Female Tears Have This Superpower

Female Tears Have This Superpower #science.
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[@EliseBaggins]

It works for healthy men only. My husband is very empathetic when he sees me cry. The narcissistic psychopath who abused me in my early 20s hated seeing me cry and he would hurt me worse if I did.

[@Raynecolwell]

I actually had a man say “is it weird that you crying turns me on?”

[@SMCwasTaken]

*simps We normal men ain't falling for manipulation 🤡🤡🤡

[@jestfulcompany9589]

Get a load of Sigma Mario 🧍

[@billyrobertson5213]

@@SMCwasTakenthis when it’s obvious manipulation then naw but legit hurt their feelings it’s a must to admit wrong doings

[@SMCwasTaken]

@@billyrobertson5213 yeah she didn't deserve to be abused and it's ok to show her feelings around her husband but some men fall for manipulative women crying

[@sapphire2180]

Its really concerning to see in the comments that so many women say their partner get more aggressive rather than calming down..

[@manreetk398]

It is really concerning

[@chinmaysgaming6122]

It just shows how broken and down bad the society is rn

[@glitterbug5678]

​@@chinmaysgaming6122 always has been

[@krystami5789]

It's because it works in the same way but the opposite intentions of so. They "calm down" but they are "addicted" to it and so they WANT to see her cry more to get more of these sensations.

[@bleachedout805]

​@@krystami5789Perhaps.

[@AshK457]

Its so important to mention how limited this study is! 25 participants is absolutely tiny. This would need to be replicated so many times with so much more control before we can say "women's tears have super powers".

[@maya_void3923]

This channel is bunch of bs

[@Jesei1211]

@@maya_void3923thank you lol

[@tw8464]

Yeah but then we wouldn't have all this "valuable" clickbait

[@user-sy1ex7ug4m]

That was my first thought. No explanations, no link, and just one study. How horrible

[@Grace-sm7cn]

Exactly. And they would need to see if tears from a man has the same effect.

[@crischansan]

I remember when I was young - about 6 years old, I can't help but cry being hit by my father with a belt. The more, and the longer I cry, the more angrier and harder he hits. I can remember his eyes filled with hate and violence. I eventually got used to always being hit and felt numb on my backside, but I kept crying, still, everytime I'm being "disciplined". He worked overseas, with my mom, so the hitting stopped. Me and my brother were looked after by our grandparents and other relatives. After they came back from years working overseas, we are a bit older, and was rarely hit, but he's still narcissistic in nature, even up to this day. He's gotten milder with age, but still so much pain in my ass - when I was a child to adulthood - because of his personality. He always said that we were lucky that's just how he hit us, because he said he experienced worse. But I, as her daughter, choose not to repeat this cycle for my own future child/children. Stop the cycle. Be different. Don't be like the person who inflicted you pain and suffering. Instead, love, love the way you wanted to be loved. And don't forget to love yourself enough to avoid people who disrespects, cause you pain, and makes you think less of yourself. You deserve better. You are better. Choose better ❤

[@ice-chills5153]

Well done 👏 ✔️ 👍 ❤..Good positive thinking❤

[@Yoursweetgrammy]

Exactly!

[@Rajveerkaur34]

I feel so sorry for you that your father treated you like this. I hope you are doing well🤍

[@crischansan]

@@Rajveerkaur34 Thank you ❤️ I'm fine now. The cycle stops with us siblings. I'm letting go of the past. I had a realization that it made me who I am today, more open-minded, compassionate, understanding of others. My pain had turned into my greatest strengths. Of course, I had also learned a great lesson to stay away from red flags. And first and foremost, direct that compassion and love towards myself first. When I heard that initially, it felt so selfish, but it is a must for a breakthrough, a change for the better.

[@LadyofWorth]

Your father was a evil, cruel man You are free from the hatred. Your comment is so positive the part where you said stop the cycle. Thats a fact. We have choice to not continue generational curses. We have a choice to live in an environement free from abuse, and yes our future children will live free from abuse.

[@kermorin715]

This makes killers, kidnappers, etc more horrifying because it clearly didn't work on them.

[@sakurahirawa]

I don’t think they sniff tears? 🗿

[@musical_lolu4811]

Really? So which of these am I?

[@Loralanthalas]

Maybe their mom/dad beat the shit out of them everytime they cried. Mine did. Crying triggers aggression because quite literally its associated with every bit of hypocrisy torture and "why the fuck is my PARENT- the person who willing brought a baby into the world- treating me like their stress relief punching bag while blaming me for literally every issue they have in their life". They just working out their issues from a mother who insisted "empathy is inate"

[@nalinea18]

Pretty sure it won't work on e.g. antisocial personality disorder people (what a layman would call a psychopath or a sociopath). Or maybe it works but just less so, ASPD means one's brain is literally wired different so it makes sense one would react differently. Just a guess based on experience. A lot of experience.

[@jaquicx9500]

​@@Loralanthalas relatable af. Idk if you have natural empathy, so i figured I'd share something I recently learned.. If you develop cognitive empathy and work to know yourself and others, you should develop natural empathy. If you dont develop natural empathy from that, there's never even a chance of it happening, so it's best just to get over the fact that the empty feeling inside of you will never go away. Sorry if its a tough pill to swallow.

[@tashanicole1448]

I also think it depends on the man because my husband gets less aggressive when I cry but thats because he is a caring man who doesn't like me crying and wants to comfort. If you get a violent man, he will get more violent when anyone cries wont matter if it's a woman, man, or child

[@artvulture456]

Some people get angry when people cry

[@LushLofiBeats]

​@@artvulture456yea she said that

[@Atastyboiledegg]

@@artvulture456I do but like..😭

[@poisonpotato3334]

I can attest to this, they literally think you're faking or trying to get one over on them.

[@catherine6332]

I can count on one hand the men who have been kind to me when I cried. Actually scratch that, make it zero hands

[@rand0mn33ss]

In my experience, crying in front of men just made them extremely uncomfortable. It was even more unfortunate because it was in the workplace. I literally could not stop crying. Then I joked with my mom later that men can't handle women's tears and she agreed.

[@TheKillaShow]

Co worker crying herself a storm in the break room is a work hazard men would rather avoid than engage with. And Im not mad at them.

[@GabeM972]

I just find it annoying, like why are you crying? To be honest I get that from my Dad because he used to say that to me all the time, now that I'm a lot older I get that crying is definitely annoying and doesn't solve any problems.

[@meow-sr2bl]

@@GabeM972not everything is about you. your not the only person in the world just cos something makes you uncomfortable doesnt mean that their feelings dont matter. get some emotional maturity

[@GabeM972]

@@meow-sr2bl That hurt my feelings lol

[@shru4464]

@@GabeM972 then try crying to vent those hurt feelings BiG gUyY😆😆

[@teamjacoballthewayXx]

I swear all my past has shown me is that they get angrier when you cry

[@phoenixrising-sv8pk]

Yes if they are in their reptile brain mode

[@iLoveTheBamx]

​@@phoenixrising-sv8pk sadly many people and men are. Especially about s3xual things, constantly s3xualizing women and platonic situations. The cat calling etc it's bad

[@noanoa8991]

Make sure they sniff your tears first

[@fantasea114]

Because it makes them internally feel terrible so they assume you're using some kind of manipulation voodoo on them

[@zizi5721]

Those were abusers

[@teigenb829]

They should have tested both male and female tears on both men and women. The way the study is described, it sounds like they had pre-drawn conclusions and arranged the study that way

[@plutonium09]

My thoughts exactly. I don’t see what they will even do with this data it’s pretty much useless. Female tears will vary wouldn’t they? Some women have more testosterone than others so would that change results? Usually this type of study gets thrown out lol

[@jupiterretipuj4426]

That’s what I was thinking. I was hoping they also did it with men’s tears. I hope in the future they test that out

[@skonsultujsiezlekarzem]

I feel like seeing a man crying is just calming me down, if you know what I mean. It's just so uncommon and rare seeing a man crying...

