Family Shares Story Of Postpartum Depression To Prevent Future Suicides

For one Twin Cities woman, giving birth sparked months of despair that ultimately lead to her taking her own life, Kim Johnson reports (3:46). WCCO 4 News At 10 - Aug. 14, 2017

[@susanabarron3939]

When I spoke up to a counselor she told me I would have my baby taken away from me if I couldn’t take care of him. I walked out terrified and I didn’t seek help after that it lasted for more that 6 years. I’m okay now I feel like my self again but when I think back at when I was desperate for help and was told such a horrible thing it prolonged me from getting help and getting better sooner.

[@Idkaboutthisone]

I had severe PPD and when I reached out to my in laws and my husband, they all talked about me behind my back and completely dismissed me.... it was one of the most tramatic moments of my life. That was 10 years ago and I'm doing so much better. I have a great support system and better understanding of my mental health. I hope anyone going through this has a better support system than I did.

[@ariannashrum9068]

I hope you didn't stay with that man

[@Hajiha-zw4nw]

​@@ariannashrum9068 omg! I came to say exact same thing. They are worst than wild animals.

[@darabowen8077]

So glad you're feeling better! So sorry about your very own family, you depend so much on treated you like that. 😢 My Mom had PPD and when I was 4 and my sister was 8 months old, she shot herself in the chest. I remember it like it happened yesterday 😢

[@donnaleone9895]

After my third child was born I experienced many signs of postpartum depression. My ex-husband lost his job months before. It was a terrible time in my (our life) I had 2 other children; my husband was diagnosed with severe mental illness. I prayed to Jesus after 2nd child to be able to love this middle child, my prayers were answered. After my 3rd child was born I applied for a job at my local hospital, it was a gift from the Lord. I worked there many years & was able to support my whole family. Love & peace Donna Leone, R.N.

[@banani7807]

It's crazy how everyone says "I'm here if you need to talk" and disappear when you try. There's no help for moms with depression. We're alone and even if we cry and scream for help no one listens but they act like they didn't realize we were sad when we kill ourselves. Paper people in paper towns. It's all fake and before you know it, you're gone and everyone finally cares when it doesn't matter anymore.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

I’m so sorry. I hear you. I take you seriously.

[@banani7807]

@@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 Thank you 🥺 I was going through a really dark time. I could have used someone with your compassion back then ❤️

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

@@banani7807 Awww. I’m so sorry. I wish I knew you in real life. I’d listen to whatever you needed to say for hours.

[@Cherrycola14]

@@banani7807 more woman understand than you think, it's just so not talked about and when you mention it people all a sudden go silent

[@medusachristo4234]

Infants drain you. 😪 People say It's unicorns, rainbows however It's lonely, tiring, depressing, & exhausting

[@jenniferhansen3622]

It's not the same experience for everybody though. Some women feel stressed and drained and some women thrive. Experiences will always vary. I found that the key was having a routine. A set schedule that I followed every single day. It was very rare that I went off my schedule. Because of the routine, my babies were more easy to care for. I miss the days of them being little. They're grown now. 😊

[@zuley6957]

I regret Having Kids ! If I knew i was going to feel just like this lady

[@msdiamondpiggy]

Same here.

[@duaaabdhalah7855]

Me tol

[@MLili-ip9db]

its ironic, that in the end of the report it says that if you feel depressed just call this and that "theres always help" yet the whole interview is about this poor woman, who tried everything she could, to beat her demons and nothing could save her. this scares me....:( rest in peace!

[@calibrial]

Exactly...it isn't within their control... and that's scary... it is like telling a drunk person to drive normally... more than "talking" to someone is needed. No one understands unless they've been through it.😥

[@officiallyjess5291]

For months no one could help?

[@xkxshx]

Yep thats what its like living like this. everyone claims they care and there’s resources but in reality it’s every man for himself

[@kendrac8885]

@@xkxshx this is so true! I feel so hopeless

[@80sbaby90]

Exactly. I've been in this position tried to help myself tried to seek help tried to talk to others all has failed 🤦

[@AngelicArtt]

This woman... was it a hospital twice, was reaching out... she did everything right. God love her... they(medical professionals) failed her. 😔 hurts my soul. Rest in peace Stacey. I wonder, if they would have just... not admitted her in the psych ward, and just spent time talking to her every day.... if it would have made a difference....

