You won't stop binge eating until you understand this.

[@Lucidtundra]

I stopped binge eating when I realised eating excessively won’t change the fact that my mother was a narcissist

[@_namasteshay]

Oooooof you just hit waaay to close to home 😢🥵

[@Lindakelly89]

This is just facts right here 😢 was it an overnight realization?

[@angelamurphy9472]

Such a fantastic insight! Thank you.

[@sattheer1493]

I have been consuming binge-eating content for almost a decade and I have NEVER heard anyone describe my experience so perfectly. This is an amazing video!

[@Catita_atitaC]

me too

[@CharlieMingaz843]

My mind is blown.

[@hassegawamkt]

Same for me! I feel like she's describing me. Lol

[@EdouardNicolas96]

a decade?? seems like the content hasn't been helping you if you still around

[@jl2493]

​@@EdouardNicolas96😡

[@andreamolnarova2185]

Hi, Im Rebecca.

[@RyanAmero]

Your her client?

[@nowwhat1434]

Me too!

[@geishalova]

no youre andrea molnárová

[@annabella_jean]

Same here

[@Rose_budd]

I'm Rebecca as well lol

[@nusabygrace]

Today is my 4th day without binging. I am so happy. It’s possible, my dear, never stop believing and seeking it!

[@زارا-ش7ض]

im rooting for you 🫶🏼

[@jackyderden8775]

Yay! Keep us updated :)

[@goshiii1995]

YAYYY IM SOOPROUD AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!I'm gonna stop binging tomorrow I hope it'll stop forever

[@meenugupta1137]

Hey I am 13 years old I binge on sweets alot I have recovered ed but now I am fed up of this binge eating How did you recovered your binge eating

[@AnnieBrinkley-g8d]

I am definitely binging because I am bored and feel suppressed. I do t feel like I can go out and do what I want without checking I. With my partner first.

[@sarabethlopez]

These are the type of videos that need to go viral. What world do we live in?

[@lauralee5226]

I binged again today. And yesterday. And the day after. I want to be better. I will try again, and again ❤

[@pcastillo01]

That’s ok. Focus on calming your mind and body down. Eat slower. Eat what you like. After your body and mind are peaceful then you can decide what foods are better for you. Eventually you’ll move to what’s better to eat and what amount is better. Slow down, breathe, slow your mind and body down. There is nothing wrong with you, this is just a habit, a coping method. You can focus on finding new, healthier coping methods and slowly, calmly change.

[@cikis14]

I have done this for 20 years, I’m exhausted

[@awarmshrine]

This video just made me realise that food symbolises forgiveness to me. As a kid whenever I got screamed at, the next day my parents would give me a treat to apologise or bc they felt guilty. So now when I allow myself to binge, it feels like I'm forgiving myself :'(

[@cheers2023]

I don't think I am a full-blown binge eater, but I think I'm nearly there. Trying to find ways to stop before it gets worse.

[@anitas5817]

I wasn’t even aware that all my thoughts around planning food, diets, tracking, etc, is a disordered behavior in and of itself. This is eye opening. I don’t need more planning to do better. I need one simple way of eating, on autopilot, and to stop using food as a hobby in any sense.

[@evaggeliastavropoulou7829]

My cravings when under depression meds were INSANE, I gained 8kg, which might not sound like a lot but it was to me. I stated writing everything down (like a diet journal). For the first step I tried to only eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day and once I got that down I started swapping the unhealthy choices with healthy ones + 20' of exercise 3-4 times a week. It took over a year but my old clothes finally fit again! It was a slow change but a change nonetheless 😊

[@kotenoklelu3471]

I also want to lose 12 kilo. I am in second month. I lost 3 kilos. But I overeat on cookies yesterday 2700 calories. And I need to eat 1300 calories. I afraid to think about weighing myself after this

[@marnieishappy7530]

I’m suffering with mentall illness too and I’ve gained 10 kgs , I’ll try your tips ! Thank you🙏🏻

[@evaggeliastavropoulou7829]

@@kotenoklelu3471 Hi, I hope you are doing good! About what you asked one month ago: I don't think one day of overeating can outdo months of hard work. Don't beat yourself mentally for having an off day once in a while. Just make sure that day is an exception, not the rule.

[@dikshasharma5642]

Same am on antipsychotics since jan and i have gained 17 kg and it's so concerning and i just can't stop myself I feel so empty without eating ..

[@evaggeliastavropoulou7829]

@@dikshasharma5642 I don't know how antipsychotics affect appetite but I heard it's even more extreme than antidepressants...try to do things that make your heart full, maybe swithing your focus to something other than food is the key. I hope you find your balance💙

[@mexicanprincess2002]

It’s my 3rd time trying recovery and I feel more hopeful than ever. Of course I’m still scared of things going wrong, but my need to get better is stronger and videos like this make me feel more seen and comforted. Thank you

[@RachaelWrigley]

That's really lovely to hear. You're very welcome here. You can do this ❤️

[@yashvi8576]

Did it help u??