[@saltydinonuggies1841]

Yeah that was my thoughts. Humans definitely smell different from different emotions because it comes out in our sweat and I’d imagine our tears too but that doesn’t mean it’s just female tears that have that happen. The differences between male and female are a lot smaller than most people think

[@feonyxanimations2864]

Not only that, the small sample size and lack of further replication or noting confounding variables makes this study unreliable. It could be true but it’s not enough evidence to make a conclusive claim of any sort. It’s disappointing that this guy is describing a single-blind assignment of participants as a revolutionary idea when the standard should be double-blind.

[@tresdj]

I saw one amazing study of tears under the microscope that showed tears for happiness, sadness , fear, and so on. Each has their own crystalline err snowflake like designs!!

[@ladykoiwolfe]

That is interesting.

[@sleepycookie9470]

yeah the most emotional were like rainbows

[@dark-vigilant]

Whoa that’s crazy! 😮

[@LindeeLou-who]

​@@sleepycookie9470 😂😂😂😊

[@leroidesnoob8418]

nah this is fake

[@tannermpearce1910]

Seeing a wife in emotional pain as a husband; inspires me to serve, reflect, have more empathy..but most of all it makes men protective.

[@anne-zh2kd]

As a dominant woman it kinda gives m the creeps to have a man "protective" of me. I would never want to be comforted. I cry a lot, but yikes. I am very protective and I want to cuddle and take care of any man I'm with. And I'm a dacryphilliac. I don't think generalizations about gender is helpful. I have had so many people say that just because I have a vagina I have to accept this dynamic and I had to learn that hey, you don't like it. It makes you sick. That's fine. There are plenty of men who want a dominant woman and want that dynamic.

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to pay better attention. They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@Nothingbutdust_]

That's so sweet. I hope I could one day have a husband like that as well. Bless you 💖✨

[@Lunar.Ser3nity]

:) I wish more men were like you, my dad just yells when I cry and hits me (discipline not abuse)

[@lunix3259]

My mom cried and my dad would be just angrier. I hope I have a husband that would be right in the mind to respond properly like you.

[@viviaeve]

We shouldn't have to cry for a man to calm the fuck down. Also a lot of men get angrier when you cry.

[@kingcyclops4079]

So I guess it doesn’t work anyways.

[@PollyGammy]

Nobody said you HAVE to. Wtf?

[@CrystalCordova]

Seems like it only works if you sniff the tears? 🤷🏻

[@annapandalee4915]

Next time you're in a tight spot, start begging for him to snort your tears ig 😅

[@citrusmoth1103]

No one's saying you have to??

[@Ex0ticial]

"Hey bro??You do coke?" "No. I do female tears."

[@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa790]

I feel like this is an old joke made new. But not female tears, just tears.

[@1UserEB]

I wonder who the supplier is

[@citruslime377]

"Where'd you get a full liter of it, though?" "Oh, this is locally harvested in my basement."

[@Looloothebananacat]

That's kinda funny tbh

[@rebekahallen3933]

Safer than Coke and all natural 😂

[@marasarusic5946]

'Sniffing female tears' is such a wild statement on its own

[@2ctheocean]

Ya'll should read the study. They acknowledged that it was a small sample size and that they needed to do testing to find out if it worked in reverse (male tears on females). They weren't unaware of the issues with the study, they just didn't have the funding for more participants.

[@sickowawawa4014]

my parents always became more angrier and violent if i cry when they teach me or scold me for something 😭

[@AnneKirk453]

That’s a sick thing for your parents to do

[@Silvia.Araujo]

@@AnneKirk453 My parents do that too

[@carbonatedgremlin]

Mine too

[@usernameisunavailable8270]

I'm sorry your parents lack the empathy needed to raise a child.

[@blooddiamond11225]

That’s probably because it’s how they were treated as well Not taking sides But I’m a parent and adopted some pretty low level behavior Now I’m in the process of reversing it

[@ojitosrodriguez114]

I am blessed to say that my man is not one of those that reacts with aggression when I cry. He softens and always takes me in his arms 🥺

[@vaishnaviexo]

may god bless u

[@rebeccagutierrez8170]

That's so rare! 😊❤

[@theinvincibleinvestress]

Same! How sad that there are people experiencing violence in the middle of an already vulnerable and painful moment! Super grateful for my husband...

[@MartialartzzObsessedGlader]

Awwww, i Wish you two all luck in the world❤❤

[@Lion-pu4vm]

I wish I’ve had that.

[@elizabethclark8226]

This makes sense to me. The most physically abusive guy i had dated when i was younger used to only ever calm down once i started crying. I used to try not to cry to be able to hold my ground and not feel weak, but he would just get more violent and angry. As soon as i started crying though he would immediately change his demeanor and start apologizing and trying to comfort me. I honestly feel that it may have saved me in some of those situations. He made me fear for my life more than once.

[@claireincolour]

I have always found tears to be a symbolic releasing of emotion, which seems to be far more cathartic and healing compared to trying to "control" & "contain". To cry is to feel and let go. Sometimes, all that needs to be done is to bear witness to our emotions and acknowledge them and let that be enough for the moment. Tears can be immensely healing.

[@TheKillaShow]

Its less a symbolic release and more of a literal release. It is literally whats happening. Crying from emotions is part of a complete hormonal response to stimulus. Its your body literally reacting and coping to your emotions simultaneously. To intentionally stop yourself from crying is to fight your nature. Which can cause issues down the line as many of us have experienced.

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to pay better attention. They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@jules8029]

It is but people hate feeling vulnerable for various reasons. I didn’t cry much as a teenager and young adult and loved to be thought of as “tough” or “strong”. Welp, life happened, I lost a ton of loved ones in a couple years, got sick, started getting mentally ill too. It sucked. I started crying and haven’t stopped and I’m Okay with it because I always feel better after I cry.

[@antonia6059]

In high school, I had a very tough principal. Tall, militant, a very disciplined guy. He didn’t mess around. So when I get called into his office, and he told me that I wasn’t going to be able to walk in my senior graduation. Due to a mishap with some of my credits. I immediately burst into tears. He was beside himself, and frankly panicking. It was very sweet to see him soften with compassion. By the end, he told me I would be allowed to walk as long as I promise to finish up my remaining credits after. And if I’d stop crying of course!

[@seqwavess9485]

Sameee once I had a math test which I had no clue any of the answers so I went up to the teacher balling my eyes out and he looked like he felt so bad for me and helped me out and basically gave me answers😭 he was a very strict and stern teacher so this was very unexpected

[@anthonyfernandez82]

Pu$$y pass comes in clutch

[@sczi]

That’s so sweet! ♥️

[@Hailey_Robinson33]

That’s nice

[@blackwater7183]

Crocodile tears. It's how women learn it's power to get what they want.

[@Majotsukai]

If this were true, then wouldn’t domestic abuse not be as prevalent in the world?

