MY GIRL (1991) Extended Clip | Thomas J's Death and Funeral..He can't see without his glasses

[@gabbylopez9091]

The agony and denial you hear in this poor baby's voice kills my heart and it breaks every time. No child should have to go through losing their best friend.

[@steflondon88]

@R A R uhm no - pain is pain.

[@westaussie965]

It’s not real

[@k.e.n.l.e.i.g.h.always]

Maybe not this exact situation, but this happens to kids everyday.

[@kathrinekathrine]

Oh, I did when I was 9 I lost my childhood best friend and 29 years later I lost my best friend in the world. that pain never ever goes away.

[@kathrinekathrine]

@@steflondon88 Oh the pain of losing your two best friends 29 years apart never stops.

[@Bull1908]

Thomas J's parents hearts were broken not just due to losing their only child who was allergic to everything. BUT I think they were just as heartbroken for Vada to lose her best friend, who may have been Thomas J's only friend and cared for her too.

[@hectorlopez1069]

It hurts when you lose your best friend. Life is unfair to us.

[@sarahdring5156]

If you're allergic to everything he would be dead by now because the air

[@cindybrooks2786]

​@sarahdring5156 Are you seriously that cold hearted

[@kathrinekathrine]

I lost my best friend in 1993 when I was 9 and in 2022 I lost my best friend in the entire world

[@kathrinekathrine]

Whoa easy there dude why so cold. On your comment. You wouldn’t be dead there is medicine that prevents it. Like epipens.

[@Michael-jw6et]

She should have got an oscar nod for this movie. The funeral scene would be incredibly difficult to pull off for a seasoned actor, much less a newcomer that is a child.

[@ramoth777]

Agreed!

[@shelliehayes6622]

I just watched this the other day for the hundredth time

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

*HE CAN'T SEE WITHOUT HIS GLASSES!*

[@CeramicswithAnAutistic]

What bout Macaulay he was great as well

[@danieltown2471]

Doesn’t make u feel any less sad about it does it?

[@inhumanunion1223]

I was 7 years old in 91. This gutted me then. And I'm crying now

[@angelkitten27]

I also was 7 years old in 1991. And 33 years later this movie and the scenes really hits you hard

[@shanayabuckery3618]

​@@angelkitten27 yeah you is too im 33 too

[@Kruppt808]

Born in 83', this scene, Lion King Mufasa death at the movie theater and the Fox and the Hound/Milo and Otis got me hard. She was great in the series Hannibal and Veep.

[@th3yluvang3lzz]

gramps

[@toriagiro9519]

I was 3, but I saw this on vhs when I was 5 and it broke my damn heart so bad.

[@joaovitorrodrigues8743]

It's incredible how she managed to convey all the suffering the character was feeling.

[@briannastultz6924]

30 years later this scene breaks my heart and I’m bawling my eyes out.

[@yamiimax]

That acting makes me speechless

[@mircorizza5609]

Yeah, this scene is one of the most traumatic thing I've ever seen during my childhood. 30 years later I still call bees "fucking insects" and everytime I see this scene again I say "fucking bees, kill 'em all!"

[@sherinabrown8901]

Yep, brings me to tears everytime.

[@crystalchampion9617]

Me too

[@kathrinekathrine]

Try living it in real life

[@tylertilwick6852]

Everyone’s a badass until Vada asks “where’s his glasses?!”🥺😭💔

[@valmacclinchy]

"He can't see without his glasses" crushes me..

[@psymcdad8151]

@@valmacclinchy you are a strong one... I crack at "I will yell at him!"

[@tylertilwick6852]

@@psymcdad8151actually that’s pretty heartbreaking too, but honestly Dan Aykroyd's acting in that part is what sold it🥺 Dude’s a much better actor than people give him credit for!!

[@naimaboukhouf-fq9ws]

😢of of the saddest scene I seen So sad

[@jjhale5847]

@ronaldalexanderrolleston4361I hope your doing ok

[@nativeskin7819]

This entire scene tears me up now just as it did when I was a teenager. Veda lost her best friend. But I feel Shelly came into their lives at just the right time. She helped Harry fall in love again. But also made him realize that he should allow Veda to be a child without laying so many adult responsibilities on her. She also taught Veda about womanhood and that she truly loved her & cared for her. She came into their lives at just the right time.

[@jamedlock83]

Vada*

[@SarahColeman-mo2dw]

I know. I watched movie at 100 times. The death scene when was in a casket. I cry. Every time

[@deeds6193]

Every time I see Jamie Lee Curtis in any movie, I think of her as Shelly.

