Fat Acceptance is FALLING APART

[@heylookitsmegananne]

Hey that gal looks familiar (edit: my dad bought me the chair for my birthday LMAO)

[@RachelReduces]

Yesssss indeed! Girlie with the hoodie is really cute 😘

[@heylookitsmegananne]

@@RachelReduces It's a Meg Thee Stallion hoodie 😏🤩

[@andeatit2]

Megan Anne Thee Stallion

[@laurenfinley731]

bestie ily !!!!

[@RachelReduces]

@@heylookitsmegananne hahahaha! I love that! You gotta teach me how to dance with dem Meg knees! 😜

[@Delightfulshallot]

In 2022, I was 200 pounds in February at 5'4. I was browsing KZbin and lizzo had some big girls tv series ad, I threw away the candy bar I was eating, cleaned out my cupboards of trash food, and shopped for healthy foods and went keto. Now 11 months later I am 136 pounds, and getting close to my 120 pound goal, and hope to achieve in the next few months. I also have hypothyroidism and pcos, and will not use those medical issues of why I cannot lose weight to. Update, I am down to 127 pounds and still going to reach and maintain my goal. Second update, I am down to 120-121 pounds, and my doctor is happy and wants to monitor my weight now, and use me as an example for other patients that have hypothyroidism and PCOS.

[@Zionandfriends]

Girl🎉

[@genclaire9519]

wow amazing job!

[@karilnowak7962]

I think the reason keto works so well for some people is because much of their weight gain is from excessive sugars and carbs in their old diet, not necessarily lack of .portion control. By clamping down on the carbs, they break the bad habits and substitute food that is higher in nutritional value and fiber and more satisfying. The point is that strictly limiting certain foods can be easier for some people than trying to eat them in moderation. If they're not in the pantry, you can't eat them. Don't go down the store aisles where the cookies and chips are, don't look at the dessert and ice cream freezers. Think about what proteins and vegetables you want to cook and learn new recipes. Roast or sauté vegetables in good quality olive oil with herbs or garlic to bring out their flavor. Find things you can prepare in 10-30 minutes (there are many) or make food that takes longer on the weekend when you have more time. You don't have to have a keto diet.

[@Delightfulshallot]

@@karilnowak7962 in away, if your blood type o, then keto will work, since blood type o is the hunters and gathers blood. I am blood type o and eating like my ancestors. All the other blood types were introduced when people started to farm crops, which paved way for the blood b group, which is best suited for the vegetarian life style, and blood type a is between.

[@Delightfulshallot]

@@karilnowak7962 the keto is my lifestyle and not a diet anymore and my pantry and fridge is keto foods. My doctor sees that I am doi g alot better, and want me to continue, since my lab results are some of the best that she has seen.

[@QueeferSutherland1]

The women who say they don't have any weight issues are usually in their 20's, I'm 48 and have been fit all my life and I'm noticing certain things due to age so these women are going to get a big shock when they reach their 30's and 40's.

[@virginiaviola5097]

If….

[@amandanelsen9243]

If they make it

[@BloodSweatandFears]

I hurt my neck sucking up water too fast the other day 😅😂 I’m fit and in my mid thirties

[@yvonnemcgee2599]

They are fulling them self being fat is healthy one day bad health is going to catch with them

[@tia_ln]

Correct. It didn’t hit me until 35. Reality check!

[@tilda3141]

Prioritising your health is a form of self love

[@POV18]

Please scream this from the rooftops!!!!

[@mosesyang4222]

Obesity is healthy

[@ObesetoBeast]

Agreed

[@inuyasha054]

i LOVE this comment because 100%

[@Confettifun]

If that is the case, why arent there any channels that call out skinny-fat people? People who are “healthy” bmi but eat shit, dont work out, and have the so much visceral fat that they have the same risk as morbidly obese people for diabetes, heart disease, etc.

[@DoingStuffWithDiana]

“It’s not fatphobic to care about your health. “ PREACH SISSSSS

[@macromunji]

I cannot express how GOOD it feels to be HEALTHY. It feels GOOD to run FAST. It feels GOOD to jump HIGH. It feels GOOD to be STRONG.

[@courtneyr6645]

💯

[@miriamhavard7621]

​@@courtneyr6645Amen!!!!!

[@teya5430]

It feels good to walk fast, it feels good to jump at all more than 2 cm (or 1 inch for the overseas) high, it feels good to lift your heavy shopping bag. I'm clearly not as healthy as you are (addictions mainly and joint problems, I can run but I regret it the other day) but I "feel" how much better I feel than those fat acceptance folks. A granny (if she's healthy) probably feels better than them. I guess my alcohol withdrawal felt better than they do on the daily. I had an obese friend, she was ok and all but when we walked together at her pace... I felt like I was getting tired faster than normal. Plus she barely breathed, because she smoked so much. I'm a smoker too but I don't have these issues. The only time I had to walk this slow was during opioid withdrawal. Because everything felt like hell. And I guess, for these folks everything feels like hell. Edit: I know, I'm a smoker and I'm probably gonna get lung cancer. Believe it or not, we smokers know it! But I don't mind. Btw, I vape more and smoke less! And I'm having alcohol problems right now. I'm trying to switch to pot only.

[@Sandra-Renea]

There have been other HAES content creators who just quit social media and lost weight in private when their health started to fail. Good for Gabriella for stepping up and admitting her mistake.

[@notyourfrind9415]

Where do you think Tess Holiday is? That's why she cooked up that lie about being anorexic. She's busy losing weight and whe she comes back, she'll blame her alleged anorexia.

[@Vincenza8907]

This is so dangerous though. They are telling very young and impressionable people that you can be any size with no bad effects, and then just ghost everybody??

[@spOOkytimes]

On one hand it is super irresponsible to do this and not tell people like Gabriella, but, on the other, these HAES extremists will relentlessly bully and send their followers to spread hate on people who go against them, especially people the see as "traitors". They will mass report and get things taken down too. I think a happy medium is announcing a weight loss journey and promptly leaving social media. They seemed to have no issue leaving anyway so why not set the record straight before disappearing.

[@notyourfrind9415]

@@Vincenza8907 money talks, morals walk.

[@Vincenza8907]

@@notyourfrind9415 yes, but you can be moral when you make money. There’s no excuse for this gross behavior.

[@jaelee5268]

‘The reason I could stick to my weight loss goals was bc I loved myself enough to change’ 👏

[@arctic_desert]

I saw a shirt in the gym once that said "I don't go to the gym because I hate myself. I go to the gym because I love myself." and I got misty eyed lol

[@philadrian7618]

So I’m currently 500 pounds and I’ve recently decided to finally make a lifestyle change, (no it’s not a new year resolution) and begin intermittent fasting and using common sense about what I eat. I was out with my best friend and we were thinking of something to do, when I started apologizing to him because we’re limited in what we can do because I’m so big. We couldn’t go to the movies because I don’t fit in the seats. We couldn’t go bowling because I can’t even tie my damn shoes and I wasn’t about to make him do that in public. We can’t go to certain restaurants because I check yelp and see that I won’t fit in the chairs. I always feel like a spectacle when I walk into places and I can see people looking at me and it’s just humiliating. I’m rambling now but all this to say I told my friend that I promise to lose weight. First and foremost for better quality of life for myself, but also to stop letting my limitations ruin things for other people as well. Anyway I’m glad I found your videos again. Be blessed John.

