FINDING THE BEST FILIPINA PARTNER - Where To Look And HOW To Look!

#thephilippines #datingafilipina @TheFilipinaPea
Finding the best Filipina partner can seem like an impossible task, but if you know how to look, and where to look, then get ready for a reward that will change your life forever! Foreign men sometimes fail in their quest, but it's often because they use the wrong strategy - by doing things backwards! Finding the best Filipina partner not only requires knowing what to do, it requires knowing what NOT to do!
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[@TheFilipinaPea]

👉My videos and the effort I put into them are 100% free for everyone to enjoy, and all I ask is that you leave a thumbs-up on any videos that you like and subscribe to my channel - I have never, and will never, ask you for anything else. For those of you that still wish to support my channel further, however, I’ve posted my links below. Thanks! 👉 Support through PayPal: www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=GC9T7PMLZ3BDW&source=url 👉 Patreon: www.patreon.com/thefilipinapea Join this channel to get access to perks: kzbin.info/door/rm4tEQqTrUP3MwB2G1mjHwjoin 👍🎬SUBCRIBE TO: kzbin.info Follow me on Instagram: 📸📸the_filipinapea 📸📸filipinapea TikTok Account: 🎶TheFilipinaPea

[@gordonkistler916]

find them feel them fuck them and forget them!

[@gordonkistler916]

me and my arrow, straight and narrow fucking all over the world!

[@The-Cat]

How to catch a Filipina Step 1: Go to a mall in the Philippines Step 2: Purchase a poke ball Step 3: Throw the poke ball Step 4: Point and yell at the poke ball "FOREIGNER WANTS MARRIAGE AND BABY IF YOU CAN CATCH THAT BALL!!!!!!" Step 5: stand back and watch women of all ages run towards the ball, even the women who didn't hear or understand what was said also just doing with the quicker ones are doing. Trust me guys, this worked for me... and then I woke up. Aaaaahhh what a dream.

[@dariusslade4953]

We'll see Ms Pea! 😂

[@49525Bob]

@1:31 Logical, Rational, Smart, Beautiful, and Sexy. Pea you're the Unicorn we men didn't believe exists.

[@Chrono826]

"Don't try to fit into her life. Find a woman who will fit her life into yours." That is spot on! Thank you Pea!

[@TheMostNinjaMike]

I can hear the genocidal feminist rage at this concept in the west... but it's true... a woman should fit her life to a man's not the other way around. Nature.

[@niallk9336]

The problem with this is that you don't want to bring her back. If you're going to do this, you need to live there - and that means integrating with her family to some extent.

[@pvm1974]

Thats not spot on...its one sided that cater on the advantage of a foreigner. Filipina are not second class human being that must always conform with other human being.

[@pvm1974]

We are not on the era of colonialism anymore...filipinos are not subservient to other nationalities...bear that in mind.

[@Chrono826]

@@pvm1974 You don't think that the Filipina isn't being taken care of by the foreigner? You don't have to cater to a foreigner, but he doesn't have to invest in you either. Why do you assume that the Filipina is 2nd class and is forced to conform? It's a voluntary cooperation.

[@joekahno]

Everyone marries a stranger. The best dating can do is give you a chance to look for major deal breakers. Fortunately, most guys aren't that demanding. A full belly, a little respect, a place of refuge and we can ignore a lot of imperfections.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wise words from Whiskey Joe 🤣👍

[@waywardson1663]

Very true! I find that we tend to zero in on the things that we like about women despite their faults, while women focus on (and sometimes cannot get over) our imperfections.

[@huetuber1204]

Ummm... good sex should be in there too.

[@dustbusterz]

Wrong. Asking The Right Questions and Paying Attention to his/ Her Actions While You're Together Can Really Fill In The Blank Soaces. That is What Dating is. Discovery. It's Like Class online You Don't Go to Predefined Spaces like School Buildings. You 2 Together Chose The Location For This Class. Too Many People Spend So Much Effort and Time Having Fun, You Never Take The Time to Learn About The Person You're Dating. Slow Down, Take Your Time ,Interview Family, Friends, Neighbors, And If Possible, Past Lovers. These Are The People She/ He Has Spent Most of Their Time With, Therefore Know Them Best. Ask Them 1 Million Questions, Then Ask A Million More Because Dating Isn't A Game, It's Serious and Should Be Treated That Way. By The Time You're Ready to Pop That Question they Should No Longer Be A Stranger. You Should Know Them As Well As , Or Even Better Than You Know Yourself.

[@godfreyschuller2925]

By the time you done you inquiries, can you imagine the resentment created.. Think about it, how would it make you feel if she had to interigate your family, friends and exs about you.. My view is any relationship starts with a decision. Depending the kind of relationship defines the kind of decision. A loving relations starts with a decision to love the other party and visa versa. Then you put into place a infrastructure consisting of rules and boundaries and build on that.. Most people was raised by parents that themselves didn't know if what they were doing was correct.. So if someone was in a toxic relationship before and not acting the way that you now want you now based on your inquiry cancel this person.. My view is that if you know what you want and need, show leadership, your women will follow rather than wanting to make yourself look all mighty and her all small.. Think about it

[@SantaRosaSteve]

You are so right Pea. I met my wife on Filipina Heart in December 2009. I watched for the signs. She told me her parents died when she was 2 years old but she had four sisters and one brother. So I knew the commitment. She told me she had a son from a one night stand with a Filipino guy. James is amazing he doesn’t live with us but we support him. My wife’s choice not mine. December to January through Christmas she didn’t have a dying relative and never asked for money. I asked her to meet me in Hong Kong in February 2010 and she said are you crazy I cannot afford a flight! I paid for the flight and found it hilarious she thought she had to pay!! She never asked for anything during the week we spent together. Skip to 2023 we have three daughters age 12, 8 and going 2. Jen still never asks for anything for herself. I just bought her an iPhone 14 Pro just to say thank you for being you. Filipina are the best ever wives if you get it right.