[@Bull1908]

I don't think Harry made Vada "grow up," or had her do any "adult responsibilities." BUT I do think either he ignored her and he was not paying attention to what was going on in her world. For Harry, as long as she was healthy and alive that was all that was important to him. He lived and died (no pun intended lol) by his funeral parlor business and threw all of his energy into it, semi-ignoring Vada and relying on his mother to take care of her but when she got alzheimer's and his brother Phil can all do so much. Shelley was a maternal figure she needed even though at first NOT wanted, and only wanted her to be a friend. But Shelley fell in love with Harry (obviously), cared for Vada and felt welcomed by Phil and I'm sure Grandmoo would have liked her if her mind was clear NOT suffering from Alzheimer's

[@Swenson1970]

In the movie's sequel, Vada's father and Shelley were married and had a baby boy, making Vada a half sister at age 14 or 15.

[@alanmorris7669]

Howard Zieff did a great job at capturing small town life in this movie. Whenever I watch this movie, I'm a kid again and I'm back in my small hometown of Salisbury, North Carolina.

[@Valkonnen]

It makes you think of the hundreds of Millions of children who died before having a chance at life. It makes you realize how lucky YOU are , no matter what circumstances you are in, to taste this beautiful world and all of it's wonders.

[@FactsandReelsForall]

Very true ❤

[@songoftheblackunicorn666]

Actually I grew up in the neighborhood Maddie Clifton was murdered in and everyone would have been better off if I had been killed instead of because she was wanted and needed by her family and I was an adoptee no one wanted.

[@stephaniesifuentes4905]

I almost lost my life when I was 14 months old. If god and all my family who loved me wasn’t praying for me I would have died as a baby and wouldn’t experience life.

[@minhngoctran1966]

RIP Thomas J Sennett

[@califaern3sto]

​@@songoftheblackunicorn666 dont say that! You've made it this far for a reason

[@lionlyons]

For me, the most tear-jerking part is when Veda tells the doctor "It hurts! It hurts so bad! Make it stop!"

[@carsilk2492]

I hate to be a moron but why did she do that? Was it just like sympathy pains or something?

[@lionlyons]

@@carsilk2492 Veda is a hypochondriac, she has been visiting the doctor for years for diseases/conditions that she THINKS she has. Now she is in genuine terrible pain and doesn’t understand that she’s not sick: it’s heartbreak.

[@carsilk2492]

@@lionlyons Oh that's right! Thanks, you just wrapped it up perfectly. I haven't seen this movie in over 20 years and I think it's probably gotten even better from what I remember...

[@ScottNapolitan]

Yes, that was heart-breaking, in fact, it became an iconic movie quote in my head for quite some time afterwards!

[@peachygal4153]

@@lionlyons Plys, her father was a funeral director/ mortician. Every time someone died, she would think she had their disease. even the poor guy with prostate cancer. Poor kid. It would be traumatic I would think to live in a funeral home. That big old mansion house, they lived on the top floor. The basement was where they prepared the bodies and the main floor used for viewing rooms and funerals. Godawful to live there. Especially for a child to see death like that nearly every day of her life. No wonder the poor kid had a complex.

[@GLING17]

This scene always makes me sob. One of my best friends named Tim died when we were both 16 years old in a snowmobile accident. He was decapitated. It was horrible and I went to the place where it happened and saw all the blood in the snow. Nobody even bothered to cover it up so I did while I was crying my eyes out, just like when Vada was upset because he wasn't wearing his glasses. This scene brings it all back and it still hurts all of these years later. Rest in peace, Tim. 😞

[@archangel47470]

So sorry to hear this.. you are loved and seen.

[@L0nerGiirlWikid]

I'm so so sorry you've had to go through that pain ❤😞

[@CalebSpellman]

Jesus that’s horrible I’m sorry for ur loss.

[@Matthew-w2h9r]

So sorry for your lost especially at a young age he will always be in our hearts God be with you

[@NayaraYaz]

My heart breaks just reading your words. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@shortii12341]

I still remember watching this scene and balling! "He can't see without his glasses." 😭😭😭

[@valmacclinchy]

That's the exact line that gets to me. Every time. 😭

[@thatrandomdogperson323]

I grew up watching brewstee films and in his video summer vacation it showed that scene but in a funny way so when my mom played my girl me and my sister started laughing while my mom was crying

[@alexisgonzales4651]

Why do I have spots but no retoke? GJ!

[@Guy-mx4fb]

As an adult i respect the film makers for making this decision and not giving us a happy ending but an ending that we will never forget and gets us thinking about life.

[@pennybenton5607]

No matter a story the loss of your child so real, so heartbreaking. God bless every parent who has suffered such.

[@cynthiasmith1020]

People who have never attended the funeral of a child just can’t understand how painfully heartbreaking it is. Not my own child but my cousin’s and I will never get the sound of the mother’s screams as they put her young daughter in the ground out of my head. I wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone.

