FINDING THE BEST FILIPINA PARTNER - Where To Look And HOW To Look!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@gordonkistler916]

find them feel them fuck them and forget them!

[@gordonkistler916]

me and my arrow, straight and narrow fucking all over the world!

[@The-Cat]

How to catch a Filipina Step 1: Go to a mall in the Philippines Step 2: Purchase a poke ball Step 3: Throw the poke ball Step 4: Point and yell at the poke ball "FOREIGNER WANTS MARRIAGE AND BABY IF YOU CAN CATCH THAT BALL!!!!!!" Step 5: stand back and watch women of all ages run towards the ball, even the women who didn't hear or understand what was said also just doing with the quicker ones are doing. Trust me guys, this worked for me... and then I woke up. Aaaaahhh what a dream.

[@dariusslade4953]

We'll see Ms Pea! 😂

[@49525Bob]

@1:31 Logical, Rational, Smart, Beautiful, and Sexy. Pea you're the Unicorn we men didn't believe exists.

[@Chrono826]

"Don't try to fit into her life. Find a woman who will fit her life into yours." That is spot on! Thank you Pea!

[@TheMostNinjaMike]

I can hear the genocidal feminist rage at this concept in the west... but it's true... a woman should fit her life to a man's not the other way around. Nature.

[@niallk9336]

The problem with this is that you don't want to bring her back. If you're going to do this, you need to live there - and that means integrating with her family to some extent.

[@pvm1974]

Thats not spot on...its one sided that cater on the advantage of a foreigner. Filipina are not second class human being that must always conform with other human being.

[@pvm1974]

We are not on the era of colonialism anymore...filipinos are not subservient to other nationalities...bear that in mind.

[@Chrono826]

@@pvm1974 You don't think that the Filipina isn't being taken care of by the foreigner? You don't have to cater to a foreigner, but he doesn't have to invest in you either. Why do you assume that the Filipina is 2nd class and is forced to conform? It's a voluntary cooperation.

[@SantaRosaSteve]

You are so right Pea. I met my wife on Filipina Heart in December 2009. I watched for the signs. She told me her parents died when she was 2 years old but she had four sisters and one brother. So I knew the commitment. She told me she had a son from a one night stand with a Filipino guy. James is amazing he doesn’t live with us but we support him. My wife’s choice not mine. December to January through Christmas she didn’t have a dying relative and never asked for money. I asked her to meet me in Hong Kong in February 2010 and she said are you crazy I cannot afford a flight! I paid for the flight and found it hilarious she thought she had to pay!! She never asked for anything during the week we spent together. Skip to 2023 we have three daughters age 12, 8 and going 2. Jen still never asks for anything for herself. I just bought her an iPhone 14 Pro just to say thank you for being you. Filipina are the best ever wives if you get it right.

[@jimmorrison3878]

Well said my friend. I have an amazing fiancé who sounds similar to your wife. Very giving to others but never herself. Like you said, if you get it right, having a Filipina as a partner in life is absolutely amazing on an entirely different level than what most westerners experience. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

[@etfremd]

Amazing story! I hope I can find a good one to be my final life partner and hopefully give me a couple daughters. I guess the only way is get lucky on a 2 week vacation? Online is just so full of scammers.

[@joekahno]

Everyone marries a stranger. The best dating can do is give you a chance to look for major deal breakers. Fortunately, most guys aren't that demanding. A full belly, a little respect, a place of refuge and we can ignore a lot of imperfections.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wise words from Whiskey Joe 🤣👍

[@waywardson1663]

Very true! I find that we tend to zero in on the things that we like about women despite their faults, while women focus on (and sometimes cannot get over) our imperfections.

[@huetuber1204]

Ummm... good sex should be in there too.

[@dustbusterz]

Wrong. Asking The Right Questions and Paying Attention to his/ Her Actions While You're Together Can Really Fill In The Blank Soaces. That is What Dating is. Discovery. It's Like Class online You Don't Go to Predefined Spaces like School Buildings. You 2 Together Chose The Location For This Class. Too Many People Spend So Much Effort and Time Having Fun, You Never Take The Time to Learn About The Person You're Dating. Slow Down, Take Your Time ,Interview Family, Friends, Neighbors, And If Possible, Past Lovers. These Are The People She/ He Has Spent Most of Their Time With, Therefore Know Them Best. Ask Them 1 Million Questions, Then Ask A Million More Because Dating Isn't A Game, It's Serious and Should Be Treated That Way. By The Time You're Ready to Pop That Question they Should No Longer Be A Stranger. You Should Know Them As Well As , Or Even Better Than You Know Yourself.

[@godfreyschuller2925]

By the time you done you inquiries, can you imagine the resentment created.. Think about it, how would it make you feel if she had to interigate your family, friends and exs about you.. My view is any relationship starts with a decision. Depending the kind of relationship defines the kind of decision. A loving relations starts with a decision to love the other party and visa versa. Then you put into place a infrastructure consisting of rules and boundaries and build on that.. Most people was raised by parents that themselves didn't know if what they were doing was correct.. So if someone was in a toxic relationship before and not acting the way that you now want you now based on your inquiry cancel this person.. My view is that if you know what you want and need, show leadership, your women will follow rather than wanting to make yourself look all mighty and her all small.. Think about it

[@bobrolls3800]

How to catch the RIGHT Filipina? Be the RIGHT guy. Have good values. Be other-centered rather than self-centered. Have good morals. Look beyond having a good time. Don’t rush into a relationship. Be a quality person even as you look for a quality person. Seek to be in a good relationship with her family. Stay away from the bars and wild night life. The right kind of girl is not there and the right kind of girl will not look for a guy there.

[@plantworks100]

Hey pea my beautiful friend, I truly thank God for you. I think that I am the luckiest man on earth. I was able to find a fantastic Filipina. That's why I married her. My wife definitely has a unique way of thinking. But she always has my back no matter what. I'm telling all of you guys out there, listen to pea, she knows 100% exactly what she is talking about. We rarely have to help her family. They always take care issues themselves. Like I said pea, I feel like I'm the luckiest man on earth. Thank you pea my dear friend for sharing this awesome video. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and your beautiful family always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You sure are one lucky man, Darryl! How did you meet her again??