[@jimmorrison3878]

Well said my friend. I have an amazing fiancé who sounds similar to your wife. Very giving to others but never herself. Like you said, if you get it right, having a Filipina as a partner in life is absolutely amazing on an entirely different level than what most westerners experience. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

[@etfremd]

Amazing story! I hope I can find a good one to be my final life partner and hopefully give me a couple daughters. I guess the only way is get lucky on a 2 week vacation? Online is just so full of scammers.

[@Crazykid949]

Pea: You really hit the nail on the head with a sledge hammer with this video. Every point is spot on, and then makes the spot big enough that only a blind person would miss it. It all boils down to the idea that if you want to live your happiest life, find the place that makes you happiest first, then pick from the potential dating partners from the surroundings. Pulling someone away from where they love to be isn't going to make them a happy partner. Check off the boxes that make you happy, and then look for the person who enjoys the same things, if you both enjoy most of the same things, then you'll enjoy the time you spend together even more. The new outro video is great!

[@plantworks100]

Hey pea my beautiful friend, I truly thank God for you. I think that I am the luckiest man on earth. I was able to find a fantastic Filipina. That's why I married her. My wife definitely has a unique way of thinking. But she always has my back no matter what. I'm telling all of you guys out there, listen to pea, she knows 100% exactly what she is talking about. We rarely have to help her family. They always take care issues themselves. Like I said pea, I feel like I'm the luckiest man on earth. Thank you pea my dear friend for sharing this awesome video. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and your beautiful family always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You sure are one lucky man, Darryl! How did you meet her again??

[@plantworks100]

@@TheFilipinaPea Hey pea my beautiful friend, I met my wife when myself and two friends was in the Philippines in 2017 on vacation. She was working in the call center in cebu. We were both getting coffee. When I saw her, my mind was blown. I got up the courage to go over to talk to her. And the rest is history.😊 ❤️

[@michaelellis4935]

Thanks!dear Pea, would you please do a segment on older women( 40 to 50 ) range. I’d love to know how to determine if she is widowed, truly divorced or single. I don’t think 20 something’s are my cup of tea. Todays gift is also given with hopes you’ll be able to get a small gift you’ve been wanting🥰

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh my G_D, Michael 😳😳😳😳😳 Are you for real? You certainly did allow me to get quite a gift!! I’ll make sure to spread it around, too ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@tryscience]

Wow, how kind and generous. I'm certain Pea will it be able to help you 👍

[@michaelellis4935]

@@TheFilipinaPea I’m very real😁 I only have me to worry about so helping others is not a big deal. I want to visit the Philippines but only after my research is complete. Take care

[@wayneONvolarte]

Way too Go❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@tryscience]

@@michaelellis4935 with that attitude I expect success is assured 😎👍 Google Philippines Statistics authority (PSA) online portal

[@raymahannah4336]

You're proof that wisdom has nothing to do with age...You don't have to be old to be wise! 🙂 Thank you! 💙

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well I’m not exactly young anymore, so thanks!! ❤️❤️🤣👍

[@Friedbrain11]

@@TheFilipinaPea Yes you are still young Pea. :D

[@jmb4884]

There is more wisdom and sound advice in the last 5 minutes of this video than I've heard in hours of podcasts.

[@danL-005]

Couldn't agree more, I didn't even blink at the end because every word was logical, reasonable, on-spot and connecting with me on how men should embark on this journey for themselves to find a relationship that works for both parties. Long time watcher, first time commenting, great work Pea, keep it up!

[@Sinjin.S]

You're not a Pea. You're a peach, and the cream of the crop to boot!. Thanks for your efforts, advice, and reasoning 👍😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Awww thanks for that, Sinjin!!! ❤️😊

[@JB-tz8fu]

Really glad you're doing what you're doing Pea. Keeping men grounded to the realities of dating outside their culture/race. Keep making sure foreign men know 200% what EXACTLY they are getting involved in to keep both parties from getting hurt.

[@bobrolls3800]

How to catch the RIGHT Filipina? Be the RIGHT guy. Have good values. Be other-centered rather than self-centered. Have good morals. Look beyond having a good time. Don’t rush into a relationship. Be a quality person even as you look for a quality person. Seek to be in a good relationship with her family. Stay away from the bars and wild night life. The right kind of girl is not there and the right kind of girl will not look for a guy there.