[@maxpokebruh27]

This poor kid, she loses her best friend and the teacher she has a crush on has a fiancée. To her, it feels like her entire world was shattered in just a day. Anna Chlumsky really does a great job with this role and it breaks my heart seeing this part of the movie everytime.

[@judychang8760]

So if the teacher she has a crush on were NOT engaged, then it would be okay for a little girl to pursue him???? Sicko!

[@kevinmiller6380]

​@@judychang8760 She's young enough to be his daughter.

[@P1995.]

@@judychang8760Did you not go to school? Lots of girls and boys had crushes on their teachers, at least he’s not a pervert, most kids that age don’t even know what sex is

[@JamesParker1998]

@@P1995. Ignore them they are trolling.

[@JamesParker1998]

@Wills R Lutz Her comment does concern me. Since she is the only one who sees it this way, maybe she needs to be investigated. NO one else took the comment that way. Her mind is messed up.

[@xalvarez07]

I was a kid when this came out. It taught me a lot about life and death. Thank you.

[@dynamicdave2647]

I agree… this is one of the best movies to teach young ppl about life and death

[@xalvarez07]

@Dynamic Dave unfortunately I was going to need it, I come from a family where I wad born 15 years late, so I've had to watch lots of family pass on while I've been young. So this really set me up to bare a little bit better.

[@sunshinegirl4660]

It was so hard to watch this movie again, as an adult. My son lost his best friend when they were in 3rd grade 😢, very suddenly from a virus. He was with him earlier in the day, same day he died. I remember the bus driver telling me my son was laying on the seat, his head where his friend used to sit next to him, crying to himself in silence. He refused to let any other kids sit with him. And when he would get sick with a typical virus himself, he thought he was going to die so I would sleep with him on the couch. He was somewhat of a hypochondriac growing up not only because of the sudden loss, but because the day his friend died the boy was complaining to my son about cramping in his hands. He replayed that day so many times thinking he could have saved him somehow. The boys fingers were stuck / cramped but they still did their secret handshake before departing that day not knowing it was their last moment together. The school counselor helped my son a little, but looking back I wish I could have done more for him.

[@kristenfuller9168]

I'm sorry I really hope your son is doing okay how is he doing? I lost my friend this year 😢 he had health issues he was 31 he was almost turning 32. He died just a few days after New year's Day. 4th of Jan. I found out on his birthday that he passed away 😢 I had a broken heart syndrome. I couldn't breathe when I was crying. And I feel like I have that too cuz I sometimes worry about being sick or having cancer. When I really don't.

[@illflyaway38]

I'm so sorry! I wish I could give him a hug! I hope your son is doing well now. God bless you both!

[@dannyandpamela3441]

Im.sorry

[@Mattblaze1477]

My Girl is a great example of a perfect 90's movie. Its just a wonderful film imo. I was 10 when this came out (Perfect age to relate to Thomas J and Vada) and I still remember this being the 1st movie I liked enough to see more than once at the theatre. Vada also was my 1st crush. This movie had a huge impact on me.

[@ultrajd]

Harry telling Vada what happened was done so well. As a parent, Telling your child that a close friend or family member has died is one of the hardest things to do.

[@lunamora8799]

When Harry is telling Vada what happened, that whole scene absolutely rips my heart every time.

[@tylertilwick6852]

Dan Aykroyd and Anna Chlumsky NAILED this scene!!

[@selinaogorman8380]

Powerful scene oh they did so great in this scene indeed breaks my heart😢💔every single time amazing by Anna and Dan!

[@afriendofbean]

@Luna Mora I agree, and instead of Thomas J. dying, it would have been best if Vada's grandmother Gramoo was the one who passed away especially since she didn't feel like too much of a main character on the film and she was mostly a troublemaker.

[@james1787]

Yup, that scene gets me as well. Last year we had to tell our two girls their aunt passed away (my wife's sister died suddenly in her sleep).

[@YTWarrior100]

And him not directly saying Thomas J died and Vada realizing what happened kind of makes it more heart wrenching.

[@kathrinekathrine]

This Part always gets me. when I was 9 my dad had to tell me my best friend had passed away. 3:28 to 3:45 so I can totally relate to Vada. it took me a lot of courage to go to my friend and say my final goodbye and then 29 years later my best friend in the world passed away and one of his support workers told me he had passed away. and at his funeral, it took me a lot of courage to walk up to him and say my final goodbye.

[@RaySchwarz.]

Wow. I am so sorry for each one of your losses. At times when it seems like you don't feel you have the courage to do certain things just remember the courage you had when you had to attend these two funerals.

[@kathrinekathrine]

@@RaySchwarz. AW aw aw thank you so very much.

