The truth About Transition Testosterone and Aging : My Story

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

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[@kavitadeva]

Hi Finn, I have NEVER even considered you looking older than you are. To me you are a very handsome, and adorable 50 year old man. You a wonderful human.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I love you for this. Thank you 🙏

[@Johnny_T779]

Hi, Finn! Fellow older trans man here. I may add that genetics play a large role in how you will age. A look at your father will tell you how you will age. I spent 49 years looking very young, because both my parents were neotenic, and I started T at 50 . I still look very young, but not to the point of embarrassment. I'm now 56 and I look 36, which is a great improvement from being in my 40's and looking 18 😅. My dad always complained about having to show ID to access elder tickets reductions, as when he was 70 he looked 45. So yeah, genetics, boys! It is a privilege to be able to get older, yes, and to be able to help all the little trans kids out there. Bless you! 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[@Vic-ob9xx]

Not even ten seconds into the video and I am so glad youtube recommended it. "Being me is the goal, not being the most attractive man in the world" is exactly what I've been trying to explain to people. Some struggle to understand how transitioning into an older man IS THE GOAL for many of us!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Amen to that my friend! I didn't care if I came out looking like the back end of a bus, I just wanted to come out looking like the man I always knew I was! Looking good wasn't the goal, living was!

[@nickjones8596]

I’m 39 and started T 6 weeks ago! Love your videos Finn! Thank you!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah thank you! And congratulations on starting T!

[@stefaniedecoster2772]

'You look older!' Well, yes, I've grown older. I used to look really young for my age and then at some point in my early fourties I got a lot closer to looking my age. To be honest, I think a lot of people think I'm younger because I'm just under 5ft so there's that. But as far as wrinkles and grey hair, yeah, started in my early fourties, it's called aging.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes it's called aging!!!!! Exactly this!!! Ridiculous isn't it! I'm not going to go through male puberty and look like a smooth baby faced 30 year old 🤣🤣

[@sunnylove1008]

You are my favorite old geezer. I love your look!! Thanks for the laughs. 💕🤗💕

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Haha! I LOVE being your favourite old geezer! Love you so much 😁💜🙏🌈

[@Ari_Dupree]

Thank you for sharing this. I think I had missed that you started T at the same age as me! I'm only a year on T but I started at 38, so I'm going through the same thing you described. I haven't met anyone in my support group who came out at my age, so it's really great to see you and your perspective.

[@klausbowpie]

I’m a fellow trans man who came out at 39, hi!

[@Ari_Dupree]

@@klausbowpie Awesome!! Congrats, and also nice to meet you!

[@cipho]

I too am a 50 year old trans man, but I've only been on testosterone for 5 years. The most annoying part of my transition is that I look younger than ever (and that people seem to think I ought to be pleased about that!). Just yesterday, someone told me I looked like my adult son's brother! My son was obviously not too thrilled about that, and neither was I. I hope l'll grow into looking like what I am, just like you have. I am middle-aged, and I am tired of looking like something I'm not. I have the privilege of finally looking like the man I am, now I just hope to also get to look age-appropriate. -No more having to explain to 20-somethings that they really ought to hit on someone their own age, pretty please... :)

[@robinknight6025]

Just wanted u to know u are my new insperation im 55 andjust starting out im pre-t i had to wait till i was out of the military so hoping to have all surgeries lol b4 im 70 but u are the closest in age on this utube i could find i was following stien buthe just stopped making videos and hes 57 no one my age is on the r tube N-E ways please keep maming videos itsa lonley world out here

[@redwolfdarkmoon5326]

it's the same for people realizing their favorite movie and TV celebs get old too. People get stuck in their heads...

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yep that they do!

[@louissteel]

honestly, makes me wonder what's wrong with peoples eyes. There's no way you look even close to 50. I am glad to see you're not letting the stupid comments get to you friend!

[@kikomartin-pr]

Finn, you look great. I will be 45 December 24th. I am cisgender male and I look 44 or so. Testosterone doesn’t just age you. It’s the years that do it. I think you’re a great guy my friend!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah thanks buddy! And you are a Christmas baby! Yes indeed, time ages us, testosterone has little tondo with it other than aging us in masculine ways!

[@TerraUmbraVampWriter]

Sorry to hear the trolls are being nasty. You look fine and a very attractive man. I appreciate you discussing this topic. I am also thought to be much younger than I am. I’m 32 (so young), but people presume I’m in my early twenties. But I’ve only been on T for a year and a half, so I’m sure it’s the facial hair that’s doing it.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes it's definitely the lack of facial hair too and when that comes in it does help us to get aged more correctly! It's nice to get compliments of looking younger but it can also be frustrating! Thanks for watching and for your lovely comments!

