First time foster parent vs. experienced foster parent takes a child placement call

[@cierrablue]

I hope that loads of foster parents see this and are inspired by what they see to let this guide them to make emotionally healthy choices for the children and themselves.

[@sackme4377]

They need to make sure most things are ready before they get there. You don't wanna be setting the bed up while they're there, they need to be gently introduced into the home and be allowed some quiet time, not being badgered with questions and watching you set things up cause you didn't ask before lol.

[@Loralanthalas]

I'm not a foster nor will I ever be. Nor am I or will I ever be a parent. But if my foster family was even 2% of this my life would have been completely different.

[@CaptchaNeon]

Sounds like basically “Here’s a kid, we don’t know anything about them, good luck” aaaand that’s how kids end up in bad homes that doesn’t work for their particular trauma

[@kelseyroy8280]

yes 1000% and it’s so sad. in a perfect world every child would have a detailed file, that shares their important background info, and things as simple as likes and interests. the foster system has a unique effect of dehumanizing children, almost sanitizing.

[@kenzyhuggard6733]

From my short amount of time working with forster care as a new foster mom it does seem like the system doesn't care. In reality they are picking these kids up and the parents won't allow the workers to learn more about the kid until that moment they are being placed. They don't have more information until after the kid has been placed and they try to move kids as little as possible. They will know only small amounts of their tramas but kids will be open up to the foster parents while in their care as they start to trust. That's why it's hard to know if their is physical abuse or sexual abuse or if it is just neglect. Neglect is visible but abusers try to hide the abuse and kids are conditioned to not speak up.

[@WhiffleWaffles]

​@Kenzy Huggard social services/children and youth services are so overtaxed and underfunded, and policies that we have just don't work efficiently. It's a mess. My aunt was a social worker and couldn't do it. She felt terrible because she had to watch as kids slipped thru the cracks and be reunited with parents or guardians that they should've not been reunited with. It's tragic.

[@jbhinson1]

Yep. There is no one to blame except the abuser though. If the social worker goes out and there is a terrible situation, this what happens next.

[@CaptchaNeon]

@@jbhinson1 Well true on some level but that file needs to be passed from initial remover to the person placing the child no?

[@cheerfulbutterflies1025]

As a former indigenous child, this woman deserves gold metal. This lady is kind, respectful, and so healing. This may sound strange, but I am healing through her videos. Not only is she teaching how to be a 21st foster parent, she is teaching us foster children ( I am very old now) how to be respected. This woman is fire, water, earth, and air. I have thought hard about her videos, and every time I cry ugly cry. This young lady is wise beyond her years, her heart is kindness, and learned how to be an authentic human living in chaos. However, she gives it all she has, loves unconditionally, and understand that immense pain (in a little person, or teen) is standing in front of her. Young lady, you are healing an old soul. Thank you, you do important work and you are talented. I promise you, as a over 50 year old, I remember the kindness and they impacted me. Their kindness made me the person I have become, I have two degrees. As a former foster child, I crave a forever home with a forever job. A real family, that loves each other, understands each other, and helps each other. Without judging, or ridicule, or having to justify something you do not understand. Why? It is an adult problem and children have no experience in understanding. This young lady understanding is impressive, beautiful, and makes me believe in humanity. Thank you

[@maliciousmedia6043]

I know you most likely meant to say "former indigenous foster child" but I'm wheezing over "former indigenous child" Beautiful comment comment full of encouragement thank you for sharing

[@hopeadler507]

@@maliciousmedia6043same I’m indigenous but not former indigenous haha

[@emilyb5557]

❤️❤️

[@hanktrill]

💯🔥❤

[@ItBeThatWaySometimes]

@@maliciousmedia6043she probably meant indigent, not indigenous

[@paris-lovefromalaska8973]

I just wanted to say, I absolutely adore your shorts and you. You show a side of fostering that most don't get to see. Fortunately/Unfortunately my children were in foster care for 4 years and we got so lucky to have an amazing foster family. And you show the same warmth, love, understanding, and communication that our family was treated with. With proof of fosters out there like this it makes it easier on the heart. I appreciate you. Thank you...