[@maryhamric]

This is the foundation for success! Way to go Phil! Go for it!!! You can do it!

[@andeatit2]

Hey, I lost 102 lbs this past year and it was a New Year's Resolution. Hoping we're both 100 lbs lighter next year! I know you can do it. 💪🏻

[@fullmooneve1651]

You deserve more of this life than reduced activities, Phil, go forth and best wishes with your journey 😊❤️

[@rebel4466]

Try staying away from processed stuff and also (sounds a bit weird) from artificial sweeteners as much as possible. Also don't push yourself too hard. Walking already is enough of a strain on your body. Most "normal sized" people wouldn't be able to move with your kind of weight put onto them, so it's definitely enough of a workout. It might seem ridiculous to you not to push yourself, but an injury will set you back months. It's simply not really worth it. You can do it though, even if you relapse at one point. Just get back on track. No giant feat comes without issues

[@fullmooneve1651]

@@rebel4466 I agree on artificial sweetener. It just makes you crave sugar more

[@andeatit2]

I have gotten so much hate for my choice to lose weight. 102 lbs later, don't care and looking towards the next 100 lb loss. But yeah it's kinda crazy how far the pendulum has swung that just wanting to lose weight is considered a terrible thing.

[@KaylaShaye]

congrats on your weight loss! :)

[@andeatit2]

thanks!

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

You lost ME. Literally. That's my weight. Holy crap... that's so freaking impressive 👏 🙌 What changes did you make??

[@andeatit2]

@Absolutely Ridiculous I have binge eating disorder because of a lot of pretty extreme abuse throughout my life. The answer was therapy.

[@dahliacheung6020]

Whoo! I'm in the same place as you. 100 down and I have 100 to go, also struggling with binge eating disorder. Wish you all the best on your journey!

[@rachelzoldan1282]

I remember being a 250 pound 12 year old kid. My parents sent me to a cross country traveling camp for the summer with daily trips to theme parks, rock climbing, zip lining bungee jumping. I had anxiety over my weight 24/7 I couldn’t even enjoy the hotels sleeping at night because I would stay up and think about how I was going to survive the activities next day or how I’m going to be embarrassed and laughed at when the attendant told me the water slide had a 230 pound limit. It scarred me in such a bad way and I started losing weight out of hatred of myself but it wasn’t necessarily a bad thing because as the weight came off i shed the weight of my anxiety and 24/7 mental turmoil and started loving myself. So the journey resumed with self love. I think it’s okay to start with extreme disappointment in yourself because realistically it’s a negative behavior that has to be broken with force.

[@rubyrootless7324]

honestly not disappointed in you at all, moreso your parents... who lets their 12-old even get to that point where they are physically inhibited by their weight and experience mental turmoil because of it, dang... that must have been an awful and scarring experience for you.. Glad you're doing better now. Sending much love, take good care.

[@andriab8517]

@@rubyrootless7324 I was thinking the same thing. To let your child get to the point of 250lb at 12yr old is insane to me

[@Teenywing]

I remember weighing 155 in grade 6. I’m only 5’3”, female and the only fat girl in the class. I was treated so badly by everyone including my parents and sister. Everyone hated me for being fat. I lost the weight once I got through puberty but that started a life long battle within myself of feeling super morbidly obese even at 100 pounds. I have had severely disordered eating all my life and now one of my 5 kids is chubby and I see him suck in his tummy and it breaks my heart. I love him so much and it just kills me that he has feelings about being chubby. I don’t even know what to do. I adore my kids and I just want them to be free in their minds and not like me.

[@andriab8517]

@@Teenywing I would recommend encouraging him to go out WITH you to play, play sports or whatever to get him moving. Kids want time with mom & dad and would probably be stoked to have a day with mom playing basketball or going to the park etc

[@selbybee]

@@andriab8517 i second this! when i started to get a bit chubby as a kid and really noticed and began to feel self-conscious (thank you, ballet) my dad started jogging so i would ride my bike next to him. not only was it fun and got me more active and eventually a bit more comfortable in my skin, my dad never stopped jogging and as an adult, i’ve just started jogging, too 🥰

[@vickiemoore8181]

When you decide to make a change it is always a “threat” to those around you who also need change but are just not ready. Change is uncomfortable! You have to put your health first. Good for the folks standing up and saying this is the reality of treating your body poorly year after year!

[@Moose92411]

I found the sane thing when I started lifting weights. Suddenly I became obsessed and too big and too strict with my diet and social... on and on, because I made a change that some folks around me couldn't make for themselves.

[@mariereau3783]

I gave up on drinking alcohol, and my dad started ranting around, joking, like, what's wrong with you? you got hypnotised by someone? did you hit your head? blah blah For him it was like I limit my pleasure (his pleasure in fact), but I just didn't want to feel bad anymore because of alcohol. And the only reason he was so triggered by this fact so much is him feeling threat: I can do the right thing and he can't.

[@Moose92411]

@@mariereau3783 ain't that just a bitch? You do something demonstrably positive for your health, which impacts exactly nobody else in the world, and you get stigmatized for it. Good for you 👊

[@thoughtquake7516]

This reminds me of the backlash Rebel Wilson received for losing weight. She was very honest about wanting to be healthier and take better care of herself. It's not bad enough that she had to worry about whether she still would have a career once she was no longer 'the funny fat chick' but she also got grief from a bunch of people who wanted her to remain big so that she could continue to 'inspire' them and make them feel ok about their own size. You have to live your own life, not live it for other people.

[@teijaflink2226]

I feel in the end it's just about jellousy because they themselves can't do it but instead of feeling the shame they try to turn it to them being right instead.

[@Avarcirith]

A couple of my friends said some nasty, hurtful things to me when I lost a good amount of weight in college. It’s been 10 years, and I’ve lost those friends but have kept the weight off. Sometimes I miss those two, but all in all I’d say the situation worked out for the best.

[@starlettdragon]

Adelle too. She got so much hate from people saying she was an inspiration for her size and they felt she had betrayed them.

[@spOOkytimes]

@@starlettdragon yes! People were literally saying that "there is no one left besides Lizzo". I understand some were just talking about fat representation in mainstream media, but it is not their job to represent people at the expense of their health.

[@fakeituntilkingdomcome]

This also occurred with Doja Cat. Back before she blew up as an artist, she was way heavier than she is now. I’ve seen people literally complain about the fact that she lost weight because she suddenly wasn’t as “relatable” to them as she once used to be. Saying things like “I miss when she looked like me 🥹” … Some even having the audacity to say that she looked better/more attractive when she was thicker. What ticks me off about that is if I can recall correctly, Doja Cat mentioned that she was hella depressed back then and just overall was struggling with a lot in her life. Which makes me come to the conclusion that her weight might have been the result of her poor mental state. Now, she is rich and successful, so she has access to all the mental health services she may need, as well as nutritionists/dietitians and personal trainers who could help keep her physical health in check. How can her so-called fans be upset about that? They should be happy for her! She’s probably way better off now mentally than she ever was in her whole life but they can’t get over the fact that she’s not plus-sized anymore. Just like other commenters said, I think it’s just another case of misery loving company.