[@plantworks100]

@@TheFilipinaPea Hey pea my beautiful friend, I met my wife when myself and two friends was in the Philippines in 2017 on vacation. She was working in the call center in cebu. We were both getting coffee. When I saw her, my mind was blown. I got up the courage to go over to talk to her. And the rest is history.😊 ❤️

[@donal2748]

@plantworks100 So happy for you Darryl. Did you relocate to the Philippines or you brought her to America?

[@plantworks100]

@@donal2748 Hey there my friend, I relocated and now live here in the Philippines. Have a wonderful day my friend 👍 👍 😊😊.

[@donal2748]

@plantworks100 I am not in a position to relocate at the moment but am interested in meeting a quality Filipina. Would you be interested in giving me some helpful tips? Thanks in advance.

[@JosephMyLife]

Totally agree, I couldn't imagine finding a girl online to be a serious partner.

[@MG77740]

It sometimes works and maybe there is only one reputable site. Generally, I think you have to get over there an meet them in person before too long, if a person goes that route. I met my wife locally and our son did the same. Networking with Filipino friends sometimes works also. I've heard of people meeting through church organizations and even the rotary club.

[@laughingoutloud3713]

yes.. miracle meeting can only happen in real life

[@MG77740]

@@JosephMyLife It happens. I just got to know a young couple that met this way. I don’t know how he avoided the army of scammers online. I met my wife in person 33 years ago. I you find a great match, it can every thing one would imagine and better also.

[@michaelellis4935]

Thanks!dear Pea, would you please do a segment on older women( 40 to 50 ) range. I’d love to know how to determine if she is widowed, truly divorced or single. I don’t think 20 something’s are my cup of tea. Todays gift is also given with hopes you’ll be able to get a small gift you’ve been wanting🥰

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh my G_D, Michael 😳😳😳😳😳 Are you for real? You certainly did allow me to get quite a gift!! I’ll make sure to spread it around, too ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@tryscience]

Wow, how kind and generous. I'm certain Pea will it be able to help you 👍

[@michaelellis4935]

@@TheFilipinaPea I’m very real😁 I only have me to worry about so helping others is not a big deal. I want to visit the Philippines but only after my research is complete. Take care

[@wayneONvolarte]

Way too Go❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@tryscience]

@@michaelellis4935 with that attitude I expect success is assured 😎👍 Google Philippines Statistics authority (PSA) online portal

[@Crazykid949]

Pea: You really hit the nail on the head with a sledge hammer with this video. Every point is spot on, and then makes the spot big enough that only a blind person would miss it. It all boils down to the idea that if you want to live your happiest life, find the place that makes you happiest first, then pick from the potential dating partners from the surroundings. Pulling someone away from where they love to be isn't going to make them a happy partner. Check off the boxes that make you happy, and then look for the person who enjoys the same things, if you both enjoy most of the same things, then you'll enjoy the time you spend together even more. The new outro video is great!

[@raymahannah4336]

You're proof that wisdom has nothing to do with age...You don't have to be old to be wise! 🙂 Thank you! 💙

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well I’m not exactly young anymore, so thanks!! ❤️❤️🤣👍

[@Friedbrain11]

@@TheFilipinaPea Yes you are still young Pea. :D

[@DirkHav]

@@Friedbrain11 The same opinion here. For the last year while watching ànd listening her videos it came up to me that she has more wisdom then really old people. Strange in a way, but she prooves it every time. This video is spot on !

[@brentbackman2911]

Hello Pea! I am one of the blessed people who connected with my wife. She was the one who asked me a simple question. Our relationship started from there. We discovered we have many similar expectations and goals in life. We have our ups and downs just like any other relationship. However, we realize a relationship requires work. We grow closer together as time and experiences go on. Keep up the great work Pea!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Congrats, Brent! ❤️❤️❤️ How did you meet her?

[@johnnypastrana6727]

So what was the question that your wife asked you?

[@tryscience]

​@@johnnypastrana6727yeah, come on, don't leave us hanging like that lol

[@brentbackman2911]

We met on Christian Filipina. I was just casually browsing when she sent me a question. "Have you had any luck on this site?". I told her, "Not really that much, but I joined a few months ago." That's when we started talking with each other. We are both older. I was searching for someone without children and a few years younger than me. She was looking for someone who doesn't give up on relationships. I am eight years older than her. Many people don't worry about age gaps. However, it's been my experience when there's a large gap, there are nuances lost in translation between the generations.

[@philosophicaltrucker9279]

@@brentbackman2911 Ive heard a lot of good stories about matches on Christian Filipino.. i think its because they keep a close eye on their members and ban ppl who try to abuse the system or just inappropriate.

[@RCWrightX89]

I was talking to a Philippina, and she was in her 30s, had kids, and her man left her. After dealing with scammers and scammers, it was refreshing talking to a real person who was not trying to scam me. However, after watching Pea and listening to some passport bros. I realized that was not the best choice for my life. I was about to go I to the Philippines as$ backwards.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🚫No as$ backwards allowed!

[@setha360]

Married Pilipino but separated husband can blackmail you and throw you in jail adultry , has kids, you need to find one not married no kids and not poverty family.

[@kevinbarry71]

Absolutely wonderful advice. All of you guys should listen to her. I've lived here for a long time and what she says is the truth.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS Kevin! Some guys hold my genitalia against me (and sometimes they try to hold Their genitalia against me, too) 🤣🤣🤣

[@kevinbarry71]

@@TheFilipinaPea quite an image. people who would hold your sex against you are, well, not worth listening to. From the comments, I have noticed a large number of troglodytes like that

[@brat4300]

I met my wife online. I was home in medical leave and we talked every day until she ran out of battery (electricity was out due to Dec 21 Typhoon). We learned so much about each other, we told each other everything. We got married on my first visit 6 months later. We have had our ups and downs but way more ups than downs. We both know it takes effort to make a relationship work. Not everyone can do this but I'm happy i found the love of my life.

