Fifty Shades of what am I Doing with My Life (Fifty Shades of Grey rant)

[@lucy26187]

I saw a thing a while ago that said if Christian was poor, unattractive and lived in a trailer park this would be a horror movie 😂

[@AmandaTheJedi]

Oh it still is a horror when they're attractive and rich. That horror story is literally out right now and it's called The Invisible Man

[@feralchangeling97]

@@AmandaTheJedi you ever see Gotham? There's a serial killer in there that makes me think that a writer had a vendetta against Fifty Shades of Grey to the point where he made an equivalent to Christian and made him a woman killer.

[@staicubrecknerchristian8011]

You call my life a horror movie... you're damn right it is.

[@jacobbearnson5874]

The criminal minds meme already took over for a bit there

[@Timliu92]

@@AmandaTheJedi And a way better movie too!

[@raventhemoth2642]

E.L James really saw Edward and went "he's not abusive enough" huh

[@Helbore]

And then there was that weirdo who wrote 365 Days who went "hold my fucking beer, sunshine!"

[@nosferat-ew]

Helbore Twilight, 50 Shades, 365 Days: the holy trinity

[@Helbore]

@@nosferat-ew The unholy trinity, surely!

[@stargirl3455]

@@Helbore hold my beer, baby girl

[@RoseBaggins]

@@stargirl3455 I wanted to laugh and feel sick at the same time.

[@Synthia17]

There's a pretty sick reason why he likes her, apparently it's because she looks similar to his mom or some shit, remember that from a different review. Humanity was a mistake.

[@NJGuy1973]

No, just certain humans are mistakes.

[@ariaalexandria3324]

He hated his mother despite the memories he had of her were of her doing loving things for him, like making him a birthday cake. So he wanted to date and fuck and hit women who looked like her to punish her by proxy.

[@moongirl8807]

Yes watch the reviews by Folding Ideas. They're pretty good.

[@micahguillemette3344]

It's in the second movie. They talk about it and turns out Christian likes punishing(and fucking apparently) women who look like his mother.

[@dudabaddini6684]

that's some freud shit

[@TheDreamingJune]

I find it disturbing that there are girls and women who still treat this abusive relationship as something to aspire to.

[@TeonDeus]

it's just not that simple. It's not about random abuse but the story depicts domination. Also psychosexual trauma, and other things that are naturally very interesting to many women. Real world abuse in relationships isn't at all sexy. 50shades manages to explore some of the very real psychological stuff in a way that's exciting and aesthetic.

[@ripleyjlawman.3162]

June Asiimwe There are losers that think Joker and Harley Quinn is hashtag relationship goals, just because they saw Suicide Squad, I mean his abusive treatment of her was and remains a huge part of the pair’s relationship both before and after she left him, to reinforce my point there is literally the entirety of the episode Mad Love from the New Batman Adventures, and the 1994 one-shot it’s based on.

[@taradreams3]

@@TeonDeus you bring up a good point. I think if the movie had been framed as the story of a deeply disturbed man who uses abuse and domination disguised at "BDSM" to work through his childhood trauma, and if the movie had addressed this and approached it as a psychological thriller, then it could have been interesting. But unfortunately it's presented as a "romance" and the fact that Christian is not following healthy BDSM practices is not addressed at all.

[@niamhcorrigan3972]

@@TeonDeus that isn't the appeal for most fans. It depicts abuse and frames it as romance. At no point is the trauma ppl go through used for anything other than drama or justification for awful behavior. I have read these books.

[@TeonDeus]

@@niamhcorrigan3972 well, I suppose not everyone reads at the same level. That's a very generic criticism, and one that doesn't attempt to explain what the massive appeal is instead.

[@arsonist_worm]

I remember hearing something called the Danny DeVito rule, which is basically seeing if casting Danny DeVito as the main character in a romance film would make the film a horror story. If yes, than obviously it's a poorly written romance. It works really well.

[@jeevithrai7994]

Thanks for this.

[@paulinawall6400]

I feel bad for Danny De Vito but it's a good rule

[@arsonist_worm]

@@paulinawall6400 yeah I know cuz I feel like every film would actually automatically be way better if they cast Danny as the main character

[@Doctor-Infinite]

As a writer i needed to hear this thank you. Im watching 50 shades vids so I'll know what NOT to do

[@arsonist_worm]

@manic pixie dream boy I know!!!! I understand you. He's super amazing but he's just not your typical handsome rich guy so some might consider him not attractive :'(((( poor Danny

[@Rin-ef2tp]

When I was younger I dated someone who was into BDSM. I enjoyed it in the bedroom but I drew the line at living normal life being dominated which we discussed at length as we got more into the scene and as he wanted more we decided mutually to break up because I couldn’t give him what he wanted. He was incredibly respectful of all of my wishes and their were clear boundaries and safe words and as we were still learning we did have some difficult moments but there was never a moment that I felt unsafe or completely out of control. This movie just tries to justify abuse by saying its BDSM but it’s not, it’s just another movie where an asshole takes advantage of a vulnerable/naive girl

[@Rin-ef2tp]

veronica carlson You say be careful but if a man can over power you regardless any relationship can be risky. At any point they could decide to over power you but that is nothing to do with BDSM that’s just called being abusive. The whole point of BDSM is that it’s safe, sane and consensual. The whole point of my comment is that BDSM is all about trust and it can be fun when everyone in the relationship respects one another and follows the rules and guidelines. Telling me to be careful of choices if the guy turned out to be abusive is just victim blaming

[@romainsavioz5466]

@veronica carlson 🤦🏼‍♂️

[@GLamoRousCooKie]

@veronica carlson Well then might as well go lesbian and write off men if that's your line of thinking. And I don't know about you but I know a lot of men that I could overpower, granted I'm a really tall broad that practices kickbox.

[@angelikaskoroszyn8495]

@veronica carlson Not kinky sex also can send people to hospital. Not everyone is flexible and fit enough to avoid accidents. Before any exercise it's normal to have a warm up - when it comes to sex it never happens. Muscle tearing, bone fractures, joint sprains - it all happens without bandage needed. STDs are a serious danger even when the most vanilla sex is involved. Some people like to do fun in shower - a very dangerous activity even though it's a very vanilla

[@tygerlizzie]

@veronica carlson I understand where you're coming from but I don't like that you're trying to find parallels between what essentially are sexual kinks and sexual abuse. Obviously you are in no way obligated to understand what turns other people on, but I think there's a very important difference between the two: consent (like the original comment mentioned). Yes accidents are an unfortunate possibility but, as stated by others, that's part of sexual activity in general, not specific to BDSM. Oftentimes BDSM scenes are even safer bc everyone is hyper aware of safety and everyone performs extensive research to prevent injuries, more so than many vanilla couples do. Perhaps it's true that it's foolish to trust someone to that extent, but that's a risk that comes with relationships in general, trusting that another person values you enough that they would go the extra mile to keep you safe and not hurt you. Just like you would trust a friend to care enough not to accidentally hurt you emotionally, it's the same principle, even if it doesn't seem similar. It's just that almost everyone becomes knowledgeable about friendship early on in life, and the BDSM community is a specific percentage of the population.

