FAQ Tuesday: Living Off Grid and On the Edge

[@cazz124]

I have been travelling alone since my husband died, 6 weeks after I took myself off from England to Hawaii and got used to being alone in my own head, a few weeks later I went to Alaska and fell in love with it, I slept in my car most of the time and it was the solitude and the scenery that was so healing.

[@TXTeacher1111]

I find myself at 56 walking my path alone. The feeling of fear is very real, but everything I want is on the other side of fear... You inspire me! Thank you so much!

[@claudiaselk8205]

My experience was car camping in Alaska in 2005 for two weeks, alone. I flew up and rented a Ford Explorer. I had breakfast and dinner, canned fruit, canned soup and veggies, water, granola bars, and KitKats and marshmallows. I found that there were Many dirt roads right off the highway to camp for the night. It was one of the best trips ever. One night I pulled into a campground near Kenai. There was one other campsite being used and I got one of those feeling that ‘nope I’m not staying’. So I left and drove about two hours down to Homer. I wanted to car camp to be safer in bear country. I’m going to meet you some day soon. I’ll be getting my camper van in a year or two. Thank you for being out there showing us what you are doing.

[@usmctien]

OORAH! I make an annual solo road trip/moto camping... fear is in your mind, danger is physical...know and recognize the differences. Go with your gut and don't let unreasonable fear grip and control your life. Carolyn keep up the great job... Knowledge is like manure, it does no good unless you spread it around.

[@susanmerritt8331]

Thank you so much for being so inspiring. I LOVE baby steps! I spent my first night out alone in the woods, little over a month ago, camping in my mini van, no electricity not even a bed. The temperature almost 100 dg. F. During the day. I was so hot that evening I slept with the doors and windows open. Yes I did have bug screening. The cicadas, crickets, owls and frogs were deafening! You don't hear that in the city. Mosquitoes, ticks and chiggers unbearable. But that was nothing. Just after midnight I heard rustling outside the door. Then the most blood curdling howling. A pack of coyotes were in my camp. I looked out the door and saw eye balls looking back at me. Less than 20 ft. Away from my head. I was frozen. I am no spring chicken and just knew this was the end. If not by coyotes then by heart attack. And then by coyotes! As quick and quietly as they came, they left. The next night a six foot Black snake fell out of the tree on to the van. Thought he would have come right through the roof. I watched as it slithered over the windshield and to the ground. I see Black snakes every day now and glad of it.There is no amount of preparation for this stuff! Since that time I have had rabbits, deer, woodchuck, Canadian Geese, Turkey, mice and a skunk in my camp. Three days ago, a brown lizard landed on my shoulder. We looked at one another, and I kept on doing the dishes. For 10 minutes he stayed on my shoulder watching me. I leaned up to a tree and he got off, but did not run away. There is magic in nature. I went into the woods seeking solitude and grieving for the loss of my dog, whom I burried not too far away. I came away with a whole new perspective on life. I have since built out my van with a very comfortable bed, cookstove,water, and composting toilet. I would not trade this for anything.

[@caroldodson8258]

Wow! You should keep a journal of your experience! Are you full timing it in your van?

[@susanmerritt8331]

Carol Dodson Hi Carol! Not quite. I recently retired but still work one day a week until my employer finds a replacement. I spend five days out, two days in town. We have a large tract of land that is not in use so that is where I am "practicing ". It's a beautiful place. I also drive to different cities to stealth camp as I hope to hit the road to Chicago next week, depends on work. The farm will be home base. I take baby steps so I don't get in over my head. Carolyn was one of the first to inspire me to do this. I wanted to start with my minivan as that is what I already had. So far it is working out great.

[@krafttee1]

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[@thatmarionchickonyoutube7545]

Susan Merritt what a fabulous story!! You are a fearless woman!! Good job!!

[@susanmerritt8331]

Life Unboxed oh my goodness, thank you but I have to admit I was so scared, I froze. Totally unable to move and close the doors! After the skunk, that was all I could take. I now sleep with the doors closed. The other critters pass by daily so we are now accustomed to each other. I also eat vegetarian and do not start a fire in this area, also no loud radio or music. Just quiet introspection.

[@therunawaycamper]

I know I have said it many times but you are just awesome. Even though I have traveled all my life alone I am getting ready to head out again. I will be traveling from Oklahoma up to New Hampshire to spend some time with friends - and be a vendor at a pow wow. So it is just me and my pickup truck and merchandise. This time there will be no hotels and no quick drive through places. I have my marine battery and an inverter and a hot plate - my own food and I am taking my time going. My plan is to drive four or five hours and find a place for the night. It is a 30 hour drive and I am giving myself five or six days to do it in. Then when it is time to leave I will do the same thing coming home. It will be an adventure and lots of fun. I have a brand new journal to write in. Thank you for all of your great advice that enables people to get out of their ruts and enjoy life.