[@Sinjin.S]

You're not a Pea. You're a peach, and the cream of the crop to boot!. Thanks for your efforts, advice, and reasoning 👍😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Awww thanks for that, Sinjin!!! ❤️😊

[@preseil6285]

Hi Pea!! The one thing you said that really resonates with me is the fact that there are many different cultures in Philippines 👍 My wife and her family are Ilacono and she is always saying that Visayan people are different. I got to see that first hand when I had a boss from Cebu. He was much different that my wife's family in the way he viewed things. From my perspective, the Visayan people are warriors. In general, my wife's family tend to be more merchant oriented. My boss was a prior service US Army Infantry soldier so we have that in common. My wife insists that Filipinos are not that aggressive. I disagree because it depends on the Island or region the Filipino is from👍 I also have friends and coworkers from Mindanao and they are Visayan too but they have a different take on certain aspects of politics and religion than the folks in the North and in other parts of the Visayan region. Yes, most are Catholic but there are still differences in the way they view their faith. Hope your weekend is good, Pea👍🤙🇵🇭🇺🇸

[@Ed19601]

Finding women in Cebu: Go to Ayalah, preferably the Rotunda, stand still and wait. Go to the coffee shops in IT park (lots of girls coming out of the call centers). Have lunch in the food court at Robinsons (midtown): many nurses coming there. Finding good women: Ask Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍

[@gerrymichaud3851]

My wife is a Filipina teacher from Cavite. We knew each other for 19 years before being able to get her here to the US. Married coming up to 4 years and it was the best decision I ever made.

[@LordLucan-7]

Great advice. I've hidden Grandma's bank cards, already. Love the new outro. WATCH THE ADS

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Lord Lucan! What was Grandma’s credit limit? 😳🤣

[@JB-tz8fu]

Really glad you're doing what you're doing Pea. Keeping men grounded to the realities of dating outside their culture/race. Keep making sure foreign men know 200% what EXACTLY they are getting involved in to keep both parties from getting hurt.

[@justsomeguy2943]

GREAT job, Pea! I've been saying for YEARS that ALL relationships are born of common core values, like interests, visual attraction, and sexual compatibility (the last two are for romantic relationships). PS I LOVE your logic and reason!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks JSG 👍❤️

[@philosophicaltrucker9279]

Yep, the most successful relationships are built on common values and shared goals as well as compatible personalities.

[@derwinmitchell9947]

Pea is looking extra beautiful on this one 😍

[@tryscience]

Pea, I've learned to completely trust your wise counsel. Thank you so much for your humor, your wisdom, and your willingness to help us. 🥰

[@tryscience]

I'll add that I really like that you are logical and rational, I look for that as well. I think it's a strength to fearlessly embrace truth, because only with good information can people make good decisions. 😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks TS!! I’ll always give it to you straight 👍👍❤️❤️

[@Bernardclement1955]

Pea , I could tell you stories that would would blow you mind how manipulative Filipina really are.

[@JB-tz8fu]

Facts

[@IvarTheBoneless40]

Never trust someone for the 100% because that how people get hurt

[@dalederrah]

Best advice I have heard. This is exactly what I am going to do,find where I want to live first.

[@jredb1]

Pea, you truly need a television show. 😊 I love your videos. I look forward to each one of them. Your content is amazing and informative ❤

[@DirkHav]

If I were an important government guy from the Ph I would make Pea ambassador. There will come a day that she will be knighted.

[@RonneyandRascalCollectibles]

The real problem is that your more beautiful than the Filipinos on the dating apps. Your personality is better. You make it impossible to find anyone close to your greatest. Lol. Love your videos

[@jamesholden4571]

I found your videos AFTER I met my now Filipina wife. Considering some of the horror stories you present, I got quite lucky. I have been in the Philippines now for close to 4 years, married almost 3 1/2, and we are very happy. She only had the one daughter she told me about. I understand more now about marrying the whole family, but we only have been utang na loobed a bit. It is more than I was counting on, as I have a limited budget, but we are still OK. I love her very much, and I am staying. I have had a couple of scam and con artist attempts, but I survived, and I know better what to look for now. Thank you for your videos.

[@papadougpapadougsadventures]

As usual good advice. My GF lives in Manila and knows that when I move to the Philippines it will be to a smaller beach town. She can make the call at that time but for now I enjoy the daily conversation and video chats and our vacations at least twice a year at a beach community. In fact last time was in Dumaguete.

[@jamesmarchetti3286]

Wow !!! You hit everything perfectly!!! This is True Gold !! Much better to do things instead of learning the Hard way !!! And women do think differently than men and it's like going to College to learn !!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️

[@macnachten8822]

Pea, I think this is your best, most informative and blunt video yet, well done you!

[@cruiseguy25]

Hey Pea, great advice. I could never understand this online dating and falling in love with someone you never met. We are such vulnerable creatures just wanting to love and be loved.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

So many of you are, yes, and I hate to see you jumping the gun 👍👍

[@TrenchcoatJesus]

It's convenience (on both sides). The upside is not having to get dressed, groomed, etc., not having to physically meet someone. For many people- especially introverts- this is a far more comfortable setting than being out in public; there's a very low bar of social anxiety for entry. You can also tailor your communication to your preference- you aren't committing an hour or two to a date, you can stop a conversation at any time and pick it up later whenever you choose. You have a lot more control over the information that you give to your partner- what you look like, act like, sound like, your friends/family/etc., is all passed through a filter you can control. It's easier. But then, of course, you have to consider that all that convenience has a price: the loss of information. It becomes just as easy for someone to lie about or maybe even unintentionally omit information that would otherwise be important. That control over information cuts both ways- they know less, and so do you. It's honestly bad for both partners in terms of taking on extra risk- the woman may have red flags she hides from the man, but also vice-versa. If a man projects some make-believe image of himself online that he can't live up to in real life, the woman will recognize the deception and withdraw her respect (followed by her love). That's as much a recipe for failure as a man investing emotion into a scam artist. Edit: For foreigner-Filipina dating specifically, it's also less 'expensive'. You don't need a plane ticket to meet. Problem is the short term savings often aren't worth the long-term expenses in wasted time and/or money. It's a bad habit worldwide for people to get hooked by the immediate expense of something (virtually free) only to pay much more than they expected down the line. Why else would so many things like subscription services offer 'free trials'? It's because they work. They wouldn't offer free trials if they weren't making money somehow- they're betting (and succeeding) on future profit.