[@alicenthightowerschair]

This movie literally says that 'sexual abuse is fine as long as you're attractive'.

[@karabokhwiane7593]

That's the whole world's contract tbh

[@solocomics1820]

Well time to be ugly then. Don't wanna be abused by someone because they think I'm pretty according to this movie.

[@alicenthightowerschair]

@@solocomics1820 I meant the person inflicting the abuse is attractive as in (Christian grey), they act as if it's an excuse for treating a person like shit (Anastasia Steele)

[@Canthavemybones]

And rich, don't forget the wealth lust in this twisted fucked up story.

[@someinteresting]

Not so attractiveness but money. He could be bat shit repulsive but if he's bat shit rich also the doormat of a woman will be his.

[@micah7303]

My gripe with 50 Shades as someone who's always reading fanfics is WHY, OUT OF ALL THE FANFICS, WAS THIS THE ONE PUBLISHED IN BOOK FORM? And now everyone thinks all fanfics are terrible (and maybe publishing fanfic as original content is quite problematic)

[@danberr]

I can confirm that, as someone who doesn't know much about fanfics, the little I've experienced leads me to believe that they're juvenile and terrible (I'll bet it isn't true, but that's all I know).

[@DaviniaHill]

It was ridiculously popular. It got billions of reads before it was turned into books.

[@micah7303]

@@Mad.player I have participated in enough fandoms to know that those are true and to whip out obnoxiously "not all fanfics." They are indulgent and unregulated content of varying qualities. Personally, fanfics and fanart should be kept within fandom spaces and out of the mainstream.

[@satyagraha6571]

As I recall the writer's husband was working in Hollywood.He was either a writer or producer.I think that's how she got published

[@luiza.limaneves]

@@satyagraha6571 she was also a producer so yeah

[@SiminaDar]

Okay, so like 90% of the BDSM community thinks 50 Shades is hot horseshit. Like "This is how you don't do kink: 101." But also, Christian does this weird thing throughout the movie where when she starts asking too many questions, he touches her face to get her to shut up. It was disturbing.

[@sirmaestrothehorse5152]

It's more like 99,99%

[@romainsavioz5466]

@@sirmaestrothehorse5152 probably even 100

[@littlearies3862]

I sidbt see the "horseshit" part at first and, as someone who is into BDSM, I was about to flip out.

[@ayamestitcheskurta]

I agree

[@queenemma5823]

Holy frijoles, you’re right!!! Ugh, now I’m even more creeped out

[@JennaLovesPickles28]

When she Anastasia asked “are you gay” I immediately thought of the vine where the guy asks “why are you gay?” 😂😂😂

[@Yolanda8419]

Why are you geh. 🤪🤪🤪

[@seethreepio]

Who says I am gay?

[@angelofpurity1992]

@@seethreepio You are geh 😂

[@esetbulguch703]

@@seethreepio 🤣🤣🤣

[@whyareyougeh3499]

So who is geh?

[@tayloradams3993]

As someone who's into BDSM: Christian Grey is not a dom. He gets pleasure from it in the same way that people enjoy revenge. And he broke rules of Domming, such assss: 1) bringing in someone who doesn't like it. 2) babying someone who is not a little. 3) hurting someone who has told you THEY. DON'T. LIKE. IT. 4) Forgetting aftercare by not addressing injuries and comforting his sub. 5) Calling himself a dom. I am serious. He has no right to call himself apart of this community. We all disown him.

[@littlearies3862]

I think he also got angry at Ana for forgetting the safeword or something. I dont remember if it was for forgettibg it or for using it. I cant remember which.

[@tayloradams3993]

@@littlearies3862 oh u rite -Misuse of safewords.

[@reynhacoezy5510]

What in the world ...

[@becuaseimbored3481]

Not a little?

[@tayloradams3993]

@@becuaseimbored3481 Ok. So in the world of BDSM, littles are people who enjoy feeling and being treated like a child (most of them only do this around loved ones and this can vary from "mildly childish" to "Am baby. wah"). The dominant person will treat them as such and many will help with eating disorders (as well as self harm and other bad behaviours, as far as is healthy and as far as the person is okay with) in their partners by giving them a schedule with rewards and punishments. Anna is not into being treated like a child and to being controlled in day to day life (or at all, really), and is therefor "not a little." This help?

[@desim6065]

As someone who's into bdsm, I was intrigued that a book about a Dom/sub relationship was so popular. So you can imagine my disappointment when I actually read the first book 😭😭 I couldn't get passed the meeting his parents scene. THIS IS NOT BDSM Y'ALL. THIS IS GLORIFYING ABUSE

[@LoveK1]

Desi M are there any GOOD bdsm romance books that you would recommend?

[@DANIxDANGER]

Exactly. BDSM isn't sexually abusive or emotionally/mentally abusive. This book just disguised his actions as a "kink."

[@bookterror]

@@LoveK1 It depends on what content you are looking for but there definitely are books where its done well.

[@onewhoserks2944]

@@LoveK1 the secretary is not a book but its a good movie about it (Edit:it is a book lol)

[@DawnKellyMedia]

I know nothing about BDSM and I know this is messed up. This is abuse, not love. It's disgusting.

[@Emisop]

I'm not into BDSM and even I know that the author doesn't know how BDSM works. In a BDSM relationship, the submissive is the one with more power. The submisive tells the dominant what they can and can't do. When the submissive says the safe word, the dominant stops right away. Christian is just an abuser. Not a dominant in any shape or form.

[@mophead_xu]

the Dom also tells the sub what theyre willing and not willing to do, and is free to use safewords to end a scene whenever they dont want to continue/cant handle it as well. it's not exclusive to subs. in other words, neither actually holds more power over the other. control, maybe. but only in sense of "the sub gives over control to the Dom". but definitely not power.

[@anneliselim602]

Preach! It's all about the safe word

[@KaydieKD]

I mostly got into the theory of BDSM because of Shades of Grey, reading why people thought it was horrible ^^ *Spoilers* . . . Imagine my rage, when the the solution to the first book's cliffhanger (Christian spanked her and by that showed her, "how bad it could get") was Christian asking Ana why she didn't safeword if it was too much, and her just going "Whoops, totally forgot about safewords" like WHAT? Also it's been a while (thankfully), but I think aftercare wasn't really a thing either?

[@sunsetskye483]

@@KaydieKD There was no sort of aftercare whatsoever, so that’s another issue

[@nothankyouthanksforasking]

The great thing about the Twilight series is -- at least to me -- that it is perfect for days you're sick, the weather is rainy, grey and you need some visual chicken soup. Plus the soundtrack is great. 50 Shades just leaves you feeling even sicker.

