Fat and fed up | The truth about being fat

Being fat sucks! There is no other way to say it. It's uncomfortable, exhausting, sad and you always have to deal with fatphobia.
In this video, we will explore the harsh reality of living in a larger body and the struggles that come with it. From discrimination and stereotypes to the physical and mental toll of carrying extra weight, we will dive deep into the challenges of being overweight.
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Who am I: Hi my name is Daria I'm 33year old living in Edinburgh, Scotland. My mission is to inspire people to live the life they really want. It's never to late :)

[@orangepeelqueen2787]

Men love a woman with an appetite until she gains weight.

[@DariaKropop]

This!!!!

[@LoveAndSnapple]

Yup! That's why moving forward whenever I date we have to do an actual activity. Eating can't be the activity, I can eat anytime! If you start dating in the summer you'll go to all the bbq fests, state fairs, carnivals, bar crawls, and every event that will quickly pork you up!

[@iceprincess2134]

​@@DariaKropop I think the appeal for them is a woman that isn't neurotic about her weight, so she can enjoy herself and be seen eating without issue, but also is balanced enough to not put on an unhealthy amount of weight. I can't say that's a bad goal to have for both a partner and oneself.

[@DariaKropop]

@@iceprincess2134 yeah exactly that

[@alexialira3839]

The question you should ask yourself is why are you choosing to date men who "love a woman...until she gains weight." Most of the population is overweight or obese. This has been going on for over a decade. There is no indication that there was a sharp decline in people dating, having sex or marrying because men refuse to be near big women. I live in one of the top fattest cities in the US & I see couples all the time where the woman is big. The two things holding back big women from finding a man who loves them as they are....are their own insecurities and wilfully choosing wrong men. Work on yourself and your choices get better.

[@chloeayres5007]

Also on binge eating, my ex boyfriend was so so fit. Like ripped, BUT he definitely had a slight binge eating disorder. But no one would ever know because he had a fast metabolism, conventionally attractive physique and worked out like crazy. And even when people kinda did know or suspect it, it was more funny or almost endearing but only because he was physically fit and nice to look at. But he definitely hated it because it would make him feel terrible the next day, or physically sick and vomiting.

[@DariaKropop]

He was probably purging through exercise. I hope he got better, it’s very unpleasant

[@t3hpenguinofd00m]

Jsyk the whole "fast metabolism" thing is kind of a myth. Bigger people actually have faster metabolisms than smaller people.

[@GlitterSpitters101]

@@t3hpenguinofd00m if fast metabolism is a myth, how can some people eat thousands of calories a day with no exercise while still being skinny? What's the alternative explanation? (I'm asking genuinely bc I am one of these people and I wanna know how it works)

[@t3hpenguinofd00m]

@@GlitterSpitters101 the short answer is that they can't. That's a bit of an oversimplification, but for the purposes of this discussion it's broadly true. What people describe as "fast" or "slow" metabolism is, in most cases, a problem of faulty perception. Humans are really, really bad at gauging their caloric intake. Like, basically all of us are. We all have this tendency to fall into deep, unconscious habits around routine activities generally, and especially so when it comes to very primal behaviors such as eating. We all spend so much time on autopilot that it's genuinely very hard to keep track of what we're even doing, and that makes it easy for fat to materialize or dematerialize as if by magic. We furthermore have a tendency to generalize our own behaviors to the world at large, assuming that our specific habits are "normal" or typical even when they very clearly aren't. Then there's the problem of social eating, which makes it yet more difficult to gauge how your eating habits compare to other people's. You can't see what other people are doing when you're not around, and you're barely even conscious of what you yourself are doing on a day-to-day level. This lack of clear and reliable data makes it very easy to extrapolate things incorrectly, and this is how otherwise sensible people come up with statements like "she's constantly eating and never gains a pound," or "I only have to look at a donut and I gain weight." That's the long and short of it. Biology is very complicated and there are a million factors that go into keeping people fat or thin, some of which really are mostly or completely outside of the individual's control. But most of what people attribute to "metabolism" is just bad record-keeping and confirmation bias.

[@plumdutchess]

​@@GlitterSpitters101 People who eat thousands of calories don't stay skinny. People think those people eat so much, but are you with them 24/7? A big meal might be the only thing they eat that day. Also, studies have found that doing micro movements during the day helps burn extra calories. And people who are "naturally skinny" tend to do more of those. Think of just sitting less, standing up from seats more, even wiggling your legs while sitting burns more than sitting still. All these combined can account for hundreds of calories a day. Just enough to burn of a few extra snacks.

[@preciousmcfadden4291]

Thank you for not listening to that doctor. I was 5'5" and 260lbs. I ate anything I wanted but just in smaller portions and moved my body more to lose 100lbs. Just learn to love your body where you are at but love yourself enough to make sure you are healthy. I tried losing weight hating my body and it didn't do me any good.

[@DariaKropop]

Exactly!! This is the right sustainable way. I that is amazing , I hope I can say the same next year

[@Lydt95]

That's amazing. I'm about the same height and 230 currently.. (only just started out ..lost 10lbs in the past few weeks) your weight is my goal weight!! Thanks for sharing x

[@plumdutchess]

Very healthy way to do it. Great job!

[@m3redgt]

Being fat sucks. I'm fighting my way out of it at the moment too. About halfway through! My way to do it: Keto and intermittent fasting. Works like a charm and losing weight is a breeze once you got through the first week!

[@Juls_____]

Good for you! Keep pushing! 💪🏼

[@DariaKropop]

Good luck :) My approach is on a more sustainable way but whatever works! I will be posting updates stay tuned

[@susanreyes9]

@m3red - what time do you start and finish eating? I'm interested in doing inter fasting

[@CigarKingASMR]

It’s a charm but it’s not sustainable for the rest of your life

[@emkayloren]

I am SO glad you reported that nurse! She is spreading dangerous misinformation. Also, congrats on 1 month binge-free, that’s a huge accomplishment! I have BED as well and now it’s a really tough disorder to manage. Keep going!