[@selinaogorman8380]

Am sorry very sorry this happened to you ❤️🙏🏻this happened to me as well death never easy it hits so hard we can relate to Vada big time!😢

[@kathrinekathrine]

@@selinaogorman8380 Aw aw Thank You. I am so sorry it happened to you too. yep, we can relate to Vada.

[@nickmorris5161]

I am so very sorry for both your losses. May they both rest in peace

[@xxhorror13]

I lose it every time shes says "put on his glasses" Its so heartbreaking 😭😭😭😭

[@thomasgriffin2326]

Lol

[@alexisgonzales4651]

Ugh room switch again?;

[@kett7761]

3:41 you can see the pain in her eyes when she hears the news, and that’s what really tears me apart

[@rodneythenewsgeek9426]

You know you’re a kick ass actress when you make the old people cry 6:30

[@hectorlopez1069]

This is one of the saddest deaths in movie history. You get tears in your eyes when he dies.

[@juancatalan9132]

Doesn’t compare to my dogs but your right it’s not cool what happened to him,It’s the worst part about life but one day we'll get our friends back

[@donataivancoviene2804]

She not die bruh

[@donataivancoviene2804]

This not real

[@nyangtiempo7434]

Watch Bridge to Terrabithia

[@boughtbythecross]

This and Sally Field at Shelby's funeral in Steel Magnolias 💔 😭

[@broganhogan3469]

2:04 Dan Akroyd does an incredible job portraying this moment… you can see the bewilderment and the life sucked out of him hearing the news. I cried watching this as a kid and I cry as a grown man now

[@dalenjurgens6751]

Me, too. Brilliant movie.

[@MrXabungle]

His acting can be something sometimes but I always forgot how much range he has, as well as being an Oscar nominee.

[@boltzmannbrain6607]

You are so weak. Who cries at some stupid movie 😂🤦‍♂️

[@whisper1421]

I'm half a century old, have been on battlefields, was in law enforcement, was a fire fighter and First Responder, have seen many things tragic and beautiful, but I've never been able to watch these parts of this movie without tearing up 😢 The writing and acting in this was so well done and so realistic that it just hits you down to your soul.

[@TheAlphaDingo]

fake and possibly gay

[@humantacos9800]

Same. It’s because it’s kids.

[@Samanyamanushya]

😂😂😂

[@merylpye246]

Chlumsky was a big crush of mine as a kid. She was around my age too which was a plus. She had such a great smile back then.

[@joaovitorrodrigues8743]

You can't blame her completely, as no one is forced to respond to someone, but the sadness over his death is something that leaves me distressed every time I watch it. 😢

[@Aurorawwweerrrtt]

I’m jjiuhgyu

[@sazparker8849]

This whole scene has me in bits everytime 🥺😢 "he's okay isn't he? There were just too many of them" "where are his glasses? he can't see without his glasses. Put his glasses on" 💔 It was so heartbreaking for this special friendship to end after such a significant moment but such a sweet goodbye "vayda will you think of me. If you can't marry Mr Bixsler"

[@selinaogorman8380]

True friendship they have it’s so heartbreaking that Thomas J. passed away that really affected her until someone you love and spend so much time together it hits you so I relate to her.😢

[@sarahprice659]

I am annoyed 🤨. I have not seen this in a very long time, but here’s the thing- if you are allergic to wasps/hornets etc. you are hyper-aware of the sound they make. And kicking the nest?! Kid was smarter than that.

[@kristinroelofson4152]

The saddest part about Thomas J. asking, “Will you think of me….?” is that it never got to happen. 😢😢 Also, assuming that Thomas J. went to the woods to find Vada’s ring immediately after asking if she would consider him if she couldn’t marry Mr. Bixler, Vada would have been the last person he saw before he died. So many details, large and small, made this movie a tear-jerker.

[@kevinmiller6380]

@@kristinroelofson4152 Sounds to me like Thomas J. would have been open to marrying Vada; they were such close/good friends.

[@kristinroelofson4152]

@@kevinmiller6380 Oh absolutely!! That’s probably why he asked Vada if she would think of him (if she couldn’t marry Mr. Bixler). Thomas J. & Vada may have only been 11, but he was the best example of unconditional love to her. It would not surprise me if Thomas J. envisioned his friendship with Vada blossoming into a romance, and the two of them marrying one day.

[@Wrathlon]

She really did some heavy lifting with her acting for such a young age.

[@fixedit8689]

One of the most heart breaking scenes in a movie ever😢. The girl deserves an Oscar

[@AT-zl6dk]

My Girl & Steel Magnolias I cry like a baby every time. Top tier actors but it’s so real and relatable. 😢😣

[@dj_instruments937]

Losin Isiah gets me too every time

[@alexisgonzales4651]

All my friends and batchies - tinashe

[@Cakes01]

On one of my rewatches I cried as soon as I saw her feeding the fish because it’s something so simple and so sweet to be taking care of her pet and her dad has to come in and know that he’s about to change her world and break her heart

[@Jck9102]

It was so realistic. Really showed the true reaction of grief.