[@DistressedDamsel79]

@Black Ninja In the same vein of reminiscing, Twilight was the first movie I pirated looooool. I had totally forgot about that.

[@Kirsten4260]

I gotta admit even though the Twilight series is REALLY poorly written (plus the cgi baby I can never get over that) it’s one of those guilty pleasure films you can watch if you don’t feel like working your brain too hard. Next time it rains I’m going into bed and watching the whole series with food lol

[@nicomoist5336]

@@Kirsten4260 as a director wannabe, the movie used the budget pretty well and its well made cinematically and everything. Its like the perfect movie to laugh at and enjoy it because how stupid it is

[@QuestionMarkExclaimationPoint]

At least Edward’s psycho control mechanism was out of fear for Bella’s fragility as a human. Christian straight up dgaf about Anastasia’s well being.

[@No-zp5mv]

@@QuestionMarkExclaimationPoint Yep, like I understand Edward really shouldn't, but at least it's out of fear for Bella

[@OneToxicPixel]

"There is nothing healthy about this man." The best quote to come out of this. Also sums up the character of Christian Grey perfectly. I never actually watched the whole movie, happened to catch a little bit of it on TV, had to change the channel after 5 minutes. Probably because the german dub is just so laughably bad. It's even more cringe than the original one (you happened to show the clip I watched so yeah... I can compare them) Lastly, I have been in a kinda similar relationship. Not as extreme as Anastasia had there, but still, I consider it abuse. Not gonna go into too much detail, the guy tried to groom me too, when I just didn't do what ever he wanted, when ever he wanted, he dumped me, although he has been trying to get back into contact with me several times throughout the years. It took me three years before I was able to trust someone again and talk about my problems, he basically destroyed me. But it's hard to admit that to yourself when you are in that kind of relationship. You just don't want to see what is actually happening. You keep making up excuses. "Oh, he didn't mean it that way. He was just joking. It's a misunderstanding. He meant well. How was he supposed to know?" That stuff. I now am more happy than ever without that prick. So much love to anyone who has been suffering from abuse in the past! And if you are currently in an abusive relationship, please get the hell out of it. It's not worth it. Get help from friends or family, someone you can trust and I'm sure you will recover one day.

[@Sara-yi1lf]

Im so sorry you had to go through that.

[@njblackbird3148]

Preach!

[@RosieSquall]

Ana never sees what they do as consensual. She might say so, but she's always worried/scared of Christian "hitting her". That's definitely a huge red flag.

[@emilychertos5055]

It comes out later that he has basically “revenge pics” of possible Submissives he was interested in before Anna and should any of them have broken the NDA, he would have more than likely release said pics. That’s just another part of this messed up “story”. Using that term loosely here.

[@baldr6894]

“STEP BACK I THINK IM GONNA VOMIT-“

[@bleachisgoodforurhealth9946]

WTF

[@Luminescent135]

I actually feel sick 🤢

[@bhargavipba]

Omg you are right!! Ana actually finds out about it and questions him. And that plot goes nowhere. I think he just hides it or destroys it, so that Ana can't find it again. The makers of the movie were smart not to include this BS.

[@JenMistress]

Speaking from someone who has experience in BDSM, I will say this. In a true BDSM relationship, the submissive is actually the one with the more power. They are the ones who decide the limits of where it goes. Something that this fanfic writer does not get. So instead Mr. Grey is nothing more than a rapist. Yeah, middle aged women are getting off to a rapist. How disturbing is that? As for me, I didn't even make through the first movie until I decided I'm done with this franchise. However, watching people tear it apart, I'm good with. So if you want to do the other two, hey, be my guest, Amanda. I'll enjoy watching your videos on it.

[@fabiomoreira1506]

I've read you are suposed to do it with someone you truly trust will stop if they are hurting you.

[@LeeDeeThe1]

@@fabiomoreira1506 Exactly. Building up a bdsm relationship does need time and much trustbuilding. And much much conversations about what you both whant and expect. oh, and a saveword the submissive can use to end whatever is happening at any time

[@tiedyedowl8367]

Exactly. I never saw the movies, but when the first book came out I read it, and was shocked by the portrayal of BDSM. Also, doesn’t BDSM not go outside the bedroom in most cases?

[@factorykat]

@@tiedyedowl8367 Yes and no. There are designated places and meetups that folks can go to in order to hang out and play or socialize with other like-minded individuals. Otherwise, the general rule of thumb is not to involve the public in your play as they are non-consenting parties, and consent is key in not just kink but any relationship.

[@astrealbrizbee9815]

Preach!

[@santen2309]

Jamie Dornan plays a psychopathic killer/rapist in "The Fall" (which was a great show) and I just can't separate that character and christian gray in my head.

[@HolandaChiquita]

Ow I had the same problem at first. But then I re-watched The Fall again, and realised how infinitely better his character and the whole series is written. It made me see all the differences again. Especially how they make sure to shine some true light on Paul Spector and what he is. Which is the complete opposite of what they tried to do with Christian Grey...

[@santen2309]

@@HolandaChiquita No doubt the the fall is better. I couldn't even finish the 50 shades book because it was so badly written. Unfortunately if 50 shades is the only thing you've seen him in, it makes him look like a bad actor.

[@reynhacoezy5510]

Tan Hen He is a good actor.

[@KaliqueClawthorne]

@@santen2309 Comparable to Kristen Stewart? (Yes, this is the first example in my mind )She isn't a bad actor. But when you just know her from Twilight you think she is.

[@Nicamon]

I will never recover by the fact Graham from"Once Upon a Time"became this walking shit of a man that is Christian Grey.Graham was one of my favorite character and I will forever miss him and I just *can't stand* the thought of people watching OUaT and saying:"That's Christian from"50 Shades"!!!😱" *NO!!!HE IS NOT!!!* Why did they have to pick *HIM* to play that psycho bastard?!?!?!😭😭😭💔💔💔It's the same level of pain I feel when I watch"Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire"and I hear people calling Cedric "Edward"!😭😭😭💔💔💔

[@EatinPaste]

It took until the NDA thing that I realised "Holy shit, this is an Onision movie." And that's real scary.

[@God-jq4fu]

Onision probably watched this religiously and calls it “modern art”

[@Selkies_not_Sirens]

I laughed so hard at this xD

[@pumpiron1657]

The one who made the movie could be onion boy's fan .

[@kingnikolai5799]

Twilight is a masterpiece compared to fifty shades of grey

[@msimms1917]

Agreed. And i *loathe* Twilight so..there’s that.