[@michellem9182]

If someone is afraid, even to do lunch, I have suggested to friends to go out for lunch, but sit in your car the first time. Turn on music and relax. From there, sit outside the car (close by if need be) again, with relaxing music. Baby steps, within your comfort zone, and it will get easier to overcome fear. Great video. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

[@kimberlypurcell9693]

Perfectly said!

[@geraldinehallisy8688]

Enlightenment!!! Thank You

[@frankroberts1325]

im finding myself spending hours watching your videos since discovering you awhile back. I was atruck driver for 20+ yrs so i know alone, and i miss being out there sometimes, so watching you travel and listening to your stories are all good so abig hug from your new fan frank from eastern iowa.

[@connievantravels]

I think preparation before a trip reduces the fear. Study the maps, have the gear, and double check the vehicle.

[@remotechris1553]

💜💜 You are awesome! I'm solo FT and totally agree that you have to get out there. Dont sit around and wait for someone to go with. Be FEARLESS 💜💜 thank you for spreading the good word.. much love to you..

[@caroldodson8258]

Do you have a KZbin channel?

[@remotechris1553]

Carol Dodson No. I don't a KZbin channel. I leave that to the professionals like Carolyn. :-)

[@sassystl287]

Love ur videos Carolyn, & good advice about fear, thank u for up lifting messages, I need them especially now, June 29th. I lost my son, suddenly, I've been in a slump, so watching you is helpful 💕

[@loiscassels8966]

Sassy STL I’m sorry for your loss.

[@pattyholley2711]

Sassy STL I lost my husband on the same day. We were suppose to do this retirement traveling thing together and now it's just me and the dog. I understand the slump thing. It's like a whole new world to get used to and not a fun one. I am praying for you hon....

[@jamierupert7563]

So sorry for your loss.

[@dreamzofhorses]

Everyone should spend at least one-night solo camping. I did once and like you thought I heard the chainsaw massacre people sneaking around in the dark outside my tent! My German Shepard was equally scared and we battled over the one sleeping bag to hide in! Didn't get much sleep that first night! LOL, The next day was beautiful, everything was fine, looked like a raccoon had gotten in the trash and that was the serial murderer right outside the tent in the dark! We stayed another 3 nights. The stars at night make me feel so much wonder. It was so gorgeous to wake up deep in the forest, hearing the birds and squirrels chattering, starting a campfire to heat up water for coffee and cooking breakfast outdoors. It's a deeply treasured experience I'll always remembe, almost spiritual. And what a self-esteem booster! Once you have done it, even just once, you have a new found confidence in yourself. It's worth it just to know you did and can.

[@stephanielong5970]

I haven't been camping since I was I'm girl scouts 😂😔. This story makes me really want to do it again.💪🌲🌼🌷🍁🏞⛺

[@drugtrader3933]

Great messages! Wanted to let you know that the Capone tee shirt is my son's favorite shirt. He is an adult with special needs, and now Capone goes to all of his dr. appointments with him. Be safe! God Bless.

[@allentowngal4769]

Great video! Just put house on the market and plan to go solo was soon as it sells. You are one of a few single nomads that have been a tremendous insight about what to expect on the road. Giving realistic viewpoints is essential to our education. Not just sugary "everything is rainbows and sunshine" out there. I greatly appreciate it.

[@tinfoiltiara7862]

allentown Gal congratulations to you! She has also inspired me to do the same. My house has sold, next step is finding a rig, and I should be hitting the road in 3-4 weeks.

[@jannwebb]

I’m waiting for my house to sell also!

[@angiewebb7538]

Have been living on our sailboat and just put it up for sale today. Then we are off!!

[@klee8960]

allentown Gal Me also as soon as I retire, except, I'm not going on you tube, but wouldn't mind meeting some other traveler's!

[@allentowngal4769]

congrats! Unfortunately the day I put it on the market it got water in the basement FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 20 YRS. We've had torrents here in PA. Hopefully it was just a fluke, and the house sells soon. Good luck to you!