[@CrustyUgg]

4 years? Those poor kids

[@paris-lovefromalaska8973]

@@CrustyUgg yes my poor kids... but I fought and I fought super hard for them. There were lessons I had to learn after first born was kidnapped by his father 9 years ago with an on going search for him still... I'm just glad that between the fosters and my recovery they have 4 very loving parents, we are a huge family together and I take pride knowing they have always had their best interest in mind via me and their dad or their fosters. We learned a lot as we had to and thankful to be where we are.

[@felicitysj6246]

​@@paris-lovefromalaska8973 I'm proud of you for your journey and hope things are well with you and your family

[@paris-lovefromalaska8973]

@@felicitysj6246 thank you, I greatly appreciate this. ❤️

[@lindalawton4455]

@@CrustyUgg excuse me? You Don’T sit in judgement on anyone for having their children being fostered , we don’t know the reason why So leave it out

[@telliex]

"4 year old removed for general neglect" hits me in the gut like a freight train... I was removed for severe neglect (as well as other things that my father was never tried for) and I was 11. Thinking of ANY neglect that gets a 4-year-old removed just makes me feel so helpless for them.

[@FluffyEclairs]

😞

[@hannsolotx8568]

Damn....my foster mom got this call for little me. Miss you, Mom. RIP

[@clairesteel5715]

❤️❤️❤️

[@deborahdavidson3107]

Thank you. You have helped me so much. I am not a foster parent, but caregiver for my 7 year old granddaughter whose mother died suddenly a year ago. I am more mindful of what I say and do with her, thanks to your example.

[@reflectionsinthebible3579]

💙Poot baby.

[@TanekaMiller]

Child Protection don't care about the small details like a real Mom does! This is highly relevant! THANKYOU 😢

[@mymindispropagating]

As a psychology major, you hit AMAZING points when it comes tonhow trauma and neglect can affect how a child presents. Thank you for educating about these topics.

[@anacoanagoldenflower]

I really appreciate these "first time versus experienced" ones, my girlfriend and I are planning to be foster parents to teenagers once we have our own place! And that you're trauma-informed; we both live with the effects of the trauma we've each gone through and plan to be a therapeutic foster home too.

[@charitysheppard4549]

I have such complete respect for GOOD foster parents, and having worked many years in healthcare, I know that good, loving temporary homes are so hard for social services to find. I love how you are giving advice to perspective foster parents. I could never bear to have the children taken away, and I don't know how you do it. So often, birth parents are given chance after chance, which I know reunification is the goal, as it should be. Often, in the hospital I have seen those children after reunification with parents that weren't ready yet, or reunification time after time for the child to be harmed time after time. I cannot imagine how you deal with the anxiety of this child that you have loved, kept safe and protected returning to a parent that might not be ready. You have my respect and admiration for what you do!!!

[@Sandra-nr6pu]

You are an exceptional example of wonderful foster parent I wish there was more of you in the world

[@BloomOfLife]

I have my first orientation next week and your videos have inspired me to foster

[@katiegriffiths4938]

❤️

[@rerelux6311]

I was in the Arizona foster care system and it was terrible. It’s terrific to see dedicated foster parents so I hope people really learn from your videos

[@amandamelvin89]

It's really sad and so traumatizing for the little ones and even teenagers to have to wait such a long time to find a placement when they're just missing their own home and to come to someone's house who has such a big kind and caring heart like you, you're definitely one of the few and I wish there were more people out there like you who were fostering. Unfortunately, a lot of foster homes and a lot of Foster parents, just don't care about the details about the little things that make the children more comfortable and the families more comfortable. I have heard of kids being taken away for General neglect and put into a foster care home that could be an hour away from their home out of the city they lived in they could have mental health issues they could have mental health defects and I have seen those children such with autism, regress on potty training and if they were doing good at home all of a sudden they're back into diapers for a few more months. It's a traumatizing traumatizing situation. Thank you for bringing that to the Forefront of people's eyes. And just because somebody got their child taken temporarily by cps, does not automatically make them a horrible parent. Thank you for doing what you do.