[@LorraineVirginie]

The “wanting you to stay fat and miserable too” is so spot on. And I think it’s hard for people to recognize that in themselves cause it’s not even always something we consciously want. But I’ve been overweight my whole life, I would never actually wish bad things on my friends and family, but because of how insecure I have been about my body I would feel “bad” seeing people start to take care of themselves and lose weight… because it just reminds you that you aren’t/can’t do it. And on the flip side you feel “good” in a way seeing people struggle with the same things you do because it validates you and makes you feel less alone. Objectively I don’t want my friends to be sad and have poor health any more then I want it for myself but those thoughts just kinda happen when you spend so long living with yourself as bottom priority and hating yourself.

[@watchesfromedges]

You are watching this channel, so you are coming to terms with yourself even if you can't see it yet. You have the insight to know you want to change, to understand why you think the way you do. Being here is the first step toward taking control of your physical and mental health, you really are not alone. Don't be afraid to challenge those negative feelings about yourself, you are just as precious as anyone else and have just as much right to joy in your life, I hope you can move forward to a brighter place.

[@questioneverything1776]

Really appreciate your vulnerability and exploring how you relate to yourself and the world. That’s a big deal and very positive. You deserve to be happy and healthy in your body and mind and it should never be weight loss at any cost AND there are many reasons why one is carrying extra weight so it’s not that simple AND it doesn’t mean you have to be a skinny minnie either as there are many thinner ppl that are not healthy. Embrace your journey and keep moving forward ❤

[@maryhamric]

This is relatable.

[@LorraineVirginie]

@@watchesfromedges thanks for your kind comment. After decades of struggling to stay consistent with healthy habits I finally got diagnosed with adhd and started medication and it’s changed my life. I can set goals and commit to them longer term now. I’ve lost more weight than I’ve ever managed to lose in one go already and things aren’t always perfect but it’s so much easier to get back on track when I start to slip now and set myself up for success proactively. Working on everything & I’ve been in therapy for years. Learning about yourself and thought patterns and habits is a lot of work and even more to change them but I’m trying!

[@Bravetreee]

Gosh.. you just spoke my whole life Bless your heart ❤ I’m rooting for you!

[@wallhagens2001]

Aging + Extra Pounds = Pain. At 55, my knees hurt ALL the time until I lost 25 pounds. Aging and pain are real and don’t care how accepting you are about your weight.

[@esteehanvey5647]

so true that meaningful change never starts with self hate… it always starts with self compassion!!

[@sophie_anna]

Damn, I just looked up the creator on TikTok and the amount of negative responses and people taking everything the wrong way and just sh*tting on her is astonishing… It’s like people just decided to stop listening to their common sense, so bizarre… Like the mental gymnastics they have to do all the time.

[@amysmiles9751]

that is really sad. Just wait until there friends start having heart attacks. I'm 46 And I have personally had 4 friends die of a heart attack and they didn't even know they had health problems and weren't that over weight either, scary

[@joeshmoe3907]

Not surprised. Tiktok is a cesspool

[@mochi_salamanders]

I don't think purposely seeking fatness is ever healthy. You can be morbidly obese and beautiful. But you CANNOT be healthy long term. Science and obesity related risks for disease are real things, and somehow, we've questioned that as those who are tired of the pressure to be thin have overcompensated and gone in an entirely unhealthy direction. Love yourself enough to be realistic when it comes to weight loss or gain. But above all...BE HEALTHY!!!

[@erinn6687]

Got me thinking, it's not exactly healthy to fixate on purposely being any weight at all. Body weight is a product of many factors, lifestyle being just one of them. Better to focus on feeling full and satisfied with foods, moving as much as you're able in ways you enjoy, just living life and giving your body what it needs. That's within personal control. The number on the scale is none of your business.

[@mochi_salamanders]

@Erin N as long as mobility and wellness aren't affected, I could give a fig about the scale reading. But HAES is very much about disregarding warning markers imo. I am 6 ft 210, a large 14 or average 16, and am proportionate. Having said that, I have a very bulky genetic naturally and can really put weight on if I lift heavily. This impacts my joints and ability to sleep even though most would only visually characterize me as lightly overweight. It's really about how your body feels, if you have full and comfortable mobility, and are also at least risk for disease.

[@zitronentee]

@@erinn6687 The number of scale may not matter. But glucose level, fat percentage, muscle percentage, mobility matter.

[@lalailm]

I agree. Ofc this excludes to a certain extent people who are really jnderweight and recovering from a serious restrictive ED. But those obese fat activists that we see on tiktok eating junk food in huge quantities and proudly flauting this lifestyle are, in my opinion, killing themselves slowly and only bc they are too proud and stubborn to admit that they need to change.

[@mochi_salamanders]

@@lalailm 💯 exactly!

[@kaylenn52090]

I didn't lose 135 pounds for immediate health reasons. I lost it for the future and because of my family history of health problems. I didnt want to experience what I have seen some family members experience because of their weight.

[@K.aterina]

The fact that they say u don’t love yourself if u choose to lose weight blows my mind. I was an overweight teen and got bullied. I lost weight after I made friends who didnt call me fat and included me in activities. I started to love my body and wanted to enjoy my life to the fullest. What worked for me was being in a good place mentally.

[@explore_with_em_x]

Me and my fella started hiking at the start of 2021 for our weight and our Mental Health. It’s changed us as people, physically and mentally and to say it caused a lot of jealousy is an understatement. People couldn’t understand why we didn’t want to go out drinking and eating all the time and why we spent all our free time outdoors. They called us boring and made fun of us so much. Just because we changed our lifestyle. People HATE to see others doing better then them. They hate to see people change for the better. I think that a lot of the time is why people don’t want to change. They’d rather be a part of a movement or part of the crowd. I personally think that’s boring. The experiences I’ve had in 2yrs because of my changes will forever outweigh anything I’d done up until that point. Change is hard. But it can be the greatest thing you’ll ever do. Step out of your comfort zone and do something that will make others talk. That’s when you know that you’re doing something right.

[@heyadora6707]

I’m 23 now and have been 100 pounds over weight for 4 years I’m so happy to lose this weight not because I hate my fat but because I love my health.

[@emmakereszturi]

“but because i love my health” YES!!! good luck on your journey, i’m rooting for you!❤❤

[@heyadora6707]

@@emmakereszturi Ty 🥰

[@Shannon_Vlogs]

18 minutes in and you can’t convince me that anybody is a better motivator than John

[@ObesetoBeast]

lol too kind

[@josephgalvez5048]

I started smoking when I young, under 18, and continued to do so fairly heavily for many years. I told myself it was fine, I didn’t have any health problems right now. As I got older, I came to grips with reality; if I continue to do this harmful thing, there will be major consequences for my health and quality of life, so I quit. I applied the same logic to my weight, it’s never too late to dedicate yourself to good health.

[@rachelmaddowswife8713]

I think you hit on a really good point about women turning to fat acceptance/bo-po because society judges them based on what men think of their appearance. I think it's unfortunate that so many of these young women decided to lean into that objectification even more rather than taking the feminist approach of rejecting sex appeal as the measure of their worth as people. If they focused more on what makes them truly happy rather than what they look like, I think it would lead to more healthy behavior because they'd want to have a body that allows them to do the jobs and hobbies that they love. Also, fat activists putting out statements like "just as many men want to fuck me" are ultimately self defeating because they're so easy to disprove. Everyone on the planet has different dating prospects, some of us have a bigger dating pool than others and it's just a fact of life. Pretending otherwise is just setting yourself up for disappointment and low self esteem. The good news is almost everyone can find at least one person to be their partner, focus on building a great life with that person rather than trying to compete in this superficial instagram arena.