[@kevinbarry71]

Absolutely wonderful advice. All of you guys should listen to her. I've lived here for a long time and what she says is the truth.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS Kevin! Some guys hold my genitalia against me (and sometimes they try to hold Their genitalia against me, too) 🤣🤣🤣

[@kevinbarry71]

@@TheFilipinaPea quite an image. people who would hold your sex against you are, well, not worth listening to. From the comments, I have noticed a large number of troglodytes like that

[@brentbackman2911]

Hello Pea! I am one of the blessed people who connected with my wife. She was the one who asked me a simple question. Our relationship started from there. We discovered we have many similar expectations and goals in life. We have our ups and downs just like any other relationship. However, we realize a relationship requires work. We grow closer together as time and experiences go on. Keep up the great work Pea!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Congrats, Brent! ❤️❤️❤️ How did you meet her?

[@johnnypastrana6727]

So what was the question that your wife asked you?

[@tryscience]

​@@johnnypastrana6727yeah, come on, don't leave us hanging like that lol

[@brentbackman2911]

We met on Christian Filipina. I was just casually browsing when she sent me a question. "Have you had any luck on this site?". I told her, "Not really that much, but I joined a few months ago." That's when we started talking with each other. We are both older. I was searching for someone without children and a few years younger than me. She was looking for someone who doesn't give up on relationships. I am eight years older than her. Many people don't worry about age gaps. However, it's been my experience when there's a large gap, there are nuances lost in translation between the generations.

[@philosophicaltrucker9279]

@@brentbackman2911 Ive heard a lot of good stories about matches on Christian Filipino.. i think its because they keep a close eye on their members and ban ppl who try to abuse the system or just inappropriate.

[@RCWrightX89]

I was talking to a Philippina, and she was in her 30s, had kids, and her man left her. After dealing with scammers and scammers, it was refreshing talking to a real person who was not trying to scam me. However, after watching Pea and listening to some passport bros. I realized that was not the best choice for my life. I was about to go I to the Philippines as$ backwards.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🚫No as$ backwards allowed!

[@setha360]

Married Pilipino but separated husband can blackmail you and throw you in jail adultry , has kids, you need to find one not married no kids and not poverty family.

[@SealHero]

You're one of the few women that I'll actually listen to for dating advice due to your transparent points and consistent use of logic. The issue with most of our women is that their advice is generally ridden with bad faith (dishonesty/sisterhood saving, sabatage, guilt/shaming tactics, self advertisement, etc), rather than logic and genuine concern for the man. Thank you for your work. ❤

[@justsomeguy2943]

GREAT job, Pea! I've been saying for YEARS that ALL relationships are born of common core values, like interests, visual attraction, and sexual compatibility (the last two are for romantic relationships). PS I LOVE your logic and reason!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks JSG 👍❤️

[@philosophicaltrucker9279]

Yep, the most successful relationships are built on common values and shared goals as well as compatible personalities.

[@LordLucan-7]

Great advice. I've hidden Grandma's bank cards, already. Love the new outro. WATCH THE ADS

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Lord Lucan! What was Grandma’s credit limit? 😳🤣

[@jredb1]

Pea, you truly need a television show. 😊 I love your videos. I look forward to each one of them. Your content is amazing and informative ❤

[@preseil6285]

Hi Pea!! The one thing you said that really resonates with me is the fact that there are many different cultures in Philippines 👍 My wife and her family are Ilacono and she is always saying that Visayan people are different. I got to see that first hand when I had a boss from Cebu. He was much different that my wife's family in the way he viewed things. From my perspective, the Visayan people are warriors. In general, my wife's family tend to be more merchant oriented. My boss was a prior service US Army Infantry soldier so we have that in common. My wife insists that Filipinos are not that aggressive. I disagree because it depends on the Island or region the Filipino is from👍 I also have friends and coworkers from Mindanao and they are Visayan too but they have a different take on certain aspects of politics and religion than the folks in the North and in other parts of the Visayan region. Yes, most are Catholic but there are still differences in the way they view their faith. Hope your weekend is good, Pea👍🤙🇵🇭🇺🇸

[@Ed19601]

Finding women in Cebu: Go to Ayalah, preferably the Rotunda, stand still and wait. Go to the coffee shops in IT park (lots of girls coming out of the call centers). Have lunch in the food court at Robinsons (midtown): many nurses coming there. Finding good women: Ask Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍

[@tryscience]

Pea, I've learned to completely trust your wise counsel. Thank you so much for your humor, your wisdom, and your willingness to help us. 🥰

[@tryscience]

I'll add that I really like that you are logical and rational, I look for that as well. I think it's a strength to fearlessly embrace truth, because only with good information can people make good decisions. 😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks TS!! I’ll always give it to you straight 👍👍❤️❤️

[@Bernardclement1955]

Pea , I could tell you stories that would would blow you mind how manipulative Filipina really are.

[@JB-tz8fu]

Facts

[@IvarTheBoneless40]

Never trust someone for the 100% because that how people get hurt

[@Whippets]

This was the best advice I've heard from anyone on KZbin, male or female, regarding how to find a good match. Spend a lot of time identifying your wants, then identify your dealbreakers (and don't be shy about that, you know what really bothers you), and then stick to it. Don't balance out the dealbreakers, they're dealbreakers for a reason. That said, no one is perfect, don't sweat the little things and roll with it and enjoy life.

[@gerrymichaud3851]

My wife is a Filipina teacher from Cavite. We knew each other for 19 years before being able to get her here to the US. Married coming up to 4 years and it was the best decision I ever made.

[@jamesmarchetti3286]

Wow !!! You hit everything perfectly!!! This is True Gold !! Much better to do things instead of learning the Hard way !!! And women do think differently than men and it's like going to College to learn !!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Herv66]

I can never thank you enough for your beautiful & important advise !❤❤

[@johnclark7973]

This is my favorite advice you've ever given. Makes a lot, a lot of sense!