[@torysings7468]

If this is true it shows how society raises men to have no emotional intelligence for themselves and others and also how horrible abusive men are if they are going AGAINST nature to do these horrible things. Doesn’t it make you feel a little better to know men are genetically built to care about your tears? But some men and just vile and disgusting (the abusive ones) and maybe the way society treats men’s emotional developmental (the ones that lack tools to deal with it so they either walk away or get uncomfortable and don’t know how to deal with that feeling so they get mad like a kid that gets cranky when it needs a nap but they don’t know that’s why)

[@Avani101]

No💀💀💀

[@fbiagent3998]

​@@Avani101they're right if it were true domestice violence wouldn't be as prevalent. It's because the study is just skewed.

[@xxrieanrinei4922]

We resist biology all the time, the dynamics of a disagreeing couple are way too complex for tears to be a defining factor in whether or not physical force is being used. Crying doesn't automatically make people forget about disagreements.

[@Arginne]

Not everyone cries when something like that happens so hard to say. If I’m feeling really traumatized I’m not crying I’m in shock

[@melissadehart9306]

My son has that super power. Every time his bottom lip pouts and he starts crying when watching Twinkle Little Star, my heart melts. That music video does something to him.

[@sayuu_chan]

This reminds me of how cold my ex looked at me when I was crying and then proceeded to say I don't even pity you. Nothing hurts mor than seeing how unbothered the one you love is by causing suffering and seeing you in pain.

[@happygolucky9004]

If you are going to talk about a study please cite the study and give the researchers proper credit.

[@reesejohnson2788]

Man I dislike those “certain research shows.” Like why did I go to college and learn APA style writing and citations…? 🤦🏾

[@karuscuvic]

its in the description if you're curious :)

[@happygolucky9004]

​@@karuscuvic that's the first place I looked and it's not cited. It has a "source" which is a number but that's not proper citation. It should at least have the author's last name, title of article, and where it was published.

[@GoldenDragonfly1]

I looked it up myself. It's Weizmann Institute Israel. There are two studies, if I remember correctly, the main authors name is Noam Sobel.

[@happygolucky9004]

@@GoldenDragonfly1 what's the name of the articles?

[@ElizabethMuellerNovelist]

After perusing many of these comments, the gist is: “A person has no right to their emotions, lest it be for manipulative purposes.” That’s what narcissistic abusers want you to believe, says I.

[@lunix3259]

Literally found a clown saying that they refuse to be manipulated by women in distress lmao

[@leroidesnoob8418]

womp womp

[@WendyIvers]

Yup. I used to get beaten up if and when i cried. Something in my tears causes men to hate me and be violent towards me.

[@laketa716]

I'm sorry you endured that love.. no one deserves to be abused..but hear me, you have a light in you that attracts darkness.. those people hurting you, were demonic entities drawn to your empathic light..that's why your tears disturbed them.. keep your head up to the sky-the most high will keep lifting you above the demons. God Bless🙏🏽🌷✨️

[@xxglowenxx]

I feel like the study should have been bigger and also did male tears Edit: everyone who wants to disagree and comment, just don't. All of you are saying the exact same thing and are receiving the exact same response. Just read what's there and use your imagination to make it personalized. Anyone who comments trying to fight with me is getting auto muted. This study is flawed and that's that.

[@pikopikozu2]

Maybe male tears should be treated as it's own focus entirely.

[@xxglowenxx]

@pikopikozu2 why? It would have been a very, very simple addition to the study and made it less biased. Like, oh no. Add some male tears and see if those also decrease aggression. What if it's a child's tears? How do tears effect women? I know more studies can be done, but I would have expanded on my experiment before releasing anything. I mean, these are reasonable questions that WILL be asked by their peers

[@notsonerdgaming3406]

@pikopikozu2 "female tears made men less aggressive than saline! Obviously this means specifically only female tears (even though we did zero testing) have a greater and eeird weird effect than male tears"

[@IEatMenForBreakfastFukFace]

then it would have been a completely different study?😂 maybe they need multiple studies

[@jazmineraymond7495]

And weather or not the tears work on the same gender.

[@musical_costumer7976]

I love crying dude, it makes me less sad and then I'm tired and can sleep so easy

[@torysings7468]

I had to actually tell my boyfriend to just “let me cry because it feels nice and regulated my stress” because before he would be frantic to try to make me stop and I would swat him away like “noooo let me cry!!!”

[@OKYAH]

@@torysings7468awe❤ that’s so wholesome

[@Coco-bl8zg]

@@torysings7468 Oh good I thought I was gonna hear yet another abuse story.

[@rosalinarainswarth559]

Quick reminder that crying is a sign of emotional strong balance power

[@lurategh]

Crying releases oxytocin and endorphins, easing physical and emotional pain, so it's healthy and good for you.

[@AnAnimeFreak_狛枝凪斗]

Crying infront of men? Nah. I just got mocked💀

[@chrismarieconzone6956]

Wish this had worked on my abuser and my bullies at school… all it did was make him say I was faking it, my bullies and teachers treat me worse, and, ultimately, teach me that my anger is more powerful than my tears-even if only in the sense it made bullies and teachers think I was weird for it, but they still left me alone more than if I cried. Now I have a trauma thing where I /can’t/ cry in real emotional situations, even if I try and force myself. I wonder if they’re going to further their study to account for these sorts of margins of error or have any detailed hypotheses on them. It also makes you wonder why men remain aggressive towards women, even men who aren’t committing violent crimes against women. You’d think it’d go against whatever instincts produce this tear-aggression reaction for many men to treat women the way they do. Guess it just goes to show you how powerful societal influences can be in forcing roles etc. onto us.

[@amandageyman8033]

I think it goes both ways, whenever I see a man cry, whether it be in life, on tv or a movie, I start crying

[@declaracionespolemicas]

That's an empathetic response, the question is whether it lowers your aggression or not. My aggression levels aren't very high, so I don't think it'll affect me much.

[@ketokeko]

I think that's just empathy, the same thing happens to me

[@Phoenix.219]

For me it's weird that I am more likely to cry if the character is in a situation where they are very emotional, sad or are fed up with everything but aren't shedding tears. That makes me cry so hard as if I am crying on their behalf to make them feel lighter

[@jackmccool9911]

As a man I don’t really cry to movies at all. The closest I did get to crying was the ending of stranger things’s season 3, and the ending of breaking bad. The titanic wasnt that sad lol

[@kattie2185]

@@jackmccool9911ok

[@darkesinger3102]

This data seems to conflict with the statistics that show nearly 1/3 of women having endured abuse from a domestic partner.

[@saffy_9967]

I was about to to say this lol

[@boiledrat]

and thats only the ones reported

[@PurePain_1]

This has nothing to do with the comment. Alright. I'm seeing way too many logical fallacies in the comments and replies. (Not related to above comment) - "Society" is a generalization of the few who are actually corrupted. - Men and women both have faults. Stop blaming it on solely one gender over the other. - "🤓" is a immature response to a knowledgable comment, in contrast to a single emoji. - We all have faults. Passing it on to a unacceptably generalized group is not okay. - Don't believe in a comment just because it has a lot of likes. Social pressure is a thing. - Use your common sense before arguing something that was never fact-checked. - Or, don't argue at all.

[@comfortme]

@@PurePain_1 this has nothing to do with the comment and nothing biased was said. it’s literally a statistic that 1/3 of women have experienced domestic abuse. that says absolutely nothing but facts, and suspected that this study is not reliable because of abuse statistics. Go comment this elsewhere. You shouldn’t feel threatened by people’s personal experiences.

[@derianvandalsen]

Perhaps those 'men' react differently, perhaps sociopathy is more widely spread than previously thought?

[@leesteal4458]

As a female, when I see people cry unnecessarily, I walk away or te the person to stop and trust me, they stop immediately. I have female family members who cry to get their way. I don't allow them to affect me because I know it's fake tears. I prefer if people talk to me without crying. Once I see someone cry during a conversation, I wonder if it is an attempt at manipulation.