[@tektako]

The irony is that the ‘fat acceptance’ fatties still default to presenting themselves in an overtly sexualised manner eg tess holliday.

[@rachelmaddowswife8713]

@@tektako Yeah, that's my point. When someone tries to tear them down by insulting them for being unattractive and "unfuckable" (because men have it in their heads that it's the worst thing you can tell a woman..), they should just shug and walk away, and go back to their fulfilling lives. Instead they're buying into this sexist idea that women should only be valued by how attractive they are to men. Their response is usually "no I'm not, everyone wants to fuck me, including you!", which is simply untrue and baits the bullies into harassing them some more. The more women of all sizes are able to stop seeking external validation, the happier they'll be.

[@thebaddestogre-3698]

It has a lot less to do with men than you think. How many men do you see watching fashion shows or beauty competitions? Women are doing it mostly to themselves competing with other women

[@rachelmaddowswife8713]

@@thebaddestogre-3698 Yes, but they're competing with other women *for men*. That's what they are bragging about in this movement, how appealing they are to men and how they have no problem getting men to sleep with them. That's the only thing they can point to to boost their self esteems unfortunately. Who here is talking about high fashion runway shows? When was that mentioned in the vid?

[@allthatsheiz]

@@thebaddestogre-3698 to an extent you are correct. But both men’s standards and women’s competitions contribute for sure.

[@meh_lady]

I’m about to turn 49 and was 230lbs at 5’2” by the time I took control in 2019. I was always very healthy by all metrics, even at my highest weight. Luck and genetics were on my side. But I quite suddenly started feeling terrible, riddled with several migraines a week and constant exhaustion. It comes at you FAST with age and vitals aren’t the full picture. I cannot fathom how much worse I would have felt with another 100+ pounds stacked on that. I lost 85 pounds in about a year and have kept it off for three years now. It transforms every aspect of your life.

[@DowntownTasty]

I honestly LOVE when people leave that group. It’s like they’ve had some spiritual awakening and are finally thinking clearly and being honest. But they are low key kind of leaving a CULT

[@johannas.l.brushane2518]

Indeed, I posted a wish in the comments at "The Behaviour Panel" when they had an episode on Charles Manson if they could do a take on Virgie T.

[@stacyq7656]

I’m 45 with 50 lbs to lose. It really catches up as you age!!

[@Zionandfriends]

I’m 40 and it took me almost a year to lose 60lbs. You’re right, it does get harder after 40. I’m working on losing the final 25lbs this year. Keep at it Stacy❤️

[@rebel4466]

@dee h. Honestly, for those people it might be a "no awakening".

[@KETODiamond]

I totally get it, I was a "BBW" model, til I was dying and so uncomfortable. This movement irritates me to much. Sure I was pretty, but my health went down hill fast from 27 to 37.

[@erilyn262]

Ive had problems for a long time i used to be very skinny and fit, i was a runner and played other sports. I was still always larger than my friends die to my frame and people would call me fat. (I was 5'9 and weighed 130 btw) when i got preg i gained a lot of weight and couldnt get it off. I had a dr tell me i needed to eat less so only ate once a day and ot was 1200 calories or so. I still couldnt lose weight. I have a growth on my adrenal gland and my family has a history of thyroid disease. My doctors refuse to look into the growth and refuse to test my thyroid. I got to 304 pounds at my highest. I started actually eating and lost 50 pounds so far. I stopped eating again and gained 15. Watching your videos have encouraged me to start eating again and keep doing it because thats what i need to do to lose weight.

[@tastas02]

Can't even imagine getting hate for losing weight. I'm one year in on my journey, down 175lbs, and have received nothing but love so far. You're doing a great job inspiring others, keep it up. Peace

[@Goonerette75]

I think that the HAES community need a reality check. Carrying that much weight to the point where the joints become damaged cannot be a great thing. Having been overweight myself in the past, I knew deep down it wasn't for the good of my health and making excuses saying that I was big boned was my comfort zone. I honestly don't think anyone from HAES looks forward to being someone mobile one minute and then becoming immobile the next. They need to listen to this lady and understand that they are eating themselves to ill health and things will progressively get worse if they continue on the trajectory of this illusion.

[@robertfarrow5853]

I stopped eating all factory made food. I eat home made. I eat pasta, bread, potato. I don't eat vegetable oils, they are toxic. Butter, lard, dripping. I make cakes without sugar, just raisins,sultanas, cococa powder. I've lost 58 lbs in 9 weeks without being hungry. What is in the chemical factory food? Learn to Crockpot cook, it's so easy! I never knew I could!

[@888empressofwands]

I literally start to have heart issues(Chest pain) my ankles swell so it hurts to walk if I eat too much smh my body won’t even let me go over 170 without complications…Everyone body is different…I’m so glad I lost the weight myself ❤I love this topic of health.

[@suna2317]

As someone with PCOS and insulin resistance, the fat acceptance movement was so appealing to me around age 19-24 because it gave me a way to think about my weight gain as ‘out of my control so just let it be’. While it’s true that my PCOS has cause a majority of my weight gain, I still don’t think it was a good mentality to have. It pushed all the responsibility on the disease rather than me and stopped me from putting the work in on my end. Now I’ve maintained 270lbs for around a year or so, I’m working hard on it but I’m still physically miserable. The back pain and symptoms with PCOS have progressed further. It’s good that I haven’t gained more but it’s difficult to lose any. I wish I relied more on health resources that were available to me when I was younger instead of thinking with a ‘fat acceptance’ ideology. Props to all you guys for seeing through all the fat acceptance bs. It pushes a dangerous mentality to fat people who are struggling, to just give up and not work hard on your health.

[@janieb5208]

So why aren’t you losing weight then?

[@Delightfulshallot]

I have pcos and hypothyroidism,and I started keto in February last year, and it has helped go from 200 pounds to 136, and still losing to get to my goal at 120 for my height at 5'4. Keto is one of the best life styles to help with pcos. Check dr.bergs channel to get started.

[@blablaklabautermann7578]

Maybe lifepluscindy heute in KZbin is a helpful channel for you. Cindy also has PCOS and already lost a lot of weight and still continues to do.

[@suna2317]

@@Delightfulshallot I tried keto before but the amount of red meat and fats in the diet was causing a couple of issues to pop up for me. I am now following a Mediterranean diet with less fat and have switched out most red meat with fish. I’ve yet to see any significant weight loss, just a couple of pounds but my menstrual cycle has finally regulated. It’s a big step forward for my health.

[@suna2317]

@@blablaklabautermann7578 thank you for the suggestion, I’ll check them out 😊

[@Vincenza8907]

I have lost 60lbs since last March, and your videos have always been so encouraging and entertaining. Thank you so much for the kindness and levelheaded attitude you bring.

[@carolinelams1278]

👏 At 21 I went from 140-220 pounds 5’4 once I remembered having back problems, breathing issues and insomnia.When I got into nutrition and fitness and lost weight - yes my confidence went up plus weight training became my stress reliever but my health got better no more pain and I was able to sleep, run longer , hike and enjoy life better dropping to 145. Years later now at 30 I’ve gained to 185 I can feel lower back pain again and insomnia which woke me up again to make better, healthier eating decisions (gym is not an issue I love it actually ) but I’m back on track for my health bc I refuse to ever go back to the point of being sent to ER for my back.That’s key - health.

