Family MAN Needs A £70,000 Salary?! & Should WOMEN Go To Work?

[@Bingley33]

My parents have been together for 44 years and as I grow older I realise how much seeing them together is a privilege. I have become cognisant to this that I dont speak on single parent homes. Furthermore those who have been victims of divorce or broken homes as I believe I would probably been worse than most who have made most of the situation.

[@rjflores438]

I remember living in Wandsworth in a studio flat and paying £1300 to have my bed and cooker in the same room, and then after bills like gas, electricity and council tax, that £1700 gone. I then had to pay child support to my ex which was £300 per month, then transport costs on the tube. I was then left with about £200 left. As I was on about £2500 after tax a month. I ended up having to take a second job in a pub in the evening 5 days as week just to have any money left over.

[@kwameopoku3576]

Cudnt u get council ting uoung?

[@pegobrown9204]

Stop crying and next time marry her before u make her carry and you would of had her help split bills in your house you guys share

[@sj2672]

The UK average salary is around 37K, and even then most jobs eg, retail and admin do not earn that amount and they manage to run the family household. In my opinion, it is relative to how you value and spend money. Most of the UK population will never earn 70k and most families in London will require a joint income but not just live but to have a good quality of life.

[@joel2856abc]

If both parts earn 30-35k, then the household income is 60-70k.

[@Lema-e6k6o]

@@joel2856abc did you read what he said or?

[@jpswerve182]

@@joel2856abc Yes, but you miss out on tax breaks when both people have that salary.

[@justdoit.86yearsago]

@@joel2856abc not at all, combined they would be living on around 43k after tax and deductions.

[@Don.s1986]

I earn 75k+ black man with wife and kids homeowner originally from lewisham..6years ago I was signing on anything is possible

[@michael43567]

In London, the days of men paying all the bills for his wife & 2+ kids are over. It's just not ideal. Even if he can afford it, he'll be struggling to save/invest & take the family on holidays.The wife has to chip in

[@Longlostpuss]

It shouldn't be over though. The system is designed to break up families by forcing the husband and wife to both have to work and miss out on time raising their kids. A marriage is 10 times more likely to fragment when the wife feels she HAS to work, let alone a relationship. The whole socio-economic situation is a mess for the so called middle class. People who are wealthy don't have these problems, their wives either with them in their business, or they have a small part time job or business of their own that chips in (mainly centred around their hobbies), but nothing that is going to put them under pressure. This is why most marriages break up. think about your wife spending at least 40 hours a week in the presence of other people and possibly other temptations and only seeing you for a couple of hours in an evening if you're lucky - how are those odds stacked in your favour? And people wonder why affairs happen.

[@93kai]

@@Longlostpussif a man can’t trust his wife to be in the presence of other men, he married wrong.

[@93kai]

@@Longlostpuss if a man can’t trust his wife to be in the presence of other men without cheating, he married wrong.

[@MikeTyler_96]

These barber shop kinda talks being put on KZbin truly a game changer. Idk how this video came across my feed. But I’m glad I clicked on this video. These are deep proper conversations that most people aren’t hearing. N had they heard these kind of talk. Their life would improve.

[@michael43567]

9:15 for me, experience matters more than qualifications. Would rather get advice from someone who had nothing, made money, lost it, then made it back. Versus someone who has all the financial qualifications

[@GODNATLIVE]

Been binge watching the content for the last 3 days 🔥

[@Yesmayne]

Rahhhh, Did u go in?

[@sammybwoy]

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN Can you please start posting again!

[@k13-y6l]

Glad to hear from you bro. Used to binge the vids back in the day and all the views and streams on Tisrome - Lord knows in the past few years are me 😂. Hope you’re well.

[@MikeTyler_96]

It raaaa is that good still

[@blaqueruby4946]

Birds of a feather flock together... My parents have been married almost 50 years, and it’s the same for most people I know... it’s not rare... Two income families probably live in certain areas, and average earning single parent households live in others...