[@SirParcifal]

I tried getting help - family members avoid me like the plague when I ask to talk..

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

Going through the same

[@SirParcifal]

@@aprilchow-chee5281 and because of covid mom groups can't meet

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

@@SirParcifal true

[@505_Studios]

Same

[@Scorpio-fd5iq]

I got 6 children 2 with autism also twins listen keep your head up you all can do it prayers 🙏🙏🙏 for all ♥️ you guys need tips reach out to me

[@naomi-so5sr]

Hearing that baby in the background made my heart ache so painfully.

[@bLegitBllunt]

Just had my twins 2 weeks ago. I suffer from clinical depression its been really hard spending my pregnancy alone and now doing very thing for myself after this c section with no help no one to talk to no one to count on no support, no matter how many times I reach out weather its family or friends no one has came no one has cared and its one of the hardest times of my life, I pray God helps me thru this, help isn't always there like they like to portray or even professionally. Its not easy. I have hope to overcome this, my sons give me life as much as the depression tries to take it from me.

[@SuomiMama]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/gZCWf5-Kqd6Vf6M here is a link to the Ted Talks and a mom sharing her experience with depression/postpartum depression. Reach out and get support from your local doctor, or Obgyn/pregnancy doctor! Reach out online..there are support groups for woman who suffer with depression before,during and after pregnancy. Know the signs of Postpartum depression, it can get worse over time and you can educate yourself about the signs. It's common but it can be deadly.

[@SuomiMama]

I undertake the mental health system there in the states is different. And your right...it might feel that people aren't always there to help even the professionals. I would suggest seeking support from an online group for single moms or a single moms group that meets in person (in your local city), maybe a support group for moms with twins/multiples. I'm just some stranger in Finland , but I'm American. And I feel for the woman in the states who don't have the same kind of health/mental health services like other countries have. I just finished three years of therapy and it was funded and free. It was a blessing. I just wish the states had better systems in place for the people there.

[@elissaharbuck2170]

Congratulations on your twin boys, @pearlypearl! Sending love, hope, and prayers for help your way 💙💙💖 Hang in there 🥰

[@615BlackBarbie]

Im here if, you need me. I had to raise my five kids alone. And, I was married living in the housing projects helping my husband become a business owner. Well, the business went great and he left us in the projects. I have twins girls. I get it. Trust me I do. You're in the storm now,but, the sun will shine. You just have to fight for it.

[@Chnce327]

If you ever need someone to talk to I’m here 🙏🏽 the lord has your back lean on him for guidance much love too you and your babies ❤️

[@roxyp7569]

My prayers go out to this family. RIP momma ❤️

[@SirParcifal]

no one cares until its took late

[@sarahvajda258]

Agreed.

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

Heaven owes her big time!

[@roxyp7569]

What people don't realize is if you don't have insurance or an extremely good PPO insurance, (most government and other assistance programs for insurance such as Medicaid are not PPO) without good insurance you really cant get help unless you have a lot of money, and can pay for a psychiatrist out of pocket. Everyone says there is help available but if you can't afford it or have the time you're basically fucked. also just food for thought, if you or a loved one are trying to help someone with depression/bad mental state, please do not say "oh no, just be happy you'll get through it" because depression isn't just sinking. It is like sinking while looking at everyone else swimming around you.

[@elyse443]

I have the best insurance most doctors have ever seen. Trust me. Even with the money no one will help you. They just don’t take it seriously enough. I think maybe they can’t.

[@roxyp7569]

@@elyse443 true, I agree with your point. Well, i have amazing insurance, nd I have been to some amazing places that will help. However, that's just my situation, and I had the time to look and do research (did way too much research) but point is, i can't imagine what people have to go through on a daily basis without insurance and not having time. Totally agree with you about how they don't help, even though where I went was educated on mental illness, a LOT of staff there still did not understand/made ignorant comments like "just do something fun" or, "why are you depressed, you're so pretty" as if that means be happy...lol not to mention the stigma.