[@genegene6570]

@@TrenchcoatJesus Well stated.

[@nakimmikan]

What got me to meet and marry my amazing, beautiful incredible adorable sexy, funny understanding, smart and loyal wife was a saying I once heard."if you want something you never had, you have to do something you never done. 8 years later and I'm the happiest man in the universe!!

[@Nordic_Sky]

Everything in this video is spot on (as usual). That said, I did everything Pea says not to do and it worked out well for me (met a girl online, traveled to meet her, etc.). But the odds are admittedly long. If you want to try online dating, common sense rules apply. Watch for red flags: anyone near the bar scene, wants to get affectionate too quickly, talks about money, isn't candid about her dating past, etc. It actually isn't that hard. And be prepared to bail. Unlike the US, in SE Asia, you are the prize. It takes a while to get used to, for someone who has been brutalized in the US dating scene. But after experiencing dating in SE Asia, you'll never date in the US again.

[@TheHibener]

Dear Pea, you are so right. As 50+ people we are confident (overconfident) to don't Fall into traps but Most of us (in every country) are lonely and that hurts so much that we forget about rational reasons. You always give us good advice and we should follow it, no excuses 👍👏😁.

[@huetuber1204]

It's PEA, not pee. She ain't urine.

[@TheHibener]

@@huetuber1204 corrected it, thanks for pointing out

[@Eric-qm5xw]

Lol I’m not lonely …women are easy to date in the phil’s…harder to find the right one..especially when ya don’t date the poor girls.

[@stephengoldberg334]

At 50 you are too old to qualify. 40 is the maximum. And in ripped shape. Full head of hair. Professional suits. And a lot of money

[@Eric-qm5xw]

@@stephengoldberg334 There’s not many of them in the phil’s, it’s mostly overweight yanks with bandanas..cargo pants etc. Lol 😂

[@Herv66]

I can never thank you enough for your beautiful & important advise !❤❤

[@jelizardi2000]

Talk about perfectly logical advice - thank you for the video. Planning on spending 1 month in Manila and explore from there. I will replay this video when I'm there so I stay focused.

[@williamwick8641]

MsP .. you are the example for what us western men are seeking .. and your intellect. Personality and especially beauty .. will be hard to match. I’m sure it won’t be easily found. ❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

But you definitely can find it - just keep patiently looking till you find who’s right, REALLY right, for you 👍❤️😊

[@kend6693]

You are such a wise young lady. I learn so much from you! And I love seeing your hair getting longer.

[@Rory235]

I married a Filipina that was not truthful from the start. By the time I found out It was to late to stop and I loved her and her son. Then she became in the motherly way. To make a long story short I spent over 20 years of slow mental torture and in the end after the kids were grown she divorced me and hook a wealthy man! I was planing in retiring in the Philippines with her. I still want to retire in the Philippines with someone but this time I will investigate my next partners life completely and not take her or her families word for nothing until I know it is true what they are saying!

[@Whippets]

This was the best advice I've heard from anyone on KZbin, male or female, regarding how to find a good match. Spend a lot of time identifying your wants, then identify your dealbreakers (and don't be shy about that, you know what really bothers you), and then stick to it. Don't balance out the dealbreakers, they're dealbreakers for a reason. That said, no one is perfect, don't sweat the little things and roll with it and enjoy life.

[@jmb4884]

There is more wisdom and sound advice in the last 5 minutes of this video than I've heard in hours of podcasts.

[@danL-005]

Couldn't agree more, I didn't even blink at the end because every word was logical, reasonable, on-spot and connecting with me on how men should embark on this journey for themselves to find a relationship that works for both parties. Long time watcher, first time commenting, great work Pea, keep it up!

[@tpkluesner]

It took 2 years before I got to meet my Filipina. Due to Covid. We met last April. Every problem that could come up didn't happen. Money I gave her was used for what she said. Went to school like she said and no children. It's strange that covid was a blessing in my case.( I know it was harder for some). We are still strong after 4 years and getting married soon. Her visa is nearly done. I feel so blessed and lucky to have her. I just hope every man or woman looking for love in the Philippines has nothing but the best.

[@davidfliflet2642]

You do such a great job, explaining things, seems like you were born with wisdom keep it up we all enjoy, listening to you and learning

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks David 👍❤️

[@markmcdougal1199]

This was a particularly excellent presentation, Ms. Pea. You just keep getting better and better. What I learned is: 1. Do some soul searching. Determine what kind of living environment, activities, social structure, and family needs you require to be happy. Also, attributes detailed above, that you just can't tolerate. 2. Make a well planned, versatile, long term trip to the Philippines. Travel as much as possible, for as long as possible, immerse yourself in the culture, make friends, but keep it light - really get to know the culture(s). (For me, this will take at least a year.) 3. After getting to know the different environments, start to focus in on where you want to live, if you desire to stay in country, or where you want to stay for a while, that will have the kind of women you are looking for. 4. Spend some time in your focus area, become involved in the kinds of activities that you'll want to share with her. Hopefully find someone special to start dating. 5. Be honest, with yourself, and with the people you come in contact with, about your expectations, limits, wants and needs. Don't let emotions or "hopeful thinking"cloud your judgements. Let your logic be set in stone, even if (especially if) hers and / or her families' isn't. And let your mantra be: "Do all the things - as long as you don't harm anyone, including yourself."

[@vangvangsumosobrakana4988]

Very good! Well written

[@tourneynet8557]

She speaks the truth guys.... Been there

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes you surrrrrrre have been there 😢

[@gloofisearch]

That was some good and true advice. Many men fall into that trap, don't want to accept that they have been scammed.