[@DonCE0]

This link up was overdueee. I’m grateful it happened

[@L-v6g]

Great conversation. I look forward to the rest of this

[@abitofsparkle1dee616]

As usual great content , I love to watch and learn about topics like this , just to clarify that I’m not mad for thinking it’s a man’s role to provide for his household! A woman’s role is to supplement that by being the care giver to her husband and kids . if she chooses to work it still helps to balance the household income , but the saving you make with her being at home is a benefit to how the children are brought up. Just my opinion 🎤 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@justbeingoctavia]

Spot on!!!!

[@gilberttakyi3265]

I wish more people would tune into stuff like this rather than the stupid entertainment that isn’t fulfilling

[@michaelnelson3225]

i love this it’s so positive MEN needs that energy and the caption is not doing this content justice you man need to push this out and every where frfr

[@sammybwoy]

We need to have more REAL conversations like this!

[@Longlostpuss]

Yeah I concluded this some time ago. As the man of the house, you need to be earning twice the amount of what is considered an average single person's salary so that your partner has the _option_ not to need to go back to work after she has kids. So assuming the average or median is £35,000 per year in the UK, which is enough for a single person to live on, the man needs to then earn £70,000 in case she doesn't want to work anymore or loses her job. £70,000 is a healthy salary, you can comfortably pay back a mortgage and bills, food etc and have a couple of holidays every year, only if you didn't overspend on a bigger house than you actually needed. Problem is, most people will not see a salary that high in their lifetime, unless they have a seriously good profession. Those professions will also have immense competition.

[@k13-y6l]

Because of the way tax is in this country, double the salary is not proportional to double the take home. Monthly for one person is £4,263.11 take home after tax and NI (excluding student loan). Two people on £35k take home a combined £4,786.62. Over the course of a year that’s over £6,000 take home difference!

[@Longlostpuss]

​@@k13-y6l Yeah the irony is you'll take home more money net, but you're also likely to have an unhappy partner or wife and the relationship/marriage is more likely to fail. You can't have two people getting stressed out by 9-5's and expect that relationship to last. They know exactly what they're doing with the tax system, it's BS.

[@CJ-kq8je]

@@k13-y6l 👌🏾

[@nguene]

​@@k13-y6l precisely you actually need between 90k and 100k and these holidays he's talking about are to Spain on one income nothing long haul

[@londonlavish8345]

70k in London is not enough for a family of four. No no no

[@matty506]

This guys great. Learn how you learn is so true.

[@romanelanceford_]

Seriously good watch/listen. Great to hear more about Eman's story!

[@AbenatheActress]

Parents have been together 50 years married 46. Most people are married around me.

[@odemebrown9829]

There is no way £60,000 is enough for a family of 4. That budget he did was suss. Great conversation.

[@sunn6662]

At least £120k minimum

[@Samuel-cs2xl]

@@sunn6662🤣🤣🤣120 bombo rassclart Great British pounds? Ya mad

[@Zak-ku7sq]

You can move out and say the kids are not yours. Then she can be on universal credit getting paid for the children and housing. You can sleep at your parents and save good money.

[@deborahh2978]

Single mum here of 2 here, 24 & 15. It’s been hard! I was 17 and made so many financial errors. My most comfortable was contracting & income of 75/80. But it meant sacrificing time with kids. I’m permanent now but my eldest 24 is on 30k so our combined is now that . Her work pay for her uni so when she finishes she will go corporate and contract and surpass my income in a couple years. We did the RTB which comes with its own issues but we on the ladder. I think with all my expenses, comfortable for me would be 4K take home after tax. It’s all relative to the individual. I took on more when I earned more. But I know people UC top up and managing. They just don’t have the car n mortgage & credit cards I have, you learn to make it work. I’d deffo do things differently, stacking & investing instead of flossing. Have a 2nd skill or creative idea/ brand. Great discussion guys

[@ijpsolutions2483]

Not too late to still create your side hustle/brand! You got this!

[@tobifighter6877]

I hardly had any role models growing up unfortunately 😬

[@ogopinions9082]

Parents early 80s been together been together 55 years married 50 years been with my partner 28 years been married 20. I wish black people could normalise this but its really hard I can't lie

[@ShadowMoon96]

Authentic romance and monogamous relationships have died out

[@ChampionMOG]

That last point is actually a really good point. Good convo.