[@DariaKropop]

I know right? and she was so judgmental also. Thank you

[@Marilynefc]

Exactly ! As a nurse I was so appalled 😳

[@reginaobrien8983]

People seem to feel entitled to judge and comment upon your body and weight. It’s amazing that everyone all of a sudden has a medical degree or is an expert in nutrition science. Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@DariaKropop]

Exactly! And you can be skinny and have very unhealthy habits and no one will just assume you are health

[@faa1412]

I know someone who doesn't have a medical degree nor is she an expert in nutrition science but she's helped people lose weight in healthy ways. She spent years aggregating information on weight loss and weight gain. I'm willing to bet she knows more about the science of weight loss/gain than the average general physician/practitioner (this doesn't include doctors who specialize in weight loss). Sometimes it's the ones without medical degrees who help people more because they have more to prove. Having a medical degree doesn't mean much when it comes to weight loss bc even doctors are stumped on how to help their patients lose weight or they give them the typical advice "eat less and move more," when there's so much more to it than that! Sometimes doctors also give bad advice or recommend something like Ozempic which only puts a bandaid over the problem but doesn't address the root cause(s) of it.

[@jackiehammerton]

I was overweight in high school and I was miserable. I was using food as medication and comfort, binging in secret, yo-yo dieting. I didn’t want to be a supermodel, I just wanted to be within a normal weight (US size 8 was my ideal size). I had to go to therapy for binge eating and see a nutritionist. I decided to follow through and take responsibility. I stopped dieting and stopped my food addiction. I started exercising and respecting my body. The weight slowly came off. I was no longer binge eating or abusing food. Now at 35 I’m a US size 4/S and I exercise daily and eat whatever I want (today I had a chocolate croissant and small cafe latte, for lunch I had fish and crispy potatoes, and for dinner a vegetable quinoa bowl with a chocolate brownie for dessert). And this way I stay the same size. I’m so glad I changed my ways when I was a teen so I could be where I am today.

[@DariaKropop]

I'm really glad it worked for you. I have been in therapy for years now and I have better and worse days but never managed to stop it fully :/

[@maevafiata9909]

I went to another country for studying, came back home for holidays. I've put on weight while being away and trying to navigate alone in this new environnement. Coming back, I thought i would be welcome with joy and pride but some members of my family ended up just being disgust by the amont of weight i've taken, no one bother to ask me if i had succed in my degree but they did ask me if i do any sport. I felt like a monster trapped in a room. Being fat is really uncomfortable, it's not easy to always stay hopefull but what is does show is how resilient we're able to be. Good luck to anyone with a similar experience ❤

[@DariaKropop]

That is horrible! When I came back from two years living in the US it was very similar

[@Pinesol605]

This is why It took me almost two years to book my flight back home. I have 10 weeks before I fly home. My goal is to lose 20lbs. 😢 It’s either oh you are so big or why don’t you have kids yet. 😢

[@maevafiata9909]

In a sensible world, you shouldn't have to plan to lose weight before coming home : your weight, you health, your business

[@KAGOMESAMA13]

YESSS. I've heard, you can love your body and still want to change it.. Being overweight sucks. Having PCOS makes it so hard ugh. At every turn it seems like "lose weight" is the universal solution to reversing PCOS symptoms but the disorder literally causes hormone imbalances and insulin resistance that makes it incredibly easy to gain weight and so much harder to lose it 😅 I have been working out doing kickboxing 2-3 times a week (and 1-2 additional gym days)for nearly 5 years and my doctors are suprised when I tell them yes I do work out consistently, I get 1-3 miles in a day and I meal prep my lunches and some dinners... sometimes its more complicated than calories in and calories out. Hormones, genetics, sleep pattern, stress management and mental health all contribute to one's body composition and weight. On the plus side (no pun intended) my lab work came back all stable this last week and I'm finally shedding some weight albeit super fuckin slowly 🥲 to anyone trying to lose weight rn, I'm rooting for you, this shit is harddd. Best of luck 💜

[@DariaKropop]

Yeah PCOS sucks but there are still ways to lose that weight, it’s more difficult tho. I exercise 3-4 times a week and I’m still obese because it was easier for me to go to the gym than watch my diet and you cannot outexercise bad diet unfortunately. This year I’m focusing on nutrition tho. I hope you will be successful and I’m happy about your labs !! Thank you 🤍🤍

[@klutzybrewster]

This is seriously the most real and true. Thank you!

[@DariaKropop]

than you :)

[@chloeayres5007]

I'm sorry you have to go through all that on a daily. I have never been overweight but I have friends who are and it is so hard to see them go through the struggles. Like you said it's not one thing, it's not just physical, or mental, it's both.

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you. It is so hard and I wish I could just change it , I’m trying but it’s really not easy

[@kated3165]

Binge eating is a very hard thing to gain control over, and many people never fully do. I've learned not to overly beat myself up when I sometimes slip on my diet, and to just accept that its something that will happen from time to time, and I just need to focus on getting back on track right away. I think the reason I struggled so much with it in the past is because I would be doing great for a while, then have a bad relapse and feel like a complete failure... which would leave me to give-up on myself. Losing weight, when you are overweight because of binging, is truly an act of self-love and caring, and I had grown up being told I was not worthy of love. My binge triggers have always been sweets, and I find that fasting has really been helping me keeping them at bay! Its an efficient way to kick your blood insulin down and get rid of the physical part of the addiction to sugar.

[@DariaKropop]

I agree 100%. What all the people who suffer from binge eating have in common is the all or nothing mentality, we will do very well and then have one slip up and that's it- I'm a failure , the diet is over and instead of getting back on track right away we punish ourselves with more food and we are saying its ok the diet will start tomorrow. that's a vicious cycle

[@Juls_____]

I moved from Europe to Canada for 1,5 years about 6 years ago and gained about 20kg. Since I‘m very tall I didn‘t look suuuuper overweight, but obviously one could tell I was. I slowly lost it over the next 3 years that followed and I have to say-I‘ve never felt as bad in my body as I did during that time. Even though I wasn‘t overweight for a super long time, I still hated every single moment of it. Boys I dated before started to treat me bad and after I‘ve lost the weight they started talking to me again. Especially the looks I got from people on the streets and when I looked at myself in the mirror sucked. Obviously weightloss isn‘t just about physical appearance but also about the psychological changes your mind goes through. To everybody who is currently trying to loose weight-I know it‘s hard but it‘s really worth it in the end! You‘ll feel way better mentally and will most likely feel better in your body as well. Not saying everybody should loose weight, but I know from so many people that felt better afterwards 🙏🏼 just do what makes you happy 💛