[@ChaoticEagle0301]

All of this, especially the insurance thing. I'm very fortunate in the fact that I have decent insurance through my job (a PPO), but all it would take is a job loss to lose said coverage. This is honestly why good healthcare shouldn't be a luxury; it should be a necessity.

[@lenacheney]

I didn't get help for my postpartum depression either but luckily I didn't feel suicidal. I just felt like a bad mother who couldn't bond who was terrified of being alone with my baby. When you take your baby to checkups they make you fill out a questionnaire but it's intimidating to answer any of the questions when it asks things like "do you think about hurting your baby" because for me I didn't but if they are asking about bonding and depression and if I say yes I'm having issues they may take away my child because they will think I wanted to hurt my baby when I didn't

[@robertgriffiths9821]

This needs more discussion

[@vixenvertex]

It’s hitting me so fucking hard. I’m scared if I share this with my doctor they’ll take my son from me. I can’t handle it.

[@lovelybutterfly3047]

Ask your family to help you alongside,seek medical help asap and dont listen to small voices,you are doing great as a parent only the hormones making us feel depress,treat yourzelf with nice bath,eat on time and ask support from your love ones ♥️♥️♥️we are here if you need help

[@kayecobarrubia5630]

Go on a vacation! Without ur son.

[@mutoidliz2320]

@@kayecobarrubia5630 That's alot more difficult to do than it sounds 😂

[@kayecobarrubia5630]

@@mutoidliz2320 i hear ya

[@Cherrycola14]

I'm exactly the same, worried they'll take my baby because I'm struggling with the rage that comes with it. Husband just doesn't get it at all.

[@BossQueen1]

That’s why I don’t take their medication. I have so many allergic reactions. Those meds probably drove her more crazy! That’s what it’s looking like for these moms who end their lives or their kids. 😭

[@naeemaempressofcreation]

Im currently battling this its hard i just had a baby 6 months ago and this post partum has gotten worse ive always been suicidal but its worst now if no one ever hears from me again i hope my family knows i love my children i cant take this anymore 😢 i tried to fight this battle i dont know how much longer i can hold on and fight im sorry 😢

[@plainbee3]

Hope you feel better keep your mind busy do things that make you happy listen to podcast , always keep your mind busy so bad thoughts don’t get to you

[@Repentjesusistheonlyway]

❤ to you be strong you can get thru it. I'm struggling now with thoughts sometimes not suicidal but my baby and scared me bad. But I'm so much better now. I still have them but I know they are just thoughts. Be strong your baby needs you. I know your hurting but imagine your baby without their mom how much hurt they will feel

[@brownskinbeauty7050]

I went thru this after losing my 3rd child then I had my 4th and it was bad but I kept it a secret.😢

[@80sbaby90]

Oh no 😔 sorry

[@DaxSports1]

Was she an only mother? Sometimes raising a child on your own can be rough.

[@SirParcifal]

society glorifies single mother hood - over 78 percent of blacks are single moms and now over 40 percent of whites are single moms - it's suppose to be "progressive"

[@DaxSports1]

@@SirParcifal Yeah the world is fucked. Fathers are demonized in western society. I remember growing up my best friends parents were divorced. His dad was a Teacher, very nice man, and always involved in his life. However My friend always told me he liked his mother more and that always confused me as a kid whenever he'd say that.

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

@@DaxSports1 coming from a single mother home I hated my mother growing up because I thought she left my dad and our life was now hard but as an adult I had to learn for myself that my father is an absolute fucking pig! Treated us like scum our whole lives never called for birthdays or Christmases he was always busy with some other woman. We couldn't even ask him for a glass of water when we go by him because he'd complain we were using out his water but we put him on a pedestal craving the attention and love we were never given as and adult I tried to foster a relationship with him only for him to come to my town never called I made arrangements for him to come by me which he refused then called me an hour later saying he'll come and stay and showed up with 2 kids I don't know if they're my siblings because he has kids now younger than my kids with different women, the man then said 5 minutes later he have to leave I left my baby with her dad and a planned Christmas party we had with family to drive this man for hours only to find out that he went to go and see another woman from the one he came to my town to see and used me as an excuse, he begged me for money used my time and energy for his own gain fuck him!