[@KatieCottingham]

I obviously can't speak for any Foster parent specifically, However, to imply that people don't care just because they have a different approach or they don't have as much means to be able to provide as much is not really fair. Cultural differences alone can cause a significantly different approach but that doesn't necessarily mean it's a bad thing for the children that they will be taking in. Then there's entry process is to becoming a Foster parent to consider, which some States requires an extremely high income compared to the average person which causes this lack of available homes in every community. Plus sometimes it's not in the best interest of the mental health of the child to stay in the immediate community if people who would support the parent in their bad choices (be it denial of how bad things were, providing things like drugs or weapons to the parent, or even blaming the child for causing the circumstances) are going to be talking to the child by way of being in the neighborhood. Obviously, that's not every situation or community, but it does happen and the impact that it has on a child's capacity to heal can be significant. I personally would have loved to have started fostering a year ago, however, the entry into fostering in my state would require doubling my income and even the masters degree that I'm working on would not provide that. This is why there are so many children in our community that end up being bused to other counties for Foster care homes because there's so few here with enough money per state guidelines to be eligible in spite of the fact that there are plenty of families that have the capacity and are just barely below the income barrier. Reasons for removal here are pretty consistent, and fosters get burnt out dealing with seeing the same kids brought back or with another foster because the parent(s) didn't really have their life in order to get custody returned to them. My state has moved to preferring family fostering and getting special exemption licensing, but that isn't always the best choice for the kids. There's no "good" fostering situation really because the need spells out that the children have endured life altering trauma. But the regulations need to be updated, more social workers hired, more community support programs developed, and guidelines improved to increase the number of available fosters. But that takes state legislatures to address problems and for governors to not brush aside all of the above when encouraging legislature to make improvements.

[@victoriap1649]

Feels like you were implying that being autistic is a “mental health defect”. It’s not. I understand your general sentiment but please leave being autistic out of it. I am autistic and I am here to tell you that it is just a different neurotype. Albert Einstein was autistic, Dan Akroid, and many actors and comedians and scientists and people that shape our world are autistic. There is nothing wrong with us. I understand that there is a lot of misinformation and that’s not your fault. My own mom was very misinformed once too. I understand your sentiment here was with good intentions and I appreciate you advocating for kids. I just want to offer this information in hopes of you not continuing to spread misinformation about the autistic neurotype. There are some kids that happen to be autistic that have developmental delays, there are also neurotypical kids with developmental delays. Autistic kids can have delays as well as be very ahead of other kids in other ways. For example I didn’t start walking until I was 2 years old, but I started talking in complete sentences and having conversations at 11 months. There are speech impairment disorders, such as apraxia. This many autistic kids happen to have apraxia, and on top of stimming for emotional regulation, many people wrongfully assume those kids are less competent, which they are not, or that all autistic people struggle with speech. Neither are true. I suggest talking with and listening to other autistic adults to learn more. People like me that actually have the neurotype and lived experience and can provide facts, not misinformation. When you’re talking about kids with severe traumas that have been through neglect and put into foster care, they are all going to experience some sort of delays, regression, etc due to the trauma and neglect. Whether or not they have an autistic neurotype has nothing to do with it. I hope you won’t misinterpret my tone here. I just want to educate and again I totally understand that there is so much misinformation and that’s not your fault. I hope you have a nice day and that my comment finds you well

[@wolfbones666]

the actor, Tony Curtis, would pee in his pants as a bizarre act of rebellion while staying at the orphanage house his parents dropped him and his little brother off at during the great depression.