[@lavanyaverma1194]

And fifty shades is KINDA good compared to 365

[@chenmae9747]

@@lavanyaverma1194 Kinda? This movie is less toxic, thank god but it’s still bad

[@No-zp5mv]

@@chenmae9747 50 shades of grey sucks, but yeah, it is better than 365, like way better

[@chenmae9747]

@@No-zp5mv Fr

[@zombieedrea]

*sees title* *immediately likes without even watching*

[@AmandaTheJedi]

Bless you

[@nazarisreyes6037]

Same 😂😂

[@DawnKellyMedia]

Same lol!

[@allisonelizabeth6596]

I have a bad habit of doing that

[@Valdagast]

My cat tells me if I'm submissive my life will be so much easier. But that's just standard with cats.

[@haggisa]

Valdagast Hehehe. We’re all submissive to our feline overlords. Prrrrraise be onto them!!!

[@angelag1363]

But at least you can trust the cat more than you can a Christian Grey

[@msimms1917]

i can’t stop laughing at this. My cat master is demanding and getting treats as i type so..he has clearly won the war.

[@nicomoist5336]

@@msimms1917 why does thia sound like cat boys i see on webcomics-okai i leave lmao

[@tegwaturan2994]

@@nicomoist5336 i

[@TheSaiyanPrincess89]

If Christian Grey were poor and did all these things, no woman would find it romantic.

[@angelwings1979]

I find it disturbing that any woman finds Christian Grey romantic no matter what his net worth is.

[@mellowgeekstudio]

This book is brilliant in demonstrating women's true values, priorities and the rationalizations they make to hide them.

[@davidfortier6976]

You're right, the whole point is that she's the most prized possession of someone who can have anything that money can buy. There are other ways of looking at it but they all hinge on his spectacular wealth.

[@fabiomoreira1506]

@@davidfortier6976 also what stinking rich guy is gonna marry a woman after 2 months???? She divorces him and gets all his money.

[@mellowgeekstudio]

@@fabiomoreira1506 That's the happy ending most of the audience is fantasizing about.

[@jamesmason7979]

I don't understand how anyone made it through this movie. I watched the scene when they were at his parents. When he snatched her shouted "No! You're all mine!" I wanted through my TV out the window.

[@TheBonkleFox]

Tommy Wiseau that bitch!

[@parisadr5142]

Same man,same

[@fridaschneiderlein8246]

We paid too much money at the cinema to leave.

[@dawkinsbeagle]

In the books he actually IS in therapy. I remember thinking it must be the worst therapist in the history of everything because he or she (can't remember) actually encourages his toxic relationship with Ana.

[@Zeffer32]

Thanks for this, I've been in an abusive controlling relationship and 50 shades of ptsd makes me sick and furious beyond words, this needs to be the central conversation when it comes to this rag romanticising abuse. My family brush it off when I empathise how damaging it is, I wanna smack em upside the head verbally

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

Zephyr Lawrence I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that. But I laughed at “50 shades of ptsd”

[@siyahans4964]

"Anastesia Steel is .......such a porn name." was very honestly the highlight of my day.

[@michalkatec.6841]

The fact that Twilight created Fifty Shades is so weird because despite being weird, slightly twisted, and cheesy, Twilight is so innocent

[@avanishdutta2658]

Remember, this trilogy made over 1.3 billion dollars at the box office in total. You might wonder how the hell did that happen? If there is an answer, do reply or don't.

[@dlobelow760]

While I hate Twilight with a passion, that blue-teal color grade is what I still loved about the first film.

[@VillaCarrington]

Same, just like Battlefield 3 (rofl)

[@dlobelow760]

@@VillaCarrington ok you know what You're not even wrong

[@TeamBreezyy98]

Argh I hated it 😭

[@ussinussinongawd516]

@@TeamBreezyy98 sameeee it gives a terrible vibe

[@AmandaTheJedi]

Update: I should have asked for more likes. PART 2: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oITWlKiIdriiarc PART 3: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o3eUcn6leM-YrtU 2 thousand likes on this bad boy (the video, not this comment, but you can like this too I guess) and we'll do Fifty Shades of whatever comes next

[@mx4690]

It's happening.

[@philippaclarke2844]

Currently at 1.9k, c'mon people!

[@CrazyGoat24]

Done

[@beastofbussycreek]

Have fun, Amanda

[@Adriano991b]

Notification Squad is waiting!

[@dvass7253]

What kills me about this movie and this whole series in general is the wasted potential, especially with Christian's character. Christian is an abuse victim (from early on in his life) who was introduced to the books' really fucked up interpretation of BDSM by a woman who took advantage of his naivety. And keep in mind, he was a teenager when that happened! This alone has the makings of a great story and how his relationship with Ana could develop. Maybe at one point he says or does something that really makes Ana angry and he gives her a crop or a whip for her to hit him with to appease her, or maybe Ana says something that triggers his PTSD in a way that causes him to project the hatred buried deep within him for the woman who abused him onto Ana. Over time, however, Ana helps him fight his trauma and shows him how relationships actually work and what normal intimate contact with a romantic partner are really like. Not to mention it would be a great commentary on the way male abuse victims struggle with their trauma, how they are not taken seriously and how little support and understanding they receive.

[@ariaalexandria3324]

He isn't abused by his mother. His memories of her are of her making him a birthday cake and other loving things. Yes, her pimp burned him with a couple cigarettes, but that doesn't make him some long-term abuse-victim. He was poor, yes, as are so, so many children. He seems to think that being poor meant he was a victim. At the age of 4, he was adopted into a home of extreme wealth and privilege, yet he's pissed that his mother was a prostitute. Nothing he said gave any reason to believe she was even really a druggie. She was a prostitute who had a pimp who did burn him, yet he acts like his whole life was one long abuse saga.

[@dvass7253]

@@ariaalexandria3324 Goddamn! :O

[@YourMajesty143]

@@ariaalexandria3324 - I don't think the "abusive woman" being referred to here is his birth mother, but rather the adoptive mother's friend who practically molested him when he was young.

[@nightsocoolioyep7663]

Kat Blaque has a great video on 50 Shades (and she's an actual sub so she has experience!) And she made the fantastic point that it would have been much more interesting if Christian had pushed Ana to dom him, especially considering that in her experience in the scene, most rich and powerful men are actually submissives.

[@xgise]

Honestly, that's why I even bothered reading the Fifty Shades book at all, Christian's story is actually interesting and it made me sad that he experienced all that. It sucks that he's basically an abuser who uses a woman as a rehabilitación center

[@niamhcorrigan3972]

Fun fact: Christian had a therapist in the book and there's this narrative of Anastasia "fixing" him and that her love is "better than therapy". The books are somehow even worse than the movies.

[@quitealady3930]

I read somewhere that actual BDSM practitioners use 50 Shades as a punishment, it was that painful of a book.

[@littlearies3862]

I dunno, man. I think that would be a hard-limit for me. Lol

[@reynhacoezy5510]

I am using the safe word .

[@YourMajesty143]

If a partner wants to throw a book at me during sex, it better be a Bible or something. There's no greater punishment than that. But paperback, not hardcover. I bruise easy.