[@banani7807]

@@DaxSports1 father's aren't demonized lmao they could change a diaper and a parade comes out of nowhere congratulating them on being an amazing dad. Yet mom's can try their nest and do everything they can and it's still not enough. Spare me.

[@mianmar6279]

@@banani7807 preach👏🏾

[@positivetransformationswit6207]

I am sad to hear this but i also feel there is no way out i just want it to stop but im too scared to go through with it 😔💔

[@Chnce327]

If you need me I’m here for you 🙏🏽 the lord has your back lean on him for guidance ❤️

[@trinawhatley3693]

I'm here for you do you want my number I'm reading my children alone I can talk with you

[@AlejandraSegura1]

Hiiii, are you doing better?

[@TLovetoDance012]

PPD can be terrifying. New Moms need support at home. It shouldn’t have a stigma.

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

Society is to blame!

[@medusachristo4234]

Where Is the father

[@dianegalaviz6314]

Please when u see signs do something about it. Dont wait theres help.

[@elyse443]

There actually is no help. That’s the fallacy. Stacy tried to get help over and over. There is only stigma. No help actually.

[@useridcn]

My psychiatrist literally made thing worse....

[@tchatman770]

How?

[@useridcn]

@@tchatman770 she also just had a baby so she kept using her situations as examples and implying that moms should at least be able to handle what she could handle.

[@tchatman770]

@@useridcn I see. I hope you know that what she said isn’t true at all. We all are in various stages of life and birth makes how we feel completely different than before we were pregnant.

[@judgejenny2251]

😥😢😥

[@JuanHernandez-ry9dr]

Depression is a silent monster that lives in our brain. We become prisoners of this most horrible disease.

[@Itspapacritz]

This shouldnt hapoen

[@ThePerpetualStudent]

Why is that? You think she shouldn't have the right to choose to take her life?

[@jimmyluffnin1297]

@@ThePerpetualStudent No, She is selfish!!!!!!

[@lifewithmandy5220]

@@ThePerpetualStudent Actually no! Especially since she has children! That child or children now have to go without a Mother!

[@ThePerpetualStudent]

Life with Mandy So a woman should have the right to take a life inside of her but cannot have the right to take her own??

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

@@jimmyluffnin1297 then you don't know what depression is. You have never been pregnant or will ever be nor will you have to care for a child 24/7 so shut the fuck up!

[@POV00005]

❤🙏🏿

[@Wanapelei]

🌷

[@kayecobarrubia5630]

But it’ll end tho the sleepless night will end one day. But your daughter would never see u anymore :(

[@zuley6957]

Bullshit

[@kimaniruth964]

You don't know how post partum can mess you up. I went thru it I am still struggling. It's the worst thing that can happen to somebody

[@DelaneyB.444.77]

@@kimaniruth964 It really is💔

[@frapur8409]

My daughter is 14 months old and is still not sleeping through. Sometimes the timeframe is too long to bear. If my boyfriend wouldn't do the nights, I would have killed myself. I cannot sleep "on duty". The first two weeks with her I collectively slept 5 hours. I was about to be admitted when my midwife told me to stop brestfeeding and my boyfriend stepped up. Most women don't have that luxury. I'm still regretful and most likely will never be happy again... but at least I don't have suicidal ideations anymore.

[@maryh2966]

@@frapur8409you will be happy again trust me! My daughter is 14 months right now. Still doesn’t sleep through the night right, but definitely sleeps better! I had it really bad and unfortunately not sure if my daughter is facing the repercussions of that now as she’s very anti social. It does get better though, not overnight, but if you work at it slowly but surely. I promise you.

[@chelseachaos4493]

She should have gotten medication that's what I did