[@googlefaps5883]

Ok actually the same for me. I get irritated or uncomfortable by only uncontrollable crying. But it’s context dependant. If the issue can get fixed with u crying I’m all for it. I don’t have a problem with anyone crying. But last time I checked depending on why ur crying if there’s potentially some murky waters between us I’d rather we sit and tell me why I’m affecting u. Crying or not as long as u are comprehensible. Not cry and expect me to say sorry ur right and then have unanswered questions

[@wendyhughes2234]

I have an ocean of tears that I just cannot get out. My Babies were stolen from me by my abusive ex over 11 years ago. They were 5 years old and 15 months old when it happened.

[@wendyhughes2234]

And they are now 16 and a half years old and 12 and a half years old. This is a huge agony that will never be healed in my life.

[@user-gs1et6sx4k]

I am sorry you went through this. I hope you will heal one day 🙏✨

[@gladysolvera6566]

I hope you healed. I hope they are well and that they have someone near them who protects them.

[@wendyhughes2234]

@@gladysolvera6566 My life is still just as bad and my sons have both been targeted by their peers and have been bullied, to the extent that my eldest son [who will be starting his junior year of high school] is now having to find an alternate means of receiving his education [because of how bad it was for him]. Of course, I was not in any way notified of the fact that he was bullied- and whenever I asked [any questions about how he was doing, at school or in general] the only answer I got was- [I'm doing good, mom]. It is far from the truth if he is no longer attending that school. I [knew] things were worse than he claimed, but I had no way of knowing for sure, unless [they- my eldest and youngest sons] tell me. My youngest son [used to] be more willing to talk, but he is also entering his teens, and we lost some of our communication. But he does try to talk with me. But it is very difficult, seeing them for not much more than 5 hours per week. This [is] agony for me. And 11 and a half years of this nightmare that is impossible to escape from.

[@leroidesnoob8418]

womp womp

[@conichi8008]

I'm imaging people like, with spray bottles filled with womens tears spraying them at men like cats 😭

[@we-bu4zh]

HELPP 😭😭😭

[@chanterzwickham987]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@carrievieira5894]

Omg so funny!!!

[@melissadavis4981]

Lol someone make a skit on this asap

[@maidarawad1961]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@pocketbread7535]

Some guys get angry, scary. Be careful if you find someone like that. Others get aggressive. Run.

[@Creeper4160]

im currently overcoming my father. yesterday, he yelled at be for hitting my leg. (he was the one that pulled me) right after, he yelled at my sibling

[@PurePain_1]

Alright. I'm seeing way too many logical fallacies in the comments and replies. What's with these people? - "Society" is a generalization of the few who are actually corrupted. - Men and women both have faults. Stop blaming it on solely one gender over the other. - "🤓" is a immature response to a knowledgable comment, in contrast to a single emoji. - We all have faults. Passing it on to a unacceptably generalized group is not okay. - Don't believe in a comment just because it has a lot of likes. Social pressure is a thing. - Use your common sense before arguing something that was never fact-checked. - Or, don't argue at all.

[@luramirez27]

Yea. Im trying to get rid of my boyfriend bc hes always aggressive when we argue. Last night he was pinning me down and threw me around, because i wanted to stay the night somewhere else. He was forcing me to stay and took my phone away from me so i wouldnt call anyone. He doesnt want to break up after I have tried many times

[@Cogni7962]

@@PurePain_1It’s people online 🤷‍♂️. You gotta know by now, 99% of people say random stupid stuff online, just to fit in or to just pass time. The 1% makes it worthwhile though. I honestly have no idea why. It’s like they repeat whatever words they hear online or what ever arguments they hear without giving it much thought.

[@mizanzerotoo]

@@luramirez27nigga how r u still calling him BF he if he is throwing u around 😭😭

[@AmericaBurdette]

Thanks. My ex told me about this and hated to see me cry. He was the only boyfriend that held me in the middle of an argument just because I started crying and he couldn't stand it. I miss him so much 😭

[@PaletaLee]

He's a doctor. His name is Sermed , in my language can be translated to "Be Doc". 🇧🇷😂 You were truly born for this LOL

[@contentedspirit9022]

Crying always made my husband much angrier. My daughter is currently in South Korea visiting her boyfriend and he reacts the same. His anger and downgrading outbursts often makes her cry, which only makes her cry worse. Where are these men in the study? I haven't ever been around a man who became calmer and kind when i cried. I didn't cry for over 20 years, focusing on raising my children as a single mom as best i could.

[@j.c1574]

I am deeply sorry this happened to you. Men shouldn’t react this way. At least, from what I know and experienced. I hope you heal.

[@lonniedwayne9549]

You just haven't met a good man apparently.

[@jebes909090]

Probably the study had real tears , not fake ones. Fake tears piss people off.

[@kiravampira1456]

From a completely different country and wondering the same: where exactly are those men? I don't know of even *one* that would become more protective over this (or pretty much anything else). They would either remain totally unbothered, ridicule the crying girl/woman or, the worst, do what you mentioned. So sick of hearing about all these wonderful men and only encountering the opposite of what I hear about, despite following everything that the so-called "experts" suggest. Never even had a relationship and wishing much better days to both you and your daughter 🌸

[@yomna.is.normal]

I'm so sorry:( I hope you and your daughter recover

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

As a man I cried a single tear in front of my teacher when I was depressed and he pulled me outside of class because I wasn't engaging in the lesson. Another teacher told me what he told them - that he felt so bad when he saw that one tear fall and he never pressured me again.

[@dasitmane7590]

Imagine if you had male privilege

[@2shy1151]

It's a shame he didn't ask if you needed help. But my experience is that they'd really rather not know.

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to pay better attention. They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@2shy1151]

@@CatherineLacroix616 The samples in the study were in containers so they didn't have to get women to come in and try and cry in front of these men and have them sniff their face. The idea is that you can smell them on a person when you're interacting with them. We were paying attention, thanks.

[@lunix3259]

Amazing so men get more abusive to women who cry but treat other men better.

[@branver1172]

Much of the time, women who cry are accused of manipulating.

[@AliciaGuitar]

My abusive 1st husband enjoyed my tears. I thought he was a sadist. My abusive 2nd husband and my father became enraged when i cried. Both were scary reactions. My caregiver now just feels helpless and sad when i cry. He is almost never aggressive with me at all ❤

[@gabehart7898]

This guy is the exact thing that the real doctors on this app warn us about

[@ViewingChaos]

Good point. Where's his credentials? Source for the study so you can read it yourself? Any idiot can buy a stethoscope and scrubs off the internet and spread misinformation

[@spaghettikitty69]

Fr

[@Ash-wf6me]

the scary thing is he's a licensed doctor in the UK, I hope he doesn't have female patients because the fact he believes a study like this about women is concerning...

[@PurePain_1]

Alright. I'm seeing way too many logical fallacies in the comments and replies. (Not related to above comment) - "Society" is a generalization of the few who are actually corrupted. - Men and women both have faults. Stop blaming it on solely one gender over the other. - "🤓" is a immature response to a knowledgable comment, in contrast to a single emoji. - We all have faults. Passing it on to a unacceptably generalized group is not okay. - Don't believe in a comment just because it has a lot of likes. Social pressure is a thing.

[@skyleescobar4016]

​@@Ash-wf6meWith the way I have been treated by male doctors in the UK I wouldnt be surprised at all.

[@TheDaisymaker]

"GRRRRHRH IM SO PISSED O-" *Sniff* "The fuck is this?"