[@GregoryPunzo]

Yes you are logical, rational, and very HELPFUL! That's why we appreciate you 🙂

[@juliooquendo220]

Ms pea bringing out a feel good Friday video to start the weekend off right.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

As often as I can, yes 😊👍👍

[@noadmiration]

I want to go to the Philippines to enjoy the sights and culture. Pea's videos sometimes make me nervous that I will be surrounded by hungry Filipinas looking to charm their way into my wallet. I'm glad these videos exist to help me navigate the high seas of attractive women anxious to meet me and my 401K. :-P

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Introduce your 401k first - if you want to live dangerously 🤣

[@maryjeanbables]

Hahahaha well not all Filipina. There are good and nice women here.

[@WELLBRAN]

The culture is very shallow and you will tire of beaches and coconut trees its a USA based culture and mindset very materialistic and love of money skin deep society...and yet people are warm and smile some will rip you off and then you find kindness and honesty take it from me married there in 1987..still married today and going there and back over 35 yrs

[@macnachten8822]

Pea, I think this is your best, most informative and blunt video yet, well done you!

[@huds5005]

Been watching your videos for a long time and you still keep bringing the knowledge in a way that is never boring. Thanks Pea.

[@johnlobley]

ALL HAIL THE INSTRUCTIVE PEA ...and always let the ads play

[@TheFilipinaPea]

John is in the house!! ❤️❤️❤️👍

[@papadougpapadougsadventures]

As usual good advice. My GF lives in Manila and knows that when I move to the Philippines it will be to a smaller beach town. She can make the call at that time but for now I enjoy the daily conversation and video chats and our vacations at least twice a year at a beach community. In fact last time was in Dumaguete.

[@dalederrah]

Best advice I have heard. This is exactly what I am going to do,find where I want to live first.

[@breaktheloop]

I'm impressed at your ability to talk charismatically at length into a camera. Thank you for making your videos and KZbin channel. I'm watching all of your videos and they are highly educational and entertaining.

[@jamesholden4571]

I found your videos AFTER I met my now Filipina wife. Considering some of the horror stories you present, I got quite lucky. I have been in the Philippines now for close to 4 years, married almost 3 1/2, and we are very happy. She only had the one daughter she told me about. I understand more now about marrying the whole family, but we only have been utang na loobed a bit. It is more than I was counting on, as I have a limited budget, but we are still OK. I love her very much, and I am staying. I have had a couple of scam and con artist attempts, but I survived, and I know better what to look for now. Thank you for your videos.

[@davidfliflet2642]

You do such a great job, explaining things, seems like you were born with wisdom keep it up we all enjoy, listening to you and learning

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks David 👍❤️

[@kend6693]

You are such a wise young lady. I learn so much from you! And I love seeing your hair getting longer.

[@jordanrushing5049]

Needed to watch this today. I've been doing it all backwards. Thanks @TheFilipinaPea 🙏

[@williamwick8641]

MsP .. you are the example for what us western men are seeking .. and your intellect. Personality and especially beauty .. will be hard to match. I’m sure it won’t be easily found. ❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

But you definitely can find it - just keep patiently looking till you find who’s right, REALLY right, for you 👍❤️😊

[@Nordic_Sky]

Everything in this video is spot on (as usual). That said, I did everything Pea says not to do and it worked out well for me (met a girl online, traveled to meet her, etc.). But the odds are admittedly long. If you want to try online dating, common sense rules apply. Watch for red flags: anyone near the bar scene, wants to get affectionate too quickly, talks about money, isn't candid about her dating past, etc. It actually isn't that hard. And be prepared to bail. Unlike the US, in SE Asia, you are the prize. It takes a while to get used to, for someone who has been brutalized in the US dating scene. But after experiencing dating in SE Asia, you'll never date in the US again.

[@johnbev2]

For me,I think you did very well with this one. You hit the ball out of the park. Men should take this advice to heart.

[@adamtwelve]

This is probably the best dating advice I've ever heard, thank you Pea. I was just about to try signing up for online dating too but you talked me out of it. You have so many good points in this video you straight up changed my mind.

[@robertelizalde995]

Thank you Pea, you are a real GEM. You are a blessing in disguise.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

In a cheerleader disguise? 🤣🤣🤣

[@Juliano-ll2gn]

I read the book of Psalms 3X for my beautiful Fillipina fiancé, thank you Jesus 🙏👑🙏

[@SteveSwenson-fl1vc]

You are incredibly smart, wise, and you understand both cultures very well!. Thank you for making all these great videos.

[@RandyRhode-yq5hq]

Great advise. It intertwines with what other vloggers infer, but you have put forward a great way to develop a game plan. This video is worth watching twice.

[@wayneONvolarte]

Thrice ecen ( Scotish) for3

[@wayneONvolarte]

Thrice even

[@TheHibener]

Dear Pea, you are so right. As 50+ people we are confident (overconfident) to don't Fall into traps but Most of us (in every country) are lonely and that hurts so much that we forget about rational reasons. You always give us good advice and we should follow it, no excuses 👍👏😁.

[@huetuber1204]

It's PEA, not pee. She ain't urine.