[@chivalryisdead6440]

Hi Pea! Your last advice to chat up women only for a while is a good advice. I found my lady that way and I know from experience that there are a lot of bad choices to be made on the dating sites. I made sure that at any time I was willing to walk away and I made sure that I was only chatting with a woman for about four weeks before meeting up. In my experience the women online that are very skilled at making an engaging chatting experience are the ones that can not be trusted. And that makes sense: it is how they make their money. It is their job. The women that are kind and always respond but struggle to keep a chat engaging are the ones you are looking for. My girl is very very sweet. First time we dined together was with her sister and she paid for dinner behind my back. It was actually her sister that invited me to visit her family. But mostly... she quit her job before I promised to send some financial support. And I told her that I do not totally feel comfortable with the financial support so she knows that is only a temporary thing. Money conversations in filipino culture are fascinating. On the one hand families kinda need some help. But when you literally say that they will be offended. So you have to frame it correctly or otherwise they will not accept it. And truth is that I also did not want to make it more difficult on this family by simply taking the girl. Her brother-in-law is such a fine fellow. TY!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It sounds like you have a level head on your shoulders, Chivalry! 👍👍

[@lillpoetboy]

this woman knows excactly what she is talking about. i love her

[@chipparmley]

Keep talking Pea! What you are saying needs to be heard, and it applies to women not just from a tropical paradise

[@AmericanFlyOnTheWall]

My Filipina caught me. She found me on Facebook 8 years ago. We have now been married for 7. Best years of my life!

[@stephenbender7593]

My wife, a Filipina, caught me. 😁 Honestly, I wasn't into the long distance relationships and I wanted to end things with her but...she was persistent. One day a voice inside of me said, Love her. So, I decided to love her at that moment and we married shortly afterwards. I know she had been praying for me and perhaps that was the voice of God (with the intercession of St. Padre Pio to whom she has a devotion). Anyways, I can say that years later I love her more today than when I first met her and...I am glad I listened to that voice.

[@stephenbender7593]

@@ConontheBinarian What are you talking about?

[@FilipinaRecordedLive]

Always listen to God's voice 🙏 👍

[@edwarddebroe309]

Hi Pea, always nice to watch your videos, you are exactly right, many guys are just blind. Online dating is the best trick for scammers

[@RandyRhode-yq5hq]

Great advise. It intertwines with what other vloggers infer, but you have put forward a great way to develop a game plan. This video is worth watching twice.

[@wayneONvolarte]

Thrice ecen ( Scotish) for3

[@wayneONvolarte]

Thrice even

[@tomster7574]

I really like that you are pushing the narrative of not meeting online while still overseas I also always advocate for shopping locally. I don’t use Amazon or eBay. But considering how much the world has grown accustomed to having everything delivered instead of going to go get it it’s no wonder that meeting online overseas is getting more and more popular as well. And then just like how dissatisfied most customers are with their Amazon purchase being not quite what was described or not at all what was described, same thing happened when you’re trying to date online overseas. As I have told you many times now that I met my wife online on a dating app but she only lives a few miles away. As compared to the online shopping, I looked at the catalogue of what the store had to offer and saw a bunch of products that I was interested in and then I went to the store to check them out first hand. Although we did talk online for several months before we actually met, when we did actually meet it was at the mall that was local to both of us. So to all the guys in all the countries around the world that are interested in a Filipina, don’t forget that one of the worlds largest exports of women are from the Philippines. There is probably a large assortment of single Filipina women Living in everyone’s neighbourhood. Most of them are there on work permits and are single. Most of them never married and no kids. Not all of them just most of them. And if you’re so driven to go to the Philippines anyways. There is no way Filipina you met in your home country won’t want to take you back to visit her land and her family with you.

[@tj281983]

Your videos are like a study guide to understanding Filipinas and variety culture differences throughout the islands. It's been about 16 months since I've been talking to the same wonderful Filipina who's from Del Suriago. With in the first 6 months of online video calls & countless messages, she was thinking I was to good to be true, she has 2 friends who are married and living here in America. I got to meet them and their husbands. One drove from Indiana the other one flew out from Kansas to Ohio. They all told my lovely Filipina that I'm legit. Half of her family told her to go have fun, while the other half wanted to see me first for a few days especially her brother who is a federal police officer. So I decided to change my itinerary for a few days. I'll be over there for about 2.5 weeks. What advice can you give me on Mindanao Island culture how to greet her mother , her aunt & uncles when I see them? Thank you in advance

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks TJ! For advice, check out my video called ‘Meet The Parents’ 😊👍👍

[@JB-tz8fu]

​@TheFilipinaPea PP to the M.F rescue 🙌🏾

[@matthewhull2596]

What part of Mindanao?

[@tj281983]

@@matthewhull2596 The Northern part of the Island, near Silop cave

[@matthewhull2596]

@@tj281983 Had to look as that is not a bad area

[@Juliano-ll2gn]

I read the book of Psalms 3X for my beautiful Fillipina fiancé, thank you Jesus 🙏👑🙏

[@juliooquendo220]

Ms pea bringing out a feel good Friday video to start the weekend off right.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

As often as I can, yes 😊👍👍

[@Gregoriosplace]

True Pea, but on the flip side, it is also easy to become jaded and then you are left alone. Yes, you will have your dignity and money but that is all you will have. You do have to compromise sometimes. There is a saying; ' The green reed which bends in the wind is stronger than the mighty oak which breaks in a storm.'-Confucius. But yes, I agree with you on so many fronts. Hi Pea!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hi Greg!! 😊👍

[@RCFSULAW]

Hey Pea. Thanks for laying this out for the online guys and one prior online guy which would be me. I learned that even if you are having 2 one hour video chats a day and numerous messages thru messenger that things were being hidden and the direct lies and lies by ommission were huge. You can finally understand why so many Filipinas say the past is the past. It is because if you knew you might run for the hills in Valencia. Pea has explained some terms in the past that you cannot understand until you are there in person. They are Utong na Loob(Contributions by the Filipina to the family), matigas ulo(Stubborneness), selosa(how jealous and nuts she gets) and of course the chismis(how you are being talked about behind your back and it happens every day; learn Tagalog). I left out make up and filters which are a sub category of direct lies. Just remember caveat emptor, let the buyer beware. Salamat Maganda Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks RJ ! It sounds like you’ve learned a lot from your experiences - GOOD!! 👍❤️

[@bayareatanders]

Utong is nipple😂Utang is something you owe.

