Family Begs Me to Keep Being the "Good Child" and Mediate but After Years of...

Family Begs Me to Keep Being the "Good Child" and Mediate but After Years of Trauma I've Hit My Limit.
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0:00 - Story 1
12:50 - Story 2

[@Carnibee]

“Now onto the next story” has never upset me so much

[@YRAT-mr8jq]

Same... Why did OP post if there was no resolution or she says no to everything like...

[@mazk5976]

I know!!

[@Forget-me-not25]

​@@YRAT-mr8jq Maybe she thought Reddit was another way for her to vent and she did that, she was probably not looking for solutions

[@siddharthchauhan749]

Yup its an AITA POST ​@@Forget-me-not25.

[@TheVercci]

@@YRAT-mr8jq Because the last update was 10 days ago and the first post was 2 months ago. This isn't a finished story.

[@ShogunRyuusha]

"I'll call CPS!" "Oh, they'll take you away from us? Finally! Please do!"

[@butterflywings188]

Exactly!!! They would get a fine, but the wealthy dad who gives her a $1000/month allowance can afford paying it 😉

[@cris4ever70]

It’s insane. OP in the first story is pretty much stuck. And she seems to be too grateful for what the adults in her life did for her (the bare minimum). Stuck with such an awful situation where the mother vents but isn’t really ready to escape the abuse and OP can just watch. OP’s sister can really become one of those ppl who appear on crime docus for klling their family for money or smth. She needs to be put somewhere she snaps and doesn’t hurt others in the process. Her father truly ruined her by spoiling her like this.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

OP needs to stop feeling guilty to the grandparents just cuz the grandparents cared for her. It's the grandparent's own decision whether to help the mum or not.

[@Kevin7557]

You cannot be stuck in a work of fiction. After CPS got involved the daughters behavior would have come out. Mandatory therapy and the police would have already been involved. OP didn't research what happens with CPS when they wrote their fiction.

[@Knight-In-Green]

There's some impressive mental gymnastics going on in OP's upper floor. She's clearly still reeling over a torturous childhood, yet seemingly quite stoic and mindful. I like her. Aaaaaand, once again, some based Aunt comes to the rescue! I feel the masculine urge to aggressively shake her hand in approval. I hope things turn out well, all things considered.

[@jimjohnson394]

3:30 She wants to spend Christmas with her father and grandparents. Grandma asks, "Don't you want to spend time with your family on Christmas". Um....isn't her dad family?

[@3adgamd3r]

What they really mean is “please lay flatter doormat, you’re making things awkward for us!”

[@butterflywings188]

​@@3adgamd3rRight!!

[@aking3624]

How old is sister?!? Sounds like Grandparents neglected their daughter, tried to make up with granddaughter. Then family made op the "parent" by being the good kid...

[@AnneKirk453]

15, I think 💭!

[@ktmmatt7243]

"Varuka from Willy Wonka" pretty much says it all.

[@messiahftw8696]

The first story tells us how psychopaths are released into community.

[@amybalderas2688]

First story didn't want help just wanted to ven which is fine but, don't ask for advice if you're going to contradict every piece of it.

[@Olimar92]

Story 2: She wasn't thinking with her heart.

[@ZenoDovahkiin]

What heart?

[@ephemeral2552]

She was thinking with her genitals

[@TakenGranny]

as we say it in Serbia she was thinking with her ass

[@Shadowstorm000]

She was thinking out of her 😺

[@Carrotstickguy]

Cheaters don't have hearts

[@craigerz2875]

As someone who was also always seen as "the good child" who had to put up with all the crap, please everyone and never expect or ask for anything in return because "thats what a man does", this story really resonated with me. Though when I finally did snap after being told to put myself in £25K debt to help my dad pay for his divorce and told everyone to go fuck themselves my life improved so much. Havent seen my folks in two years, spend every holiday alone and it's so much better.

[@gwenrichard7507]

(Story 1) Have a family meeting, tell everyone you are going no contact if they don't do 3 things. -Make a police report. -Buy 3 nanny cams and 1 voice recorder. -Have the dad make a trust fund that pays the mom over 10 years.

[@qq84]

Even as a step-father, you have some e.g. financial responsibilities for your step-child.

[@mr.halfright]

2:27 A new porsche? Ignoring that she's the golden child, they really gave a child a new Porsche?