[@reflectionsinthebible3579]

@@KatieCottingham o can see them wanting a family with enough rooms and space and a big enough vehicle. So that has to do with income. But the state is supposed to provide financially unless it’s because their plan is always adoption incase the parents can’t have their children back.

[@bananablisss]

I nanny but I love these videos because she’s so insightful about the needs of children. I would try being a foster parent if the time is right for me.

[@xXbuggahbooXx]

I love that you give examples of what questions to ask before they come, so new foster parents know how to ask for what they need to make the child more comfortable. I promise, all of those questions would leave my brain as soon as I heard "I have a young child being removed for DV"

[@nessa2574]

When you have kids that are the ages you say in the videos it just hits so hard 😢God bless you 🙏 ❤

[@fire_krime]

when i become older and more stable i want to be a foster parent. your account is making this alot easier for me to understand/grapple. thank you

[@catmomoftwo1628]

Thank you for helping kids get care and loving kindness you show your foster kids.

[@catholiclife9304]

Heartbreaking but happy your there for him.

[@Aarrrow]

I absolutely LOVE you and your channel. I don't foster, I have never been in foster care, but I absolutely love knowing there are people like you out there. ❤️

[@andreaknisley154]

I can rest easier now knowing that youre out there somewhere in the world, helping the kids that need it. ❤

[@elleelle7996]

You are a Living Angel It takes a special spirit and soul to Foster like you do Such a challenging and rewarding path My sister Fosters and I love watching your clips to learn how I can properly support the experience ❤

[@certifiedcomorbidity2587]

I appreciate your videos so much! I plan to be a foster parent and I’m learning what to do before I even start. You’re a blessing to those who want to foster and for the children.

[@jessicakendall389]

You are such a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for loving these beautiful children and helping them through their most trying times. The way you support these children's mental and physical well being alike is absolutely amazing. Thank you 💖

[@DinaBraunstein]

I love watching these videos. I had literally just stumbled upon them and began watching. I really like them and think that this wonderful woman is so helpful and can show foster parents how to handle things. Great job!

[@KCJSummers]

I find these videos incredibly helpful

[@DaniBadger777]

You’re an angel

[@robertplatt643]

This woman is a saint.

[@956womenrgc3]

Your videos hit so hard 2 me for my family thank you for being so kind

[@baieeleaf]

My dads a social worker so Ive gotten his side of the stories my whole life, it’s very interesting to hear from a foster parents perspective!! Thank you for all you do, I know it’s not an easy job, and I see it’s very difficult work from all sides. You guys are so amazing!!! Love to all social workers and foster families 💛💛💛

[@FlagCutie]

I know a couple of different couples that are foster parents. Watching these shorts just makes me admire them even more!

[@Abbyj19]

I really want to become a foster mum and your channel has helped me so much. I’m even more excited now ❤

[@billiecooley6180]

You're such a beautiful person for sharing all this thank you

[@SammieLand]

i love seeing these videos, something people should see more of so they understand fostering

[@journeybeth4725]

Thank you for your service! ❤ children just need love, unfortunately you can’t give love if you have never experienced love and that is where our society needs major change. You help with this and help share advice for others. Beautiful work!! ❤

[@1badbitxhwwh]

I want to be a foster parent someday, your videos are so inspiring

[@alexismcpherson4768]

I love your videos. My sister and her husband started fostering and then adopted my sweet nephew. I have always wanted to help kiddos in this way, but am not at a place that I can yet. It breaks my heart that this is a necessary service but thank you for sharing your advice on how to make the process better for the kiddos/their family and you/your family.

[@NonBinary_NonHuman]

I have intentions on both Adopting & Fostering. These videos really help me prepare for what I'll need to do. I'm not planing on fostering until I get my own house which may take quite a few years. But it's still great to learn. Thank you so much for these videos

[@TAbbooo]

Me and both of my fiancées are really considering fostering children. Thanks for all your informational videos! 😊

[@keryeeastin4022]

Your a beautiful person ❤️

[@berthabarker579]

You are doing a phenomenal job..thank you. ❤

[@neonelf-ish]

I want to Foster when I'm older and your videos are really inspiring and its great to learn about fostering and how to act around a child who has trauma exc..