[@ryukobestwaifu3319]

Right lmao seems like cap tbh not enough guys tested on

[@Kat_cheeze]

Lol😂

[@breebrat56]

This is interesting….. I would love to hear more after it’s gone thru more widespread trials. One small study isn’t sufficient, but has intriguing results. 😊❤

[@galbidogfart]

Women do bring compassion and empathy into relationships. Literally. We also literally bring your tiny humans into the world.

[@SMCwasTaken]

Shush feminist

[@MissJellybean]

Every type of tear has a different chemical makeup. I always found that interesting. Happy tears are different than sad tears and so forth.

[@essaB36]

Yes but he doesn't need to be filling up woman's head they're already got a big head as is and think they're better than everyone in the world and they're already the most selfish creatures it doesn't make sense to make women think that they have a superpower because now since they like to follow what everyone else does they're going to go around thinking it's okay to cry 24/7 because they have superpowers😂😂 as a woman myself I really need people to stop doing this because women don't know how to think for themselves apparently because they do everything the internet tells them to do

[@jaquicx9500]

So we cant fake it? Fuck 😂

[@RainyBasil9295]

​Yeah you cant sadly, would have been easier to make my dad stop and get anger management

[@ontheline3421]

So HOW THE HECK DID THEY GET THOSE TEARS?! Researchers came to those women and informed them their beloved pets were killed just now? They were told they have cancer? Reaserchers were searching for war widows?

[@oj1689]

@@ontheline3421mostly likely a visual stimulus. I cry when I watch sad commercials or if and emotional scene happens in a show or movie ..so they probably showed them videos

[@magau3698]

Tears do nothing to men. It either makes them madder or they tell you to stop playing the victim. They could care less for the tears we shed. There is no super power in tears. Most people (even women) get annoyed when they see someone cry

[@Loralanthalas]

Um.... thanks mom. I know you kinda loved me even though you "gave me a reason to cry" when I was already crying. Never fucking wonder why your old folks home is 100% on you. Bitch.

[@GoldenDragonfly1]

Because society doesn't allow men to cry. And fathers telling their sons to not show weakness and tears are seen as weakness. (Please don't get offended not every person is the same, we know) being in a toxic environment where people generally don't care about each other that's what I see. There is nothing wrong with showing emotion. And some men don't know how to act when a woman cries. Because they aren't good at showing emotions. Also it depends on the relationship people have to each other. I would want to hear a man's opinion on this matter before I judge.

[@whitepouch0904]

I’m a woman and I get sad when people cry except to people I hate that hurt me.

[@thiccynikky3805]

​@@GoldenDragonfly1Men get angrier when women cry because they've brainwashed themselves into thinking that they're not allowed to cry.

[@iagreewithyou3478]

I guess it depends on how you cry lol Some women look and sound annoying when they cry, while some look really pitiful or cute. Or maybe you keep talking (maybe even complaining or nagging) when you cry, negating the calming effect of the tears. Or maybe snot was flowing down your mouth when you cried. 🤷

[@siennahoward6957]

So does this only work if they smell the tears ? I've seen women cry and men still react violently.

[@notsonerdgaming3406]

We have zero evidence for either right now. They left out several points of study and the research is cherry picked

[@youknowimright1725]

Yhea man, same with my bf, if I cry he gets incredibly annoyed and won't even attempt to make me feel better, none the less apologize, tells me that I'm just victimizing myself, that im crying just to manipulate him, I could be really fkng distressed borderline having a anxiety or panick attack and he'll just leave me there without giving a fk about how distressed or vulnerable state I am, if i try to have a conversation and tell him that what he's doing is fucked up and I feel like we should work toghether and compromise he'll tell me that compromise is stupid and he doesn't want compromise cause that just meeting in the middle and he wants full control and things be 100% how he wants not half of what he wants, also that I'm being dramatic, that im emotionally weak, and that's why women shouldn't run things and make decicions in the household or the relationship, just follow the leadership of the man cause men are logical and take decicions base of logic not emotions. These past 4 years have been..... like, chipping away on my sense of self, self-esteem, confidence, and I don't feel like myself anymore, my life in paper is better but I just feel, less, less of me as a whole, I've had to change so much of me and suppress even more.

[@siennahoward6957]

@@youknowimright1725 It sounds like you're boyfriend is a terrible leader who manipulates you and disregards your feelings. Men and women are capable of leading. In a relationship partners should work together and guide each other to better solutions in order to resolve their conflicts.

[@rene3759]

​@@youknowimright1725find a say way to leave and then invest in your mental health. You're living with a demon.

[@Mole-Esther]

​🤦‍♀️ absolutely stupid and no self respect. Break up with you dumb*ss.​@@youknowimright1725

[@Romantic_Juliet]

I really think this is about the empathy levels someone has for the other person tbh. 💗

[@cwi9261]

I am concerned by the amount of comments saying that men get more aggressive when they see women cry😟 that's quite scary. Never had the misfortune and I am so sorry for those that did 🫂🫂

[@makaylacourtney2105]

“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” -psalms 56:8 NLT

[@virginiacreager4331]

Beautiful.🧡 needed to hear this right now 🥹

[@gayladenise2733]

That’s exactly what I thought of and came here to post. ❤

[@Pslm.103_1-4]

❤ Thank you Lord for caring about our burdens and the tears only you see. ❤️✝️🕊️

[@apollograyling-hastur3995]

My ex would get physically aggressive when I would cry so I think that’s a skewed research study

[@pikopikozu2]

Rather, your ex is the outlier that would skew the result

[@marketiadavis9040]

He gotta sniff them not just see them lol

[@lenitaa7938]

Men and women react differently when upset! Women cry, men get angry! It’s our hormones! Nevertheless, women need nurturing and understanding from their men, just as men need it from the women when they are grieving!

[@pikopikozu2]

@@lenitaa7938 I don't think that's it, not by nature anyway. If anything it's because of socialization.

[@someguy34231]

​@@pikopikozu2So glad to see someone bring this up! It's hard to glean even moderately accurate data on the exclusively biological differences of male and female behaviours when we're socialized so very differently.

[@tiatunz9534]

They did a similar study a while back, but measured the levels of testosteron in the men's blood, before and after sniffing the tears. The levels dropped.

[@robert48719]

Well...everytime my current girlfriend started crying I really wanted to do what I can to help. Everytime they saw me crying the first time, they've seemed to have lost their interest in me. So since a year I'm better off with no longer wasting my time with "unconditional love". This does only exist on one side of a relationship. Trust me

[@EmoExpression]

Okay so.... Sniffing tears is a new form of anger management

[@imjustvi6279]

Imagine having a tear addiction lmao, that'd be hilarious

[@JeniSanMusic]

😂😂😂

[@JeniSanMusic]

​@@imjustvi6279 says every narcissist ever....😅😅😅

[@masterjunko]

@@imjustvi6279 Look man I know I'm supposed to be in rehab but... give me the tears maaaan. Just one snort. 60 bucks? 100? I need those tears maaaaan...

[@beautybalance7]

Weren’t there a study not too long ago where sniffing sweaty arrmpits did the same thing for them, meaning calm them down.