[@traydaniel0403]

I really hate they kill off Thomas J like that. They shouldn’t have done that.

[@charlieandthechocfactrules9186]

Then the story wouldn't have had such a deep impact

[@isaiahwasabi1381]

He should've just stayed "home alone" 😔

[@tylerjames7015]

Why ?

[@isaiahwasabi1381]

@@tylerjames7015 why what?

[@jasonervoes1326]

Tray Daniel I agree with you. These film producers and director are all alike they don't even know what's going on my goodness.

[@fionarhiannonpitbullextrao5786]

After one of my best friends died when I was 22 and he was almost 27 from a rare form of cancer, I have NEVER been able to bring myself to watch this movie again because of these scenes. I was reacting so, so similarly to Veda. I knew he was gone but I just couldn't stop the crying, and the viewing was also the hardest part in my case, just like for Veda. I also lost another best friend to a shooting at w club, he was one of the bouncers. Didn't fully hit me until the memorial service, and I was a complete wreck. With my friend who died of cancer, we all knew it was coming. With my bouncer friend, it was so unexpected and sudden.I doubt I will ever watch this movie again.... Too big of a reminder of too many painful memories...

[@sce2aux464]

I have to say that the silent acting between the cop and Dan Ackroyd was brilliant.

[@MsUnderstood23]

Its not silent..... he actually tells him that they found Thomas J... I heard it while watching with headphones

[@Bugeye928]

​@@MsUnderstood23thats not what he meant.

[@stevenrodriguez1394]

@@MsUnderstood23it’s silent because even if you were to watch the clip with no audio and no context you can still tell what the conversation was about. Receiving terrible news.

[@Hackensack125]

I heard the same thing especially the part where Thomas was killed and stepped in a beehive i knew it ever since watching that scene where the sherif tells Harry what happened to Thomas. ​@@MsUnderstood23

[@Hackensack125]

​@@stevenrodriguez1394I definitely heard similar terrible news like that but after watching that I always ever since watching the movie how can anyone dile from bee stings mean it's not that the bees attacked his insides it was just his face that was stunged

[@albertvillalpando28]

Still one of the hardest Cinema movie scenes to watch 🥺

[@eugeneanchante1011]

I was 11 years old I know how it is to lose a friend like that at a young age still breaks my heart after 33 years

[@emilypetsche1]

“There were just too many of them” 😭💔

[@josephhodges9819]

32 years later and it still brings tears to my eyes.

[@hectorlopez1069]

It even does today in 2024.

[@rinarippchen8406]

I saw this movie with my sister when I was a child... The funeral scene will always be in my mind... So heartbreaking!

[@MikaylaPerez-s9s]

There were just too many of them 😢❤

[@marvinclay4476]

I lost my best friend 13 years ago. They say time heals all wounds. This scene is a reminder to me that it doesnt. 😢

[@marvinclay4476]

@@kathleenmaclachlan1541 thank you. I really appreciate that.

[@AsydandAbsynth]

I lost my brother ten years ago. It still hurts. It'll never stop hurting. My heart goes out to you.

[@MarvinClay-ck7zj]

I appreciate that. Bless you.​@@AsydandAbsynth

[@greyhairedphantom4038]

It never heals. You just learn to live with the wound that lasts the rest of your life

[@MarvinClay-ck7zj]

@greyhairedphantom4038 I do think about him everyday. A piece of me died with him now 14 years ago.

[@mskully]

This and Stand By Me 😭 they get me every time!

[@lizadivine3785]

Did she get an academy award? She should have. This little girl brought it.

[@law99channel]

*From the very beginning it was evident from shy eyes of Thomas J.. what he felt about Vada*

[@roxy20220]

I lost my friend around the same age as Vada, this movie always brings me to tears when I watch it.

[@suzannev334]

This is one of my favourite movies since I was a little girl. My parents taped it when it was on television. I would watch it all the time when I got home from school

[@dirk8449]

Such a Sad ending but I admire how this movie made you really think about life and realizing everything wasn't all rainbows and flowers and sunshine.

[@Leanne-of6fb]

This scene always makes me cry, it’s just so sad to see her best friend go so young.