[@TheHibener]

@@huetuber1204 corrected it, thanks for pointing out

[@Eric-qm5xw]

Lol I’m not lonely …women are easy to date in the phil’s…harder to find the right one..especially when ya don’t date the poor girls.

[@stephengoldberg334]

At 50 you are too old to qualify. 40 is the maximum. And in ripped shape. Full head of hair. Professional suits. And a lot of money

[@Eric-qm5xw]

@@stephengoldberg334 There’s not many of them in the phil’s, it’s mostly overweight yanks with bandanas..cargo pants etc. Lol 😂

[@danielwarnes7231]

As always you were right about being qualified to give advice. Besides, it is great entertainment watching and listening to you do it. 👍

[@chipparmley]

Keep talking Pea! What you are saying needs to be heard, and it applies to women not just from a tropical paradise

[@cruiseguy25]

Hey Pea, great advice. I could never understand this online dating and falling in love with someone you never met. We are such vulnerable creatures just wanting to love and be loved.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

So many of you are, yes, and I hate to see you jumping the gun 👍👍

[@TrenchcoatJesus]

It's convenience (on both sides). The upside is not having to get dressed, groomed, etc., not having to physically meet someone. For many people- especially introverts- this is a far more comfortable setting than being out in public; there's a very low bar of social anxiety for entry. You can also tailor your communication to your preference- you aren't committing an hour or two to a date, you can stop a conversation at any time and pick it up later whenever you choose. You have a lot more control over the information that you give to your partner- what you look like, act like, sound like, your friends/family/etc., is all passed through a filter you can control. It's easier. But then, of course, you have to consider that all that convenience has a price: the loss of information. It becomes just as easy for someone to lie about or maybe even unintentionally omit information that would otherwise be important. That control over information cuts both ways- they know less, and so do you. It's honestly bad for both partners in terms of taking on extra risk- the woman may have red flags she hides from the man, but also vice-versa. If a man projects some make-believe image of himself online that he can't live up to in real life, the woman will recognize the deception and withdraw her respect (followed by her love). That's as much a recipe for failure as a man investing emotion into a scam artist. Edit: For foreigner-Filipina dating specifically, it's also less 'expensive'. You don't need a plane ticket to meet. Problem is the short term savings often aren't worth the long-term expenses in wasted time and/or money. It's a bad habit worldwide for people to get hooked by the immediate expense of something (virtually free) only to pay much more than they expected down the line. Why else would so many things like subscription services offer 'free trials'? It's because they work. They wouldn't offer free trials if they weren't making money somehow- they're betting (and succeeding) on future profit.

[@genegene6570]

@@TrenchcoatJesus Well stated.

[@nakimmikan]

What got me to meet and marry my amazing, beautiful incredible adorable sexy, funny understanding, smart and loyal wife was a saying I once heard."if you want something you never had, you have to do something you never done. 8 years later and I'm the happiest man in the universe!!

[@johneybravo7264]

i have no idea what you just said. All i could stare at was the beach in the background. Wonderfully done.

[@RonneyandRascalCollectibles]

The real problem is that your more beautiful than the Filipinos on the dating apps. Your personality is better. You make it impossible to find anyone close to your greatest. Lol. Love your videos

[@tourneynet8557]

She speaks the truth guys.... Been there

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes you surrrrrrre have been there 😢

[@tomster7574]

I really like that you are pushing the narrative of not meeting online while still overseas I also always advocate for shopping locally. I don’t use Amazon or eBay. But considering how much the world has grown accustomed to having everything delivered instead of going to go get it it’s no wonder that meeting online overseas is getting more and more popular as well. And then just like how dissatisfied most customers are with their Amazon purchase being not quite what was described or not at all what was described, same thing happened when you’re trying to date online overseas. As I have told you many times now that I met my wife online on a dating app but she only lives a few miles away. As compared to the online shopping, I looked at the catalogue of what the store had to offer and saw a bunch of products that I was interested in and then I went to the store to check them out first hand. Although we did talk online for several months before we actually met, when we did actually meet it was at the mall that was local to both of us. So to all the guys in all the countries around the world that are interested in a Filipina, don’t forget that one of the worlds largest exports of women are from the Philippines. There is probably a large assortment of single Filipina women Living in everyone’s neighbourhood. Most of them are there on work permits and are single. Most of them never married and no kids. Not all of them just most of them. And if you’re so driven to go to the Philippines anyways. There is no way Filipina you met in your home country won’t want to take you back to visit her land and her family with you.

[@davidmiera8858]

Great advise Pea. Your the best. Thanks for reminding men that when it comes to relationships we need to think with our head instead of thinking with our Ahem, . . . lower extremities. 😊

[@jeffreymollerup1883]

Wisdom beyond your years! Great advice! Way to go Pea!