[@Lockit0_0]

3rd time's the charm

[@mexicanprincess2002]

@@Lockit0_0 I hope so :)

[@steadystackin7250]

In America, there is more fake food than real food. As a person who has chosen only to put mostly real food in my body, it's extremely frustrating that you have to work so hard to find it. I'm constantly having to think and plan about food simply because real food is not available in most restaurants

[@assia1903]

"The solution to that is not to try to use willpower to stop yourself from eating, the solution as I see it is how you can add in real fun and excitement and adventure into your life" 👏👏👏 This is life changing, thank you very much.

[@reneetones2077]

Thank you for this video. I am 63. I have been an emotional eater forever. I eat to comfort myself when I am afraid, stressed, lonely, board, ect. I grew up with an angry, distant mother. We weren't allowed to have feelings. We didn't dare show any anger. My sisters became alcoholics and I turned to food for my comfort. Gaining weight is also a shield to hide behind. I have healed a lot through therapy and prayer, but now I am left with not knowing how to be happy and have a fun fulfilling life. I feel a lot of grief for the loss of a happy life all these years. I use food and sweets as a fake social life. If I could just, "get a life", maybe I would be able to exchange love of food to love of people and activity.

[@inesfreire9135]

I feel the same :(

[@lovelymunch2]

this is a very late reply, but i say take a walk or two everyday! start with a 5 minute walk, get comfortable with that and add 5 minutes whenever you are ready. create a playlist you love and just take a lovely stroll! i know this may be a bit counterintuitive, but take a walk to a bakery whenever you want a treat, get some fresh air and converse with the people you meet along the way! wishing you the very best 💗

[@laurx.]

I have been struggling with ED for the past 6 years now and I never once even thought about it that way. Being/feeling this way has been making my life miserable because I constantly think about it and for once in my life, thanks to you, I finally understand that I am not stuck, that I can get better, that it will get better. I also feel understood and seen and I never felt that way before. So thank you so much for posting this video !

[@RachaelWrigley]

I ma so glad to hear this has helped you in this way ❤️ You are understood here, I assure you.

[@ottipellegrini]

Honestly... thank you so much for this video! I am 100% Rebecca and what is crazy is that since a couple of days I have started to realise that what I really crave is to feel loved and accepted and that i should go out more instead of staying home to count calories. You are so insightful, great great job and congrats for overcoming it!

[@RachaelWrigley]

Well done!! I'm really happy for you 🎉❤️

[@sugarsober]

I love how insightful this comment is. I had binge eating disorder for years and when I was most strict with my eating is also when I was most depressed, alone, isolated...yet strict diets pretend to sell "freedom." It's such a trap!

[@ottipellegrini]

@@sugarsober ❤Thank you! I hope you are doing well right now and enjoying life :)

[@brynncampbell4929]

I just skipped youth group the other night to meal prep 😅

[@sugarsober]

@Brynn Campbell I think choosing Jay you really need is more important than sticking to a specific meeting schedule

[@sharkya1006]

this is the most helpful video I've watched on youtube on forming a healthy relationship with food, lightbulbs went on multiple moments throughout. i never understood the importance of learning new ways to feel self assured that aren't dependent on being smaller, until now. I read the intuitive eating book and it didn't help much at all but you've really managed to explain and help a lot in just 10 minutes

[@RachaelWrigley]

That means a lot to me to hear. Thank you for taking the time to write that ❤️ Above all else, I am glad it has led to some light bulb moments for you.

[@jayalex_8]

Agreed with this comment! This video was crazily at the top of my recommendations page when I opened up the app and its just blown my perception up. I imagine this is what paid therapy does for people 😅

[@shreyansisingh]

I’m literally Rebecca, i have had binge disorder for the past5-6 yrs and I didn’t even know it was a disorder until last year, the part where you described binge and a replacement of entertainment is so accurate and also the point that planning for next meal is sort of a distraction from current stressful stuff and anxiety is so spot on, I couldn’t have described what I was feeling better than you have,thank you❤️

[@morimori6251]

I am right now mostly 16 in a month, I’ve always been obsessed with how I look, how much I weight and how perfect I am at least since the age of 13… Right now I feel like I can’t stop thinking about food, it’s hard to restrict myself as well and hard to even enjoy food after I “eat the whole fridge”. I decided it’s better to fix the problem right now; this video helped better than ever I never thought there would be people who would be exactly like me

[@jl2493]

This is me. It serves a purpose; it allows me relax, to zone out, to occupy my thoughts, etc. Every morning I'm a different person, researching and learning, and then the afternoon or evening comes, I binge, feel relief (not from restriction but from my thoughts of my day or because it is my habit and I look forward to it). I don't know how to want to stop; how to find something as worthwhile.