[@RCFSULAW]

@@bayareatanders Do you know the concept of Utang na Loob. Children from birth are expected to owe a financial obligation to parents and other younger siblings as the parents age and in many instances no longer can work. It is a concept of a parental cultural debt.

[@TravellingMan20]

Loads of great observations and advice as always, thanks Pea. The dating sites can be good for making initial contact, weeding out obvious finance extractors, and collecting some phone numbers. Meeting them for the first time in person can be …and often is, whole different thing. Take Pea’s advice and don’t invest too much emotion and certainly not money, until you’ve spent a lot of time together, seen her situation in person and preferably met her family. Doing it all when there, is is probably best although many great relationships have started online.

[@bretthewitt3890]

You left out tampo! Tampo to me is the WORST aspect of Filipinas. If its justified, ok...but usually it's just emotional blackmail. Watch out for tampo!

[@timtoolman1229]

Honestly, I got back from the Philippines in Jan. and I never made contact with any girls their at all. When I did arrive in Manila I met a ton of wonderful ladies introducing themselves! The Pea is bang-on with this video and I like the truth she speaks to the foreigners! I never got involved with anyone, but I will return to Philipinnes in October. I am looking for a mate to join me travelling around the world on a sailboat.

[@NeilsYoutubeAccount]

I started online dating Filipinas a few years ago. After being burnt by one who always seemed to need my money, I set a hard boundary. I’m not sending a dime to anyone anymore, and I was upfront about this. I talked to a lot of girls, and 6 months ago I finally found one who only wants me to come visit her. She doesn’t have much, but she said that if I go there, I wouldn’t need to bring money. She’d take care of me. Of course, when I visit this October, I’m going to treat her right. I thank you very much, Ms. Pea. Your guidance helped me gain the confidence to set a standard for myself. I’m very excited about my upcoming trip and meeting my lovely tour guide/girlfriend in person.

[@CB_4216]

Pea, I have been watching your videos for years now. I’m an American military man. I’m 42 and and retire in 3 years looking forward to heading to the Philippines upon retirement and utilizing your advice. I recently got an unexpected temporary assignment in the Washington DC area. One day when I was walking into the office I was nearly stopped in my tracks by the sight of a gorgeous creature with morena skin and long jet black hair that smiled and said “Good Morning, sir” with a familiar accent. After a few weeks of these encounters, I was cornered in the break room one day when this exotic woman came up to me and extended her hand and introduced herself. I was stung by this beauty that hails from deep in the province of Northern Luzon. In a couple short hours from now, I’ll be eating Pork Adobo followed by Filipino karaoke. Help me Pea! I’ve been stung right here in the States! Haha

[@stevew3196]

The purpose of being in a relationship is that you are better in one than you are single. The onjective is happiness and growth. Here's how I see it. I'm in my 60's som thectime I have left is precious. Finding the right place and partner is very important because if Ibget it wrong the opportunity for a do over is limited. Rather than rushing into a relationship "because I'm short on time" I'd rather INVEST time in finding the right place and partner before making the commitment. You do not know someone until you meet and dpend time together. Thanks for the common sense advice.😊

[@robertelizalde995]

Thank you Pea, you are a real GEM. You are a blessing in disguise.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

In a cheerleader disguise? 🤣🤣🤣

[@macscotty9997]

There are many different people anywhere in the world. My wonderful soul mate would not commit to me until she was convinced that I was a Practicing Catholic. You get what you choose, so choose wisely!

[@1BigPrime8]

Hi Pea! I loved this episode. There was so many great points you touched on and i found that you helped me to understand a little bit more about how i as an individual need to change the way i search for a future life partner. I've always had trouble in that department and made a fair amount of poor choices but I'm glad i got to watch this episode as it helped me to understand myself and what i want in life a little more ❤Love your content and I wish you more success so I get to see more lovely and insightful content such as this ❤

[@Lavoss05]

On point with the information....good job Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@EvolvedBonobo]

Agreed. Relationships (and friendships) should develop organically as a secondary process of some larger shared activity, interest or goal. For example, I enjoy kayaking, hiking, chess, philosophy, ethics, and very long beach walks, among other things, so doing those things on my own or as part of some local group will put me in contact with others who are actively doing those things; as opposed to people simply writing in an online profile that they essentially 'would' do those things but instead are choosing to sit at home and email more profiles.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well there’s chess and hiking here, anyway 🤣

[@user-lj6gk4lv9s]

@@TheFilipinaPea Really? I don't think I've seen a girl list chess on her dating profile.

[@diggernash1]

That doesn't work so good when you don't like doing anything socially and like to live way out in the sticks.

[@X_Marks-u7r]

With your interests, I think you are still single. 😂

[@EvolvedBonobo]

@@X_Marks-u7rYes, I am, but mostly because it's still rather easy for me to meet and play with a variety of women. As things slow down, I assume, then I will "settle" for a relationship 🤣 I did notice a marked decline in interest once I turned 45, but still enough access, for now, to avoid settling down.