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

"And she doesn't even have her license yet." When hearing these kind of things I always start to doubt the legality of these kind of posts. Even rich people wouldn't gift their 14 years old (unlicensed) kids Porsches right? 😬

[@zachary6425]

How is the barley 18 year old, more of a mature adult then her mother, step dad and grandparents put together. It's so pathetic how none of them can control a 14 year old monster that her dad and created. And made everyone else suffer for it. Seriously call cps and im willing to bet that she will come crawling back later that night screaming how the system isn't fair. I feel so bad for op hope she gets better.

[@Sir_Pentious3234]

"Like you wouldn't date someone with the same or similar name of a family member" My mom and aunt:👁️👄👁️

[@jacalynnepuder1172]

That last story was so beautiful, a true work of art

[@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc]

Nope

[@jacalynnepuder1172]

@@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xc agree to disagree

[@notlisztening9821]

​@@FranciscoGarcia-nz5xca cheatin wh**e gets served twice over... what could be better?

[@zachary6425]

It sure was. karma approved

[@TheShadowSentinel]

Story 2: Op's ex did not think with her heart either. It was entirely different organ...

[@Maninawig]

She spoke with her lips and thought with her other lips

[@3adgamd3r]

Her family is just like “lay flatter doormat!”

[@thebean6731]

First story. I don’t feel sorry for the mother. You reap what you sow

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

Agreed

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

It’s a sad situation but at some point you have to ask yourself “how much more of this toxic crap am I willing to put up with before enough is enough?” A line has to be drawn and you have to look out for yourself. They knew what they were doing when they enabled the step sisters bad behavior. They knew op was suffering because of her crazy sister and burden her own family put on her to tolerate the bs. Yet they expected her to put on a shit eating smile anyway and act like nothing was wrong. If I were op when given the opportunity I’d go no contact.

[@romxpl4885]

Porsche when she can’t even drive wtf

[@mannydcbianco]

OP in story one keeps asking for advice but shoots down every piece of advice she gets and refuses to do anything with the excuse of not wanting to do that to her grandparents. Pointless story without any form of solution because the solutions are all ignored. Ironically towards the end of the story OP bemoans herself because her mom won't take any advice she gives her, but OP is doing the exactly same thing with the advice given to her by redditors. It's just a vicious circle where the pattern keeps repeating itself.

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

Like mother like daughter 🙄

[@dalebristow9260]

She inherited her mother's spine.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

She's only 18 years old and lived this life for many years. She's now realising this isn't normal - hence the Reddit post - but getting advice doesn't automatically make your brain change for the better. Especially because we also know she has PTSD and is still at an age where she feels responsible for doing what your elders ask of you. It's unfair to expect OP to make major changes. It'll take years for her to change the way of living her parents put in het head for 18 years. Besides, she mentioned this happened at Christmas, so if that's last Christmas of 2023 then we'll be hearing updates in the future. We must not forget that most of these kind of stories have 4+ updates and continue months/years. We just got used to hearing it all in one video and forget that for the OP's things take years.

[@chanson8508]

​@@Nathan_Bookwurm Yea i agree. Imho, ppl from normalish backgrounds tend to not have enough imagination abt these situations bc they lack firsthand experience, and thus they cant empathize and make silly comments like the one you replied to. Abuse mindset isnt magically fixed quickly 😵‍💫

[@sparkymarky211]

​@@chanson8508Tbh this is the issue with asking Reddit for advice lmao. No one truly understands the situation you're dealing with and can only give you the advice of what they'd hypothetically do. Many things have worked out in the end, but I recall hearing that some guy took the advice redditors gave him, lost his family as a result, and then people were getting on him for taking said advice that the community itself gave him

[@Envy-Animations]

Some people can be really messed up

[@Ravenishish]

I kind of get not dating people with an ex's name but if I had to restrict by family I'd be screwed because big family, lots of names

[@Gedanox]

Title eof the second story has "as my kids told me" but... they have no kids by what I've understood from story itself? God damn AI you did it again.

[@butterflywings188]

The wildest thing about Story 1, in my opinion, is that the mother ended up this way because of the grandparents, and OP is still protecting them so much from the aftermath of their abuse! The mom has Bipolar Personality Disorder, that is only being caused by childhood abuse and neglect. Also long-term depression. Also very low self-confidence. All these are pretty clear indicators that the grandparents are scum bags. And OP did not become a people pleaser only because of her mom and step dad, but also because her grandmother is people pleaser too! OP: "I don't want to be a doormat anymore", Grandma: "That's such a horrible thing to say! You should go along with everything others are putting you through! Be a good child!" It's funny how grandma and grandpa get to run away from the consequences their horrible parenting have on their daughter's life just because the overly-grateful, gaslighted OP doesn't have the self-esteem to put herself first. Disgusting.