[@portofthoughts4477]

You described how overeating is literally a hobby to a T and it's really opened my eyes ... Thank you, this was excellent. A real description of what emotional/boredom eating looks like and it's really changed my perspective on my binges.

[@smkra8832]

I could really relate to this video, always binge eating when I‘m heavily bored, frustrated or stressed which I‘m very often due to lack of social touchpoints. When I‘m out with friends I don’t even think about food, I have joy I could go hours and hours without food, I feel more alive, I just feel something at all.

[@LanaAndHearts14]

I'm doing counseling and medication for BED, and you answered SO MANY questions I had. I told my Dr's binge eating feels like a cigarette at the end of the day I have stress and anxiety all day long and eating at the end of the day is the biggest relief. And... as a child we lived next to a taco bell, that's when I saw my mom get abused and my father went to jail for m3der. For years taco bell was my main binge place. My mind is blown I can't wait to share this discovery with my therapist. Thank you.

[@WildWinterberry]

I want everyone in the comments to know that you all deserve to be heathy and have all the nutrition you need to thrive. You are worth more than how your ED is treating you and i wish you all happiness and health

[@lunameister2625]

Wow this is crazy. I feel like you uncovered every reason I restrict and binge and told my whole Story of Mt relationship with Food. Channels like these are the ones we need. Thank you!

[@777-o5l]

I couldn’t help but cry, you literally just described my life right now and i am so sick and tired of it.

[@777-o5l]

Also, this video did more for me than my first two sessions with my psychologist lolol

[@merivalefreya7064]

this is the most helpful video i have ever seen. I am a 41 year old mom of 4 and let me tell you, you don't grow out of this behavior, you grow into it. I am now binging, dieting, watching endless food shows, taking baths and shopping to regulate my emotions and distract from the stresses in my life. I never realized the positive things i was getting from this behavior and it feels like the missing puzzle piece . I always wondered why I couldn't stop doing something that was so self destructive. Thank you thank you thank you. im saving this video to rewatch for years to come. ❤❤❤❤

[@ot7bg]

every attachment in life needs to be looked at this way. once you resolve all your attachments, you will have liberated yourself. all the best everyone, it's a long and hard journey for all.

[@ladysensei1487]

Please start a podcast!! Your knowledge and pov is invaluable to many women. It’s such a fresh take that I can honestly say this has been the most helpful channel for me.

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ I'm so glad that this channel has been helpful. I'm sure one day I will start a podcast! For now I'm busy working on my program /course ❤️

[@shannondillow9587]

I have struggled with ED/Binge eating for 7 years now. It’s kind of a blessing that your video popped up on my home page. Thank you so much for this video. I related to every part of the story. For once, I did not feel alone❤️ I hope and pray to start a journey of recovery

[@peggycrowley9534]

An incredibly amazing insight into my 75 year old brain. I worked in mental health for 35 years, did many bouts of therapy for years. But....here i am. I do have successes dealing with my disordered eating but it never lasts long. Food takes up SO MUCH SPACE in my brain.

[@clouise7473]

I don't think I have an eating disorder yet, but I've been getting to a point recently where I feel like I'm at a little bit of a tipping point. I have friends who've been through eating disorders, and I don't want to get to that place, so I decided to do some research to understand what I'm going through better. This was one of the first videos that came up and I'm so glad I found it. I resonate with this a lot already and I'm going to try hard to take your advice and seek out what I guess I might classify as "distractions," or just other methods of "fun" or "entertainment" that can replace the relief feeling you were talking about that I get from food.

[@katestavridi5193]

Well said! I hope you don't ever reach the level of a disorder. Our health is above the rest. Stay well, my friend😊

[@Erica-zi1il]

How have I not watched this sooner you are describing me. Even the weight lost in how many weeks to the clothes I will wear. I have been on a diet nearly my whole adult life and I still struggle everyday and am still overweight. Everything revolves around food. It is draining but thank you for this video. I know it is not just me that deals with these thoughts every single day.

[@omnzgnr678]

I cannot believe how perfectly you explained binge eating and why it occurs

[@rebekahadrian487]

Yes! I needed the control and something else to focus on because I didn't like what was happening in my life. When i started to fix my relationship with food, I noticed I needed something else because without a disordered relationship with food there was a void. That was a big focus of my life: it gave me a type of purpose.