[@afriendofbean]

@Leanne0531 That's true. I was very sad too but, I guess in some ways, it was Thomas J.'s fault that he died since he kicked the beehive being unknown why he did it whether it was because he wanted to see if the mood ring was under it, or he kicked it to see if the bees were in there, or if he was just bullying them since he came up with the idea to knock the beehive off the tree branch. However, between Thomas J. and Vada's grandmother Gramoo, it should have been Gramoo being the one who passed away instead for one thing, she was very old who had Alzheimer's Disease and she was mostly a troublemaker on the film.

[@philiphatfield5666]

Well, it happens. Go visit your local cemetery and you will find people of all ages buried there----even babies.

[@elephantdanceparty7917]

@afriendofbean She died before the sequel

[@janderson9477]

@@afriendofbeannot really where were the parents and he didn’t know it was his time just sad what they could’ve been because the last thing they said to each other it’s sad and having a parent explain to her or try too..

[@afriendofbean]

@@janderson9477 I know, Thomas J. didn't know that he was going to die from the bees especially since the minister said at the funeral, "one thing that bothers me is why did God choose to take this boy from us but God has chosen Thomas J. for a good reason." The last thing that was known was that Thomas J.'s mom asked Thomas J. if he made his bed before allowing Thomas J. go out and play with Vada.

[@861-k1t]

I lost my best friend on his 25th birthday. It took my heart and soul . Months and years passed I still visit him from time to time. My last words are always. I miss you.

[@joemartinezjr828]

When i was a kid i cried my eyes out watching this movie. Nothing has changed. Im 41 now.

[@Laufield]

When he in heaven, he can see everything without glasses

[@titansrule72]

this is one of the saddest moments in film history. extremely hard to sit through without crying for sure.

[@kat.5927]

I remember watching this movie when I was 10 and had just moved far away from home where my best friend in the whole world lived. He was a boy I had known my whole life because our parents were friends, we grew up together and were inseparable. It was also that first puppy love, and losing him ripped my heart out. This scene in the movie really hurt. We stayed in touch during many years through letters and later sms, emails, but eventually went our separate ways and each got married. Although I love my husband, I feel a part of me died when I moved away because I lost my one true soulmate.

[@kenyaholloway-reliford8213]

I just watched this movie for the first time. I love that the movie's theme of dealing with loss and change comes full circle. From the girl using the song to cope with seeing a dead body, to blaming herself for her mother's death at childbirth, to being unable to accept her father getting remarried, to even the little moment when she's afraid to lose the fish she got at the carnival and not wanting to replace him. It all culminates with the loss her friend, and her finally accepting her new family. I also think of her becoming friends with one of the girls who taunted her (and upon rewatch, you notice she was the girl who was straddling behind the other bullies), was a nice touch. I think this might be a contender for one of my favorite movies.

[@lisaboling5336]

this scene NEVER stops hurting......

[@huzidamasta]

Such a bold movie, especially at the time. It's like it's specifically designed to be upsetting and that hadn't really been explored that much in mainstream media at that point in time. Scary, yes. Disturbing, yes. Upsetting moments in movies, yes, but not like this. This part of the movie IS the movie. It's all anyone thinks about when they hear the name. So I take my hat off to the writers for being so gutsy. Like it or not, it's brave.

[@janderson9477]

Sadly no matter how much you try you can’t shield people from death even at a young age life is going to come and this scene is so sad…

[@selinaogorman8380]

Can’t we just applaud Anna for nailing this amazing performance wow and I felt so bad for her made me cry losing her best friend I believe there was some love between them as well still it’s so heartbreaking when you lose someone broke my heart 😢am glad Shelly also came both in Vada and her dads life as well one of my all top favorite movies!

[@DavidSmith-wd7bp]

The relationship they had that was lost so suddenly was such a tragedy it makes tears well in my eyes

[@BassPlyr23]

My sister lost her best friend at age 10 to an arson fire. This movie reminded me of her sorrow and horror that her friend had been so brutally taken. Nearly 60 years later, she has great difficulty talking about it.

[@rileybear836]

His little smile when she says “I guess”. Ugh. He was so happy

[@transitionlady]

I don’t care how tough a man is this scene will make him cry!

[@alexandrianicolemoses7869]

Tell me about it. I started tearing up to but I like seeing a Strong, Grown Man cry over something other than a football game. Shows he’s not afraid to be vulnerable and allow himself to open up.

[@transitionlady]

Ha Ha! so true…..😀

[@benjaminA.stantonpun]

Holy cow! I am not a man. Movies do not make me cry. They never did. Only music, alone, with no movie has ever made me cry. 🤔

[@Mary-h1k]

This is one of the most saddest endings in a film ever. What a phenomenal performance!

[@bigrivtodagled8210]

I just watched it again… 32 years later and being 45, I still cry, everytime😢.

[@piscesempress1978]

same here

[@themmefatale]

This scene hits so much harder as a parent. I remember watching this when I was a child and being so sad for vada but as a parent, I feel for Thomas J's parents as well.