[@pauldenham9406]

magandang umaga sis, kumusta ka ? first time i see this video,i am always interested and smiling when you explain things,always a serious subject,explained in a fun and serious way,all that you say s very true, i am so happy to see this, God bless and guide you always,

[@MrTomherzog]

Hi Pea, Thank you so much for making your video advice available for free to us all. I'm a recently retired American with a small pension looking for a comfortable (and warm) place to retire. (Far away from the cold winters and often rude people in The States.) I am not interested in getting married at this late stage in life. I've experienced enough of often needy, demanding and self-righteous American women. I just want an affordable, comfortable and quiet place to do my work (writing and reading) without the imprecating demands of American society. Your videos have given me a greater understanding of my options. Best regards and thanks again. Tom

[@brementmark]

Me too, read write relax

[@cauwenberghsroeland8607]

Streigth talk, common sense and humor... Spot on. Now, if one knows English and Spanish, to learn to understand Pilipino is not that hard, a lot of key-words are loanwords. But to talk ... The "mix" is very rich, going on for thousands of years, and the mixing goes on, not only Taglish, allso influence of Cebuano, Waray-waray, etc... and local forms of colloquial language , hard to know what means a poorly translated expression... Even in my own language, I can't understand what is the origin of saying that something hangs out of my feet, to say " I can't stand this anymore - no lo aguanto mas , in Spanish - pagod na ako. "Mining", how to know that Pilipino did loan it, and build a loan-word pagmimina, trabajo will give trabaho, that engineer will give enhinyero,...? Even without knowing, you would understand.... Trabaho sina? Inyenhero siya, sa pagmimina ...- maybe I make mistakes, it would be understood. But HOW would I know that for work they did loan spanish trabajo , for enhinyero, english, engineer , etc...? Even more, often there is a real "local" word, however people are introducing mag/ma/pa/um.../-loanwords... There was a very well developped international trade before the spanish arrived, and they were there 300 years before Uncle Sam...really, to buy, a loanword for BILL as only word ? (BumILI , BILhin...) ... For ALL speakers of Tagalog ? Not that sure ! So, I think the best is repeat , repeat,...and LISTEN. It is in fact a succession of pidgins from several languages , each new one makes the older more rich... Without doubt, very interestig for linguists and historians, but allso for who so ever that wants to show at least some respect for those who know and owe the country... At least, to communicate requires more than make a gesture as having a glass in your hand , lift the head, open the mouth and say glugluglu. Maybe even that can't be understood... Even if one is young, and wants to marry a young one speaking very well English, she has uncles and aunts ... would they have to accept a child does tranlate ? I am allmost sure they will not appreciate : THEY are the elders, those that know... So, if one wants to go to marry a fish, he will learn to talk the language of the fishes : she was not alone in the world.......

[@noadmiration]

I want to go to the Philippines to enjoy the sights and culture. Pea's videos sometimes make me nervous that I will be surrounded by hungry Filipinas looking to charm their way into my wallet. I'm glad these videos exist to help me navigate the high seas of attractive women anxious to meet me and my 401K. :-P

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Introduce your 401k first - if you want to live dangerously 🤣

[@maryjeanbables]

Hahahaha well not all Filipina. There are good and nice women here.

[@WELLBRAN]

The culture is very shallow and you will tire of beaches and coconut trees its a USA based culture and mindset very materialistic and love of money skin deep society...and yet people are warm and smile some will rip you off and then you find kindness and honesty take it from me married there in 1987..still married today and going there and back over 35 yrs

[@TexasT-Bone1970]

Thanks for the insight Pea. The Filipina I was communicating with for over a year prior to arriving in the Philippines turned out to be much different than what I expected in person. Just simply didn't click in person. You don't know until you try. Moving on now. Keep up the great videos.

[@Allin1Xavi]

Nothing will be better than that in-person interaction. I knew a girl from the Philippines for 3 years now but it was only from online and she turned out being very bitter and has a lot more undiscovered traits I had no idea about.

[@duanebolen543]

Hello Pea You know your advice also works here in USA there's so many gold diggers even and your advice always comes in handy to find the right person and you can always tell who wants to be loved and who wants just your money just buy the conversation that they start their conversation Thanks very much and you are a very wise lady Duane from the USA

[@krickshorts5346]

I am 58 years old. This is good advice! Internet love ? NO, you got to visit the Philippines, spend a few MONTHS.

[@robincraft4682]

As always, very sound and practical advice Pea. Enjoy your weekend gwapa 🤗.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Robin! I try to be reasonable and practical 👍❤️

[@robertdauer4723]

You’re totally right I had many Filipinos hitting on me in a free Christian website back eight years ago. I did find one and I’m engaged to her. I didn’t meet her family last February, but I mean yeah it’s overwhelming and now that I know so much between you and Gio, and help me understand the culture and things you all have I appreciate your service

[@paulstan9828]

Very true Pea a guy can fall in love so fast even with someone he never met. Men fall for the shining thing. Most women are more analytical and patient and want to see what is going on inside.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Men do tend to go ‘all in’ wayyyy too fast 😳

[@aydinsha]

They're not falling in love, they're falling in lust. You can't love someone you barely know.

[@paulstan9828]

@@aydinsha Very true!

[@auscrirules]

Before coming in philippines, i did not had good views about philippines people. but when i came and meet people in phil. Phil people are so loving and good hosts for foreigners. So it was a lesson for me that never to judge people without meeting them. staying in philippines as a tourist always have a good experience. love from Australia

[@nowill2009]

🙏

[@SealHero]

You're one of the few women that I'll actually listen to for dating advice due to your transparent points and consistent use of logic. The issue with most of our women is that their advice is generally ridden with bad faith (dishonesty/sisterhood saving, sabatage, guilt/shaming tactics, self advertisement, etc), rather than logic and genuine concern for the man. Thank you for your work. ❤

[@Steve-to3bw]

I found a Filpina on face book group for single people for my church. We walked for over two years on instant messenger and face book. We have such great chemistry she is in her 40s like me . Our kids are grown. Our future looks good. We both do not drink , do not smoke do not do drugs. Neither of us have vices. I am fortunate.

[@MG77740]

Congrats. Yes, it helps when you are on the same page with the most important things, you do not have deal killers and then pick someone of a compatible age. Its seems like a slam dunk actually. Its so simple yet people want to try anything else.

[@johnlobley]

ALL HAIL THE INSTRUCTIVE PEA ...and always let the ads play

[@TheFilipinaPea]

John is in the house!! ❤️❤️❤️👍

[@graemekilpatrick5105]

I went flying blind and struck the jackpot. I met my fiance on a dating app whilst on holiday in Hong Kong in 2019. Because of Covid we didnt get to meet until 2022. My first meeting with her was with her family in Silay City. She's back in Hong Kong working again, but working on getting her to Australia soon!!