[@RachaelWrigley]

This is so insightful of you. This 'void' is a real thing for a lot of women (that I have worked with anyway). Who are we and what do we care about when it's not food and weight? Such an important question to ask from the get go. You hit the nail on the head there with 'purpose'. It really can be like that. ❤️

[@thenoobksa123]

I’m going to listen to this every. Single. Day. The first few minutes of the video and you’ve immediately listed everything I’ve been feeling… you’re amazing. I really never thought of it this way 😢

[@takumichan5153]

had a full breakdown realizing the connection of my relationship with food is also related to how i regulate with my feelings and how it was addressed by my parents growing up

[@ninamonti2056]

This scared me, because you just describe my two last years and I didn't realize that was like that until I saw your vídeo. It shock me a lot, but it helps me a lot to see what was the real problem of everything. I was so convenced that my problem with food is because how my body looks like, that seeing myself as Rebecca, shows me that it's not. Thanks You so much for this vídeo, and sorry if I don't speak English very well, i'm from argentina and I'm trying My Best xd

[@sugarsober]

This is such an insightful comment. I'm so excited work like this is changing the entire conversation!

[@maqima]

I don't feel like I can say I've got an ED or anything, but I got a really unhealthy relationship with food. This really spoke to me, and I'll try not to feel good about just watching a video about it, and try to do something about it. we're all trying.

[@v.9524]

I haven't had problems with food in years and I don't know why this video was recommended to me or why I watched it, but this has got to be some of the best advice I've ever heard, not just for food but for every self-destructive cycle. Funnily enough, though my problems right now aren't an ED, they were CAUSED by an ED-it basically set me back three and a half years of my life and I've been playing catch-up ever since. I feel so far behind everyone else my age because while they were studying and getting jobs and applying for colleges I was in and out of treatment centers. Though I no longer struggle with food, it seems as if I replaced my one massive disruption with a bunch of tiny disruptions that are beginning to make a significant impact on me. My perspective on tackling those issues has changed after watching this video. Thank you for being so wonderfully insightful!

[@mandarinapranjic2173]

Thank you. This is painfully accurate for me. I started dating when i was15-16 years old, im now 22 and finally single. The more im single the more i binge and i kind of think its because i miss being in relationship and cuddling. I tried intermitted fasting (16-8) and it honestly fucked me up so much. I was on it for a month and felt so proud of myself, it was my little accomplisment every day. But i felt really obsessive so i stoped and now i just binge all the time even more than before. I feel so out of control, and when i binge its Like i try to eat as much calories as possible in a short period of time and feel Like that's wrong but cant help it.

[@Desi_101]

This is the most honest, accurate, and helpful video I’ve watched on how to recover from binge eating disorder. I’ve been struggling with binge eating since I was 12 years old ( 5 years) and I’ve been on this roller coaster of emotions. And I’ve been trying to find a solution.. also I realated to the story that you told which was so surprising to me

[@pinkmuffingirl]

I'm about to finish this video but I just need to say, that I think I've never felt more understood in my life than now. When you talked about how it's hard to go out, get out of your comfort zone, or eat healthier when you're also feeling insecure about yourself... I totally resonated with that. Thank you so much for this video, it's so nice to feel understood and like I am not alone. Right now I'm dealing with a lot of instability in my relationship (with my boyfriend) and I know that the problems started when he basically installed some insecurities in my head that I didn't really had before (he compared me with a celebrity and even though I know it might sound stupid or immature to be so offended or hurt by this, I can't help it, wish I could but I can't). So now, apparently, I need to go to therapy (which I am, I started last week and I'm very happy about this since I'd been wanting to go for a long time) to help myself be more confident so I can stop just trying to break uo every day. But if I'm honest, deep inside I feel like after I get more confident, I might actually break up with him since I've been feeling miserable on a daily basis after he hurt my self-esteem and we've been struggling with this for over two months now. I know that it can sound bad, as if I was "planning" on leaving him. But that isn't quite the case, really. I just don't know if I want to be with someone who hurt my feelings and who also after doing that and seeing that it's not that easy for me to get over it even after they apologised, they don't even want to talk about the issue anymore, like it was nothing. But he says he loves me and doesn't want to lose me, and neither do I, so I don't know what to do. That was sort of unrelated, I know :/ but I wanted to say it, too and see if anyone can relate with me and maybe give me an opinion, or advice. And yes, I know I'm already seeing a therapist but I feel anxious right now. To all the girls (and/or boys) who could be reading this, thank you for reading and also I wish you a good day or night :')

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your story. I'm not going to give you advice as that is not my place. That doesn't mean you're not supported here. You are. I'm sending you so much love in this difficult time for you ❤️❤️ I hope that therapy brings you clarity and direction. I'm sure that it will. These things can be more complex than they seem on the surface!! Xx

[@pinkmuffingirl]

@@RachaelWrigley Thank you, you're very kind 🥺❤️ and yes I believe that therapy will bring me clarity and direction too 🥲

[@laolualuko9417]

He doesn't want to talk about the issue anymore even though you told him that it still affects you? I think you should leave him.