[@DariaKropop]

This is very important! I think the experience of someone who was and now isn’t overweight shoes it how it really is. I was a skinny child but always chubby or obese adult so I don’t know anything different and to be honest one of the reasons I want to live weight is to see how different life can be .. I can’t wait to see it

[@Juls_____]

I think the most important thing is that if you want to loose weight you REALLY have to want it. Loosing weight is pretty hard and takes a lot of control over what you eat and how much movement you can get, but trust me when I say this: you will most likely feel like a whole new person afterwards 🫶🏻 I wish you the best on your weightloss journey and I‘m excited to see updates! Keep going, you got this! Oh and a very important side note to everybody in my opinion: don‘t try crazy or extreme diets-they don‘t get you anywhere in the long run. Slow and steady is the way to go-implementing more and more healthy changes to your everyday lifestyle will get you way further in a much more sustainable way and the chances of giving up are way lower! 🙏🏼

[@Juls_____]

@ᴀᴛᴀʀᴀxʏ 🪐 Since I‘m not a certified nutritionist I would highly recommend visiting a professional who can help you with meal plans etc. Normally I‘d say it helps eating three normal meals a day - I always had breakfast between 8-9am, lunch between 12-1pm and dinner between 5-6pm, which really helped me with sticking to a routine. But since you‘ve unfortunately suffered from an ed before I think it would be best to get in touch with an expert in that kind of field 🫶🏻 Sorry I can‘t help you any more than that, but I don‘t want to make things worse! Hope you‘ll feel better soon! 🤍

[@DariaKropop]

@@Juls_____ that is o true! the best way in to change your lifestyle. The fad diets aren't sustainable because they don't teach you good habits and how to maintain the weight Thank you so much :)

[@russian__angel]

i love that you said that being fat isn’t about being lazy or smth, it’s always about some physical or mental health issues because it’s so true. i have been overweight for most of my life and only recently I started loosing weight naturally, without restricting or smth just after starting my healing journey. i used to use food as a cure to my anxiety and self-hatred but i don’t anymore. now food is just fuel for me and i am not that dependent on it anymore. so, if you’re fat don’t think you’re lazy, don’t blame yourself or hate on yourself. start looking for a reason instead and treating yourself with understanding and kindness, even though society doesn’t. it’s your life and you’re the only one whose opinion matters🤍

[@DariaKropop]

Congrats on fixing your relationship with food and loosing weight , it’s so hard !!

[@sofiagreka5608]

this is the most real video about the experience of a fat person that I have ever seen! It's amazing how you spoke about such vulnerable topics but also being so uplifiting! Thank you for having the bravery to share this.

[@DariaKropop]

thank you, I really appreciate you words . I want to make people feel like they are not alone

[@sofiagreka5608]

@@DariaKropop You definetely achieved that for me ❤️

[@sunshinelefty]

All True and Worse when you're Older! I'm a Senior and losing weight now...Don't Wait! 🎉

[@DariaKropop]

Oh yeah it’s definitely not easier with age but still can be done ! Great job !!

[@BethVonBlack]

It is so refreshing to see someone speak the real truth and none of this 'body positivity fat and happy' rubbish. I was obese as a child, teenager and into my 20s, lost loads of fat during my early 20s and haven't been obese since. But I will never forget how I felt when I was fat - and that's what keeps me slim now. I'll never go back to feeling that uncomfortable, that disgusting, seeing rolls and my double chin, clothing only digging in and having to wear cardigans in the middle of summer. I've been in the gym for the last year and at 37 I'm only NOW wearing sleeveless tops because I've always hated showing the tops of my arms. Thank you so much for this video. I love when you said you can love your body at any size, but you should love it enough to change it. Being fat isn't loving your body, I think it's quite the opposite. The BEST thing you can do for yourself is to not be fat. Congrats for taking responsibility for yourself - you won't regret not being fat, believe me, it's such a wonderful, freeing feeling

[@DariaKropop]

That is an amazing and inspiring story, I hope one day I will be able to say that i used to be fat because like I said so many times- being fat is soooo incomfortable

[@BethVonBlack]

Don't hope Daria - hope won't do it - faith in yourself will - the will to change. You really do have to get to that point in your life when enough is enough. When you get there, you'll know x@@DariaKropop

[@DariaKropop]

@@BethVonBlack that's where I am now , lost 13lbs so far :)

[@BethVonBlack]

That's amazing! You're doing so well x@@DariaKropop

[@gherasimtibi]

Being overweight and being honest about it is way more attractive then somebody who fakes being confident when they know they don't feel good

[@DariaKropop]

True , but there are different ways of coping I guess

[@mlpike]

For me, your vlog is spot on! I actually had a physician tell me that I had cancer and it was my fault because I was fat. (I do not have cancer, incidentally. He was wrong...so wrong). Yes being fat sucks. One is fair game for comments and or judgmental glances. I have discovered, however, that many times those comments or glances come from a place of fear, fear of becoming fat themselves. How sad that one's worth is still tied up in their appearance.

[@DariaKropop]

wow just wow! I think a lot of people think that being fat is the worst thing that can happen to you

[@mordice7380]

I lost about 35lbs during the lock downs for COVID and it was most definitely a soda problem for me. I started working out and only drank water and since then I've returned to a healthy weight BMI (5,10" - 159lbs). My parents always fed me healthy whole foods and because of that I was skinny during my childhood and I think that's why it was so easy for me to lose the weight. Some of my friends who have only ever eaten unhealthy high calorie meals their whole life struggle really hard to lose weight because they have never eaten low calorie healthy foods as a child. I think it matters what the eating situation is in your household and how you were brought up. I don't have a ton of self control, but the way I keep the weight off now is just by not buying chips and cookies at all from the grocery store otherwise I would demolish them lol.