[@TerraUmbraVampWriter]

@@FinnTheInfinncible just the lack of shadow can do it too. I’m lucky mine is growing in fast, but I still look like a college kid because of where I’m at still. I’m afraid shaving it will make me look even younger though as the facial hair also helps make my jaw look squarer and angular.

[@friendoftherese1]

I haven't checked in with you in a long time (life stuff, you know), so I just felt like clicking on your video to see how you're doing. I think you're as cute as a bug's ear, and I'm so glad you're finding peace and joy in being the man you always felt you were. I am sorry about your chronic health issues, but it seems you are molding your life to accommodate your new reality. Go you.

[@maxmaycs4560]

What a privilege to grow old as ourselves! Honestly, I think some of these comments stem from misogyny - they perceived you as a woman, and there is pressure on women to remain youthful and not show any signs of aging. Whereas when men age they look distinguished, mature, silver fox etc. You as a 50 year old trans man, thriving 11 years on T throws all that up in the air - they can't imagine why you'd want to look your age! You articulated it so well - we just want to look like ourselves and see our bodies as a home again 💖

[@duncanhewitt6557]

You can't have misogyny against a man.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

You are right! There is a very different pressure on women than men. I absoluely love my silver fox look, and just being me, even if I looked 60 id still be happy! Who cares! Thanks for your wise words my friend!

[@debmansbridge3923]

Love that Finn 🙌🏻 haggered rough around the edges that’s Me with ME to a tee constantly in pain and beyond exhausted . I would love to see some of these bully’s cope with what we have to endure day in day out x

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Amen sister! And maybe say we are both looking amazing with all we manage on a daily basis! 💞

[@nazrobinson5200]

Thank you sooooo much for this video. I literally feel like I needed to see this today.... I will also be watching older videos soon because I’m currently preparing to hopefully start T in the near future and I’m nonbinary and turning 39 next month, I know it’s a different journey but as an older trans person who started transitioning later in life, people like you give me so much hope and joy. Thank you for being you and being open and honest on such a public platform. You are a true inspiration.

[@charliestrickland6194]

I had to laugh, Finn! I started T at 62! Omg what a dinosaur!! And I had people accuse me of lying about being that age because I looked younger. Ha! I'm 71 now and still am told I don't look it but...hey.. I have a mirror. 😉 I remember watching your first videos and wishing I had started at your age. Now I'm just glad I did. I echo you statement of being able to be here..aged or not. Love you as always.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Haha! Tranosaur! Its amazing isnt it, you are never to old to be YOU! Love you fella

[@karacrawford7393]

Just starting my ME journey and stumbled across you. Love your sense of humour. Great content. Thanks

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Im sorry you have this horrid illness too, but I am glad to be able to make you laugh! Welcome to the FinnFam!

[@gailannkimbrough]

You talking about mourning the loss of your boyhood broke my heart a little. 💔 Thank god you were able to transition and become the man you are. 50 looks GREAT on you!!! Sometimes people say the stupidist things.. You handled those rude, stupid, uninformed, dare I say even creepy, comments with so much dignity and intellegence ❤ Keep being you 🎉:

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

You are so incredibly kind, thank you. I missed so much because of unrecognised gender dysphoria, this is what now keeps me making this content, even when the idiots surface in the comments. I never want anyone to feel they have to waste their life, being afraid to be who they are, or not knowing who they are. I have my time now and goodness me I am so grateful for that!

[@klausbowpie]

Oh, this is me! I was baby faced, and I started T at 39 like you, and I’m in this phase now

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Its funny to go from baby face to man face!

[@flowersstorms8863]

Don't think I'll get a chance to watch this before I get back from my hols, but wanted to help the engagement algorithm and send you lots of love & solidarity on this. I don't know when some people will realise that if we don't have equality in healthcare & society for everyone it's not true equality xxx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless you . Thank you for this. Have an absolutely amazing holiday!!!

[@sidiculous8869]

You did age-you got wiser and more comfortable

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yep, I aged through time though! And definitely got more comfortable along the way!

[@dantedestefano]

This is so relatable. Thanks for sharing!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks for watching!

[@racheltaylor6578]

You look great for your age.Feeling at peace with yourself and happy in your own skin is the most important thing.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Absolutely it is! And thank you so much 😁

[@mscatmoon]

Also, I don't think anyone can predict what age they would have looked like without the T. I always looked ten years younger than I was. Then one day... Suddenly my age started showing and I was no longer mistook for younger. If I had gone on T around that time, some people might have blamed it on that. There are so many factors that go into it. And thank you for your videos. It's important to hear from older trans folk.