[@Ethnicbeauty]

I’m thinking of collecting mines in a tiny jar and using it as perfume when going to big events. It’ll be like psycho repellent 😂

[@xchrysantha]

Hold tf up that's NOT a bad idea. Better yet, I'll sob right before getting ready, save it in a container, and dab it on my pressure points like a perfume oil! GENIUS🤣 (This is only a half joke. I'm dead-ass serious on the other half👀)

[@1kayowa]

@@xchrysanthasame im so gonna do this 😂

[@GodfreyFirstEldenLord]

@@xchrysanthaholy fuck you’re messed up

[@solus8685]

Instead of pepper spray you'll spray your tears 💀💀

[@Alyse85]

What an amazing Creator we have💜✝️🙏

[@luchixgalaxoza2300]

The reasons for crying are so many and so varied that it is simply stupid to try and generalise. You're crying because that's the only option you have left to win an argument, or you start crying because I wouldn't love you if you were a worm, and of course every human would feel frustrated when having to deal with that. Start crying because of normal, non-manipulative reasons, and every normal person around you will become kinder and try to help. Also, most often if someone gets angrier seeing you cry, they probably see themselves at their most hopeless point in their lives in you or something. True psychopaths are relatively rare, whereas ruined, scarred people are very common, and I'm sure more than 50% of the human population isn't ready for a relationship.

[@BelleDraws-i5d]

I'm not the type to easily cry, not even from sad movies or scolding. So whenever I do cry, my bf already knows that something is very wrong to get to that point and he would comfort me immediately. We've never argued because we haven't been dating that long but I sure am glad he knows exactly how to reassure me when I'm going through something. I do the same for him

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to pay better attention. They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@Meeekuuuu]

I think this only works on regular people. Don't psychopaths often get even more aggressive and immersed when they see fear or tears?

[@kiravampira1456]

Same goes for apparently the *vast* majority of my country's male population. Never encountered even *one* that would appear even remotely affected by this.

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to pay better attention. They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@user-gs1et6sx4k]

Yes, they love inflicting pain and fear. It turns them on in a sick way

[@ShimmerMuffin33]

All caring men and women will soften to people in distress. It's not just women. Once a senior doctor at our hospital scolded me for an issue which wasn't my fault. Tears were pooled into my eyes but I tried to not cry. She called me to her office and gave me cookies 😅

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to Pay Better Attention, Damn! They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@Blessedsuburbanbereanmamma]

I think this does ALOT to show men’s empathy as well. Behind every strong genuine honest man is a woman he would die to protect.

[@heartvvitch]

my stepdad would just get angrier and hurt me more when i cried, saying that i needed to act more mature and stop being such a baby (i was a minor back when he abused me physically and sexually, i’ve since escaped). he was the type of man to say that being on my period meant i was a woman already- and my mom just had a baby with that same man. i wish men would just have more empathy, the cycle of abuse would end of more people chose to end that cycle by choosing empathy. but since i’m a victim no one really gives a shit what i think, which is the saddest part about it all. no one really cares about us victims, we’re either used as someone else’s virtue signaling or we’re slandered and dogpiled by victim blamers looking for more people to hurt. it never ends.

[@MArca-hj3xv]

People do care, kind hearted people. I hope you heal. As a sexual abuse victim at the hands of my own father, I can tell you, you can heal, and you're not alone.

[@virginiacreager4331]

I read a book on sexual trauma and it said 1 in 3 girls are sexually abused and the number 1 perpetrator is the step dad. I have about 5 close girlfriends who were all sexually abused by their step dads. when they tried to speak up they were put down. When you voice a problem you are the problem because people don’t want to recognize the truth. It’s a cover up denial tactic and has nothing to do with you. Keep sharing and seeking the help and healing you deserve. It’s out there. Your journey will help empower others to do the same.

[@annetteysquierdo]

You don’t know me, but I care. It breaks my heart when children’s lives are broken and changed by abuse. I have literally prayed that God would reveal the abusers and rescue children. I’m pretty sure I’ve never told anyone that either, so I’m not virtue signaling. I just want you to know, because there are people in the world that hate abuse and feel heartbroken for abuse victims. I can’t be the only one.

[@annetteysquierdo]

@@virginiacreager4331That’s why my mom never remarried. She gave up relationships to protect me. I’ll never take that for granted.

[@Jensenia11]

So, so sorry to hear that. :’( I hope you can get the healing you need. Just know that there is justice for him in the end.

[@ayshaghanawi9941]

I had a very strict teacher back in school who used to monitor the exam hall. Before one of the final exams I was late to put my notes away because I was extremely stressed. He then said that I won’t receive the exam paper because of that. I was already terribly stressed and when he said that I was literally at the verge of crying when my female teacher patted my back and told me its going to be okay. That was the final straw and then I burst into tears I couldn’t contain myself. Everyone in the exam hall was staring at me. Mind you, I hate crying in front of people let alone an exam hall but that time I couldn’t control myself. He was shocked n all of a sudden came to me and told me to calm down and that he will let me take the test. After that incident he became super nice to me even outside of the exam hall.

[@dasitmane7590]

If only you had male privilege

[@TheKillaShow]

That teacher is an idiot. What kind of punishment is that for tardiness?

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to pay better attention. They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@luciac.419]

I completely understand this. I hate when i do this uncontrollable crying. That teacher's pat was the straw that broke the dam for you

[@beverlymoran2010]

I HATE crying in front of others. I don't know why but I think its because I feel like someone is going to judge me for crying when there is no reason to cry, its more common for me to cry when its that time of month (if yk yk) so I tend to just hide in my room...

[@AngeloBassComposer]

This is pretty much the only comment section where I’m the only male lol. So I guess I’ll say this: to all of you who have seen men get more aggressive when women cry, it is probably because A) they aren’t SNIFFING the tears, like in the study and/or B) it makes them uncomfortable, and extreme emotional discomfort often will trigger a fight-or-flight response. That’s not an excuse, by the way. I personally have a “flight” response and try to avoid making the situation worse, so I attempt to calm the person down or, if there are no stakes, I leave the person alone until they feel better. People who have a “fight” response will certainly get mad or annoyed when a person cries, especially if that person cries often, but they obviously shouldn’t show even a hint of anger, since that would make the situation even worse. And of course, abuse is never tolerable. Ever. Also, being angry at a partner for something they didn’t do or something that could otherwise be brushed off and/or handled logically and appropriately, is simply unfair to them and people should never feel guilty, or told they should be ashamed, for something that can be easily moved past or something that the person didn’t do. All that aside, let’s not hate each other for over-generalizations and past experiences (men are bad because x, women are just salty because x), because that would be childish.

[@kaushiksarwankar6929]

It's also said that when a mother hugs and cries looking at her still born baby the baby would magically would start crying ❤

[@VarianAlastair]

Abuse victims beg to differ. Also, MAYBE men can learn to regulate their own emotions without resorting to making women cry to get a physiological boost, JUST A THOUGHT

[@Definitelynotliyah]

Exactly

[@ogfemto]

"NOOO men aren't easily manipulated by my hormones he must be evil and abusive!!!! He has to be dependent on me!!!!!"

[@chrisbaple]

@inmortuaedaemion248 me when im in a misinterpretation contest but my opponent is you

[@chrisbaple]

​@inmortuaedaemion248 u can really tell u pulled this out of your ass to come to this conclusion lmao "he has to be dependent on me!!" when the comment is completely pushing the opposite

[@chrisbaple]

also weird this person is just. pushing the supposedly manipulative narrative/intentions of an abuse victim they have no clue about/know personally that they've created of them in their mind. wild

[@sunshine-dz6xj]

it’s more complicated because most men are taught to repress their emotions and therefore have no idea how to cope with their own emotions or others’ emotions. in my experience many men (and women with repressed emotions) don’t know what to do when someone cries and immediately just want it to go away, resulting in them becoming annoyed and defensive, resulting in running away or verbal aggression (basically fight or flight). the effect in the study would only work with emotionally healthy and emotionally mature men, which are sadly not the majority thanks to toxic masculinity

[@ridealongwithnicolle1581]

When i see a man crying i become overcome with empathy. So i think it works both ways

[@naz8422]

Unfortunately this only works for real men and not those abusive narcissist types

[@Loralanthalas]

Like, literally the ones this trait would be geared for. 😂 it would be cool if this wasn't pretend though.