[@DariaKropop]

I grew up in Poland in the 90s and we didn’t even have high processed food so I was fed whole meals my entire life. We never had soda at home and only one snack a day and I was skinny as a child and my brother was fat and we were eating the same food it’s weird. I started whining weight when I started bingeing and just never stopped :/ Congrats on loosing 35lbs !!

[@rachelle2227]

Yes, it is uncomfortable to be fat! I was having a harder time sitting comfortably with the belly in front. Pants are more uncomfortable. Because of gaining weight and pregnancy, I haven’t worn jeans in 2 years. The double chin makes it more uncomfortable to lounge in bed. Luckily I’ve lost a good amount of weight in the last 1.5 months, and these symptoms are a lot less prominent or annoying now. Walking feels better and I can go faster. I just have to lose a little more weight and I will be out of the obese range. I fit into some of my old jeans now, but don’t really want to wear them, and obsessed with my comfy leggings now lol. Good luck to you on your weight loss journey!

[@DariaKropop]

Exactly right? I don’t know how people can say it’s not. Good job and thank you 🤍

[@kittyfriend9888]

those “men” who love a skinny girl with an appetite, yeah, they want her to live off of sugar free Red Bull and carrot sticks until he takes her out to a brewery and she eats the first substantial meal in 3 days and usually she’s just so cute and tiny she can’t even finish it! so cute..

[@DariaKropop]

THIS!!!

[@Juniperus_Godegara]

Your light hearted delivery is so entertaining. 😊

[@DariaKropop]

Thanks :)

[@DariaKropop]

Thanks :)

[@johnguzman8913]

Love your common sense, refreshing.

[@DariaKropop]

Thanks :)

[@vere1360]

yes uncomfortable really describes it well.. that was the one single emotion i felt that pushed me towards loosing weight.. because i felt physically uncomfortable

[@DariaKropop]

Yeah exactly. I can’t wait to sit comfortably with one leg crossed on the other !

[@crisfield4364]

This is real talk not toxic positive thinking. I've managed to get obese again. Ugh. I hate it. I'm in the beginning stage of losing again. I"ve manage to find a way of eating that I'm continually losing, not a pound a week but the scale is consistently going down, not up. Yay! Back to real talk vs. toxic positivity: I used to do EFT and the process is to say the negative thing along with expressing love for yourself anyway. I need to start doing that again. For example, tap on EFT points while saying things like this: "Even though I have sweaty fat rolls, I love, honor, and accept myself anyway. Even though I always eat too much, I love, honor, and accept myself anyway...." I need to make notes of all the rude things I've been saying to myself lately and create a tapping script for myself. Thank you for this video.

[@DariaKropop]

I need to start doing EFT, I've heard great things. Good luck on your journey :)

[@trololo1043]

What I would add to this list is excessive sweating when it's hot and the fact I always have to wear shorts (and even then it's sometimes uncomfortable) because in dresses my thighs would irritate from rubbing. That was not the case when i was 20kgs lighter. What I also noticed is that shoes I used to wear also irritate my feet more, I would go miles in the same sandals before I gained weight and now it's a few km and i have literally wounds on my feet. I am on a diet now and your videos motivate me to stay focused, because I don't want to be a prisoner, I want to wear and do whatever I want and feel comfortable and I just hate being fat.

[@DariaKropop]

Yes to all of this !!

[@BethVonBlack]

I went up a shoe size when I was at my largest. Feet get fat too! It's mad isn't it!

[@trololo1043]

An update, I lost 12 kgs since that statement and I feel so much better, 10 kgs more to go and I'm struggling but it's worth it!

[@nostalgiagatuna]

I remember one specific ocasion, I was talking to my sister about something completely different, and she kept looking at my body. Interrupted me to ask me if I'm aware of the "weird" shapes my arms are becoming and how weird they look. You can't forget even for one second that you're fat. Everything revolves around it, if you forget for a bit, someone will make you remember, constantly.

[@DariaKropop]

100%! My patents live with with my 90 year old aunt and she always makes little sharks about my body , it drives me insane

[@manikaprasai785]

True

[@veronicalifeuneditedrosari4093]

Bing eating is so real. I almost died on a bing. My sugar level got so high I vomited and diarrhea and then passed out in a bathroom. And cold sweat.

[@DariaKropop]

omg that sounds horrible, I hope you are doing much better now

[@minyah9625]

It’s sometimes the issue with our RMR. You might want to measure it in a hospital. Mine was sadly 714; so even if I eat 1000 calories I will be gaining weight. So I’m trying what I can to do more cardio and build muscles to increase rmr. All the best!!😊

[@DariaKropop]

wow that is very low. I havent the test done but I am pretty certain I don't need to as I'm losing weight in my deficit

[@positivelysimful1283]

No one should be shamed or judged or mistreated for their body size, I agree. I just hate seeing people these days promoting the notion that being obese is healthy. They are generally in their 20s, maybe 30s, but revisit these people in their 40s and 50s, they are in for a rude awakening. I just hope they don't convince others, esp. younger people, not to worry because lives will be ruined and shortened with this incorrect philosophy that you can maintain health at any size. it catches up to you. I'm 54, I learned the hard way. 75lbs down now though and have been weaning off meds (very low carb is best for me as a binge eater/carb & sugar addict).

[@DariaKropop]

wow amazing result !! you are so right, being young an fat might not be that bad for your health but when you grow older it becomes a real problem

[@Sarah-zg2iq]

Thank you for sharing this! I’m so pissed off by the shallow minded people judging you while eating a freaking pizza and being unhealthy..but pointing fingers at every person who is bigger. Once you lose the weight they will start treating you like a goddess and that’s a big red flag for me. Like why can’t you take people for what they are?

[@DariaKropop]

Exactly !!! You suddenly become visible again, I kinda can’t wait to see how much it will change for me

[@diana.diamond]

thank you for this extremely honest video

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you :) I try to be as honest as I can so people can feel less alone. i thinnk this is not talked about enough

[@marahwaleed6201]

I needed this!!! Thank you!!

[@DariaKropop]

I hope you are doing alright 🤍

[@zoizwi8409]

You are an inspiration, you give advices wiser than alot of nutritionalists in freaking hospitals. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and your story with us. ❤

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you :) this makes me so happy

[@ImInternetfalschabgebogen]

Hey, thanks for this video. Mostly I do understand, although I've never suffered from binge eating. But feeling uncomfortable - especially on public transport I totally relate. I hope you are still on your journey. You go, girl! Luckily, I almost reached my goal and my blood pressure issues are gone.