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

Grateful to God for this woman

[@gabriellegoodwin4422]

I want to be a foster parent when I grow up, but I have no idea how to do that and these videos really help. Love it!

[@TJNAG]

I just wanna say wish I would have had all this info 3 years ago when we started fostering!! But appreciate all the knew knowledge!! Thank you ❤️

[@HotChocolate1994]

Foster parenting seems like a full time job

[@GtheCatLady]

This is really amazing. I had issues with people touching my hair when I was a kid because of SA and people grabbing and pulling my hair during it, and I still kind of get uncomfortable if it’s not someone I know well and trust, but back then I’d full on panic if someone touched my hair. And I had a period of time where I didn’t really take care of myself much and my hair got kind of matted, and my mom decided she’d try and brush it, but I got scared so she just cut out chunks and then told people I’d gotten a hold of the scissors and did it myself. Then I had head lice and got the option of sit still and let her mess with my hair, or have it all shaved off, and the end result was her tying me to a chair to do the lice treatment and combing. And I swear I wasn’t trying to be difficult, I was really trying my best, but I’d have where it felt like I was back in that moment and I couldn’t really do much to help it. It would’ve been really nice to have at least had someone be patient with me though instead of just getting angry, but my mom was also kind of just angry that she got a screwed up kid.

[@bonnie1303]

That is something that once you said it made absolute sense, but I don’t think I woild have considered it! Thank you for all this information

[@rorichacon6094]

Thank you! I am a mom of teens, but I work with foster kids. I was thinking about fostering when my kids go to college. I think it’s what I want to do, but I love these tips. I know that there are strict rules and regulations for safety…but the tips for how to make sure they feel comfortable and loved depending on what situation they may come from is very helpful.

[@dalmeshas]

You have helped us oh so much. We have so many questions. My husband and I just put in our applications to foster, possibly to adopt! This is what I’m passionate about, I’ve always had somebody’s baby on my hip and little kids running behind me.. since I was around 10! I know it will be hard, but it will be so worth it!

[@SV-cg8vh]

You are an angel

[@tinyprecious]

I love these videos! I’ve always thought I would foster or adopt so the information here is helping me feel like I am getting ready for that. I wonder if you could make a video about how to get started? What would someone like me need to do to get ready to even apply? Thank you friend, I love your kind demeanor, it’s nice to know you’re helping these kids in this way.

[@seasickseadragon1854]

Im personally looking for sterilization but once able I want to be able to foster preferably older kids who have been jumping around so they have a nice stable place to age out and start adult life

[@soumaya4960]

That's so sweet! "Foster the teens" (insta and tiktok) did the same (except the sterilization) 😊 her videos are great as well

[@sicklydog6841]

My parents used to bully me, bc i wore diapers till i was age 4, and i couldn't even do things like dress myself untill age 8. But THEN they realized it means they were bad parents. So now whenever i bring it up they try to claim they never said those things and that i developed normally within basic standards. Nuh uh. Not at all.

[@BonesPK]

I wish my foster experience was anything close to your videos.

[@SageyWagey69400]

Have you ever taken care of a kid who’s parents had given them up before they were considered neglected? As in they weren’t making enough money and wanted some help giving the kid a better life.

[@popcornparker5390]

I really like your videos. I think adoption is in my future and your content has been inspiring and informative. (I know you're talking about fostering not adoption.)