[@mophead_xu]

@@reynhacoezy5510 "your brattiness is getting out of line. time for some punishment." "finally what ive been asking for." "read the whole 50 shades trilogy." "I'LL BE A GOOD GIRL I SWEAR PLEASE ANYTHING BUT THAT. CHERRY PIE, CHERRY PIE!"

[@yugoxgc]

You know that "saving" moment is creepier for me in 50 shades cause... The dude Straight up pinned Her location ... cause she went out drinking. At least with Edward There's some physical adiction he tried avoiding but senced danger & jumped in. With Grey its " Have you been drinking?... I MUST STOP YOU" Both Stalkers but There's that extra Level of Control freak pushing into worse

[@Zapporah85]

Also, Edward could read their minds and was legitimately trying to protect her and oh my gosh I'm standing up for him... Fifty Shades is fucked up.

[@DonnaBrooks]

@@Zapporah85 It's like 50 Shades took the problematic things about Twilight and just made them so much creepier, directed it toward an older audience, & added even more offensive, misogynistic, & insensitive scenes.

[@herlastvoyage]

@Donna Brooks, well said!

[@reynhacoezy5510]

And some people still masturbate to this .

[@shayla106]

Donna Brooks Yep, by taking out the supernatural element and using real world scary tactics it really just gets creepier.

[@tiedyedowl8367]

Funny story: My mom and I were in a book store, she asked me if I’d heard of the book 50 Shades of Grey, and if I thought she’d like it. I told her yes, I’d heard of it, and no, she wouldn’t like it. I tried to end the conversation, but she kept asking, “why? why? I’m an open person,” etc. Finally out of frustration and embarrassment, I yelled, “IT’S PORN, MOM! THE BOOK IS JUST PORN!” Everyone was staring at us. 😆 One person saw we were standing in front of the shelf with 50 Shades of Grey and started laughing. We left the store pretty quickly.

[@vanvuong999]

Lol

[@elipetrou9308]

Why would your mom want you to read that

[@alexisventura7191]

@@elipetrou9308 i think the mother was asking about the book, so maybe she could read it herself

[@elipetrou9308]

@@alexisventura7191 perhaps

[@appleBEEZ]

"Go forth with your life instead of staying with someone who wants to control you instead of going to therapy" Don't at me plz

[@neutralman9124]

I'm not sure if this, or the Harry Styles fanfiction After being a book and film series, is worse.

[@hannahbrennan2131]

It's a close thing, but this is worse.

[@ArturGlass.C]

I think After is worse just because the girl character is younger. So it's not the same audience. Teenagers will watch and read after and normalize this abusive awful behavior when it's middle age women doing that with 50 shades. They can compartmentalize and see 50 shades as just a fantasy where it's okay to do that shit but know that if it happens in real life it really wouldn't be hot just fucking creepy. Not sure teenagers do and can do that. Also I remember the girl in after being a pretty bad judgmental person when Ana is just a bit lost and manipulated but does try to stand her ground at multiple occasion. I'd rather have people relate to Ana than whatever the After girl's name is in After. (like doesn't she cheat on her boyfriend and absolutely don't give any fucks about it ?!)

[@fabiomoreira1506]

@@ArturGlass.C also in The notebook one scene i got into a "fight" with my gf was Plain Jane cheating on her fiance before the wedding with her ex Noah and it's supposed to be romantic. Nevermind waiting and calling off the wedding first...

[@marianaluna6184]

@@fabiomoreira1506 Omg, yessss. Her fiance was honestly the only good character, with morals and all. Also, Noah is so manipulative... no means no, man

[@alex_ze_awsumyt5484]

Alternate titles for the franchise: 50 Shades of Bad Writing 50 Shades of "I'm sorry, what?!" 50 Shades of Trash 50 Shades of -BDSM- Abusive Relationships 50 Shades of "Boundaries? What are boundaries???"

[@heartless2412]

50 Shades of "Boundaries? Who's she?"

[@ribottostudio]

Sometimes fanfiction is better than the actual canon content-like How it Should've Ended's Rise of Skywalker ending. Sometimes fanfiction is just......oh god.

[@neutralman9124]

HISHE is never, ever good.

[@AllisonMiller30]

@@neutralman9124 it is when it retcons the end of Rise of Skywalker.

[@ribottostudio]

@@AllisonMiller30 OHHHH MY GOD YOU HAVE A GRANDDAUGHTER?!?!?!? THIS IS SO EXCITING!! HEY EVERYONE PALPS IS A GRANDPAPPY!! kills me everytime

[@dlobelow760]

@@ribottostudio that's why I never actually got to see the movie So You telling me My man Electric Palps had kids? Who also had another kid? You can't get me invested in a fetch quest then just fuck me up with that price of info.

[@AllisonMiller30]

@@ribottostudio yeah I'm wondering who lowered their standards enough to have sex with Palpatine and then not get a space abortion.

[@dogheart_ii9301]

"It's not a being a vampire since the Spanish flu, it's a sex dungeon" -AmandatheJedi, 2020

[@BellaMusical]

The popularity of Twilight and Fifty shades of grey has always made me feel like I don't understand my fellow females.

[@D0MiN0ChAn]

Same, girl, same!

[@eldenemerald7962]

iM nOt Like oTHeR GiRlS!

[@10101funday]

Woman are individuals, most don't even know twilight exists

[@pyraffin]

Eh, I know what it's like to be a fangirl so I can understand them, but understanding what it is like leads me to believe they're still 13 mentally so I still feel distant from them. Especially not being as massive of a fangirl I used to be.

[@10101funday]

@@pyraffin lmfao, I hope 13 year olds aren't into fifty shades.

[@jimthecactus7425]

My grandma swears that Fifty Shades of Grey is the best romance story she's ever read. I've been trying to read them again so I can point out all the reasons why it's horrible.

[@siljabogensberger2738]

Wait, your grandma??

[@skyhope5105]

Thats... erm... how is this possible? From where she grew such view? I have so many questions

[@blaisetelfer8499]

How did you not die of embarrassment when your grandmother of all people told you that?

[@kitirena_koneko]

Fact: Fifty Shades started out as a Twilight fanfic before being pulled off the web and rewritten as a standalone trilogy. I've heard rumor that E. L. James thinks that anyone into BDSM has mental issues. I can't confirm, partly because James demands that negative reviews of her work be taken down whenever she sees them, and has cut down people who have pointed out the fact that Christian Gray is a textbook abuser...

[@littlearies3862]

"Rewritten." Aka, names being changed.

[@kitirena_koneko]

@@littlearies3862 Yeah, pretty much. A few other things were tweaked, but it's still a piece of bad fanfic that somehow got picked up by a mainstream publisher, don't ask me how. Then again, I can't figure out how the Twilight saga got published either...