[@DariaKropop]

Wow amazing job on almost reaching your goal. Yes I’m still on my journey 13lbs down so far :)

[@ImInternetfalschabgebogen]

@@DariaKropop That's so great! For me, these videos are so inspiring and a total motivation. Although I've almost reached my goel I have still a bit to go. But I'm on my way and I finally know what works best for me - so I do not get frustrated anymore. :D And: It's so good to know there are companions out there! :)

[@DariaKropop]

@@ImInternetfalschabgebogen that is amazing :) I'm sure you will reach your goal

[@ImInternetfalschabgebogen]

@@DariaKropop Thank you so much, I'm sure you will do it too!

[@shokaza3967]

I'm so glad this got recommended :) 😌👏

[@DariaKropop]

Me too :)

[@burnoutrelief1850]

Yes I agree it is very uncomfortable and hard to find a way to fit in your clothes and find clothes that fit. Dieting is very frustrating and intuitive eating has made me gain.

[@DariaKropop]

Exactly! And most of the shops don’t even carry bigger sizes which is so frustrating

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

Hi Daria. I completely understand. I have just subscribed to your channel. I totally agree with you because I have lived it. In April 2020, I made major lifestyle changes. I learned on my own about nutrition. I started to exercise. I am healthiest I have ever been. Even though I have lost 100 pounds, I still look fat. Yes it sucks to be fat. People judge without getting to know the character of the person. I don’t carry a sign that says please don’t fat shame because I have already lost 100 pounds excuse me for not being a size 2. I’m looking forward to checking out your other videos. You do you. I think you are genuine and amazing. I hope you have success in everything you do.

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it 🤍🤍 Huge congrats on loosing 100lbs that is amazing! But also it’s sucks that people will still judge you and think you’re lash becasue you don’t have taht written on your forehead that you have already lost all this weight ! So unfair I think my plan is to document my weight loss here. Would you be interested to watch that?

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

@@DariaKropop Absolutely. I think it is a great idea to document your journey. Not only will it help you, others will be encouraged too. You can provide experience, strength, and hope. Others will provide to you and the community. One of the reasons I have had some success is by watching KZbin videos. It helps to know I am not alone. 😊

[@DariaKropop]

@@NikkiGRocks4Ever amazing! will make this a series then I think it will be good for my accountability as well

[@kenehnsklp5530]

As a fat person, Im telling you all now: if those fat girls really eat only what they put in the video EVERYDAY, they would not be fat in the first place. Reality is, people under estimate what they eat. You dont get fat by over eating for 1 day, it í an accumulation of overeating over a long period of time!

[@DariaKropop]

Some people have different media problems that make them gain weight but of course majority is just overeating that’s pretty clear

[@PeiPeisMom]

I'm 58. All my life, I haven't just been fat, I've been unattractive the whole time. I don't mean fat but cute or pretty, I mean fat and conventionally ugly. I've just never been attractive. I feel everything you say and more because of the unattached-to-weight ugliness that I posses. It's f-ing hard, so thank you for discussing some of it

[@DariaKropop]

ohh I feel you. i know that I'm not ugly but tbh when you are fat that doesn't really matter that much. I feel like I'm invisible most of the times. The irony in that, so fat that takes so much space that in the same time invisible

[@lauraanderson8785]

You're so sweet and pretty 😁 I relate to this a lot, people are so goddamn rude to plus size people sometimes. Especially family members, I feel like mine have no filter at all. They don't understand that I've struggled with bulimia and binge eating for years, even though I've told them a thousand times, they act as if I could press a button to fix my eating disorder and suddenly be cured with no effort at all. It's annoying but at least I know that there are others out there who know how I'm feeling :)

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you 🤍😍 I feel you it’s so irritating but knowing you are not alone helps a lot

[@erica.rodriguez]

I feel you! Each time I go on a plane I fear that the belt is not closing! And I hate that I can't find clothes, I mean, does only thin people exist? Or if you find "bigger" ones those are "plain" 😅

[@DariaKropop]

I would simply *die* if I had to ask for extensions ! And the clothes ! Oh I love fashion but wear the same clothes all the time because it’s the only thing that fits me and I hate shopping

[@me4011]

Torrid and Shein have so many pretty plus size curvy "unplain" clothes and Old Navy and many more stores exist out there, if not sustainable for you then slow buy 😊

[@erica.rodriguez]

@@me4011 In Italy unfortunately we don't have Torrid or Old Navy, it's a struggle. Usually when I find "bigger sizes" they are either good for my legs/booty but will not close on my belly or close on the belly but too big for my legs 🥲

[@HotaruMimiuchi]

A big societal issue that most people don't realize that they do is the subconsious assumption that other people eat either the same amount or more than themselves and that other people are either as active or less active than themselves. This is why most people don't notice when someone has an eating disorder. Another problem is the assumption that being fat always is caused by eating and exercise habits. There are a good number of genetic medical conditions that make it so most people (mostly people assigned female at birth) can not lose weight without certain kinds of hormone therapys and medical procedures. You can live a very healthy life and that fat will not go away. The majority of people who give you "advice" about your weight are not dieticians or doctors or even know anything about your medical situation at all. They may have heard or read some stuff about certain kinds of diets but they have no idea if you could have something like lipedema that can not be fixed by diets and exercise alone. Despite what people might say, most of these people are actually pro-eating disorders. The restrictive suggestions and the harmful comments even when you are being healthy and active do give the impression that what they really think you should do is not eat and workout constantly and if you can't get the weight off fast enough that you are clearly doing it wrong.

[@DariaKropop]

yes exactly. I'm way more active then a lot of my very thin friends, I go to the gym, I lift , I eat a lot veg and people still look at me and probably think I am lazy :P

[@milainfluenserka6863]

Girl you are fantastic! I am obese extremly and I can relate with you.

[@DariaKropop]

Aww thank you !! Oh yeah it’s. It easy life

[@lynny397]

We should do a group singles cruise! 🥰🤗 it would be so much fun

[@DariaKropop]

Omg that’s the best idea!