[@mimica1314]

When I was a kid me and my brother went to a foster family. I don't remember much. But of what I remember was it was very strange but also I felt welcomed. I was living in england. And I have this memory it was like night and kids playing around with those sticks that you light up and look like starts I don't know the name of them. I remember them telling me to go play with the other kids. But I didn't want to leave my baby brother alone. They just sat all together in the entrance of the house and all together lighting those sticks. I don't even remember exactly how they look like or their names . But still to this day I'm thankfull to them for giving me and my brother a safe place even if it was short time

[@ewahgee]

Your videos should be mandatory for every foster parent and I'm replying from Germany

[@lauriedaniele5967]

Wow that means a child hasn't been eating if it's she's really small. God bless you

[@reflectionsinthebible3579]

That’s not necessarily so. Some children are just smaller, especially Hispanics and I don’t know about other ethnic groups. I’m short and my husband is short and one of my daughters has always been smaller. She measures on the very small end of the growth spectrum and she eats well.

[@silverdoe9477]

So placements with zero info until you already have the child placed, potentially triggered or triggering other children in the home. This is why they get moved from home to home, absolutely horrible!

[@breebree6220]

I really want to foster with my local shelter, but I'm concerned about my finances. What's your advice on financial preparation for a foster child?

[@carolinehabel]

She talked about a few things that might be relevant in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gmazqKWVn5Z_q5I

[@isabellacatherine9875]

We have a list of questions that we ask everytime we get a call to be as prepared as possible. You have to remember that social workers wont always know much about the case and thats not their fault

[@lisafranklin9089]

Thank you Laura💗💗💗💗💗

[@FrenkTheJoy]

I love that in all your videos, you never actually SHOW a child, and I get the impression that you film these videos when there's not even a kid with you (like if they're at school or if it's just you don't have a kid in your care at all at the time). Especially with how much child exploitation happens on youtube, it's nice to see someone with content ABOUT children that very clearly leaves all the children off-camera.

[@LM-so6ip]

When the time comes- God will bless me with a home large enough to never say no.

[@AlexanderHamiltonTheOG]

This woman made me want to be a foster parent when im qualified-

[@tessaaddy6206]

I would love to be a foster parent once I have the time

[@chibigirl8545]

I was a CNA for the grandfather, who was helping to raise his 2 year old grandson (grandma was fully mobile and just needed help between her grandson and disabled husband). The 2 year old could change his own diaper...

[@Hopeof7suns]

This sounds like getting report on a patient from the ED 😅😂

[@joannamoll7131]

Hate that a child is called a detainment like a criminal

[@LadyKatz]

Calling a child a "detainment" sounds so wrong to my ears. I'm sorry, I'm not sure if that's standard speaking terms from Child Protection Agents, but it sounds like someone speaking about a criminal. I enjoy your shorts but as a former foster child, it's hard to watch sometimes. I wish my foster parents had your training.

[@brandyscarberry6508]

"General Neglect" means anything they want it to.... usually a messy room in the home, or the parents may have an addiction issues which means they may not ever have even been neglected at all.

[@aprilestepp5791]

that's so sad how could somebody neglect their baby

[@hippychick420]

Gross that they call it a detainment when it comes to children as if they're the reason they're being placed with someone else.

[@erikagehm2805]

Also ask about allergies!

[@foster.parenting]

So true!

[@randomshorts6862]

I remember I had a fear of heights and I didn't like bunk beds so I usually had bottom bunk or a bed in the scary room, there was this one room in the foster home the foster mom Tracy called the punishment room it was really dark in there there was a closet and a bed but nothing else and I widow that over looked a pool in the back yard with a dead tree I was so scared during a storm I run out of the room and hide in the bathroom all night since the house had several bathrooms

[@andreaslightangels]

4 year old in diapers. Made me cry😢

[@aviationissuperc00l]

So nice

[@thelostplanet.]

can you select an age range you’d like to foster? because in the future i’d like to foster older kids in the system

[@soxpeewee]

I wouldn't know to ask if a 4 yr old was in diapers. Also that they'd be falling out the freaking bed!