[@Moose92411]

John, your ability to relate your own experience to this content adds an incredible degree of legitimacy to your commentary. I love it

[@ObesetoBeast]

I appreciate it

[@UltimateDorito]

I don't understand why anyone has to get in anyone else's business about their bodies. Fat acceptance has its place, because it's true that fat people should be allowed to exist without being shamed. HOWEVER, no one should be expected to martyr themselves for a cause. If being fat no longer serves you, you shouldn't feel obligated to stay fat or be shamed for wanting to lose weight. It's about having the choice to live your life the way you choose. I don't know why this is so hard to understand for so many people.

[@rebel4466]

Everyone should be able to exist without being shamed or ridiculed. Simply doesn't work like that. There are people hating on sex, race, hair color, disability and all that stuff and you can't change any of that. Why would they stop at a self inflicted and reversible condition? That's just not human nature. Lying to themselves doesn't fix the issue they have. It pushes it to another place while damaging their lives

[@UltimateDorito]

@@rebel4466 when did I say lying to themselves was okay? I'm not pushing health at every size. I'm saying that while you're fat, you have a right to basic human respect. Those are two different arguments. Are you cool with other forms of disrespect just because it's the way the world works? If not, you shouldn't be okay with shaming fat people. Did it ever occur to you that they may be just trying not to hate themselves while they work through their issues? They should not be obligated to hate themselves and welcome disrespect, and their medical history or status should be none of our business anyway. Literally just leave people alone. It's not hard.

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

@UltimateDorito Thankyou! Well said.

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

@@johnjr7070 Are you one of those people (wiping fat a$$es) ?

[@UltimateDorito]

@@johnjr7070 ...what? Do you mean health care workers who literally signed up for and get paid to do those jobs? Or do you mean family feel obligated to care for them? That's a complex issue in and of itself and really none of our business if it doesn't affect us, so why are you making generalizations about something so personal and differing from case to case? Did this happen to someone you know? I'm so curious who you're talking about and who their supposed victim is?

[@deathofthemagi]

"Sometimes it was cheese burgers, I had to change that" I swear he speaks to my soul sometimes

[@reipixel9654]

It is really interesting how the “being afraid to try new things because of your size” also applies to the opposite side of the spectrum. When i was struggling really bad with my eating disorder, and I was physically and mentally “small”. I never tried new things because of my “size”. The two opposite sides feel so similar it’s no coincidence.

[@hayleevayro270]

I grew up with influencers in the “body positivity”movement, thinking it was all okay to gain - I was honestly preached by men and women. Even with having a chronic Illness prior, so I kept going because I felt accepted, recently have sat at over 150kg, more health issues, for the past 3 years TRYING to loose it. MINDS easily get persuaded, I’m still young so hopefully all these issues will plateau out after my weight loss.

[@WittyKitten]

I think choosing to make a change for your health is a form of self love. I've never been obese but I have struggled with being very overweight and always knew that something had to change. My dad has type 2 diabetes and mom's side has heart issues. One day in uni, I read an article which stated that having a parent with DM increases your risk by more than 50% and smth in my mind just clicked! I started my health journey because I certainly didn't want to end up with all these issues and I couldn't be happier now. Treating my body well and prioritizing my health has changed so much for me.

[@vainpiers]

It's funny how when I stopped framing healthy eating as something I do to lose weight and instead thought of healthy eating as giving my body the best tools it needs to function, it became easier. I don't have forbidden foods, just foods I eat in moderation. Like thinking about food as petrol has helped. For example, if I have porridge and fruit in the morning, especially when I'm exhausted, which makes me hungry, I know I'll be full until lunchtime. Instead of eating cereal or pastries. Or snacking on cucumber instead of chocolate I think of how it has vitamin k which is good for bones. (I still eat chocolate if I want it but its not what I reach for out if habit) Diet culture focuses too much on weight loss and bad foods that it doesn't help anybody.

[@rebel4466]

It's kinda funny if you think about it. We exactly know how to fuel a car for it to work like intended for a long time. We know exactly what to feed our pets and what weight will give them no complications. But when it comes to us, emotional eating and "treating ourselves" should be celebrated? Complicated to say the least

[@vainpiers]

@rebel4466 there's nothing wrong with treating yourself. It's just learning how to do it. I was teaching myself to make a donut on blender and for a treat when finishing the piece I celebrated with a donut. Everytime I worked on it I wanted a donut so I told myself I can have one when I finished and it motivated me to work and I practiced waiting for sweet food instead of getting instant gratification when I wanted it.

[@Mrs.CGraves]

We’ve said ALL THIS for years. This is such a important message

[@acdc.rocks88]

I'll be 35 in a few months and I have about 50 or 60 pounds to lose. I totally agree that as we age, health complications start to creep up if we are not taking care of ourselves. For me personally, I feel like I'm 80 years old sometimes. My body aches very often. My joints hurt...I'm stiff.... I know I need to eat better foods andnl drop some weight if I want to feel like the age that I actually am.

[@dawnelder9046]

A good start would be to read Good Calories, Bad Calories or watch the lectures. Also watch The Oiling of America. Knowledge is power.

[@woodificould]

I never understood the "if you want to lose weight or not be fat, that means you hate fat ppl". I do woodworking, and i try to take every precaution to not cut off a finger or other limb on my table saw. That doesn't mean that i hate ppl who have lost limbs. I just don't see how anyone would even make that connection

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

I don't understand it either. People should just mind their own fking business.

[@tonycarboni2002]

This is the first real push back against the body positive / fat acceptance movement that I've noticed. I hope more people eventually speak up like this. Otherwise, there's an entire generation of people that will pay with their health, happiness, and life. I quickly subbed to this channel. I'm very curious how this movement progresses / ends.

[@MSJARELA]

This generation will be the first of the last few to have shorter lifespans. This is due to obesity and other lifestyle diseases.

[@gypsylaine4515]

"Fat Acceptance is FALLING APART" - let's hope so!

[@bearose4600]

This is such a great message... That we can't lose weight hating ourselves! We really do have to love our bodies and ourselves. And that alone is HARD WORK! To break the narrative of what we've been told, that we're not good enough, that we don't fit in... Whatever it is, it's work. But it's worth it. Talk to a therapist, join a support group. For me, is codependence anonymous... In that program after six years, I can finally say I love myself for who I am. Find your strength!

[@Moose92411]

Love yourself enough to prioritize your longevity. The people around you will be thankful later.

[@maryhamric]

Hey....a TFNL fan! LOL

[@Moose92411]

@@maryhamric you're absolutely right - but I actually didn't get that line from Harry! I got it from Alan Roberts.... before he jumped into the conspiracy theory deep end with both feet.

[@mykal2803]

I always felt like it couldn't last, the bigger you get the more miserable you feel in my experience, and theres a difference between accepting where your at, but still recognizing destructive behaviors vs embracing those destructive behaviors. Its almost like a full blown drug addict being like, Im beautiful no matter how many teeth i lose, and sure thats a nice thought but are we really going to be like "ya you go get that fix girl! you're beautiful no matter how tweaked out you are!" no.. lol.

[@AmreeHolliday]

The fact that you cant have a baby being a certain weight as a woman should tell people, its not healthy. People always say listen to your body. It has been speaking for awhile and people just ignore it.

[@kgm4556]

I always bulk up in the winter. Shit sucks here. -50 etc. Getting back into shape again for the summer. Gonna be watching your content for the motivation now!