[@ismaildaya2346]

Im 11 and so insecure about my fatness. Thanks for helping me ❤

[@DariaKropop]

Oh dear, I’m sure you’re not fat. Please don’t try to diet as this is how I got eating disorder because ej thought I was fat when I was a teen, I wasn’t

[@Erinnestatic]

Thank youuuu for addressing this 😭😭 I was very overweight (obese to the doctors…) and after 2 years did lose it all but the majority of the time I still feel like I’m mentally in my bigger body. I still feel the pain of what it was like and how people treated me. I hate people commenting on anyone’s body and giving unhinged advice it’s so unnecessary. It’s definitely true like you said, no one is fat just cause they’re lazy … it usually is a deeper issue. It was for me.

[@DariaKropop]

Oh yeas few people that I know that lost the weight are saying the same that they still feel like they are fat. ugh we can never win

[@themenkisser]

One of the things I hate the most about being fat it's that everyone keeps reminding me that I'm fat. LIKE OK? IM FAT AND I ALRD KNOW THAT literally so annoying and so uncalled for 😭 Thank you for talking about these issues so more people can see it! Some people pretend they care abt your health just so they can be rude to you, and I hope this video can maybe help change some of those minds! Keep up the good work

[@DariaKropop]

Right? We friggin know that , we have mirrors

[@stufen11]

Quite right, an encounter like that can destroy your self esteem, confidence, resolve, etc. Not good, I've been there.

[@DariaKropop]

I’m sorry you had to experience that as well

[@JustCallMeLiberty]

I've been overweight my entire life I'm 62 now. I weigh less now than I did in Junior high thanks to very low carbs and intermittent fasting.The weight is a symptom not a cause. There are various causes and contributing factors including society being programmed to hate those with the issue. I think the nurse you mentioned was giving good advice about low carbs and was trying to help in my opinion. I have had and seen others regain health and lose weight doing low carb, keto, carnivore and ketovoire. I would suggest checking out Dr.Ken Berry and his Wife Neisha along with Dr.Berg and Dr. Fung all here on KZbin. I think many many people are being helped thru low carb and intermittent fasting. Also there are many people with KZbin channel that healed themselves thru this way of eating. Just try it. Oh by the way I still have an occasional emotional binge...I had one last week. I get my mind right and carry on to reach my goals...you can do it too!

[@DariaKropop]

I struggle with binge eating so any restriction is bad for me

[@sarahkirbach5040]

I’ve seen some of the WIEIAD as a fat person and honestly the comments hurt my heart. I don’t like being fat either and I’m working on it. All that you’re saying is true.

[@DariaKropop]

Good luck to you 🤍🤍

[@kaylove5622]

I love hearing this because finally I can relate to someone. I developed hypothyroidism (which is a condition where thyroid hormones are not secreting as much and so metabolism is much slower and for some people even almost non existent) I also have pre-diabetes. So unfortunately I have to eat one meal a day and exercise extensible to lose like 1 ib a week. It's possible, but it is much harder for me compared to someone who does not have these conditions. I'm grateful that at least I still somewhat have a metabolism and can lose something instead of less than a ib. But it is still hard. It is true that people need to shut the fuck up lol. Stop judging, you don't know what they're going through, can be so many things why someone is fat and not just laziness..

[@DariaKropop]

Oh wow that sounds horrible !! You are so right, people don’t never know what you really are going through .

[@sallyruss4574]

People rather have bariatric surgery and take a pill to lose weight instead of making healthy food choices and WORKOUT! Geeze, it's not that complicated and since I used to be fat and knew I made the choice to be that way by what I ate and not exercise so I don't feel any compassion or sympathy for heavy people. I used to be that person. There's absolutely no reason you can't do simple exercises and choose a salad instead of fried food.

[@DariaKropop]

It’s sometimes not that simple , I am quite active and like healthy food but also I am Binge eater so I can be super good all week but then ruin it all in one day

[@KatsCorner]

I was fat for most of my adult life. It made me extremely ill. I ate a lot of carbs and processed food instead of protein and fat. Now I have cut out carbs and sugar and eat meat and fat bacon and lost over 60 pounds and still losing. You should look into a keto carno diet because you are Northern European and we do really well on an animal protein diet. What you say about being fat is true. you are invisible to others and now that I am finally slim and notice I get talked to and respected a lot more.

[@DariaKropop]

I am not a big fan of keto especially that I have ED but great job!!

[@sallyruss4574]

Loved your honest video. When I was heavy I was miserable and hated it. My face was fat and everything felt uncomfortable and it was my fault beecause I CHOSE to eat garbage food and not exercise. It's very simple. I got to a point where I knew if I let this go on I would be on my 600 lbs. life. You have to realize you get to a point where you know you need to do something about it. Fat people lie when they say they are happy being fat. That's a huge lie. It's scientifically proven being fat makes you depressed and physically sick. You are happy when you're fit and healthy. Why do you think there are so many body transformation videos of people that were fat and lost weight and have a brand new outlook on life and changed their diet to nutritious rich foods and exercise. No one wants to exercise!

[@DariaKropop]

Yeah you are right being fat is super hard there is no way one can enjoy it

[@jq9474]

When I am outside, I keep my focus away from woman otherwise they may think I trying something and get a sexual harassment claim against me. Worse if they are recording outside a guy may get called a pervert.

[@DariaKropop]

Ummm what?

[@AvidZKTJo]

Was so great to find this video today! All so true! ❤ One other thing I think thin people don't understand either is it's not like I can just lose 30 lbs and everything is awesome. With 150 lbs to lose, it's a daunting task and I've lost hope along that journey many times and lost all that progress in the process. I would give anything to only have to lose 30 or 40 lbs cuz I could do that! But 150 lbs is just so daunting and that really affects the journey in a way thin people will never understand.