[@pinkmuffingirl]

@@laolualuko9417 we're still together and I'm still not over what happened but tbh it's like each time I get to communicate he seems to be more and more uninterested, like he ran out of patience. I get that I forgave him but idk... Another thing is that he doesn't let me end the relationship. He even told me he was gonna kill himself some weeks ago and that made me feel pressured and guilty even though I'm aware it's not okay to threaten like that. I think he thinks the relationship will work effortlessly and I'll learn to trust him out of the blue...

[@laolualuko9417]

@@pinkmuffingirl Those are more reasons for you to end it. He won't actually kill himself. The longer you wait before you end it, the more painful it will be when you actually do it. I pray that you have the strength to do what you need to do. Please keep me posted, thanks.

[@xtrasss]

i’m literally rebecca down to the T. with wanting to be pretty and skinny and popular, with distracting mysed with food, to making plans i’m going to cry she is me

[@iisabellaleyva]

I have never felt so exposed when it came to my food habits. This story is EXACTLY what I have been going through. I recently found out that the reason why I deal with having a bloating which in turn made me restrict was because my body can't consume gluten well. I got checked by a doctor about this, so it is not my own self-assessment, but in all honesty, I really wished I would have seen this video a couple months back. I feel a weird sense of comfort- but it is still great, thank you so much for making this! I definitely needed to see this.

[@samanthaalsopp]

This video actually made me cry, I always knew I felt something wasn't right with myself but you've just described me in one! I hope I can turn it around!

[@midnightdew]

Your video confirmed my thoughts..I grew up obese because of sedentarism, loneliness and too much sugar to cope with my hard feelings. I always hated myself and treid to use all techniques to stop binge eating on sugar and pasta. I am totally Rebecca...the fact that I could not live my life socializing, doing meaningful connection with people and being optimistic and loving myself, I tried to eat my feelings when I felt down. I needed so much help, there was no one for me. This was a way to cope with depression and anxiety, I think without food I would have been much worse. But I will repair my self esteem in time. I hope. Thank you ❤

[@MizzThanng]

the "sense of entertainment" part is SPOT on. I've always felt this way but never heard it articulated....I really wonder if I'm just bored and often use my body as something to fix my attention to and find feelings of accomplishment - which of course come with the shadow that when I gain weight I feel a sense of extreme failure...thank you for making this video, it's been eye-opening

[@sofiaaloi8529]

I can’t believe this doesn’t have 1million views, it’s mind blowing how many people it could help.

[@neilcook1652]

As a 61 year old man who spent most of my career in the food business, I found this very informative and it helps me to understand my love hate relationship with food and myself. My current diet I’ve lost 24 pounds in 32 days by one Keto meal a day. I now understand how to lose weight in terms of the mechanics. At my heaviest I was 20 stone, currently 16 and targeting anything under 14 as NHS healthy weight. I’m sure however that my real challenge is emotional though, so this was interesting and opens up a new area to explore. Ideally I’d like to come off the blood pressure tablets I’ve been on for 20 years, with the doctors agreement that I no longer need them.

[@sh0eh0rn4]

after 10 years of trying to recover from BED, I’ll tell you that I’d never heard this perspective before. looking at what we can add to our lives instead of what we should take away is so…liberating. thank you. I believe this may change my trajectory.

[@nowwhat1434]

9:07 my issue was all the things I wanted to do for fun and excitement I couldn’t do because I hated the way I looked. I didn’t want to be seen at all. I was too embarrassed and anxious. I lost about 10 years to total isolation due to body image issues. All I did was sit at home and eat and wish I had a life. Now I’m feeling better but I can’t get that time back and I’m suffering for it.

[@RachaelWrigley]

I hear you and empathise fully. I don't know if you made it to the end but I went on to say 'the very things that help us get out of an ED are the very things it can be so hard to do because we have an ED'. While we can't get that time back we can use that experience as fuel to make the absolute most out of every year that is ahead of us and to build amazing new highs of confidence and live life on a higher plane than perhaps we would have if we had never suffered at all.

[@casper335631]

Well your 10min summary of the thoughts and behaviors of someone who is suffering from ED / binge eating is spot on. It is exactly whats going on in my head all the time. You've done a good job understanding this issue and laying it out for ppl who aren't familiar with the matter

[@barbaram.6220]

I cannot believe how you described my life in such detail. Now I need to find something that I would think is fun to do, nothing comes to mind- but you've given me such hope. Thank You !!!