[@emmib1388]

that would come with experience -- that is why the new foster parent did not ask that -- unfortunately, with neglected children , that would not be uncommon :-( (or those with certain disabilities)

[@finchbird2419]

I have a question. Say you take in multiple kids from different situations and age groups, how do you prepare your current kids for any new arrivals?

[@mariefish9535]

Do they ever have any information when calling you for a placement it seems they never do as they always say nah I'm sorry I don't if they removed the child through neglect then there just be a report in front of them if they need to look for a placement or is that not the case,?, I love your shorts videos 🥰🥰🥰

[@amandamelvin89]

Sometimes it's during a holiday or after hours or later during the week during the work day, they don't have that information in front of them they're just trying to help the team find a place for the child as soon as possible. Children can wait for hours to find placements. They are working as fast as they can to get the child into a safe home environment so that they can stop being traumatized by the process of CPS taking them away. Sometimes some of the details are kind of personal to the parents and they might not always share them with you. Especially in cases where they found parents neglectful but for reasons where they grabbed onto straws.

[@mariefish9535]

@@amandamelvin89 ah I see I really don't know much about the foster system but I understand now thank you so much 🥰🥰

[@averystime2shine664]

Is there anything you like to do on birthdays I am just curious

[@MsTinkerbelle87]

They have plenty of info they just can’t say yet, that’s so frustrating.

[@kristingallo2158]

"removed for general neglect" how were they neglected ? 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@emmib1388]

the parent is not giving age-appropriate care of the child.

[@kristingallo2158]

@@emmib1388 lol, did you miss the video? The case worker said she doesn't have the information

[@kristingallo2158]

@@emmib1388 if you remove children you should probably know why , just saying

[@emmib1388]

@@kristingallo2158 they do know the specifics of each case. "General Neglect' is a classification. Often the person who making the call does not have the specifics -- they are not the one who removed the child from the home -- they are the one who finds a place for the child to go

[@kristingallo2158]

@@emmib1388 lol the vid literally showed the case worker saying she didn't have the information. Pay attention

[@fadinreigne]

I am seriously considering opening my home for fosters. My biggest question now is why do they never seem to have any information on the child?

[@Flanneryschickens]

I have a question, any advice on fostering a kid of a different culture or race from yourself and how to be sensitive to that? Just as one example, if a kid from one religion is placed in a home with a different belief system, like Catholic with Protestant or nonreligious with religious etc.

[@dimxlights380]

I have a question about fostering, can you choose an age range or do you get what you get? I'm considering fostering when I'm older but I'm not a big fan of young kids and I hope to foster preteen and teens.

[@soumaya4960]

I think yes you can :)

[@MrsBees]

Do you have a list of questions most important to know? I'm a first time foster parent waiting on my first placement (0-5 y/o, 1-3 children)

[@monicaraney5649]

I'm confused why they don't have more information on the child.

[@TheBlackLaceRose]

Also do they still nap?! And what does their nap routine usually look like?

[@foster.parenting]

great point!

[@lannawierd2114]

A question one of my friends right now she’s new at my school and she’s in a Foster home and she seems very lonely what can I do to help her she’s 14 years old

[@emmib1388]

be her friend, listen but don't make any promises.....if she is able to attend, invite her to social activities.

[@maemccleary3283]

Do they really refer to children as "detainments"? I know it's a small thing, but just seems slightly derogatory and unfeeling. Usually when people refer to someone being detained it's because of something they did wrong.

[@char5933]

How long do kids usually stay with you?

[@emmib1388]

each child is different

[@antoinettejohnson4824]

That word "detainment" shook me to my core. They aren't in jail. The definition is, "the condition of being under restraint or in custody; imprisonment."

[@reflectionsinthebible3579]

“I’m custody”. But yes they should have said just that.

[@bach_in_a_minuet8700]

“Detained” when referring to a foster child rubs me the wrong way… it’s a child, not a hostage/prisoner.

[@strawb3r_]

I wish I could do this, but I currently have an elderly dog who hates children 😅 he takes priority right now, and he says no kids