[@DariaKropop]

Oh I know exactly what you are talking about. I need to lose 100lbs but I think the best way to go about it is to make small goals like to lose 12 lbs in 12 weeks and then just focus only on that number

[@mysweetroux5449]

Soo many good and relatable points in this video. Thank you

[@DariaKropop]

hank you, I really appreciate it

[@andreeacrinagabrielalazar9999]

I applaud you saing it is uncomfortable to be fat it truly is, my biggest was 171 lbs, 77 kg, my lowest was 40 kg or 88 lbs, i never dieted just once, now i am 102, i gained some weight but my weightloss was 5 years ago, i keep my weight low with fasting so i can eat carbs if i want to, pizza and fast food but not regularly. You can loose it. I was a binger i know the struggles but i am treathing my food struggles as an alchooholic does. Food is just fuel that is all. I stopped eating food for comfort. You can do this to. I never counted calories i lost the weight in one year, it was that easy. The weight melted. I just avoided sugar that year and bread, no cheat days. Exercise i added after i lost 20 kg.

[@DariaKropop]

I struggle with ED so I can't really cut anything from my diet because that will make it even worse but I definitely eat way less of "junk" than i did before.

[@ZikhonaN]

I’m so big I get so insecure everytime I pass by a mirror I don’t even want to be close to any camera, my colleagues always beg me to take staff pictures with them, m so insecure 😢, I hate this I’m fasting regularly but lately Im breaking and eating junk.

[@DariaKropop]

Don't let your weight keep you from doing things and also fasting is a bad idea that's why you're breaking and eating junk. Just try to diet in a sustainable way

[@lilashem1986]

Yes! To all of it. I feel so heard!

[@DariaKropop]

❤️

[@Melaniesue92]

Thank God for this breath of fresh air. The Fat Acceptance Movement is so harmful and really leads people to believe that it's okay to stay obese and that there are no complications or repercussions from it. That is a toxic lie. People should strive to love themselves, yes. But they should avoid spreading total nonsense regarding body size. Thank you for being you and sharing this message. I was immediately drawn to your energy and personality once I clicked on this video. ♡ Subscribed. 🙂

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you 😄 I think we should do what we want but also not bend the reality to fit our narrative hah

[@ymnatymnat]

Great great video i loved it I’m on a weight loss journey and I loved what you said you can be happy and over weight but you will be uncomfortable

[@DariaKropop]

thank you :) especially in summer , what a torture

[@usefulrandom1855]

Serious question. If you love vegetables and salads/ green juice etc why would you not eat a lot of these when you feel the emotional? Pretty hard to put on weight eating salads and veg if you exclude potatoes etc..as I am sure you know. What sort of thing are you eating when you feel emotional?

[@DariaKropop]

yeah but i like chocolate more :P on a serious note binge eating disorder and more complicated than that

[@Sunshine-yv6di]

I’m saudi and I live in Riyadh, we have this same issue doctors are so baised against fat people. I did have an arm trauma and thank god it wasn’t broken (reason because I fell on my back arm)but I was in severe pain. After my doctor has seen the x ray results he requested a blood test for A1c ( my blood glucose for the past 3 months). The result was my a1c is literally slightly just 0.1 m/mole lower than it should be and I’m considered overweight based on bmi (my bmi is 28)and I’m not diabetic :/ if I was thin he would suggested me to eat more because my sugar levels are slightly lower than it should! Most of lab tests are just numbers people are just different we have different genetics if I try to lose weight I have to starve myself because I don’t eat much at all. And I have never been lower than 70 kg it’s impossible for me I literally have to starve myself to do. I weight now 82 my comfort weight is 80/81 where I feel really comfortable physically and mentally.

[@DariaKropop]

Oh wow that is horrible and I’m sorry you have been treated this way.

[@Kindlelover88]

Oh My God I love you. Speak that truth lady!!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@DariaKropop]

Thanks girl ! It means so much to me

[@syazannaazaman8501]

You are so realistic. 😊

[@DariaKropop]

the only way :)

[@user-qm9uk6kc8h]

But for me the important thing has been to stop letting life go by saying I'll wear something once I'm thin or do something once I'm fit. I want to accept and be okay trying my best to be healthier tomorrow not necessarily thin. Life is now whether you're fat or thin. I think it's unfair that just because people can tangibly see a negative thing about you... it's easy for them to say mean things and give unsolicited advice. I mean does anybody do that to someone with a mental illness or a personality issue? Do they? That's why it is so unfair that it is out there for the world to see we can hide it like other weaknesses. And about the mean comments, people are going to make it if they can. That is just how they are. Not just about fat.. in general. No point in waiting for people to be nice or change them. The best way to free yourself from the trap is accept people and don't give a shit. Have better things to give a shit about. Always remember, you're more than just fat. It sucks but it is important to remember that especially in a world that doesn't help you feel good.

[@DariaKropop]

The problem is that fashion choices are limited for fat people ;/ Mean comments online don't hurt me at all i feel sad for them it's. a bit different in reallife i guess

[@happinesshotel5375]

Being fat sucks. I was scared of the wind most of my life. Anyone else? If you know you know?

[@DariaKropop]

I don’t get it

[@happinesshotel5375]

@@DariaKropop the wind blowing at my chest showing off my male boobs and rolls. This might be a guy thing. Idk

[@abhishekchaudhry80]

More power to you! ❤

[@DariaKropop]

hells yeah :)

[@ChocolateBabe_]

Proud of you❤

[@DariaKropop]

thank you :)

[@lilJennmanley]

Why am I fat because I block out pain and trauma with food it’s been my battle now for years, nobody on this earth wants to be fat people look at us and think greedy lazy I’ve tried to lose weight now for years I have been successful but always ended up putting it back on because something bad will happen in my life and it will be my excuse to eat oh well my life’s crap anyway may aswell eat sort of thing I went from a size 12 to an 18-20 uk in the space of like 5 years I have pcos also so that’s knocked my confidence having facial hair trying to keep on top of it so nobody will see plus childhood trauma has made me eat as an antidepressant

[@DariaKropop]

I do exactly the same, its exhausting and the first thing people see it's how fat I am, I legit stopped going out because I feel so shit ;/

[@darianwickel2019]

❤❤❤❤ please I am in a similar place right now it would be nice to not feel alone!