[@acatnamedm4529]

Megan is great! I found you through her channel.

[@ladylucke09]

that whole community has really put a damper on others that are plus size. I have expressed my opinion on it and OMG did people come after me. I think it’s a great message to spread the word to others that nobody should be made fun of for their weight. That’s what I thought this community was doing but now they’ve taken it to a whole other level. So now I feel like they make a mockery of overweight people to be honest. a community that helped put a stop to bullying, help someone with confidence but also discussed the real issues someone has when they are overweight. That’s what I thought was going to happen but nope! It makes me so mad. Thank you for talking about it. I have an idea for you…. perhaps do a video and include non influencers that have weight issues and their response to this. I bet a lot of people would be surprised at how many of us are not happy about this. 💯 I feel misrepresented! I am editing because another thing that really bothers me is that for someone that has no weight issues looking at these influencers I feel that they may judge someone even more. Shouldn’t be that way, but that is just the way of the world. it really makes me want to start making my own videos about this because it really needs to be stopped for so many reasons.

[@lise7538]

I think one can respect fat people while acknowledging being obese is not objectively desirable and encourage them to prioritise their health. The two shouldn't be mutually exclusive. It's so stupid that we went from "I want to be respected no matter my size" to "Any reminder that what I do is unhealthy is fatphobic "

[@ladylucke09]

@@lise7538 yeah that’s what I thought this community would be. I mean gosh we’re not even talking about some creators that make a mockery of them selves.

[@TheBrucepix]

Grew up the fat kid. Lost a lot just getting away from my family. But only recently began to learn what good nutrition really means. Now I’m 50 and need joint replacement. Trying to lose just 20 lbs to be as ready for my surgery as possible is so hard, even though I’m fasting and staying in keto as much as possible. But hard things are worth doing and channels like this help. Those fat acceptance idiots are ruining (and shortening) lives!

[@NickanM]

Same. I need a hip replacement and TWO new knees. 😩 Because of being fat for many years. I'm 52 and the pain is horrible. The fat positivity movement is harmful & is killing people. Period.

[@Aceofwolves]

Gabriella could be feeling guilt due to a health scare and knowing that she put others at risk. They can be quite humbling. It's NEVER too late to change.

[@kathleengivant-taylor2277]

Coming from someone that came from a anorexia and bullimic background strangely I can relate too struggles and complications related too my weight. I used too get people asking what my secret was to staying so thin. Then it got so bad that people literally thought I was sick with a terminal illness cause people would come up to my relatives that were with me and ask out of concern what was wrong with me. Wow. I was hospitalized at 5’7 and 75 pounds and days from death. That unfortunately was not the end of my struggle I unfortunately lost all 30 pounds hospital put back on me again and my family was at a loss at how to help me until I finally found a dr and dietitian and support group I trusted and finally over a couple year period I recovered and did have some permanent problems related to my eating disorders such as bone loss . But all and all iam lucky too be alive. Eating disorders have real permanent problems connected too them

[@davidfence6939]

When you can't.... Tie your shoes without being at a certain angle. When, as a guy, you see size 50, 52, 55....... When one flight of stairs up gasses you. When you have to exit the row for people to get in at all. When your belly is touching the steering wheel and your pushed as far back as possible. Or you can't even fit in the car. When rolling out of the bed is truly rolling out of the bed. When a short walk pushes your heart rate up. When you take more than 1 pill for your fixable health condition. When the cpap is ordered because you're falling asleep at school/work When.... When is enough is enough if you're a obese person? When the doctor announces he's removing a leg? When you have that heart attack? Or maybe just when you can't go on that roller coaster with your child/friend is enough....I pray that is enough.

[@davidfence6939]

I have a list of stuff I want to be able to do now. Snorkel a reef. Buy a van and travel in it. Have my own little farm with chickens and other animals. Help build my own house. Work on my own car. Hike the PCT and other trails. Travel more. I can't do these comfortably at 300-350 pounds. Heck, on a recent cruise I checked the weight limit for water slides. 300 pounds. I was over that at the time! I used to love water slides as a kid. The disappointment was immeasurable. So yeah, being healthy allows me to have fun, see more and do more while feeling great in my own body.

[@chrishhdhdh4308]

I used to weight 240 I now weight 145 the one thing I learned is a lot of people are going to have a problem about with your body regardless of your weight.

[@rdallas81]

Chris. You nailed it with that comment

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

A lot of people are going to have a problem with you if you're happy... because a lot of people aren't.

[@Tatas1999]

Loving yourself at any size is something everyone should do! As long as you are healthy, you do you. I’m plus size and it took a very long time for me to love myself due to what society thinks I should be. I have no issues from being plus sized but I also didn’t get here from eating. I do have health issues that are genetic and am dealing with those. I’m 236 pounds and still losing.

[@planetsingatorade]

Yeah aging is no fucking cakewalk even if you're straight-size. I threw my back out getting into my car one day and I'm pretty 'normal' sized. Your 30s are no fucking joke. I cannot imagine going into this carrying around significantly more weight.

[@2celestialchix]

I've followed you for YEARS! I never comment though so this is new for me. I have to tell you that you both saying that fat people aren't going to lose weight because they hate themselves *BLEW* my mind! I am 40 yrs old. When I was a thin athletic teen everyone always told me I was fat, I was not. As I grew I to an adult and had struggles as a single mom, I ballooned all the way to 350 lbs! I lived that way for almost 10 yrs before one day I had enough and lost 150 lbs. I felt great about myself for the first time in my life. Then I got into a relationship that dragged me back into a self-loathing situation, I had another baby, I work a 3rd shift job where I struggle to eat early enough for it to not just stick to me, and have struggled with my mental health all over again. My therapist kept asking why I gained 50 lbs back and I honestly could not put my finger on it. I don't emotional eat, I don't eat because I'm bored, I don't feel like working through childhood trauma has helped. And yet this revelation you've made makes the most sense I've ever heard. I struggle to love myself, all day, every day. Thank you for this insight 🙏 ❤️ Now maybe I can work on the true issue at hand and get back on track.

[@masatohirayumi587]

Our bodies are a vessel that allows us to do all the things we want to experience.

[@vickieharris3850]

After being hardheaded about not using a cpap machine. I have been using one to help my breathing..I still watch what I eat and exercise some. I'm following my doctor suggestions. It was my morbid obesity that caused my high blood pressure and heart problems..I hope that I can get off this machine even though I have lost a good amount of weight. I'm almost a few years from 70 years old..I wished I had paid attention to my bad habits of also drinking too much and smoking cigarettes for decadex..all those and when I retired from the workforce a decade ago and sitting around eating myself from 160 to 280 pounds in a decade and not walking anymore not exercising is what got me to this bad health. I'm trying to improve my lifestyle. I want my health back. People..listen to what I'm saying and learn from it.

[@lateforitalways]

Wishing you the best and hope you’re feeling better!

[@hannahb9195]

In some ways I think I was lucky to have a chronic joint condition, because when I got fat, I immediately was in a LOT of pain and lost mobility fast, even at seventeen or eighteen. It would have been harder to lose weight if i'd been able to ignore it.

