance use. God bless you, Teresa.

[@bv3bv334]

" her experience could be any of us"...utter nonsense. I would NEVER drive under the influence of anything. Nor would I get in a car if I had even the slightest suspicion the driver was on drugs or drink.

[@viviennepastor3188]

I have never use cigarettes, drugs or alcohol. This is a conscious choice. I made this decision as a child. I come from a family of alcoholics and I saw what it did to them and us. This is not an accident. My sympathies lie with the families of those who died.

[@bv3bv334]

Who cares what she is feeling...she deserves every bit of guilt, shame etc. What matters is the deceased. Do you think the deceased would feel pity for her? She was responsible for their safety. Her actions were the only reason they died.

[@emiilyjaane7]

​@@bv3bv334 You are a very miserable person. Who th are you to pass judgement on her ?! I can guarantee you, you are far from a perfect person. Get a new life because clearly you need some changes in your current. SHAME on YOU.

[@Lisa-ht7jk]

I agree, so many people think that they are without flaws. Mini God's casting judgement on others.

[@bloodmoonvampire6632]

I am so sorry for your losses and I can't even begin to imagine the emotional pain, guilt, and depression you felt because of this. It really surprised me that because of this trauma, you never want to drive again. It would be hard to get around if you don't have a spouse or relatives who can take you places. (I don't know what the fare is for Uber there, but here in the US it's expensive.) Anyway I hope you found peace and have healed from this tragic situation. You have suffered more than anyone deserves to suffer. Your friends wouldn't want you to torture yourself or hate yourself because of this. If they knew you as well as they appeared to based on what was said, it means they know who you truly are as a person. They know it was an accident and you didn't mean for any of this to happen. Hugs. Stay strong and thank you for being brave enough to share your story.

[@robingardella6240]

So, so sorry. You are brave to do this. I really think you must be alive for a reason. Pay it back as you can ❤

[@psI6]

I can't be upset with her. I've gotten behind the wheel several times in my 20s when I had NO BUSINESS doing so. Granted, I was driving solo, but could've still ended horribly. Now, we have so many ride sharing options available to us, there's absolutely NO REASON to drive under the inf.

[@uniqueone2731]

Singingblueberry made a great comment saying speaking at schools would be a great opportunity for kids to benefit from her story. I couldn’t agree more. If you can make something anything good come from a tragedy like this you should. If just one kid hears this and it makes an impact on them and helps them make a better decision it would be so worth it. I pray for the families that lost their loved ones and I pray for this lady telling her painful story. I wish for her to find peace and forgiveness for her self

[@Shannon-vv6rr]

With peace and love at my school we learnt from firefighters, first responders, victims etc. we wouldn't have wanted an ender on E there. Probably would've boo'd her out. We listened to poor victims and workers who have to deal with victims, we all knew "Driving on E is bad". She adds nothing. She was 27 when she chose to do this. There's no lesson.

[@aw7165]

@@Shannon-vv6rrwhat a very self righteous person you are with clearly a lot of judgement and hate in your heart. I pray for your salvation.

[@Theindigolauren]

11:59 This! Young adult’s always think “This wont happen to me” until it does. Such a tragic story but I’m glad you survived and can share your story with others❤❤

[@guillaume-laurentvangu2763]

Thank you for sharing your story, you're really strong and I'm sure your friends would be so proud!

[@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin]

What a beautiful woman, truly. She seems kind, honest, humble and strong.❤

[@Tarynlinne]

I pray that as she continues to heal that the guilt of this heartbreaking accident passes. My heart breaks for everyone involved

[@humanbeing2420]

Once when I was in my 20's I went jet skiing after smoking pot and I crashed into my friend. Luckily he saw me coming and jumped off his jet ski just before the impact. My jet ski just barely swiped his back and gave him a mild bruise. It destroyed the other ski. I went flying and hit the water pretty hard but was not injured (although it knocked my contact lenses out of my eyes and I could barely see). I knew it could have been a tragic outcome and that we got lucky. It gave me an appreciation for the damage a heavy machine can do and it made me a much more careful road driver than I was before.

[@sheilallarenas3829]

In 2022 in our town 4 young adults were drinking at a party when they left the party the female driver started racing someone she saw at a stop light she lost control crashed into a pole the car split her 3 passengers had died on impact she walked away with a broken wrist. She is currently serving 5 yrs. It’s very tragic I feel for the families and the lives lost. She is remorseful at her court hearing she was a wreck she apologized for her bad choice she wished it would have been her instead of her three friends. Sad all the way around she will get out when she’s in her late 20’s I hope she can make a powerful impact with her Life she can be a public speaker in schools about drinking, racing & distracted driving.