[@DariaKropop]

Join the club! We are fun but miserable haha

[@flam_buoy]

Binge eating and other disordered eating patterns affected my younger days so much that it is the only thing I remember from that time. Another thing is that in Eastern Europe (where I’m from) the skinny ideal is still prevalent. Here in the UK everything it is much more relaxed (you have a Polish sounding surname, you might know what I am talking about 😅). And I managed to heal, normal eating is no longer a challenge for me, but the thing that helped me was not diet or fitness bootcamp, but therapy.

[@DariaKropop]

I'm Polish so I definitely know what you are talking about haha life as a fat person is definitely easier here in the UK than back home hah. I had been in therapy for over 4 years now it's definitely helping but it's not magical solution

[@Joylitta]

You’re amazing 👏👏👏

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you ❤️❤️

[@KoolT]

Walk and walk and CONSTANT lemon water. Walk.

[@DariaKropop]

Lemon water doesn’t do shit and I walk a lot :)

[@lucieblindner2513]

I hear ya!

[@DariaKropop]

🥲

[@leldelauze5011]

All so true. And losing weight changes only that.

[@DariaKropop]

it's so hard

[@LabyrinthTaylorsVersion]

This is so accurate

[@DariaKropop]

I know right 😃

[@KoolT]

Save you back and knees old age sucks ❤❤❤❤❤

[@DariaKropop]

Yeah

[@user-qt7ze5lx2n]

👍👍👍💕

[@DariaKropop]

🥰

[@pamelars7497]

You go girl, I started at the personal trainer and back to my martial art class after a very grueling surgery. I am taking my fat ass to enjoy life, and hopefully loose some weight 🎉

[@DariaKropop]

Woo amazing ! Good luck , you can do it 💪🏻

[@deepdrag8131]

Well, I’ve discovered that no matter where in the world you go, your fat ass is sure to follow - so you might as well learn to find some peace with that. ;-)

[@glendakay9895]

I like to look at fat person’s content not to shame them just to understand. I do not understand eating feelings or food as coping. When I am upset I don’t eat. Yet I hear eating when depressed is a thing. I guess we assume a lot. People will always judge the addicted. I try to get help for my diet soda addiction due to the money it cost. I get no help. I also hear many heavy people say health care providers do not take you seriously. Health care does not take women seriously. It has nothing to do with size. If you were small. Your ills would be all in your head…especially pain. I know cause I have seen it for years on the daily.

[@DariaKropop]

Yeah it’s a super complicated issue, I honestly wish I would not eat when I’m stressed I always eat my feelings :/ I think with doctors it’s like a double thing you are woman and they ignore your pain and also you are fat so just lose weight and you will be fine :/

[@maryamsaghafi5993]

Mukbang is a big trap for E.D order people

[@DariaKropop]

Oh yeah for sure, don’t know why they are so popular

[@maryamsaghafi5993]

@@DariaKropop It’s a social media business I think

[@lydiab6063]

I agree.

[@DariaKropop]

Thanks :)

[@harlowisla]

Facts

[@DariaKropop]

It’s so hard

[@Generic819]

So, so tired of the "fat people are lazy trope". Like we are all like the worst cases they find and put up on reality shows.

[@DariaKropop]

same ! I know very skinny people who never stepped foot in a gym

[@Generic819]

​@@DariaKropopright! I know my diet isn't the best, but it's probably about average or slightly better since I don't drink soda or coffee and I pack my lunch for work so I'm not going through the drive through everyday.

[@chingllac]

ask the short girl here whose height is less than 5 ft 😢. We have thesame feeling it sucks!

[@DariaKropop]

short and skinny or short and fat? because the first oene not even close, all the guys think it's so cute

[@KoolT]

Hi protein quicker but must exercise and eat healthy ❤

[@DariaKropop]

When you eat high protein you are less hungry

[@LoveAndSnapple]

Mukbangs are the BIGGEST slap in the face regarding our relationship with food. You're allowed to eat all the greasiest, sauciest, creamiest, fattiest, crunchiest, sugary foods but as long as you don't gain any weight, you're in the clear. The relationship that developed nations have with food is so unsettling and unfair. Because some people can indulge without any visual repurcussions, but if those repurcussions show up on you then it's your fault. I'm gonna call a lot of skinny people out when I say, "I know you're starving yourself. I know you're eating in secret. You're not doing anything special. No weird diets, no exercise regimen, no real lifestyle change. You're just starving yourself and are willing to starve to just not be fat." You hear it all the time when you're around skinny friends about how it's some kind of competition to see who ate less and who can consume the least amount of calories. "Oh, I don't remember the last time I ate. I think it was a handful of almonds and half a granola bar." "Me? Oh I had a cup of coffee and the other half of a sandwich I didn't finish yesterday." The one who eats the most like a baby bird wins.

[@DariaKropop]

I have never seen any mukbangs but I assume people just spit it out and edit it out , it’s impossible Yeah I think some of the people just have different appetite and hunger cues than others. I just hate when they say they wouldn’t be able to eat that much, like shut up

[@leah8112]

Aww ur awesome!

[@DariaKropop]

Thank you 😍🥰

[@ericHHII]

Let’s date. It’s that easy

[@DariaKropop]

🙃

[@kerstincarlsson2760]

💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@DariaKropop]

🤍🤍

[@leigh7507]

I find fat women attractive (not all but more so than thin women) but it makes me feel guilty as most fat women want to be thin. (you have lovely accent btw)

[@DariaKropop]

I think you shouldn't feel bad. I personally like dad bods over 6pack :)

[@magdalenagrabinska5928]

I love you!❤

[@DariaKropop]

I love you too ❤️❤️ can’t wait to see you

[@magdalenagrabinska5928]

@@DariaKropop me tooooooo!!!

[@silence5707]

You look beautiful. ❤

[@FullmoonPhantom-dn2sr]

I know, right? I can’t believe anyone would tell her “no”. She’s incredibly beautiful! Gorgeous!

[@DariaKropop]

Thanks guys haha I think the weight is not helping hah

[@missydebby]

subscribed!

[@DariaKropop]

Welcome to our little community 🤍

[@ian1697]

Lying to your doctor and you reported her smh you will nvr lose weight if u don’t get real

[@DariaKropop]

What ?

[@DebbieHarriman-dd1qg]

Well just fart then they will leave you alone. Hehehe 🤗🤭😁🤣

[@DariaKropop]

Hahaha