[@lindarwilliams9498]

I have camped alone, loved it, I am a introvert and love that and myself. TFS 💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@johnlenz872]

Awesome video! Fear is so ingrained in every aspect of our culture. But, you are right; more often than not, the fear we experience is unfounded. It takes some practice to distinguish between fear and danger. They are not the same thing! Many times when I thought I was in danger, I had to take hold of my fear and say "Calm down. Think it through. Don't lose your head." The tipping point for me, camping in the woods and traveling by myself was, the moment when I craved the peace I felt, more than the fear I felt.

[@MsTigerseye77]

I'm moving up to camping alone. As a black woman in the South I know caution is required but i want that quiet time so i am going to go for it.

[@carmenwheatley7316]

Carolyn I really enjoy your videos and all the helpful information. You seem so upbeat and yes even up for a challenge. Yes many people let fears or What Ifs hold them back from achieving or trying new things. Happy camping to you and Capone.

[@MoonGypsy]

Yes ! please do a video on how to store veggies and fruits. I'm going full time in my van in two weeks. Part time work,part time play !

[@yoyomax12]

I am enjoying your videos very much. The location you filmed this video was stunning. Thank you for being fearless!

[@0110bound]

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[@tinfoiltiara7862]

Thank you Carolyn for bringing up the role the media has in shaping our minds and conditioning us to be fearful. I couldnt agree more. I stopped watching TV, the news and most movies about 5 years ago. I have noticed that I am far less fearfull now than I was when I was following mainstream media. And the baby steps....great advice!

[@HoneyandMe]

We own both a SPOT and an INREACH. If anyone is looking for something like that, go for the INREACH. SPOT only does year long contracts. INREACH you can pay as you go and not always have it on. It also offers lots of messaging options over SPOT. My husband uses it when he is out on our trapline so if he ever has issues, we can find him.

[@karamia5568]

Loved the video! Love the setting! I never tire of getting to know you and hear more of your experience. Thanks for sharing.

[@grimalkin5706]

Thank you Carolyn for mentioning my first real boondocking experience in the forest. I was nervous, but Carolyn’s videos and talks gave me the courage and desire to enjoy the outdoors that I love. Now being a widow I have learned that I can do things and trust myself to be able to accomplish and enjoy doing for myself. I am not helpless, but I had to prove that to myself. I stayed alone for a whole week and loved every minute of it. Since then I have driven from the East Coast to the West and back again, solo. I sincerely thank Carolyn for inspiring and instilling confidence in me that anyone with a strong desire can do it! You are amazing Carolyn and I will be internally grateful for your encouragement and guidance!

[@kathyadam9932]

CAROLYN. I so enjoy EVERYONE OF YOUR VIDEOS you keep them all fresh with new information. I never tire of them. Always excited to see the next one and never disappointed by any of them I admire you so much Keep safe as always and love CAPONE for me

[@thizizliz]

I've camped alone in tents in several states. Never in a camper, but it's totally worth it. I recommend starting in a campground with a host before boondocking. Be sure you can set up and use your equipment before you try total soloing. Take something to keep you company: books, radio, videos - something you will find comforting. Adjust to altitude a day or so before a strenuous hike. Take the time to appreciate your surroundings. Enjoy! Great video Carolyn. Good stuff.

[@kimberlypurcell9693]

Great FAQ segment. There has been a buzz about women out camping alone and it's so scary. Luckily, there are experienced women like you to dispel that. Keep your guard, to a degree, and be aware. I'm glad you addressed all these questions even though you have done so on a few already. Doesn't hurt to repeat and to give it to all the newbies. It seems to be a growing group. :)

[@mirjamoosterbaan9032]

Women travelling alone, whether it is camping or in a big city in a foreign scary (according to others) country .... people make you afraid. My dad was scared to death because I went to Bogota on my own (I was then 46 years old) trust yourself!!

Kimberly Purcell #1 never... never isolate as a woman so you can't get hurt or be put in a dangerous situation!! Not good for camp out to far alone.. just isn't good...too risky

[@joannepepe8512]

Kimberly Purcell, also Carolyn doesn't drink or drug. Her senses are as good as they can be.

[@kathyd1533]

I've just finished my first boondocking trip to Arizona and New Mexico. Thank you Carolyn. Being prepared and super aware of my surroundings allowed me to know myself better and learn to trust my instincts. I love being alone outside!

[@regenagroen4631]

Great Video as always Carolyn!!! YOU inspire a lot of ppl. specially us women!! & You go to the Most BEAUTIFUL spots. LOVE YOU & CAPONE!! Big HUGS to you both!!!!