[@dankmemes8619]

"AM I the asshole for getting the law involved in my sister and parents physically assaulting eachother?" Are redditors seriously like this?

[@flyingfish64]

Kinda

[@chriscormac231]

Predditors do tend to be lower evolved beings

[@cameoshadowness7757]

When people gas lit you for years into thinking it's normal and others push you into believing other horrible things, you will start to question the most basic shit.

[@yuriatsugi3696]

​@@cameoshadowness7757exactly this!

[@chanson8508]

​@cameoshadowness7757 ppl from normalish backgrounds tend to not have enough imagination abt these situations bc they lack firsthand experience, and apparently empathy 🙄

[@morganleanderblake678]

I'm sorry what? We're supposed to avoid marrying anyone with the same name as a family member? ...do y'all not understand how utterly berserk some name repetition is?

[@morganleanderblake678]

I live near Boston and I know 61 Seans and Shawns so please ask cr4zy relative if I can get a different spelling or if that still counts.

[@vaporean_boylove.0w083]

I think it's the vibe. Like it's kinda weird for some ppl to have a lover having the same name as a family member.

[@zidabrine962]

the only name i avoid dating is the name chris,my creepy uncle whos done the worst shit a human can do so i avoid anyone with that name

[@twoxthirteen661]

Second story. "It took a while to start dating again, but I got married 3 years ago.".... but you got divorced a few years ago.... doesn't sound like it took that long to me... Don't focus on your ex wife dude. Focus on your own life.

[@adumturtle1621]

WHY DOES THE MC NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT THE SISTER LIKE DAMN

[@fivelittlemonkees]

Nta. You sometimes need to draw lines in the sand as self preservation. You owe them nothing.

[@stardustdeath2497]

Wtf is story one? I’m just so confused on this. She kept saying how she pretty much knew what was going on but just never helped or anything at all and even “I don’t care who started it” you kinda took your sisters side from when your mom got her a** whooped lol. Like I hate to actually laugh but what is going on

[@Athasin]

Right!?! When she thought it was the mom abusing her sister she called CPS right away. When she found out it was the sister abusing the mom _because_ the sister feels empowered after OP called CPS on their mom, she goes "there's nothing I can do."

[@stardustdeath2497]

@@Athasinthen on top of that, what’s the “mental illness”?? It just sounds like your mom has no back bone so she is a “yes” lady

[@Chuckf66]

The past tense of "pay" is "paid", not "payed". "Payed" is a nautical term, most commonly meaning sealing the deck with bitumen. Also, FFS will people stop using "trys" instead of "TRIES"?

[@pezlover1974]

Personally I’m sick of seeing “I’m a women” 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Chuckf66]

@@pezlover1974 YES! YES! YES!

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Or there instead of their or they're 😂😂

[@DariusKetchum2010]

Speech-to-text can be a bitch

[@Dani.G_German]

Huh the story 2 title was completely different from the one told

[@Maninawig]

I think OP1's friends have their reference down perfectly. Though his guilt is understandable, given it is the same justification that most ab use victims go through

[@KilroyWasHere83]

Story 2: Can you really be thinking with your heart when you don't have a heart?

[@product2759]

16:42. She wasn't thinking with her head or her heart; just her privates.

[@slavchansidorov32]

Names of family or exes taboo? What a weird thing to be hung up on.

[@DarkEinherjar]

Such delicious karmic justice in the second story... I will say this, though: to the ex's credit, she was more mature than most cheaters in these stories. Not once did she try to reach out to OP with the usual cheater speech of "it was a mistake, please forgive me! We can fix this!" and she fully accepted that she can't have her old life back. I feel sorry for the new boyfriend, though: it seems like he was only chosen because of his name, to be a reminder of what the ex threw away.

[@Alexchess99]

He uploads faster than my internet

[@PrimevalRedDragon10]

Bro I can’t lie when I heard January 30th 2024 I thought this shit was fake for a millisecond

[@DERTHIX]

"OooOOP" what is that?! "And I -Oop"

[@shinadark]

Story 1# ESH The grandparents for using OP as a doormat to keep the "peace" in the "family". The mother for using OP as what I assume is an emotional support animal. The stepdad for refusing to see everything that is wrong with his own daughter much less the "family" as a whole, because he wants to be rembered as a "good" father on his deathbed. OP's father that doesn't seem to try do something to help his own daughther get out of that toxic mess that are the grandparents, ex-wife, halfsister and stepfather. OP for knowing that the family is extremely toxic and frankly beyond any help whatsoever and clearly looks like a lost cause in this story. Halfsister for taking advantage of the whole situation for her own desires even if it's not entirely her fault what with her father spoiling her rotten and the mother not having shut it down from the start before it got that far.