[@bubbletractor]

I relate so strongly what you said about people perceiving you as young being uncomfortable. I was lucky to have been able to start t at 20 and I'm only 6 months in. But it when people treat you like a boy instead of a grown man, it feels like they're undermining your life experiences. I guess that's partially because I am still young, but I can't wait to look more my age

[@eliah8098]

Great to address this. One of the great things about my hair thinning and receeding in the past couple of years is that I'm more likely to be treated closer to the age that I am

[@leehemmings4591]

Thanks mate really appreciate you and your life… love from Australia

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless you buddy. Much love back to you!

[@ALB6969]

I remember watching you when I started transitioning. Ive been on T for 8 yrs and im 42. Im starting to look my age even though I still look younger but that's just due to genetics in my family.

[@marselvilla5989]

Hi, I'm Marsel from Colombia. Thank you for talking about this topic, I like to learn new things and listen to differente perspectives. As retribution, I want to make a point, and that is that we need to make some room for people who are going to look younger than what they are despite everything. I mean, looking like what you are meant to look, according to your age and gender identity, is socially constructed, as societies determine how females and males should look. As you said, things like make-up, or height, weight, beards, etc. are factors that influence how you are read. So, let's you're a FTM o FTNB person who doesn't want to go on hormones. You are going to look like that "young boy", and you can do things like exercise to look a bit older, but the point is you're still a trans man or a nb adult, and thus, people need to start shifting their mindset to make room for understanding that men and women don't look all the same, and that non-binary people are also valid, and look in many different ways too.

[@_jetson]

Lookin good buddy. Great info as always.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks my friend!

[@carolbarwell1086]

As a Mum of a transman, this is so affirming and reassuring. I am so glad you are a happy man xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

You are a wonderful mum! Thank you :)

[@sarahjones-jf4pr]

Hello It has been a while How the devil are you ,I am a Bi -Sexual writer and always been considered a weirdo eccentric too arty etc etc ....How very rude people are, who cares we are all ageing day by day even the insensitive bullies on-line. You are and still are very open and such a logical easy to understand person...Best Wishesxxx.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hello hello! Weirdness is the most wonderful thing in the world! And I absolutely agree. People are too busy pointing out other people and not noticing themselves!!

[@rainbowtropolis]

Happy Pride Month Finn! 🏳‍🌈 This is a great thing to talk about! Well, we all age as time goes on, that's just nature ☺👍 I think you look great! We've aged almost at the same time once I realized your timeline! (I think I found your channel right around 2017 when I was looking for some support, thank you greatly for that!) I started my transition about 2016, and wow, I've aged too. I think for me, the receding hairline, back hair, and gray hair that started cropping up made a big difference. I started in my mid 30's, am now 47, so yeah, I look like I aged way faster because of everything. I've noticed when younger people transition, they have more of a "younger age" time than we did. Also, I really don't mind how I look. I knew I wouldn't turn into Fabio (would have been nice huh? lol) But my body fits with what I've been through, I earned this gray hair! 😁😉 My biggest annoyance is that my doctors think that ANY issues I have are related to being on T, it's really annoying. Things can be going on separate from my transition. 🙄 I hope you all have a ton of fun at woof fest! 🐩

[@Moosh207]

Testosterone doesn't turn you into Peter André 😂🤣 I laughed out loud when you said that. I'm imagining Pip dancing to 'Give me some kind of sign' at Woofstock 😅 Testosterone has always agreed with you, spiritually and handsomely. You're always handsome.. even on your so called "haggard" days. I really enjoyed this video and thought it was very clever and spot on

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you so much! Not quite sure why my brain decided Peter Andre was the measure 🤣. Pip did do some dancing, there will be a vlog very soon!

[@WhileAKyle85]

I love it! I started T aged 30. Right before I turned 31. A month prior actually. It's been two years and I'm starting to look like a 30 something man. Which is very nice and yes, I looked young too. I always have. But now I'm starting to look my age. I'm getting carded less. Which is also nice.

[@XievisTheDragon]

Gunna be honest Fin, you look 50, and you look amazing. Nothing wrong with that age! You look 12 in that 1st picture though lol! I started T at 40, I look like I'm in my 20s now, I used to look like I was at least in my 30s. I hate it. almost 10 months later, and my face is getting acne on it now (which makes me look even younger). I knew there was a chance of it. I figured after 9 months of none what so ever I was in the clear. Man is it hitting me hard. My facial hair is barely coming in and patchy, so that makes me look even more like a 15 year old boy lol. I cannot wait to look like a silver fox :D

[@Pigeonsleeve]

You look GREAT ahah you aged but you are still a very good looking man and looking at you age is bringing me comfort. I hope you will age alot more cause aging is living 💖

[@stefaniedecoster2772]

Still at the beginning of the video and enjoying the flying start 😁

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hahaha! Yeah not sure what happened there....brain fart!