[@lyndapoysor5573]

Your light shining through is showing your inner peace and joy. I enjoy seeing this very much. Hair looks good too, no offense intended lol. I like the sound of gulls at the opening on the beach. I spent 5 years alone in Mexico. I am 68 and my gut once told me very strongly there was a problem in the restaurant so I left. Just saying you can encounter bad people in the city too. Maybe a good place to practice safety tips is in the city. I am crazy too! Love you Carolyn. Thanks.

[@susieturk1]

I think the best compliment one of the best compliments I ever received was when everyone else is running from the fire you're running towards it I think a lot of people do deal with fear differently I look at it as an experience to grow.

[@bufflecat]

I love camping alone. I tent camp and going out alone was hard at first. it turned out that I love the wilderness much more than I was afraid. When I started out, I had a big Suburban with an automatic start feature. If I heard something during the night I would start up the truck from the tent and who/whatever it was left. I also could sleep in that truck if I was still nervous. Even now, I keep bear spray on hand. Not really for the bears. ;-) So worth being out there to face your fear. It gets much easier!

[@lynhanna917]

first time I went tent camping I bought bear spray for the two footed bears. I was told if I used it on a two footed bear that I would be charged. My comment was there isn't a court in this land that would convict an older single woman who was defending herself. Was I nervous - hell yes, but I had one tool to help keep me safe.

[@Vintagebeliever]

Thank you! I don't always agree with everything you say or do yet, I just love you and your adventurous spirit! And most of all your encouragement!

[@charlesbake6647]

Carolyn, I need to thank you. I travel vicariously with you and others, since my age and health limit my own options. I've noticed many asking about your relationships and frequent lack of same. I hope you continue doing whatever you darn well PLEASE. I've traveled abit here and in europe years ago, and those memories are truly precious. I recommend avoiding complications that would damage those memories. Good travels with our love keeping you company.

[@Pamela-ro8vh]

Carolyn, you were one of the first nomad channels I followed over a year ago. Your videos helped shaped our decision to go FT back in November. There are a lot of things I agree with you on & quite a few I don’t. However, this video is hands down one of the best vids from you & on KZbin. Wherever you were & where ever your head was at, it’s certainly your sweet spot, IMHO. I admire your gumption and your bravery. The part where you talk about not letting the encounter with the man terrify you b4 you went on the difficult stretch of the highway was brilliant. Somehow you managed not to let that get up & stay in your head once you were safe. If we all could learn that at a young age. Thank you. Kisses to Capone.

[@tammystours5171]

Excellent vid Carolynn! I have traveled quite a bit solo, went to the Dominican Republic, have always considered myself pretty fearless, but you take it to a whole new level! lol Because of your channel, I have been trying to camp more remote. Will be hitting the road in about 17 months, so practicing now. Couple weekends ago, found some boon docking down a road in the Rockies, it was great..no one around, and about 11 pm heard some coyotes in the distance..it was cool, was sort of a fun scared...not a miserable scared..enjoyed it :) Thank you for all you share, you look great and are truly an inspiration! Blessings!

[@freespiritvandweller]

I started out camping in a tent at a state park and campground in 2916 and I loved it ......So I decided to turn my mini van into a camper van. I went in the cooler months and really had a great time I knew I wanted to do this full time. So I just bought a 2005 Gulfstream Class C. I am make some change to it and hoping to hit the road in the next couple of weeks. I have learned so much from your channel. You are a inspiration to many and I thank you:-)

[@heatherrenton2086]

Great information. I love that you talk about the gray area and that you are dressed all in gray! Knowing your vehicle and educating your self in at least the basics of automotive maintenance and repair. I don't personally do any repairs but I have learned to identify various components and become familiar with how each operates. This helps me to recognize wear and ask questions, research, etc. You are so right about following your gut, the brain and the gut are connected. If you feel unsafe, then you need to do something about it, to feel safe again. Look for what is real, especially in the great outdoors, there is more to enjoy than to fear. You were right in your choice to leave the scary guy behind, you gut told you to leave and you did. You will never know for sure what his intentions were, and that is good, you felt like you needed to make a move to care of yourself and you did. It was very kind of you to share your story, your not instilling fear, you are assisting women to achieving freedom.

[@cristolmetro5092]

You look wonderful, happy and healthy. I am so happy to see you are back!!!

[@Randylj1]

I love your encouragement suggestions. This is something we all face- overcoming obstacles and fears. In 2012 on my own, I was driving through a small town in the mountains in Virginia, towing with my motorhome when my hitch came loose and my Jeep was suddenly not where it should be. Yes, I felt fear, but I have a lot of faith in myself and God! Two wonderful helpers came running and I was able to get my hitch reconnected and get back on the road. I could have been on the interstate. I just knew all would be well.