[@reynhacoezy5510]

Kitirena Koneko Straight white male . Who has problems ... That’s how .

[@kitirena_koneko]

@@reynhacoezy5510 I'm assuming you're referring to Christian Grey and not me?

[@anarchomando7707]

@@kitirena_koneko you know if you just make a few things from Fifty Shades of Grey You could have a legitimately good book series on how to get through abuse and when to recognize when your partner is being abusive and when to walk away

[@sokkvabekkr5973]

omg christian kinda looks like he could be joe from You's brother

[@sokkvabekkr5973]

@Black Ninja omg interesting.. someone should write that as a fanfic lol

[@zombieedrea]

Also I would love it if you reviewed the other two movies. The last one gets so ridiculous it's actually kind of hilarious.

[@robertolie6798]

CHARLIE TANGO, SHE'S A EUROCOPTER EC135

[@jamesa.meadow4711]

I mean, *at least* Twilight has some effort put into it

[@ravenclawesome9093]

I just love how, by saying that this was something to represent the BDSM community, the author of this shitshow was implying that the only reason someone would be into BDSM is because they're abusive and they need to be fixed.

[@AmandaTheJedi]

There are at least 3 immediate concerns with how all of that was being portrayed and I'm sure there's more

[@SuperSwimTeam7]

In the same way Twilight's popularity resulted in Anne Rice's Vampire Chronicle books getting rereleases, 50 Shades also resulted in her Sleeping Beauty trilogy getting re-released, even getting sold in Target. It's crazy how big of an impact Twilight had on media.

[@DunantheDefender]

Wow, that split screen shot at around 4:30 just really throws into sharp relief how horrendous the color palette for Twilight was...

[@CDReimer]

Never mind 200-year-old vampires hanging out in high schools. That and the books being poorly edit is why I never gotten into Twilight.

[@DeathGodRiku]

Not to mention the not-werewolf who was going to marry his friend's daughter and decided this when said daughter was a baby. I am NOT joking

[@CDReimer]

@@DeathGodRiku That doesn't surprise me. Pre-arranged marriages in some cultures are decided after a child is born. A child-bride promised to an adult groom isn't unusual.

[@CDReimer]

@J R Not surprisingly, there's more to it in the story. :)

[@DeathGodRiku]

@J R they're not even wolves

[@rileygabkcuf8798]

I tried reading Twilight but couldn't get through chapter 1 because of how atrocious the writing was. I can't believe that it was green-lighted by the editors in the state it was in.

[@Xehanort10]

I feel like EL James watched American Psycho once and missed both the point that Patrick Bateman's supposed to be a bad guy and that both the book and film were supposed to be a darkly comedic satire of greedy and selfish rich people in the 80's. She just saw a rich guy she found good looking and went from there.

[@siriuslyconfused1]

I thought I’d hit the end of the 50 Shades rants years ago, I’m so glad that isn’t true. I’m so here for this.

[@AllisonMiller30]

Isn't it funny that a book written by a Mormon inspired the biggest book porn in forever.

[@kaiwood7359]

Well it's a religious group they right the best as my nan puts it smut there horny teens at heart there Very aware of the irony

[@DaviniaHill]

And she only wrote it to attack Catholics.

[@allisonelizabeth6596]

@@kaiwood7359 ?

[@heath6802]

Guess all those years of repression have to get out somehow! Considering this book was written and published, I’m assuming she’s not with the church anymore? If she was, she was probably really criticized

[@anarchomando7707]

@@heath6802 I thought she was talking about Twilight inspiring Fifty Shades

[@visionary202]

THANK YOU! I am so tired of people thinking this abusive BS is romantic. Worse still, technically in the book he violates her. When a person in any BDSM/play scene uses the safe word, everything stops. The safeword is the genuine and ultimate no, but in the book he keeps going. It is such a horrible model of romance, but rather an intensely abusive situation. Thank you much for seeing it too! Additionally, I am so sorry you had to watch the movie

[@ScientificallyStupid]

When I heard that 50 Shades was Twilight fanfiction, I completely misunderstood and read it, waiting for Christian Grey to reveal that he was a vampire who ate people. I was terribly disappointed.

[@myrianrose3619]

Amanda: I'm talking about stuff in this movie, not what you personally like to do in the bedroom. Me: What, like, my xbox and stuff?

[@SilverSkitty]

Thank you for saying that part about how the relationship between Elena and Christian was grooming and sexual abuse. It made me sick the first time I read this when Ana marveled at how he was “seduced by an older woman” and only started calling Elena a pedophile after she became jealous of her. Also love that Invisible Man reference, absolutely yes!

[@jaebreslin2851]

I wanted Midnight Sun so bad, I will never forgive Stephenie Meyer for that 😭😂

[@AmandaTheJedi]

She really bitched out there

[@RosieSquall]

Yeaaaaahhhhh because there was SO much left unsaid from the creep's perspective...

[@Duhbella]

I have good news

[@God-jq4fu]

Daniella Hunt you should say that good news

[@ladyopossum]

@@God-jq4fu good news midnight sun is being released in a few months

[@arisakathedappergoose4796]

"what am I doing with my life) Dunno, but seems you are, indeed a masochist.

[@KrystineBrown]

Most of the instances you see of Anna being assertive and setting boundaries are the work of the director and one of the writers for the first film, both of which were fired to keep the author happy

[@AmandaTheJedi]

I heard that actually, I haven't read the book, just some overviews of how bad it is when handling the subject matter

[@TeonDeus]

they deserve to be fired for attempting to so drastically alter the mood and lessons of the story

[@EsotericOrderJ]

Yes talk about the other movies. I will never watch them this was entertaining.

[@damonconant5964]

Josh G I didn't see any of them either, but yeah she should cover the other two movies. I'm curious about them, but not enough to sit through them. Strange stuff..

[@bee7160]

“I dont make love, i fu-“

[@jackieelizabeth8614]

Worst line in any movie. Made me shiver in a bad way.

[@soapy4066]

@@jackieelizabeth8614 "Are you lost baby girl?"

[@manyerrors3719]

I almost had an asthma attack walking to the bathroom cause the massive line of people waiting for the 50 Shades screening wore so much deodorant/perfume

[@skyhope5105]

People still line up for the books these days?

[@manyerrors3719]

@@skyhope5105 I dunno, this was opening night of the Movie

[@yggdrasil3]

When I first heard the title I was like "Huh, didn't know Gandalf porn was a thing".

[@Xehanort10]

In a Gandalf porno you'd probably hear "You shall not cum" somewhere.