[@orangestoneface]

should visit parties talk to that crowd too in daytime

[@Wife_Mother_Failure]

Five years for killing 3? Wow

[@BigBubbaTakeYoAzz]

US prisons ruin people.

[@39geoffro]

If that was in the states, she’d still be in prison now. Poor woman, such a powerful message

[@queenep]

Sending prayers of love, healing, and comfort ❤❤

[@bluetickbeagles116]

You may save countless lives through telling your story. Thank you for sharing.

[@Blisscent]

In high school they showed us this horrific video of five friends in a car and one guy in the back wasn’t wearing a seatbelt, everyone else was, and they had an accident where the car was rolling and the one dude ended up killing the four others by being thrown around in the car and ricocheting off them and he was the only one that survived and it upset me so much that I couldn’t handle being behind the wheel of a car so 20 years later I still don’t have my license and don’t drive. I never wanted to be responsible for someone’s life like that. Seatbelts every time and no substance, guys.

[@rita4417]

That was tragic. Ideally no one should die. But everyday, unfortunately, people make some poor decisions and only luck or destiny can justify the outcome. In this respect, as many commented before me, the passengers were as much responsible as her. I hope she realises that she needs to embrace her second chance and spread the word to keep others from driving under the influence. This is the best memorial service for her friends too. Remembering them and mentioning them while trying to save others.

[@potatolover5436]

Poor woman. Can't imagine what that level of guilt does do a person

[@buffys3477]

Hard to listen to. Especially as she was 27, I was expecting teens or twenties. I’m not surprised the deceased parents are no longer in contact, doesn’t matter how remorseful she is they still have to live without their children. No winners here.

[@ricklubbers1526]

No matter the trauma, its a choice to stay bitter.

[@drewferd2720]

I hope young people see this video. It can happen to anyone at any split second. Be safe always. Life is too precious. Tomorrow is never promised.

[@teresafraser3049]

Self forgiveness is the ONLY answer to removing yourself from imprisonment ❤ Everyone makes mistakes which is the human experience ✨️ Did you ever think that you and your friends were all in agreement in your prebirth planning that you all participated in this so that you would be able to help educate others to never get behind the wheel whilst being intoxicated??? This is a very powerful message to all others that WILL save lives.

[@Taurusboy07]

My heart goes out to her. I can sense this is very genuine and so hard for her.

[@Sarah-ty5ev]

I can feel her pain so deeply through this video. I hope she can forgive herself. I think her sharing her story can save lives!

[@saraf7254]

Sometimes we don’t make good choices when we’re younger, I made a lot of bad ones! I’m older & wiser now ❤

[@livingliberte2116]

Oh my love 🧡 I’m so sorry. I hope you have continue to find some sense of peace. XX

[@AnitaLife27]

Every time I say “don’t do drugs” I get told I’m wrong and boring. Unfortunately her harrowing experience and now life long consequences won’t get people off drugs. Makes me so angry!!!!

[@tcfutures]

I was raving around this time period, late nineties/early aughts. Driven plenty of times rolling balls. By the grace of God I’m still here. Prayers to this woman - we all make dumb decisions as kids.

[@suburbantrapqueen]

Except she wasn’t a kid. She was 27. ☹️

[@thiefonthecross7552]

@@suburbantrapqueen It doesn't matter

[@suburbantrapqueen]

@@thiefonthecross7552 making a mistake as a teenager versus making a mistake as an adult…definitely matters. Especially, if there are legal consequences. Can’t blame it on being “young & dumb”

[@thiefonthecross7552]

@@suburbantrapqueen You're splitting hairs and a youtube comment section isn't a courtroom. People make terrible decisions at all ages.

[@ADJW212]

@@thiefonthecross7552no way? She was a full grown adult nearly 30 years old. No excuses. Yes we all make dumb decisions. But this isn’t a simple “dumb decision”. She killed 3 people. And they all should have known better. I hope this woman finds healing but please don’t act like it’s just a “dumb silly mistake.” That’s ignorant and horrible to the families who lost their loved ones.

[@catw9493]

Telling your story publicly shows your commitment to try and live your life for friends that died. I pray that your story has a wide reaching impact on people, and that you find peace and happiness in life 🙏