[@IRONMAN-kb4su]

Stumbled across your channel resarching RV stuff as we just bought our second RV . Love your channel , great vids keep up the great work !

[@Randylj1]

Hi Carolyn ~ Love the lake! Teespring is definitely on my ‘soon wish list’. Reading David Clark’s entry (and others below), I can say that at age 69 I can truly identify. I felt very brave driving my 32 foot Class C (since 2006) and towing my Jeep. My husband had Parkinson’s disease and we ended up in amazing areas out in the desert southwest. Now I am not less brave but just can’t do as much as I could before. You are so inspiring. I love seeing all of the different ‘nomadic’ lifestyles evolving now. It’s becoming a wonderful goal for many people and just being outdoors is very healing for everyone.

[@landseavideoescapes4502]

Another great video from you!! So smart and informative. Thank you, Carolyn.

[@willtravelusa8230]

Carolyn ... Great advice face your fear.... also your gut is your guide... Always enjoy your video's Thank you Lady...

[@janetfryeaifd1011]

Great video Carolyn, just filled with good info. Plus it's fun, shows your personality so well. Enjoy your adventure! I used freecampsites a couple of weeks ago for the first time & found a fantastic spot here in the East. The feeling of adventure, excitement, and sense of success was wonderful. Thanks for inspiring many of us.

[@gloria5873]

You are such an inspiration and a beautiful person. I love your videos and your wisdom. Thank you for sharing.

[@suekaiser4163]

I love your guts. THAT'S the way to get the best nuggets in life. Thanks, for all you do!

[@lolasaxby1399]

Great tips! Thank you!

[@sheilaruiz8451]

Great information for us solo gals. I've been watching you for a while now and really admire your courage. I also am greatful for your knowledge and your fun videos. Thank you for sharing important information to live as a nomad. I am a vanner since mid April 2018. These were all important issues you addressed. You give me the courage to continue on my journey of traveling and working remotely. Thanks again

[@kathyadam9932]

Yes, I have camped alone. My biggest fear was the big black bears were going to join me in the tent. Lol. I had to do a lot of self talk to get through the first night. Even though I grew up camping the fear was so overwhelming. I felt so good about myself for getting through this I love the Q & A each week. You always have so much to offer Thank you for all that you do.

[@grandma581]

As always great video !

[@shaftermike]

National Forests, especially in the west, are great for boondocking. USFS ranger stations are great places to find out what's allowed. They usually have miles of dirt roads that are all open for camping!!!

[@CBAmakingAusername]

I'm only just viewing this video now ,three years on .what a beautiful area x

[@shayhouk8582]

The only thing to fear, is fear itself ! Your a strong lady, that's why I like you !

[@AngieMiddleton]

I believe I know where you are. It’s always a challenge I love to try and figure out. And then you said utilities and I knew exactly where, it’s so beautiful out there. ☺️

[@penguinchick6563]

In my 2 years of vanlife (now rving) i have NEVER been scared! Once a guy tried to get in my van...i jumped up yelling, opened the door, scared HIM, and said "you almost guy shot dude"! He left and that was it.✌🐧

[@trilbyarnold3341]

Overcoming fear and anxiety takes practice, whether it's spending a night alone or facing a tough interview or an embarrassing situation. The most anxiety producing year and the one with the most growth was when I vowed to always face the anxiety whatever it was and go through the situation. I sweated bullets that year and learned grace under pressure, grew some courage and strength and lots of self confidence and empowerment.

[@rebeccatreeseed410]

I make peppermint or spearmint tea, 16 oz in a spritzer. Wonderful clean.

[@angiewebb7538]

Hi Carolyn! Great advice. Listening to you gives us strength. We learn to find our strength inside. We are capable of doing things we would normally not even consider doing. I've mostly camped and traveled with others. There was a time many years ago I was alone living in my car in Arizona. I at first stayed at campsites but was going to run out of money really quick doing that. I went up to the National forest in AZ. and found a spot and there was no one around. Talk about scared! A rabbit scared the shit out of me! As it got darker my thoughts turned to all the scary movies and stories I have ever heard. I barely slept. The next night I moved to another spot and decided I would not be scared because this is how was going to have to live for a while. I sang to myself, made a fire, ate some canned stuff and drank some beer(there is strength in alcohol! LOL) the more I did camp out the easier it became I did meet some people who were all very nice. On the first couple of nights I slept in my car(with the doors locked) I set up my pup tent after that. You do learn to listen to your gut and to this day I always listen even here in Florida. We are putting pics of our boat online tomorrow and hopefully, we will soon be on our way! I believe that we all have power inside us. Believe in yourself, love yourself and no that you will never hurt yourself. You can do this! We can do this! As the song goes "we are women hear us roar! In numbers too big to ignore!" It's all about living free, being free and letting things just be sometimes. Peace and Love to you and Capone and all the wonderful friendlies out there!