[@mel9823]

I was on tik tok earlier and I told a fat influencer that they can’t tell people who are in the process of loosing weight or who lost weight already that they can’t talk about why this community is harmful. Y’all won’t believe that she sent her whole following at me for what I said. Even when I told them that I am fat myself & I’m explaining my experiences with being fat & how it’s not fun for a lot of people. I got chewed alive for telling the truth. They are ridiculous lol

[@Delightfulshallot]

If it was me, I would of sent the doughnut emojis and other fast food emojis ending with a cow and pig emoji at the end.

[@notyourregularfairy4332]

I hope you don't let any mean comments from those clowns get to yourself :)

[@mel9823]

@@notyourregularfairy4332 nah I’m okay. I’m working out while they are trying to convince people they are happy with bad knees

[@timelady1673]

I know I have said it before but having had an ED (AN type I) and having recently had a small relapse...I always find your channel so helpful for some reason. THANK YOU for putting all this content out (and also linking to others such as Megan who I find amazing!)😊

[@karliegilbert7307]

Let’s talk about this with party culture. Alcohol and health. I agree being overweight isn’t “healthy” for long term, but either is the hypocrites that are “healthy” vaping and drinking.

[@ZiaEstrella18]

So glad to see the truth is coming to light. No matter what words you make up and say over and over, the truth won't be hidden. Truth is absolute. Love it. To care about your health is not being fatphobic.

[@tektako]

You can rationalise it away all you like but over eating and whatever other habits keep you fat are NEVER the product of self-love. Most of these activists are like teenagers or early 20s with no wisdom beyond what they find on Instagram.

[@TheAdrift]

I gotta say, to fat-acceptance people out there who feel like they have to stay fat to help the cause: the cause doesn’t need you to set yourself on fire to keep it warm, and in fact, if everyone did that, they would do way more harm to the cause than good. The fight to end discrimination against fat people is not something you NEED to sacrifice your own health for-you can do that while also keeping your own body as healthy as you can! You CERTAINLY wouldn’t be any help to the cause if you die of congestive heart failure, or diabetes, or NAFLD, or any other disease that comes along with obesity.

[@darlahays2471]

I've been thin most of my life. As someone describe d me, I have a petite frame in 6' body. You wouldn't believe some the things I have been told. People think I'm very I'll or that I have a ED .I do eat well and exercise be several times a week. I have nothing against larger people. I have several family members who are overweight. My niece died of a heart attack at 33. She ignored her doctors and it cost her life.

[@StefanHillier]

It's not fat acceptance anymore, it's fat promotion. You may as well have someone chain smoking and saying, "There's nothing wrong with cigarettes. You don't notice the smell after a while and who doesn't enjoy a good cough and a phlegmy spit in the morning? Go on, smoke another one. You know you want to."

[@teresapribilski1493]

They need to get rid of the Disease to Please when it comes to disappointing people at the risk of their own health.

[@Beka_Rex]

Honestly I really need some motivation right now. I was 212lbs and lost 70. I was the healthiest I’d been since I was a kid, and at 37 felt better than I had in many years. Then i had multiple miscarriages and moved house, and the stress just piled on and I slowly started gaining some back. Then i stopped smoking and suddenly I was up by 30lbs. I desperately have to lose it to start fertility treatment, but I’m struggling to have any drive to workout, and the willpower to not overeat is practically gone. I just don’t know what to do. Even though I’m not near my biggest, I feel awful and just want to get back on track so badly, but I’m fighting against myself

[@Delightfulshallot]

Lizzo was my motivation last year, went from 200 to now 136, with 16 more to go. Check out dr.berg, he has alot of great videos. Lowcarb and keto is great to boost fertility, and have read of women successfully getting pregnant with it.

[@Beka_Rex]

@@Delightfulshallot thanks for the advice. Unfortunately diet won’t help with my fertility, but I will check out that dr. Thanks Edit: I see he focuses on keto and IF. Not my thing at all. I know how to lose weight, I’m just suffering mentally right now and lacking the motivation to get moving. It’s not advice on how to lose weight i need just now. Thank you though.

[@heavymetalhufflepuff]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. ❤️ Please take care of your mental health, therapy has been great for me if you are able and have not tried it.

[@Beka_Rex]

@@heavymetalhufflepuff thanks so much. Thankfully over the past week, since I wrote my comment I managed to find my motivation. I was watching so many videos like these and it just switched me back on. Disability aside k have managed to get back to my daily workout routine, which was physically a struggle, but I got there. And I have been a tad below my daily calorie limit everyday, and in the week I’m down 5lb. So I only have 8lb to lose to be good for the fertility treatment, and a bit more to get back to my goal which I will hopefully do in a couple months. I think I just needed to really give myself a good talking to, and writing that comment out was almost me telling myself, and it really seems to have given me my motivation back. Thank goodness!! 💜

[@shalexiadavis1378]

Just came from a clothing store today to buy an outfit. The entire store only carried 3 pieces of clothing in a my size (petite). . I had to grab and buy them. Don't know when I be able to find clothes (other than girls size) in my size. Couldn't find anything below a size medium for an adult. I mean, as a mature woman, some of the clothes in my size are not really "age appropriate".

[@socialdistancingon8333]

Sometimes it's even just the little things that can make you realize how much being morbidly obese affects daily life. You can get up and down the stairs quicker. Your knees no longer make those cracking and popping sounds when you're walking. You have more energy to want to do all the things life has to offer. You feel happier in general. It's lovely.

[@honestytoafault]

These people don't stop and think about the Healthcare workers who have to take care of them when they're in the hospital. Takes 4 workers to roll them in bed. And clean them up. They don't tell you when they have to go to the bathroom because they don't want to get up and use a toilet. They soil themselves and then expect nurses to clean them up. And if a Healthcare worker gets permanently injured and can't work they don't care.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

"I don't care how trendy or fun or cute it seems to be fat"? What? It doesn't seem like any of those things. It seems exhausting and tiring and lonely and miserable and painful

[@shanew2150]

Hey, this is totally unimportant, but I wanted to say it in case no one else has. I really like your current hairstyle, looks really good on you!

[@ObesetoBeast]

Lol thanks, just growing it out

[@dbcrew8290]

“I mean… it’s SOME people…we won’t get into that…” lol… Hess Toliday 😉

[@jellyluver22]

Great video!! So many great points said and really encouraging me to get my health in check too.

[@tuffguydoe7937]

They want to be victims of their personal choices, but there's such animosity towards people that succeed at losing weight. I want them to say "my internal organs are fatphobic" when they require surgeries, implants to stay alive.

[@pronouncedbeauty]

There were a handful of times where my husband and I would decide to go to McDonald's for dinner. We would pack food for our daughter and not order anything for her because we didn't want her eating anything that bad (she was 1 at the time). It really hit us that our habits were super bad and that we wanted better for our daughter. We are super disciplined people and have been very intentional with our life and parenting but our eating was out of control. We both have lost a good chunk of weight and we feel better than ever. We really want to set a good example for our daughter. I hope everyone comes to the place where they start to choose their health.