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

this video resonates with me so well and I just realized that after 2 years of quarantine desolation I relapsed to this binging mindset again. It's like my defense from dieting. I lost 6 lbs in a week of becoming more fit and adopting a healthy lifestyle, I know on paper it's not healthy but I don't see any other way. One day I worked off more calories than I ate, I was exhausted and realized I couldn't keep the fitness up (running, walking for 3 hrs a day) and the calorie counting was rotting my brain. Back then when I binged, it was really bad, I was so lost then I don't know if it was really about being prettier. Those binge ED videos where they'd eat like 2000+ calories... yeah that was something like it. But now, truth is it was very thin girls at school that made me want to be thinner again, and I gained 20+ lbs during quarantine, having already wanted to lose weight when I was at my thinnest. Another deep truth is that my sibling is trying to lose weight as well and competitivity is one of my main motivations. I do not have access to a gym though I wish, and I work part time so yeah. I want to give up, I can't do what it takes. Sorry for this vent it just spilled out.

[@bazsimoe]

this video is the epitome of "the truth hurts". crying but also feeling very seen. thank you.

[@sanna7882]

This was so helpful! I have also noticed that past traumas can make you binge eat. It is easier to eat yourself numb or to be overweight than take responsibility for healing from those traumas..

[@maeieeq]

i’ve never heard anything that’s resonated with me so much… it’s so hard for me to pinpoint where it all sort of started but i feel like this just said it all..

[@maszkeradikisasszony]

I think I've been living like Rebeka for about 10 years and I've never seen this so clearly before. Thank you!

[@brittany3559]

I have a similar food roller coaster. I have autism, which makes it difficult for me to feel like I fit in with other people. When I was very young I learned from experience that the easiest way for me to fit in was to eat what other people are eating, eat something that is offered to me, etc. Sharing was the key to unlocking how to build friendships for me as a child and it is impossibly ingrained in my behavior today. When other people offer me food, I always feel like I have to accept it in order to maintain a connection with them. If someone orders a burger, I feel like I have to do the same in order to show them we have similar interests. And I need to offer food also, and the more indulgent the food is that I’m offering, the more people will appreciate it and participate. So I feel like I always have to have indulgent food on hand to offer to others, which I of course end up eating myself. When I’m by myself, I have no problem eating healthy, but that is rare. So I’m on the same roller coaster, but it’s for opposite reasons.

[@VElizabethWhitecrochet]

I’ve been struggling with a vicious cycle of bingeing and restricting all my life (I’m 45 now) and I’m realizing that I been using food as a coping mechanism from trauma. I have a therapist now, but still am stuck in this cycle and I really would like to see your approach.

[@amyw5647]

The power of KZbin- this resonated more with me than anything I discussed during hundreds of £s worth of therapy ❤

[@whereisfrankocean]

i struggled with anorexia for years and tried to recover this year but instead of having a good relationship with food, i started to binge eat and feel guilty afterwards. no matter how i try to remind myself that food is truly a fuel that we need and i deserve to eat, i often go overboard and i don't even know how to stop it. i never felt a sense of satisfaction with the way i eat and it's so exhausting

[@julietam2595]

i've been in recovery for two years, and lately ive been feeling so close to slipping back into my disorder. this video helped me so, so much to gain back perspective and motivation to keep healing

[@RachaelWrigley]

I hope you're immensely proud of yourself. I'm really pleased to hear this video could be that help to you in a moment of vulnerability ❤️

[@alayna9207]

I’ve never found a better video that explains exactly how I feel and exactly what I go through. I’ve tried to explain it to people but they never understand I feel so seen right now.

[@eureka2694]

6:02 everything aside the diet part is true. Eating is my moment of relaxation. With University there is never any down time. Even during vacation there is homework soo eating is...relaxing. 😭😭

[@eureka2694]

8:50 Stop being relatable...for me it's yhe opposite. Eating is the only moment where I can relax. Otherwise it never ends. University give an endless list of expectations what gets bigger with time, as if we are limitless being. Like being in internship, while taking notes for your internship evaluation. And you are supposed to memorize the classes you had before the interniship started. And do good during your work hours. And vacation is just a pretty word for preparing for exams you will have when you go back to University. It just never ends. And people tell me that I'm not dynamic.

[@tappingrat2469]

You really just made me realize how much of a serious problem I have. Like it was so eye opening and felt like therapy session honestly

[@laurenriley8519]

Oh my goodness…one of the BEST videos I have watched about binge eating hands down! Thank you for your clarity and honesty. So good and so true❤️

[@jenniferkern1502]

I've never heard somebody 'get' me like this. I didn't even realize how much I liked planning my binges and then my recovery from the binge (i.e. diet). Whoa.