[@carolynclark588]

Enjoying the adventures ......a wealth of information and knowledge....thank you Carolyn.....take care now. ..

[@cheryl4860]

I always camp with my dog (currently a GSD) in my tent. It gives me a more secure feeling so I can relax and enjoy doing what I love.

[@itsdeanya]

I like the way that you talk about how some people are more risk-averse. What is so interesting is that some of those people engage in even more risky behaviors, like sleeping at WalMart, then blame you and other brave wonderful women like you for their own encounters there, when I NEVER see you staying at a WalMart. You've had some scary situations, but you take responsibility for more of them than you should. Please do the video on your veggie food storage! I have heard that glass storage is "miraculous" for veggies. Slimy greens freak me out, though, and I can't go there. You nailed it with the idea of little red riding hood. There is a lot of research on how most fairy tales were cautionary tales, especially for little girls: stay away from your step-father, don't be prettier than your step-mother, and there are wolves around every bend. And like you say something like in one of the other videos, crazy people encounter us every day in the real world, random shooters being one example. You don't have to be out in the woods for that to happen. Scary Guy is going to be encountered by Single Woman every so often: it's just the world, right. Great advice about driving out just to have lunch somewhere. I think many women have a fear of being alone, and then some also have unresolved issues about men and power (doh, who doesn't?). I see women get angry at being objectified by men, but these women wear makeup and nice jewelry that many men interpret as "hey, pay attention to me! I will be what you want me to be! I will be pretty for you!" Women who do not know what signals they are sending out should make a few honest men friends who will tell them. Once a woman is clear about her own power in relation to the kinds men have, she will not react in bipolar ways in outback situations. If a strange man comes to your campsite and shows you too much attention, that should be a red flag immediately: WTH is he doing here? What can he OFFER ME? You should not be offering to cook him dinner; you should be finding out what he wants and why he stumbled up to your campsite, trying to be so friendly. Once you are there a few days together in the area with no weirdness, maybe one of you can offer to cook or something, but if you imagine what your father or a secure man might do in the same situation, you'll be better off. IMO, women who are normally submissive in relationships, and want to take that attitude out onto the road with them, better...well, hell, better stay home. I was gonna say find a good tribe or camp in safer areas, but nowhere in the world is safe for a woman who needs to objectify herself to feel confident or happy. Yeah, I said it. ANYway, even once a woman is able to look a man square in the eyes as an equal and is able to project that "Don't F with me" energy, they STILL have to deal with our culture's beliefs that a woman should not be alone. If we're alone, we're supposed to be either unlovable, psychotic, or feeling guilty for not having or taking care of kids. BS BS BS BS. We're taught to have anxious attachment styles to men who are taught have avoidant ones, then we spend our lives chasing men's attention and power. A park ranger once asked me why I think more women don't camp. I told him that I camp because I had a grandmother who was a girl scout, and she used to take me out in the woods to hike all the time. He asked me why I thought that made such a difference. Because she taught me how to pee standing on the side of a hill and not pee into my shoes, I told him. A woman goes camping for the first time, pees into her shoes, she ain't never going back. Just saying. So there's a TON of reasons I can think of, why women can't get out there on their own and feel comfortable. I started camping out in the yard alone when I was a kid, then I did 4H camps for years, then with my first husband. After we split up, I still wanted to camp, so I started going alone. The nights in a tent 6 miles from the trailhead could be scary, especially with the weird animal noises, but after 3 or 4 nights, I started to recognize the animals. I swear to God, a loon sounds like Bigfoot attacking a duck or something. SERIOUSLY frightening, and me with my little can of bear spray tight in my hand. My scariest time was when I had spent 4 days over the weekend in a National Park, I thought far away from anyone, and I was hearing some people laughing, etc., my last night. The next morning before I left the site, I was hiking with my dog and I found a hunter's site on BLM land that bordered the park, LOADS of beer cans and whiskey bottles. And that was only scary because of what I thought might have happened, in my own mind, if I had been out moonlight trail walking, as I often did. They may have been nice guys who would have offered me a beer. Great good talk, as always. It's almost like being in skype with a friend. Thanks for always just being you.