[@1BigPrime8]

Hi Pea! I loved this episode. There was so many great points you touched on and i found that you helped me to understand a little bit more about how i as an individual need to change the way i search for a future life partner. I've always had trouble in that department and made a fair amount of poor choices but I'm glad i got to watch this episode as it helped me to understand myself and what i want in life a little more ❤Love your content and I wish you more success so I get to see more lovely and insightful content such as this ❤

[@chivalryisdead6440]

Hi Pea! Your last advice to chat up women only for a while is a good advice. I found my lady that way and I know from experience that there are a lot of bad choices to be made on the dating sites. I made sure that at any time I was willing to walk away and I made sure that I was only chatting with a woman for about four weeks before meeting up. In my experience the women online that are very skilled at making an engaging chatting experience are the ones that can not be trusted. And that makes sense: it is how they make their money. It is their job. The women that are kind and always respond but struggle to keep a chat engaging are the ones you are looking for. My girl is very very sweet. First time we dined together was with her sister and she paid for dinner behind my back. It was actually her sister that invited me to visit her family. But mostly... she quit her job before I promised to send some financial support. And I told her that I do not totally feel comfortable with the financial support so she knows that is only a temporary thing. Money conversations in filipino culture are fascinating. On the one hand families kinda need some help. But when you literally say that they will be offended. So you have to frame it correctly or otherwise they will not accept it. And truth is that I also did not want to make it more difficult on this family by simply taking the girl. Her brother-in-law is such a fine fellow. TY!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It sounds like you have a level head on your shoulders, Chivalry! 👍👍

[@stephenbruce8320]

Thanks for sharing Pea! A little common sense goes along way.

[@poormanstube]

Your wisdom is so refreshing, and the knowledge of your culture is very informative. Thank you for the time you put into your videos.

[@markmcdougal1199]

This was a particularly excellent presentation, Ms. Pea. You just keep getting better and better. What I learned is: 1. Do some soul searching. Determine what kind of living environment, activities, social structure, and family needs you require to be happy. Also, attributes detailed above, that you just can't tolerate. 2. Make a well planned, versatile, long term trip to the Philippines. Travel as much as possible, for as long as possible, immerse yourself in the culture, make friends, but keep it light - really get to know the culture(s). (For me, this will take at least a year.) 3. After getting to know the different environments, start to focus in on where you want to live, if you desire to stay in country, or where you want to stay for a while, that will have the kind of women you are looking for. 4. Spend some time in your focus area, become involved in the kinds of activities that you'll want to share with her. Hopefully find someone special to start dating. 5. Be honest, with yourself, and with the people you come in contact with, about your expectations, limits, wants and needs. Don't let emotions or "hopeful thinking"cloud your judgements. Let your logic be set in stone, even if (especially if) hers and / or her families' isn't. And let your mantra be: "Do all the things - as long as you don't harm anyone, including yourself."

[@vangvangsumosobrakana4988]

Very good! Well written

[@ronfindley2874]

Good evening Pea. I tried my best to be on time today. Let's get the algorithm going!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You’re not only on time, you got third place!! 🏆🏆🏆👍❤️😊

[@vlogcritter]

You always do an awesome job at letting men know men know the Dos and Don’ts.

[@jelizardi2000]

Talk about perfectly logical advice - thank you for the video. Planning on spending 1 month in Manila and explore from there. I will replay this video when I'm there so I stay focused.

[@CB_4216]

Pea, I have been watching your videos for years now. I’m an American military man. I’m 42 and and retire in 3 years looking forward to heading to the Philippines upon retirement and utilizing your advice. I recently got an unexpected temporary assignment in the Washington DC area. One day when I was walking into the office I was nearly stopped in my tracks by the sight of a gorgeous creature with morena skin and long jet black hair that smiled and said “Good Morning, sir” with a familiar accent. After a few weeks of these encounters, I was cornered in the break room one day when this exotic woman came up to me and extended her hand and introduced herself. I was stung by this beauty that hails from deep in the province of Northern Luzon. In a couple short hours from now, I’ll be eating Pork Adobo followed by Filipino karaoke. Help me Pea! I’ve been stung right here in the States! Haha

[@billytheallstar471]

Well done ( as usual ) Love ❤️ it when your tossing around those “TRUTH GRENADES” Keep Blowing it up !!

[@billytheallstar471]

P.S Loving the CHEERLEADER 📣 OUTFIT!!❤❤❤❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Billy! I was just contacted by the Ukrainian army - they asked if I could go toss some over there 🤣

[@billytheallstar471]

@@TheFilipinaPea 🏆🏆🏆🤣🤣🤣

[@billytheallstar471]

RELAX .. Your “POM-POMS are FINE !!

[@bilalmega3349]

Beautiful words and honest advice. I'm truly impressed.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks, Mega 👍😊

[@jeffjohnsonfutdoc]

So well stated!!! Great advice

[@robincraft4682]

As always, very sound and practical advice Pea. Enjoy your weekend gwapa 🤗.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Robin! I try to be reasonable and practical 👍❤️

[@duanebolen543]

Hello Pea You know your advice also works here in USA there's so many gold diggers even and your advice always comes in handy to find the right person and you can always tell who wants to be loved and who wants just your money just buy the conversation that they start their conversation Thanks very much and you are a very wise lady Duane from the USA

[@johncarter9964]

Thank you Pea. You command of English is amazing and eclectic! Good job!!