[@oliviab8425]

Her only friend. Not only did she have to endure her first loves death and her supposed first love breaking her heart but, she also had to endure that Thomas j was being worked on in her own house and his funeral was in her house also.. she was so young

[@alexiscox2766]

I can never look at the Thomas J funeral scene without tissue. Also, Vada won the stepmom lottery with Shelly. That woman really cared about her.

[@juanitamorgan5475]

I haven't seen this movie in a long while and I couldn't even look at the scene where Thomas got stung by all of those bees I literally had to skip it

[@Dana-wq5tp]

I cried like a baby the first time I watched this scene. Anna was such a talented child actor. And adorable. Perfectly cast.

[@buggy9006]

Anna and Malcualy were great in the movie and it seemed that they were such close friends that Anna's Vada could feel Thomas' suffering.

[@oluwashinafeyi-akinribide7616]

She nailed this scene when her dad told her about her friend... She nailed it 100%

[@2riverageo]

I cant evwr make it through this without breaking down........suberb scene, and very touching

[@emanuellawton7942]

This must have disturbed a lot of kids seeing him die in the movie. Macaulay Culkin was a big star back then just coming off the success of "Home Alone".

[@Michael-jw6et]

When this movie came out, I was reading the reviews of it, and every movie critic said that if you take your kids to see this movie, they needed to be forewarned that Thomas dies in the movie

[@GetaTudor-xi4ue]

Evelyn

[@joink25]

Disturbed me. I too saw it in theaters because of Home Alone.

[@MrXabungle]

The Good Son from 1993 was when he played against type.

[@emanuellawton7942]

@@MrXabungle Yes, at the insistence his father.

[@mrsheatherteske]

I remember seeing this as a kid and cried so hard! In my opinion, this movie has really held up well. Still a classic

[@andrewfowler8558]

I’ve only seen one younger person in a coffin, a friend of my daughters’. There’s no words. Just take care of each other. Look out for friends and family. And try to love each other no matter what.

[@mountainman5173]

Powerful performance by Anna. And at such a young age. This movie destroyed me when it came out and I've never watched it since. Great movie, but this old hard heart couldn't survive watching it again.

[@nicolebrown5921]

This just brakes my heart to see Vada's best friend Thomas Jay . Passing away from getting stung by bees. My mom passed away last year just 10 days before Christmas. My mom had ALS it was very hard for my stepfather and I. To see my mom suffering like that. God saw her crying so God called my mom home. My stepfather and I are getting counseling. To help with our griving. RIP Thomas Jay ☹️😭

[@jerricablackcat4303]

This and the Weeping Willow poem at the end always makes me cry 💔

[@captainf9104]

This is one of those scenes that dehydrates you from crying.

[@mariaansnyman5056]

Most beautiful innocent love story of all. The funeral scene still breaks my heart. It is raw emotion to the core and extremely convincing.

[@princesslookie]

My parents showed this to me when I was really little and I was traumatized.... This movie scared me and it hurts my soul today...

[@WhiskeyNTea]

In 1991, I had a best friend. His name was Christopher. I can not remember his last name. We went to grammar school in Hyde Park, Chicago. During our outdoor recess, he fell and hit his head on the ice. All of the kids went back in he put his head down on his desk and ended up passing away.

[@ryrydaboss3152]

That’s so sad. I’m sorry to hear that, may Christopher rest in peace 🙏

[@Simulacra719]

First time I ever cried in the cinema aged 12. This scene hits every time 😭 Anna Chlumsky was brilliant.

[@KathrynHolden-rb9bl]

Very true &very 😔

[@tsitracommunications2884]

and a crybaby

[@Weekend658]

Time is amazing really. You would have never guessed how many of our top actors and actresses came from this one film. This is a very rare occasion and quite wonderful to remember

[@darrylwoodbury]

I cried during this scene when the movie was in theaters. It still tears me apart.

[@cestall1]

I'm 51 and still tearing up watching this just like when it was in the theater.

[@Wholeheart76]

It was 1970. I’m so thankful now we now have Epi pens and education to prevent fatally allergic reactions in many cases. Saddest part of the movie. I still cry and it’s been 30 years.

[@darealistmynizzle3421]

I was thinking that same thing

[@tommarsee6319]

Veda's little heart was so crushed when Thomas J died the way be did and then became even more heartbroken when her favorite teacher announced that he was getting married because Veda was too young to understand that there were boundaries between teachers & students. By the way, that was a paper nest so those were white faced hornets that came after Thomas J. I wonder if any of the adult cast members from Home Alone 1 and 2 have seen this movie.

[@jessicahanson6105]

This movie always made me cry as a kid

[@treatwomenright33]

if you watched it now would you still cry. Lol I did.