[@wallyjordan5060]

Great information and beautiful camp!!

[@Itawee]

Your videos give me joy:)

[@barbhayes5613]

I purchased my camper van in late February of this year and have been mostly boondocking around the mid-Atlantic, Midwest, and South. i also just got back from a 3500 mile round trip out to Rapid City, SD (love the west, SO many boondocking choices!) Sure, I've found a few less-than-desirable spots (too noisy, too busy, etc.) but have only been creeped out so much that I had to leave on one occasion. My thought is, I can jump in the driver's seat and take off at a moment's notice if I feel threatened, so I just don't worry about it anymore. Your advice early on (always point your rig towards your escape route, don't leave anything outside you aren't willing to lose, and other bits of wisdom) gave me the courage to just do it. Thanks for sharing your journey - you got me started on my own. Cheers and safe travels.

[@elizabethconnolly6946]

you are sure right about media creating fear and the subtle underlying messages we get from other sources, whilst I don't Rv I have traveled alone and about to do it again, so some times you need a good motivator to move past any fear you have and mine is the fact my Son lives on the opposite side of the world to me, so to see him I have to travel alone and it is good for your self confidence to have to be self reliant. love your video's

[@sharigleissner5677]

Thank you for all the information you give to people. I'm trying to soak up as much as I can. Should be three years for my husband and I to hit the road. Thank you once again.

[@Jer062479]

I traveled alone for my birthday for the 1st time in life. Love your videos and what you talk about. So cant wait tell i can do more. Be happy be free and be happy ;-)

[@PatriseHenkel]

THANK YOU SO MUCH.for taking on the fear of wilderness! It IS a stubborn hangover of “the Big Bad Wolf.”

[@bettybrigance6784]

It's like.......yeaaaaa.....she's back on...😊.....I get happy, feeling free to be kind while watching your new video.......☺

[@zorazorazorzzora8333]

You’re just an all around BADASS... rewatching your vids... and some for the first time. I go on and off of KZbin from time to time....

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Well thank you for going back and revisiting. Glad you're enjoying them. :-)

[@robertomstead8984]

GOOD stuff. Thanks for sharing

[@esthersacilowski641]

Hi Carolyn! Sorry, have never camped alone! But your camp by the lake & mountains was breathtaking 👍 😉 ! Esther from N.Y

[@brownbearjamboree3087]

One important lesson that my husband learned from you is: Park so that you can easily pull forward, ready to leave if a bad situation arises. We always follow that advice now. Thanks!!!!

[@kodeywhitewolf5756]

Great video / great info / great encouragement for all

[@angelaforsyth1092]

Inspiring talk, thanks Carolyn.

[@sharonnorris4258]

Excellent video, thanks for sharing!! I'm hitting the road soon and I'm sucking up all the info I can get, and you've been a great help!

[@pennylee6569]

Thanks for sharing your information on thing's love yah Carolyn

[@linsweet2257]

Thanks for the videos.

[@sophialove7245]

Love your videos and information! ;)

[@lifeofliz1650]

Great video Carolyn. A lot of good advice and guidance on nomadic living.😘😘😘

[@MoMo-jl9mg]

I am a 53 year old woman and I camp alone with my 2 pups all the time. My dogs are not much help when it comes to defending me. I have been partner free for a long time and got to the point that I am not waiting to do the things I love because I am alone. So one day off I went and omg it was amazing. I have not stop tent camping and now I want to become a RVer. I think I got over my fear by just doing it and not allowing my inner voice to stop me. I just talk to my self and let myself know it will be ok. It helps to watch positive videos like yours as well.

[@sandramccoy491]

What a beautiful place . Enjoy your video . It's real helpful

[@tinlizzy39]

Thanks again for another great video and view. Thanks for Capone at the end!😁💗

[@rebeccatreeseed410]

I grew up in the backwoods, so I am pretty brave in the woods. In town, more cautious, but never stayed home out of fear. I run from danger! I am still alive at 64. I tend to ACT when danger shows up, instinctively, and without townie "be nice girly" prohibitions.

[@alicial6072]

I'm 56, I travel alone most of the time, not in remote places like you do but I wouldn't hesitate to stay in that spot your are at now it's beautiful, when I have to go away for business I always take advantage of the free air fare and go a couple days early to explore, of course I always stay in hotels, but I rent a car and go and explore. I've been driving up and down the east coast by myself since I was in my early 20's, never felt scared its amazing how many women I know who have said they would never travel alone on the interstate, I just went from Delaware to Maine back in June. Boondocking is almost non existing in this area I would have to travel to WV to reach disperse camping too far for only just a week , so I camp in state parks. I agree baby steps but listen to your instincts and check out your surrounding, I think the only time I was afraid was when I thought I saw two coyotes while I was walking dogs at night while camping in Maryland, I was afraid for my dogs not for me, we don't really have dangerous animals in Delaware.