[@elaroluv8631]

i watched some of your videos, and i concluded my emotions and mindset causing me to binge. so i took what you said to heart and i have been eating intuitively for the past 3 days. I haven't felt the need to binge for the past 3 days after hearing your advice. I don't limit myself. I eat more healthy and when I'm hungry, I stop when I'm full. if I want a snack, I don't tell myself I can't snack, I'll eat a snack. when you said that your bingeing is not a problem you need to stop doing but a symptom of something in your life, it really helped me to see food differently and stop restricting/binging. it's crazy how simple it was after all this time. I've struggled most of my life to become a "normal" eater, but all I needed was to be taught why I binge and the psychological factor, and now I feel so free because I can eat what I want, but be healthy at the same time. also i am a boy. ❤

[@Ren-Colby]

When she started talking about planning, all the weekly schedules, the goals.........I felt hella called out. But I needed to hear this. Lol

[@Eloise-d4d]

I've been experiencing this for almost 3 years now...another thing that started my binge eating was way back in highschool I was really really fat, I then lose a lot of weight during Pandemic, got praised and treated differently, got addicted to the compliments, started working out to tone up, praised for having a "fast metabolism" and now ...gained all the weight back and can't stop eating feeling low and depressed

[@JessieSchwab]

Wow. I’ve been searching so many different BED resources for so long and this is the first and only time I’ve ever felt really understood.

[@maddien2135]

I’ve never been able to explain what goes through my head and you explained it perfectly. I think the reason I do it is because it gives me a sense of control. It’s one of the few things I can control in my life but I also feel so out of control of it at the same time and idk how to fix it.

[@toprakatay6963]

I randomly clicked thinking that I would close it in like 2 minutes but she kept on describing exactly %100 percent me and it went on for 10 minutes.I feel like this will help me a lot,thanks in advance.

[@sofiafr5993]

I had to pause this every ten second. Speechless. Holy shit. Felt stuck, even with a therapist, thank you so much. Thank you.

[@Yourfacejkjk]

I eat most (if not all) of a pizza nearly every day. I love pizza, it's always been my favorite thing. As a kid I had it for birthdays, as a reward for good grades, any time my family wanted me to be happy for any reason. I eat almost nothing else and it's absolutely destroyed my health in recent years. I just discovered I have a binge eating disorder and your channel is my first contact with addressing that. You've explained my situation so much, I've been dieting off and on for years and never quite getting anywhere.

[@tonisiret5557]

Just found the channel; 22 years of binge-eating, but issues with food for 40-odd. Got my BED diagnosis 2 weeks ago, & hoping the NHS can help 🤷‍♂️ Thank you 😊

[@BlueRhino_]

My binge eating came from a young age when i was a young child i always had food and everyone around me would constantly give me food not because of emotions but just because. Then when i got a little older we had money struggles where food became scarce and when we had it i would eat a lot for the fear we wouldn't have any. But now im learning to heal my broken relationship with food.

[@slimwithme8711]

I have never, EVER heard it put so well before. I have struggled with overeating and binge eating since I was about 12, and I am 56! I lost weight successfully throughout my adult life, but it wasn't until 2019 that I went down to a weight that I was very proud of. However, it's been a short-lived triumph. I still struggle with binge eating, and it's been a yo-yo dieting experience. So frustrating! But, you nailed it! You described me to a T. Thank you so much. I am sharing this video with my dietary technologist. I just subscribed to your amazing channel.

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you for your lovely comment I really it x

[@The_Cosmic_Shaman_1972]

Wow. My relationship with food is fu€ked and it is directly affecting my ability to show up authentically with my gifts. Crazy where my feed led me but it’s all been actually helpful. Blessed be all.

[@hazaldenizaygun7339]

I am 6 years binge free and highly highly recommend the book Brain over Binge!

[@konakyanjordyn]

Mounjaro/Zepbound saved me! It literally turned off all food noise and I finally felt normal and ate like everyone else! It saved my life!!!

[@jomoswagos]

best video so far that I've watched on this topic. all the talks that only focus on food and diet and regulation miss this point entirely: that we binge eat because we want to distract from something else, mainly emotions... thank you for making this 🙏

[@nayeliredican]

years of ED therapists & not one brought me to the root of of the issue. thank you

[@RachaelWrigley]

I'm really happy to hear this has helped that much ❤️

[@becca2109]

I related to this video very much... my name is Rebecca and the story you told is practically identical to mine and it felt like you were talking directly to me and explaining my life .... I now have a better perspective on my eating and can't wait to put it into practice. Thank you so very much !!!