[@jessicahanson6105]

@@treatwomenright33 probably my hormones are out of wack and I’d probably cry like a baby. 🤣

[@heidibajraktari5481]

Makes me bawl my eyes out and think of my brother who passed away at 14 in an accident, and what he would’ve achieved and been if he was still alive… 😢

[@C00lGuyWithHats]

❤️

[@CaLypSO4456]

“Wanna go tree climbing Thomas J.?” Makes me bawl every time idk why 😭

[@DrMurdercock]

I will never forget being like 7-8 years old and this movie made me cry. This film taught me the power a movie can have.

[@josephhensley3634]

In the Super Extended Cut. Marv and Harry set that bee hive for Thomas J. While getting stung you can hear Harry behind that bush whispering "keep the change you filthy animal" Brutal Stuff man!!!

[@DeadRaymanWalking]

Even years before this film came out, I had a fear of bees. And I *STILL* do to this very day. Every time this scene comes on, I have to take the brace position (cover my face, close my eyes, look away from the TV screen, etc.). Hell, I remember when Animal Planet was showing a documentary of Asian Giant Hornets back in 2020, I noticed what they were talking about, and I could hear Zangief from the 1994 Street Fighter film saying, "QUICK! Change the channel!" in my head. And that I did.

[@ellynsymmonds3356]

I am the same way, I’ve been terrified of bees, wasps, since I was a kid, still am

[@jonjahr3403]

I do largely because I nearly ended up like Thomas J. I once mowed over a hornet nest (I couldn't see it because it was an in-ground nest) I was lucky that a neighbor of mine was outside and rescued me when he did.

[@DeadRaymanWalking]

​@@jonjahr3403 Are you allergic to bee stings? I've been stung three times by a bee (possibly a wasp), and haven't had an allergic reaction whatsoever. However, I am allergic to amoxicillin, which is an antibiotic. No anaphylaxis, I had broke out in hives. Oh, and I'm assuming that "hornet nest" you mowed over was actually a yellow jacket's nest. I have read (in a cautious way) that those bad boys nest in the f00kin ground.

[@jonjahr3403]

@@DeadRaymanWalking Don't know, never been stung by a bee. However, the neighbor who rescued me said they were hornets and got a good look at them, and their in-ground nest. I eventually saw the nest myself after he killed them. And the doctor said it could well have killed me.

[@DeadRaymanWalking]

@@jonjahr3403 You were lucky. I've been stung three times throughout my life, and haven't had an allergic reaction.

[@Rymar101]

Vada losing her best friend so young is so heartbreaking. You know, Thomas J's parents could have said to Vada "He loved you you know. You know Thomas J never had much luck making friends. He said that if it wasn't for you. Vada you're the best friend he's ever had and we wanna thank you for that"

[@stuartharris8754]

Thomas J's mom did talk to Vada later in the movie. She gave her the ring he had in his pocket when he died when he went back for it. She also told her that she was such a good friend to him.

[@shanayabuckery3618]

Exactly I understand that she Lost Thomas j rest in peace

[@valentinogal781]

Damn!! I can never get through this scene without crying. 😭😭 That was bold putting a child in a coffin. It was harsh..

[@selinaogorman8380]

Absolutely it tragic I been through this exactly like her I saw my passed away aunt way long ago it was so heartbreaking to me at that time I can relate to her so indeed no child ever should see this definitely out of respect keep the lid closed!😢

[@valentinogal781]

@Selina OGorman I know.. I lost my childhood friend to a car accident. He was 6 and his lil sister was 3. They were on their way to Sunday School in our small town full of snow. They tried to break, but the snow was slippy, and they drove directly into the train crossing. My family and I drove pass the accident and saw a horrific sight. I feel you. I am so sorry you went through that.

[@taylorperry1790]

​@@valentinogal781 I am so sorry for your loss. Life might not be easy to deal with when you lose your best friend or even a member of your family but I know you can make it through

[@valentinogal781]

@Taylor Perry Likewise.. I am sorry for your loss, too. I actually got to see the gruesome aftermath as we were driving by. It was traumatic. You got to see an open casket a such a small age. Someone should of explained death and explained that it was only to say your good byes by seeing that person for the last time.

[@richa.s9912]

What a that actor playing the dead boy had to get in the coffin ⚰️ and playing dead ? That part would creep me out.

[@chuckHart70]

This is one of the last movies I ever saw with my dad. We thought we were going to see this fun movie about childhood and turned into this deep look into losing someone close. Ironically he passed suddenly not that long after. It's a great movie

[@rileybear836]

I don’t think it ever gets said at all that Mr. Bixler handled her crush the best way he possibly could and tried to let her down as gently as he could. He was a great teacher