[@SSandtheRVCats]

Those questions you covered were very helpful. Thank you.

[@elainemcelroy8829]

I think that a little fear is actually a good thing. It helps keep us alert to our surroundings and ready to react if needed. I am not talking about shaking in your boots fear, but rather, just enough fear to keep us from getting too comfortable, just enough fear to keep us aware of our surroundings. I am married, so I never camp alone, but I do go for walks alone and do day hikes alone. I also shop alone, which is probably a lot more dangerous than hiking alone. I am probably guilty of being too comfortable walking across parking lots. I need to work on that.

[@luciovidaurriiii9314]

Thank you Darlin great video ! REALITY !

[@michellewilloby8448]

Great information, and such a beautiful view...

[@mariannebrown1560]

PS I meant to tell you, I used to camp alone in a tent up in Washington. Many of the same people referred to in my previous post issued the same warnings, including "it's dangerous for a woman alone." The worst thing that happened was a flat tire fixed by a young man who drove 30 miles to town with my punctured tire, got it fixed and brought it back and installed it on the car. People were wonderful to me. No one ever threated or harrassed me. I had to stop because the car died and I nearly did, from CHF. I'm fine now, but never have been able to get another car. Thanks, Caroline, for this heartening and encourage discussion on fear.

[@patriciarussell7487]

I admire that you are real. You seek nature ,not people! And you are brave!!💖

[@janethope1498]

I am in the process of saving to pay cash for my RV. I retire 09/01/19. I have never camped alone so I do plan to take short trips first and then head west. I will not let fear stop me. I think the gut feeling and common sense is the most important tools to take with me. I am one of those crazy people that get angry at myself if I let fear take over. I was scared of storms and when I was around 18 yrs old I stood out in the middle of a storm and faced it (not telling any one to do that). Now I love storms and find them very relaxing. I love your videos they are very informative and entertaining LOL Thank you for letting us hang with you.

[@allythereindeer8242]

I think the biggest thing that allows me to live without fear is to be logical about my fears. What things are possible where I will be and what can I logically do to limit my risk without giving up the adventure? I’m not going to take unnecessary risk, but I’m also not going to give up an amazing adventure because of possible risk. Prepare and enjoy! ❤️

[@djspeer9756]

Love the duck video bombing. Just a swimming....lol

[@Stacy10962]

Hi Carolyn! I've been traveling solo full time in my Rv for 8 months now. I do tend to be an adventurous person and I have often been called brave. There are times I do feel afraid, but as a person who is into spiritual enlightenment, one thing I've learned is that fear is the enemy. When we start running scenarios through our minds about what could happen, we actually attract negative situations in our lives. So when I find myself doing that I stop and go the other direction. I run positive scenarios through my mind. And yes, we need to trust our gut and take appropriate action if we really are feeling true danger. But like you, I haven't had any real issues in my 8 months of traveling. Yes, I've had homeless people knock on my door in walmart parking lots, I've seen some sketchy looking characters, but nothing has happened. And I also think it has a lot to do with our outlook, because I believe I am safe, therefore I am safe.

[@yoyomax12]

So much fear! Yes, media has made people so fearful of everything. Enjoyed this video! You are an awesome speaker.

[@TheJcrandazzo]

Media is doing you a favor.. Never get complacent, this world is very dangerous, stay on guard and you should be OK.. On guard doesn't mean to be living in fear .

[@travelingtheresa6212]

Sadly the media is only amplifying the actual demented acts being carried out by people who share our world. It is reality. Carolyn is correct in the things she is saying. Always be vigilant and prepared. But we MUST live our lives fully at the same time.

[@GypsyBrokenwings]

My fear is connected to the fact I have a class A (1983) 35 ft RV. The turning around factor if I were to find a road was too narrow..or winding ..having to back a long distance...or the getting it stuck somewhere. I'm not at a financial point where I could downsize to a smaller RV (that's as sound as this one).

[@suzannescott3550]

All I can say is You are quite the woman!!!! Very inspiring video! Love following your Alaskan trip!

[@hannahrosa5485]

I couldn't do what you do.I saw Deliverance. You are courageous and you are having fun too. Good on ya.