[@Sugar_The_Cowgirl]

Just got recommended your channel! Also I fkn love megan! I realized the toxicity of “HAES”(health at every size” and todays “body positivity” to me there is a distinct difference between being “body positivity“ and being apart of the “fat positive” movement or lack there of “pun intended”. To be “fat positive” is a form of “body positivity”,but being “body positivity” is not being pro obesity. Body positivity is supposed to be inclusive of all bodies, regardless of weight, height, body type, ability, disability, race, sexuality or gender. Todays body positivity is mad to be only inclusive of obese and morbidily obese people. They use the problems “POC” and people with disabilities as comparison to why they are obese and say that the discrimination is “just as bad” that they are “marginalized” and oppressed. Which is not the case they use PCOS, endometriosis, lymphedema, etc. etc. as reasons why they are the way they are and why they can’t loose weight all the while eating in a calorie surplus as well as not doing any physical activity. I’ve been every weight on the spectrum developing and eating disorder when I was only 11 I’ve been 94lbs I’ve been 227lbs now that I’m actually educated on the HEALTHY way of losing weight and not listen to “diet culture” but actually nourish my body and eat proper portions at the same time as getting physical activity every day I’m seeing more results then when I was FASTING 10 DAYS at a time and a hell of a lot more progress from being inactive and binging every day. The secret is balance, discipline, and patience, those attributes are hard to come by today especially with how lazy people create movements like “HAES” and “fat positivity” to make themselves feel better about being content with their sedentary, lazy, unhealthy lifestyle, and body. Thankyou for coming to my Ted-talk have a good night

[@maraperez5197]

You are so right. I can’t conceive of anybody wanting to be fat, that’s ridiculous. It’s an addiction and the result of bad eating habits in most cases. I applaud anybody who takes the initiative to take control of their health . Health is not a joke. We have one life only and we need to live the happiest and healthiest we can. Congrats to Gabriella for not being afraid to tell the truth!

[@MsJimmysgirl]

The fat acceptance group makes me want to scream. I can certainly understand trying to except yourself no matter what your body looks like but we have to be realistic here. There are obvious and well known consequences for not living a healthy lifestyle. If you are happy being overweight fine no problem but don't call the other people who decide to make positive changes to their diet and lifestyle fatphobic. I don't get the people that get so mad when celebrities like Adelle, Rebel Wilson, Melissa McCarthy and Jennifer Hudson chose to lose weight.

[@jeremiahborders2959]

The problem the battle between skinny (not healthy) vs fat (self acceptance) has been so convoluted on both sides stimming from hate. I gotta be honest, alot skinny people don't care about someone healthy (especially if they're not) but alot of skinny will also mock and dehumanize fat people in the disguise of caring about their (health) when again they don't really care health of other skinny people unless "too skinny". Then on the other hand you have fat people that are tired of being dehumanize/mocked because of their weight and they have decided to fat back they are humans and deserve to be treated with respect. So in their minds when they do see a fat people become skinny it does feel like a betrayal because of the mocking and dehumanizing that they face and they can turn into the same people they hate the most to people who was once fat. Is it right what both sides are doing? (No) but the problem is this whole battle is superficial because if fat people (appearance wise) looked skinny and still carried their weight. This whole battle would be no existent because their weight wouldn't be visible and the groups that actually care about health are "they people who were fat and became skinny" and "the people who were skinny but became fat". The reason I say they are only ones because they are the only ones that have lived life from both perspective. Alot of these people would be nonexistent if people just treated others as human beings. Mocking a fat person doesn't motivate them to lose any weight and everybody has body issues and should be encouraged to love their bodies but neither side will never get there to the point until we all realize we all are human begins.

[@Delightfulshallot]

Because they hate people who get up and have the motivation to get healthier so they can live longer.

[@geishagurrrl]

Bending down to tie my own shoe laces hit hard, as that is when I knew I *had* to do something about my weight gain. Because of my ADHD or just being clueless about healthy weight loss I sought help from my doctor and lost a stone and a half so far and got another 6 and and a half stone to go. Although it is hard, I am determined to do it. Also being in a lovely relationship when I was told by my doctor that I will die in 10 years time (I was 45 at the time) if I continue, due to the very real risk of a heart attack, I knew I needed to change and wanted many more years with my partner

[@lasenoradelacruz]

Been going to the gym since November 2022 religiously, cut out a TON of trash foods, nourished my mind, which is HUGE for the changes to turn into permanent habits, and I feel great! No more knee pain, MUCH less back pain, more energy, I feel happier overall ❤❤❤ Stay strong my former obese sisters ❤

[@TeamYouphoric]

A reaction of a reaction. Makes me want to rawatch Inception tonight.

[@boyunderbridge]

Live stream so we can watch you watching

[@somesortofdeliciousbiscuit3704]

I wonder if Tess Holliday will take the money, go quiet and lose some weight soon when she realises that weighing a fifth of a tonne isn't going to be great if you want to finish your 40's with all your limbs intact and see your children reach adulthood.

[@virginiaviola5097]

I think that you have made a very valid and specific point about the expectation that the world should change to accommodate obese people. From the perspective of someone who has been kicking around for 60 years, consider this..what in our society has changed? Why are people in general 50 to 100 lbs heavier than their counterparts 20 or 30 years ago? In the early ‘80’s being 5’4” and 165 lbs was obese..I struggled so hard to lose that weight, to get to the 112lb normal and it took years.. but in a society full of normal, average people, I was fat. So, have we just changed what is considered normal and average? And how will that work? Less seating in restaurants to accommodate larger tables and chairs? Ditto cinemas… it’s already limited the amount of luggage that can be taken on planes after the crash that occurred on take off because the weight calculations were made using the average weight x number of passengers.. and those calculations dangerously underestimated the true weight onboard.. and the average weight went up. If people start demanding their needs should be met at the expense of two whole other people, that’s when you have to go hmmm. Some people are naturally skinny and some people are naturally large and that’s ok, that body acceptance.. it’s when it’s unnatural that it becomes a problem, because you are forcing your body into doing something that it wouldn’t do to itself.

[@wendyway6979]

There is a difference between wanting to look a certain way and being healthy. You SHOULD love yourself no matter what your size or shape. Pushing weight loss to look a certain way isn't healthy. You are judging yourself negatively. Losing weight to feel good, improve health problems (or avoid them), and do things that you want to do is healthy. Love yourself because you are you but lose weight because you love yourself and want your best life.

[@iamjackspyramidshapedhelmet]

Ok Gabriella is absolutely GORGEOUS. 😍 So is Megan! And you’re handsome too my dude 😂 just making sure no one’s left out

[@x3lea866]

What’s crazy to me is not only is she “in it” but she financially profits off of the body positivity/fat acceptance movement so the fact that she is speaking out against that just shows how real it is that she’s feeling the negative consequences of the lifestyle.

[@bambismiler]

Because of my PCOS, I gained 100 pounds in a year. I’m lucky that I’m tall so that my weight stretched out well, but I can tell you right now that being that weight for just a few months started taking a toll on me. I was tired all the time, in pain all the time, and nauseous all the time. After starting some meds, I’m now 28 pounds down so far and hoping to continue the path.

[@courtneyr6645]

Good luck on your journey. The insulin resistance and hormonal problems are for real. I’m glad you were able to get help

[@alternifeind15]

I've always been the "healthy fat person," I was very athletic and flexible just had a horrible thyroid. I now have difficulty moving, it's largely due to the lack of muscle I have after having long covid and it fucking up my body; but now my weight is hindering my health and I'm looking to start hitting the weights again bc now I cannot do what I used to back 2 years ago before I died/ was hospitalized from covid and became medically disabled.

[@arctic_desert]

I wonder sometimes where I'd be if this movement had this much reach back when I was in high school and deeply insecure about being chubby in puberty. I'd prolly have let it get soooo much worse if that many adults were telling me it was okay. I grew up in the low rise jeans era though, so... I'm still trying to undo the effect THAT had on my life haha