[@nessyness5447]

@@Xehanort10 omg XD the worst part is that i am sure that exists XD

[@Addy_boy_ab]

I loved how she reveals that 50 shades copied Twilight. Also Bella worked at a sport store too!!! 5:43

[@8TracksKellofMixtapes]

The fact that trash fire was birthed from a fan fiction makes me feel like it sorta gave fan fiction a bad rep... Because some fanfictions have been the best things ive ever read. Made me feel the most emotion out of things ive ever read... But... On that note, what is y'all's favorite fanfic..? (Anyone can answer) I'll start, while i cant really pin down my absolute favorite, one that comes to mind quite a bit was the fanfic, Chasing Thunderstorms. It was full of angst and just felt like a more dramatic teenage coming of age story... Sadly, the author has deleted the fic. Mostly for their own benefit... I think? But still, its one that sticks out to me.

[@yukikanegawa7470]

I read a fanfiction where one character was an author a while back. He was a poet and in the fanfiction the actual author included their own original poems and they were really good from what I remember. They had to take it down eventually because they got a publishing deal but it was really heartwarming. The other character was a teacher that was teaching a college class about literature and because the author never got their degree officially so they went to school for it. Turns out the teacher was a huge fan and teaches the author's poetry to the class. I'm not doing it justice but it's mainly about the teacher helping the author get through his insecurities about being an older person going to college and convincing him that you don't need to go through trauma to be a good author. He stopped writing and reading because he got really successful and other past traumas made him really scared of disappointing others and he didn't want to release something subpar. Over time they build a relationship though they don't get together until the author leaves the class. I'm probably really not doing this fic justice but it was really nice.

[@SirThinks2Much]

“Between the Dog and the Wolf,” easily. Les Miserables fanfic (based off the novel) where Javert survives and continues solving mysteries, and has to work together with a very surprised Valjean and it’s awkward. Incredibly well-researched, true to the characters, and written in the style in the novel that it could very well fit in as an official spinoff IMO.

[@emitheorbit1118]

I once read a Super Mario Bros. fanfiction called "Eternally Never Yours" and.. OMG, I didn't expect a story that good. And to make things more unexpected, the main pairing was gay. Actually, my favorite one is mine because I feel proud of what I'm writing, but it's in Spanish because I'm Mexican.

[@MsLilly200]

There was this one Harry Potter fic I LOVED back in the day, I think it was written like 2005? I read it(and the sequel) like 3 times i think. Dunno if it still holds up now that I'm older and have more reading experience but I remember it being _HILARIOUS,_ and also that the summary was kinda bad, I know I passed over it several times in peoples faves before actually checking it out. It's called Make a Wish and the author is Rorschach's Blot, it's on fanfic dot net. (I should re-read it again actually... See if it's still good, I think my last read was in like 2012 or something lol) For more recent fics, I think my current fave is Keeping Secrets by Elvensemi on ao3. It's a super slow burn Dragon Age Inquisition fic, with an OC main character who's super mysterious.

[@seongsangyerdam3488]

My current favourite fanfic is called 'The light that fails to dim' based on a Chinese drama and it's on ao3

[@amandeep87]

Rewatching this and hearing Amanda say, if it gets 2k likes and then looking at the likes always makes me chuckle.

[@LeePresson]

Jamie Dornan was 33 when he made started making these? He looks like a spoiled frat bro shouting "do you know who my father is?" to a district court judge.

[@Xehanort10]

Christian Grey as Draco Malfoy.

[@Bianca-iz5wk]

@@Xehanort10 Lmao

[@anarchomando7707]

@@Xehanort10 rule 34.5 If it exists there's most likely Harry Potter porn of it

[@lacielima3978]

Something that stands out (well as glaringly as everything is - this still is bad too) - Christian was seeing a therapist. In the books he was regularly visiting with a psychologist or counselor I can't remember (I really don't care to dive deep into investigating) but I do remember from when I was actually reading the books that he saw someone regularly and even went to a session with Ana. Which quite honestly seems worse and more horrifying that he was receiving psychological help and he was still ... himself.

[@meganhussey3456]

At the time of the movie's release, I made a meme of the movie poster, bearing a slogan that read, "Mr. Grey will see you now. For the love of God, run for your life."

[@Samantha0311]

Okay, lots of respect for what you said about guys being sexually abused. It's not a joke. They face abuse too, they should be protected and respected as well

[@elaineepcot4297]

In the last movie you really feel this was a fanfiction, the car chase scenes are so predictable...

[@fabiomoreira1506]

Also how is annie and expert racing driver???? She just is...

[@tretozo]

I knew a couple like this. He has to respond only with "yes madam" or "no madam". Eve in social situations. Even in front of his parents.

[@LMvonLebkuchen]

Consent is a big thing and that extends to bystanders. Doing that stuff in front of family makes them part of the kink when they didn't ask for it. :/

[@chaoticneutralcosplay1070]

Yes!! Thank you for covering this.

[@simonakatsman974]

My partner and I dabble in BDSM and this franchise ignores that after care IS SUPER IMPORTANT. So are safe words, clear boundaries and the ability to have separate lives outside the relationship.

[@thesolomonproject]

At least twilight had the he’s a superhero vampire who isn’t able to be superhuman towards this girl, thing that made the creepy behaviour less odd. In fifty shades he’s just an abusive neckbeard creep who thinks that acting that way makes them cool.

[@cooldragon1990]

Okay... that "are you gay?" is legitimately funny. Her "oh shit, I really asked that" double take is pretty funny!

[@XanthosAcanthus]

My wife made me watch this crap... she ended up sleeping on the couch.

[@skyhope5105]

XD

[@anunaskedforopinion]

Thank you Amanda 👏 It disgusts me when people act like young boys aren't affected by engaging in adult sexual behavior or being victims of molestation.

[@TheNamelessNarrator]

Only issue with this video: Fan fiction is a form of literature, I don't get why people shit on it. Just because there are poorly written fics out there doesn't mean that fan fiction in itself isn't 'real' literature and that it can't ever be well written or incredible on its own.

[@misspopcoin2204]

I've read some amazing fanfictions out there, that really deserve to get published & printed out into books. Fanfiction gets a bad wrap, because it's fanfictions like 50 shades & After, that somehow get published & get a movie adaptation.

[@xsanguine8]

Well the stereotype is that people are into broken love interests, guys want beautiful mostly brain dead women, and women want strong sort of emotionally unstable men. I guess romance is the idea of being someone's crutch.

[@frostyskeletons8950]

“If they need me, they’ll never leave” fantasy 😬

[@sarath431]

The movie secretary did a better portrayal of BDSM than this movie. Miss Amanda, I wish you would do videos on the other two movies of this trilogy too. If possible please do a video on secretary too.

[@baileybrian9560]

lol i was scrolling through the comments to see if anyone mentioned Secretary, i love that movie

[@badkitty2538]

I second this. At least Maggie’s character in that movie comes to the realization on her own that she would like to try BDSM, and his motivations for introducing her to it aren’t just for his own pleasures.