[@DavidECoy]

Wow new ending. She’s right fellas I’m married to a Filipina and been going to the Philippines for a couple decades. I would agree with most but not all of her advice. The only stuff I don’t agree with is usually general advice that didn’t apply to my specific situation but of course she can’t give that kind of advice so don’t hold it against her. I already caught my Filipina Mrs Pea the hard way before you started your channel. Said it many times already I wish you were giving all this great advice when I first started coming to your country. Great show and see you in 3 days when you will have something new for us. Hope that made u laugh 😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Fortunately, I laugh easily 🤣🤣

[@tj281983]

Your videos are like a study guide to understanding Filipinas and variety culture differences throughout the islands. It's been about 16 months since I've been talking to the same wonderful Filipina who's from Del Suriago. With in the first 6 months of online video calls & countless messages, she was thinking I was to good to be true, she has 2 friends who are married and living here in America. I got to meet them and their husbands. One drove from Indiana the other one flew out from Kansas to Ohio. They all told my lovely Filipina that I'm legit. Half of her family told her to go have fun, while the other half wanted to see me first for a few days especially her brother who is a federal police officer. So I decided to change my itinerary for a few days. I'll be over there for about 2.5 weeks. What advice can you give me on Mindanao Island culture how to greet her mother , her aunt & uncles when I see them? Thank you in advance

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks TJ! For advice, check out my video called ‘Meet The Parents’ 😊👍👍

[@JB-tz8fu]

​@TheFilipinaPea PP to the M.F rescue 🙌🏾

[@matthewhull2596]

What part of Mindanao?

[@tj281983]

@@matthewhull2596 The Northern part of the Island, near Silop cave

[@matthewhull2596]

@@tj281983 Had to look as that is not a bad area

[@tomm.6265]

Pea all I can say is your AWESOME always direct and to the point never get tired of watching your videos Keep it up Girl

[@user-pr9xl2hs3l]

That was some great information young lady. A family member sent me your KZbin channel and I'm glad he did.✌️❤️

[@timtoolman1229]

Honestly, I got back from the Philippines in Jan. and I never made contact with any girls their at all. When I did arrive in Manila I met a ton of wonderful ladies introducing themselves! The Pea is bang-on with this video and I like the truth she speaks to the foreigners! I never got involved with anyone, but I will return to Philipinnes in October. I am looking for a mate to join me travelling around the world on a sailboat.

[@MrTomherzog]

Hi Pea, Thank you so much for making your video advice available for free to us all. I'm a recently retired American with a small pension looking for a comfortable (and warm) place to retire. (Far away from the cold winters and often rude people in The States.) I am not interested in getting married at this late stage in life. I've experienced enough of often needy, demanding and self-righteous American women. I just want an affordable, comfortable and quiet place to do my work (writing and reading) without the imprecating demands of American society. Your videos have given me a greater understanding of my options. Best regards and thanks again. Tom

[@brementmark]

Me too, read write relax

[@billottey8296]

Great, honest advice. Agree 100% with your comments. Thank you.

[@dalibor1510]

You're a very logical and thoughtful woman. I must say that it is rare in my life to see women like you. 👍

[@dwainpeak5129]

Good Evening Professor Ms Pea My 2nd Favorite Day of The Week Friday And Pea Time Yahoooo The Best KZbinr On The Planet Front Row Class We Love You Ms. Pea Have A Great Weekend❤ !!!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Dwain! I’m afraid I don’t have a dry place to sit this time, unless you want to sit in my lap? 😳👍🤣

[@tryscience]

​@@TheFilipinaPeathat lucky guy 🥰

[@procon2022]

Dear Pea, once again you impress me in this video with this genuine franchise of yours and the extraordinary humanly way of building bridges between people, even cultures, in a thoughtful and life-proven way! Your work is, in my view, important way beyond having some practical 'advice' for some of us... I wonder a lot - how did you ... get there?! ;)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh that’s easy - I was born here 🤣🤣🤣

[@procon2022]

@@TheFilipinaPea 😂😂😂.... got'ya! Well, I BET (risky business, I know...) that not 'all' Philippinas are as wise and helpful and outbalanced interacting, as you are!✌

[@Horatio_Jones]

Dropping gems once again Pea. Good work. Good advice.

[@brat4300]

I met my wife online. I was home in medical leave and we talked every day until she ran out of battery (electricity was out due to Dec 21 Typhoon). We learned so much about each other, we told each other everything. We got married on my first visit 6 months later. We have had our ups and downs but way more ups than downs. We both know it takes effort to make a relationship work. Not everyone can do this but I'm happy i found the love of my life.

[@vagmanis251]

Good evening miss Pea, you got me everything you said for LDR by dating through electronic communication was a reality for me, due to the pandemic the relationship finally ended, so after this experience I subscribe to all the advice you gave on your show today, I only regret that you were not in my life before I met the Filipina ex girlfriend , but if it wasn't for her I wouldn't know the Country and maybe I wouldn't know your channel either so "there is no bad without good and vice versa". 😂 Have a great weekend.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Just make sure the good outweighs the bad! Or the few, or the one, or … something like that 🤣🤣🤣

[@vagmanis251]

@@TheFilipinaPea im sure that the good are more, first i learned enough about Philippines and some day in the future i will travel to see and from close, second im richer in experience and third but not least i have you to advise me as miss spockPea 😂😂😂😂

[@stephenbender7593]

My wife, a Filipina, caught me. 😁 Honestly, I wasn't into the long distance relationships and I wanted to end things with her but...she was persistent. One day a voice inside of me said, Love her. So, I decided to love her at that moment and we married shortly afterwards. I know she had been praying for me and perhaps that was the voice of God (with the intercession of St. Padre Pio to whom she has a devotion). Anyways, I can say that years later I love her more today than when I first met her and...I am glad I listened to that voice.

[@stephenbender7593]

@@ConontheBinarian What are you talking about?