[@jamiepetersen6153]

The next update from story 1 will be my sister killed our mum I should have done something but I don't care

[@STAYATINYARMYSIN]

Definitely OP should have been on that ass like white on rice but nah she sat back and just watched , I think she actually enjoys the fact her mom is suffering even though she’s a victim.

[@heyyitsjanea]

i disagree with not using them for monetary gain use them you deserve compensation atp😂

[@MikeB-us5cg]

Military school. 'nuff said.

[@KINGtriller]

I think the mother is punishingherself for her own weakness and past mistakes

[@user-in2tn9zo1h]

Hey its me again luv the vids keep up the amazing work and stay safe

[@WAHegle91]

Man, if story 1 had involved me, I would’ve told the spoiled brat in my best Teddy Long that her attitude had just earned her a 1-on-1 match with The Undertaker before hitting her with the Last Ride.

[@badgerp-chanqueen7707]

Verucca Salt. I remember that character.

[@cranialropes]

That was so fast 😂

[@leonardoanddantdmloverlead1718]

BRUH! STORY 1 HAD NO GOOD REVENGE AT THE END!!!!!

[@lowqualityrodentrandomness]

story 2 she got with someone with the same name as her ex husband, it's actually really common do you know how many of my dad's ex's shared the same name, so many Nicoles (´。＿。｀)

[@highasheckgaming]

I hate redditors when it comes to step partents "You cant expect them to treat you like their own children" Yes you can In fact If you have step kids and cant love them almost like your own, because lets face it bio kids will always have a LITTLE more love than step kids, then you shouldn't be a step father Leave Like yeah OP should have gotten a car from her mom and step dad Not a porche or anything fancy, but at least a fucking a car or something She should have gotten at least some support from them Not as much as youd give to your bio kid if you couldnt afford to pay for both, but if I can give my bio daughter a porche AND my step daughter a porche, I'm buying two porches, because thats my baby from anotha ball sack dawg Might not be her father, but I sure as shit would be her dad, good dads dont just not help the other kid for no real good fucking reason, which SD doesnt have That whole family is toxic, they rake and never give, its a one way street, and your going the wrong way

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

Just ghost everyone and go NC

[@irsmrtnow1204]

These stories suck. First has no payoff the second is just this happen and this happened. No drama

[@Rxyyan...]

is there any channel where only the stories are played not the comments or opinion???

[@finalfantasylord1]

i enjoy your videos but switch it up from the Minecraft parkour stuff in the background every now and then it's hard on the eyes

[@MrRealGreenn]

I love my family ngl ❤

[@LEG4CYGD]

good for you

[@Wizard_money]

I am sorry how does someone have a 1k monthly allowance

[@Zero-dead-]

Send your sister to the ranch

[@slyph63]

Come on writers ffs you can't marry someone out of wedlock. Get yourselves a proper translator

[@MaliaMydnight]

God. 5150 the kid. Christ on sale. And it's not weird to date someone who shares a name with an ex or family member. My sister's abusive ex has the same name as my amazing husband of 19 years, because NAMES ARE USUALLY COMMON. Wtf?

[@lovablemidnightstar]

2nd story is so fake, timelines dont match. Apple air has only been around for a few years and based on the time line described shouldn't exist. You married straight out of high school and has been married for 10 years but your 35. Make it make sense.

[@ScruffyisbigG]

Hello

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

and childed people cheat more than those without kids. and people cannot figure this out despite it being a fact that has been studied.

[@morell1185]

Fake story

[@umagovindarajan4339]

In story 1 I'm just curious that why don't her mom just get a divorce and terminates her custody over her youngest...Even If she is mentally that unstable why doesn't the OP's grandparents suggested it and made her divorce ...and the OP is just weak as hell , she is even grateful for everything to grandparents even though they have done what they should have to , considering OP and her mom's situation...OP in real not grateful but just afraid because if she doesn't involve it would pressurize her grandparents and they would hate and won't spent time with her ...Girl you are also the one who needs therapy in making a bold and stable decision despite running away from the problems or cry over it , for both u and ur family 😒🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Alexchess99]

He uploads faster than my internet