[@sarath431]

@@baileybrian9560 - I too love that movie

[@sarath431]

@@badkitty2538 - true. In secretary, Maggie Gyllenhaal own her own narrative. But Ana of 50 shades, she has zero personality. She is what Christian wants her to be, not what she wants to be

[@sarath431]

@Bow Legged - it is way better than 50 shades movies

[@thearem4035]

I knew that 50 shades was a twilight fanfic and when I started reading it I was waiting for the reveal that Christian is a vampire. I was reeeeeeeally disappointed when I found out that vampires are not a thing here…

[@yogawarriorgirl]

About Anastasia having a 4.0 but not thinking before she speaks: I also graduated top of my class, and I definitely put my foot in my mouth a lot, so academic smarts don't always translate to, ah, effective filters. Just throwing that out there.

[@JuMixBoox]

Thank you for reminding me that I actually watched this movie as a thirteen year old at a friend's house. I must have conveniently forgotten this.

[@uz7442]

The whole older/younger dynamic has EVERYTHING to do with vulnerability. At 20 I got into a regretful relationship with someone almost in their 50s and it was EVERYTHING to do with money and comfort held above me (I was in an abuse household and chose the latter as I thought it less abusive (it wasn't)) then later got into a relationship with someone just under 20 years older than me (he looked younger in my defense lol) and we've been basically a match made in heaven. Difference is in one relationship I felt guilty, horrible, and like a pice of crap, and it was my only way out. In the other it was my choice and it's something that never made me feel less than in any way, whereas the other relationship did. Age gape relationships always tread a fine line of advantage and normal and I feel a lot of people in everyday life neglect to agree with that.

[@barbarabaker1457]

@9:24 and "everybody run from these people!" 💖 I always felt this movie could have been good if it did end there, maybe with music to crank up the 'this is not OK' feel.

[@willowwoods-fx8lf]

This series is honestly horrifying. Just imagine a man you just met stalking you everywhere you went and manipulating you into becoming a human seggs toy. Like, this is literally a horror story plot.

[@runawayfreak]

"still yelling at their husbands for watching porn while simultaneously imaging a tored love affaire with Christian Grey.." that hit home hard.. an ex of mine was this kind of person, she loved the 50 shades of grey movies but porn in a relationship was sacrilege in her eyes XD

[@TheSlipperyNUwUdle]

Sometimes I think about the time I was in senior year of high school, grading papers for a ninth grade (14/15 year old kids) class and one of them pulls Fifty Shades out of her purse to read unashamedly in class. That shit was jarring.

[@kilibubblecata6266]

Omg your use of clips in this video is chef's kiss. The Anchorman one freaking slayed me lmao

[@KOWolf]

I saw that a few family members had the first book before I knew what it was about and I asked one of them what it was about. Thinking back on their really awkward and poor explanation of it, explains it all

[@AmandaTheJedi]

It's their fault for not having the books hidden away in shame like they should

[@KOWolf]

@@AmandaTheJedi it was on holiday too...

[@ArturGlass.C]

My mom had it and she only bought it because it was popular. She kept complaining about how bad it was and felt stupid for buying all the books at once. (tbf there was a sale) So there's hope they bought the book but weren't actually into it.

[@KOWolf]

@@ArturGlass.C I like your optimism hahaha

[@Elilovessugar]

the reason to why he chose most of his past girls , especially Ana, is mostly because they look like his mom . he mom left him and in the films he shows Ana how it effected him and how he couldn't bring himself to forgive his mom so when he punishes these girls by abusing them , cause he wishes he could do this to his mom .IT IS SUPER MESSED UP

[@3minutes374]

While rewatching this, I’m suddenly reminded of a kpop group that I LOVED whose comeback/cd theme was lowkey inspired by 50 Shades. I bought both versions of the album (by preorder) and the CD came with a fake slave contract. 😂

[@nettiehealy]

What band was it💀

[@coffin3050]

Bestie drop the band name

[@3minutes374]

@@coffin3050 say less. It was VIXX's Chained Up album. 10/10 do recommend

[@michellekromer7165]

I remember reading this book with 12 and by this time I didn't have any experience with a well working relationship or with man's who respected women's. So I thought that this is what a great relationship looked like. Now I am 16 and I just know that this isn't the right way to start a relationship. A relationship involves the freedom of both partners to do just things with each other especially at sex, what booth partners feel Okey with. A man should never be the boss of you in any part of your life. You are a free person who can do what she wants to do and what you need to do. A great relationship is one were you see eye to eye with each other and talk about decisions before they are made. This books gave such a defekt look of a healthy and good relationship especially when it comes to your feelings about things with the topic sex.

[@ihatemickiegee]

the difference between fifty shades and real world BDSM is: in the scene where you said he spanks her for rolling her eyes at the insane _manipulative_ gesture of buying her a new car, in an actual BDSM relationship it would have been an agreed-upon situational punishment or however the pair define it, that not only would the sub negotiate & agree to being punished (in this case spanked, etc) but more specifically they would agree to what specific situations in which they would approve of this happening. In other words, in the real BDSM world, Ana would have KNOWN that the reaction of rolling her eyes and having a less than grateful/excited reaponse would have been grounds for her to get punished, rather than having it sprung on her and having to take it because she agreed to it, when in reality they didn’t exactly agree to _that._ And it would have came down right with her LOVING or GAINING SOME TYPE OF PLEASURE FROM IT RATHER THAN MISERY (you should SEE the book’s version, it’s actually sad) BECAUSE BDSM IN THE REAL WORLD IS CENTERED SOLELY ON CONSENT NEGOTIATION AND PLEASURE. I know not everyone gets or can level with these notions, but with platform does come responsibility, and it’s a shame that the own author and even filmmakers didn’t strike some more noticeable boundary for the majority audience who had no idea where the line is drawn. Okay rant over love your videos would love reviews on the others cause bad movie n book reviews are hilarious when intelligent people do them byeee!!!!!!

[@undynetheundying5405]

9:42 instant subscribtion and like. This is the first time I saw your channel but girl, you smart

[@neonmaple5259]

THIS THANK YOU! The movie is a TERRIBLE representation of BDSM. I for the life of me would NEVER participate with someone with a troubling psychotic past into BDSM culture. I think the reason why this movie has gotten so much hype is because the barrier between ideal sexual relationships and kinky relationships was breaking at the time. I think a lot of women that were interested in this series had absolutely zero or minimal experience with BDSM, and seem to rather fetishize the thought of it because it was generally a "New thing" at the time. But regardless it sparked a toxic mentality of the culture and for that, it made it harder for people to maturely and safely experience BDSM.

[@bigskypioneer1898]

I actually was a little surprised to hear this was Twilight Fan Fiction, since Anne Rice (under a pen name A. N. Roquelaure) - the author of Interview with a Vampire -- wrote a books series about BDSM and the fairytale Sleeping Beauty. I thought this was just a modernization of those stories when I first heard about them. Funny that 50 Shades is still a vampire knock off, even though I didn't realize which one.