[@bixie0987]

omg I love real men

[@ogfemto]

Comes to show what women are attracted too seeing their comments, science is neat.

[@PurePain_1]

See how this section uses "Men" and "Women"? 🚩 Just trying to put some sense into this comment section. I'm seeing way too many logical fallacies in the comments and replies. - "Society" is a generalization of the few who are actually corrupted. - Men and women both have faults. Stop blaming it on solely one gender over the other. - "🤓" is a immature response to a knowledgable comment, in contrast to a single emoji. - We all have faults. Passing it on to a unacceptably generalized group is not okay. - Don't believe in a comment just because it has a lot of likes. Social pressure is a thing. - Use your common sense before arguing something that was never fact-checked. - Or, don't argue at all.

[@Ryomenjib]

why you spamming this shit@@PurePain_1

[@spinasoul]

A self-defense mechanism that somehow doesnt seem to work irl wow

[@PurePain_1]

Alright. I'm seeing way too many logical fallacies in the comments and replies. (Not related to above comment) - "Society" is a generalization of the few who are actually corrupted. - Men and women both have faults. Stop blaming it on solely one gender over the other. - "🤓" is a immature response to a knowledgable comment, in contrast to a single emoji. - We all have faults. Passing it on to a unacceptably generalized group is not okay. - Don't believe in a comment just because it has a lot of likes. Social pressure is a thing. - Use your common sense before arguing something that was never fact-checked. - Or, just don't argue at all.

[@ameliab324]

Yes bc it doesn't work immediately. One would have to sniff some tears daily for a month xD

[@spinasoul]

@@ameliab324 imagine pepper spraying your attacker with your tears

[@ameliab324]

@@spinasoul That would be great lol

[@hiro_444]

Calling it a 'self defense mechanism' doesn't make any sense. Adrenaline is a self defense mechanism, because it drives you and helps you to protect yourself, but crying wouldn't make for a good self defense strategy because it can only really slow you down. It's more of a 'protective instinct' on men's end that can make that possible, that is if what the study says is true at all...

[@KhaDi_reviews]

I attest that this is true in my case! If my husband sees me crying he does whatever it takes to get me to stop. He says he feels like a dagger is being placed inside his heart when I cry. He’ll start making jokes or acting silly to try to get me to laugh and stop crying. I’m so blessed I love him so much!

[@TheKillaShow]

Its likely not because he smells your tears tho. But because he loves you and wants to solve the problem as best he can.

[@sly-fi6502]

This would be a solid explanation to why women cry more often during pregnancy. Gotta love nature!

[@paulamcdonald6568]

I’m calling cap, or bull cap. Lol I’ve never calmed a man down by crying. Dad was still abusive. Husband rarely has seen me cry, usually funerals or from extreme pain. I did get out of a ticket by crying once but I was already crying (parents were in motorcycle accident). So…🤷🏼‍♀️

[@kitcat-xn1mn]

I want to start with saying I agree with you. The study was too small and super biased. But I do want to add that supposedly they have to smell the tears which means there's a small possibility that the study is correct but it'll never work in real life unless you can convince an abuser to smell your face which I think is an all around bad idea so even if it were true it doesn't help anyway

[@PurePain_1]

Probably because they weren't smelling your tears, which the video clearly has the participants do. To above reply - It was indeed too small and biased, but nit-picking out the facts that you want to see then putting it into an overly generalized reply is also extremely biased. Just trying to put some sense into this comment section. I'm seeing way too many logical fallacies in the comments and replies. - "Society" is a generalization of the few who are actually corrupted. - Men and women both have faults. Stop blaming it on solely one gender over the other. - "🤓" is a immature response to a knowledgable comment, in contrast to a single emoji. - We all have faults. Passing it on to a unacceptably generalized group is not okay. - Don't believe in a comment just because it has a lot of likes. Social pressure is a thing. - Use your common sense before arguing something that was never fact-checked. - Or, don't argue at all.

[@vismattress5760]

@@PurePain_1your points are all fucking dumb lmao

[@soul_sticks2755]

​@@PurePain_1They should redo this study, but with both men and women's tears and both men and women smelling the tears. I feel it would provide way more insight and remove a ton of bias. And, of course, a larger sample size.

[@microangels]

No one cares about your trauma dump

[@gr8potatosaurusofthunderfart]

"Your honor, my client is not a psychopath ... It's just a flu" -Lawyer

[@ihatemickiegee]

this doesn’t relate at all to the video lol

[@Alex_Is_Not_Here]

Huh? Like in no smelling? Or what?

[@CatherineLacroix616]

📌 Y'all need to pay better attention. They Were Nøt WATCHING women cry with their eyes!! 😭 👀 They Were SNIFFING the Tears of Women Through Their 💦 👃🏼 Nose‼️ 😭 😷

[@naymeequillo]

My ex got extra excessively aggressive if I cried. My current man starts tearing up himself, hugs and kisses me and makes me tea at the slightest hint of a tear. The difference could not have been bigger and it took me SO LONG to not hold back out of fear anymore. I'll never leave this man. He is the absolute best. This study is interesting by the way.. I wonder what the effect of male tears on females is.

[@TheImprovised]

I know that my man melts anytime I cry. He absolutely hates it and comes running to comfort me.

[@rumsyjade111]

When I cry my man gets protective and softens his voice and always comes right over to comfort me.

[@lollymadikiza3174]

@rumsy...liar!!(south Africa)

[@jasontabor553]

So you use fake crying as a manipulation tactic to get what you want.

[@Cateater123]

Dude even if a dog cries men will become protective and soft to him . You aren't special lmao . The Disney princess trope is real 💀. Men are soft to the weaks .

[@Ms._Uniquee]

​@@Cateater123bro bringing girls back on ground btw I am too girl and if someone doesn't melt even after seeing your tears they are either parents or doesn't care at all about you

[@abby3750]

@@Cateater123ok andrew tate

[@mrnt1257]

I was in a relationship with a narcissist and he got extremely angry when I started crying and told me not to cry. I never cried in front of him again.

[@Esotericana]

Same. Very curious

[@Momma_AL]

They should do this study again on men who are incarcerated for violent crimes against women and in general.

[@arichanrainbow]

sniffing strangers' tears was not on the bingo list

[@shellodee]

This would be an interesting one to do on people with diagnosed antisocial personality disorders

[@whitepouch0904]

They don’t have that same effect in fact they get angrier like my father.

[@plutonium09]

@@whitepouch0904ok well your father isn’t gonna be everyone lmfao

[@Jay-hu3ol]

@@whitepouch0904 People with ASPD do not have to be aggressive and aggressive people do not need to have ASPD

[@whitepouch0904]

@@Jay-hu3ol but they tend to be more aggressive than people without

[@whitepouch0904]

@@plutonium09 ASPD can’t feel remorse and empathy and they get irritated and frustrated if the others show vulnerability like crying except with people with borderline personality disorder

[@Okayorca0326]

I believe this because one time my bf said something to me that really hurt my feelings. We stayed after school with each other to talk about it, and I started crying because it hurt me really bad what he told me. He then started tearing up because of the things that I told him I was going through, as well as me crying.

[@jeannenunua6818]

My ex was a learned narcissist so he wasnt mean when i cried, it actually made him calm down. However, i was extremely heart broken and felt very resentful for how my son and i were misstreated when we agreed.to work things out better and it never happened.