[@marti7343]

Finn, just found your channel. I am MtoF trans and started transitioning in my sixties. I am now starting my twentieth month on HRT. I usually find it hard to relate to FtoM trans videos, but somehow I am finding your videos so interesting and refreshing. Thank you so much. It is interesting how you say you looked very youthful before testosterone. I am finding I am looking more like a male in my twenties or thirties as the effects of HRT become more prominent. My hope is with some additional medical interventions I more closely will align my appearance with my identity. Like many trans people, I am dealing with dysphoria and want my body to match whom I really am. My hope is my appearance little by little becomes more feminine. It is so important to have patience. It seems trans men see the effects of HRT faster than trans women. They also have the advantage of their voice becoming more masculine and growing facial hair as a result of HRT. Us MtoF people have to go through months or years of hair removal, voice training, and surgery to attain those things. I am sure FtoM people have challenges uniquely to themselves. They certainly go through intense medical interventions to become whom they really are. Whatever the differences, being trans in either direction has it challenges and is not easy. We can describe some things that are similar between us and some that are different.

[@NickUncommon]

Being Autistic with a connective tissue disorder, not wrinkling easily, it makes one look young already, add late transition at age 46, now being 53, I still get age guessed around late 20, somewhere around 30. People think, they can treat me as a young one with less respect, still. That connective tissue disease lets my body feel like 20 years older than I am. So I sort of feel, what you are saying. I feel so much better since my body looks like I feel. Age appropriate is, what it feels like. My first love met me last month, when I was visiting my home town, and he compared me to the teenager, I was, when I left town. He turned out to be gay, and I keep wondering, how life would have turned out for us, if he stuck together with me and I him through transition. I think, it is a t shit idea, I would wear it, It is Time that aged me, not testosterone. Maybe even get one of those artists, who can write those palindromic letterings.

[@nickjones8596]

And I do NOT look 39, you’re right! Just like a teen boy

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yep and youll look that way for a while, then it will suddenly catch up!!

[@emrys7168]

Aging is a vast improvement on the alternative!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes!!!!!

[@snakeli8880]

This is something I think about. I didn't start transitioning until I was over 40. You put this so eloquently. Thank you.

[@natashamason3328]

Absolutely embracing the weird with you darling 🤪💜xxx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

And that's why I love you 💓

[@natashamason3328]

@@FinnTheInfinncible love you too 💜xxx

[@foforitolucerna3113]

thanks you and coby you guys are amazing am 57 yrs and i hope i get to experience what is to be a man i still look like my pic just a more older this pic it was in my 40 to late but i look the almost the same i bealive so lol ! am in Puerto Rico is very diffrent out here but am gonna call to the hospital out in massachussett and start finding out how to trans am not sure how to start $ this is one of the main reason $ am also dont know how family i know how they going to act but dont care even friends . the harderst 4 me is when i here the word she i dont feel that way but you guys gave me some thing i didnt think i had so again thank you

[@vancoke10001]

Just a question,when you start testosterone,espesially in that age,dont you automaticly go into menopause?Allso if you remove the female parts pluss the testosterone..So then allso menopause ages people quite a bit.I have an aunt who had canser and she was thrown into menopause early and she got much older because of that.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

No, whilst we might experience some symptoms of menopause, we don't automatically go into menopause when we start hormone therapy because we have a replacement hormone, and because we might choose to get our overies removed which then stops that process happening

[@vancoke10001]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Thanks so much for answering,amacing that your journey goes in the right direktion,so happy for you..!

[@sarahjones-jf4pr]

Sent two comments as they did not show up on screen ?? but now you have 3 lots!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Haha I like multi comments 🤣

[@joel4541]

love the intro

[@wolfman75]

Thanks Brother!!! Safe Travels!!! Be Safe & Have Fun!!!! Much Love!!! 🤔😱🤯🤣👍😎💙

[@CoMorbiditty]

They need to go to spec savers.... you dont look 50.... we go grey, wrinkle and sag. My ass is sagging lol. But hey, it means we have lived a life, which some dont get to do. I wonder if a 59yo would be criticized for looking young once hahaha crazy.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

So Very very true! Lol! Thanks bud!