[@rebekakissx]

Literally same!😭

[@rebeccaravalli9552]

same:)

[@estellemse3926]

The most difficult thing around this relationship with food for me is the loneliness. I just append to isolate myself and I don’t talk to anyone about my binges / diet etc… Some friends know that I struggle with that and are loving but I just never share because I never feel truly understood. Your channel is a place where I can, as I relate with so much of the testimonies. The fact that we have to let go and focus on our lives : joy, purpose, relationship, hobbies : this is so true. Maybe scary but one step at a time, we we fill our lives and food will move away from our mind. Thank you so much for sharing your journey🥰 (Sorry for my mistakes in english, this is not my native langage)

[@majbaeschlin5394]

Hi Estelle, your words touched me, they make me also sad, but I can relate, because I have the same problems with food. What you say about loneliness is so true. I wish you all the best on your way ❤. Greetings from Switzerland!

[@655bebeusgdbeueb4jdu]

Agreed. I personally don't have any friends or people my age to talk to. The only people I meet are my parents are they not very understanding pf the situation. I try to talk to them but they don't seem willing to help (stigma and whatnot). Rn, I don't really see the point in recovering...I have been binging for weeks straight, have only been clean 5 days in vettwen these 2 months...

[@marianaburns3320]

wow. just wow. the whole time my brain is thinking "this is your story". Thank you for sharing! I've never felt so seen.

[@reptile_overlord]

It's scary how interchangeable I found my own name with Rebecca's, but somehow it's comforting knowing that I'm not alone in feeling this way. This video is really truly helpful, and i love how clear and to the point you made it. You're exactly right, it's never been about the food, it's always been about the control and a desire to self soothe immediately. Working on the aspects of life that truly instill fear and anxiety, like school and relationships, is the only way forward. ❤❤❤

[@rvnwjns]

this made me cried, i had a really bad binge that made me scared of myself and all foods so ive been starving myself for two days now, i want to have a healthy relationship with food, i want to be normal

[@tazeenkhan8146]

It's me! Iam Rebecca, And for other Rebecca's out there I want to say, it gets better. Therapy will help... practicing mindfully eating will help...working out 2-3 times a week will help....and sometimes letting go and eating whatever you want will help too!! It did for me, haven't binged in a month!! If I can do it then you can too!!

[@monaami555]

I am emotionally eating, but I consciously don't try to stop it. It is my way of dealing with my problems and emotional regulation. I am aware of it. I don't diet, I just make breaks. I am aware of why I do it, and this really does not help fixing the actual root issue that in my experience was not solvable, despite 10 year long therapies. I think it is still better than alcohol or drugs.

[@mckenzie_allen]

This is the most helpful video I’ve ever watched. You put everything that I was feeling into words. It all makes sense now. Thank you so so much.

[@RachaelWrigley]

I'm so glad! I really am ❤️❤️

[@abby-gv2oc]

i have watched dozens of videos desperate for help over the last 3 years. i think this video finally did the trick. thank you thank you thank you!!!! ❤❤❤

[@RachaelWrigley]

I'm so glad this helped! Thank you for telling me ❤️

[@thetoddperspective]

Relaxing and feeling relief while binging? That sounds so alien to me.

[@ChristosAnesti33]

I am so tired. Just physically and psychologically exhausted. These diets and mental battles are taking everything out of me, and at the end of the day I don’t have any energy left to do those ‘fun’ things I’m supposed to be doing. I just really want this to stop. I don’t want to feel like a prisoner in my own body anymore. I don’t want to hide from the world and be scared to be seen when I’m at my lowest. I don’t want to be scared of food. I want to be happy and enjoy life without fearing and dreading the moment when I know I will fall again, and will have to start building myself up from scratch AGAIN. If anybody reads this, can you guys just please say a few words of encouragement? I would really appreciate it! Thank you!

[@leena0000]

Hey Michael, how are you doing right now? Things will get better, I can promise you that. As someone who has managed to get out of the cycle you're in, you are not alone. You are not stuck forever. It is a process of making mistakes, correcting them and moving on. It is tedious and really tiring sometimes but you will be so happy on the other side. It is so worth it 🤍

[@darkchocolate3122]

Hey Michael! I know you’re tired of a lot of things right now and fear is a draining emotion. I just want you to know that it’s okay to be vulnerable and it’s okay to let go sometimes. It’s what we need. Just forget the world for a while and focus on what you feel and what you want to do. Lots of love xx

[@blackthornhealing]

I think using a story is a genius idea. Thank you

[@mh-mo4bj]

Every second of this video describes me to a T!!!!!! I felt like you were literally reading my mind hahaha you are so insightful, and understand This topic so well!!! I can’t wait for a follow up videos of us learning about ways to fix these thought processes!! You are the best!!!

[@tubabayburtluoglu5169]

I never thought someone would relate me that good.