[@Jessica-li6we]

When I was 17 my abusive ex told me that my tears were causing an increase in his aggression after verbally abusing me for hours. He tried to kill me a couple months later. I found it hard to believe that my tears could be the cause of his hostility. This is very reassuring and healing for me to find out. Scientific evidence that it wasn’t my fault at all.

[@thebigmanskeet6969]

6 women isn't a lot, nor is 25 men for a test. This sounds like a load of crock unless there's a much larger sample size.

[@honaleri]

Not really, it's a brain scan response test. Not an opinion test. Them seeing all the men show less aggression in a blind study from tears vs saline, is a reasonable demonstration for this type of phenomenon. Its considerably significant. Not ever test need 500 test subjects to be valid. Don't apply a broad thought to a narrow and specific problem.

[@xenondoro8573]

You're gonna be surprised by the science behind puberty blockers. Sample sizes start from 2 (with the biggest study having less than 150 participants) and no long-term studies whatsoever. That hasn't stopped the medical field from drawing conclusions about long-term safety. So we can agree that scrutinizing sample sizes is not something we do anymore.

[@jay-d8g3v]

@@xenondoro8573 Yep!! And the ones that speak up about it in that field just gets canned

[@patriciac.a.1614]

by the same creators of "the smell of male sweat calms down women"

[@patriciac.a.1614]

​@@xenondoro8573oh whats next? you gonna tell me the illustration of the "genderbread person" that everyone is using is not scientific evidence that gender spectrum exist??? that's craaaazy

[@WildHorizon]

Me: barely able to afford gas and groceries at the same time The government with our tax money:

[@GoldenDragonfly1]

You're from Israel? Study: Weizmann Institute, main author Noam Sobel

[@asterism5768]

studies like these are not funded by tax money, nice try though retard

[@laundryclothes1582]

No she's from Palestine, occupied by israel. 🇵🇸@@GoldenDragonfly1

[@Socks-bh7gt]

😭👍

[@laundryclothes1582]

bro youtube just deleted my comment 😭

[@yvonnes7412]

Narcissists get angrier when you cry because it exposes them-makes them feel shame. They can’t stand anything that makes them feel shame. So if you ever knew someone that got worse when you cried-they were likely a narcissist or something similar. Normal people stop what their doing and take a step back if they make someone cry… Usually they try to soften their tone, console them, or walk away (if appropriate). So many of us have awful stories about narcissists but it’s important to remember that they don’t react like a normal empathetic person. A lot of times a narcissist reacts in the opposite way. Another example is if you’re happy-a normal person would be happy for you, whereas a narcissist might get angry or jealous and try to tear you down or compete with you. Very interesting study though 🤓

[@ShaareiZoharDaas]

Male tears work more on me because our socialization of them should make us aware of the point they must be at to do it.

[@ThundrGurl]

Interesting. It must be a survival thing then.

[@jocelynno5784]

I was thinking the same….

[@thistles]

Yes, to stop our violent partners from beating us to death.

[@ultimatebishoujo29]

I think so too

[@AstroLamaa]

Perhaps...

[@TheKillaShow]

I doubt it. Men (read: abusers)are not sniffing your face during a domestic attack. Your body is reacting to a trauma with tears. Ideally the person committing the trauma onto you will recognize your fear response and stop....ideally.

[@3SquirrelsInATrenchcoat]

I'd love to see how other women react to female tears.

[@TheAstroWitchLux]

As a cis woman, I feel extreme rage when seeing another woman cry.

[@The-Mediator]

I feel bad when anyone cries 😀

[@Nothingbutdust_]

​@@TheAstroWitchLux Why? That sounds terrible 😔

[@Nothingbutdust_]

I'd say, it depends on the situation. But generally it feels awful to witness anyone cry really...

[@RaphaellaVonMercer]

Could be that the tears contain some kind of chemical signal that helps to lower or block cretan neurotransmitters that are most prevalent durung the Male expression of aggitation/agression. I do recall hearing about another study that tied female tears to the increased presence of testosterone and or its absence...i don't specifically recall EXACTLY what they were implying but I do find these kinds of experiments highly interesting!

[@aussiechick00]

I think its because biologically reducing somebody to tears is a very clear message that things have gone too far, like I notice I cry as a defense mechanism when somebody is yelling at me but im not necessarily crying out of sadness its more a pleading of “plz stop”

[@wednesday7150]

fr

[@Munchkit]

when i cry, my mom just gets more mad.

[@lorireed8046]

1. Your mother isn't male. And 2. She's done playing your what aboutism game and fake tears BS.

[@deadparrot5953]

Was your mom abused as a child? My mom was, and she would get mad at me for crying, too. I think that she walled herself off from her emotions bc of the abuse. So when I cried, she would see it as me "faking it," or trying to manipulate her, bc she could not be honest with herself about her own emotions.

[@The-Mediator]

They pull up the “I’ll give you a reason to cry”

[@Piccolo_Lover]

So you're telling me I should cry more often? 😂

[@annem7806]

That's where the saying 'I needed a good cry' comes from. Haven't you felt better after crying?

[@Piccolo_Lover]

@@annem7806 Yes. But I rarely ever cry. I refuse to cry in front of other people, and I share a room with someone, so I don't have anywhere to cry alone. So I haven't had the chance to really let out my tears in a long time. Edit - Also, I'm stubborn

[@noodlebob5302]

If you want men to run away from you go ahead

[@annem7806]

@Piccolo_Lover do you shower alone? I used to go for a drive in the country, turn the radio up loud & SCREAM! Cathartic. Find a healthy, private outlet.🤞 gym, long walks? Everybody needs private time.

[@Piccolo_Lover]

@@annem7806 Lol usually I'll have a pointless argument with an AI

[@user-ek6pq8vr7m]

Emotions shown by women through tears either trigger or soften them up. Different men, different reactions. But I guess, their study is in liquid form, not through seeing someone tear up. Very interesting and would love to learn more about the study with a larger control and treatment group. This could become a treatment for therapy in the future. Great job.

[@giogioskara237]

Tears for a Mother means more.. Her tears of heartache for her children means more..

[@the1law500]

Makes sense. Our tears comtain specific neuropeptides according to what emotions we are feeling. Which is why it's important to express emotions even if it amounts to tears. You are literally releasing that which is making you feel a certain way.

[@KasThinks]

Amazing! Thanks for sharing 🙂

[@celine22m]

I love this

[@resurrectionkratos]

amen.

[@solus8685]

Nah, feeling terrible is my natural state and I don't like unfamiliar feelings, even if they're positive

[@celine22m]

Do you have any familiar positive feelings?@@solus8685

[@harringt100]

Brings a new layer of meaning to that passage in _Jane Eyre_ when Mr. Rochester tells Jane, "If I storm, you have the art of weeping."

[@Truth_SeekR]

Gay

[@harringt100]

@@Truth_SeekR I don't see how that's relevant, but no, I'm not.

[@Shtriga_34]

​@@Truth_SeekR😂😂😂

[@ImJustSayingBTW]

​@@Truth_SeekRLMBO!!!! Stop.

[@esther_inbloom]

​​​@@harringt100How unfortunate for you, that being cultured, and intelligent leads the ignorant to feel superior. Just ignore such sophomoric humor, and mocking. It only makes you appear, more than they. I adore men, and women who love classic literature. Jane Eyre, written during a time period, when Women, and Men knew their places, and Society thrived. The influx of Diver's Seed, no the veritable flood, is destroying our White European Created Nation's.