[@Ao456kl]

So sad. Coping all the way

[@YoutubeUserAnon]

Time indeed did age you, and like many of us it was 2020s that were part of it. This decade feels like some accelerated aging

[@vincentleephotography8799]

You look great for your age! I totally had that eternal teenager look before i transitioned. Its just because when you *present* as a man, but don’t have male secondary characteristics i.e muscles, beard, thicker jawline, receding hairline , you inevitably look younger! Also estrogen does soften the appearance a little because of how fat is distributed, but still if i had matured as a woman i would still look the same age i am now IF people *read* me as female, but because i wore mens clothes and had male haircuts, people didn’t read me as female, they read me as male but before puberty! trans men before they take hormones, or a nonbinary or butch lesbian, if your *used* to seeing people like that, coz your part of a queer scene, you tend to not think they look that young! You don’t just see people entirely by these moulds of what an adult man or woman should look like. Theres pros and cons obviously , it can be nice for people to think your younger than you are, esp in a youth obsessed culture. It can mean maybe you get away with more because in a way people expect less. But that also means people may take you less seriously , might think your less experienced or wise.

[@sheppeyescapee]

I started my transition at 20 and people thought I was 13 😂 I'm now 40 and people think I'm late 20s/early 30s 😅

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yep sounds familiar my friend!

[@jujusil29]

I'm so grateful you aged and are alive to inspire...I just came out as transgender at the age of 45, and feel privileged for finally being able to be my true self

[@finallyrob4231]

"They see us as a lesbian"

[@RecoveringHermit]

I’m a 43 cis woman. Life has aged me!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yep it will do that!

[@alystairmabloch401]

Which means: you're still alive! Congratulations! 🎉 🥳 Of course, I'm joking, but not entirely. We definitely should celebrate and be happy we get to age. It's a beautiful thing. Congratulations on making it to 43. May life give you many more years and wrinkles 😘

[@RecoveringHermit]

@@alystairmabloch401 of course. I meant it’s so silly people telling Finn it’s the testosterone aging him. I’m not taking it and I’m very much aging too.

[@sarahjones-jf4pr]

Hello How the devil are you it has been a while, I am a Bi-sexual writer and have always had comments about being Too Arty too eccentric, any available remarks to make you feel different what the heck, it is being "different and Artistic that has kept me going through some shit times, ageing is so natural and regardless to testosterone or menopause or what ever it is very uncultured and ignorant to criticize signs of getting older bullies out there age and time will happen to you as well,Best Wishes Finnxxx.

[@fearnotiamwiththee]

You look like you're 50, no older.😊😊😊 Your illnesses probably hold u back from walking , exercising a bit. I don't know about the testosterone link. Losing hair too can age you. I went grey and am now white at a young age. At 40, I said no more dying my hair, um going natural. Some people didn't like it, but I did. Now, at 58, they want my platinum white hair. Genetics play a big role, too. My Mum was white on her 20's . If you eat well and keep yourself active, plus rest well, your body will take care of itself. Those who eat poorly and don't move seem to age poorly. That's what I have noticed.

[@that__girl_from]

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[@travismaupin6617]

Hi finn

[@superdrwholock]

I wonder if part of it is to do with the internet being a sort of digital time capsule? People can watch a video from a decade ago as if it was posted today, maybe people subconsciously assume that hardly any time has passed because realistically a decade is quite a while and to not appear to have aged at all for over 10 years would probably involve facelifts and fillers and whatnot lol. Either that or it's just people trying to make being trans out to be a bad thing, they might not even realise that's what they're doing cos a lot of us have so much internalised baggage from bigotry within society. Human beings age, it's not a new thing. I hope I get to reach an old age like 80 or 90 so I can have more cool experiences lol

[@rarelymary]

"Testosteron ages you" * looks at fifty year old man looking fifty years old * 🤔

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Time has aged me, we all age my friend! Its something none of us can escape in life!

[@rarelymary]

@@FinnTheInfinncible So very true. 💜

[@danyelfisherLink]

I understand because estrogen has made me look like I’m in my teens again.

[@OratioConcisa]

I don't get your point. If you came to look 55 or 60 after taking testosterone, then isn't testosterone responsible? That is, had you never taken it you would still look young for your years.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

No, the point is , I'm 50, whether or not I'd taken testosterone I'd still have got older! People age that's what the passing of time does. Blaming it on my taking testosterone is ridiculous. 11 years have passed of course I'm going to.look older!

[@pyromanticprince]

Starting T in mid 20's meant going from being mistaken as a 16 year old to viewed as 21ish year old in one year and it was wild 😂 now more often seen as my age and rarely getting ID'd anymore it's bliss. It is incredible patronising being viewed as an age you're not, especially being spoken down to by people your age or younger than you 🥹

[@DanTheHuman_]

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