[@FilipinaRecordedLive]

Always listen to God's voice 🙏 👍

[@kranzonguam]

Outstanding advice, Pea! Take good care!

[@davidyee2472]

I enjoy your shows…you are witty, and deliver your message to your audience well!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks, David!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@EvolvedBonobo]

Agreed. Relationships (and friendships) should develop organically as a secondary process of some larger shared activity, interest or goal. For example, I enjoy kayaking, hiking, chess, philosophy, ethics, and very long beach walks, among other things, so doing those things on my own or as part of some local group will put me in contact with others who are actively doing those things; as opposed to people simply writing in an online profile that they essentially 'would' do those things but instead are choosing to sit at home and email more profiles.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well there’s chess and hiking here, anyway 🤣

[@acbikeatgmaildotcom]

@@TheFilipinaPea Really? I don't think I've seen a girl list chess on her dating profile.

[@diggernash1]

That doesn't work so good when you don't like doing anything socially and like to live way out in the sticks.

[@user-oi3mz8gs2c]

With your interests, I think you are still single. 😂

[@EvolvedBonobo]

@@user-oi3mz8gs2cYes, I am, but mostly because it's still rather easy for me to meet and play with a variety of women. As things slow down, I assume, then I will "settle" for a relationship 🤣 I did notice a marked decline in interest once I turned 45, but still enough access, for now, to avoid settling down.

[@paulstan9828]

Very true Pea a guy can fall in love so fast even with someone he never met. Men fall for the shining thing. Most women are more analytical and patient and want to see what is going on inside.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Men do tend to go ‘all in’ wayyyy too fast 😳

[@aydinsha]

They're not falling in love, they're falling in lust. You can't love someone you barely know.

[@paulstan9828]

@@aydinsha Very true!

[@erikgerhardt7335]

Love the background, and the advice.

[@RCFSULAW]

Hey Pea. Thanks for laying this out for the online guys and one prior online guy which would be me. I learned that even if you are having 2 one hour video chats a day and numerous messages thru messenger that things were being hidden and the direct lies and lies by ommission were huge. You can finally understand why so many Filipinas say the past is the past. It is because if you knew you might run for the hills in Valencia. Pea has explained some terms in the past that you cannot understand until you are there in person. They are Utong na Loob(Contributions by the Filipina to the family), matigas ulo(Stubborneness), selosa(how jealous and nuts she gets) and of course the chismis(how you are being talked about behind your back and it happens every day; learn Tagalog). I left out make up and filters which are a sub category of direct lies. Just remember caveat emptor, let the buyer beware. Salamat Maganda Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks RJ ! It sounds like you’ve learned a lot from your experiences - GOOD!! 👍❤️

[@Joepoe20041]

Utong is nipple😂Utang is something you owe.

[@RCFSULAW]

@@Joepoe20041 Do you know the concept of Utang na Loob. Children from birth are expected to owe a financial obligation to parents and other younger siblings as the parents age and in many instances no longer can work. It is a concept of a parental cultural debt.

[@TravellingMan20]

Loads of great observations and advice as always, thanks Pea. The dating sites can be good for making initial contact, weeding out obvious finance extractors, and collecting some phone numbers. Meeting them for the first time in person can be …and often is, whole different thing. Take Pea’s advice and don’t invest too much emotion and certainly not money, until you’ve spent a lot of time together, seen her situation in person and preferably met her family. Doing it all when there, is is probably best although many great relationships have started online.

[@bretthewitt3890]

You left out tampo! Tampo to me is the WORST aspect of Filipinas. If its justified, ok...but usually it's just emotional blackmail. Watch out for tampo!

[@Chickenlegs836]

HI 👋 Princess Pea!! Newly subscribed. Your a very knowledgeable young lady who was meant to do these videos👍🙏❤️. Like your honesty in how you explain things to us. Your opinion is very important and I appreciate it 👍. Your natural beauty inside& out are very attractive.Great personality and natural beauty are some of the characteristics I look for in a filapina princess 👸. Blessings 🌸🌺🌼😘

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m so happy to have you here, Chickenlegs! Welcome aboard the crazy train! 🤣🤣❤️

[@Chickenlegs836]

Why thanks Princess Pea 😘. Your a sweetheart!! Look forward to meeting you hopefully 🙏 in the future. My goal is visit next year if finances allow me 👍🙏. Blessings 🙏🌺🌸🌼

[@stuartmcgowne2274]

Wow! Talk about hitting the nail on the head. You are correct about so much. But you must invest time in learning about your possible partner.

[@deathbyhotsauce]

Your advice is worth all the gold in world. Thank you so much for your advise.

[@bruceklein9008]

Great video. I've always said you should already be in Philippines before looking for your woman. I get a lot of flak from men over this.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well you’re right and they’re wrong 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@haroldswick9962]

This lady is spot on. Great advice.

[@javieritomac]

Hhhheeelllooooo pea ,,, i agree on what you say totally . Thank you always for the videos and the awesome advice is golden. MUY IMPORTANTE PEA🇵🇭 I love the cheerleader oea in the end is very appreciated pea ❤🇵🇭

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍👍🤣 I snuck a little Spanish in 😊

[@javieritomac]

@@TheFilipinaPea good spanish accent pea tou are a natural

[@lillpoetboy]

this woman knows excactly what she is talking about. i love her