[@Kofz89]

Real 💎 as a father of four living in London I can deffo relate!!

[@hayrhambalogun7683]

Age 28 my parents still together

[@oneilmarston698]

How long

[@hayrhambalogun7683]

@ 35 years

[@NMiller80666]

Family of 4 on £4000K, sounds impossible😨. I must be doing something wrong because I have one child (15yrs), mortgage £1100 (all bills £1700), £1000 to save monthly, £700 for food and other miscellaneous for son and I during the month (school meals, clothing etc). My take home £3.4 after tax, plus £96 child benefit.

[@AlertStillness]

What’s that buzzing?

[@F.O-j4p]

Great vid. Can't wait for the rest.

[@ldn876]

We ride for Eman. Good career, knows his stuff, helps the community and married black. 😊

[@KLaw-s1o]

Would you still ride for him if he didn’t get “married black”?

[@Rampage1Rules]

Such a great discussion

[@alfrescodingdong7430]

Another reason to stay single.. protect your heart and wallet 🤣🤣

[@tmac3983]

Whoever is working in the background is going HAM. Ffs quiet

[@GrindSzn7]

🤣

[@MrBreisMusic]

Good conversation guys.

[@romanelanceford_]

👏

[@luciocosta7433]

Nah. 4K is not enough for a family of 4. He is not being reasonable.

[@ryanthomas7951]

4k is enough. They just did the maths. Nursery fees aren't permanent, so ideally try and save some money prior to that expenditure coming.

[@justdoit.86yearsago]

There’s no one size fits all figure. My mortgage is only £575 per month so that frees up more of my salary than someone paying £1500 per month.

[@luciocosta7433]

@@justdoit.86yearsago Do you have a 3 or 4 bedroom house? The example for a family 4 is not enough

[@oliboi]

@@ryanthomas7951 I agree.. plus the example they just used, there would be no need for nursery as the wife would be at home looking after the kids... That free's up nursery fees

[@justdoit.86yearsago]

@@luciocosta7433 yes I do and I live up north

[@ekeneokere5898]

This is great.

[@Simon24312]

Great conversation.

[@MT3J10]

Great video !!!

[@suziesmith9076]

Can u link this guys social please? 🙏🏾

[@MistyyBrown]

theemaneffect

[@namechi]

I don't think you necessary need to study finance to be good at finance or study personal training to be a personal trainer (Study as in have a qualification). It all depends on the person. Studying can involve your personal experience and studying what other successful people do. Obviously to get to a certain level qualifications are definitely needed but to say that someone can't do personal training or give financial advise without a degree or qualification is clearly not true for everyone.

[@prolificlife1710]

Real talk 💯

[@Ton_Of_Hustle]

This has to be old 2 bed is now £2k lool

[@ogopinions9082]

I came here on smoke when I read the title but wife and 4 kids that makes perfect sense

[@khabibsson7122]

To have a partner u probably need £60k in London, for a family £90k+

[@umpydoodles32]

Is 50k enough for a single man ?

[@joey-pn3xe]

Or just move out of London? There are other options.

[@luciocosta7433]

65k is not enough in London.

[@T11CVV]

Depends what you’re trying to do icl

[@oneilmarston698]

Try New York City 😂😂😂😂70k is pan 🍳 cake 🎂 you need 150k plus ➕ to live ok in New York and DC LA you need to start with 5 course meal before you start working ⚒.

[@kc270352]

people need to learn how to manage thier money properly, simple as that 🙄

[@Longlostpuss]

Well, salaries in London are taking a hit, you'll be lucky to see £65k these days. If you're not in banking or some other form of finance, you're not seeing that sort of salary mate.

[@kingtchala6832]

@@kc270352I second this option. I get wanting to enjoy life. However, when people say X amount isn’t enough, that’s because they want abundance. They want 4 holidays instead of 2. They want to drive a 2024 GLC Coupe instead of a 2019 Hyundai. They wanna shop in M&S and Waitrose instead of Tesco and Sainsbury’s. Our parents were making a fraction of what we’re making today and yet they raised 2/3/4 kids and more than provided.