[@procon2022]

Dear Pea, once again you impress me in this video with this genuine franchise of yours and the extraordinary humanly way of building bridges between people, even cultures, in a thoughtful and life-proven way! Your work is, in my view, important way beyond having some practical 'advice' for some of us... I wonder a lot - how did you ... get there?! ;)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh that’s easy - I was born here 🤣🤣🤣

[@procon2022]

@@TheFilipinaPea 😂😂😂.... got'ya! Well, I BET (risky business, I know...) that not 'all' Philippinas are as wise and helpful and outbalanced interacting, as you are!✌

[@glennhartwick7528]

I met my Wife on Christian Fillipino and after 6 months of live chatting everyday I knew everything I needed to decide that she was the one I have been searching for! She never asked me for anything but my time and attention. After 2 months of talking, I decided to send her 20K a month, and she never gave me any sob stories or even asked me for any money. I came to Naval, Biliran on March 9th, we got married on April 29th! And we're happy together! Do your research before you commit to someone!

[@vagmanis251]

Good evening miss Pea, you got me everything you said for LDR by dating through electronic communication was a reality for me, due to the pandemic the relationship finally ended, so after this experience I subscribe to all the advice you gave on your show today, I only regret that you were not in my life before I met the Filipina ex girlfriend , but if it wasn't for her I wouldn't know the Country and maybe I wouldn't know your channel either so "there is no bad without good and vice versa". 😂 Have a great weekend.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Just make sure the good outweighs the bad! Or the few, or the one, or … something like that 🤣🤣🤣

[@vagmanis251]

@@TheFilipinaPea im sure that the good are more, first i learned enough about Philippines and some day in the future i will travel to see and from close, second im richer in experience and third but not least i have you to advise me as miss spockPea 😂😂😂😂

[@lovebloomsfromafar6302]

Absolute wisdom from the Pea! However, for those of you determined to find a Filipina online, here are some sage tips: 1. Facebook! As much as i HATE FB, it has dating groups that are geared towards pairing western men with Filipinas. The advantage of these over other dating sites is that most profiles weren't set up JUST to attract a mate. So you can often really get a feel for someone's personality, demeanor, and interests. 2. Get to know several prospects at once, and let them all know that you just want to be friends at first, and that you are also communicating with several others as friends. True romance takes time and develops gradually, starting with friendship. So why place all your eggs in one basket? By friending several, you can observe them with a clear head, with others to compare them with. And you can avoid becoming too focused on one, as the Pea properly warned of. Take your time in the friendship stage, as you are looking for a LIFE partner. 3. Videochat, Videochat, VIDEOCHAT!! Dating sites are chock full of scammers! But scammers HATE videochat! Because it requires acting while lying. It is exceedingly difficult to scam someone in videochat if you follow rule 4. 4. DON'T ignore red flags! If it doesn't feel right, it almost certainly isn't. Trust your instincts. Common red flags include: Early requests for money, early use of terms of endearment, fishing for personal information, sob stories, answering questions evasively, ending conversations at awkward times, or ANYTHING that doesn't feel quite right. By following these rules, i found my true ❤ online. In August, we will celebrate our 5 year anniversary. She is truly the Yin to my Yang! I hope all of you find your true love!

[@Srichardson64]

Damn utube unsubscribed me again grrrrr.... anyways great vid hun, hope this wakes up a few guys

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks for re-subscribing ❤️❤️👍😊

[@ksairman]

Thanks!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh my goodness, Ksair! How extremely generous of you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@charlescox2840]

Dang, good going

[@samuelaragon3465]

Good advice makes sense to me i don't date on line i want to see if i like Dumagutue first look around for a while

[@johneybravo7264]

i have no idea what you just said. All i could stare at was the beach in the background. Wonderfully done.

[@JD-dw2bw]

I've said it once, and I'll say it again. The Gentleman who ends up in your heart ❤️, he will have won the lottery of life. You ma'am are extremely rare, both in intellect, personality, and of course beauty. Respect to you ma'am.

[@robertdonnell8114]

I watched this 8 months ago, it made sense then and for some reason, it makes more now.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍

[@sheyteelor]

Nice video! Im a filipina and im tired of hearing alot of news that most filipina scam foreigners. Well here it is.. P.s. i was here because my husband is addicted to pea,he sends me bunch of videos relating to filipina..

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well thanks for commenting, Shenn! Happy to have you here ❤️👍

[@bilalmega3349]

Beautiful words and honest advice. I'm truly impressed.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks, Mega 👍😊

[@BigBlack20]

This video..... This video was spot on in every single way. Oh my God, it was hard to let go of the girl i was talking to. Asked my friend about this and he was like she's definitely scamming me. And another friend and his wife(she was born and raised there). She knew she either had a boyfriend or kids or both

[@DB-wx1zs]

These videos are refreshing to see. It gives American men hope again in finding their dream woman.

[@breaktheloop]

I'm impressed at your ability to talk charismatically at length into a camera. Thank you for making your videos and KZbin channel. I'm watching all of your videos and they are highly educational and entertaining.

[@julesalexander9622]

Sage words borne of experience and rooted in wisdom. "Live your best Life... Get fresh from the market..."" To Be in no hurry to forge connections or attachments with one's perception of reality... delivered by one sassy BADD Babe! The Filipina Pea!"

[@d.7819]

Wow. Thank you for sharing this. I hope it goes good for me. I dream of having a Filipina wife and starting a family. Maybe one day the dream will be a reality. Time will tell. Only God knows. Let's see what happens. Good video. Good content.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🙏🙏🙏😊

[@gregbullock8444]

Not gonna lie, I'm at the halfway point with what you said. A very nice Filipina from Iloilo struck a conversation with me on Facebook nearly several years ago and we still talk nearly every day, I care about her a lot but I wouldn't say I'm in love with her. I've never left America and honestly can't say that I plan on it, in fact if I'm being honest I only even found your channel while trying to learn more about her (mainly how to speak Tagalog, since I like learning foreign languages). So yeah, what your saying doesn't particularly apply to me, but I can still see the value in your advice.